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Today is episode 442 thoughtful gift giving When Budgets Are Tight we are entering the season where we'd like to start thinking about holiday gifts and I'd like to give you some ways to think about it, especially on a limited budget which many of us are on right now. So so that your thinking can evolve into action before you get desperate and spend more than you have on gifts that you wouldn't have even chosen if you had a little more time. So I'm going to share my five rules of thoughtful gift giving. I will share six budget friendly categories of potential gift ideas that that act as lenses to help you come up with fun and thoughtful gifts for your people. And then I'm going to share seven themes that you can use as a family or a friend group that put everybody on the same gift giving playing field, which can be helpful when you're financially not on the same playing field. I did not intend for the numbers to be 5, 6, 7, but it's always fun when it works out that way. 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No such thing. I've been saying this for years, but this language of like find the perfect gift. It is a marketing ploy that is meant to make you keep shopping and feel bad about whatever it is you got. Just let it go. You don't have to feel the pressure to make someone like so impressed or so elated by whatever you gave them. There is no perfect gift out there for a person. And even if there is, if someone's like, this is perfect, like there's more than one, there's a ton of them. So stop the search. Especially if that search is causing you stress. Let go of the myth of the perfect gift. Rule number two Give joyfully. Now, I mean this in two ways. The first way is likely what you first thought. You know, be a person who joyfully gives gifts. If you're feeling some kind of way about giving a gift to a certain person that maybe you don't like very much, or you're resenting for some reason, or you're just feeling down about it, like, pay attention to that feeling. Examine how you might give to that person joyfully. And if you can't, maybe you don't need to give them a gift. Like, maybe there's a shift that you need to make in your actual gift giving or in your emotions. Like maybe you don't know them as well anymore or that relationship has shifted, right? The giving is meant to be joyful, so pay attention when you're not feeling that way. Now, the second take on that rule of give joyfully is to pay attention to the joy created by the gift. Now, don't try to impress, but try and create joy. And joy can be found in the simplest things. I have mentioned this book before, but Joyful by Ingrid Fatal Lee. It is a handbook on how to create joy in your regular life, mostly in your, like, aesthetics and your surroundings. But I love using her research to enhance gift giving. So she found 10 qualities that bring joy aesthetically, but I do think they apply to gifts. One in particular is abundance. Abundance creates joy, which is why I love giving someone like a whole load of their favorite snack or like a stack of books that I found at used book sales and bookstores that I think that person would like or like every kind of sour candy at the store. For somebody who likes sour candy abundance, even for the tiniest things, it brings a lot of joy. Another element of joy that works well for gifts that is in her book, is surprise. Now, obviously, like, gifts inherently are a surprise, but things like a box in a box in a box that creates an environment of surprise that requires no extra money but add so much joy, right? A lot of the gift ideas that I will share later in this episode, they do have kind of an element of surprise to them because there's a thoughtfulness to them. But ultimately I just want you to think about creating joy in your gift. Don't seek to impress. Don't try to find the perfect gift. Just create joy. Give joyfully, both in your spirit and with the gift itself. Rule number three, Give in your season. Obviously, lazy geniuses live in the season, but when it comes to giving, you also need to give in your season. Your budget might be really tight. A family member might be sick, which changes the gathering, right? This might Be the first Christmas where your extended family is not gathering on the same day that they have for the last decade. All of that is okay. We go through seasons and our gifts should match that. Which sometimes means no gifts in the traditional sense at all. It's good to remember that even in a season that is saturated with, like, tradition, that you can change something based on the season you're in. Give in your season. Remember, now is not forever. So tend to the way that things are right now without assuming it's always going to be that way. There is so much freedom in that. All right, rule number four. Treat holiday giving like a project. Because it is. If you struggle with doing things last minute, that's okay. You know, if you even like the last minute rush of finding gifts, that's also okay. Like, keep doing that if you like it. That. If you're trying to be a bit more thoughtful with your gifts, whether it's because you would like to get things that the person would enjoy or because money is tight, consider channeling whatever planning energy you have into this project. Because it is a project, it's many steps. If you need a place to put all of that planning, you could check out the projects playbook that is available in our store. It just came out last week. It'll walk you through the steps of planning any project with space to, like, write things down that matter to you. So that could be a nice place, or you could just use a notebook. It's totally fine. But ultimately, I want you to treat holiday giving like the project that it is so you're not overwhelmed by it. And then finally, rule number five, don't apologize. I would like for you to put away gift disclaimers. I'd like for you to not enter a moment where you're giving someone a gift. And I don't want you to immediately lead with, like, it's okay if you don't like it. We can take it back. You know, give joyfully. You don't have to perch on that person's shoulder waiting for them to open it, you know? But try and remove apologies out of your language. I know in your heart that those apologies are coming from a place of care for the person that you're giving this gift to. And there's something in you that thinks that the gift is, like, maybe not gonna make them quite as happy as you'd like because of, like, the time you were able to give or the your money or your creativity or whatever. But really, those apologies, they make the giving more about you than about that person. So just keep your apologies out of the conversation. You know, when you give, you can just say, like this made me think of you and let that's it. Like, let it breathe, right? Apologies strip the joy out of gift giving sometimes, so pay attention when you try and sneak it in, even when you're thinking about it as you get a gift at all. If you find yourself being like, well, I don't take that out of this. This is not thoughtful gift giving. Right? Okay, so these are your five rules. There's no perfect gift. Give joyfully, give in your season, treat holiday gifts like the project they are, and don't apologize. Those five things offer a solid foundation to start from. All right, before we get into some gift ideas and themes you can borrow for your family or your friend group, let's take an ad break, which makes this episode free for you to listen to. So thank you sponsors for that. At a time where a lot of content is understandably going behind a paywall, we are really grateful that we get to keep making shows that are completely free for you. 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All right now you do not have to do this for every single person on your gift list, but spending a little time with that list of folks and these categories, it could offer some surprisingly easy, joyful ideas that require very little money, but give a lot of joy. So our first category is Make. You can make something for that person. Now this is a pretty common idea, one that a lot of people who say they aren't creative get really discouraged by as well. But I want to pause that feeling for a second. There are things that you can be creative with when it comes to making a gift, but there are other things that are easy enough to make. Even if you don't see yourself as a creative person. You can make a playlist. You make a playlist, find out what platform your person listens to their music on, and then make a playlist specifically for them on that platform. Playlists are the most fun when they are weirdly specific. So think of a specific time of the day or the week where this person would enjoy a specific kind of music. It might be a playlist called Rage Resetting the House After Christmas Chaos and it's just like 90s dance bops. A playlist I recently came across is Fall grocery shopping in 1999. It's hits from 1999 that make wandering the grocery store aisles more fun. That kind of thing is so much fun. You can personalize it to the person, right? And it requires no artistic ability. Like, just make a playlist. You can give it to the person on, like, an actual cd. You know, like, write a note on a CD or even a cassette tape if you're as old as I am. And you can, like, write the link on the old CD or tape. Or you can make a CD or tape out of, like, cardboard. You know, there's so many fun ideas to physically give someone a playlist that you made them. You can make a game. If your person is really into games, you can create one. You can make up a board game or a card game or a scavenger hunt. You could make your own version of Monopoly where, like, all the properties are nostalgic places where, like, you and your siblings went or something. I don't know. So make a game, box it up, call it good. You can make fabric crafts like a scarf. You can make jewelry or a painting or cross stitch, or you can hand letter or even type out a rendering of that person's, like, favorite poem or a passage from a book. You can make one of those homemade book trackers with, like, the empty book spines for your friend or family member to write in the books that they read that year. You can make food, make baked goods or meal kits or even a meal plan. If you're a meal planner and you know and love someone who hates meal planning but wishes they had one. Make like, I don't know, like a little cookbook of your family favorite recipes, maybe some of their family favorite recipes, and then create a couple versions of meal plans with like, overlapping ingredients and a shopping list if that is something that comes naturally to you. Do you know how fun it would be for someone you love to get that? Who doesn't enjoy that? Make meals for someone's freezer. Make like, homemade pie crust or cookie dough balls that someone can pull out of the freezer anytime. You can make spice mixes or homemade coffee syrups that you put in, like, thrift store mason jars. Make some kind of food. You might start, you know, either with the person and what they love or with something you personally enjoy making. Like, for example, if you're a bread baker, for the love, please just make your people a loaf of bread. Do you know how much people love homemade bread? Depending on your budget, you could just make the bread. But. But beyond that, if there is A little money beyond the bread. You could pair that loaf of bread with like a favorite tea towel or like flour sack towel or a stick of really good salted butter, right? Thrift stores are piled high with baskets, so you could just get a few and fill them with bread for your people. The point here is make something. Making might be a really helpful lens for you. The second lens that you might try is help. What is a way you can offer someone help? Ideas here are, you know, you could help that person do chores or finish a project. Like, if you're an organized friend and you know that your pal hates organizing, but she's been talking about like needing to clean out the basement or a big closet, or like her mom's recently vacated house, you can gift your time and your organizational prowess. If you love to garden and you have a friend who doesn't, but also would love to have like cut flowers in her yard, gift her your green thumb. You can write like a sweet note and maybe wrap it up with a pair of gardening gloves or a spade or a pack of seeds to offer that. If you're like an organizing person or a cleaning person and you want to offer that, you could like write a note with a cute set of sponges or a bottle of Windex. You could even like make the Windex have your own label. You know, that's make the label personal. Or tie a tag on the bottle of cleaner that says something like to be opened on the most epic closet clean out day ever with take out Chinese food after or something. I've also mentioned this before, but one of the one of the sweetest ways that you can give a gift of help is to think of something you enjoy doing that other people hate. For example, I hate researching stuff so much. Cause love. My husband loves researching stuff. It is the greatest gift ever that he loves doing something I hate doing. And it's so helpful for me too. So like, let's say you're a researcher. You could make that a gift to someone that you love. Like maybe your friend. You know, your friend is looking for a new washer and dryer and has mentioned it multiple times, but she keeps putting it off. You could gift her a printout of like washer and dryer research. You could make it fun, almost like a little choose your own adventure book. But helping someone do research who hates doing research, especially when you know them well enough to know what matters to them, Are you kidding me? That is a tremendous gift. That really is just your time. It's something you're already really good at. You can help walk a dog, help babysit, help plant tomatoes when the season is right, help decorate a living room, help organize photos. You can give the gift of your help. So that's the second lens you could consider. The third lens that you might like is experience. Give an experience. Now, obviously, this one is not a new idea. It can also be very expensive. But outside of the typical things you're thinking of, like going to a theme park or a big concert or something that you know does cost a good bit of money, let's think about experiences that are full of joy but. But not dollars. You could schedule a day to go thrifting, go to bookstores, wander around a fun downtown. You could plan an experience like a craft night or a trivia night or a game night or a movie marathon night. Create an experience where you have a fun dinner party where you make that person's all favorite foods. You can give the gift of an album release party or a book release party for an album or book that that person is really excited about. And all you do is like, get together and like, eat fun food and have silly decorations and like, listen to the album or hold the book up or whatever. Start with that person. What would you love to do with them? Whether it's like with their family, your family, if it's just the two of you, it's a group of friends, it could even be that they want an experience solo. They don't get to be alone very often and love being alone. So you could create like a whole day for that person where you sort of figure out, like a fun solo walk through a downtown. If they like wandering, you know, around a city or like a hike on a new trail and it ends with a cup of coffee with you at the end, or something like that. You can look through the lens of an experience. The fourth lens that you might enjoy looking through is encourage. How can you create a gift that encourages this person? You can write notes that are, like, dated for the first or last day of a month or a week, or, I don't know, important dates in that person's life. And it's just words about how much you care about them, or like a joke that you know is going to make them laugh, or like favorite stories that you remember about them. You can encourage a person by writing notes kind of like how we do many pep talks here for that person to open when they're feeling a certain kind of way. So you could make notes that are labeled like, read this when your children are too loud. Read this when you're lonely. Read this when you're excited about something you did that feels too small to celebrate. You know, create notes that meet the moment and encourage that person. You can encourage them with a jar of like, qualities that you love about them written on little pieces of paper and they like pull one out every day or something. You can encourage by giving a friend or a family member that lives far away. Like, like, imagine if they're a tea drinker. You give them like a dozen tea bags of like really good tea with a note that says, these are for our tea phone dates. And then once a month you talk on the phone and you drink the same tea and you're together. How can you encourage someone, especially with words? Words are free, man. Use them up the fifth lens that you can look through. This is one of my favorites and it is curate. What can you gather up specifically on purpose that can bring Jo to someone in your life? So a playlist is a form of curation, so that can count here too. But let's say you're friends with me and you know that I love birds. You could find all of the cute little bird things at like thrift stores or even like little birds you've collected in your own house and have like a sweet curation of bird products. They can be a mix of used things, new things, your things, but like curate a little gift based on something that a person loves. You can curate a list of the best things to pack for an international trip if you know that a friend or family member is going somewhere. You can curate a list of house things for that niece or nephew or sibling who's about to move into their first apartment. Or even like a little collection of thrifted things they might enjoy curated for their first home. You can curate snacks for the perfect movie night. You can curate a route through bookstores or gardening stores or parks or hiking trails that that person would love to explore. You can curate a list of the best pizza in your state and make it like a fun checklist for your pizza loving friend. You can curate a blueberry muffin crawl through the bakeries in your town that all boast a good blueberry muffin because your friend loves a blueberry muffin. You can curate your favorite Trader Joe's snack bundle or a movie list or a reading list for a person based on what they already love to watch or read. Gather together a collection of things or ideas that would bring that person joy. And your final lens to consider is remember. You can tap into nostalgia for practically Nothing if not free and bring so much joy to a person in your life. So that's your last lens is remember. You can frame an old photo of you and the person. You can create like a little book full of stories or photos or memories, kind of like a little scrapbook or stroll down memory lane. You can have a nostalgic dance party where you listen to all the music that that person loved from the year they graduated high school. You can recreate a memory or a photo or do something you used to do that you haven't done in years. You can make one of those old school photo collages we all had like on those our bulletin boards in our bedrooms. Make one now of your friend, like look back and create something joyful from the memories with this person. All of these lenses make help experience, encourage, curate and remember. They might require a little bit more time depending on what you're going to do, but they will almost certainly fill you with joy as you come up with them. And you will definitely pour joy into that person that you're giving them to. And they don't cost much of anything at all. Gift guides are great and they have their place for sure. And getting something new, that's a good time. But back to one of our rules to give in your season. This season feels like one where we might enjoy some connection and some homegrown versions of thoughtfulness as opposed to only just getting more stuff. Now. Stuff isn't bad and we all get stuff for people to some degree and we enjoy it. But there might be opportunities on your list of people who you want to give gifts to this season where tapping into those connections and and the relationship itself offers like a really beautiful gift opportunity you hadn't thought of yet. These lenses might help, so look through them, see what shows up. Remember, there's no such thing as a perfect gift, so don't worry about finding the most amazing idea ever. Just think about it. Come up with something that sounds joyful and doable for your season of life and theirs and just see what happens. You might be surprised. Okay, one final list to run through if you're looking for thoughtful gift giving. When budgets are tight is a list of some kind of theme to put gift givers within a group, like a family or a friend group on the same playing field. Now, a lot of people set price limits on gifts, which is great, but these are themes that have a limit built into them that isn't necessarily about money. I've definitely been in the situation where I was the like, hey, can we have a cap on this person, and I felt a little embarrassed about it. So presenting another kind of limit that's not money puts joy back into the giving without making anyone feel uncomfortable. So there are seven of these or seven of these themes that you could go with. Theme idea number one. Thrifted. All gifts have to be purchased at a thrift store, a secondhand store. I kind of love that because, like, there's so many cool, weird, sometimes highly functional things that you can find at thrift stores. There might be like a cool purse or an oversized jacket or a collection of, like, coupe glasses for someone's bar card at home or a fun painting or like, belts that come in every color. I don't know. Thrifted is a really fun theme, and things at their stores are not terribly expensive on purpose. Theme idea number two. Food. The gift has to be some kind of food. You can make it, buy it, whatever, but the gift has to be food. There's so much freedom in that kind of theme and an opportunity to create a lot of joy without spending a lot of money. Theme idea number three. Games. Everybody gets a game. It can be a board game or a card game or a travel game or a brain teaser game or like a book of sudoku puzzles, whatever. You can get creative by making your own game or by adjusting the board on a thrifted game to make it, like, personal and funny. But everybody, everybody loves some kind of game. And if you have that limit, it's okay if it doesn't cost a lot of money, right? Theme idea number four. The dollar store. All gifts have to come from the dollar store. There's definitely a price limit there. Although you can certainly say that you can get as many things as you would like from the dollar store. They just have to come from the dollar store. There's a lot of creativity and fun that can happen there. Theme idea number five. From your house. It's like a regifting holiday. But there are a lot of great opportunities here too. You know, maybe there's jewelry you do, you don't wear, but you know, your sister would actually really like it. Maybe there's a sweatshirt that your brother always comments on when you wear it and you're. You're just going to give it to him. Like, whatever the gift is, it comes from everyone's house. Theme idea number six. Color. I love this. The price here can be flexible if you want to put a cap on it. But can you imagine being like, okay, everybody, your gift has to be green or whatever. Like, I think that's so much fun. Limits create creativity and joy. And honestly, color does too. Color is one of the elements of joy from Ingrid's book. So what a great way to structure gifts with a group. Or like, everybody picks a color from the rainbow. You, like, draw. Instead of drawing names, you draw color. Like, it could be so fun. And then finally, theme idea number seven is white elephant or dirty Santa. I love a gift exchange where all the gifts are weird. It's my favorite. Our church community group, we have been together for several years now, and there's this King Charles mug, like from King Charles's. Is it a called an inauguration? It's not his crowning, whatever it is, but there's like a King Charles mug that's been in rotation in our group for like five years now. It's in my cabinet currently. It's one of my favorite things. So if you're in a group of people, whether it's siblings or extended family or co workers or friends, pitch a theme to the group. You can suggest, like, hey, to make gifts more fun this year and more flexible based on budgets, let's do a theme of fill in the blank. These seven are obviously not the only options, of course. Come up with whatever you like that these are good places to start. So again, those seven themes are thrifted food, games, the dollar store, your house, a color, or a silly gift exchange. As you think about gifts for specific people where a group theme might not be as appropriate, you consider new lenses to make your gifts more intentional and joyful without making them more expensive. So those lenses, you can make your own. But the lenses from today are make, help, experience, encourage, curate, and remember. And to help you have the right mindset. As you start this process, this project of thinking through gifts this year, remember your five rules. There's no such thing as a perfect gift, so feel the freedom to just choose and enjoy the choice and let it go. 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I could be the last one who knows about my maps, but I did not know about them until just a couple of weeks ago and it changed how I planned a trip, making it so much easier to have a budget friendly trip too. So if you already use My maps. Forgive me for being so behind, but My Maps is an offering of Google. So it's free, super easy if you already have a Google account. But it's basically a way to gather up pins on a map, color code them, and it helps you decide how to best experience a place you're wanting to visit. So the way that I've learned to use it is to simply create a pin for everything in a city that I'm visiting. That could be fun. Everything. You can create layers or categories within those pins if you want, like, here all the restaurant pins, and then here's the shop. Be like, there's a layer for restaurants, there's a layer for shopping, there's a layer for landmarks, whatever. But you just pin everything you think would be cool. You don't think about where it is in the city. Just pin what you think is cool. Then because that list is on a map, you can see where those places are grouped together. So you can see that, like, certain places are. Some are not around anything else. They're sort of outliers, all far away. So you're just gonna be like, you know what? I'm gonna scrap that one ramen place that sounded cool to try because it's not. It's not close to anything. Or if you're in a big city, you can see where, like, all the walkable things are. What requires public transit to get to it. I think this is particularly helpful for, like, sightseeing trips or big places. Using my maps is the biggest win. You can just see what's close together. It's kind of like a brain dump for travel planning. You just literally throw everything up there, you see what's close to each other, and you just start to organize it again. I did not know that this existed until just a couple weeks ago. And it has transformed the ease of gathering places to visit and eliminating what just doesn't quite fit. So I just want to make sure y' all know about it. I want you to know about my maps. And that is our little extra something today. All right, now we have our lazy genius of the week. This week, it's Heidi from Temecula, California. Heidi writes, I've started adding into the notes of my contacts. My friends go to coffee orders. Maybe I just ask them outright what it is, or maybe we've been out a couple times and I take note. Then if my friend is having a tough week or I just happen to have some margin, I can drop a coffee off to brighten their day. It's such a simple Way to make someone feel seen and cared for. That there's no way I could keep track of all my friends coffee preferences floating in my head. This is so brilliant and so kind and I love it so much. I think a lot of us think about the gift of bringing a friend a coffee, especially surprise one. We kind of like the fact that it's a surprise. But a coffee order is so personal that getting it wrong might keep us from making the choice that this solves that problem. Like just keep their orders in your phone with their contact info. It's amazing. I love this Heidi. So thank you for sharing and congratulations on being the lazy genius of the week. Okay, as we close, let's have a mini pep talk for the monotony of everyday life. Really this pep talk is more of a story and a reminder. So last weekend I went to New York City with Jamie golden to celebrate her birthday and we spent some time in Central Park. Well, there was this guy out there with a sign, like a, you know, like a clapboard sign that said six minute poems. You give this guy a topic of your choice and he'll write a poem for you and then you, you pay him whatever you like. Well, we were both like, well, we gotta stop, we gotta, we gotta get a six minute poem. So we did. And since he had a little line in front of us, we both had time to think about what our topic would be. I knew that choosing something really specific would make a better poem. And I also wanted something that felt singular to me right now. So I chose carpooling. This is my last year of driving my kids everywhere simply because Sam, my oldest, gets his license soon and next school year he's going to drive himself and Ben, my middle, to the same school. They're both going to be in high school. I don't like that sentence. Annie, my youngest, she's still going to be attending our walkable elementary school. And even when she gets to middle school though, the high school and middle school, they're right across the street from each other. So chances are good she'll still get a ride with a brother. And even if she is getting a ride from me, it's just one kid in one school versus three kids in three schools like it is right now. I mean, I'm just, I'm in the car all the time and the monotony of carpooling is coming to an end. And, and in some ways I'm excited. In some ways I'm like, aw. And I want to mark that. So it was our turn I walked up to Zen the poet and I told him that I wanted a poem about this season of driving my kids everywhere and the bittersweet aspects to that. I gave him a few details and a few minutes later he waved me over. He slid this handwritten poem into like a little plastic sleeve for me to take and he said, I've written thousands of poems over the years sitting out here and this is the first time that one made me cry. So here is the six minute poem that Zen wrote for me in the middle of Central park about carpooling. Mirrors and eyes and hair and fights and giggles and garbage and songs and gripes and locks and mud and belts and doors. One day I'll be looking out the window and you'll ask me about my day and all I'll remember are yours. Isn't that so beautiful? I'm going to post a photo of the handwritten poem itself with it's like the backdrop of the changing trees in Central Park. I'm going to put that in the next podcast recap email if you want to see it. That's the lazygeniuscollective.com listens but that's honestly my my pep talk to you today. In the monotony of everyday life, there is so much beauty in the ordinary. The most beauty. And when we can take a minute to just pause and remember that good is here right now, even the things that drive us crazy never seem to end. They have power to bring contentment and joy. Where you are is a season, maybe a super long, difficult one, but monotony. It can be an opportunity for liturgy, for deep grooves of awareness and contentment and presence and honesty wherever you are. And that's a mini pep talk on the monotony of everyday life. 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