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Text me right now. 1-512-580-9305 once again, 512-580-9305 today we're going to talk about how to think more clearly than how your brain is actually lying to you. You know, we like to think and we like to believe that we see the world clearly, that our choices are rational, and that we are making decisions from a rational place that is that is clearly thought out and it's weighed out based off of facts and we choose them wisely. But most of the time that's not even close to true A lot of times your brain is lying to you, your perception is lying to you, and you're making a quick decision based off of every event that's ever happened to you in your life. What we actually see, when we see the world, is a filtered version of the world. Through our past experiences, through our beliefs, through our fears, and through our desires. And I want you to understand this. Your perception is not reality. It is your version of reality that might be hard for some people to understand, but your perception is not absolute reality. It is your version of reality. So our perception isn't reality. It's a filter that distorts reality. Based off of what's happened to us in the past, based off of our past history, based off of fears and limiting beliefs and traumas, based off of what you learned as a child, what you taught, were taught by your parents was right and wrong. What you saw them do, what you saw them not do. And if we don't learn to see through this distortion, it's gonna hold us back from making the right decisions, and we're gonna continue to make bad decisions over and over and over again. And we might mistake emotion for logic. We might mistake personal beliefs for truth. We might mistake our own assumptions for facts. And this is where thinking clearly and having really good judgment comes in. Judgment doesn't sound like the sexiest topic to talk about, but it really is important, because judgment is not just intelligence. It's not just reading books and having book smarts. It's the keen ability to see what is actually in front of you. Not just what you hope is there, but it's the ability to see clearly and the ability to challenge yourself to see things as they are and not as you want them to be or as you want to see them. And the key word is to challenge and challenge yourself, challenge your own perception to see, is this absolute truth, or is this just what I think happened? What is this what I think is going on? If you develop this skill set of judgment and of clear thinking, your life will be so much easier. And so the question comes from this, like, how do we train ourself to see the world clearly? It's kind of a weird question, right? How do I train myself to see clearly? I thought I was seeing the world pretty clearly. Another question is, like, how do I strip away all of my biases, all of my desires, my emotional filters, so that I can actually make good decisions in front of me? Okay, so let's dive into it. The first thing that you need to understand is that your mind does lie to you. Your brain is basically a prediction machine. It takes the past and it throws it into the future and tries to make predictions on what could happen in the future. It's constantly guessing and predicting what's going to happen based off of your past experiences, not necessarily based off of what's actually happening right now. And this will really hold you back if you don't see it this way. And I want you to understand, like for instance, I've had before the business that I have right now, I have had two, quote unquote failed businesses in the past. Now if I were to look before I started the business that I have now, I've been running for almost 10 years and go, well, you know what? I failed at the other two businesses. I'm probably going to fail at this one. I probably wouldn't have started it even if I consciously wanted to start the business. And I was like, I really want to start this business. But I'm holding myself back. I'm self sabotaging, I'm procrastinating. It's usually because my brain is thinking subconsciously those other two businesses failed. You put so much time and energy and money into them, it's probably going to fail in this one as well. So your pain that's happened to you in the past will create your fears in the future. And this is why your brain wants to predict the future for you. Your brain is a protection mechanism. That's what it does for you. And so you might assume that things will turn out badly for you because they have before. Or you might have an opportunity pop up, might be a great opportunity, but you don't trust the opportunity because not because it's actually risky, but because you had something that you failed at once in the past. And so you see this opportunity and go, I'll probably fail at that as well. Let me pass on it. Or maybe you hold on to relationships or ideas or identities that no longer serve you anymore because your brain tells you that it's safer to stick with what's familiar than to go out and to face the unknown. Or you might avoid romantic relationships because your last one broke your heart. Even though you consciously want to find love, like you consciously want to really find someone you can settle down with, that's 5% of your mind, your conscious mind, your subconscious, which is 95% of what's going on, is trying to protect you from that pain again. So it's like, no, no, no, don't trust that guy. No, no, no, don't trust him. Nope, he looks a lot like the last one. Oh, red flag, red flag. And so, even though you really want to consciously get into a relationship, it can hold you back from getting into one. Do you see the problem? You have to understand that what kept you safe in the past can keep you stuck now. You aren't actually seeing real reality. You're seeing a version of reality, your perception that is shaped by your history. So how do you break the cycle? You want to start to try to test everything, like you're a scientist. Now, obviously, there's some scientists in the world that are paid by really big companies to say what those really big companies want them to say. That's not the type of scientist I'm talking about. A good scientist doesn't believe what they want to be true. What they do is they test it and they try to. And this is the key part, they try to disprove their own ideas, not confirm them. They want to try to disprove their ideas. If they can't disprove their own ideas, then their idea must have been true. So that is what you must do. And I think everyone in this world needs to hear this. Just because you think something and you believe something does not make it true. And so you have to think. Like cognitive behavioral therapy, they say test the validity of your thoughts. You need to get better at challenging yourself versus blindly just believing yourself in your thoughts, in your emotions, in your feelings. Most people, I understand, do the opposite. For years, I did the opposite. They only look for the information that confirms what they already believe. That's the thing that's really crazy about this world, and that's what's really causing so many people to go on one side or the other side, is that they're only looking for the information that confirms what they already believe. It's called confirmation bias versus going well, I believe this. Let me have a conversation with someone who believes something completely different. And we will do it all of the time. If you think, for instance, your boss is unfair, then you'll only notice the moments that prove that he's unfair. And you'll ignore all of the times where he's been reasonable or been great. If you believe that you're bad with money, you'll focus on every financial mistake that you've made. You'll ignore all of the times where you handle things well. If you feel like you'll never be successful, you will filter out any evidence of past success. If you don't think that you can trust yourself, you'll filter out all of the moments where you did something that was trustworthy. So if you want to think clear, if you want clearer judgment, you must learn to question everything, even your own thoughts and especially your own beliefs. So next time you're convinced that something's true, just take a step back and just try to play devil's advocate for a second. Try to debate yourself and say, okay, well, if I think that this is true, what evidence would actually prove me wrong? What evidence would prove me wrong? If you can't answer it, you're probably not searching for the truth. You're searching for validation. So turn it into a game. Make it more fun. Have fun with it. Play devil's advocate. All right, this is what I absolutely believe to be true. Let me try to just see if I can prove myself false. What evidence would actually prove me to be wrong? If you do this, you'll start to notice that a lot of the things that you think are truth and you believe in aren't standing on solid ground. And we will be right back. The Mindset mentor is brought to you by Progressive Insurance. Do you find yourself playing the budgeting game? Well, with the name your price tool from Progressive, you can find options that fit your budget and potentially lower your bills. Try it@progressive.com Progressive Casualty Insurance Company and affiliates Price and coverage match Limited by state law not available in all states. This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Hey. 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