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The quick body switch to shut down your stress. And then a simple life audit to cut stress out of your life. And if you stick with me to the end, you're going to leave with basically a three step plan that you can run today to reduce all of the stress in your life by at least 50%. So let's dive into it. The first thing that I want to talk about with stress is this is stress itself lives in all of our lives and stress itself is not really a bad thing. But if it is chronic stress and it is living everywhere, what we need to do is figure out how to lower the stress in our body before we do anything else. We need to learn how to reset our, our nervous system. Because if your emotions are high, your logic is low. If you're stressed out, you're not making good decisions. And so I want to share a real quick reset with you of what you want to do in the moment when you realize that you're stressed. You can do this 10 times a day if you want to. It takes like three minutes. Okay. The first thing you're going to want to try to do is do something that's called a progressive unclench. One thing that happens is when you become stressed out, your muscles actually start to tense. You're actually waiting for something to attack you is basically the position that you're in. So what you want to do with this progressive unclench is to relax your jaw, take your tongue off your top of your mouth, relax it for a second, let your shoulders fall, you know, let your hands unclench, let your face unclench. A lot of times people really hold a lot of tension in their face as well. Let your every part of you just start to relax. And you start at the top of your head and you just slowly work your way down to your abs, to your legs. You start noticing that your breath wants to calm down a little bit more. So the first thing you want to do takes maybe 30 seconds, is a progressive unclench. Okay. And what we're trying to do really is, is, is our body is in threat mode and our prefrontal cortex, which is our planning, impulse control, all of that goes offline. And so you're not in a state where you're actually thinking well. And so we're doing this to bring the body down so that the brain can come back Online and you can think, well, okay. The next thing that you're going to want to make sure that you do is breathing. Okay? You want to set your timer for at least three minutes. If you've got nothing else, you have three minutes in your life, right? Set your timer for three minutes. And what you want to do is breathe in. I'm just going to give you a simple one. Some people are like, do this in this amount of seconds, in those amount of seconds. You want to do it this way. Let's keep it as simple as possible because you're stressed out, okay? You don't want to have to think, breathe in as deep as you possibly can through your nose and then keep your mouth shut. And you want to breathe out and hum all of the air out of your lungs. And the reason why you want to do this is, and this is what's really interesting, I didn't realize this about humming until my wife actually started going through and learning about giving birth when she was pregnant with our son. And the natural thing that she would do is she just naturally started humming more and she started realizing that hummingbird made her really relax. So I started doing all this research on humming and what it does for us. And so you, you breathe in through the nose, you breathe out all the way and you, you hum as you breathe out. And so humming on the exhale actually slows and lengthens your breath so that it's longer exhale while vibrating your vagus nerve and your vocal cords and your sinuses. And what this does when you, when you do this is it boosts your parasympathetic nervous system. It's the part of your nervous system that is rest and digest and it signals to your body to tell it that it's safe. And so the deep breath in and the humming out as long as you possibly can for three minutes will kind of reset your entire system. Another thing you can do if you want to just to do a full on reset is to get a big bowl of water at your house, you know, like a big one that you would create, you know, put your salad in, you put cold water in it, you put a whole bunch of ice into it and then, and you dip, you know, you hold your breath and you dip your face in there and you just hold your breath softly. This triggers something that's called your diving reflex. And this also activates your vagus nerve and your heart rate will drop by doing it. There's studies that show that that facial cold exposure plus apnea and apnea is just stopping breathing produce a calming effect for your parasympathetic nervous system. 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What you usually don't realize is that you have been adding small things that stress you out over the past three years or five years or 10 years, and now your day and it's just kind of slowly building up. And now your day is just filled with small stressors and all of that really, really add up. And so stress is cumulative. You have work, you have relationships, you have your home life, you have screens you're in front of. You have other people, you have people that you have to hang out with or people that are old friends that are stressing you out. You have money, you have clutter, you have all of these things. And we have all these little teeny tiny things that are stressing us out. And they might be only like half of a percent of stress and half of a percent of stress, but you have 200 of those things that adds up to 100% stressed out throughout the day. And so what we want to do is lower the total load by doing three things. Number one, we delete what doesn't matter. I promise you this. You have a lot of things in your life and your schedule that don't matter. Moving. So we delete. We move things that matter to better windows of time based off of how much energy we have. Throughout the day, based off of how we feel throughout the day, based off of, you know, this day has a whole lot of stuff going on. Maybe I can move a couple of these things to another day so I'm not so stressed out. So we delete, we move or we soften. Softening the rest of it is so your nervous system can actually win. And so what that might look like is say you have a 60 minute office meeting that's just like you look at it in your schedule and you're like, this meeting, I don't want to do it. Right. That thing right there is a 60 minute. You're like, these people show up, you know, late. They show up not prepared. We've got to wait an extra three or four minutes for each person to be able to find their statistics and what's going on and for them to present to us. And so what you could do to soften something like that is to go, okay, everybody who's going to be showing up to this call, this is not a 60 minute call anymore, it's a 30 minute call. And give them a very detailed plan of exactly what time you need them to show up and exactly what you need them to show up with. And if they do not show up with everything that's needed, tell them you just kick them out of the meeting or whatever it is that you want to do, right? And therefore what you do is you take a 60 minute meeting that stresses you out because a lot of different things and you find out what stresses you out. Now it's a 30 minute meeting and it gets done exactly which you want it to. Boom. You just soften that meeting in your schedule. So you delete, you move, or you soften, okay? And so what you want to do is you want to take out a piece of paper and you want to have five. You actually want to take out five pieces of paper or take your journal out. On one piece of paper, you're going to put home. On the next piece of paper, you're going to put digital. And the next piece of paper you're going to put people. On the next piece of paper, you're going to put money. And on the next piece of paper, you're going to put body or space. And what you want to do is you want to go through and write out as many stressors that you can possibly think about in each of these categories. Okay? As many as you could possibly think about. And so what you want to do is this. So I'll give you an example of what it Will what it will look like, right? So your house, I want you to find as many things that stress you out around the house. It could be, you know, piles of stuff that are on the counters. Maybe it's the mail that's sitting in the corner and then you have the kids papers in one corner and then you have random gear and Amazon boxes that need to be opened and stuff like that. The piles it could be, right? So you could clean all of that in one session or something. You might have the laundry that's, you know, starting to have a huge backlog and even though you know it's there, it's like slowly occupying and it's, you know, it's rent free in your mind all day long. You might have, you know, all of the, the. And you could just crank that out in one laundry night session with the entire family, right? You might have dishes that are almost done, right? Like you put them in the sink, you put some soap on them, you turn the hot water on and you left it, right? You've been soaking that pan forever. You might have like last minute where you're like, oh my God, I gotta create dinner. What's for dinner? Every single night. And you might go, what could make that better? Well, you know, meal prep for the entire week, 90 minutes every single Sunday. Free up so much mental space so you don't have to think about and make decisions and then cook every single day. You might have broken or unfinished like home tasks or fixes that are staring at you like a wobbly shelf or like this drawer's not going in all the way. The light that's kind of flickering sometimes you could go on thumbtack and you can hire a person to fix it and get it all done this weekend, right? So all of the things that are going on around your house that are stressing you out, even the little tiny stressors to the big stressors, make sure you write them all down, okay? Second thing you're going to do is figure out all the stuff digitally that's starting to stress you out. The notification storms, the, the badges, the pings, the banners that are literally everywhere. You might have slack and you're like always on and you feel like you're getting messages every single moment, 11 o' clock at night from people, right? How can you deal with that? You might have an inbox overflow. You might have newsletters and emails from companies that you've never signed up for that you need to unsubscribe with. Like you can go to something like unroll Me. And they'll pull up all of your subscriptions and you can just literally with a click of a button just get rid of 75%, 80% of your subscriptions. You might have the typical app hopping that all of us do. Your you go from your email to Instagram to news to email to Instagram to news and there's like no purpose. You're just kind of going from one app to another. I'm going to slack now. I'm going to go to email. I'm going to slack now. We go to email, right? There might be like late night doom scrolling that you do. There might be too many. Some of you guys have way too many group chats with friends and it's like you just need to turn those things on silent. You might have like calendars, meeting links, all of that scattered across all these different tools. So you're going to go through all of the stuff digitally that stress you out. Then you're going to go through all of the people and things that happen with people that stress you out. So number one, who are the people that stress you out the most and then how can you spend less time with them? Like let's get rid of that stress. There might be like different like obligations where you feel like you have to hang out with certain people. There's you know like one sided friendships where you chase them and then they cancel on you and they cancel on you. Cancel over and over again. You might have like, like ambiguous roles. At work is like a really big thing with a lot of people. Like nobody really owns that thing, but we all kind of own it. It's like who can own that thing? You have, you know, topics with your family that always escalate. You might say I'm done. I'm not talking about this. Don't ever talk about this again around me. I don't want to talk about politics or religion or whatever it might be. You probably have unclear boundaries with a lot of people in your life. Might be co workers, it might be clients, it might be your children, it might be your spouse. You might have like last minute requests that people frame as emergencies because they waited too long. So like figure out all of the stresses that you have with other people. Figure out all of the stressors next with money subscriptions that you forgot about. These like tiny little leaks that turn into guilt and then they turn into, you know, 300 bucks over the course of the year. You might have bills that are just kind of scattered and you're not really. You don't want to look at them, but they're sitting there, but you know they're there. And you know that you owe, but you don't want to look at it. Like, you know, like credit card statements that you're avoiding opening. You might have, like, if you have a roommate or a partner that you now live with, you might have, like, shared expenses that are like. But you have, like, fuzzy rules on, like, do we pay 50, 50? Do I pay all of this? Do I pay 75? Do you. You need to get really clear on what that is. And so those are the money stresses. Go through all of them and see what you have. And then the last one is like your body, what lives in your body and. But also the space that you live in, right? So, like, you might not be getting enough sleep. You might have really inconsistent bedtime. Like, you sit in front of your computer for, you know, late nights or in front of your phone for late nights. You might have like, blood sugar swings because you have coffee and a pastry, and then you have this huge crash or something like that. You have like, no movement breaks because you're just sitting at your computer working all day, just stuck in your chair. You might have, like, really harsh lighting and you have need more natural light. You need to go outside more, you know, so you got to start thinking about all these things. And then what you do is you do. After this full life audit, you do what you need to do. And sure, this is going to take time. It's maybe gonna take like an hour, two hours, but you're gonna delete, and then you're gonna move and you're gonna soften. But if you do this, you can remove like 50% of the stress in your life. And it might take an hour or two hours, but it will make your life so much better by doing this. So that's the audit that you wanna do. And then the last piece that I wanna cover, because obviously I love mindset, is some people listening. Just need to rewrite your story around stress, right? Like everything that. Not everything that stresses you out is actually bad. It might just be your thoughts around that thing. And sometimes the things that stress us out are things that get us out of our comfort zone, like things that we know we need to do. So in those cases, we need to reframe our mindset around those things. A lot of time our brain is just defaulting to our old self, like our old fixed mindset, the way we were conditioned by other people, not the person that we want to be. And we just need to take A step back and look at this thing and be like, okay, going to the gym doesn't actually stress me out. I do want to do it. But every time I think about it, I think about how much energy it's going to take, the fact that I got to drive there, the things I've got other stuff going on in my life, do I have time for it? And it's like, no, I want to do this. So I need to reframe the way that I think about this thing. I want to go to the gym, not I have to go to the gym. So sometimes you just need to take a step back and see this thing and be like, no, I actually want this. This thing is stressing me out. But it's stressing me out because of the way that I'm thinking about it. So what you want to do is you want to write it down and then you ask yourself, what's stressing me out? You write the thing that's stressing you out and then ask yourself, because most people don't go this far, which is just one level deeper, what about it is stressing me out? Like, what about this thing is stressing me out? What future am I implying is going to happen with this thing? Then you ask yourself the question, is there a possibility that I can look at this from a different angle? Like, I know I want to get out of my comfort zone to grow. And so, yeah, I actually do want to do this thing. And so I want to do it and I choose to do it versus I have to do it. And sometimes the thing that's stressing you out is that you're making yourself a victim of things that you actually want to do, but you're defaulting into your old version of yourself. That's like, no, I want to stay the same. I don't want to get out of my comfort zone. And you just need to reframe your story about some of the things that are stressing you out. And so that's a three step process to removing massive amounts of stress in your life. If you love it, that's what I got for you for today's episode. Share it on your Instagram stories. Tag me in it. Robdial Jr R O B D I A L J R and if you love this podcast and you want to learn more about coaching with me, I have programs that go from 12 weeks all the way to 12 months. You can learn more about it if you go to coachwithrob.com, once again, coachwithrob.com. and with that, I'm gonna leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make somebody else's day better. I appreciate you, and I hope that you have an amazing day. Hey, neighbor. Celebrate the holidays with Birch Lane. Our timeless furniture and decor are delivered for free in days, not weeks. 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