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Dave Ramsey (0:02)
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Sarah (0:06)
I am struggling with my husband lying to me financially. I've been struggling with this for about two years, and I'm just wanting some advice on how to fix this.
Rachel Cruze (0:20)
Oh, gosh, Sarah, what's he. You said he's lying about your money. What's an example of that? What does that mean?
Sarah (0:28)
So I first found out about that he had been lying our whole marriage. A couple years ago, he had a large chunk of money from the sale of a house that he had put into work. He told me he put into a high yield savings account. And when we got to the point of talking about buying a house, it came out that he had been completely lying about it, that there. That he'd spent all the money. And I still don't know where he spent all that money. There are other times where we'll put money in the safe as, like a savings account, just, you know, in case of emergencies. And I went in there one day last March to get some money out to pay a bill, and the money was gone. And it's kind of things like this that are consistently happening.
Rachel Cruze (1:17)
And what does he say when you confront him? Where does he say the money went?
Sarah (1:24)
The $70,000? I'm not sure where it went even to this day. But for the other stuff, he says that it goes to if I'm out of town for work. He says that he went and spent it eating out, or he went and just bought some random stuff that we don't really need that he's not really going to use.
Dave Ramsey (1:47)
Have you seen said stuff? Is there actual proof of the things he's saying he's purchasing? Yes.
Sarah (1:54)
Like, I see the receipts from where he's gone out to eat, and, you know, he brought home a guitar and tried to play it for two weeks and then stopped playing it, and now it's just sitting in the closet.
Dave Ramsey (2:07)
Okay, well, there's a few layers to this, and I don't know if there's something more nefarious happening behind the scenes. You know, there's financial infidelity. Is there actual infidelity? Is there an addiction? Is there gambling? There's so much we don't know because he's not being fully transparent. And that is the only solution. There's the only hope for this marriage is him coming totally clean. Because right now you can't trust him.
Rachel Cruze (2:31)