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How Overstimulation Is Ruining Your Life
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Feeling tired, numb, or unfocused lately? You're probably not broken—you're just overstimulated. In this episode, I break down how constant noise, notifications, and distractions are draining your energy and numbing your emotions. I’ll show you what’s happening and exactly what to do about it. Looking for daily motivation? Get free inspirational messages straight to your phone, plus exclusive podcast recommendations and updates on my free workshops so you never miss out. It’s simple: just send "Quotes by Rob" to this link here 👉 https://my.community.com/robdial
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Rob Dial
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If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you want to get my free video lesson training on how to brainwash yourself with a morning priming technique so that you can change your thoughts, you can change your beliefs, and you can start to actually speak to yourself the way that you want to. Go ahead and go to MorningPriming.com once again Morning Priming.com and you can download it absolutely free. Today I'm going to be talking to you about how overstimulation is ruining your life. Let's get real for a second. If you feel like maybe you're a little bit drained recently, or maybe your brain's a little bit all over the place, you feel Kind of scattered, or you just kind of feel like you're not really yourself. I want you to know that there's a chance that you're not broken. There's a chance that you're not lazy. There's a chance that you're not unmotivated, or that you're a loser. There's a chance that you could be extremely overstimulated with the current world that we live in. And it's quietly starting to wreck your ability to focus, to connect with other people, and a lot of times to even feel the feelings of joy. And so today, we're going to take a deep dive into what overstimulation actually is. When you look at it neurologically, how it's affecting you and your life, the psychology and the neuroscience behind being overstimulated, how it actually affects your brain, how it affects your body, how it affects your relationships and affects the way that you feel, and then most importantly, what the hell you can do about it so that you can get rid of that overstimulation so that you can go back to feeling yourself and having the vibrance in the energy that you actually truly have. It's just being kind of stolen away from you. So when you look at overstimulation, I was really curious before we dive into it, like, what is overstimulation based off what we're going to be talking about today? Overstimulation is what happens when your brain and your nervous system and your nervous system's a really key part of what we're gonna be talking about today, are exposed to more sensory, emotional, and informational input than they can effectively process in one point in time and then be able to regulate. Because you have to understand, your brain is processing everything that comes in, and it's filtering what it needs to pay attention to, what it does need to pay attention to. And so over time, your body needs to be able to regulate all this. And so it can leave you scattered, it can leave you exhausted because your brain's working a million miles a second behind everything. It can make you feel a little bit emotionally numb. It can make you feel irritable as well. Basically, overstimulation is what happens when your brain takes in more information that it can actually process. And you've got to. You've heard me say this before, but, like, just. Just really think about this. If you think back to your great, great, great, great grandparents, what, 150 years ago, maybe life was completely different. They didn't have phones, they didn't have TVs they didn't have radios, they didn't have cars running, going all over the place, they didn't have airplanes. Like it was just completely different. Our brain has not caught up to adapt to all of the changes that have happened the past 150 years. So you can think about your mind being like this old, old computer you remember, like the green screen computers that you know, that used to have. For those of you guys that are older, like the green screen ones that were very basic. Think of your mind being like one of those. But it's got 150 tabs open, it's got music playing, it's got downloads running in the background, it's got pop ups flashing, limited time offer. That's your brain basically what it's dealing with all of the time. And your brain can't process everything. It's trying to. There's no software update for your brain, there's no hardware update for your brain. What you got is what you got. You know, modern life feels like that. It feels like Non stop notifications, 24, 7 news, constant background noise, whether that's people talking or that's car sounds, whether that's the TV on in the background, whether that's music playing, whether that's people in the background. You're getting dopamine hits from social media, you're getting cortisol from all of the worries that you're thinking about in the future. And your brain's on high alert all day long, every single day. It just was not designed for this. So if you're one of those people who feels like, man, like I just have no energy, I'm exhausted all the time, I'm tired, I'm, I'm a little bit irritable. It might be that your brain needs a freaking break because your brain wasn't built for it, you know, and over the thousands of years that it's evolved, our brain's more used to natural, gradual, slow changes in the environment. Not TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, Reddit, Slack, phone notifications, email inboxes, text messages and DMs and group chats from your friends and Instagram and podcasts and having a to do list that will never be finished, having unfinished tasks, worrying about things coming up in the future, your perfectionism, what people are thinking about you, what they're not thinking about you, your self criticism, the voice that's going on in the back of your head all the time. And then you're in a meeting with your boss. And then at the same time you also see the TV that has breaking news about some crazy thing that just happened and instant drama and constant urgency. It's way too much, man. And so there's tens of thousands of distractions every single day. And I'm not being sarcastic when I actually say tens of thousands. I had to do research of like how many distractions and things are coming into our brain throughout the entire course of the day. And here's what I found, right there's, there's a lot of research on this. Research shows that modern humans are processing way more than we can, like trying to process way more than we can every single day. You know when you look at notifications that somebody receives in a day, at least 65 to around 150 every single day. How many times the average person pick up their phone every single day? Between 96 to 144 times a day. Social media check ins on average 27 times per day. Time spent on screens, whether that's your phone, your computer, your tv on average seven to ten hours a day for most adults. Email sent and received around 121 per day, text messages around 40 per day. So that's hundreds of micro hits of input before you even factor in the environmental noise and the sounds that are happening in the background that your brain's constantly paying attention to and filtering the background chatter, the traffic sounds, the kids that you have, pets that you have to pay attention to, notifications, reminders, alerts, pop ups, clickbait. On average, the average adult gets around 6 to 10,000 ads per day alone. So your brain is just constantly dealing with all this stuff. So I want you just to take a step back and take a deep breath and realize like there is a lot that your brain is trying to process. And so what I like to do is I like to look at what everybody else in the world is doing most of the time. And I like to do the exact opposite. And so when I look at people, most people on their phones and they're distracted all the time, and they're constantly, constantly, constantly being distracted with more and more stimuli. So what I've been doing over the past couple years is removing myself from all of that as much as I possibly can. Deleting a lot of stuff, getting rid of notifications, getting rid of social media if I'm not getting any sort of benefit from it, or at least unfollowing people who I'm not getting benefit from, and only following people that are good for my mindset and good for my brain. And so what does all of us do? Well, it becomes cognitive overload if we don't. So your prefrontal cortex, which is, you know, the part of your brain which is responsible for decision making and for, for your focus and impulse control, actually just gets exhausted through all of this. And so sensory overload does that to your prefrontal cortex. It also causes amygdala activation. Amygdala is where fear and anxiety comes from. It's that part of your brain. So it increases your anxiety, it increases your irritability, it increases your emotional reactivity. Neuroimaging studies actually show that constant digital stimulation reduces the gray matter in your brain, which is areas responsible for self regulation and how to regulate the way that you feel and empathy for other people. And the average worker switches tasks over 300 times a day. And so when you look at it, it's kind of like modern life is a full on attention war zone. And so you need to take a step back from a lot of these things because your brain wasn't designed for all of this stimuli. It's meant for meaningful natural stimuli, not processing a thousand micro signals and dopamine loops and cortisol and task switches every single day. So if you feel fried or foggy or any of that, you're not broken, you're just over processed. And so really that's what I want to talk about today. And I wanted to spend nine minutes telling you this to actually hopefully like, do you remember in Billy Madison where he takes a little, the little kid that's like I can't wait to get to high school and he takes his little chunky cheeks and he shakes his face and he's like, you know, you guys are older, remember this shakes his face is like, don't say that, don't ever say that. Like that's what I hope for. Hopefully this past nine minutes is like shaking you to be like get rid of all of the shit that's constantly distracting yourself all the time because it's making you emotionally numb and giving you decision fatigue and making you irritable and it's reducing your productivity and it's screwing with your sleep and your rest and it's making you dull and, and just over stimulated all of the time. It's making you into just the more of a zombie than you need to be and then it screws with your nervous system. So I'm not trying to scare the out of you, I promise I'm going to give you some tips today. But I am, I am trying to get you to wake up, to understand we need to Take a step back from all this stuff because when you have so much overstimulation, your nervous system ends up having a lot of cortisol that runs through it, which is your body's primary stress hormone. So when your brain's constantly taking in stimuli, there's your, your nervous system, which is your sympathetic nervous system, and then your parasympathetic nervous system. Parasympathetic is the calm, cool, collected rest, relaxation. That's parasympathetic. Sympathetic is fight or flight. And so when you're constantly getting all of this stuff hitting you all the time, it's clicking on your sympathetic nervous system, which is your fight or flight, and it stays on. And there was a study that was done in 2013 that was published in the. I'm gonna try this out. Psychoneuro endocrinology. Pretty good. I think I got it there. That showed that chronic exposure to even low level stressors like constant alerts, noise notifications, all of that can keep cortisol levels elevated throughout the entire day. And so what does that mess with your immune system, Your gut health, your memory, your mood, your focus, your hormone balance, all of that stuff. And we will be right back. Do you say data or data however you say it? It's time to stop overpaying for your monthly data plan with Mint Mobile, ditch overpriced wireless and get three months of premium wireless service from Mint Mobile for 15 bucks a month. All plans come with high speed data or data, your choice, and unlimited talk and text delivered on the nation's largest 5G network. I have two phones. One of my phones, which is my office phone and my company phone is Mint Mobile and has been for years. And I love that I can save so much money over the big brands from Mint Mobile. No matter how you say it, don't overpay for it. 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Like when the dogs are playing in front of him and there's, you know, music going on in the background, he's like, he'll start to, like, get a little bit stressed. You could see sensory overload in adults. We just call it, oh, I'm just, I'm just tired. I just need a little space. But we downplay it more than we should. It's the same neurological shutdown. And so it's really interesting about the whole thing is that overstimulation, when you look at it, it actually mimics the symptoms of depression, anxiety, and adhd. So there's so many people that are just self diagnosing, oh, I have depression, oh, I have anxiety, oh, I have adhd. But in reality, it could just be. There's way more overstimulation, you realize, and the overstimulation actually mimics the feelings and the looks of depression, anxiety, and adhd. You might be just a little bit overstimulated. Right. So that's really what I'm trying to get to you to understand here. So what do we want to do in this case? We want to be able to de. Stimulate sounds pretty good. Without having to, like, move into the middle of the woods and never see anybody or, like, move to a monastery and become a monk or something like that. So, so what do you actually do around this? Here's your. Your nervous system's version of a bubble bath, right? That's basically what this is. The first thing is to start a daily low stimulation ritual. The first thing I'll say more than anything else, and this is something I've said hundreds of times on this podcast, but I haven't said it recently, is when your alarm goes off, turn it off. And then give yourself a certain time that you do not look at your phone. I've noticed of myself that because my phone, my alarm is on my phone. So if I roll over and I end up turning it off and I look at my phone even just to, you know, okay, I'm gonna turn off airplane mode, and I turn it off airplane mode, and boom, I get hit with a text message and immediately start thinking about that thing that. That happened. And so I'll give you. I'll give you a really odd example. Okay. The other day I. I got a text message from somebody, and it was somebody just sending something to me that they thought was. It was a friend of mine that sent something to me they thought was inspiring. And it was Will Smith talking, right? About something. And so I didn't even watch the video. I just saw that, oh, they sent me this inspiring Will Smith video. So I turned my phone. It was a quick, like, hit. I just saw it real quick. And I was like, all right, cool, I'll get back to it. About 20 minutes later, I'm in my meditation and I can't stop thinking about Will Smith. And I'm like, what the hell's going on with me? This doesn't make any sense. And I was like, oh, that's right. I'm thinking about, I'm thinking about the pursuit of happiness. I'm thinking about the, when he played an I am legend or whatever that that movie is. I think about all think about the fact that he, you know, oh my gosh, I wonder what it's like for him now that, you know, a couple of years ago since he smacked Chris Rock. And so there was no other real sensory input that came into my brain. But my brain latched onto this thing. I'm in the middle of a meditation. I'm thinking about all of this stuff around Will Smith because I happen to just bing see a text message come in about some inspiring thing that came in from Will Smith. What I recommend is that when your alarm goes off, give yourself a certain time, whether it's 30 minutes, an hour, even a couple hours, hopefully where you don't look at your phone because you, you can't underestimate how much a quick little thinking of something and seeing something can get stuck in your brain for the rest of the day. And so what I recommend is you have a low stimulation ritual at least one moment in your day that is tech free, that is task free, and that is quiet. It could be, you know, a meditation if you want to. Or you could, you know, be sitting outside watching the sky. In the middle of the day, you have your lunch and you go outside for 10 minutes, you just look at the sky and you just listen to birds chirp. Or in the morning, you can sip your coffee without your phone and you can close your eyes and breathe deeply for 60 seconds. You know, studies show that even 10 minutes of silence reduces stress and improves your cognitive function. Try it out. So low stimulation ritual that you do every single day. The next thing I recommend is this. Try batching your notifications. Okay. The beautiful thing about most phones now is if you have the newest version of them, you could turn them on. Do not disturb. And what's good about do not disturb is no notifications really come in unless it's an emergency. You can set it up that way so you have notification hours. So let's say from like you know, while you're at work, you have your emails and you have all this stuff from 9am to 12 can be like your notification hours. And then you turn them off from 12 until 4:30 so that you can get some deep work done while you're at work and you're not distracted by all the things that are happening. Then from 4:30 to 5 you could turn it back on and see what you missed. In four and a half hours, I promise you, it's probably not that urgent of stuff. And so you use your do not disturb, you have your notification hours, you batch your notifications, you move distracting apps off your home screen. Don't use your phone for the first hour of the day, the last hour of your day. You know, your brain needs kind of the bookends of calm. Give it some space to digest. Another thing that I recommend is to go on a stimulation fast. Try 24 hours with no screens, with no music, with no social media. This is something my wife and I just decided to do this past week, where I'm like, man, it's kind of like they used to have a really good idea. When you look at. When you look at whether it was Saturday for some religions or Sunday for other religions, where it was like, hey, you don't work, you don't do anything else. You just spend time with family. So I'm like, we should have one day where we just have no screens that ever go on. And the other day I was like, I recommended it and it was like 5:00. I was like, let's just not look at any screens until we go to bed tonight. So we just hung out and we just talked and we hung out with the baby and it was great. So I was like, let's do it for 24 hours. And so I recommend having like a stimulation fast. Try it just for 24 hours, one time. And then what I recommend is trying to actually have a day where you do that. Then, you know, if you're single and you live by yourself, well, then it's just your thoughts, a notebook, maybe a walk. You know, you might feel bored. That's a good thing. Once again, as I said, I've said many times this podcast, stop saying that you're bored and start saying that you're resting your brain. You're just resting. It's like a spa. Like a spa day for your brain is what it is in your nervous system. Boredom is a gateway to creativity, to emotional clarity, to getting more focused. It's a good thing. Another thing I'll say is prioritize deep focus over shallow input as well. So, you know, get like deep focus when. So you're. You can do deep work of two hours of just working on one thing and one thing only. Or you can decide that you're going to read a physical book and you're going to just work on that for the next 30 minutes. You can decide, you know, instead of me typing something out, what I'M going to start doing is going to start writing things out. Maybe what you do is writing so you're physically and mentally connected to that piece of paper. You say, I'm going to do one task at a time. I know it's radical, radical to think you could do one task at a time. Right? One task at a time. And I'm going to dedicate the next 30 minutes to doing this thing. So it's like prioritizing deep focus and just doing one thing versus shallow input and having to feel like you have to do a million things. Because I know I've done it before. I'm in the middle of reading and I literally think I need to check my phone. I'm like, I need to. Oh, I need to. Oh, I got this idea, I got to do this thing. It's like, nope, I'm going to do this thing and this thing only. I'm going to get my mind better at focusing. Because deep focus strengthens your prefrontal cortex, which is your decision making part of your brain. And it improves your willpower and decision making when you do this. And so try to get some deep focus time. And then, last thing that I recommend is go out in nature more often. Like trade artificial stimulation for natural rhythms. Sunlight instead of screens and artificial light. Walking out in nature instead of scrolling, silence instead of Spotify. Nature recalibrates your senses. There's many studies have been done on this and I think it's Japan, they call it going. It's called forest bathing, where you actually go out into the forest and just be there because it actually starts to regulate your nervous system, regulates your brain, it calms you down. There's a reason why forest bathing reduces your cortisol and boosts your moods. It's because we are from all of that. Stop thinking you're different than nature. You're from nature. And so the thing I really just want you to understand and hopefully I didn't scare the shit out of you as I was going through this episode. I just wanted to give you the real hard facts is you might not be lazy, you might not be unmotivated, you might just be. You might not be tired, you might just be overstimulated. And so if you've been beating yourself up for being unfocused or tired or unmotivated or emotionally flat. What if it's not just you? What if it's all of the noise? You don't need to do more. You need to do less for a little while. Let your brain and your nervous system. Relax. Let your soul catch up to it. Take a couple deep breaths, you know, start to feel a little bit more grounded, feel a little bit more creative. Start to feel a little bit more like you. And so that's what I recommend. If you're overstimulated, just take a break, give yourself a little bit of a rest and I promise you it'll help you. So that's all I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories. Tag me in it. Where all of the other friends that you have are completely overstimulated and they need to see this. So tag me Robdial Jr R O B D I A L J R and with that, I'm gonna leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission. Make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.