← The Martell Method w/ Dan Martell
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How you guys doing on this beautiful morning? Today is about an idea that I call Learn Back Look Forward. And it's a personal story for me. I'm going to share with you what happened to me yesterday that was a little weird, but 100% relevant to this story. So if you stick around for a few minutes, I'll get to that. But here's the big idea with Learn Back look forward. When I got out of, kind of when I transitioned in my life as a teenager, some of you know my story, but got a lot of trouble. Ended up in, in rehab for 11 months and I got out of there. And one of the big projects that they, they, you know, it's called a transition plan. They, they work with us to create is essentially a transition to rebuild our relationships and our environment and, you know, try to just create some positive habits. Anyway, here's what I noticed when I got out, because I would every once in a while run into some old acquaintances at the mall, out at the farmers market, etc. And this was pretty much unanimously the conversation that would, would go on with these people. It would be something like, hey man, I haven't seen you in a while. Remember that time that this happened? And wasn't that crazy? We got so messed up and have you heard of this person and that person? And like, it was literally 100% hit rate if I saw somebody from my past, you know, a year prior, because I kind of went through this really dark period in my life. Every time I would see somebody from that period, all they would want to share with me is these events that happened in the past, these examples of debauchery, just like talking crap about somebody else or how somebody got in this trouble or that trouble. And honestly, like, after a while I was being polite and just like, didn't want to create confrontation. But over time, as I kind of felt confident, my voice and my self confidence, I just started stopping people and be like, hey man, I appreciate that that was a fun time for you, but I've actually moved on quite a bit. I'm sober, I'm, you know, I've rebuilt, you know, the trust I lost with my parents. And I'm in a different spot, you know, And I would just share that politely, just like, hopefully not inspiring. I didn't even think those words back then. Like, literally, it was just, I'm living my life, it's a different path. And, you know, I'm gonna keep on with my day, right? And over the years, what happened is I spent less and less time around those, you know, places or those people would kind of just get used to it and I'd see them, we just do a quick head nod, you know, you see them at the mall, it's just like, you know, it's, we kind of ignore each other, but we don't need to have, there's no catch up days, right? And I don't know if you know these people like that. And, and look, I'm not picking on the, the high school, you know, quarterback and the, the prom queen and you know, all these popular people in high school. But I'm just saying, from my experience, you, what I've seen happen a lot is those people peak, right? And now, you know, and I've been out, you know, New Year's Eve parties, those are the same people sitting at the bar, 30, 40 pounds overweight, reminiscing of that time they did X or that, that time they did that or that. Like all they do is they talk about the past. Their conversations by default is backwards looking that way. So there's a trend amongst these people of looking back and using those glory days as almost as a way to make themselves feel better about their situation. Here's what I want to encourage, because some of you, probably not many of you, but maybe you've been caught in these conversations or you might even be having them yourselves, is I really want you to start focusing on the future. Here's why I believe that any person, even these individuals out there, have an incredible, incredible opportunity ahead of them. I don't care what your situation is, where you're at right now. I think every human being, the beauty of being a human being is that we have the opportunity on a daily basis to reset and move forward and make micro changes that impact us on a daily basis and compound it over time, can literally transform people's lives. And you don't like, I don't have to sit here and just name off thousands of examples, but I know personally, it's happened to me in so many different areas of my life where when I finally made a decision and I moved forward and all of a sudden that person isn't even the same person. I share that because yesterday I was out with the family on the boat and I got back in the parking lot. Me, Max and Noah were carrying this like trailer full of stuff and we're loading the car and this guy approaches me, okay, and I could kind of recognize him. I was like, holy, is that Jason? Okay, I haven't seen this person in 25 years. Okay, 25 yeah, 30, 40. I was 15 the last time person I time I saw him. And the reason I know that is because he proceeded to tell me, and he's like, hey, man, I saw you out on the boat. I was on my friend's boat. And, you know, and like, here's this guy. Like, doesn't look the same at all. Like, I almost didn't recognize him. Teeth kind of, like, few of them missing. Like, just does not look like a poster child of health. Like, I don't know what he's been doing with the last 25 years of his life, but I can. I can take a stab. And the first thing he says to me, like, not how you been doing? Haven't seen you in a while, etc. Like, not normal conversation normal in my world. Is he, man, do you know the last time I saw you? And I'm like, no. And he's like, dude, we stole your mom's car. And we were actually right here down on the war, jumping off the roof of the van. And. And, you know, blah, blah, blah. Kings of the world. Kings of, say, point. Kings of point to Sheen. I can say this in a private group because I'm luckily, unfortunately, we'll have to see him around because his friend has a boat in the same yacht area that I park. So. But. But I did exactly what I share with you. But it was just so funny because for him, those were his glory days. Like, he was reminiscing as if those were the best days of his life when he was 15. And living life and living loose and living fast. And it's just like my best days are yesterday and today and tomorrow. Like, I am so excited about the opportunity. I feel like I'm just getting started. I feel like the luckiest person in the world. And the way I want to explain it to everybody is we look back, okay? So we look back to learn, okay? We don't look back to reminisce. We look back to say, you know, did I create magical memories? Because my buddy Brad says this all the time. Life's about creating magical memories with increased intensity and frequency, okay? So we look back to learn, to see if how we've been living our life has produced those kind of outcomes. But we don't look back to reminisce. We. We don't look back to say, personally, I don't. I like to be. I call it blissfully dissatisfied. I am incredibly grateful and feel fulfilled for what I have in my life. But I also know that I've got so much More to create. I have so much more to give. I have so much more to put out there. So every day is just an opportunity for me to work on my skills, work on myself, put in the reps. That's why I'm wearing a frigging biking outfit. To put in the time to become the person who can create even more incredible, epic outcomes for the people I love the most. Okay? That's a lot of you. Now it's all of you. All of you. My family, my friends, my community, the charities I'm involved in, et cetera. So I just wanna. I want to share this as almost an opportunity to caution, warn, or highlight. Maybe you're doing this. Maybe there's something in your life where you continuously look back. I remember when life was easier and before kids and before this and before that, and before I had a business and a bunch of employees. And you got to be careful. Okay? You got to be careful. So this COVID 19 really taught me something. You got to watch out what you wish for, because a lot of people were wishing they spent less time traveling and less time away from the family. And guess what? The 100% opposite happened. Okay? So we got to be careful what we wish for. We got to be very deliberate in what we focus on for the future. So that is the message of today. Learn back, look forward, focus on what you want. Do not settle on your past accomplishments, because they are there. And they don't teach you anything about what you need to do to create even bigger and better outcomes for you and the people you love the most. So that is the message for the day. I hope this finds you incredibly well. We'll talk soon. Peace later.