The Moth Podcast: Episode Summary Title: Tara Clancy & Susan Kent: StorySLAM Favorites
Host/Author: The Moth
Release Date: July 23, 2013

Introduction

In this episode of The Moth, host Dan Kennedy presents two compelling personal narratives from the StorySLAM series, where storytellers share their life experiences under specific themes. This episode features Tara Clancy and Susan Kent, whose stories delve into themes of personal struggle and transformation. Both stories were originally performed live at Story Slams in New York City, each resonating deeply with audiences through their honesty and emotional depth.

Tara Clancy: "Fall from Grace"
Performed at a New York Story Slam

Tara Clancy opens her narrative with a candid revelation about her relationship with her father, setting the stage for a heartfelt exploration of identity and acceptance.

“I am his fall from grace. That I'm also an atheist, lesbian, drop in the ocean, you know?”
— Tara Clancy [04:02]

Clancy describes her father as a retired New York cop and devout Irish Catholic, highlighting the stark contrasts between their worldviews. When she comes out as gay, her father's initial reaction is one of shock and denial, reflective of his rigid beliefs.

The story takes a turn when her father insists on discussing the matter in person, leading them to Helen, Georgia—a place that symbolizes his attempt to reconcile her identity with his own beliefs.

“We are going to some pray the gay away Jesus camp, you know?”
— Tara Clancy [04:02]

In a poignant moment, they sit together in a motel room, both grappling with their differences. Clancy shares a flashback to their childhood, revealing the complexities of their relationship and her father's internal struggles.

“At that, we broke for dinner across the street at Heidelberg Schnitzel House. We didn’t say very much, but the anger was fading.”
— Tara Clancy [07:57]

The culmination of their conversation showcases a delicate shift from blame to understanding, ultimately finding common ground through shared human experiences.

“At least now we got two things in common. Whiskey and women.”
— Tara Clancy [08:10]

Clancy's story is a testament to the enduring bond between father and daughter, despite profound differences, illustrating the possibility of reconciliation and mutual respect.

Susan Kent: "Extra Mile"
Performed at a New York Story Slam

Susan Kent's narrative transports listeners to a pivotal moment in her life—her unexpected pregnancy at 19—and the ensuing journey of acceptance and resilience.

Kent recounts the urgency and fear she felt when she discovered she was pregnant, leading her to seek immediate medical attention.

“I woke her up to find me standing there in her pink nightgown, covered in blood from my waist down.”
— Susan Kent [03:00]

Her mother's initial disbelief and subsequent rush to the hospital reflect the tension and cultural pressures Kent faced in her Southern upbringing.

Kent's decision to give her baby up for adoption is portrayed with raw honesty, detailing the emotional turmoil and the complexities of making such a life-altering choice at a young age.

“I was 19, I'm in South Georgia. I'm getting hell out of here. Nobody's stopping me.”
— Susan Kent [10:30]

The story delves into Kent's internal conflict and the societal expectations that influenced her decision. She shares the bureaucratic and impersonal process of adoption, highlighting the emotional disconnection she felt.

A particularly moving moment occurs when Kent realizes the humanity of her unborn child, marking the first time she fully connects with the reality of her situation.

“When I read that phrase, baby girl on the paper, it was the first moment that I made the connection to it being a human being...”
— Susan Kent [12:45]

Kent's reflection on her past and her ongoing relationship with her daughter, despite the years of separation, underscores themes of motherhood, loss, and the quest for identity.

“Baby girl turned 22 this past December, and I still have not heard from her, but I feel like it's not my right to look for her...”
— Susan Kent [14:30]

Her story is a profound exploration of personal agency, the lingering impact of past decisions, and the enduring hope that connects her to her daughter.

Conclusion

This episode of The Moth poignantly captures the essence of personal storytelling, allowing Tara Clancy and Susan Kent to share their unique experiences with honesty and vulnerability. Through their narratives, listeners are invited to reflect on themes of identity, family dynamics, and the profound choices that shape our lives. Both stories exemplify the power of storytelling to bridge gaps, foster understanding, and celebrate the resilience of the human spirit.

Notable Quotes with Timestamps

• “I am his fall from grace. That I'm also an atheist, lesbian, drop in the ocean, you know?” — Tara Clancy [04:02]
• “We are going to some pray the gay away Jesus camp, you know?” — Tara Clancy [04:02]
• “At least now we got two things in common. Whiskey and women.” — Tara Clancy [08:10]
• “I woke her up to find me standing there in her pink nightgown, covered in blood from my waist down.” — Susan Kent [03:00]
• “I was 19, I'm in South Georgia. I'm getting hell out of here. Nobody's stopping me.” — Susan Kent [10:30]
• “When I read that phrase, baby girl on the paper, it was the first moment that I made the connection to it being a human being...” — Susan Kent [12:45]
• “Baby girl turned 22 this past December, and I still have not heard from her, but I feel like it's not my right to look for her...” — Susan Kent [14:30]

About the Storytellers

• Tara Clancy is a writer whose work has appeared in the New York Times and The Rumpus. She resides in New York with her wife and two sons and is working on a memoir described as a "lesbian Annie Hall." More about Tara can be found at taraclancy.com.

• Susan Kent is a writer and storyteller, co-hosting the monthly storytelling show Tell It Brooklyn. She frequently shares insights about her Deep South upbringing on southerndiscomforts.com. Susan is currently writing a memoir titled Manifestation Works, poised to be a significant success.

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