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Episode: My Wife's Holiday Spending Is Costing Us A Fortune
Date: October 29, 2025
Host: Ramsey Network featuring Dave Ramsey & Rachel Cruze

Episode Overview

In this episode, a caller seeks advice on managing his wife’s family holiday spending traditions, which have become costly and, for him, increasingly unnecessary. The hosts break down the emotional and financial aspects of holiday traditions, address the lack of budgeting, and offer practical tips for regaining financial control—without undermining cherished family rituals.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Caller’s Holiday Spending Dilemma

• Traditions Explained:

  • Caller describes elaborate Christmas traditions involving buying “children’s books” for each family member—adults included—and expensive stockings.
  • Annual spending is $3,000+ on stockings and books, with gifts pushing the total closer to $6,000 (“about three or four thousand” just for gifts — 04:27).

• Emotional Significance:

  • The caller’s wife is motivated by fond memories of her grandparents’ Christmas celebrations and wants to keep those traditions alive.
  • “She just wants to continue those traditions.” (01:16, B)

2. Breaking Down The Numbers

• Cost Justification:
  • Routine spending: $360 on books (“It’s $360, but the books are not a very big tradition...they’re kind of a waste...” 02:05, B)
  • $1,000–$1,200 on stockings, plus $3,000–$4,000 on gifts.
• Financial Snapshot:
  • Household income: $210,000/year.
  • Net worth: About $200,000 house value (with $100,000 left on the mortgage), $100,000 in retirement savings (pension plan, 04:12-04:08).

3. Hosts’ Reactions and Analysis

• Perceived Excess and Confusion:
  • Dave Ramsey challenges the point of buying children’s books for adults.
    • “When they were children, maybe, but I don’t know, once you’re 40, you don’t really need a children’s book.” (02:44, A)
• Budget Perspective:
  • Dave notes that the spending is only about 1.5% of the household income but acknowledges it’s causing stress because there’s no clear plan.
    • “You make $200,000. It’s $3,000. It’s one and a half percent of your income.” (04:49, A)
  • Rachel Cruze pinpoints lack of budgeting as the root cause:
    • “You have no planning with your income...if you both lived on a budget and knew exactly where your income was going...then it would not feel as out of control.” (06:02–06:28, C)

4. Marriage & Family Communication

• Emphasis on Dialogue:
  • Dave encourages the caller to discuss the traditions with his wife, stressing that both partners need to understand what’s truly important.
    • “At least you need to understand from her why this is $3,000 worth of important, because it’s no longer $3,000 worth of important to you...you’ve just been going along.” (05:09, A)
• Adjusting Traditions:
  • The hosts share their own experience with simplifying gift-giving and managing expectations in adult families.
    • “Every adult buying every adult something got out of hand, and it just was dumb...So we just dumbed it way down and we’re going to concentrate on the kiddos.” (07:13–07:32, A/C)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Traditions Becoming Absurd:

  • “He’s done with children’s books for adults.” (08:02, A)

• On Budgeting Wisdom:

  • “Make a list and check it twice. You need a Christmas budget...put a dollar amount beside each name...when that cash runs out, Christmas be over, baby. That’s it. Ding, ding. We’re done.” (08:49–09:18, A)

• On Emotional Understanding:

  • “I’m willing to do it simply because it’s important to you, but you also need to hear it’s important to me that we use a little touch of common sense on this.” (05:50–06:02, A)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Traditions and Their Costs Detailed – 00:07–02:44
• Caller’s Financial Situation – 03:33–04:15
• Budgeting is the Core Issue – 05:09–06:28
• Hosts’ Family Solutions & Suggestion to Draw Names – 07:13–07:44
• Reinforcing Importance of Budgeting for Holidays – 08:49–09:18

Practical Advice from the Hosts

• Prioritize Communication and Compromise: Open a conversation about what matters most to each spouse.
• Adopt Budgeting Tools: Use a dedicated app like EveryDollar or the envelope system to plan for seasonal expenses and avoid financial surprises.
• Simplify and Modify Traditions: Consider drawing names among adults or otherwise reining in costs while keeping the spirit of family traditions alive.

Overall Tone:
The discussion remains light, humorous, and relatable, with both empathy and practical advice. Dave and Rachel acknowledge the importance of family rituals but underscore that thoughtful communication and simple budgeting can allow families to preserve what matters—without the financial hangover.

For Listeners:
This episode is a candid, constructive guide for anyone facing tension around costly family rituals. It offers practical steps for reclaiming control, opening dialogue, and reimagining traditions—just in time for the holidays.