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Gemma
Before we get started, this episode of the podcast does contain references and discussions of child abuse. If this is a sensitive topic for you, please reflect on whether you are ready to listen to this episode.
Ryan
If you don't feel ready, it will still be here in a week, a month, a year, whenever.
Gemma
It's a better time to listen. Take care of yourselves and I'm sending you love and healing.
Ryan
Hello everybody.
Gemma
Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to the podcast. New listeners, old listeners, wherever you are in the world. It is so lovely, so great to have you here. Back for another episode as we of course break down the psychology of our 20s this week.
Ryan
When I sat down at my desk and I was deciding what to talk about this week, what did I want to discuss?
Gemma
I made the decision to do something a little bit fun, a little bit different. I wanted to do an episode that you might not think has anything to do with psychology.
Ryan
You know, I feel like we've done quite a few serious, emotional, very in depth, somewhat scientific episodes as of late, and I wanted to kind of do.
Gemma
Something a bit more fun. One topic that kept floating to the surface for me was tattoos. Why do we get them not just.
Ryan
In our 20s, but at any stage? How important are they to our identity?
Gemma
Which tattoos do we end up regretting?
Ryan
Which ones do we not end up regretting? Basically, I want to talk about the psychology of tattoos and that, my friends.
Gemma
Is what we are going to do today.
Ryan
I have been endlessly fascinated by this.
Gemma
Topic for some time. As someone with tattoos, I have never.
Ryan
Actually considered why I got them. Why was I called to literally get Something permanently put on my body after.
Gemma
When I had just turned 18, why.
Ryan
Did I decide on specific designs? Why did I decide on what to get?
Gemma
What was the motivation? And in thinking about my own intentions.
Ryan
With my tattoos, I uncovered so much.
Gemma
Research that I did not even know was out there. I also talked to some of my friends.
Ryan
I am so lucky to have some incredible friends in my life who are.
Gemma
Tattoo artists and who make a living off of permanent art on somebody else's body.
Ryan
Like there is no other type of art like it.
Gemma
And I spoke to them and I.
Ryan
Was like, can you tell me what you hear from people who are getting tattoos? Are you seeing a specific kind of person get a specific kind of tattoo? Do people ever come back and say they regret it? Like, tell me about the emotional experience you have with a client when you are putting something on their body. And it has just been so fascinating talking to people about what kind of.
Gemma
Feels like quite an innocuous subject. I also found this interesting piece of research saying that the majority of people who have tattoos got their first one in their 20s. Now, you may hear that and think that, Gemma, that makes sense, right? Depending on where you live, most people.
Ryan
Can'T get tattoos before they turn 18. And even then, you probably don't have.
Gemma
The money to get the tattoos that.
Ryan
You want until you're in your 20s. It feels like the time a lot of people are doing it, but it.
Gemma
Also comes down to the fact that this decade is when we are in.
Ryan
Peak identity formation season.
Gemma
We've had our teen years to really.
Ryan
Explore, but it's our 20s where we are really trying to find the shoe or the outfit or the Persona that fits.
Gemma
We are trying to find our space.
Ryan
We are really starting to feel grounded.
Gemma
In who we are.
Ryan
We're kind of exploring different facets of our identity. And sometimes that calls for expression.
Gemma
It calls for something permanent to represent.
Ryan
Who we are and what we're going through. That is where tattoos come in. And I think of tattoos kind of.
Gemma
As like a testimony to the age.
Ryan
You are when you get them.
Gemma
And maybe in 10, 20 years time.
Ryan
You'Ll look at it and think, what was I thinking?
Gemma
Like, what does this even mean? But maybe it's also, you know, an.
Ryan
Important rite of passage to some people.
Gemma
It brings a sense of certainty. All right, want to spoil the entire episode before we even get into it?
Ryan
But really what we are going to do today is just take a big bite into all the fascinating research to.
Gemma
Do with body modification, tattooing, even things.
Ryan
Like regret, as well as Do a.
Gemma
Brief kind of dive into some of.
Ryan
The history as well, because this topic.
Gemma
Has so many dimensions to it. Without further ado, my lovely listeners, let us get into the psychology of tattoos.
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Foreign.
Gemma
Let'S talk briefly about the history of tattoos because I feel like the change in attitudes that we've experienced just.
Ryan
In the last 50 years is really.
Gemma
Quite striking and worth investigating. Now, I always get in trouble when I talk about history on this podcast because there are some very smart people out there who know a lot more.
Ryan
About very specific topics than me and.
Gemma
Very graciously correct me when I'm wrong.
Ryan
But I really did a deep dive into this one. I used what I think is like the mother of all guides, the Smithsonian's Worldwide History of Tattoos, to really go in deep.
Gemma
So I hope that you are all prepared for a bit of a factual start to this episode. Some people will incorrectly assume or tell you that tattoos first emerged in the 1800s.
Ryan
That cannot be further from the truth.
Gemma
Humans have been marking their skin in ritualistic and important ways for literally thousands of years around the world across different cultures.
Ryan
Tattoos are really, really significant. I think about, you know, the Greeks, they used to use tattoos to declare love.
Gemma
Indigenous Polynesians used to use tattoos to tell personal stories. We see them in ancient Serbian nomads, in native South American. Tattoos have this real core place in the human story. How we express ourselves, how we signify.
Ryan
Status, religious beliefs, even as just purely a form of decoration. So I think what people generally used to believe is that it was the.
Gemma
Egyptians who were like these so called inventors of inking skin. And they used to use different kinds of pigments or ground up insects, and.
Ryan
They would insert the, you know, wet pigment into the skin using a piece.
Gemma
Of bronze or like a sharp stick. There's also evidence of a very famous mummy. It's called Otzi the Iceman. If you're a history buff, you'll know this mummy quite well. That individual is almost 6,000 years old. And when they found this mummified person, he had tattoos.
Ryan
Six thousand years ago, people were already adorning their skin. Now that is really the beginning of tattoos as we know it.
Gemma
Let's now go forward about, you know, 5,700 years, 300 years ago. During this time, specifically in Western cultures, something changed when it came to our attitudes towards tattoos. They used to be very culturally, maybe religiously significant. And then they started being considered a.
Ryan
Sign of being a criminal or a deviant.
Gemma
They're associated with gangs, with behaviors that.
Ryan
Society doesn't approve of.
Gemma
And as such, they're banned in some, in some spaces, actually.
Ryan
I remember visiting Japan last year and.
Gemma
Not being able to enter the onsens.
Ryan
Or the hot baths because I had tattoos.
Gemma
So it's still relevant in some cultures. But we can link a lot of.
Ryan
This stigma back to a specific group.
Gemma
Of Christian missionaries who did a really great job at convincing people back then.
Ryan
That tattoos would disfigure the sacred vessel.
Gemma
Given to us by God.
Ryan
And consequently, they were banned.
Gemma
They were banned in Christianity. And as Christianity became more widespread, that same belief was impressed upon different cultures.
Ryan
Some of whom did have a historical, I don't know, historical attachment to tattooing.
Gemma
Of course, we know that did not stop people from doing it, but it did bring about a stigma that if you got tattoos, you were obviously not a God fearing individual and therefore you were probably up to no good.
Ryan
This is how they really became associated with being, you know, a bit of.
Gemma
A rebel, and they became associated with criminality and counterculture. But around like, like the 1940s, specifically.
Ryan
In America, there was a revival of.
Gemma
Tattooing in Western cultures.
Ryan
And slowly more and more people knew someone with a tattoo.
Gemma
They knew a relative, they knew someone in the army. Then, you know, they kind of thought about getting one of their own.
Ryan
They have kids with tattoos. So nowadays there's some estimates that between 30 to 48% of people in the.
Gemma
Countries surveyed, so countries like Canada, America, Germany and Australia, those were the countries included in these studies.
Ryan
30 to 48% of people in those countries have tattoos.
Gemma
Now, if you're in your 20s, the.
Ryan
Likelihood that you have a tattoo is, is increased. It's around 38 to 52%. So that's showing that, like, over time, generationally, we have become a lot more.
Gemma
Accepting and we are a lot more.
Ryan
Normal about this idea. I remember before I got my first tattoo, I was still had this, like.
Gemma
Fear of not being able to find.
Ryan
A job, specifically, like, if it was visible. But nowadays, like, the stigma has definitely lessened.
Gemma
So there's your little history lesson for the day.
Ryan
I know this is a psychology podcast. I will not dwell on it for long, but I do think it's important.
Gemma
To cover because that attitudinal change does play into the psychology behind why we.
Ryan
May be drawn to get a tattoo.
Gemma
All right, let's talk about that question now. Why, why do we feel compelled to put something permanent on our skin?
Ryan
So when it comes down to it.
Gemma
When you're sitting in that tattoo chair, when you're waiting for the needle to go in, you are probably in that position because of one of four reasons. The first is that you're looking to represent something of personal emotional significance on your body. This is a way of telling your personal story and your personal beliefs and maybe reaffirming to yourself what you care about, what's important to you.
Ryan
Is it family? Is it religion?
Gemma
Is it a specific value system? One of the largest studies ever done on the psychology of tattoos was conducted in South Africa with university students between 19 and 35. Now, some of them had tattoos.
Ryan
Some of them were considering it. Some of them were just like, absolutely not at all.
Gemma
And the researchers said, explain your reasoning.
Ryan
And then they thematically grouped the responses.
Gemma
Now, amongst people who had a tattoo or wanted a tattoo, 25% of them.
Ryan
Said, the reason I would want to.
Gemma
Do it is because this thing has a personal meaning.
Ryan
It marks a significant experience or struggle for me. So some of the reasons given were, I got a tattoo to honor my.
Gemma
Mother, to honor my siblings, because it.
Ryan
Represents my life philosophy, because this really.
Gemma
Presents what I was going through at.
Ryan
A certain time in my life, and.
Gemma
I want to remember it.
Ryan
This idea is one I actually really want to grab onto for a second.
Gemma
And it's the idea that tattoos can bring about a sense of permanence. They can really anchor us to a specific time and our identity and our feelings and what we were going through in that moment. It's kind of like if I put this on my body, this experience will.
Ryan
Always be part of me. I won't forget.
Gemma
I won't forget that loved one.
Ryan
I won't forget my.
Gemma
How capable I was and how courageous.
Ryan
I was to get through an experience.
Gemma
I'll never forget that. This is how I see life.
Ryan
This is how I choose to live it.
Gemma
So if our body is just a vessel for our soul, you know, why.
Ryan
Not decorate it it in the manner.
Gemma
Of what is important to you?
Ryan
I find this reason, this reasoning, almost.
Gemma
Using your body like a journal, in some ways quite compelling.
Ryan
I have tattoos from specific periods in.
Gemma
My life, and when I think about.
Ryan
Them, I can exactly remember what I.
Gemma
Was going through that made me believe that this thing was important to get.
Ryan
One in particular, and I have admitted this to very, very few people, is a breakup tattoo. I went through this, like, breakup when I was 18, and it was really awful. And I don't know, it was just. It was shrouded in a lot of. I don't know, it was complex.
Gemma
I'll just say it was complex.
Ryan
And being my first, like, big heartbreak.
Gemma
It taught me a lot. And I remember having this resounding sense of like, independence. Like, no matter what, you need to be independent. You need to be able to rely on yourself. You cannot get attached to any one person.
Ryan
And so I got this like, tattoo that represented that, and now I have.
Gemma
A more balanced perspective.
Ryan
But when I look at that tattoo in the mirror, sometimes I can exactly remember where I was when I got it. And I don't just mean physically where I was, but emotionally and mentally as well. Same for, like my 22 tattoo. You know, I turned 22 on the 22nd of the 2nd. 2022. That felt very significant to me. It felt very aligned. It felt like it was something that needed to be held on to. And, you know, actually, quite frankly, like, my 22nd year was an amazing year of my life. Like, I quit my job, I met my boyfriend.
Gemma
I finally felt happy in the city I was in.
Ryan
I had all these opportunities, but. But, you know, I do still sometimes look at it and be like, why did you have to get that?
Gemma
Why?
Ryan
Why did you have to get that? Because you're not 22 anymore. But I think we'll talk about regret a little bit later. The biggest reason for me in that moment was the emotional significance of where I was. And for other people, that's really important as well. It really comes down to self identity.
Gemma
And our desire to hold onto the feelings and encounters that have shaped us.
Ryan
Perhaps even using our body as like.
Gemma
A way to communicate who we are.
Ryan
And what we've experienced.
Gemma
I think about Harry Potter tattoos as a perfect example of this or any kind of fandom or religious tattoo. These are called group identification tattoos.
Ryan
You know, you put something on your body so that if someone else saw.
Gemma
It, they would know maybe implicitly what kind of person you are. Or if they were someone who was interested in the same things, they could be like, like, oh, friend, you know, I know who you are. We have this thing in common, even.
Ryan
Though we've never met.
Gemma
It's like this form of communication or recognition. Belonging. It's a form of belonging. Obviously, that can also take a terrible.
Ryan
Turn if people are using hate symbols as a way to identify a group.
Gemma
To which they belong.
Ryan
Like, that's this. That's this philosophy taken to a very negative, dark extreme.
Gemma
But it is still part of some.
Ryan
People'S motivations for getting tattoos.
Gemma
The final value based reason for getting a tattoo can be for cultural reasons.
Ryan
As we've already explained, there are so.
Gemma
Many cultures with an amazing history of tattooing.
Ryan
I think about our New Zealand and.
Gemma
Maori neighbors here In Australia who get.
Ryan
I'm going to try and pronounce this right.
Gemma
Tomoko, which is traditional Mori. Tattoos that really symbolize cultural pride, history story. They can mark like a significant occasion.
Ryan
Like a marriage or a graduation. Side note, I need you to look.
Gemma
Up how people get these tattoos because.
Ryan
When I first saw that process, I genuinely was like, wow, these are the toughest people on the planet. But yes, that is a really big part of what calls people to have.
Gemma
Something permanent on their skin. Let's talk about the second reason we.
Ryan
Get tattoos and that is because it's.
Gemma
Just an appealing form of art. It's an extension of our identity through decoration.
Ryan
Now the first reason was very deep. It's very identity based.
Gemma
This one is less deep. Tattoos are pretty. We are just a canvas. Our body is made to be adorned. Simple as that.
Ryan
That your tattoos don't need a specific meaning.
Gemma
In a recent episode actually a guest was telling me about a friend of.
Ryan
Hers who gets random tattoos whenever she feels like it. You know, she's I think in her.
Gemma
50S and she'll go into a tattoo parlor on a Saturday and just say, go for it.
Ryan
Decorate me. You know, if she sees a cool.
Gemma
Cartoon, a word she loves, an image, a pattern, she just does it.
Ryan
I think that is a beautiful way.
Gemma
To think about our body and to.
Ryan
Think about, you know, its permanence or lack of permanence in this world.
Gemma
Something I do always struggle with when it comes to this though, or I.
Ryan
Debate with myself when it comes to.
Gemma
Should I get a specific tattoo? Should I get a specific design? Is do I just think this is.
Ryan
Cute because it's a trending design? Is this just the same as a.
Gemma
Viral sweater or a viral lip balm.
Ryan
But is going to be on my body forever? That's something I consider a lot. If tattoos are self expression, why is.
Gemma
It that a lot of us end.
Ryan
Up getting similar tattoos? Like some examples I can think of the love heart tattoos everyone was getting on their fingers like back in like.
Gemma
2015, 2016, infinity tattoos.
Ryan
Now it's like micro tattoos, cowboy tattoos, which I think are really, really cute.
Gemma
That lion tattoo that everyone used to.
Ryan
Get on their finger. None of these are inherently bad tattoos.
Gemma
But it's interesting that a lot of us got them at the same time.
Ryan
And I think what it reflects is like a shared aesthetic appreciation, shared cultural trends, community, identity, of course. And you know, the Internet is obviously.
Gemma
Some parts of the Internet are a community. So we all kind of feel excited.
Ryan
By the same things.
Gemma
We end up finding beauty in the Same things. I think just like art in general has different, different seasons and movements, like abstract art, the Renaissance, contemporary art, tattoos go through these kind of seasons as well.
Ryan
And it means that a lot of people will jump on the bandwagon.
Gemma
Now, I don't think this is a bad thing, quite honestly.
Ryan
Like, I think just because you find something beautiful and someone else also finds that beautiful doesn't mean you are not unique. I actually think that when I see someone with these tattoos, I'm like, wow.
Gemma
You are kind of a tapestry for the culture and age that we're living in. You know, this is, you're a part of history.
Ryan
Like, this is actually quite cool that you have this thing on your body that I know this is quite morbid.
Gemma
But say someone was to dig you.
Ryan
Up in 3,000 years like that mummy we talked about, and they found like a tattoo of a heart on your finger. They could say, oh, wow, that must.
Gemma
Have been important at the time. That must have been something that was aesthetic to people at the time.
Ryan
And I find that very, very interesting. Okay, we are going to take a.
Gemma
Quick break because I'm fully about to shift gears here.
Ryan
But when I return, let's talk about.
Gemma
The role of tattooing in coping, healing from trauma, and whether this practice can actually become addictive. All of that and so much more after this short break.
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Gemma
A few years ago, I came across an article by someone calling themselves an incident ink nurse.
Ryan
And they talked about this idea of ink or tattoo therapy.
Gemma
Essentially, her take was that everything we feel, emotionally and mentally, cannot disappear through the mind alone. It also needs to be processed by the body. Now, for some people, emotions are processed.
Ryan
Through tears and grief, maybe rage, exercise, making art.
Gemma
For others, the way they process trauma, psychological pain, heartache, anything that the human.
Ryan
Soul has kind of gone through is through tattoos. Why is this the case?
Gemma
Well, firstly, I think it's because tattoos give us a sense of control we may be lacking in our ordinary life in this way. You know, you have this immense power.
Ryan
To do to your body what you.
Gemma
Wish to do with it, and it can really help you reclaim your identity by making it your own through an outward depiction of what matters to you or what you find interesting or what you find beautiful. You're saying I have complete ownership over my body, so this is what I'm.
Ryan
Going to do with it.
Gemma
I want to talk about one piece.
Ryan
Of research that really speaks to this reclaiming and this, this powerful healing of tattoos. In particular, this piece of research actually.
Gemma
Looked at the association between childhood abuse and neglect with our likelihood of getting tattoos and piercings. It was conducted in Germany with over a thousand participants, and they did find tattoos and piercings more common amongst individuals who reported childhood abuse and neglect. So they're linking this very deep emotional suffering with a way of adorning and treating our bodies. Now, what they also concluded is that body modification, in a sense, was actually a very empowering experience for these people.
Ryan
Because although they had suffered this, like, great adversity, they were now taking back the control. And there was also this weird sense.
Gemma
Relating to pain, and letting that pain be self inflicted was actually quite empowering.
Ryan
Compared to times when pain had been used against them. It's deeply psychological.
Gemma
And to me, this explanation makes a lot of sense.
Ryan
And these findings have been corroborated in.
Gemma
Another piece of research that was published.
Ryan
Just a little bit later on.
Gemma
These researchers talk about how our desire to get specific tattoos, or even to get tattoos at all actually gives us.
Ryan
A real peek, a real vision into someone's psyche. Right.
Gemma
What they choose to get on their.
Ryan
Body is actually a really, I don't.
Gemma
Know, I don't want to say interesting.
Ryan
Again, but it's a very secretive almost in Depth way of understanding what they've been through and how they see the world.
Gemma
So this paper, this was published in 2006, 2017.
Ryan
It actually talks about how therapists can.
Gemma
Prompt an open discussion with someone using their tattoos, asking them about their tattoos, asking them about their meaning, their motivations for getting them as a way to.
Ryan
Kind of have a breakthrough with a client. Basically, if someone has a specific piece of art, it's obviously important enough for.
Gemma
Them to have put it on their body. So there must have been some motivation.
Ryan
That has caused them to think that.
Gemma
This is a good idea and that.
Ryan
This is what they want.
Gemma
What does that motivation link to? What can that tell you about who.
Ryan
They are as a person?
Gemma
Not only that, not only is it linked to control, not only is it linked to personality, tattoos have also been shown to change how we think about our bodies. Having that control and being able to make ourselves into a form of arms.
Ryan
Is so mentally powerful.
Gemma
If you are someone who struggles with.
Ryan
Things like body dysmorphia or just general.
Gemma
Unhappiness towards your appearance. There have been some studies, including a specific one I'm thinking about from 2011.
Ryan
That showed that right after getting a.
Gemma
Tattoo, individuals reportedly feel better about their bodies. They experience less appearance based anxiety. They also express less fear of being.
Ryan
Perceived in that kind of way.
Gemma
Tattoos are like a psychological armor, and.
Ryan
For that reason, they also influence our emotional state. So our emotional state influences whether we get them.
Gemma
And then once we do get them.
Ryan
That has a further impact. It's like a cycle. That is why tattoos can become addictive, because the process of getting them makes us feel some sort of way.
Gemma
Anything that changes our mood, such that we associate an activity with immediately feeling better, has the capacity to become addictive.
Ryan
You know, alcohol, for example, makes us.
Gemma
Feel less anxious and more lively.
Ryan
That emotional association makes it addictive.
Gemma
Amphetamines give us that huge rush, make us feel joyous. Gambling makes us feel fulfilled by possibility. Tattoos bring us a sense of control. And according to that same study, they also make us feel better about how we look.
Ryan
They make us feel, feel more at.
Gemma
Peace with our past, and they can.
Ryan
Make our lives feel more purposeful and significant. That is a very addictive feeling. I think a lot of us would.
Gemma
Do a lot of things to feel.
Ryan
Happy in who we are, to feel at peace with our past, to feel meaningful in our life. That's pretty addictive. Therefore, getting tattoos is also addictive. It's a common experience.
Gemma
I've heard from tattoo artists that they will get a client who has never.
Ryan
Had a tattoo before.
Gemma
They will give them their first tattoo, and then a month later, this person.
Ryan
Will come back and have, like, dozens, because the process for them is so emotionally satisfying. Some of that comes down to our experiences with pain.
Gemma
Yes, we mostly want to avoid it. That's how we're hardwired. But there are some people who actually.
Ryan
Find it quite pleasurable and quite.
Gemma
That brings about quite a sense of relief. Some people find catharsis in the process.
Ryan
Of getting a tattoo. You know that there's, like, this painful experience that then provides a really amazing result. It lets out pain that they may be feeling internally. All of this actually creates a lot of enjoyment that we associate with the process.
Gemma
We can also get, quote, unquote, addicted to tattooing because of the role of.
Ryan
Two chemicals in our body.
Gemma
Adrenaline and endorphins. Endorphins, I'm just using as a general.
Ryan
Way of saying pleasant chemical messages.
Gemma
So the anticipation of and the pain.
Ryan
That we experience from tattooing, that can.
Gemma
Lead to an adrenaline rush.
Ryan
This will naturally create a feeling of almost euphoria. Now, the adrenaline that is released in.
Gemma
Response to pain is meant to lessen.
Ryan
The painful experience, but it actually means that we begin to associate the act of getting tattooed with, you know, a.
Gemma
Lot of warm and fuzzy feelings. Given, you know, the level of anticipation.
Ryan
With any first experience, that adrenaline rush is going to be heightened.
Gemma
So the first time you get a.
Ryan
Tattoo, you are going to experience the largest adrenaline rush from the specific activity that you will ever experience.
Gemma
But people will continue to seek that rush.
Ryan
And that is why we can perhaps explain people who come back and come.
Gemma
Back and come back. It looks like an addiction, but it's.
Ryan
More them chasing a specific feeling. Now, after getting a tattoo, our body.
Gemma
Will also naturally release endorphins to soothe our pain, to target inflammation. That also feels amazing. Some of the endorphins that we'll be.
Ryan
Experiencing are natural opioids, natural pain relievers that we know are extremely addictive.
Gemma
So that combination of the rush of adrenaline and then the emotional and physical.
Ryan
Comfort of endorphins may encourage us to keep going back.
Gemma
Now, this can be a dangerous process, and something that always comes up in discussions about tattoos is regret.
Ryan
If you're getting tattoo after tattoo after.
Gemma
Tattoo, are you making the best decisions?
Ryan
Are you being wise about what you want on your body permanently? Now, this is always going to come into this discussion, and you'll frequently hear it from, like, older generations or people who feel uncertain about tattoos.
Gemma
They'll ask you, like, are you sure you want this on your body forever?
Ryan
Like, you know that this is forever, right? Are you sure that 30 year old you or 50 year old you or 80 year old you, is that version.
Gemma
Of yourself going to love it as much as you do now? Like, how do you know this is a smart decision? I'm going to answer that question for.
Ryan
You right here, right now.
Gemma
You don't, you don't. And there is potential regret in absolutely everything.
Ryan
So chances are you might look at.
Gemma
That tattoo at some point and say.
Ryan
Eh, that wasn't the best decision. But I don't think we need to fear regret all that much. I don't think it's actually the worst thing that you can ever experience. I even think about the tattoos that I don't like now. I still enjoy them for what they meant to me back then.
Gemma
They're kind of like scars in a way. You know, they make a good story.
Ryan
They tell something about my experience and they bring me a very strange but.
Gemma
Very valued connection with my past self. Like I can tap into exactly what she was thinking at that time, which.
Ryan
I find quite special. And you know, tattoos are going to.
Gemma
Change as you get older. They aren't going to look the same. They're going to be shaped by age. And that is something that you can.
Ryan
That you should be be remembering. But also these days, like, they're not permanent.
Gemma
I saw that image of Pete Davidson.
Ryan
Recently when I was in la. Like I saw the billboard that he did for reformation. Like, all of his tattoos gone. Like, it's possible. It's expensive, but it's possible.
Gemma
Probably not what you should be considering though.
Ryan
Like, if you're getting a tattoo and you're thinking, oh, whatever, I can remove it someday.
Gemma
Not the mindset you should go in.
Ryan
With because it is still a painful process and it still will leave a mark. And like this is, you should be thinking of it as permanent. If you want to get like a semi permanent tattoo, like, go and get those ones that you can like put on with a wet cloth. Like, if you're going and thinking, I can get this removed one day, you know, the easiest way for that to happen is to just not get it right now.
Gemma
So I want to briefly talk about.
Ryan
Some, some tips for making the right decision about a tattoo. Because it's important, you know, if you want to get one. I think that's amazing. I really like mine. I find them like, very decorative, very.
Gemma
Fun, good conversation starters.
Ryan
But you want to make smart decisions. Like you don't want your first tattoo to be like an all out, like, snake down your entire body. Or maybe you do, but this is what you should be thinking about.
Gemma
The most common reasons people regret their tattoos, according to a recent piece of.
Ryan
Research, is that it was impulsive. So around 35% of people say, I regret it because it was impulsive, it didn't have a significant meaning, or they thought it would make them look cool, and it doesn't.
Gemma
What we do find is the more thoughtful and careful you are about a.
Ryan
Tattoo, the less likely you are to regret it.
Gemma
So if you are thinking about getting.
Ryan
Something on your skin before you do.
Gemma
Print off that tattoo, the tattoo design.
Ryan
That you have, put it somewhere that you'd see it every single day to make sure you don't get sick of it. And I think it's like, recommended to.
Gemma
Do this for like three to six months.
Ryan
You know, if this is a tattoo.
Gemma
You genuinely want and then you're going.
Ryan
To love, you're still going to want.
Gemma
It in six months, you're still going.
Ryan
To want it in a year, and.
Gemma
This is a great insurance for you.
Ryan
To say, okay, if I had to.
Gemma
Look at this every single day, would.
Ryan
I still want it? Secondly, when you start, start small. Start with somewhere not visible. Also just important to see how your.
Gemma
Body reacts to it.
Ryan
Whether, like, you actually like the process and you're not halfway through a tattoo in so much pain regretting it and it's somewhere really, really visible. I think that's just wise.
Gemma
Don't get tattoos when you're drunk.
Ryan
Oh, my Lord.
Gemma
I have friends who have done this. Not only did they end up looking really bad because they' blood was really.
Ryan
Thin so it leaked, but it really.
Gemma
Comes down to the impulsive nature of this.
Ryan
This might be a controversial one and it might sound hypocritical considering I got.
Gemma
My first tattoo when I was 18. But if I had to go back.
Ryan
I would say, don't get a tattoo before you turn 20, please. Like, I don't know why that feels like a good distinction, but the longer you can wait, the better. I think getting a tattoo young and I still think, like, 18, 19, 20 is quite young. I'm not saying it's going to increase your chances of regretting it. I'm just saying that getting a tattoo.
Gemma
A little bit older might reduce your.
Ryan
Chances of regretting it and finally be safe. And if it costs more, that's not a bad thing. This is like a permanent accessory for you.
Gemma
Think about how much you would spend.
Ryan
On a really nice pair of jeans, really nice pair of Shoes on a handbag like this. Think about cost per wear here. You're going to be wearing this every single day of your life.
Gemma
So it is an investment.
Ryan
Go to a good tattoo artist.
Gemma
I have seen so many terrible tattoos in my day and on Reddit and on Pinterest and on Instagram.
Ryan
You don't want to be that just because you want the tattoo really badly right now.
Gemma
You will still want it in three months when you have a little bit more money. Trust me, it really makes all the difference.
Ryan
I am so lucky that one of.
Gemma
My best friends is a tattoo artist.
Ryan
And I trust her more than anyone. And you can really tell the difference between someone who is really passionate about their craft and does everything right and someone who is doing tattoos for $5 at, like, somewhere on a strip more. So those would be my most significant, important tips. Also, maybe some advice to younger Gemma.
Gemma
To baby Gemma around what she should have done differently. You know what, though?
Ryan
I want to finish out this episode by saying, it is your body. It is your body to have regrets about. It is your body to modify. It is your body to express and to demonstrate with and to decorate. So, yes, make smart decisions, but don't consider disappointing people as part of it. Don't consider what other people are going.
Gemma
To think too much.
Ryan
So in this consideration of getting a.
Gemma
Tattoo, if it's something that's important to you, if it's something that you think will ground you, if it's something that.
Ryan
You think will help with healing and will, you know, perhaps psychologically shift how you see yourself, that is always going to be worth it in my mind.
Gemma
And if you just like it and.
Ryan
You want a tattoo, do it like you're young. If you're worried about other people's opinions.
Gemma
Get it somewhere no one can see.
Ryan
Make it quite an intimate part of you. I actually think it's quite a beautiful rite of passage. It's something that was on my bucket list when I'm a kid. I'm glad that I've done it and for all the thoughts about it, again.
Gemma
It just comes down to personal preference.
Ryan
And what's going to make you feel good, good. And what's going to make you feel.
Gemma
Happy in the form and the vessel that you're in. So I hope you enjoyed this episode. Now, the people who make it this.
Ryan
Far know that they will always get a little emoji. So for your emoji, choose the emoji that you would most want tattooed on your body.
Gemma
Let's confuse the people who don't listen.
Ryan
To the end but then pretend they do because they see the emoji. What are you most likely to want.
Gemma
To get from the little emoji list?
Ryan
And if you have a tattoo, let me know.
Gemma
Do you regret any of your tattoos and why?
Ryan
Let's kind of share the word, share.
Gemma
The knowledge so someone else might not make the same mistake.
Ryan
I've already told you mine. I regret two of mine, my 22 and my one post breakup. But I still love them so I.
Gemma
Hope you still love yours as well. But please share below, make sure that you are following and you leave a five star star review. Also, if you have further questions stories I don't know comments about this episode, you can always message me at that psychology podcast on Instagram. I'd love to hear from you. Until next time though, stay safe. Please be kind, be gentle to yourself and I will talk to you very.
Ryan
Very soon.
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Podcast Summary: Episode 278 – The Psychology of Tattoos
Title: The Psychology of Tattoos
Host: Jemma Sbeg
Release Date: February 25, 2025
Podcast: The Psychology of Your 20s by iHeartPodcasts
At the onset of Episode 278, host Gemma Sbeg provides a content warning to listeners about discussions related to child abuse, ensuring that those who might find the topic sensitive can make informed listening choices ([03:28] Gemma). This sets a considerate tone for the episode, emphasizing the depth and potential emotional weight of the topics to be discussed.
Gemma expresses her desire to delve into a topic that might seem less obvious in the realm of psychology: tattoos. She states, “[Gemma, 04:32] I wanted to do an episode that you might not think has anything to do with psychology,” highlighting the episode's intent to uncover the deeper psychological motivations behind tattooing.
Both hosts, Gemma and Ryan, share personal anecdotes about their tattoos, pondering the reasons behind their choices. Gemma admits, “[Ryan, 05:13] I have never actually considered why I got them,” while Ryan echoes a similar sentiment, revealing his interest in understanding the permanent nature of tattoos and their emotional significance ([05:22] Ryan).
A Journey Through Time
Gemma and Ryan provide a comprehensive history of tattooing, debunking the misconception that tattoos originated in the 1800s. They reference the ancient mummy, Ötzi the Iceman, who lived around 6,000 years ago and was found adorned with tattoos ([10:31] Gemma). This segment underscores the longstanding human tradition of using tattoos for various cultural, religious, and personal expressions.
Stigmatization and Revival
They discuss how, approximately 300 years ago, Christian missionaries associated tattoos with criminality and deviance, leading to widespread stigma ([11:02] Gemma). This perception persisted, evident today in places like Japan where tattoos can restrict access to public baths ([11:43] Ryan). However, the Western revival of tattooing in the 1940s marked a shift towards broader acceptance, with estimates showing that 30-48% of individuals in countries like the USA, Canada, Germany, and Australia now have tattoos ([13:31] Ryan). Gemma encapsulates this evolution, noting, “[Gemma, 14:06] here's your little history lesson for the day.”
Representation of Identity and Experiences
A significant portion of individuals get tattoos to symbolize personal milestones, beliefs, or emotions. A South African study involving university students revealed that 25% of participants got tattoos to mark significant experiences or struggles ([15:31] Gemma). For instance, Ryan shares his "breakup tattoo," which represents his journey towards independence and self-reliance after a tough breakup at 18 ([17:14] Ryan).
Gemma emphasizes, “[Gemma, 16:06] tattoos can bring about a sense of permanence. They can really anchor us to a specific time and our identity and our feelings,” illustrating how tattoos serve as enduring reminders of pivotal life moments.
Body as a Canvas
Beyond deep-seated meanings, many opt for tattoos purely for their aesthetic value. Gemma describes tattoos as an extension of one’s identity through decoration, allowing individuals to adorn their bodies with images they find beautiful or meaningful ([20:29] Ryan). She narrates the experience of a friend who gets random tattoos for personal enjoyment, highlighting tattoos as a form of spontaneous self-expression ([21:45] Gemma).
Belonging and Recognition
Tattoos often symbolize affiliation with specific groups or cultures. Whether it’s fandom symbols like Harry Potter tattoos or cultural markings like Maori "Tomoko" tattoos, these designs signify a sense of belonging and shared identity ([19:17] Ryan). This form of communication fosters connections among like-minded individuals, as Gemma explains, “[Gemma, 19:49] It’s a form of communication or recognition.”
Empowerment and Control
Delving deeper, Gemma discusses research linking tattoos to coping mechanisms for those who have experienced childhood abuse and neglect. A German study found that tattoos and piercings are more prevalent among individuals who reported such traumas, with tattoos serving as a means of reclaiming control and empowering oneself ([30:42] Gemma).
Ryan adds, “[Ryan, 30:42] This is deeply psychological,” highlighting how tattoos can symbolize taking back control after enduring external pain and abuse. Gemma further elaborates on how tattoos help individuals feel better about their bodies and reduce appearance-based anxiety, citing a 2011 study that found individuals felt less anxious and more confident post-tattooing ([33:43] Ryan).
Psychological and Physiological Factors
The hosts explore how the process of getting tattoos can become addictive. They explain that the anticipation and pain of tattooing trigger the release of adrenaline and endorphins, creating euphoric feelings associated with the act ([36:35] Ryan). This chemical response can lead individuals to seek repeated tattooing experiences, much like other addictive behaviors.
Gemma notes, “[Gemma, 36:39] Assistance can explain people who come back and come back. It looks like an addiction, but it’s more them chasing a specific feeling.” Ryan reinforces this by comparing the endorphin release to that of natural pain relievers, making the process reinforcing and potentially addictive ([37:59] Ryan).
Navigating Permanent Decisions
Regret is a common theme in tattoo discussions. Approximately 35% of individuals express regret due to impulsive decisions or lack of meaningful significance behind their tattoos ([41:20] Ryan). To minimize regret, Gemma and Ryan offer practical advice:
Careful Consideration: Think about the tattoo design for 3-6 months before committing. “[Gemma, 41:43] If you are thinking about getting something on your skin, print off that tattoo, put it somewhere you'd see it every day for several months.”
Start Small: Begin with less visible tattoos to gauge your comfort with the process and pain ([41:59] Gemma).
Avoid Impulsivity: Refrain from getting tattoos while intoxicated to ensure clear decision-making ([42:40] Gemma).
Wait Until Older: While not a strict rule, waiting until after 20 may reduce the likelihood of regretting a tattoo, as maturity can lead to more thoughtful choices ([43:06] Ryan).
Choose Quality: Invest in reputable tattoo artists to ensure satisfaction with the final result ([44:05] Ryan).
Ryan shares his personal regrets about specific tattoos but acknowledges their significance and the stories they represent, stating, “[Ryan, 38:58] I regret two of mine, my 22 and my one post breakup. But I still love them so I...”
Gemma and Ryan conclude the episode by affirming the importance of personal agency in tattoo decisions. Gemma encourages listeners to prioritize what makes them happy and to use tattoos as a means of self-expression and healing ([45:35] Ryan). Ryan adds, “[Ryan, 45:46] What’s going to make you feel good. And what’s going to make you feel happy in the form and the vessel that you’re in.”
They emphasize that while it's essential to make informed and thoughtful decisions, individuals should not be overly concerned with external judgments or trends. Instead, they advocate for tattoos that hold personal significance and contribute positively to one’s sense of self ([46:10] Ryan).
To foster community engagement, Gemma and Ryan invite listeners to share their tattoo stories and regrets, aiming to create a shared knowledge base that could help others make informed decisions about their own tattoos ([46:50] Ryan & Gemma). They conclude with a playful interaction involving emojis, prompting listeners to choose an emoji they'd like tattooed, thereby blending personal expression with listener participation ([46:32] Ryan).
Key Quotes with Timestamps:
Personal Significance:
Ryan at [16:06]: “This is the idea that tattoos can bring about a sense of permanence. They can really anchor us to a specific time and our identity and our feelings.”
Historical Insight:
Gemma at [10:31]: “There’s also evidence of a very famous mummy. It’s called Otzi the Iceman. That individual is almost 6,000 years old. And when they found this mummified person, he had tattoos.”
Empowerment through Tattoos:
Gemma at [30:42]: “Body modification, in a sense, was actually a very empowering experience for these people.”
Addiction Explanation:
Ryan at [34:10]: “They can become addictive, because the process of getting them makes us feel some sort of way.”
Regret Mitigation:
Gemma at [41:43]: “Print off that tattoo, put it somewhere that you'd see it every single day to make sure you don't get sick of it.”
Episode 278, "The Psychology of Tattoos," offers a nuanced exploration of why individuals in their 20s choose to get tattoos. Through historical context, personal anecdotes, and psychological research, Gemma and Ryan illuminate the multifaceted motivations behind tattooing—from personal identity and emotional healing to artistic expression and group affiliation. They balance the allure of tattoos with practical advice to mitigate potential regrets, ultimately empowering listeners to make informed and meaningful decisions about their body art.