The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex Episode: The Only Dating Advice You Need in 2025 FT. Brittany Charm
Release Date: March 15, 2025
Guest: Brittany Charm
Host: Paul Alex Espinoza

Introduction

In this enlightening episode of The Level Up Podcast, host Paul Alex Espinoza welcomes his wife and esteemed guest, Brittany Charm, a leading dating coach in the online space. Together, they delve deep into the evolving landscape of dating in 2025, addressing the challenges and offering actionable advice for both men and women striving to find meaningful connections.

Guest Background

Brittany Charm brings a wealth of experience to the table. With over a decade as an HR analyst and extensive backgrounds in makeup artistry and personal styling, Brittany has honed her skills in professional conduct, personal presentation, and femininity. Her multifaceted expertise allows her to guide highly successful women—ranging from doctors and attorneys to business owners—in navigating the complexities of modern relationships.

“I have a really, really good, vast knowledge on how to carry yourself, how to conduct yourself in meetings, how to always be professional, and just how to be a lady...”
— Brittany Charm [02:55]

Modern Dating Dynamics

The conversation kicks off with a pivotal question about entitlement in modern dating. Brittany posits that both men and women are often not dating at their appropriate levels—either aiming too high or too low—stemming from distorted realities fueled by social media.

“People have a false sense of reality because of social media. It's kind of given people, you know, it's made average people think there's something wrong with being average.”
— Brittany Charm [03:50]

Social Media’s Impact on Dating

Paul Alex and Brittany discuss how social media platforms have amplified competition in the dating market. The exposure to extravagant lifestyles creates unrealistic expectations, making it harder for average individuals to find satisfaction in their relationships.

“Everyone sees like these yachts and this extravagant lifestyle. They feel like that's always attainable and that's the only way for happiness... It all depends on whether you guys are a match.”
— Brittany Charm [03:56]

Expectations vs. Reality in Dating

The dialogue transitions to addressing the misconceptions that arise from these inflated expectations. Brittany emphasizes the importance of self-improvement and aligning one's lifestyle with their dating ambitions to meet like-minded partners.

“You can always get yourself there. That means you need to step up your looks, get in the gym, eat better, maybe use better, you know, face products...”
— Brittany Charm [04:24]

Beauty and Presentation in Dating

A significant portion of the discussion focuses on personal presentation. Brittany critiques current beauty trends, urging women to adopt more age-appropriate and subtle makeup styles to attract quality partners.

“They're still doing their makeup like they did in their 20s. Or if they're in their 20s, they're still... the biggest way you can tell a woman's age is by how she does her makeup.”
— Brittany Charm [22:18]

Dating Apps: Best Practices and Common Mistakes

The conversation shifts to the realm of dating apps, where Brittany identifies two primary mistakes: oversharing personal issues (trauma dumping) and inappropriate self-presentation. She advises investing in paid platforms to attract serious contenders and maintaining a polished online persona.

“One of them being they're showing too much... or if it's not too sexy, it's too frumpy. They're not dressing for their age.”
— Brittany Charm [24:07]

Traditional Gender Roles vs. Modern “Boss Babes”

A heated segment addresses the tension between traditional gender roles and the modern “boss babe” mentality. Brittany advocates for a balance, encouraging women to embrace their femininity while maintaining independence. She argues that rigid adherence to traditional roles can lead to fulfilling relationships without falling into the pitfalls of being labeled as a gold digger.

“I'm a traditional woman. I believe in traditional gender roles. That means me as a wife, I'm there to nurture... I'm a reflection of you.”
— Brittany Charm [33:03]

Concluding Insights

Wrapping up the episode, Brittany underscores the importance of accountability in personal development and relationship success. She urges listeners to continuously improve themselves and remain patient in their search for compatible partners.

“You have to be accountable and know what it is that you can get and what it is that you can't get... unless you're putting in the work to get that, you need to date within your league.”
— Brittany Charm [19:30]

Notable Quotes

• Brittany Charm [03:50]: “People have a false sense of reality because of social media. It's kind of given people, you know, it's made average people think there's something wrong with being average.”

• Brittany Charm [24:07]: “They're still doing their makeup like they did in their 20s. Or if they're in their 20s, they're still... the biggest way you can tell a woman's age is by how she does her makeup.”

• Brittany Charm [33:03]: “I'm a traditional woman. I believe in traditional gender roles. That means me as a wife, I'm there to nurture... I'm a reflection of you.”

Conclusion

This episode of The Level Up Podcast offers a comprehensive exploration of the current dating landscape, highlighting the interplay between social media, personal development, and traditional values. Paul Alex and Brittany Charm provide valuable insights and practical advice for listeners aiming to elevate their dating experiences and forge meaningful relationships in 2025.

For more episodes and resources to kickstart your journey, visit OfficialPaulAlex.com and follow Brittany Charm on Instagram and Facebook.