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The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show
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The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show explores the science of human behavior, relationships, and the emotional patterns shaping our lives that most of us don't even realize exist. Because once you see the pattern, you can finally change it.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, social psychologist and leading expert in attachment science, alongside co-host Raina Butcher, each episode translates complex psychological research into practical, everyday insights. Together, they explore the hidden forces that influence how we love, communicate, parent, lead, navigate conflict, regulate emotions, build resilience, and create lasting change.
Whether you're trying to understand yourself, strengthen your relationships, heal from a breakup, become a more effective partner, parent or leader, or simply make sense of the people around you, you'll gain evidence-based tools and practical strategies grounded in psychology, attachment science, and human behavior
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, social psychologist and leading expert in attachment science, alongside co-host Raina Butcher, each episode translates complex psychological research into practical, everyday insights. Together, they explore the hidden forces that influence how we love, communicate, parent, lead, navigate conflict, regulate emotions, build resilience, and create lasting change.
Whether you're trying to understand yourself, strengthen your relationships, heal from a breakup, become a more effective partner, parent or leader, or simply make sense of the people around you, you'll gain evidence-based tools and practical strategies grounded in psychology, attachment science, and human behavior
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
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What If We've Been WRONG About Emotionally Unavailable People? | Dismissive Avoidant Explained
5d ago00:48:57Tap to summarizeSeason 3 is officially here! 🎉We've missed you all, but we're back and better than ever!Welcome to the premiere episode of The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show. What if we've been wrong about emotionally unavailable people all along? For years, emotionally unavailable partners have been labeled as cold, uncaring, or incapable of love. But what if the psychology tells a very different story?In this Season 3 premiere, Dr. Sarah Hensley explores the science of attachment theory, the psychology behind emotional unavailability, and why the dismissive avoidant attachment style is so often misunderstood. You'll discover how childhood experiences, nervous system adaptation, and subconscious protective strategies can create emotional distance—not because someone doesn't care, but because connection has become associated with vulnerability. Whether you've struggled in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant partner, identify with avoidant attachment yourself, or simply want to better understand relationship psychology, this episode offers practical insight grounded in psychology rather than stereotypes.If you're ready to understand relationships on a deeper level, you're in the right place. Welcome to an all-new season of The Dr. Sarah Hensley Show—where psychology meets practical strategies to help you build healthier relationships, improve emotional regulation, and create lasting secure attachment.👍 Like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who's trying to understand emotionally unavailable relationships.Tune in every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheDrSarahHensleyShowDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensleyFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
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STAY TUNED.......
Jun 1600:01:10Tap to summarizeWe’ve officially wrapped Season 2 and are taking a short pause as we put the finishing touches on our brand-new studio. This is a moment of reset, refinement, and preparation for what’s coming next.Thank you for being part of the journey so far—stay tuned, because Season 3 is going to bring bigger conversations, new guests, deeper insights, and a whole new level of what this show is becoming. Big things are on the way.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Transcribe →SEASON 2 FINALE: Q&A From the Dr. Sarah Hensley Clients and Community Facebook Group
Jun 900:30:02Tap to summarizeSeason 2 comes to a close with a special Q&A episode featuring questions submitted by members of the Dr. Sarah Hensley Clients and Community Facebook Group. Throughout this season, we've explored relationships, attachment styles, trauma, healing, communication, and personal growth—and for our finale, we're once again turning the conversation over to you.In this Season 2 finale, Dr. Hensley answers some of the most thoughtful and frequently asked questions from our community, offering practical insights, psychological perspectives, and real-world guidance on navigating the challenges of love, dating, relationships, and emotional healing. Whether you're working through attachment wounds, trying to build healthier connections, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of yourself and others, this episode delivers valuable takeaways straight from the conversations happening within our community every day.Thank you for being part of Season 2. Your questions, stories, and support continue to make this podcast a place for learning, healing, and growth. We can't wait to continue the journey with you in Season 3!If you aren’t yet part of the free, private Dr. Sarah Hensley Clients & Community Facebook group, now is the perfect time to join. It’s a supportive, attachment informed space where you can ask questions anonymously, connect with others on a similar healing path, and receive guidance rooted in science and compassion.➡️ Join the group here. https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1FV8YUfrfG/Dr. Hensley will continue pulling from your submissions to feature your biggest questions on the podcast—because your growth, your clarity, and your healing matter here.Tune in every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Transcribe →Episode 52, Season 2: Why We Get Attached to People We've Never Met: Parasocial Relationships
Jun 200:22:59Tap to summarizeParasocial relationships are everywhere in the age of social media. From influencers and creators to celebrities and online personalities, we have more access than ever to the lives of people we've never actually met. While these one-sided connections can provide entertainment, inspiration, and even a sense of belonging, they can also become unhealthy when they begin to replace real-world relationships, emotional intimacy, and authentic connection.In this new episode, host Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher explore the psychology behind parasocial relationships, attachment styles, and the emotional needs that make these bonds feel so powerful. They discuss how loneliness, trauma, unmet attachment needs, and the human desire for connection can increase vulnerability to unhealthy emotional investment in online figures. As social media algorithms become increasingly effective at capturing our attention, understanding the difference between healthy engagement and emotional dependency has never been more important. Join us as we examine the mental health implications of parasocial relationships, the impact of social media on attachment and connection, and how to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships in an increasingly digital world.Tune in every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Transcribe →Episode 51, Season 2: How Trauma Lives in the Mind & Body — And Shapes Your Relationships
May 2600:42:21Tap to summarizeTrauma doesn’t just live in the mind — it lives in the body, nervous system, and the relationship patterns we carry into everyday life. In the newest episode of The Love Doc Podcast, host Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher explore how unresolved trauma, childhood wounds, emotional neglect, abandonment, chronic stress, and painful relationship experiences become stored in both the brain and body, shaping the way we think, feel, communicate, and connect with others. They discuss how trauma responses like anxiety, emotional shutdown, hypervigilance, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, and avoidant behaviors can silently impact emotional intimacy, trust, conflict, and attachment in relationships. This conversation breaks down the connection between trauma, attachment styles, emotional regulation, nervous system dysregulation, and subconscious behavioral patterns, while also exploring what healing truly looks like. Dr. Hensley and Raina discuss trauma processing, triggers, fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses, self-awareness, and how building emotional safety and secure attachment can help break unhealthy relationship cycles. If you’ve ever wondered why certain relationship patterns keep repeating or why emotional connection can feel difficult, this episode offers insight into how trauma manifests in both the mind and body — and how healing can transform your relationships and your life.Tune in to The Love Doc Podcast every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Transcribe →Episode 50, Season 2: Q&A From The Love Doc Clients and Community Facebook Group
May 1900:30:57Tap to summarizeMy ex wants to come back, but can trust really be rebuilt?I believe I'm setting boundaries, but is it really just avoidance?My workaholic, rarely present husband says he's done with our marriage. How will I navigate 50/50 custody of our young children?On the newest episode of The Love Doc Podcast, host Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher answer questions straight from The Love Doc Clients and Community Facebook Group.If you aren’t yet part of the free, private Love Doc Clients & Community Facebook group, now is the perfect time to join. It’s a supportive, attachment informed space where you can ask questions anonymously, connect with others on a similar healing path, and receive guidance rooted in science and compassion.➡️ Join the group here. https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1FV8YUfrfG/Dr. Hensley will continue pulling from your submissions to feature your biggest questions on the podcast—because your growth, your clarity, and your healing matter here.Tune in to The Love Doc Podcast every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Transcribe →Episode 49, Season 2: The Habits of Secure Couples: Psychology-Backed Traits of Healthy & Lasting Relationships
May 1200:35:58Tap to summarizeWhat makes secure couples different from everyone else? In this week's episode, host Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher break down the most common traits found in healthy, emotionally secure relationships through the lens of psychology, attachment theory, communication, and emotional intelligence. From shared routines to giving your partner the benefit of the doubt, Dr. Hensley and Raina explore the behaviors that create long-term relationship security and emotional safety. Whether you struggle with anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, relationship anxiety, or simply want to build a healthier connection, this episode will help you recognize what secure love actually looks like in real life. Learn the green flags of emotionally healthy partners, how secure couples communicate during conflict, and the daily habits that strengthen intimacy, trust, and lasting connection.Tune in to The Love Doc Podcast every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensleyFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Transcribe →Episode 48, Season 2: Don't Let Attachment Style Confirmation Bias Sabotage Your Relationships
May 500:47:27Tap to summarizeWhy do you keep finding “proof” that your partner is pulling away or can’t be trusted? In this episode, host Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher explore how Confirmation Bias shapes your relationship reality through the lens of Psychology and attachment theory. Your attachment style—anxious, avoidant, or secure—acts as a filter, influencing what you notice, how you interpret behavior, and the meaning you assign to it. We break down how these patterns reinforce themselves: anxious attachment scans for rejection, avoidant attachment looks for reasons to disconnect, and both can create self-fulfilling cycles. You’ll learn how to recognize these cognitive blind spots, challenge automatic assumptions, and shift toward healthier, more secure relationship dynamics.Tune in to The Love Doc Podcast every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensleyFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Transcribe →Episode 47, Season 2: Why Smart People Stay in Toxic Relationships (And Can’t Walk Away)
Apr 2100:29:27Tap to summarizeWhy do intelligent, self-aware people stay in relationships that hurt them? In this episode, we break down the psychology behind this paradox, exploring how attachment theory, trauma bonding, and subconscious emotional patterns keep people stuck in unhealthy dynamics. Host Dr. Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher unpack how early attachment styles shape the way we give and receive love, often overriding logic and self-worth. You’ll learn why chemistry can feel stronger in toxic relationships, how intermittent reinforcement creates addictive emotional cycles, and what it really takes to break free. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone trying to understand their relationship patterns, heal from past wounds, and build healthier, more secure connections moving forward.Tune in to The Love Doc Podcast every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensleyFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
Transcribe →Episode 46, Season 2: Entrepreneurship Isn’t Easy - Navigating Growth, Stress & Change
Apr 1400:34:29Tap to summarizeNew week, new set of challenges. When you own and run your own business, the hurdles are ever-present. In this episdode of The Love Doc Podcast, host Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher open up on the real, unfiltered journey of building a business—and what happens when growth demands change. From the emotional highs of rapid success to the uncertainty and pressure that come with evolving a brand, they explore the often unseen challenges of entrepreneurship. The conversation dives into The Love Doc’s pivotal decision to move toward a rebrand, unpacking the fears, identity shifts, and tough choices that come with redefining a mission while staying true to its core purpose. Blending personal insight with psychological perspective, this episode offers an honest look at resilience, reinvention, and what it truly takes to grow—both as a business and as individuals behind it.Don't worry, only the name is changing!Tune in to The Love Doc Podcast every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today’s world. For more information on Dr. Hensley’s offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley’s Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley’s online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensleyFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-dr-sarah-hensley-show--6390558/support.
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