Andrew Jenkins, the Traitors star, joins James Smith for a raw conversation about resilience, identity, and rebuilding a life after everything is taken away. At 21, Andrew was pronounced dead at the scene of a catastrophic car accident, lost half his skull and over half his blood, and was told he'd never walk, talk, or recognise anyone again. He walked out of that hospital and then spent 15 years suffering in silence behind a good body, a nice house, and a successful banking career.

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He explains:

◼️ Why failure is how you learn and why cotton-wool parenting is failing kids

◼️ How he attached his identity and his father's love to a rugby ball

◼️ Why the people with the biggest smiles are often struggling the most

◼️ How to get to the root cause instead of papering over the cracks

◼️ Why talking doesn't make you weak it makes you stronger

Chapters:

00:00 The Hidden Cost of Success

01:13 First Impressions from The Traitors

01:50 The Real Problem With Resilience

02:37 Why Business Owners Are Terrified to Fail

03:22 No More First, Second or Third at School

04:29 The Coach Who Told Him the Brutal Truth

06:43 The Dream of Playing Rugby for Wales

06:54 Attaching His Dad's Love to Rugby

08:08 James's Rugby Days and Welsh "Supplements"

09:14 The Catastrophic Car Accident

11:02 Told He'd Never Walk Again

11:56 "I Guarantee I'll Walk Out of Here"

12:40 Brain Injury, CTE and Rugby

13:37 The Other Four People in the Car

14:38 Living With the Trauma

15:52 Great on the Outside, Hating Himself Inside

16:25 Losing His Identity and His Dad

18:39 How One Concussion Can Change a Person

19:30 His Son's Concussions and a Parent's Fear

20:45 Finding Another Outlet for Competition

23:12 Sport, Business and Meritocracy

24:11 Climbing the Wrong Ladder

25:36 Does More Money Make It Worse?

28:01 Why One Bad Day Can Wreck the Privileged

29:26 Growing Up in the Graveyard of Ambition

30:43 James Being Locked Out of Australia

32:35 Happiness Is an Internal Job

35:57 Happiness vs Pleasure and the Hedonic Treadmill

37:31 Why Every Goal Feels Empty

38:59 Talking Yourself Through Your Emotions

40:08 Root Cause Analysis for Mental Health

42:02 The Chimp Paradox and Self-Awareness

42:58 Environment vs Brain Chemistry

43:54 Menopause, Women and Suicide

44:26 TRT, Testosterone and Low T

47:24 Crashing Your Estrogen — The Male Menopause

48:38 James's Own Low Testosterone Story

49:58 Talking to His Son About Drugs

52:36 The Four Ways He Measured Masculinity

53:35 Telling His Parents the Truth

55:08 Being the Responsible One

55:55 Why We Should Educate Kids Honestly About Drugs

57:39 The Truth About Ketamine

58:26 Alcohol vs Everything Else

1:01:54 Psychedelics as Mental Health Treatment

1:03:23 Amsterdam After His Mother Passed

1:04:52 LSD in the Park and a Friend's Breakthrough

1:05:42 Acid at a Wedding

1:07:35 Closing Advice: Believe in Yourself

1:09:03 Creating a Second Path

1:10:14 Surround Yourself With the Right People

1:11:00 Breaking Stigmas — Talking Makes You Stronger

1:12:36 Meeting the Man Who Saved His Life

1:13:07 Where to Find Andrew

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