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Living Your Legacy
Somatic Healing Expert on Escaping Abuse and Rewriting Your Nervous System
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Cassandra Love Lambert
I tend to work with women who are like me, so they have some kind of childhood trauma, maybe a neglectful parent or divorce. And I help women really take their unprocessed trauma and transform it into their superpower and become their own heroes.
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Narrator/Host Introduction
Cassandra Love Lambert is a resilient, transformative and somatic transformation coach and the founder of C Love healing and the pain into power process. Through her work as a best selling author and healing expert, she guides women to release stored trauma, reconnect with their bodies and rise into lives rooted in safety, power and self trust.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
The first step is always awareness, right? But awareness doesn't create transformation. So then you have to do the work. Our bodies hold onto our trauma and you need to do somatic work to really process and release it. I really help these women get empowered and break those cycles so they can actually have a life that they deserve and also step into their purpose.
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Podcast Host
It spans the globe like a super highest coal Internet.
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Podcast Host
Hello and welcome back to another episode. Joining me today is Cassandra. She's a leader, an entrepreneur like many of us and making a big impact in the world. So I'm very excited for this episode. Cassandra, welcome to the show.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Thank you. I'm excited to be here.
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Podcast Host
So tell everyone. You know, we were talking a little offline, but how do you help women? What do you do exactly? How do you end up here?
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah, I had a really rough childhood, Lots of childhood trauma, sexual abuse. And I help women really take their unprocessed trauma and transform it into their superpower and become their own heroes.
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Podcast Host
And I know, you know, like I moved from, I always say I moved from England to America. England, no one talks about any trauma and I think they just press it down and hide it. America seems, maybe it's just the last decade, but it's becoming more open and like almost not, not popular, but more like people are less afraid to talk about it and how it affects them. And I mean that's healthy, right? Because you can't work through it un. You're open and seek help. So have you noticed that trend in the last few years that it's becoming more and more like there's more ways to help, there's more People like yourself out there on the Internet, helping people.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
It's so funny you bring up the uk, too, because one of my clients is actually from the UK, too, and I think out there, they do a lot of repression.
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Podcast Host
So, yeah, like, you couldn't do your job in the uk, you'd have zero clients. You know, maybe one. That one client would be, you know,
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Cassandra Love Lambert
I think because they, like, repress it or go drinking, partying. Right. But, yeah, in the US it is more of a trend to talk about it, unpackage it. When I was a kid, though, it wasn't.
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Podcast Host
No, it wasn't. It's changed a lot.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Change.
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Podcast Host
Yeah. And I think that's great, right?
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah.
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Podcast Host
It's like, you know, it gives people like yourself the opportunity to make that impact and change lives. So, you know, let's. Let's talk about how do you help someone. Right. People come to you for coaching, consulting. They, you know, read the book to tell us about that.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah. So it's so funny because I actually started entrepreneurship as an artist, so a lot of my clients found me through getting bedazzled or painted or their makeup done. And because they felt safe in my chair with that transformation on the outside, they knew they could trust me with the transformation on the inside. So, honestly, a lot of those clients kind of shimmied over. And then other people find me, you know, through just talking or referral and things of that nature.
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Podcast Host
And did that kind of get you into it as you were working with clients on one side? You saw you had the skill for it and help could help people well.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
So I feel like the universe has been pulling me along the entire journey because I was my first client. Honestly, it was like I either had to heal or I was going to self destruct. There were plenty of times I didn't want to be alive. And I did the art, and I love doing the art, but I wanted to do something deeper and really transform women's lives. So the pandemic is actually what caused the pivot, because I was already getting certified, and then events stopped, so I couldn't do my art anymore. And it was like a little nudge, like, hey, go this direction. And so that's actually when the pivot took place.
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Podcast Host
Well, that's. I always say that about things like Covid, obviously very sad, and a lot of people, you know, died because of the disease or. But for some people, it gave that nudge out the front door, so to speak, to take a new course or a new life goal or business. And, you know, for Us. And for a lot of business owners it was bad, but for, you know, for us we had to pivot. But then we created some great things out off the back of it. And that's entrepreneurship. Is that pivot, you know and. Yeah, yeah, yeah, big pivot. But, but here you are today. And you know, I think it's great that you came from that background. I think they always kind of joke like hairdressers are also therapists. Right. So it's kind of the same, you know, that, that for you. So who, you know, obviously you can't name clients, but what, what, what do people come into you with and how do you help them actually work through it and where do they end up when they go through this?
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah, so when the pandemic hit, I kind of, out of all my journey of healing and stuff, like I really wanted to put together something that really worked because, you know, I tried a bunch of things that didn't. So I, what was birthed was my pain into power process. And that's what I walk people through. It's a very somatic process. I bring in evidence based eft, brain spotting and parts work. Some people call it inner family systems. But really I tend to work with women who are like me. So they have some kind of childhood trauma, maybe a neglectful parent or divorce or maybe they were sexually abused in childhood. And, and then also I tend to attract women who've been in and out of abusive relationships and it tends to be a really hard pattern for women to break. It's like once they're in one, they tend to, they'll feel like a magnet actually because they keep ending up in another relationship where the same type of dynamics show up. And so I really help these women get empowered and break those cycles so they can actually have a life that they deserve and also step into their purpose. Usually they're living in survival mode and when they're living in survival mode, they can't show up fully in their lives. Right.
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Podcast Host
Well, and there's a couple of things there that I want to pick, pick on and, or expand on is number one, I think a lot of times people think when they don't know this industry and they think about, you know, whether it's therapy or hiring someone like yourself living there, just talking. Right. Whereas you mentioned that you have a system and scientifical protocols. Right. And so I'd love to expand a little on that and then I'd love to also expand on. Yeah, there is a trend if someone's in a bad spot, like A toxic, abusive relationship. They jump to different abusive relationships, and that can link back to a childhood trauma that they have. Right. So let's talk about both of those.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
So, yeah, I tended to find that a traditional talk therapy didn't really help me. I would leave sessions feeling worse sometimes than I did at the beginning. And it never really alleviated the sensations I was having in my body connected to triggers. And it actually caused me to wonder what was wrong with me, as if I was broken or I could never heal. And it wasn't until after I had my daughter and what's called a trauma capsule opened up. It was as if I had never done any healing work, even though I had already been on the journey for 10 years. And I was guided towards the somatic work. And I started to notice true transformation. And when I say that, it means, like, I didn't go backwards or revert backwards. Right. So it was like I was starting to shift and my reality was changing and it was staying. And so I was like, oh, I felt convicted, actually. That's why I got into the work I do, because I'm like, I know there's other women who feel broken.
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Podcast Host
You've seen it work on yourself. Right.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
And they feel broken, and I felt broken. It's like, what's wrong with me? How come this isn't working? And you try, like, this thing and self help and all these coaches and mentors, and then you're still at the end of the day feeling like nothing works. And then you internalize it, thinking it's you. But a lot of women and people just in general aren't aware that the body keeps the score, which is a book. And our bodies hold on to our trauma, and you need to do somatic work to really process and release it. And that's what changes the game.
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Podcast Host
Yeah. And I want to, you know, expand on one of them. And you said there, we're filming another show right now, and the host, her name's Kira, she actually talks about when she's doing some channeling work with some of her people that a lot of people. And it's like, fascinating for me to hear this, but it makes sense, is they think they're the only one or the crazy one or the bad one. Right. When, you know, like, you know, sexual abuse or child abuse. Millions, millions, millions of people are actually really sad. Yeah. But you're definitely not the only one going through this. This pain and problems and. And whatever. So I think just that alone can be so impactful for. For more people to hear Right. Like you're not the bad one or the crazy one or. And actually, I think there's a lot of problems with social media and the Internet. It can cause harm in bad ways. But I think that's one of the best things about it, is helping spread some good information like that too.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah. You also bring up another point that people will think something's wrong with them is they will. When you get triggered or activated, it doesn't even matter if you're a PhD or you have masters or whatever. You know, your thinking brain goes offline, and so you're in reaction. And when you're in reaction, you're operating from your fight or flight part of your brain. And so your choices or the behaviors you have.
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Podcast Host
Yeah.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
They might not be in alignment with who you are. That's why you're have be like, you'll do things out of character, and then later you'll be like, oh, why did I do that? Right. And a lot of people will have a lot of shame around this. And even if they knew, like, all these things that they could have done in that moment, they'll start shaming themselves like, oh, I know better. I should have used tapping or I should have did breath work. But this is biology. So if your thinking brain goes offline, it doesn't matter what you know. You won't grab a tool to use or practice a pause or any of that. And so that's actually why I guide clients to do a daily practice.
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Podcast Host
Yeah. And I think, you know, even with that, I can resonate on that side more as, from a leadership standpoint, like, no one's perfect either. Right. Like you, you train over time to get better and better and better. I do as a leader and react different to staff when they make a mistake or whatever. And I, I think, you know, when I analyze myself over 10 years, I've got better every year at that. But you. But I still will slip up. Right.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
And it's the same thing. Yeah.
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Podcast Host
You're human. So. And. And I think that's important to know too, because, you know, I think what you're saying is if you don't understand that and understand why, you can dig yourself into a deep hole over it.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah. You'll just beat yourself up.
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Podcast Host
Yeah.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
And then that doesn't serve you.
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Podcast Host
Yeah. And then you spiral, I imagine, on the back.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah.
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Podcast Host
So. And let's talk about the second part. Why do you know, I love for people. Listen, why do so many people, you know, a previous trauma, often childhood or whatever. Why does it affect them so much later in life where they maybe jump between toxic or abusive relationships, for example. And how do they break through from that?
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah, that's a really good question.
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Podcast Host
I can, and I know it's a big. It's not an easy one to answer.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah, well. Yeah, well, it's because in childhood too, like even before we're born, right, we're already getting impacted by generational trauma in the womb of our moms. I actually heard this really fascinating fact that when our mom is in her mom, okay, so like my mom, my grandma, my egg was getting created in my mom. And so I'm getting influenced not only by grandma, but also my mom. And so it just kind of gives you this idea of how generational trauma comes through, like through the DNA and the. And also we get programmed kind of like a computer through, like our experiences, the things we see, the things we hear, what we go through. We also get impacted by our parents and then the other people that are directly impacting us. And so this creates our belief systems, this creates our behaviors. And like, if you are, like, are a child and you have a not good enough program, you're going to keep attracting not good enough experiences, whether that's a relationship or, you know, vocational or in school. Because we as humans have confirmation bias. And so we are drawn towards things that prove us right. We like to be right.
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Podcast Host
Yeah,
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Cassandra Love Lambert
we have to be right. And so that feels familiar. So we move towards familiarity. And even if something is what we truly desire and is healthy and it's right in front of us, we won't even go that direction because it's proving that belief wrong. And like I said, we have to be right. So it takes this like work of reprogramming. And some people aren't even aware, right? So they won't even know about this work. So the first step is always awareness. Right. But awareness doesn't create transformation. So then you have to do the work. And the work is kind of ambiguous for some people.
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Podcast Host
Yeah, yeah, I think that's great. And you know, I just want to sort of, as we get to the end, we talked about so much. But if someone's listening, what's the first step? Right. We talk so big picture and this, you know, I'm sure it resonates with people listening. As you said, one in four are affecting by this, right. In some capacity probably. So where can they start?
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Cassandra Love Lambert
A good place to start is the Body Keeps the Score. Honestly, that book is so eye opening.
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Podcast Host
Not ready, but I've heard of it.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah, yeah. It'll just bring awareness and things that you've been internalizing that like it's you, something's wrong with you. You're going to have more understanding and kind of be like, oh, no, this is because I went what I went through. So I think a really good step is first reading that book and then, you know, starting to do look for a somatic practitioner or look for things like evidence based EFT or breath work.
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Podcast Host
Yeah.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Kind of dabble in these things to see how they make you feel. And if it's really outside of your box, that's okay. Because a lot of people are scared of, you know, trying new things. It is awkward to sit there and tap on your point.
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Podcast Host
I mean, there's so many, there's so many new evolutions now. Like obviously there's a lot of experimental drugs and microdose.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah.
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Podcast Host
There's so many things, you know.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah.
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Podcast Host
You know, all these crazy things. So I think it's good in the last. And that's the great thing about America, I think in general is it's always at the forefront of trying these things.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
It is trying things. And the thing is I look at healing like a lifestyle, not just a target. So it's really about creating your day to day in a way that really supports your nervous system and that's where you'll get the most traction.
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Podcast Host
Yeah, love that. And that just leads into my last question. Obviously read the book. Great. But if they want to work with you, get your advice, follow you on socials, I'm sure you put tips and content out there too. How do they do that?
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Cassandra Love Lambert
Yeah, so actually I really want to share my book.
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Podcast Host
Great.
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Cassandra Love Lambert
You know, into the light, Becoming my own hero. And why I want to share my book though is because with it comes 120 page workbook book and in it is somatic exercises and things they can try out. But yeah, you could follow me on Instagram at C Lovelambert and I'm very approachable. So just send me a message and I'll respond.
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Podcast Host
Love it. Well, I know you're here to help and that's why we have this series to highlight people like you doing great things in the world and through entrepreneurship and their own journey. So thank you so much for what you do and yeah, guys, go check her out. Check out the book, of course. Follow on social media and keep working hard to make your own impact. I'll see you guys soon. Take care.