Podcast Summary: The Nourished Nervous System
Episode: Creating Your Life on Purpose with Elysia Skye
Host: Kristen Timchak
Guest: Elysia Skye
Date: April 10, 2025
Main Theme & Purpose
This episode explores how to intentionally create a meaningful, resilient life by harnessing intuition, somatic practices, and mindful self-inquiry. Kristen Timchak interviews Elysia Skye, an intuitive life and business coach, motivational speaker, and creator of "The Brilliance Method." Together, they discuss overcoming self-doubt, tuning into intuition, navigating self-worth in spiritual work, and actionable daily practices for nervous system health. The episode offers practical perspectives for anyone—whether a business owner, healer, or a parent—seeking clarity, courage, and self-trust.
Key Discussion Points and Insights
1. Elysia’s Journey & The Power of Intuition
[02:18–07:10]
- Elysia shares her path from acting and video production in Hollywood to mindfulness facilitation and intuitive business coaching.
- All her career phases taught her to be present, which naturally connected to mindfulness practices.
- Intuition played a life-saving role for Elysia:
- At 24, she sensed (in the shower, during a stressful moment) that she had breast cancer despite reassurances it was likely a cyst.
- Ignoring both her boyfriend and her trusted doctor’s initial advice to wait, she insisted on getting a mammogram and biopsy.
- The outcome: a stage three breast cancer diagnosis that required immediate treatment. Her insistence “saved my life.”
- Quote:
“If you feel something so deeply where you just feel it in your spirit and your being and your bones, please listen. Just check. Just find out. It could save your life.” – Elysia [06:40]
2. Deciphering Intuition vs. Fear
[07:10–11:25]
- Common struggle: “Is this my intuition, or just fear?”
- Elysia offers a somatic approach:
- Where do you feel the answer? If it’s heart/gut: likely intuition; if head/shoulders/jaw: likely fear/story.
- Practical exercise: “Truth or a Lie”
- Test a true vs. false statement in your body (e.g., what time is it?). Body might tense around a lie, relax around truth.
- Intuitive knowing often feels like a calm, “tender knowing”—even if the truth is hard.
- Quote:
“There is a settling, there’s a calm, there’s a peace. There’s just a knowing, right? … Even if it’s something you don’t want to hear.” – Elysia [09:54]
- Elysia offers a somatic approach:
3. Challenges for Spiritual Business Owners
[11:25–18:30]
- The main obstacle: themselves.
- Tendency toward self-judgment and undercharging, fear of being judged for promoting their work.
- Paradox: Many helpers/healers hesitate to take up space and “shine.”
- Societal/ancestral beliefs about charging for healing work still influence many, resulting in guilt or confusion around self-worth.
- Elysia’s practical advice on pricing: Incrementally increase to just outside your comfort zone—your intuition will signal what feels aligned.
- Quote:
“You are not a nun living in a convent for free… Money is how we exchange.” – Elysia [14:21]
“At the end of the day, you have to rest your head on your own pillow and go, what do I think of me?” – Elysia [16:56]
4. Instantly Accessing Presence & Calming the Nervous System
[18:41–23:45]
- When stressed or anxious, drop into your body via sensation—choose a focal point (e.g., hands, skin between toes, headphones).
- Small body-based grounding practices:
- Rub your hands together, focus on the tingling for 20–30 seconds.
- Feel your accessories or clothing—anything that draws you into sensation.
- Multitasking “is total bullshit”—single focus brings more calm and excellence.
- Quote:
> “If you forget to just breathe, tune into your hands, tune into your feet… Whatever it is, I love that.” – Elysia [23:37]
5. Mantras and Questions for People Who Worry
[23:54–28:13]
- Use grounding mantras:
- “In this moment, I am safe.”
- Repeat it as needed to anchor your nervous system.
- Give yourself permission to slow down and pause before reacting.
- Two key questions for any worry spiral:
- Is what I’m worried about really true?
- Is this mine? (How much of this is actually my worry vs. someone else’s energy or projection?)
- Quote:
> “Since I’m safe, can I give myself permission to slow down for a second?” – Elysia [25:33]
6. On Being a Lighthouse, not a Lifesaver
[30:02–32:23]
- Powerful metaphor: Empaths and helpers should strive to be the “lighthouse,” not the “lifesaver” (as in lifebuoy).
- Trying to save/fix everyone drains and entangles you in others’ chaos.
- The lighthouse stands strong, simply shining the way, and encourages others to rise alongside.
- Quote:
“We want to be the lighthouse, not the lifesaver… When we are a lifesaver, we are suffocating with the person… But as the lighthouse, we stand unwavering, with a beacon of light…the job is to be the lighthouse, not the lifesaver.” – Elysia [31:09]
7. Actionable Daily Practice
[32:37–35:48]
- Each morning, Elysia writes in her journal:
- “What does my soul need to hear today?”
- Let the answer flow honestly, without ego, for a few minutes.
- It’s a reliable, private way to access guidance—and over time, watching the advice repeat shows its value.
- Quote:
“When we remove our ego from participating…we just invite spirit in to say, what does my soul need to hear today? It might be the simplest message…it will do you a world of good.” – Elysia [34:07]
8. Compassionate, Low-Pressure Meditation
[35:58–37:11]
- Redefining meditation: It’s not about stopping thoughts, but about dropping judgment for whatever happens.
- Even daydreaming through a timer can be restorative.
- 3-minute sessions are plenty—tiny steps matter.
- Give yourself “baby steps” and gentle opportunities to succeed.
- Quote:
“The idea in meditation is not to stop thinking. It’s to stop judging yourself for the experience you just had.” – Elysia [36:00]
9. Implement What You Learn
[37:11–37:54]
- Consuming workshops, podcasts, and courses is wonderful, but real change comes with implementation.
- Go all in on yourself—experiment and apply even one thing you learn.
- Quote:
“It only goes so far without implementation. Try it, do it, go all in on yourself. It’s worth it.” – Elysia [37:36]
10. The Brilliance Method
[38:01–39:42]
- Elysia’s signature method helps people “create your life on purpose.”
- Born from her reflections on surviving cancer, building businesses, and self-inquiry, it’s a step-by-step program emphasizing intuition, clarity, aligned action, and honest storytelling (successes and failures).
- Podcast and course are available as resources.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- “My intuition has my back, and this is something I should take seriously.” – Elysia [06:56]
- “Our body is connected to our truth. And when you practice it…you know when it’s an intuitive thought and how it feels like peace in your heart, even if it’s something you don’t want to hear.” – Elysia [09:54]
- “At the end of the day, you have to rest your head on your own pillow and go, what do I think of me?” – Elysia [16:56]
- “Multitasking is a myth. It’s total bullshit. We are not a computer.” – Elysia [19:40]
- “Be the lighthouse, not the lifesaver.” – Elysia [31:09]
- “What does my soul need to hear today?” – Elysia [32:54]
- “The idea in meditation is not to stop thinking. It’s to stop judging yourself for the experience that you just had.” – Elysia [36:00]
- “Implement. Try it. Do it. Go all in on yourself. It’s worth it.” – Elysia [37:43]
Timestamps for Key Segments
- Elysia’s intuition + cancer story: [03:41–07:10]
- Intuition vs. fear—somatic cues: [07:22–11:25]
- Challenges for spiritual business owners, self-worth in pricing: [11:25–18:30]
- Grounding presence in daily life: [18:41–23:45]
- Dealing with worry—mantras/questions: [23:54–28:13]
- “Be the lighthouse” metaphor: [30:02–32:23]
- Journaling practice—“What does my soul need to hear today?” [32:37–35:48]
- Gentle, accessible meditation tips: [35:58–37:11]
- Brilliance Method overview: [38:01–39:42]
Action Steps (from the Guest)
- Daily Self-Inquiry: Write “What does my soul need to hear today?” and allow yourself to write honestly for a few minutes.
- Quick Grounding: Pick a body part or sensation to focus on in stressful moments.
- Anchor Safety: Repeat “In this moment, I am safe” to calm the mind and body.
- Gentle Meditation: Drop judgment—set a short timer to simply sit with yourself, even if thoughts wander.
- Incremental Pricing for Business Owners: Charge just outside your comfort zone as a form of “aligned action.”
Final Takeaway
“Be the lighthouse, not the lifesaver.” Use practical intuition, compassionate truth-telling, and gentle body-based tools to navigate stress, purpose, and self-trust—so you can create your life on purpose, and encourage others to do the same.