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She Slept With Her Celebrity Crush?! Uncovering Reddit's Worst Horror Stories
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During the last two years she's been going through a rough time mentally, has had quite a few problems regarding her education. Because of this, she's been very emotionally unstable, which includes her crying about anything and everything. She would cry even if this if even the smallest thing didn't go according to her plan, and act irrationally about a lot of things. In the beginning, I tried to be as supportive as possible, talk over the things with her, try to understand her side of it. I would cuddle her for hours until she felt better and then repeat the same routine day in and day out for many, many months. Dear God. It's been about two years of this now where I've tried to push her into talking about it with psychiatrists, which she adamantly agreed to, but stopped every single visit, which she didn't feel a good connection with that person, which I think is totally valid. But now I'm having a hard time getting her to find another one since she doesn't believe that she can find someone who would actually try to help her. I'm starting to feel numb when she cries because it's been happening so often and about things I have such a hard time relating to feel so for this and I wish that this wasn't the case, but I'm starting to just feel annoyed whenever she cries over the smallest thing that most people would just shrug their shoulders over. Really love her and I don't want to end up possibly resenting her for this behavior, but I really don't know what to do. I feel so horrible with with how my mind thinks about the current situation. So am I the. I mean, you are for. For continuing to date this. This person. I don't mean to spoil the ending here, but the obvious answer is that you should break up with this crazy broadcast. You're only dating her. You have no commitment to her. You don't owe her anything. Your relationship is barely even real. So just break up with her. Like, if you're just dating someone, it's barely real. You're not engaged and you're not married. It barely exists. It's. That's why you're not supposed to date for very long. You date for a short amount of time and then you get engaged and then it's more real and then you get married, and now it's very real. But before that, it's hardly even real. Like it's. It's. It's trivial. Actually, dating is a trivial thing. You want. You want to graduate to something that's not trivial, but you're in the trivial stage right now. So the answer to a situation. I'm dating someone and. And they're behaving horribly and they make me feel terrible to be around them. What should I do? Break up with them? What. What do you mean, what should you do? Obviously, break up with. What is there to even think about now as to the specifics of the situation, which are academic, because you should just break up with her. But people who are having a tough time mentally and let everyone around them know about it by having meltdowns and crying and, you know, making everything about themselves. Those people are what is known as narcissistic. And she is doing what narcissistic do, which is making herself the main character and then using manipulation and emotional blackmail against you if you dare say anything about it, or even if you simply fail to react exactly as she prefers. So you feel bad for having a very human, normal reaction to all of this. And the human normal reaction is to be annoyed. Of course you're annoyed. It's annoying to be around someone who's constantly crying and whining and complaining and carrying on. Here's the thing. Even if on paper you're with someone who has. Who has a valid reason to. To cry and whine and complain. It still gets annoying after a while. But your girlfriend doesn't have any valid reason, so it's doubly annoying. I mean, think of it this way. What if your girlfriend got into a car accident and lost her leg? Well, that's a very valid, very good reason to be upset. Anyone would be. I'd be Upset if I lost my leg? You would be upset. Anybody would be upset. But even then, if for months or even years, every time you were around her, every day she complained about having one leg, if every occasion had the joy sucked out of it because she's constantly reminding you about her missing leg, if she was constantly using it to gain pity, then even then, after a while, and not that long, to be honest, it would get to be too much. You would be frustrated. Even though it's a serious complaint, it's an understandable complaint. But even then, after a while, you would say, okay, I get it. Like, no, I. I get that you lost a leg. It does suck. I understand, but I. We have to live our lives now. I mean, not every single second of the day can be about that. I'm sorry. You're not the only person who exists in the world. You're not. So then what do you say about people who take burdens that are incredibly light by comparison, which is what so many people do these days, of course. Take these burdens that are like, almost non existent and exaggerate them and then make those exaggerated burdens into everybody else's real burden. Right. What do you say about those people? Well, what we say is that what we should say is. Is not even that, oh, you should see a therapist. You should see a psychiatrist. That's the other problem. You see all these relationship problems people have? They always say this, that, well, I've recommended they go see a therapist. I got news for you. That's probably not going to do anything, okay? Therapists and psychiatrists are not these, like, magical witch doctors who can sprinkle fairy dust over a person and make them not narcissistic anymore. In fact, it works the opposite way most of the time. Your girlfriend's problem is that she only thinks about herself. She only talks about her problems. That's all she cares about. She's not alone in this. There's like millions of people in the world who are like this. Well, going to a place where you're paying someone to just listen to you drone on about your bull problems for an hour every week, that is just feeding the beast. That's you doing more of the thing you should not be doing anymore. So that's not gonna. That's not gonna solve the problem. She has a character defect. She is morally defective. People like this are bad people. It's not just, oh, she's struggling with mental health. No, she's actually a bad person. She's a selfish, narcissistic bad person. And and so you should just break up with her, okay, and leave her to sort her own problems out. People like that, like, eventually you just have to be people who are aggressively selfish and alienate everybody around them. If there's any hope for them, the only hope is that they end up alone and nobody wants anything to do with them. And maybe that's their wake up call. If you act that way, you don't deserve to have a boyfriend or a husband or a friend. You don't deserve to have anybody in your life. You're a horrible person. Nobody wants to be around you, so you should just end up alone and miserable and maybe then it'll be a wake up call, you'll improve, and then you could deserve, you could warrant having people in your life. But right now you don't. You can't be your best if you're constantly running on empty. That's true whether you're raising a family, running a business, or just trying to get through an ordinary week. People spend a lot of time talking about productivity and not nearly as much time talking about the foundation that makes it possible in the first place. Your Health Armor Colostrum is nature's original solution. Colostrum is packed with over 400 bioactive nutrients that fortify gut health and strengthen immune health to build resilience at the cellular level. 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My wife's out of town, so breakfast Monday morning was me, the four of them, and my daughter. Your wife's out of town and you did a sleepover? That. That's. Why would you do that to yourself. Why would you do that? Your wife's out of town and you're having all these kids over that you have to. Why would you. Why would you do. Wife's out of town and you're adding more kids into the mix for you to take care of. Why would you do that? Why would you ever do that? I did not want to make breakfast for six people, so I ordered a catering box from a breakfast place the night before. It came with 12 bagels, three types of cream cheese, butter and sliced onions, cucumbers and tomatoes. I figured that was plenty of food for six people. Monday morning, I picked up the box I had selected to get six plain, three onion, three everything bagels. Okay? Who cares what underneath the breakfast order. When the boys came down, one of my son's friends asked why there weren't any more sesame bagels. I said there was only one that had gone to the daughter, apparently. He asked why she got it. I said, because she came downstairs first. He said that wasn't fair. I said, there are plenty of bagels. Just take one. He asked why I only ordered one sesame bagel. I said I didn't. It was extra. He asked why I didn't order any, and I said I didn't realize they were so popular. This kid kept going on and on about how he wanted a sesame bagel and it wasn't fair that my daughter got one and he didn't since he's a guest at this point, my daughter is already eating the bagel, so it's a theoretical conversation now. I said to the kid, just pick a bagel. He said he didn't want a plain onion or everything bagel. I said, a plain bagel is just a sesame bagel. Oh, my gosh. This goes on forever. I told the kid to stop acting like a brat and eat a bagel or go to school without breakfast. He said I had to feed him and I can't call him a brat. I said, I have fed him. I can't make him eat. And so then fast forward. After pickup that day, his mom called to get my side of the story. I told her what happened, and she said she couldn't believe I called her kid a brat and let him go to school hungry. She said I should have ordered enough food for everybody. There's plenty of food. There were four bagels left over after breakfast. Okay, all right, so you get the point. Am I the. Or is this kid a brat? This is one of those stories that's so outrageous that you think you know It's. You'd like to think it's fake. I mean, this is Reddit, after all. But if you know anything about parents these days and kids these days, there's nothing implausible about it. I mean, it's totally. I mean, these kinds. This, this kind of scenario plays out millions of times a day all across the country. So let's assume, for the sake of discussion, this is real. So you have a kid, your son's Fred, sleeping over to your house. You go out and get breakfast for everybody. The kid complains, demands better options, complains that your daughter ate the only bagel that he wanted, and then later the brat's mother takes her brat side and lectures you for being so rude to her brat. And this is kind of interesting, actually, because it shows the other side of the coin that people don't think about. Like, parents today get very worried about letting their kid hang out at someone at another kid's house or especially sleep over at another kid's house. And many of those concerns are legitimate, and I share them. You know, parents today are much more reluctant, much more to drop their kid off at another kid's house, especially overnight, but, but really for any length of time. And, and like I said, many of those concerns are legitimate. At the same time, your kid needs to have friends, and he also needs to develop some independence. At a certain point, you need to be able to drop your child off somewhere. Okay? Unless you plan to be his on the scene chaperone 24 hours a day until he's 18, which would be insane. So, so there has to be a balance. But as we see here, there's also a hazard to having other people's kids over at your house. You might think, well, the safer thing, I don't want to bring my kid to someone else's house. I don't know what's going on in that house. I don't know the parents well enough. Okay, I'll just have the kids over here. And so that's safer. At least I can keep an eye on things. And. Yeah, but the problem is that now you've been put in the role of guardian, the authority figure for these kids, these other kids, these, you know, strangers, kids who, who might not have parents, who raised them to respect authority figures. And if you have to speak a little sternly to someone else's precious little snowflake, then you're gonna have to deal with that. Snowflakes, snowflake parents and of course, parent teachers deal with this every single day. Now, of course, if the Kid has good parents, then there's nothing to worry about. Because the instinct of a good parent is to take the side of the other adult. In a situation like this, it is not to take your own child's side. This should be something that shouldn't need to be said, but it does. It should be obvious. But as a good parent, you do not take your child's side all the time. In fact, very often you don't take their side at all. Especially with something like this. Like when I was a kid, if I had, if I had to, you know, come home from a sleepover and told my parents that my friend's dad called me a brat, my parents would not have said, well, how could he say that about you? He said that about you. You're a perfect little child. How could. No, the first thing they would say is, what the hell did you do? What did you do that to be called a brat? What were you doing over there that warranted that, provoked that, that comment? And I'd be the same way with my kids. If my kids came home and they were at, you know, they were at someone's house and they had some, some a guardian and they had an interaction like reaction would be, what did you do? What did you do? Now, of course, my kids wouldn't be called brats by other adults because they know very well that when they are guests in someone else's house or when some other adult is temporarily in charge of them in some capacity, they damn well better behave themselves and be nothing but polite and respectful. They better be better for that other adult than they are for us. If I found out that my son complained, complained about a meal that someone served him when he was a guest in their house, complained about would be the worst mistake of his life. I cannot imagine that having a child who would complain. You're being served a meal in someone's house and you complain about it. I don't care what the meal is. Okay, this is one of the, this is one of the golden rules of, of, of childhood. At least it's supposed to be. This is, you know, this is one of the, one of the basic litmus tests. Were you raised well? Basic litmus test. How do you behave when you're at a table in someone else's house as a, as a guest and they serve you food? I remember I was a kid and I was staying at someone's house. I don't remember who. And I'll never forget breakfast and they served scrambled eggs that I swear to you, it tasted like Dog meat. To this day, I think they may have served dog in the it. Like, I don't know what dogs taste like. I ate these scrambled eggs. I don't know if the eggs were rotten. I don't know if they were trying to poison me. I didn't know scrambled eggs could taste like that. I mean, scrambled eggs are kind of like. It's. It's all. You know, it's sort of. They. There's. There's not a lot of variation in how they taste. These were rancid. They were rancid. Rancid scrambled eggs. It really did taste. It tastes like wet dog. Like, did they kill a dog and put them in the eggs? You know, I could. I could barely stomach it. But you know what? I ate the whole damn plate because I knew. Well, I knew if I didn't eat. If I didn't eat it, if I refused it, if I threw it away, and that got back to my parents, I was in trouble. So I ate the whole damn thing. And. And that's the attitude that your kids should have. So, anyway. No, you aren't. The. The kid was acting like a brat, and that's what you called him. You know, I. Some kids need to be called brats. Like, there are kids that are brats, and someone needs to just tell them, you're a brat. You're a brat. You need to shut up. Shut up, you little brat. Somebody needs to say it. If you've. If your kid has gotten to a point where other adults need to tell him to be that he's a brat, then you have failed. You have failed as a parent. You should be ashamed. You ever have one of those mornings where you're exhausted and can't figure out why you went to bed on time? 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Schedule your free inspection at leaffilter.com walsh@leaffilter.com Walsh Minimum purchase required restrictions apply. See representative for warranty and promotion details. All right, finally. My girlfriend slept with her celebrity crush. I'm still in shock. I'm heartbroken. My girlfriend and I have been dating for four years. We live together. During that time, she's been obsessed with a very minor YouTube musician. He has a few videos with a couple million views and a small following. During our entire relationship she has always claimed that he was her exception. I always assumed it was a joke. I'd fire right back with my celebrity crush. Well, he went on tour and played in the city near us at a small venue. She went with a co worker to see him after the concert. She didn't come home that night or answer my texts. I assumed she slept over. The coworkers, co workers, since she lives closer to the venue. She came home the next morning and didn't talk about the concert much. I asked questions, got vague answers. Later that day, she broke the news. She said it with a smile on her face, as though I was going to be happy and excited for her. I'm heartbroken. I was yelling. We were both crying. She said she didn't know how I'd react, but she didn't think it would be this extreme. She said I always knew he was her exception. I didn't think she was serious. I'm currently staying in a motel and I don't know what to do. I love her so much, but I can't think about her without thinking about what she did. She has tainted my memory of her. I cannot help but think that she clearly does not love me unconditionally. Oh, you think my girlfriend went out and had sex with this guy? I can't help but think she might not love. I can't. I know it's a crazy thought, but she might not love me unconditionally. I can't help. I have this sneaking suspicion. Okay, well, you know, my answer is, we already covered it, but. Breakup. Time to break up. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Go straight to breaking up. Easy call. Nothing to think about, nothing to weigh. The only complicating factor is that you live together, which is a retarded decision. This is why you shouldn't be playing house like people think. It's old fashioned when I say, or someone says, you know, you shouldn't live together before marriage. You shouldn't cohabitate before marriage. And you can call it old fashioned all you want. I mean, I don't take that as an insult, but. And. And it is, in a sense. And I'll happily admit that it's also just even taking the morality out of it, which we really can't do. It's just. It's a. It's a. Practically speaking, it's a bad strategy, okay? You guys have made no commitment to each other at all. You aren't married. You've exchanged no vows. You're not actually tied to each other. In any way. And yet you live together. You have a place that you share that you call home. I mean, why. If you didn't live together and this happened, then breaking up would be a lot easier. Like, you wouldn't have to ever see her again. You could just break up over the. You could send her a text message and that'd be it. But now you share a place. You have to move out. You're at a motel. You're at a. No, that's what should happen when you're 45 years old and there's an affair. Like, there's an affair and you're married and now you're at a motel. But you are. Well, we didn't get the age. But you're not even married, and you're at a motel now. And the worst part is, even though the woman you're with, who you live with, was all. Was out all night having sex with some other guy, she did not actually have an affair. I mean, it feels like she did, but she didn't. Because you aren't married. She actually has not made any binding promises to you at all. There is no vow being broken. There's no family being betrayed. It was still wrong what she did, obviously. But she didn't violate an oath or break a vow because there wasn't one to break. Which is why you shouldn't be living together, which is why you shouldn't be with someone and dating them for four years to begin with. And you certainly shouldn't be moving in with. That is classic putting the cart before the horse scenario. And also for the record, this is why I've never been on board with the whole celebrity crush thing. You know, even married people, you hear married people sometimes talk about, oh, it's my celebrity crush. And I guess you're supposed to be, like, jealous and possessive if you have a problem with that. But even though in the context of a marriage, like, there's actually nothing wrong with, you should, you know, in. In a sense, possessiveness. You both belong to each other in a very real sense. So there is a possessiveness that should be part of that. And, yeah, I mean, you shouldn't have crushes on other people when you're married. Like, it doesn't matter if they're famous or not, and they weren't married in this case. But the point still stands, because the idea that a crush is okay as long as the person is famous. It's like, I've never understood that. So if your wife comes to you and says, oh, I have a crush, on my celebrity crush is, I don't know who's a typical male celebrity that women would find attractive these days. I don't, I don't even know. Brad. I was gonna say Brad Pitt, but is it still Brad Pitt? It would have been Brad Pitt was 30 years ago. Is there not like, a new Brad Pitt? I guess there isn't. That's a whole other topic. But Timothy Chalamet. Is it him? I don't think so. Who's the new Brad Pitt? Like, 30 years ago, you know, like, the stereotypical attractive male celebrity would have been just Brad Pitt. And now 30 years later, it's still Brad Pitt. That's kind of tells you something about Hollywood. Anyway, okay, so your wife comes up to you and says, my celebrity crush is Brad Pitt. And you're supposed to be okay with that. No, that's emasculating. That's, that's like a betrayal. It really is. And if you think that I'm being ridiculous. Well, what if she came to you and said, you know, my, my crush is my fitness instructor, which your first problem was allowing your wife to have a male fitness instructor. I think affairs happen in that scenario. Like, 97% of the time. I think statistically I don't have the stats in front of me. I think, I think when a, when a married woman has a, a male fitness instructor, 97% of the time they're having an affair. And the other 3%, they're. The affair just hasn't started yet. But anyway, so if she said that, you would be understandably upset. Even if she said, oh, no, I would never do anything. I, I, I just mean it in, like, a silly way. No, that would be a crisis in your marriage. Right? It would be a crisis. But if she says some famous person, it's supposed to be okay. I, I don't get it. Having a crush is, you know, what does that mean? I mean, it's not just like objectively observing the fact that somebody is physically attractive. It's not just that crush means that there's a certain kind of. You're pining, you're pining after this person. There's a certain kind of emotional attachment to this person. That's what a crush is. And as a married person, you should not be pining after anyone who's not your spouse. And actually it is in your control. It's actually very easy to not develop crushes. Like, what are you, 15 anyway? What are you, a grown person with a crush? What even is that? You're a grown married person with a crush especially, it's like, even if anything, it's even worse that it's a celebrity because it's so ridiculous anyway, so that shouldn't happen. But in this case, you guys aren't even married, so, you know, in this case, like, you're not even married. So for her to have romantic attraction to other people is, you know, it's like, it kind of comes with the territory. Like when you're. When you're just dating, you haven't made the commitment yet, so you're. You're. By. The very fact that you're only dating means that you're still keeping your options open. It means you're not making the commitment. You're still sort of in the job interview process. The dating process is supposed to be a job interview, but. But the job interview should not last for 15 years. The job interview should be a short period of time. And then you both say to each other, hey, you got the job. And then you go get married. But while you're in the job interview process, yeah, I mean, you know, you're kind of keeping your eye around for other jobs that might be better. And you can't really be that mad at someone for doing that until the commitment has been made, which it hasn't been made here, so just break up. There you go. That's the happy ending, and we'll leave it there.