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So last week, I did a video on how dating apps are a scam that are destroying, you know, the. The dating pool and making life very difficult for young people, young men in particular, which is obvious to anyone who's actually paying attention. There's no question that the dating. Dating culture in this country is. Is catastrophe. A lot of people responded with their own thoughts, their own dating advice, their responses, and some of the responses were smart, some were stupid, and we're going to read through a collection of both. First up is Melvin Dean, who wrote, as a young man, I decided that I needed to stop depending on dating apps to find a relationship. I have to start walking up to women I find attractive, because at the end of the day, I'd rather embarrass myself than to regret what possibly could have been a genuine connection. Yeah, I think that is the answer in many cases. Not an easy thing to do. I can't really give advice on how to do it. I'm not going to pretend that I can. Approaching random people to strike up conversations has never been my strong suit. Also never been something I've ever really been interested in doing. Unfortunately, I'm married, so I don't, you know, I don't have the same pressure to do that. I'm more likely to be on the receiving end of unsolicited conversations these days than to ever solicit them. But anyway, I mean, the ultimate solution is to revert back to the real world. And I think the huge challenge, additional challenge, is that when you approach somebody in the real world, and I don't say this to dissuade you, but just to recognize the challenges, the challenge is that you're not competing with just the real world. You know, you're talking to a woman who's right in front of you, maybe, but she's also on dating apps. And so you're competing with all that. And this is why it was just better when. When none of that stuff existed. Now, I. When we talked about dating apps, I started that conversation by saying I met my wife online in the early days, in the primitive early days, the caveman days of. Of online dating. So it's maybe seems hypocritical for me to say it's, we'd be better off without any of this stuff. The point is, this is the world we're in now, and so the stuff exists, and if you can utilize it to your benefit, then you should. I did. But if I could snap my fingers and just make it so that none of this stuff exists, I wouldn't snap my fingers and make it so that it never existed because then I never would have got married. But if I could now make it so that it doesn't exist, I think I would. I think it'd be better for, for everybody. One of the things that it does, like when you're. Before the. This has been one of my criticisms of dating apps, especially the way they work now. Because, you know, back 15 years ago, you meet somebody online, I talked about this, like eharmony. You fill out a long questionnaire. You had to put a lot of time and effort into it. And then when you were like going through on the site, you'd go to somebody's profile and you'd see all this information about them and you'd see the picture. What you didn't have back in the, in the dark ages was the app on your phone where you're just swiping and you're making determinations based on nothing but really write the picture. And that's what you have now. And so there are, it's just people are making determinations visually, really quickly, which for women in particular is not natural. Women are not as visual as men, but the dating market has sort of reprogrammed women's brains so that they're making determinations on a potential mate based on a visual, a quick visual examination. Which as I said during that video, it's like if you're a guy and you know you're, you're not strikingly handsome, if you're a, if you're an ugly ogre like me, well, it puts you at a disadvantage because in the past it's like, well, maybe you have that. That's the downside. But before the ad that a dating apps, you're all you're going to do is meet women in the real world. And so then you have a chance to, to compensate for the looks department by. If you're smart, if you're funny, if you got a good personality, whatever, if you're charismatic, you, you. Other things that kind of factor in right away. But when you're making these quick determinations based on the little thing you see on the phone, none of that. You don't get a chance. And there's also just too many choices. There are too many options. There's the paralysis of analysis that I talk about all the time. You go down a grocery store aisle and you want to get mayonnaise and there's 57 different types of mayonnaise and it's, it doesn't help. And now you went into it, you're not confused about mayonnaise. All you know you want mayonnaise, and next thing you know, you're looking at all the options. Like, okay, I thought, I want. I knew I want. I wanted mayonnaise. And now I'm not sure. Like, all these different varieties, I don't know. And it's that same thing that's happening with dating apps. I think everything was just in the real world. Everyone had fewer options, a lot fewer. And which was actually better. Eric says incels pointed this out, like, 10 years ago, but now we're supposed to take it seriously now that Matt Walsh is talking about it. Change the laws or shut up. This problem isn't going away overnight because the companies that run these scams are worth billions. I love these kind of responses. You know, I make a point and somebody goes, oh, so now you're talking about. So. So now. Now we're supposed to take it seriously just because you said it? First of all, I never said that you should only take it seriously because I said it. I didn't. I didn't say that. Did I start that conversation by saying, everyone's talking about dating apps, but nothing that anyone has ever said about it matters? I will tell you the only thing that matters about this. Did I say that ever? Did I even imply it? I think I just said, hey, here are my thoughts on this subject. This is like if I went up to you and told you, hey, it's raining outside, and you went, well, someone else already told me that. But now that you say it, now that. Now that Matt Walsh has said it, I guess I got to go grab my umbrella, huh? It's like, dude, calm down. Calm down. Calm down, son. It's. It's. It's okay. I'm just telling you it's raining. That's it. If you already knew it, then that's fine. If you already knew it, then you don't have to listen. If you already knew it, you didn't have to click on the video and listen to it, because this isn't even me walking room saying it's raining. This is you seeking out and clicking on a video of information that you say you already knew. So why did you listen to it anyway? And I'm not just saying this for the first time. This is my curse. This is my. This is my cross to bear in life. And maybe it's not that bad. People have worse there. It could be worse. But still, this is my frustration, is that I'm constantly accused of saying things for the first time, even though I've been saying them forever, I'm constantly. My curse is that I say something for like, the one billionth time and I get these morons who go, oh, now you're finally saying it. Now you're finally saying this thing. You've said, like, every day for 15 years. I've been talking about this with the dating. I. I've been. I have literally 15 years. I mean, for as long as I've had any kind of platform, I've been making all of these points. And, you know, I actually, this is. This is. If you want a real. The real criticism of me is that I repeat myself too much. That should be the criticism, which I think is kind of inevitable. You have to repeat yourself. There's only so many things to say. It's my job to say things every day. It's like there's only, you know, there's only about. I found about 27 things to say. I've counted. There are exactly 27 things worth saying. And so all you're doing is just reordering those things. You're just rephrasing those things, reframing them. Or maybe I would say there's only 27 opinions a person can have. In general, you get 27 and. And they apply to everything in life. So probably even less than that. It's probably like three opinions. I think everybody has three opinions. You have just like three basic opinions, and you just apply to all the things happening in the world. And so you end up repeating yourself a lot. That's the criticism of me. It's not that I'm constantly changing my view on things. That's. That is the opposite of my prob. That's the. If you. You could not be farther off base. If you're trying to come up with an insult for me, All right, I was. I was someone. I was just looking. I got. There's another rash of this. I don't even know what was in referring. Referring to. But I went on X and my mentions are full of, oh, flip flop, wall. Shout it again. Flip flopping, flip flopping. Now, my problem is I. I refuse to flip flop on anything. Like, I. I'm much more likely to cling to something stubbornly, you know, out of pride than I am to just put my finger in the air and switch over to that viewpoint. Neither one of those things are good. I'm not saying that. But I like. My vice is much more the stubborn, you know, I'm not gonna ever change my mind thing. Anyway. This video is sponsored by ExpressVPN. 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Click the link in description box below, or by going to expressvpn.com Walsh YT Ziff 1066 says online dating is like shopping on the clearance rack. Nothing but XXXL and damaged goods. Yeah, it's like shopping at like, TJ Max. And, you know, that's funny kind of true, but. But also not, you know, because it's actually not just fat, ugly, mentally unstable people on dating apps. I. I think so. When you, if you go on a dating app, you're like, oh, everyone's fat, ugly and mentally unstable on the dating apps. Well, the reality is, I'm afraid, more depressing than that, because the truth is that everybody is on dating apps, right? So if everybody on the dating app appears to be fat, ugly, and. Well, that's just because that's people. That's just because there's so many people that way. You know, it's like when you go to the DMV and it's the most depressing sea of humanity you've ever seen. Everyone. I mean, as everyone knows, the DMV is really depressing, but it's not just because you're there for a long time and the people that work there have no idea what they're doing. It's also just the people you're around. You walk into the dmv, you're like, this is the mo. I'm. I'm, I'm. I want to cry. Like, I Might say, everyone knows how I feel about crying in public. You're never supposed to do it, but. And I think I've listed like six occasions where it's acceptable, acceptable for a man to cry. I, maybe I'd add a seventh going into the dmv. And not because you're frustrated by how long it takes, but just you're looking around, it's like, this is, this, I'm, this is a tragedy. I'm looking at all these people. These people are tragedies. But then it's even more tragic because you realize that. No. Well, the DMV is one of those places where everybody has to go. Matter who you are, everyone has to go to the DMV on it. You know, there, there are occasions where everybody has to go. And so if you look at the DMV and everyone is like hideous and fat and gross. Well, that, that's just, that's what people look like. That's what people look like. All right. Weak ass comments says. You wouldn't believe the amount of conservatives and Trumpers, the amount of concern. Sorry. You wouldn't believe the amount of conservatives and Trumpers don't bother. That women put right on their profiles. The first thing you see is political nonsense. And that's frighteningly common. Wtf? Couldn't believe it. Bailed pretty quickly. I think actually it's one of the upsides of dating apps. Actually, one of the few upsides is that is when they put that, I mean, I would, I would look that as a, that's a, that's a mark in favor of the dating apps is if a woman just puts right in the profile or whatever. Conservatives don't bother. That's good because you get that out of the way right away and then you don't have to waste your time. Right? Because otherwise, if you've got some, if you're dealing with some lib, some feminist. We all know the worst thing a man can do. I mean, the worst thing a man could do is date and then, God forbid, marry a feminist. The worst decision you ever make in your life, ruin your life. And. But if they just put that in the profile, well then, okay, well, you can move on. Because otherwise, you know, you go on a date and like, maybe you find that out on date number five, think how much time you've wasted. Or God forbid, you find that out after you've already walked down the aisle. If you find it out afterwards, that means that you were very unobservant. And that's why I think even if they don't put it in the profile. You go on a date, you should be talking about this stuff on the first date. This is something I've also been saying forever. Talk about it on the first date. And I'm not saying you sit down and the first thing you say is, hey, who'd you vote for? But it. You know, as you. As you're talking and having a conversation, you should find out what their values are, what they believe in. Find it out right away, because it's. If. If. If your values don't align, if they're misaligned at a fundamental level, then just break it off and leave it. Don't waste any time. You sit down the first day, you're having dinner or something, and you get into this conversation, and the woman reveals that she's, you know, a feminist or she is voted for Kamala Harris. Just get up right then and leave. Don't even. Don't even finish the date. There's no reason. Total waste of time. And don't pay because she's a feminist. She would love to pay. Right? She's a strong, independent woman, so she should love that and just get up and leave and move on. All right, let's see. Finally, one more. K.J. scar says, Met my wife on Tinder. Sometimes the diamond in the rough is worth all the digging, even when the game is rigged against you. Well, yeah, this is kind of the lesson of life in general. This is my point about all of this, about the dating in particular, ultimately, which is that it's really hard, it's unfair, it's stacked against you. It shouldn't be like this. All of those things are true. But it would be better if dating apps never existed. I mean, wouldn't be better for me, but it would. But it. It probably be better for society ultimately if dating apps never existed, but they do. And this is just the situation, right? I mean, we read that comment early on from someone's, oh, change the laws or stop talking about change what laws? That's just a way of deflecting, you know, that's a way of deflecting because you don't have an interesting point to make when someone says, oh, just change the laws or stop talking about it. It's like, I. I can't. Well, first of all, I can't change any laws. Actually, I wish I could. I should be able to. I mean, obviously, I should be the emperor of the world. That's. That's my rightful position. But I'm not, sadly. So I can't change any laws at all. And even if I was in a position of power, it's like. It's like, well, what's the law? Ban dating apps? I mean, again, don't tempt me. You can make. You could certainly convince me of that argument, but that's not going to happen. It's just not going to happen. That's not a thing that is going to happen. So this is how it is. This is the way it is. And what else are you going to do? You got to get in there and look for the diamond in the rough. And I don't mean on Tinder necessarily. I just mean in the dating scene, in the dating pool. As messed up as it is, as difficult as it is, as. As I said, as unfair as it is, as rigged as it is, you got to get in there because. What's the other option? The other option is to give up. The other option is to consign yourself to a life of loneliness. To never have a family, to never have children, to never experience your birthright as a man. That cannot be an option. So get in there and make it happen. There we go. Speech over. Goodbye.