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I heard one time from a spiritual teacher, and he shared this story, and it really hit home for me. It hit home on other episodes. And so I just want to share it with you again. Okay. Imagine that there's a bird. The bird's flying through the air, and he's graceful and he's free, and he's soaring through the clouds. And then one day, he's looking down as he's flying, and he sees this big, beautiful lake. So he comes down from the sky, lands on this lake, and, you know, it's this calm, beautiful lake. And sits there and he's like, man, this is amazing. The burns, like, drawn to the calm, tranquil grace of this. This beautiful lake that it's in, right? And decides, hey, this is. This is pretty amazing. You know what? I'm just gonna stay here for a while. And the bird stays for a while and stays for a little bit longer and stays for a little bit longer, and the bird ends up staying for so long that the bird forgets that he's able to fly. And, you know, he's been resting on the water for such an extended period, he forgets he can fly. And then he starts to actually identify with the lake and think that, I am this water. I am this. This water that's right here. And so he forgets that he could have, you know, pick up his wings and just fly away. And that he used to do that in the past. And this bird that's once is, you know, once was capable of flight and actually still is capable of flight, has basically become a creature of the water. So when the water's calm, it's not really a big deal. He enjoys it. Feels really good. But when the wind picks up, when the water gets choppy, the bird struggles, tries to keep its head above the water, starts to fear that he might drown in some sort of way. And in turn, when it ends up being calm, he starts thinking about, well, what am I going to do the next time? It gets choppy, and it starts to make the bird want to control the state of the water. So even when it's calm, he starts worrying about all of the choppiness that could be coming, hoping that it stays calm all the time, trying to figure out and plan for the next time that it becomes choppy. And so he's ruining a present moment where it's calm and it's beautiful and the sun is out, trying to figure out a way to manipulate the water so that he can make sure that it stays calm forever. And his attempts to manipulate the water are impossible. Basically counterproductive. Cause the more he moves, the more he's going to turn up the water anyways. He cannot control an entire body of water. And so he ends up suffering more and more. Because when it's choppy, he's trying to stay alive. When it's calm, he ends up trying to figure out how to manipulate the water and worrying about when it's not calm. And so the idea of this whole story of the bird, it's a metaphor for the human condition, specifically our struggle to maintain a sense of control over circumstances that either we cannot control outside of ourselves or our internal state and the voice that's inside of our head. See, we as humans often forget, and we're usually not told when we're younger, hey, what if. And go on this journey with me for a second, even if you've never heard this before, your BS meter starts ringing off, right? We forget that we're actually the consciousness that's behind the mind. We're the consciousness that. That's behind the thoughts that we have. We're the observer behind our thoughts. We're kind of like the silent witness that's behind all of our programming. And you might be like, this is kind of weird. What the hell does this mean? Well, let me show you real quick. Okay. I don't want you to move your mouth, but I want you to try something with me, and we'll just see what happens. Okay? I want you in your head. Don't say it out loud. To say the word happiness. We're all gonna do it together. Okay? We're all going to say the word happiness without saying it out loud. We're going to say it in our heads. Ready? The count of three. One, two, three. Okay. Did you do it? Let's try it one more time. Say happiness on three. One, two, three. Okay. Who said that? Think about that for a second. Who said happiness? Okay, now hold on. What's crazy about is not only did you say happiness, did you hear the word happiness at the same time? So who said it and who heard it? See, you said something without saying something. Like you said it without saying it, and you heard it without hearing it. So those thoughts, you are the consciousness that's behind all of that that's going on. And so who are you? Like this. We're gonna get kind of deep today. I want you to think about this. Like, who are you? If I sit down and I ask somebody, I'm like, who are You. And I've done this many times. They'll tell me that they're a wife. They'll tell me their name. They'll tell me their age. I'm like, who are you? Tell me more. Tell me more. Tell me more. I'm a mother. I have a degree from this school. This is my religion. I'm this skin color. I'm from this part of town. Who are you? Who are you? And they keep going. They'd start telling me all of these. The name and the characteristics and the labels that they have, and they've picked up and kind of placed on themselves like badges through, you know, Girl Scout badges throughout their entire life. But who were you when you were born? Were you a wife when you were born? No. Were you 37 when you were born? No. Were you a mother when you were born? No. Did you have degrees when you were born? No. Did you have this religion when you were born? No. That was given to you? Did you have school that you went to when you were born? No. So who were you when you were born? You didn't even have a name when you were born. That was given to you. These are all labels and things that are given to us that we put onto ourselves and say, oh, this is who I am. So just as the bird is no more a creature of the lake, you are more than your programming, than your labels, than your personality, than the circumstances that you find yourself in. You. You're also more, in way more than just your thoughts. However, we tend to dwell in the constructs and the labels and the programs that we have for so long that we identify with them. Oh, I've been a mother for eight years. I have three kids. So this is how I'm supposed to act. That's a construct. Oh, I'm a man, and so I'm supposed to act this way and feel this type of feelings. I'm not supposed to feel my feelings as much? No, that's a construction. You went to this school, you're supposed to act this way. You're a construct. You're this religion. You're supposed to act this way. That's a construct. You think you're all of those things, but you are the thing that is behind all of those labels. And then you have these thoughts, which is the hardest thing to disconnect from because you can say, okay, yeah, you know, my name is Rob Robert. If I'm being, you know, exact. I was given the name Robert when I was born. I can see how I'm not Robert, but it's I can see how I'm not a podcaster and I'm not this and I'm not that truly behind all of it. But what about these thoughts that are going on in my head? Like, isn't that me? If it's coming, if it's in my head, it's gotta be me. Like, aren't my thoughts me? And this is where a lot of suffering comes from, is that people identify with their thoughts. You think that you're your thoughts, so you say that you are. And as a result, you end up feeling like a victim of your mind rather than the consciousness that's behind all of it. Just as the same as the bird. He forgot he's not the water, and he can fly away at any time. And so it's really interesting when you start to dive deep into this idea of you are not your thoughts. And I've spent hours thinking about this. And just really going deep down the rabbit hole is that you realize a thought is just something that's old. A thought is just something that's old, whether it's something that you learned or something that was accidentally programmed into you or something that you just picked up along the way. They're never new in the moment thoughts, they're always from somewhere else. And so anytime that you get caught up in your mind, you need to actually remind yourself that you're free from it, that you're separate from it. And we'll talk about this a little bit more. But, you know, just as the bird, the bird's flying through the air. He lands on a lake. He hangs out for a really long time, he forgets he can fly. So he's there. He's so long, he starts to identify with the lake. The bird forgets he could fly. He's programmed into thinking that he's the water. He's programmed out of his flying just as the same way that he is programmed thinking I am the water. Because he's been it for so long with your mind, you think I am my thoughts. Your mind is the equivalent to the water that the bird is in. When the water's calm, the bird enjoys it. When the water's choppy, the bird struggles, almost drowns. Same with you. When your mind is calm, no big deal. We don't worry about it. But when you're worried, when you're frustrated, when you're angry, when you're sad, when your mind is overthinking and you're stuck in your limiting beliefs and your fears, that's like the water being really choppy. And then it starts like when it's calm, no big deal. When it's choppy, it's a shitstorm, right? And so what do we do? We want to figure out ways to keep the water calm, right? How can I keep this water calm? How can I keep this mind calm? It's always me versus my mind. It's such a battle. It's so hard in here. So the bird tries to keep the water calm. We try to figure out tips and tactics to keep our minds calm. Maybe I can meditate it away. But the bird can't control the water, thinks that it can. Must have some sort of form of control over it. Same thing with you. You want to figure out some sort of way to control your mind. What if you just let your mind be what your mind is and you start disconnecting from it going, ah, look at that thought. That's a crazy thought. And we will be right back. Business owners and shipping managers, Let me ask you something. How confident are you in your shipping process? If you're not using USPS Ground Advantage Service, you might not be as in the know as you could be. Here's the deal. With USPS Ground Advantage Service, staying informed isn't just an option. It's the standard. Imagine this. When your shipment leaves the dock, you know about it, it's in transit. Boom, you know. 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