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Dave Ramsey
Brought to you by the EveryDollar app. Start budgeting for free today. Normal is broken. Common sense is weird. So we're here to help you transform your life. From the Ramsey Network in the Fair Winds Credit Union studio, this is the Ramsey Show. George Camel, Ramsey personality number one best selling author and co host, host of the Smart Money Happy Hour. He's my co host today. Open phones at 888, 825-5225. Gracie is with us in Indianapolis. Hi Gracie, how are you doing? Good, good. How can we help?
Caller
Well, I'm a pre veterinary student. I just graduated undergrad with no debt. I'm taking a gap year and will be starting veterinary school theoretically next fall. And that's depending on where I end up going will be around $200,000 in student debt. Could be a little more, could be a little less. So I just wanted to know best way to prepare myself for that kind of thing.
Dave Ramsey
Well, first I'll tell you that your field of study I think is excellent as a career choice. I think you're. I honestly would coach someone to be a veterinarian before I would be a medical doctor. I think you can make more money and you have less regulations and less morons telling you what to do every day. So the medical profession has just gotten out of. It's weird. And so you guys, we work with a lot of vets nationwide in our entree leadership program and coach them on the business side of things. We don't know anything about the medicine side of things. So I'm a fan, I'll start with that. But Gracie, you've probably been listening for more than 10 minutes and you know we're not ever going to tell anybody to go $200,000 in debt for anything.
Caller
Yes, sir.
Dave Ramsey
I mean you knew, you knew Dave Ramsey and George Cameron were going to tell you that, right?
Caller
Well, I expected but I'm not sure how to get around it with the cost of tuition.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. How did you get through undergrad with no debt?
Caller
I've been very blessed. My parents are missionaries so they started me working at a very young age because I was homeschooled and flexibility through them. So I actually started college at 16. I went to a private university for my first two years, realized that the cost was not worth there, moved back home. I got paid to go to school for two years and then I ended up taking a fifth year just the way my classes fell. So I paid.
Dave Ramsey
I'm sorry, back up, you're breaking up a little bit. How did you get paid to go to school. Your phone's breaking up. Try again. Okay, I'm gonna put you on hold, and Christian's gonna try to get your phone straightened up. We'll come back to you. All right? Christine is in Boston, Massachusetts. Hi, Christine. How are you?
Caller
Hi.
Good.
How are you?
Dave Ramsey
Better than I deserve. What's up?
Caller
So I'm 74 years old. I'm on Social Security, and I want to retire. I had a home investment property that I sold a couple of months ago, and after the taxes, I cleared about 900,000.
Wow.
Dave Ramsey
Good for you. Way to go.
Caller
Oh, thank you. Thank you. I have a home I'm living in now that has a mortgage. There's about 300,000, but it's got significant equity, probably at least 5 or 600,000 equity. So, you know, I do have that. That's my only debt is the home
that I'm in now.
So I just need to know what. I don't know what to do. I keep looking, you know, reading, and
I just don't know what to do with other debt.
Dave Ramsey
I mean, other investments. Other than this 900,000.
Caller
The only other investment I have is
a SEP IRA, and it's only got
about 90,000 in it.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so what have you been living on?
Caller
I. I've been working.
I work.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. What do you do at 74?
Caller
I'm a lawyer.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, good for you.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
How much longer do you intend to. How much longer do you intend to practice law?
Caller
Well, probably, like, within the next year, I'd like to retire.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
And what does it take you a month to operate when you retire?
Caller
I'm thinking probably about $7,000.
Okay. All right.
Dave Ramsey
Well, you'll have Social Security coming in, obviously, at that point, if you don't haven't already signed up for it.
Caller
I have three. I have the 3,000 coming in on that.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so that's three of your seven. So, Christine, I try to build a base that is just very stable and very sustainable when I'm in these kinds of situations. I'm 65, getting ready to turn 66, so I'm not far behind you. And what we want people to be is debt free with a nest egg, 100% debt free with an S egg when they hit retirement, because that gives them stability. And so George and I will tell you to take 300 of your 900 and pay off your house, which reduces
George Kamel
your expenses per month, right?
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. That means you don't have to have as much as 7,000 now, because now you don't have a House payment.
Caller
Okay.
All right.
Dave Ramsey
And then I'm going to sit down with a smartvestor pro and invest the other 600. If it were to make, let's say it made average market returns of 11 or 12%. And just for round numbers, if you pulled off 10%, which you probably wouldn't pull off that much, but if you did, that'd be $60,000 a year, $5,000 a month. So you're okay, that covers the gap.
George Kamel
Remember, you got three grand Social Security, you need four over that. So that would actually cover it if you just invested that 600,000.
Dave Ramsey
I'd invest that 600,000 carefully and well in good growth stock type mutual funds and let it generate you about the other three or $4,000 a month that you need and leave the rest of it in there for growth.
Caller
Don't take all the growth out stock type mutual funds.
Dave Ramsey
Is that what you call growth stock type mutual funds? And what I want you to do is to learn about that so that you get very comfortable with it. Don't do it because I said do it or George said do it. Sit down with a smartvestor pro. You can find them@ramseysolutions.com and George, they're gonna have the heart of a teacher.
George Kamel
Yeah. Once you're actually understanding what's going on, you see that money sitting there, you're not gonna be fearful and jump out, which is what happens to a lot of people diying at this stage. They either their money's not growing fast enough to keep up with inflation, or even worse, they pull it out of the market completely out of fear.
Dave Ramsey
You freak out by some news headline. And so what you do is you understand the investment. And so there are mutual funds that are more stable and have a steadier growth track record over the last 50 years than that house you sold. Neither one had a guarantee, but both things you would feel comfortable with a house because homes in that neighborhood are gonna go up in value. And you probably owned it a lot of years. You made a million dollars on it. So you probably owned it a bunch of years. And you were probably never really nervous about, ooh, ooh, I'm gonna lose all my money in real estate. No, you got a single family home. It's going up in value. It's kind of boring almost. And that's what you want with mutual funds is something that's got that when you look at the chart, it charts out in volatility and up and down, up and down, up and down. About like a house does and you say, I never thought about the risk I was taking when I bought a house. But when you say mutual funds or you say growth stocks, people who haven't done it before freak out and they go, oh, God, the stock market. I always heard you lose all your money in the stock market. It's weird. You don't hear that about real estate, but it's the exact same risk, and you're betting on the exact same thing, which is the track record.
George Kamel
When houses are tangible, you can see them. That makes you feel better about it. The mutual funds are this invisible boogie monster.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, it's the mist and the wind.
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Kamel
This math is hopeful for her. You pay off that mortgage, reduce your expenses down to five. Now you need two to pull off of that investment account. This is going to be a fun retirement.
Dave Ramsey
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George Kamel
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Dave Ramsey
David is in Los Angeles. Hi, David. How are you?
Caller
Feel better than I deserve, Dave. How about yourself?
Dave Ramsey
Just the same. How can we help?
Caller
I have concerns about a potential money gift for a down payment from my father in law. And I feel that there are str attached.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. How long y' all been married?
Caller
We've been married about three years.
Dave Ramsey
And how much is the gift?
Caller
$200,000.
Dave Ramsey
And what are the strings?
Caller
Well, it's for a house and we. Initially I heard through secondary conversations that the father. My father in law, Wanted to have only his name on the title, and my wife and I would be paying the mortgage and he would put the home in a trust. That was the initial plan. Now the plan is to, after the purchase, work out adding his name to the title so he can again put this in a trust.
Dave Ramsey
I'll pass. Thank you for your offer. We love you. No, absolutely not. I don't have concerns. I have warning flags and pyrotechnics going off.
George Kamel
Is he using you guys as tenants to pay his mortgage on a new property?
Dave Ramsey
No. This guy's a control freak, and he's wanting to be in the investment real estate business. That's not a gift. He's wanting to partner with you.
Caller
Yeah. Here's some more details to it. So my wife and I, we have one child from my previous relationship. We have a two year old son together, and we have another one coming by the end of this year. My wife is very eager to get into a place with more space for the family because we are in a condo that she owns.
Dave Ramsey
Don't be eager enough to be stupid.
Caller
Mm.
Dave Ramsey
This is stupid. Don't do it. I'm dead serious. You're gonna regret this.
Caller
You know, I hear you, and I try to have talks with this family, and a lot of the conversations happen without my presence.
Dave Ramsey
Well, I'm not signing. Okay? You guys don't get to do a deal without me. I'm the daddy. This is my kid, my wife. Y' all got confused about boundaries here. You enter and sit at my kitchen table. You talk to me. This guy's dangerous, man. He doesn't mean to be. Probably. He's probably actually fairly calm person, but he's manipulative as hell.
George Kamel
Does your wife find this strange too?
Dave Ramsey
No, she. It's her daddy. She's used to.
George Kamel
She's like, this is great.
Dave Ramsey
She grew up with this crap.
George Kamel
She just sees the shiny house, so she's gone. Hey, gets new at a house. Who cares?
Dave Ramsey
Daddy's gonna get me a house. That's all she heard, right? Basically, yeah. I'm sorry, honey. You got. The first thing I'm gonna do if I'm in your shoes is that you guys need to get the wheels back on your marriage to where the two of you are planning your life, not her. Daddy's planning your life.
Caller
I agree.
Dave Ramsey
And so I think that may be the. I'm going to start the conversation with my wife and say, all right, the first thing is, is we have to be in agreement about who we're going to be as a couple and how we're going to handle discussions about things that matter in our lives. And that isn't. You go over and have these discussions with your dad, and then you come back and tell me what I'm going to do. That's not going to work. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to operate my marriage that way, and I'm not signing up for this deal. So we're just going to have to tell your dad no. And you and I probably need to sit down after three years and a new baby on the way and have a reset with a good marriage counselor. And it doesn't mean our marriage is in trouble. But when you go to a marriage counselor, it's like going to a coach teaching you how to do marriage as a teacher. You're hiring an outside personal trainer for your marriage. And you guys got a little work to do on that because her boundaries are screwed up. Okay, so let me back up and tell you how I got there, because this is. I'm being pretty in your face, but I'm scared for you. That's why I'm doing that. It's bothering.
Caller
I appreciate it.
Dave Ramsey
So the first thing that bothers me more than anything else is these side discussions that don't involve you. And then these things are decided and they have. She wants something. She wants a new home, and she's seeing a way to get it. So what's going to end up happening is if we don't get back on the same page, you're going to be the evil person that kept her from getting a home while her daddy tried to help her. And this is a wedge that I do not want driven into your marriage. That's what's coming.
Caller
I'm afraid we're there.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. As soon as you say no. Yeah. And then the second thing that's bad is everything this guy's describing. They called it a gift. And this is no more gift than fly to the moon. He wants to own some real estate that his kid lives in and his grandkid lives in so he can control the situation. That's not a gift. It's like if he had a rental house and y' all moved into it. That's what he's proposing. You've got no control in this scenario. And, no, your name is not going to be on the title of my home, period. Even if he's the sweetest guy in the world and he's not,
George Kamel
and even if he promises, well, one day it'll
Dave Ramsey
be yours, I'm sorry, go ahead, David.
Caller
Yeah, I was just asking about the legalities because he's already written a letter that says this is a gift.
Dave Ramsey
Well, but it's not because of the way he's structuring it. I want my name on the title, and I want it into a trust, and I want it transferred to my name after sow time. No, your name's not gonna be on anything. A gift is you give us $200,000 and we buy a house. That's a gift. That is not what he's proposing. So he is confused about the definition of the word. And I'm telling you, man, the fact that he went to your daughter and left you out of the discussion is bad chemistry. That tells me that if you get in this deal, it's gonna be bad. It's gonna be really bad. That's what this tells me. It's not just a little bad, the fact that he's doing this end run thing. And, man. So some of the best advice we ever got as parents of grown children was that especially with two daughters, the first two going out the door, Daniel was fairly low drama.
George Kamel
He still is.
Dave Ramsey
But Rachel and Denise, I mean, when they left home, Daniel was still home. We thought we were empty nesters. We didn't even know he was there because the drama dropped like 98% when the two girls left. Right. So the best advice I ever got as a dad of a daughter, which is where this guy is, this father trying to get give this money, is that when you walk her down the aisle, you're done. You got to step back because you have been the man in her life her whole life, and you have got to step back or her husband can never take the position of being the primary man in her life as long as she can run to daddy. And so, like, when Rachel got married, I told Winston, I said, this one's your problem. Oh, man. I literally said that to him. And his dad was sitting there, his dad busted out laughing.
George Kamel
That is incredible.
Dave Ramsey
This one's. This problem is now yours, my man. You got all problems cheering for you.
Caller
I'll be.
Dave Ramsey
I'll throw food over the fence. I'll be cheering for you. But this one's your problem. That's quite the opposite of, I'm going to stay involved and I'm going to coach my daughter again without my son in law's involvement on how I want to end up owning the house that they live in. Oh, bad juju.
George Kamel
It's a lack of respect. It's undermining the Husband. This triangulation of making him the bad guy. Hey, babe. I wanted to get you that home you wanted, but you know your husband, David, he just wouldn't do it. So I don't like any. It's like if you bought me a car but it's in your name and I have to make the payment and I go, thanks, Dave. That's crazy.
Dave Ramsey
You don't feel gifted?
George Kamel
I do not feel gifted at all. I'm just driving Dave's car while I'm paying his payment. I don't love.
Dave Ramsey
The good news is it'll be a real car.
George Kamel
Yeah, no batteries involved. I gotta go to a gas station. That's a whole thing. No, thank you.
Dave Ramsey
You don't have to plug this one in, George.
George Kamel
I wanted like an easy Bake oven situation. I don't want to buy here trying to make my own.
Dave Ramsey
See, that's what happens when you violate boundaries. You don't get to make choices anymore. That's how it works, see?
George Kamel
Well, forget. I was gonna get you a nice Christmas gift.
Dave Ramsey
You lost your power. No pun intended.
George Kamel
Barbie Jeep for Christmas for you. You can charge it up.
Dave Ramsey
David, please, honey, sit down with a good marriage coach. And you guys work on how to deal with things in your marriage. And that coach can teach you how to gently set your father in law to the side. And he's not going to like it because he's not used to not. He's not used to being told he's not important. If you run a business, you already know this. Bad information leads to bad decisions. And right now, AI is everywhere. But AI is only as good as the data behind it. The best AI is built on the best data. That's why I recommend NetSuite. NetSuite is the number one AI cloud ERP. And more than 43,000 businesses run on it, including us here at Ramsey Solutions. Their AI isn't bolted on, it's built in. And it connects everything that runs your business. Accounting, inventory, customer data, all in one place. Because when your numbers are connected, AI actually works like it's supposed to. NetSuite's AI helps flag cash flow problems, spot inventory issues, close your books faster, and cut down on manual reporting. If your revenue is at least seven figures, go to netsuite.comramsey for a free product tour. That's netsuite.comramsey. If you're working the baby steps and you want the fastest, most efficient way to move from debt into wealth, get aligned with your spouse and get on every dollar. And every dollar will coach you we will give you a personalized set of recommendations, coaching for your situation. You will be given the same answers to your questions you would get here on the air, and we will lead you exactly through the process. You can start every dollar for free in the App Store or Google Play. Be sure and check it out. Every dollar. See, the good news about this material that we teach here and have taught here for almost 40 years now is it doesn't change. We don't change it. People call every day trying to get us to change it for them, but we don't change it. And so our answers are devastatingly predictable. And that's why it's easy to put it into an app, because the answer is devastatingly predictable. It's going to tell you, don't do that. That's stupid. Or do that, that's smart. And do that right now because it's really smart. And the app's going to walk you right through the process. Every dollar. Download it on the App Store or Google Play. Janet is in Detroit. Hi, Janet. How are you?
Caller
Oh, I'm well. How are you, Dave?
Dave Ramsey
Better than we deserve. What's up?
Caller
Hi. So my husband started up a side hustle in addition to his regular job, and he did fairly well. And he bought himself an $80,000 commercial building for cash on a canal. And he loves it and he's been working really hard fixing it up, but he ended up with 90,000 in business debt in the process. And he also would like to retire within five years. And I'm concerned we're not on the track for retirement and that the expenses of the building and the debt associated could prevent us from being able to retire when we would like to.
Dave Ramsey
And when you say that to him, what did he say?
Caller
He said he'd be willing to try and rent the building out to help with the expenses, however commercial. There's many vacant commercial buildings in that area. I don't know if his would be nice enough to rent out. I don't know if we'd run into problems with people not paying rent. But I have concerns. I have concerns even with that solution. I mean, obviously that would help. And he has some inventory from the business that he started that he was wishing would have sold by now, but it has not yet. And so I'm concerned, like, when will it sell? We're still paying all these expenses meanwhile. And even when the inventory sold, we'd have a little debt left and we would have property tax and utilities and many things associated with keeping up the building.
Dave Ramsey
So how long have Y' all been married?
Caller
We've been married like close to 35 years.
Dave Ramsey
So how often does he go off and buy a building and doesn't talk to you about it before he does it?
Caller
Well, not usually whole buildings. And this one he did mention, but I was like, well, let's keep it all to cash. But things kind of. There was a lot of expenses associated and he felt his inventory would sell and so he.
Dave Ramsey
Well, let's keep it all to cash. He didn't buy. But he did buy the building.
Caller
Yes, yes. And so I was okay that he was buying the building for cash, but I'm more concerned with the fact we ended up with some debt associated.
George Kamel
So the debt was used to cover expenses for the building because he's working on it.
Caller
It was in really bad shape and he's working on it like every night. He spent a lot of time what it is.
Dave Ramsey
Let me try this again, okay, honey, I'm okay with you buying the building for cash. And then he didn't. He bought a building and renovated it and went into debt. So how often does that happen in 35 years?
Caller
Smaller things like he got a pickup for 3500 once, which we still are using. It's a great pickup. So there are a little bit of things like that.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Kamel
Sounds like he's always got a scheme and a plan.
Dave Ramsey
So what, what do you want to do with the building?
Caller
Well, personally, I just want to get a retirement savings under control, but I realize how much of himself he's invested into the building and how.
Dave Ramsey
What do you want to do with the building?
Caller
Well, I was just me in the marriage, I would sell building.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, then why would you suggest that the two of you keep it?
Caller
He is hoping to use it. It's on a canal. He loves it. He's hoping to use it both for recreation, for family and retirement. And he'd like to try and run a business out of it in retirement.
Dave Ramsey
But you don't believe that's going to happen?
Caller
I believe that he would try and run a business out of it in retirement. My only concern is that there's a lot of expenses with the commercial building.
Property tax is high.
Everything's high. And I feel like it would be hard in retirement to constantly be working to keep up with those expenses, but some people do it. So I'm trying to make sure. Making this call that, okay, so you're
Dave Ramsey
dealing with a bunch of unknowns and your emotions are saying, sell the building. He's dealing with absolutely zero business acumen. He sucks at this because all he's doing is dreaming. I hope someday that we'll use it for the family. Oh, bull crap. Okay, this guy's not written anything down. He doesn't have good business. Proform. If he worked for me and he did this, I'd fire him for incompetence. And you're worrying about something you don't even understand because he's never written anything down. This is all jumbled up between some business and some dream and some family use of a building on canal. None of this is. It's all mixed together. It's jumbled up. It's not a good plan. There's no plan, it's just vague. I like the building. I wanted to buy the building. Now I'm going to renovate the building. Oh, crap. I don't have the $90,000. So now I'm in debt. Oh, now I've got inventory I can't sell. And I don't know about the expenses. And you don't either. You've got this vague sense that there's going to be a bunch of insurance and taxes, which is probably true, but we need to actually look at real numbers. Okay? This is what the building costs to operate. Here's what we can rent it for. Here's the business that we can run out of it. And. And if there's any space left over, the family can enjoy it or the family can. You have the money to eat this. So it becomes a family recreational stop. It becomes a lake house for the summer. The building on the canal. But we've got it all jumbled up with. We can't decide if we're a landlord or we're running a business or we've got a lake house and it's all pushed together so that he can live this dream that's very fuzzy and in the fog. He needs to write all of this down in a business and submit it to you. And the two of you need to look at this with wisdom. And then based on that, if you can see how you actually make money and wanna keep it, fine. But just his little heart's desire is not enough to make it work. I've had a lot of heart's desire at stuff I sucked at and it cost me money and it's called dreaming and it turns into a nightmare. So you have to do a business plan a pro forma and go. Okay, if we rent out this, here's what the rental rates are. Oh, wait. Everything on this whole canal's emp, it's gonna be Very tough to rent.
George Kamel
Doesn't bode well.
Dave Ramsey
So we're probably eating this. Oh, we've got this inventory we bought that we financed, but we can't sell it. So we obviously chose the wrong inventory to purchase because we're in. Didn't have our business head together on that either. I've got some of that myself in the warehouse today over purchase of stuff that I wished we hadn't bought at Ramsey. But it's inventory and you know, it was a dumb butt thing. So you do, you do some of that in business, but you've gotta see your way to this is how we're going to turn this situation into money. And if we're not going to turn it into money, here's the amount of money we have to pay for it anyway and be okay. She's worried that this is taking the rug out from under their whole lives.
George Kamel
Well, there's a sunk cost fallacy. She's going, well, he's invested a lot into it and he really loves it. And it's going to cause you guys to not be able to retire. So you can't have the cake and eat it too here.
Dave Ramsey
I'm guessing they don't have millions of dollars or he wouldn't be $90,000 in debt. I'm guessing.
George Kamel
I just hope the building is worth 170 his 80 put in plus the 90 renovations. I don't know that they can sell it for that much, so I'm worried he overbuilt.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, over, over renovated. Yeah, he got to the party too soon.
George Kamel
How many people are trying to buy $200,000 office buildings in that area if he bought it for 80?
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, exactly.
George Kamel
Oh, this is gonna be a tough conversation because it sounds like he's stubborn and dreaming.
Dave Ramsey
A, you need to get more involved and be involved in the decisions. Your life is involved because it affects you. And B, he needs to approach this with more of a business mind than the mind of a dreamer. Dreaming is good as long as you put work clothes on it and turn it into goals and numbers. Otherwise, dreaming is not what you want to marry your daughter. Oh, daddy, he's a dreamer. Oh God, they're gonna live. In my basem,
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Jacob is in Nashville. Hi Jacob, how are you?
Caller
I'm doing well. Honored to speak with you both.
Dave Ramsey
You too. What's up?
Caller
Yeah, my specific question for you is about the rule that vehicles shouldn't make up more than 50% of your annual salary. Wife and I were 24 and 25. We were recently gifted a vehicle that's worth about three quarters of our annual income and it's about half our net worth right now. So just wondering, you know, it's hard to not think about selling the car and investing that or saving for a down payment or you know, something else.
Dave Ramsey
What, what, what do you guys make?
Caller
We currently take home about 70 a year. My wife's in grad school right now though and we're anticipating when she graduates that'll go up quite a bit.
Dave Ramsey
What's she studying?
Caller
Physical therapy.
Dave Ramsey
Cool. When she graduate?
Caller
August of next year.
Dave Ramsey
So a year plus and passes her boards and then she'll make what, 70, 70 or 80.
Caller
Right around there?
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. Okay, and you make 70 or 80 now, that's your income.
Caller
70?
Dave Ramsey
Yes sir. Okay. And so this is a fifty thousand dollar car.
Caller
It's about 55. I'm looking at comps online.
Dave Ramsey
Where'd it come from?
Caller
From
my dad and stepmom gifted it to us. She got a new vehicle and they just kind of passed it on to us.
Dave Ramsey
So it was a used car that they had and they just gave it
Caller
to you
for the, the price that we could sell our other car for. So for 8, 500 bucks we sold ours and we rolling the check and they gave us this. Okay,
Dave Ramsey
Well there's a good argument both ways. I mean you did not put money in it. You put $8,500 in it. Okay, so if you put 55,000 in it, I'd tell you, sell it today and get your 55,000 back out and start your life smarter. Okay. But you put 8,500 in it and your income is getting ready to double in the next 12 months, which actually makes this thing almost fit. Well, it does fit, depending on what the other car is, you know, so, you know, given the trajectory of your income and that you didn't put money in it, if you like the car, it's fine. It's also some wisdom, what you said. I mean, you're tempted to go. Of course you. What happens with your parents if you sell it? Do they get pissed? Well, part of.
Caller
I wouldn't say pissed. I think part of the reason, you know, the motivation for them giving us this is we had, you know, a 15 year old car with 200,000 miles on it. And my dad never keeps a car past an oil change. He likes new vehicles. So, you know, I think part of the motivation was, hey, let's get my son in a good reliable car and something they can keep a little while.
Dave Ramsey
So they were blessing you. And his version of blessing is a nice car.
George Kamel
Yeah, but good, reliable. That could have been a $20,000 car and you could have used 35 as a down payment.
Caller
Yes, that's correct. And that's kind of what we're thinking about. You know, we're able to cash flow my wife's grad school, so student loans aren't a concern there.
Dave Ramsey
But what is the car?
Caller
It's a. It's a 2023 Toyota 4Runner. Okay.
Dave Ramsey
If. Yeah, if you would you buy a 20. A $20,000 4Runner if you sold it?
Caller
You know, it's funny, the one we sold was a 2015 4Runner with 200,000 miles on it and same trim level and everything. So we definitely find one.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, you definitely like the Toyota product. Okay. It's a good car. We're happy with it. It's a good car.
George Kamel
It'll last forever, and you guys are debt free otherwise. And you got savings in the bank.
Caller
Yep.
We're on baby step four. Except we're not doing a 15% because we're cash flow in grad school right now.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. What I. As long as that you and your wife, and for that matter your parents are aware that from this point forward that you will not be owning vehicles using the same pattern as your dad changing every time the oil's changed, because that will keep you broke. It will steal your wealth. As long as you say I'm not going to intentionally go buy a car with cash or otherwise ever in my life. It's not my plan. This just is something that happened to me. It wasn't something I sat and dreamed about and did something stupid. Okay. It was more like. In other words, this is a one time, good time thing. You're never doing this kind of thing again. Because next time it'll probably be up to you to do it right. And you would never do it again if the two of you, and even for that matter, you explain this to your dad someday. I'm never doing this again. I took this only because it was a gift. So because it was a gift and didn't cost you anything, hardly 8,500, and because your income's going to double in the next 14 or 15 months, I'd probably keep it. What do you think?
George Kamel
Yeah. I mean, if your income was like 50 grand a year household and never going up, this is way. Yeah. This is just too much car for your life. And you could be doing way better with it. But with your income, this is not a ridiculous car that, that you would never own. It's not a Lamborghini that you're paying crazy insurance on. Yeah, that's a good point.
Dave Ramsey
If you got a sustainable vehicle, they hand you a $250,000 Lambo. I'd be telling you to sell it.
Caller
Sure.
George Kamel
Just the maintenance repairs on it. But a Toyota, you're like, all right, that's gonna last long.
Dave Ramsey
$55,000 to keep the Lambo running. Exactly. Yeah.
George Kamel
So I would take this as a nice one time blessing. And it might take you longer than you wanted to to get that house now.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. Don't use this as a way to adjust the way you look at money in vehicles, though. This is an aberration. It's a one time event. Okay. As long as it doesn't shift the way you're thinking. In other words, you called me because it doesn't line up with what you believe. Right. It doesn't line up with what we believe. And you wanted to ask about that. Cause you somewhat believed it. If you weren't worried about it, you wouldn't have called. So as long as you stay on that side of the fence, I'm good. I just don't want this to go well. I did it that one time and it works. I'm gonna keep doing this, this thing for the. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. You don't. Don't use this as the rationalization to go into the next Deal.
George Kamel
Well, the good news is if they sold it, next oil change Dad's got, they're getting a different car. Hey, just keep doing this, you'll be wealthy in no time.
Dave Ramsey
We never buy tires, we just trade the car.
George Kamel
I mean, you got to be wealthy enough to absorb that kind of hit. If you're just flying through cars like
Dave Ramsey
that, man, it's just. And the problem is I just love cars.
George Kamel
I know.
Dave Ramsey
I'm just such a car.
George Kamel
I knew you were gonna be. They hit your softball.
Dave Ramsey
Here's the interesting thing. You know when we talk to baby steps millionaires and say, okay, you know, what's Your net worth? 1.7 million. What do you drive? Toyota. What's your wife drive? A 15 year old piece of crap. Would you get your wife a good car? You know, that kind of thing. Right? But we hear that every time the wife drives an old piece of crap and the guy's got a Toyota, why punish yourself? Or vice versa. Yeah, the Toyota always comes up though. I think it is the most driven car by baby steps millionaires, you know, and, you know, a nice Toyota, a good one, but. But not. I mean, not, not some worn out piece of crap, but.
George Kamel
And then Honda was up there. Lexus is up there too, with millionaires.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, yeah, we hear them. We don't hear Lambos, man. Kelly is in Los Angeles. Hi, Kelly. What's up?
Caller
Hi. Hi.
Thank you for taking my call.
Dave Ramsey
Sure. How can we help?
Caller
Okay, so I just inherited some savings bonds, series I. They were Both issued in 2003 and 2006. So I can pull them out if I want to and disperse them originally. Yeah, just cash them out. Pay off my debt.
Dave Ramsey
Yep.
George Kamel
How much is it?
Caller
$33,000 now.
Dave Ramsey
And how much is your debt?
Caller
25,000.
Dave Ramsey
And what do you owe the debt on?
Caller
Credit cards.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so let's pretend that you didn't have any debt. Would you go borrow money on a credit card to buy an I bond?
Caller
No.
Okay. I didn't know because I've been listening to you since February. So thank you. You have turned my brain around. Yeah, I've been listening, trying to see how you feel about those savings bonds.
Dave Ramsey
I'm not mad at them. My granny used to give them to us and we would cash them in and put them in mutual funds for our kids college. And she would say, how those bonds doing? I said, great, right? It's true.
George Kamel
Technically true.
Caller
Because like I would love to pay off the debt, like since I've started doing the baby steps, like I'm just so Excited.
Good.
Dave Ramsey
I'm so excited. And you're going to cut up the cards, right? That's the big chopping the cards up.
Caller
What do you mean you have to cut them up? They're done. They're long gone.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, good for you. Oh, you're rocking it, Kelly.
Caller
I love you.
They're done. They're so done.
Dave Ramsey
Not even so Cool. So where do the ibonds come from?
Caller
From my parents. I inherited them.
Dave Ramsey
They passed away?
Caller
Yeah. I had to go through probate and everything. It was miserable.
Dave Ramsey
I'm sorry.
Caller
Yeah. So anyone out there that's listening, like, do a living trust, or at least a will.
Dave Ramsey
Definitely have a will. You can go through probate. You can go through probate like a hot knife through butter. If you just got a will, it's not a big deal. But if you have to go in there and the judge has to think about everything, it's not good. Don't let judges think, think.
George Kamel
I bet they're smiling.
Dave Ramsey
They're slowing.
George Kamel
You become debt free, too. That's pretty cool. It's a nice legacy.
Dave Ramsey
Very good. Good for you, Kelly. Debt free. Never use a credit card again the rest of your whole life.
Caller
Foreign.
Dave Ramsey
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Caller
I'm doing well.
How are you guys? Thanks for taking my call.
Dave Ramsey
Sure. What's up?
Caller
Yeah, so my husband and I have been in our home about 14 years. We have a manufactured home on an acre and a quarter of land. And we've just came into the situation thinking that we would always build a home there. One day I ended up staying home with kids and we haven't done that. It's been a blessing to us. However, we are trying to just plan ahead for what our next steps are as the home is definitely in need of maybe a second overhaul of repairs. But we're not sure we want to dump that kind of money into it with knowing that we're not going to see that return. One more detail about the home is that it is on its second location, which at 24 year old, 24 years old, we didn't realize how much of an issue that was for financing. So to list the home would be difficult to find a buyer. Of course, it just takes one. But it would be a private financing situation. So just a little unsure what to do there. Do we stay? Do we go? Quite a bit of equity.
Dave Ramsey
There's so many things it can be when you describe it as a manufactured home. So is this sitting on a foundation?
Caller
Yes, it is. It is above ground, but yes, it is secured and all of that. Yeah, with her.
Dave Ramsey
But when I drive up to it, I think double wide.
Caller
Yes, you would.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
All right. And so when the buyer drives up to it, they think double wide. And so it's gone down in value while the acre has gone up in value.
Caller
That's correct, yes. And we also would need probably a cash buyer which would also bring our.
Dave Ramsey
What do you owe on all of this?
Caller
We owe about 70,000.
Dave Ramsey
And what is the one acre worth?
Caller
So in our surrounding area, the same acre and a quarter is anywhere between 250 and 350.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. All right. And have you had any suggestions on what you would list the property for?
Caller
Yeah, we've heard some. Some pretty low. Like just list it for 350. But then we've also heard start at 500.
Dave Ramsey
I've heard a lot of stuff, but I'm asking what the actual value is. What I'm trying to figure out is it sounds to me like the trailer is probably not worth much.
Caller
Right. And we have.
Dave Ramsey
If you picked the trailer up and sold it, what would it go for?
Caller
So we, this was maybe five years ago before I resigned. We had. We were going to go like trade it in or sell it to a private trailer park. And they were offering us about 40,000 then.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
So if you could get 20,000 for it and get 350 for the land and separate the two. You're probably going to end up more that way than trying to get someone to finance a trailer on a $300,000 piece of dirt.
Caller
Right. And we have had homes on our street similar in size. Also, manufactured homes sell between five and six within that range.
Dave Ramsey
Similar age and condition.
Caller
Similar age.
Ours is.
Dave Ramsey
How did they sell theirs?
Caller
1400 square feet. So they. So the manufactured homes can be financed conventionally an fha. However, ours has been. We did not know at the time, but it's on its second location, which takes away the option of conventional and FHA financing.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so you've lost that ability. So you can't really compare your situation to the $600,000 situation. You've got more of a $400,000 situation.
Caller
True.
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so you're experiencing what people that buy mobile homes experience, that they go down in value dramatically. And they. And it has. And you basically have consumed the living quarters while the land went up.
Caller
Right. And we did close at 105 when we bought it. So, you know, we're not.
Dave Ramsey
No, listen, I don't want you to believe that narrative because you still got screwed. You closed at 105, but the land is the only thing that's saving this and making it feel okay. If you closed at 105 and the trailer was worth 10, then you would really be experiencing what has happened.
Caller
Right.
Dave Ramsey
So, no, the manufacturing housing was not a good investment. If you had bought a home for 105 or 150, you'd be sitting at 700 right now.
Caller
Now.
Dave Ramsey
So, no, it still was not a good idea. And we're not gonna. We don't want to repeat this, nor do we want to endorse this, but we're still here. So I think, you know, I would get in touch with one of our smartvestor. I'm sorry, one of our Ramsey trusted real estate agents to see if they know some financing in the Phoenix area for this that can get the value up. Otherwise, I'm going to separate the two, dump the trailer and sell the land.
George Kamel
I think it's gonna be tough to find that buyer in that sweet spot. Who wants.
Dave Ramsey
I was not aware of what she was saying that FHA would not second location. The moving the trailer once makes it not work anymore.
George Kamel
Is it just too much risk for the.
Dave Ramsey
I don't know. I don't know. I don't understand. I did not know that. I knew FHA would finance them in some cases if you put them on a permanent foundation. That's why I was Asking about that.
George Kamel
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And. And the piece of ground goes with it. Obviously they don't finance them in a trailer park, but yeah, the good news
George Kamel
is the land will sell.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, the good news is the land is going to be your financial salvation in this.
George Kamel
But the dirt would have went up in value with or without a trailer on it.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. If you just bought the dirt, it would have gone from, you know, probably whatever you paid, but you probably didn't pay anything for it. Sounds like you got a great deal on the dirt. But, yeah, that's the thing. But you need to keep those things very separate in your mind as you do the analysis and tell yourself the story of what has happened. And it sounds like you need to separate them in order to sell it. But get in touch with one of the Ramsey trusted real estate agents. Call a couple of them and ask them if they know anything about mobile homes or manufactured housing in your area and so on. So, guys, there's a real spectrum of things. When you say manufactured housing to. If someone's saying that to you, let me walk you through that. There's a trailer, single, wide, double wide with a couple of axles, and they roll it down with a wide load sticker across the back down the highway and they set it on a piece of dirt and you put a septic tank or you hook it to sewer and you build a concrete foundation under it. And you're living in a trailer, okay? That's going to go down in value faster than a car that you sleep in, because that's what it is, a car you sleep in. Okay? It's a horrible investment. Well, it's all we could afford. It's a horrible investment. You'd have been better off renting and saving your money to buy something that goes up in value. Don't buy those, okay? And my buddy that owns a manufacturing company, one of those gets mad at me, he's like, don't tell people that. And I'm like, hey, when they go, quit going down. I'll quit telling them, okay? They go down. Then there's manufactured housing that is looks like a trailer, but it's not quite. It's like big sections and they bring it in, bolt it all together and it's modular and that kind of thing. It's a step in, and it still is going to go down in value when you walk. Reason I ask her the question is from a real estate agent's perspective, and I've been a real estate agent since 1970, when you walk up in the front yard and you look at it, if you think trailer or if you think a builder built this, that's the two different things. If you think a builder built it, when you look at it, you're probably going up in value. The last end of the spectrum on manufactured housing is there's actual factories that build wall sections. They put them on a 18 wheeler, they deliver the wall sections, the floor sections, the pre engineered trusses, the tree engineered floor systems with the heat and air built into it, the whole thing. And they put it all together together. And when you're done, it's basically a stick built house and it has nothing to do with the trailer world. Those are perfectly fine. Let me tell you what I get asked all the time, when should I get term life insurance? How much do I need? Is it affordable? Those are the right questions to be asking. So let's take a quick review. The fact is, term life isn't a baby step. So if anyone is dependent on your income, you need to have 10 to 12 times your income in life insurance now. And most people are surprised by how affordable term life really is. Even if you're not in perfect health. Health. Look, I understand the hesitation since most insurance companies make it more of a hassle than it needs to be. Not at Zander Insurance. They're not an insurance company, they're a broker that works for you. That means they'll shop and compare the top term life companies to find the most competitive options on the coverage for your family. For almost 30 years, I've recommended Zander for straight answers, competitive race and coverage that actually protects your family. Call 800-356-4282 or go to zander.com for a quick and easy quote. That's zander.com. Stacy's in Chicago. Hi Stacy, how are you?
Caller
Hey, I'm good.
How are you doing?
Dave Ramsey
Better than we deserve. What's up in your world?
Caller
Hey.
So we have a situation where we've
got our oldest daughter heading to college. She's going to be a college freshman this year. And we have done a pretty good job saving for retirement, but we have done a horrible job saving for our kids college education. And we just kind of thought we had more time than we did and now we're being smacked in the face with it. So we really don't have anything saved for her for college. So. So with her coming up right now and we have two more coming up after her, I'm just wondering what the best way to approach this is. I just was listening to some of your previous calls. On people who are tens of hundreds of thousands of dollars in student loan debt. And I'm really just trying to approach this in the smartest way that we can.
Dave Ramsey
Good for you.
Caller
For her.
Dave Ramsey
What's your. What's your household income?
Caller
Or just a little over 200,000.
Dave Ramsey
Good. Okay. I'm going to ask you a real practical question, and it is a leading question. I'll warn you ahead of time. Okay.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
Why is she going to college? What's she want from college?
Caller
She is going to be majoring in mechanical engineering. She has a lot of motivation, a lot of drive, a lot of ambition.
Dave Ramsey
Excellent. Excellent. When we did the study of the largest study of millionaires ever done, we studied 10,167 of them. The number one career of people that become millionaires is engineer.
Caller
Wow. Well, my husband. My husband's an engineer, too.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. And you guys have experienced that because you have a wonderful household income.
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
All right, so it's just him.
Caller
I don't.
Dave Ramsey
So I applaud the career choice. Okay. Now the next thing is this. No one except her sorority sisters care where she graduated from college. Absolutely no mechanical engineer has. Well, no less than One half of 1% of engineering jobs are awarded based on where the engineer went to school.
Caller
Absolutely. I agree with that.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so what we want to do is we want to get the engineering degree by spending the least money possible.
Caller
Yes.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. So that. That there's a series of leading questions because we're taking you somewhere. George and I do this all the time. So what that means is we may go to community college for the first two years and just get the basics out of the way because there's no engineering in the first two years anyway.
Caller
Well, so the really great thing is she actually. Our high school actually offers a lot of. Of dual enrollment credits going into college with a lot of credit.
Dave Ramsey
So she can blow off a lot of her freshman year.
Caller
Yes.
Dave Ramsey
Good.
George Kamel
Well, yeah, she just leapfrog some of that.
Dave Ramsey
Good, good.
George Kamel
So what does she already. She already heading into college? Is she already chosen?
Caller
She is, yes. She's going to Iowa State University. So there's a state school. It's not our state, but.
George Kamel
But she's paying out of state tuition.
Caller
Yes.
Why?
That's where she chose to go.
Dave Ramsey
She doesn't get to choose. She doesn't have any money.
Caller
Well, that's true.
George Kamel
If I'm paying for dinner, I'm going to choose where we go to eat.
Dave Ramsey
And I'm not going to. I'm not going to endorse paying something because we drove across the state line. There's no value in having driven across the state line. Added to the quality of her education.
George Kamel
Did she tell you why she wanted to go to that school?
Caller
Well, there's lots of reasons. It's a very good engineering school. A lot of friends are going there. She felt comfortable there. She didn't get into our state school. They have a very competitive engineering program and she did not get in there. So we were kind of forced to look out.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so as we have studied the student loan debacle over the years, actually did a major award winning documentary on it called Borrowed Future. We find the number one cause of student loan debt is college choice. That's why we're coming down hard on this.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
In other words, I don't think she's.
Caller
I don't think we're in an excessive amount.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so what is the tuition out of state for Iowa State per year?
Caller
We're looking about 30,000.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
Because average tuition in America right now is 12,000. For instance, state.
Caller
Oh, my gosh.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so we need to do some research and we need to do some thinking because otherwise this kid's going to end up $150,000 in student loan debt. Right, because her friends went there. Because her friends weren't there. And nobody gives a crap where her friends went. They won't even be her friends in a decade.
George Kamel
They may not be friends in a year.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, but so, yeah, college choice. College choice. College choice. College choice. And then do as much free stuff as you can do. She's done a good job as a high schooler, taking some dual stuff where she got a lot of credits. That's great. She can jump through a lot of her freshman year. That'll save you a lot on cost. But if I'm paying for it, we're gonna go to the least possible expensive place to get you this degree. And really your little feelings don't enter into it with me. I'm sorry.
George Kamel
And I'd have her working part time.
Dave Ramsey
You can tell your therapist about your feelings. I'm paying for this.
George Kamel
I love this stat, Dave. Studies show students who work 15 to 20 hours a week while taking classes have a higher GPA than those who don't. That's what the research shows. So if you're scared your kid's going to flunk out of class because they have a part time job, the opposite is.
Dave Ramsey
They're working and they just don't have time to play beer pong.
George Kamel
They're more focused. They actually learn discipline and Schedules. So I'd have her working applying for scholarships.
Dave Ramsey
I know several people who got a degree in fraternity, and one that got a degree in sorority, meaning they never graduated. They were laying under a keg of beer. And so, you know, this is. We all know these people. I mean, people that were.
George Kamel
Had a part of the college experience.
Dave Ramsey
And I don't think that's going to happen to Stacy's daughter.
George Kamel
No, not for mechanical engineering.
Dave Ramsey
No. This kid's actually smart kid, but we need to add to her smart wisdom. And wisdom is we go where mom and dad can pay for it. They make 200,000. You're going to be working, you're going to get scholarships. And college choice, the formula when you're broke for your kid to go to school. And so.
George Kamel
And then if you can and you want cash flow, what's left?
Dave Ramsey
Stacey, what that means is I don't. I don't think you're going to do it because of the way the sentences were formed in this conversation. But if I could talk you guys into doing something, I would disappoint her and withdraw from Iowa State at $30,000 a year. And I would find a school you can afford, because you can't afford 30,000 plus room and board. So we're at 60. 50 or 60 now, out of your 200. Oh, and you got two more coming on. What are we going to do with that?
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
So we got to have a plan here. And the plan is college choice. College choice. College choice, which includes two years of community college. And get the basics out of the way for free or close to free. And also add to it scholarships, Scholarships, Scholarships, Scholarships by Christina Ellis's book, how I got $500,000 to go to College and Free Scholarships. Yeah, she did it. And she's out there talking about it right now. And, of course, also work while you're in school. You put those things together, people can go to school with no student loan debt. And if you come out with a degree in mechanical engineering with no student loan debt, you're going to own the world in about four years. Years. It's pretty crazy, the advantage that this disappointment could give this kid. Otherwise, she's gonna spend the first four years after she gets out of school paying because she went to school where
George Kamel
her friends went, and that's gonna stunt her adult growth, where she wants to buy a house and have a family and do all these things, and she's gonna feel trapped because she's got 150 grand to pay off. So that's tough. It's a good reminder though, that parents
Dave Ramsey
are not all about disappointing people for their own good. It's like what I do for a living. So because I love you and I want the 10 year old, 10 year from now version of you to think that we were mean to you because we love you, we disappointed you because we love you and because we want good things for you. And I really don't care about your childish little emotions, you know, it just doesn't. I'm just oblivious to it. I'm old and grouchy and so I just want you to win. I just want you to win. I want this kid, man, the number one career of millionaires. And she's good at it and she's smart and she's the oldest child and she's gonna set the pattern for the next two. And you got the decisions you all make right now in the middle of all this and all the emotions that you all are all going to go through are going to be worth every bit of the arguments and the fights and the tears and the problems. It's just odd.
Caller
Fair.
Dave Ramsey
Well, fair is where the tilta whirl and the cotton candy is. There's not a fair. Sorry.
George Kamel
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Caller
Not much. I just appreciate you taking my call. So my question today is I'm starting a brand new career, trying to rebuild my life pretty much from the bottom. I'm down, up. I just discovered your show and your information and started going through some of your books. But I'm in a significant amount of debt and a very low income at this point. Starting a brand new career. I want to dig myself out of debt with a very limited income.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. Why, if you have a new career, did you choose one that has a limited income?
Caller
So I went into truck driving
and
I got my cdl and when I was looking into the careers in my area, I was looking at, you know, bringing home 65,000 a year. But with my weekly pay and child support coming out, I'm bringing home significantly less than what I expected.
Dave Ramsey
You single?
Caller
I am single, yes.
Dave Ramsey
Why don't you drive over the road and make three times that?
Caller
I. That's what I do. Right now. It's over the road truck driver.
Dave Ramsey
Well, you're not making 65 then.
Caller
No, no, I'm like, I'm at like 39 right now.
Dave Ramsey
No, you make more driving over the road, not less.
Caller
Yeah, so I'm over the road. Truck driver. Just like first month into truck driving.
Yeah.
And I get raises every three months.
Dave Ramsey
How much are they paying you a month?
Caller
So right now, like I bring home after child support is taken out, I make about 3 to 500 a week.
Dave Ramsey
How much child support is coming out?
Caller
$883 a month. I just got that lowered from 1200amonth.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, you. You. You need to go shopping on your career because you're not being paid enough to drive over the road. Over the road should be making a lot more than you make make.
Caller
Yeah. And like, that's kind of like what I'm seeing right now.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. Like, that's the lowest over the road price I've heard and I don't know when.
Caller
Yeah. And like, I went with a mega carrier because I didn't have the experience necessary to get the, like, local jobs that are paying like 65 to 85 to 100k.
Dave Ramsey
I'm sorry, I'm having trouble communicating with you. Over the road makes more than local. Most over the road truck drivers, we talk to make north of 100.
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And you're making like 30.
Caller
Yeah.
George Kamel
Entry level.
Dave Ramsey
You should be making more than not entry level. I mean, this is just. Doesn't mean. Doesn't even add up. How old are you?
Caller
I'm 36.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. All right. And how much debt do you have, honey?
Caller
75K.
Dave Ramsey
On what?
Caller
So I owe my mom $20,000. I have $25,000 in student lo. I have a car that's way too expensive. It was a horrible decision at 34,000 and then $8,000 in credit card debt. Right.
Dave Ramsey
So when. When will the car be sold?
Caller
I'm looking into how to sell it right now because I can't afford the car. Obviously the car was a horrible decision.
Dave Ramsey
Yes.
George Kamel
How far underwater are you? What's it worth?
Caller
Is worth 22,000 to 25,000. Who said? Just looking it up on Kelly Blue Book. For private sale or trade in private sales, like 22. And then our trade ins 22 and then private sale was 25. That's according to.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
All right, so you're 9,000 in the hole. Who do you owe this 34,000 to that you got screwed by Ally Financial?
Caller
Oh, God.
Dave Ramsey
So you're paying 1516, huh?
Caller
Yeah.
So it was a really bad situation. I really regret it. I wish I would have started listening to you much sooner in life.
Dave Ramsey
What's the car?
Caller
It's a 2023 GMC Terrain Denali.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. Dealer. They completely. They completely set you up, knocked you down, man. Oh, God. All right, so what do you owe your mom 20 grand for?
Caller
Because when I. I was working at a nursing home, and then, like, I'll be honest, I have some mental health issues like bipolar, PTSD and Something like that. And I was starting a new career at a new nursing home, and I got behind on my child support, and I was in enforcement, so she helped me out with that. And then I got caught up with my child support.
I'm currently.
Dave Ramsey
So you didn't pay for like, two years?
Caller
No, it was more like six months.
Dave Ramsey
I thought it was 800amonth.
Caller
It was $1200 a month.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, well, six months times 12 is seven.
Caller
And I think I had, like 1200.
Dave Ramsey
Serve in the military.
Caller
Law enforcement.
Dave Ramsey
Law enforcement. And that's what your PTSD is from?
Caller
Yes.
Dave Ramsey
Are you on any kind of a disability from that?
Caller
No, I. I've been really just working on trying to, like, really just get on my feet by working and, like.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. All right, here's what. Here's what I'm gonna do. You got a lot going on, honey. And I'm gonna hook you up with one of our Ramsey coaches that we have trained as a gift. We're not gonna charge you a dime for it. All right? And what I need you to do is I need you to get this car sold as soon as you possibly can. You're gonna find the $9,000 to cover the hole you're in. Cause Allied has completely screwed you, honey. And you gotta get rid of this. The faster you get rid of this, the lower your pain's gonna be. So let's get rid of it really, really fast. And then the second thing I want you to do is I really want you to study over the road truck driving out there. That's. Go online and start seeing what people are paying for it. Because I think you're being dramatically underpaid there. Unless there's something I'm missing in this equation. So I need you to get your income up and get rid of that car and then develop a game plan on each one of these elements that we're talking about. And you'll be able to walk that through. But I need somebody to hold your hand and do that more than we can do on a phone call.
Caller
Okay.
George Kamel
And cut up those credit cards if you still got.
Caller
Got them.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, for sure.
George Kamel
Because that's just going to allow you to go further into debt, which is going to make this.
Dave Ramsey
When you're on the road and, you know, you get, you know, something matching up just right. And you go in and you get buy. Buy whatever you want to buy to feel better that day on a credit card. It's not a good idea either. So you got to clean those up. George is exactly right. So you hang on and Christian will pick up. We'll hook you up with one of our coaches as a gift because it sounds like somebody needs to hold your hand a little bit and help you. You get up, get straightened around on a couple of these things. But the two big things you've got to do, you got to get rid of this car. Three things. You got to cut up the credit cards, you got to get rid of the car, and we've got to get your income up. And the first place I'm going to look is I don't understand why you're so dramatically underpaid for what the typical over the road driver's making right now. So I want you to understand what's going on there. There's something that I'm missing in this puzzle piece here, in this phone call, but it's out there somewhere.
George Kamel
There'll be a new man. If you can get rid of that car and get your income up, you're gonna be able to breathe. Now we can knock out the rest of this debt in a reasonable amount of time and get our life back.
Dave Ramsey
And in the process, as you're with your therapist working on PTSD and bipolar, work on decision making frameworks with them. How they help put you putting new pathways in your brain in place to help you make quality decisions because you've been bumping around between some bad ones lately.
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Today's question comes from Stella In Kentucky. I entered a sweepstakes for a cruise to Paris and the French countryside. And to my surprise, I was the winner. The only cost to us is airfare and hotel stays before or after the cruise. My husband and I didn't have a honeymoon and this feels like a once in a lifetime opportunity. The holdup is we are in baby step two and don't have any extra savings for travel. Friends have suggested getting a credit card just for this trip, but we both feel uncomfortable with that. Part of me knows that I should just take the win as a cool thing that happened but not financially smart to partake in. But the free spirited side of me is devastated thinking about losing this opportunity. What should we do? I don't love being a dream killer, but I'm about to kill the dream Stella. I would not go on this cruise because it ain't free. If it costs you $10,000 in airfare and hotel stays while you guys are in debt, that's one man's take.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. So the great news is France will still be there.
George Kamel
I hope so.
Dave Ramsey
And you can go later. They're not going to move it. It's still going to be there. There'll still be cruises and better ones than this one. This one sounds like a setup. Ben is in Nashville. Hi, Ben. How are you?
Caller
Hey, Dave. I'm doing well and I'm really excited to talk to you. You're the man.
Dave Ramsey
You too. Sir. How can we help?
Caller
Well, I'm 28 years old. I just got engaged.
George Kamel
Yay.
Dave Ramsey
When you get married?
Caller
Well, that's kind of the big question. Right? Is we really want to get married. And I'd love to do it as soon as possible.
Dave Ramsey
Good.
Caller
But I don't know if I should get debt free first to make sure marriage off in the right foot. No,
Dave Ramsey
we never tell people, we never tell people to get out of debt before they get married. Ever. Or have babies.
Caller
Right.
Even if the, the, you know, the wedding could cost, you know, even on our budget wedding, we're kind of looking at like maybe like 10 or $15,000.
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
So what.
George Kamel
That's reasonable. Are you guys.
Dave Ramsey
You're gonna get Help paying for it. You got to pay for it.
Caller
I gotta pay for it. And that's what's making me a little nervous.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, what do you got? What do you mean?
Caller
Make?
So this year I'm in sales and I'm going to be making. I'm on track to make about $100,000. Cool.
Dave Ramsey
What she make?
Caller
She makes just about like 30,000 right now. She's serving. She's a waitress.
Dave Ramsey
And how old are you guys?
Caller
I'm 28, she's 25.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, and how much debt do you have?
Caller
Well, it's consumer debt. So I've got about 18,000 on the, the aut automobile loan. And then I've got about 7,500 in credit card debt, which I am fixing to pay off actually next week. I've got a, you know, my bonus check coming in. 7,500 bucks in debt. And the bonus check will be around $9,000.
Dave Ramsey
Awesomeness. Fantastic. Very cool. And then you've got a car payment left. And what debt does she have?
Caller
Her debt a lot smaller than mine. I mean, she just owes a little bit more on her car. So hers is about, I think like 1500 that she has on her car. And we wanted to tackle this credit card debt first and then take care of her car loan and then, you know, start chipping away at the principal on mine.
Okay,
Dave Ramsey
well, what I would do if I woke up in your shoes is I would pay off the credit card debt and her and her car debt with your bonus check. I don't usually have you pay somebody's debt that you're not married to, but it's 1,500 bucks. It's not the end of the world. So we're done. I mean, okay.
Caller
Right. And I love her, man. I'm excited to marry her.
Dave Ramsey
I still wouldn't pay her debt if it was 15,000. The answer would still be no. Okay, so. And then I would just pay your car payment and both of you get on as tight a budget as you can get on and stack cash for the wedding and set your wedding budget at 10 grand. And when you got 10 grand, make it work. And you should do that by like September.
Caller
Okay. Yeah. Do you think, you think that just like setting aside like bonus checks and stuff?
Dave Ramsey
I think you make a hundred thousand dollars a year. Shut up. Quit going to restaurants.
George Kamel
What are your expenses as a single 28 year old guy?
Caller
Well, rent right now.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
Caller
How much is rent? Right now is about 1600 bucks.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, she's making 30. She living with her mom and dad.
Caller
She knows.
She.
She does live with me, which I know is against the Ramsey rules.
Dave Ramsey
You're definitely. Yeah. Okay. But stack cash. Each of you stack cash as high as you can. Stack it as fast as you can. With 130 coming into the two of you, you should come up with 10 grand very quickly and have a budget wedding and it's going to be awesome.
Caller
Yeah. What do you. I mean, what do you recommend? Because, you know, I think with the.
Dave Ramsey
Wait a minute. I'm going to change my mind. I'm going to change my mind. I'm sure. Sorry. I got new information and I didn't
George Kamel
process it fast enough that they're already living together.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Kamel
Getting married this weekend.
Dave Ramsey
That's the one.
George Kamel
I knew it. Dave loves a little courthouse wedding on a weekend.
Dave Ramsey
And then. And then I want you to have a celebration that cost ten grand in September. Okay.
George Kamel
You know, combine your lines because you already have.
Dave Ramsey
Wait a minute. What are you saying, Ben?
Caller
Well, that's something that we've talked about. And I gotta say, she looked really upset when I kind of said maybe we could elope. I think she just had.
Has that.
Dave Ramsey
That dream of like she moved in with you.
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
This is not exactly a white dress we're walking down the aisle in. Okay. We gave up the little Barbie and Ken wedding a while back when we decided to shack up. Y' all do what you want to do, but I. There's no way I. I'm getting married this weekend. If you're going to get married, you're going to do this. And I think you are. That's what I would do if I woke up in your shop. Because you're playing house. And the longer you play house, the more trouble you're going to get in. And you're going to call, you're going to get yourself in all kinds of messes.
George Kamel
And anecdotally I found that people that are living together before they're married, it takes them so long to actually end
Dave Ramsey
up getting married, they can't seem to get off the ladder. They just keep painting.
George Kamel
Just an eight year engagement.
Dave Ramsey
Just get off the ladder.
Caller
God.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, it's just. Yeah. When are we getting married? I don't know. Someday we're not gonna have the perfect wedding. Meanwhile, we're just acting like we're married.
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
No, I'm sorry, Ben. I have very little patience for that. I'm sorry. Her little girl dreams disappeared, but she gave them up a while back. She signed up for a different trip than the one she had when she was 8 years old in her head. So, yeah, I, you know, now we're down to making adult decisions with adults, money in adult situations. So that's what I would do. You guys do what you want to do. But I think you can have your celebration with $10,000 and not have your car paid off. And no, we don't make people get out of debt before they get married. We want them to be in agreement that we're not going into debt going forward and in agreement on how we're going to handle our money after we're married, before you get married. But, you know, we've had people call up and the girl says, well, he says he won't marry me till I pay off the debt. And I'm like, yeah, he gets you a different boyfriend.
George Kamel
I would not marry.
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And so, you know, you get to give me a task. It's not how this works, buddy. So, you know, that's. That's not Ben's situation. But we get those all the time, so we don't do that. And the other one is the babies. You know, babies don't cost as much as everybody talks about. They do cost money, and you do need to be responsible. And if you're broke and on welfare, you don't need to have 16 of them. Okay? But deciding to have a baby and you got a $27,000 student loan. Have the baby, for goodness sakes. You can get out of the student loan debt. Don't wait around on babies. Have babies. Babies are the best things you can do and do that after you're married. By the way. Hello. There's a success sequence that we talk about here on the show all the time. It causes you to win financially as well as in a whole bunch of other areas of your life relationally and everything else. So, Ben, the bad news is we're not going to be real popular with your fiance. The good news is we did tell you to get married now, so maybe she'll like us a little bit anyway. And we didn't tell you to wait to get out of debt to get married. And we didn't even tell you to sell your car.
George Kamel
That was very nice of you, Dave. I was waiting for it.
Dave Ramsey
I thought George was going to jump in.
George Kamel
I actually was kind of like, if you really love her, sell the car. If you really want to be debt free so badly before you get married, go ahead and sell this car.
Dave Ramsey
But we're also saying you don't have to be debt free. You just have to be in agreement on it. And then as soon as September's done and the celebration is done of the wedding that actually happened back in July, then we lean in on the car and we pay for it very, very quickly. And that's the plan.
George Kamel
So you come, you get married this weekend. Come by next week. I'll give you a wedding gift. How about that?
Caller
Sure.
George Kamel
Come dye the studio.
Dave Ramsey
What are you going to do, give him a copy of your book?
George Kamel
Yeah, I'll give him all your stuff, whatever he wants out here.
Dave Ramsey
All my stuff?
George Kamel
Yeah. It's on your tab.
Dave Ramsey
We'll give him some of yours too.
George Kamel
Fine.
Dave Ramsey
All
Caller
right.
Dave Ramsey
Welcome back to the Ramsey show in the Fairway WINS Credit Union studio. I'm Dave Ramsey, your host. George Camel, Ramsey personality, is my co host today. Jessica is in Raleigh, North Carolina. Hi, Jessica. How are you?
Caller
I'm doing well.
And you?
Dave Ramsey
Better than I deserve. What's up?
Caller
So I am a single mom of three, ages 13, 11 and 8. I have my children 100% of the time. And their dad passed away last year. So I started receiving like Social Security funds for them, death, death funds for them from their dad's Social Security. And so I changed jobs and careers last year as well. So I doubled my income making around 40, $45,000 a year to bringing home close to $90,000 a year.
Dave Ramsey
How old are you?
Caller
I'm 38.
Dave Ramsey
What happened to him?
Caller
And I was divorced and single for the last six years. I've recently started dating the last two years, but I've always been.
Dave Ramsey
How did he pass away?
Caller
Unexpected.
I did not know he was using drugs and ended up giving him a heart attack and he died in his sleep.
Dave Ramsey
How are the kiddos doing? Did they have much connection with him?
Caller
They did, but they didn't.
They saw him every other weekend but
towards the last few months of their
visits over there, we live like 15 minutes apart. They were kind of getting a little bit separated from there. They just saw activity there. They just knew wasn't right.
Dave Ramsey
And so wow, you guys, you guys have been through it.
Caller
Yeah, he. I just, I been the bigger part
and the most responsible out of our relationship. We were married for almost 10 years. He walked out from an affair and he stopped paying child support roughly in 21. And I was.
Dave Ramsey
So how much do you receive in Social Security benefits?
Caller
That's where I'd like to get to. So I receive close to $4,000 a month in Social Security benefits for them. And I don't know exactly what I should do with this money if it's
Dave Ramsey
to Help pay off budget.
Caller
That's what I was thinking. Between my home, because of my income that I make myself, and then there's. I almost look at it as, like, child support in a way. It's exactly that I didn't receive through
Dave Ramsey
the time they were replacing his income, and his income was being used for child support, and Social Security replaced his income. That's what it's supposed to do. It's not supposed to go into trust for the children in their future. Meanwhile, they starve today. So it costs more than four grand a month to raise three kids, including food, electricity, shelter, gasoline to take them to school, clothing, and so on. And so it's gonna take that and more to raise them. Agreed?
Caller
Agreed. Yes, sir.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. So it's your money to use for your children, and you're a good mom, and you're gonna use it for your kids.
Caller
That's really helpful. I sat down with my FPU leader last summer to help budget this out when I started receiving this stuff. And I just kind of been letting that money pile up and use it here and there. And I've got about almost $30,000 sitting there. So I was like, do I use this to pay off my debt? Because I have. I've now, as of today, paid $50,000, $56,000 in debt since last summer. And I've got 125 left.
Dave Ramsey
125 on one.
Caller
I only have $30,000 in student loans left. I actually tried to start a food truck business about a year and a half, two years ago, and I ran it for about a year, running three other jobs, trying to just make ends meet for me and my kids. And I couldn't keep running myself ragged until I got this position last year with a friend.
Dave Ramsey
I'm sorry. 30,000 in student loans, 125 in debt. So what is the other 90?
Caller
I got a HELOC loan for the business that I tried to do.
That's.
That's at 40 right now. And then I purchased an SUV last fall because of having three older children. A small car was just kind of getting a little bit too tight fit for me and having three.
Dave Ramsey
And how much do you owe on the SUV?
Caller
53.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
You can't afford that SUV, honey.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
You don't make enough to pay that.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
You make $44,000 a year. You don't need a 55,000.
Caller
No, no, no, no, no.
I switched from making $44,000 a year, and I bring home close to 90 now.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, okay.
Caller
I'm making. I'm Bringing home at least $8,000 a month now.
Dave Ramsey
Okay? Plus the Social Security.
Caller
Plus the Social Security, yes, sir.
Dave Ramsey
Well, let's recoup. I mean, if you want to keep that car and fight your way through it, sell it and move down. I think it's too much car. It's not way too much anymore now that we changed the numbers, but it's too much. And I don't want you to ever emotionally justify going into debt again, Right?
Caller
Yeah, I don't want to. My goal is to.
Dave Ramsey
No, you took FPU and then you went and bought a $53,000 SUV. You're not getting out of that one alive. Okay? I'm coming after you.
Caller
Understood?
Dave Ramsey
No more. No more. You got to stop it, okay? Because you're gonna kill yourself. This is not good. You gotta stop it.
George Kamel
Think about it this way, Jessica. If you did sell that car, unless you downgrade it to a $20,000 SUV gives you 33 grand in profit. If the car is actually worth 53, right?
Dave Ramsey
No, she owes.
George Kamel
You owe 53. So you sell it and get a car.
Caller
I owe 53.
George Kamel
How much is it worth?
Caller
I think on the market right now, they all run right around 60,000.
George Kamel
Okay, so you got seven grand in profit, plus you have 30 instead savings. So now you can get you a nice SUV still and have money left over. You freed up the car payment, which is how much?
Caller
It's right at. It's 983. So $1,000.
George Kamel
It's got a raise right there.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Kamel
And now you can actually knock out this student loan debt. And they.
Dave Ramsey
I would do that. I'd be in a $20,000 SUV. It was paid for within two weeks. I really would do that. But overall, back to your original answer is it takes. The Social Security is there for the good of the children. And it's not the good of the children's future, it's the good of the children. As long as you are spending the equivalent of your child support or the equivalent of your Social Security payments from your ex husband's death on your children, then you are morally and ethically just fine. And I would just put the $4,000 in your budget, and I would get out of debt as fast as I could. And don't make any more of these emotional purchases that you emotionally justify with
George Kamel
debt and walking through the baby steps. There's a time and place to invest for those kids, especially for their education, and that's in baby step five. So baby step $1,000. You have that baby step two. Let's knock out all this consumer debt. Baby step three, let's stack up that emergency fund to three to six months of expenses. Baby step four, we begin investing 15%. So if you're investing now, let's pause that until you clean this mess up up. Then we can start using this money to put away for College in a 529 plan. And that will really set them up. That's some of the best way you can use this money. Because now you're really prepping for the future if you can clean this debt up.
Dave Ramsey
I am very proud of you. The way you went and got more income to make sure your kids are taken care of. You're a warrior princess.
George Kamel
You tell people, dave, just go double your income. And people go, you can't do that. She did it as a single mom of three.
Dave Ramsey
She said, I've got to have more money to do this. And she went and got it. So good for. Good for you. Good for you. And you've stacked the cash. You haven't blown it. So you got 30k laying there. That gives you some options. If you don't do what George said to do on the SUV, at least throw the 30k at the debt and let's get it cleaned up. Let's get this debt paid off. Okay, But I would do what George said to do. I think he's exactly right. Thank you, Jessica, Sam.
George Kamel
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Dave Ramsey
Buying or selling a home is a big deal. So you want a professional in your corner. A professional. Someone who sells a lot of real estate, not someone who sold two houses last year. So if your Aunt Gertie sold two houses and she has her license, she does not get to be your real estate agent. She's your aunt Gertie. No, thank you. You need to get a pro. Somebody that sells a bunch of houses, like 30, 50 or 150, 200 houses a year. If you want one that has that kind of chops, high octane, high protein. You want a Ramsey trusted agent that we have vetted. And if you want to know who we vetted, you can find out for free@ramseysolutions.com agent or click the link in the description or YouTube. All right, here we go. Chris is in Minneapolis. Hi, Chris. How are you?
Caller
Better than I deserve, sir. How are you? How about you guys?
Dave Ramsey
Just the same, sir. How can we help?
Caller
Well, first off, I want to thank you guys. Ramsey has changed the future of my. Myself and my family.
Dave Ramsey
Awesome. Thank you.
Caller
And we are. Yes. Yeah. My wife and I and our three kids, we're on baby steps, four or five on six right now. And my sister referred some financial advisors to us. We've been using everydollar for a few years. We've been following the roadmap on the EveryDollar app, and I was just kind of curious to see how it measured up to what the financial advisors would come up with. And surprisingly, they were within about $100 of each other.
Wow.
Yeah. For our retirement. Anyway, so they're talking about something that they would recommend moving around. And one of the things they brought up was whole life insurance policies. We already have term life, and I know whole life is a bad word in the Ramsey world. When I asked them what their reasoning was, they glued themselves to the savings account with it. The scenario that they painted for us is we reach our retirement age and we're in an economic depression at that time, and to have an extra savings account that we could draw our monthly expenses from instead of touching our retirement account.
Dave Ramsey
So their premises is that the life insurance company will be open and prospering, but the stock market will have disappeared. That's dumb.
Caller
But yeah, yeah.
Dave Ramsey
You understand the life insurance company holds the savings. Right. And if the life insurance company goes kaput, you get zippy. So there. There are set of assumptions is absolutely as asinine as their product.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
You knew you were going to call here and get this, right?
George Kamel
You didn't give him a dime of your money, right?
Dave Ramsey
Tell me you didn't do this.
Caller
No, no.
George Kamel
Okay.
Caller
No, no, no. But my actual question is, is there something similar? Should we be planning some kind of a savings account on the side if. For like, if that were to happen, you know, Something that's tax exempt? Something that's just sitting there to draw from. Or is it just not?
Dave Ramsey
Let me tell you, whole life is not tax exempt. Whole life is only tax exempt if you, if it works, if the product works properly, you lose money. Money. And that makes it tax exempt because it doesn't grow as much as it should. Your basis in a whole life policy for tax purposes is what you put into it. A lot of people don't even get out of it what they put into it. And there's no taxes. But if you get out of it more than you put into it, you pay taxes on whole life. So they lied to you. Okay, Please get away from these people.
Caller
Yes, sir.
Dave Ramsey
Now, now back to your original question. How do we prepare for the Great Depression that could be coming? We don't. I don't have an atomic bomb financial plan. What happens if the Russians drop an atomic bomb on us? I don't have a financial plan for that. There's not a financial instrument that will survive that. Because everything. In the event of a great. The Great Depression, as many life insurance companies closed as other companies closed during the Great Depression Depression, as many banks closed as anything else during the Great Depression. The FDIC was formed as a governmental body to insure the savings that's in a bank. The Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation. It's a quasi government agency and it's there to protect up to, I think it's 200,000, 250,000 per depositor now per bank. Okay, but even that could collapse. It's an insurance group run by the government. Hypothetically, it could collapse. Social Security could collapse. All of these things are math things that somebody's got to put the money up. Contrary to what the socialist believes, the money has to come from somewhere. It doesn't just magically freaking appear. So there's not. I don't, I do not have a plan for my wealth in the event that the American economy collapses. Because I don't have a plan if it collapses. I buy bullets and water if it collapses. And by the way, I have bullets and I'll just need to get your water, I guess. But you know, that's the thing. So you know, you fall into that situation, but you can't plan for that. And when someone starts selling you a product based on the collapse of the economy, you should look at what happens to their business in the event of the economy collapsing. That's how dumb. But this whole thing is. You should buy whole life because life insurance companies will be just fine. If the economy Pull crap.
George Kamel
Every business will go down except them.
Dave Ramsey
Somehow they'll be the only ones standing. Pacific Life, the whale will make it. You're killing me here. You're killing me. That's so dumb.
George Kamel
Fear mongering to make their commission is what's happening. So the chances of that, I mean, I'm looking at the stock market.
Dave Ramsey
Do not take any more advice from your sister.
George Kamel
What's the worst we've had, Dave? That, you know, negative 38% during the 2008 crisis, that's in the last 50 years. That's been the worst. And the market was almost 100. It was up 23% the next year. So the chances of this being a real issue for a young guy like this who's investing for the long term is zero. Get out of debt.
Dave Ramsey
It's not zero, but it's.
George Kamel
Have an emergency fund.
Dave Ramsey
If you can't bet on the American economy, there's not a lot of other bets. There's not a lot of other things. I mean, you know, if you don't think real estate's gonna go up in the next 50 years, where were you in the last 50 years? You know, what'd you miss out on? How'd you miss that? You know, of course it's gonna go up. And if you don't think the stock market's gonna go up, just look at what it's done. Look at what it's done. And the stock market actually is companies that you buy from every day. It's Home Depot and McDonald's and Coca Cola and Dell and Apple. And you buy their stuff every day, you give them your money, and that makes their company more value, valuable, and their stock goes up. It's called the American economy. It's how it works. And so that's what we're doing. Oh, God, this is so.
George Kamel
I'm just angry.
Dave Ramsey
I'm not angry. I'm not angry with Chris. But those people just lie.
George Kamel
I don't know how it's still legal that they position themselves as financial advisors when they're really just insurance salespeople. It's crazy.
Dave Ramsey
They're Whole Life agents, but that financial
George Kamel
advisors, for anyone listening, if they're going, hey, Whole Life is a great product. If your financial advisor says that, you know, need a run, please, how quickly
Dave Ramsey
can I get out of the building?
George Kamel
That's wild.
Dave Ramsey
It's just like you go into the car lot and they go, hey, we got these payments for you. It's only 24% interest. How quick do you run off the lot? You're getting screwed. How fast do you run out of there like your hair's on fire? You get out of the building. You mean when a company, an organization is trying to screw you, the last thing you do is you take. Okay, so that portion of what they said might not be right, but we can trust the other portion of what they said. Well, that's illogical.
George Kamel
They can now untrust.
Dave Ramsey
Once I have established that you are as a crook, you is a crook. And so you as a crook, is a crook, is a crook. We are done with you. That's it. We don't do crook.
George Kamel
And they the reason they push it is very simple. They make the most money by pushing whole life on you. They're going to make close to nothing giving you a term life policy compared
Dave Ramsey
or when they, when Xander tells you sells you a term life insurance policy for a million dollars. They make about 5% of what these whole life guys do selling you a $400,000 policy. I mean the, the, the premiums, the commissions on these things are just astronomical.
George Kamel
Hundreds and hundreds of dollars a month.
Dave Ramsey
They're just over licking their chops. And your poor sister Chris, she got screwed and then she sent you over there.
George Kamel
Sounds like she needs to cancel a whole life policy.
Dave Ramsey
Make you like a goat. Oh my God. You spend hours researching before making a major purchase like a home or car. But it's also a good idea to put in the work searching for the right insurance coverage to protect your biggest assets. I recommend using Ramsey trusted pros. Whether you're looking for car, home or any other type of insurance. Ramsey trusted providers have been coached and vetted to serve you like we would find what you need@ramseysolutions.com insurance. Brit is in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Hi Brit. How are you?
Caller
Oh, what an honor it is to speak with you, Mr. Ramsey and Mr. Campbell. This is unreal.
Dave Ramsey
We're honored to speak with you. How can we help?
Caller
I have to thank you first that I've been a stay at home homeschooling mom to three kiddos. And when I left the workforce to be home with my babies, oh, it was beautiful. But part of me really adding to our family financially. So listening to your show and reading your books really gave me financial purpose even though I wasn't making that money anymore. And I can purposely, purposely steward it and manage it well. And I'm just so grateful for the gift that you've given us.
Dave Ramsey
Thank you.
Caller
After eight years of doing that, we're officially weird. We paid off our house and we're almost babysit millionaires. So we're just.
Dave Ramsey
Way to go. And you did it all while homeschooling the kids by you. Look at you. Well done.
Caller
Yeah.
The hard work of my husband. Absolutely.
Dave Ramsey
Well, you did some hard work, too. Sounds like good. Good for y'.
Caller
All.
Dave Ramsey
Well done.
Caller
Well, my question today has to do with receiving a monetary gift. My parents are absolutely amazing people, and they've worked ridiculously hard their whole lives, and they've built an incredible life for themselves. They since retired a couple of years ago, and they're traveling the world, and they're spending their time with family, living their best lives because they've earned it. But they want to give my husband and I a sizable amount of money. And I sure would like your advice about what mindset we should have about this. It's kind of overwhelming, but they're certainly undeserving of such a gift. And while I appreciate their generosity, I'm not sure how to receive such a gift or even if we should. So what do you think? Or what advice could you give?
Dave Ramsey
What does your husband make?
Caller
He makes about 170.
Dave Ramsey
Way to go. And you guys are how old?
Caller
Almost 40. We're 39.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
And how much is the gift?
Caller
It's about maybe fall out of my chair. $200,000.
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
All right. And I assume they're getting tax advice and we'll use the unified estate tax Credit so that this is not subject to gift tax. Make sure of that.
Caller
Yeah, yeah, absolutely. You've mentioned that before. Very wide.
Dave Ramsey
Because otherwise you'll get that they will get hammered on gift tax, but I'm guessing they've got a large enough estate and they're wanting to move some of it out while they're alive, and they use up some of their exemption, and that's probably not a bad thing at all. I don't mind that at all. So you're millionaires already. You make 170. You're in your 40s, you're mature. You're not some trust fund baby that's going to be irresponsible. This just adds progress to what you were already doing, which was good stewardship and mature. So what would you do with the 200?
Caller
Well, we would possibly move up in house. We've been saving to do that anyway. And we, of course, don't want to
do that with debt.
Dave Ramsey
So we probably maybe. What's your house worth?
Caller
We just paid it off.
It's worth about 400,000.
Cool.
Dave Ramsey
So you move to a 600, make it 170 I like that. That's a good move.
Caller
Okay, so is it something that would be a wise thing to accept?
Of course.
There's no strings attached. I know that's always a question that you.
You ask.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, that was the next question. But as long as there's no strings attached. Yeah.
George Kamel
They're not forcing you to do something specific with it. Right.
Dave Ramsey
This is. Mom and dad have millions and they want to drop a couple of hundred on you while they're alive and watch you enjoy a better house. I like it.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
I think there's nothing toxic in anything you described. Nothing weird, nothing strange. If you call me up and you were immature and you were overspoken spending, then this gift is probably not going to change you to the positive. You already have proven yourself to be good stewards and handlers of money. So this just adds to your progress. And so this is what this is what parents hope for is children like you all.
Caller
Wow.
That's also hard to take in, but we're very grateful.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, yeah. Go get them.
George Kamel
I'm proud of such a rare call. Healthy people on all sides, no dysfunctional function, doing well financially.
Dave Ramsey
If you guys all start doing that, we'll probably be out of business.
George Kamel
Man, that was the easiest call we've taken today.
Dave Ramsey
It's not very entertaining. Oh, man, the ratings will go down on our Jerry Springer podcast.
George Kamel
There's negative amounts of drama with that call, too. Peaceful.
Dave Ramsey
Way to go. Good job, Brit. Good job, Brit's parents. Good job, Brit's husband.
George Kamel
Everyone involved.
Dave Ramsey
A plus, Madison is in Huntsville. How are you? Are you.
Caller
I'm doing great.
How are y'?
All?
Dave Ramsey
Better than we deserve. What's up?
Caller
The question is my husband and I
have a business we started in 2017
and our personal life, we're ready for baby step number four. However, there's still a very large debt on a piece of equipment in our business. And so my question is, where should
I be really putting my money?
Because that's a 6% cents interest on
a very high dollar piece of equipment.
Dave Ramsey
How much do you owe on this piece of equipment?
Caller
It started at 750,000.
Dave Ramsey
Now it's at 330. Okay, what is it?
Caller
It's a crane.
It's a grapple saw crane truck. So we have a tree service and
Dave Ramsey
that's what he does for a living now. And what is he making on the business?
Caller
Usually we, I mean, as self employed paying ourselves, but we usually
Dave Ramsey
taxes on. What's your taxable profit on the business?
Caller
Oh, profit on the business. About half of our Growth. So our growth is a million. So we profit about half of that.
Dave Ramsey
Way to go. And where does that 500,000 go? You pay taxes and then where's the rest of it go?
Caller
Pay taxes and the rest of it goes in the account.
And then like when we need to upgrade equipment.
Well, the business checking account.
Dave Ramsey
Okay.
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
So why has it not gone? Where is. If that's been happening for a couple of years, why have you not just paid off the grain? Well, we've only grossed that much the past two years. Oh, okay.
Caller
Yes, yes.
And we've.
Dave Ramsey
So, yeah, you should have. And you. And you shoveled a bunch of it home and took care of home debt.
Caller
We took care of home debt.
Dave Ramsey
So what I want you to do now is shovel the minimal amount home to live on and get this crane paid off.
Caller
Okay? All right.
Right now I'm doing the monthly payment, which is 6,400, and I'm doing.
Dave Ramsey
I want you to put 300,000 on it and pay off. Off.
Caller
Okay?
Dave Ramsey
I don't want to hear about monthly payments. I want to pay it off now.
George Kamel
What's in that?
Dave Ramsey
Making a half a million dollars a year profit. Taxable income minus taxes, minus living expenses. You should pay that crane off this year.
Caller
Okay?
Dave Ramsey
In a year.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
And then you're going to make money like you've never seen before. You're going to make money like you've never seen before, okay?
Caller
And then start baby step four and
investing for us because we.
We are not.
And I just feel so behind.
We just.
Dave Ramsey
You're o. Making a half million dollars a year. You're going to be okay.
Caller
I'm just worried about us and the kids and their retirement.
Dave Ramsey
And I think you're going to be okay. You're making a half million dollars a year. But listen, the crane is a destabilizer to the business, and so it's a destabilizer to the family as well.
Caller
Okay?
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
So the sooner we get that stinking thing paid off. And then in your business, P and L, once it's paid off, I want you to be setting aside a percentage of your net profit profits every month for retained earnings, and that's business savings. Retained earnings are used in your all's case for two or three things. One, it's used for next equipment purchases in cash only. Never finance again, ever. Hear me? Never, never do this again, okay? You pay cash. You make enough money to pay cash for your upgrades and replacement equipment from the rest of your life, okay? And just allocate 20% of your profits or whatever you want to set aside. Some percentage automatically goes aside for emergencies and for equipment replacement. And that's what your retained earnings are going to be used for because that's the lifeblood of your business and it's going to keep it moving and then take everything else home and get your home paid off and get your 15% going into retirement. And you're going to be multi millionaires in a matter of a day, decade, if you follow all that. But you're going to stay right on top of it. You've done a good job managing the cash. I can tell based on the numbers you gave me.
George Kamel
Yeah, you're on a great track. And I want to send them your book. Dave. Build. Build a business you love. If you don't mind.
Dave Ramsey
I don't mind.
George Kamel
Can I do that?
Caller
All right.
George Kamel
That's my gift to you on behalf of Dave. I want to see this business flourish. I want to see it scale and grow completely debt free. And it's what we teach in entree leadership. And it's inspiring to see the business owners do it. People go, you can't run a business with cash. And Dave goes, hold my beer. He did it. He still does it. It's pretty impressive. Good way to run a.
Dave Ramsey
Hey, guys, Dave Ramsey here. Every day on this show, we help people work through real money problems and figure out what to do next. Now, you can get that same kind of help anytime with Ask Ramsey. Ask your money question and get answers built on Ramsey principles we use on the show. Whether you're making a decision or just want something explained, Ask Ramsey is here to help. It's fast, simple, and free to use. Go to ramseysolutions.com and try Ask Ramsey today. That's ramseysolutions.com. Our scripture of the day, Luke 12:15. And he went on to say to them, watch out and guard yourselves from every kind of greed because your true life is not made up of. Of the things you own, no matter how rich you may be. Ronald Reagan said, the government's first duty is to protect the people, not run their lives. Oh, so refreshing.
Caller
When.
Dave Ramsey
Where did. Where did he go? Come back, Ronald. Mark is in Atlanta. Hey, Mark, what's up?
Caller
Dave, what's good?
Dave Ramsey
All things, man. How can we help?
Caller
Hey, so little situation. I'm 26 years old, married, and my parents live in Arizona. They're in their 60s. Recently, my parents got scammed out of a lot of money. A couple hundred thousand dollars of their savings lost.
Wow.
No way to get it back back. And what Was the scam putting a lot. Go ahead.
Dave Ramsey
What was the scam?
Caller
My dad is a business owner. The scam he was looking on indeed for side hustles. And it was some sort of side hustle where you put X amount of money in and they quote, unquote, you saw a return on investment of you put $1,000 in, in his account, or so it looked. There was $2,000 there after he put $1,000 in. So he ended up putting a lot, a lot in. And the only reason he found it out was because he called me and said, hey, this is my goal, I need a little bit more. Would you be willing to help out? And it just went down this rabbit hole of us finding out what was going on and how deep they really were.
Dave Ramsey
So he had never made a withdrawal.
Caller
Correct.
Dave Ramsey
He only made deposits and saw a number coming out. He saw a number on a report, but he never made a withdrawal.
Caller
Yep, exactly.
Dave Ramsey
That's a Ponzi scheme. Old fashioned. That's like Madoff.
Caller
Yeah.
Wow.
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And so FBI is involved, I assume FBI is involved.
Caller
Local.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
But the money's gone. Yeah, money's gone.
Caller
Money's gone.
Dave Ramsey
And what does your dad and mom make for a living? How much do they make? Make a year?
Caller
They may, they've made about 120 grand a year. That has slowed down my, they are not in the best health. And so I, I would expect closer to $100,000 or less this year.
Wow.
Dave Ramsey
How can we help?
Caller
So here, here's the, here's the question. There might be a couple questions along with it, but my wife and I, we've been extremely blessed. We make about $55,000 a month. We have a home in Arizona that we owe $180,000 on. We've been paying it off quickly. We don't have any other debt. And we have offered to let my, let my parents stay at that home in Arizona. We're going to be paying it off in the next few months and they can stay there rent free and we're, we're not worried about it. It's a home that we bought and then company moved us out to Atlanta. So.
Dave Ramsey
And so what's your question?
Caller
The question is my parents are currently living in a home that they own. They owe about $421,000 on it. It's worth about 731.
Okay.
Should they sell their home and pay off the about $131,000 of debt they have and stay at our place rent free or should they Stay at our place rent free, rent out the home that they own and chip away at debt.
Dave Ramsey
Let's just sell their home and move into yours. And you're going to keep the home in your neighborhood. Shame, but you're going to allow them to live there and the rest of their lives debt free and no payments, no rent, rent free for the rest of their lives. They're 60 years old. So for 25 years you're going to be okay with this?
Caller
Yep.
Dave Ramsey
And your wife's going to be okay with this?
Caller
Yeah, we've, we, we've talked about it. And of all the solutions that we could come up with this, this sounded like the best option. I didn't watch.
Dave Ramsey
It's conditional. It's conditional. For me, my gift is conditional. I want you guys to continue to work and I want you to pay $2,000 a month into a good mutual fund to build your nest egg instead of paying rent. And if you're not going to do that, you can't move in.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
I don't need the money. I want you to do it for you. But you need to pay money for where you're living. And I just want you to pay it into an account. Account for your nest egg. And you sit down with a smartvestor pro and have them help pick out some good mutual funds and set up an account. And I'm going to help you. But with my gift, I'm going to require something that you do. Something that's good for you. Not for me.
Caller
For sure.
George Kamel
And are you going to cover all of their bills? Utilities, taxes, insurance, maintenance, lifestyle, groceries.
Caller
No. They can stay at the house. They will cover the bills, they'll cover the electric, the water.
Water.
Everything that comes with the house, they will be covering.
Dave Ramsey
They'll cover the insurance and the taxes.
Caller
Insurance and taxes. Good question.
George Kamel
I'm saying this to make sure that you're very clear with them.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. Who's got, who's got what is important. And if they're going to be paying the taxes and insurance and you're the owner, you need to get verification once a year that that bill is paid.
Caller
Got it.
Dave Ramsey
Because otherwise you're going to get foreclosed on for back property taxes one day, five years from now and not see it coming. Coming. It could happen.
Caller
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
I mean lots of things in this story happened that we never thought would happen, but for sure. What do you do for a living?
Caller
I sell. I'm a door to door salesman.
I sell window replacements.
Dave Ramsey
And you're making 600k?
Caller
Yes.
Dave Ramsey
Very well done, sir. Proud of you.
Caller
Wow.
Dave Ramsey
It's amazing.
George Kamel
I didn't know those.
Dave Ramsey
That you're really taking care of your parents fabulously. Congratulations, relations. I'm happy for you. I'm happy for them. Yeah. But I would put that condition on there and that they do something for themselves and they can make 100k and they're in their 60s. Just keep working. You got scammed. Keep working. Put the money back. $2,000 a month. How fast would they have the 300k back?
George Kamel
I mean, 24 grand a year for
Dave Ramsey
three years of 75, they're probably pretty close. In probably three or four years, I
George Kamel
have their money back, and it'll double every seven years. So that's. That's not bad. It'll create a little bit of a nest egg because there's going to be a day where they can't work if they're in poor health. And you got to be ready for that. What happens then?
Dave Ramsey
A free house doesn't cause you to be able to eat. Yeah.
George Kamel
So you need to be ready to.
Dave Ramsey
You know, they're on poor health now, he said. But. Wow, Mark, that's. That's scary. It's a. It's a scary lesson for everybody out there to learn on the scamming that goes on. Adam is in Knoxville. Hi, Adam. What's up? How you doing, brother? Better than I deserve. How can we help? I've got a question for you. So, as I'm growing in my life, I've got three small children, and I'm wondering whether to invest in your memories today with the money I have invested it today, or do I invest in
Caller
me and my wife's future?
Future.
Dave Ramsey
When you were a kid. When you were a kid. What's the fanciest vacation you went on? I went to Myrtle beach in North Carolina. Do you. Do you. Do you see a therapist for the child abuse that you received?
Caller
No.
Dave Ramsey
So your parents. Your parents didn't spend a lot of money on experiences. Myrtle beach ain't way up there. It's not way up there. If you look at my. And you turned out okay. And you're not mad at your. Your dad?
Caller
Never knew my dad.
Dave Ramsey
Well, you're not mad at whoever took you to Myrtle Beach.
Caller
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
So, you know, you turned out okay. So I do want you to spend some experiences. But let's not live in the land of. This is what makes children into wonderful adults, because Daddy took. Daddy took them to Disney world and spent $500 million every summer.
George Kamel
That's bold. Retirement. Now he's broke in retirement and we have to pay his bills.
Dave Ramsey
What turns children into wonderful adults is a good dad that loves them and is there for them. A good mom that love them and is there for them. And yes, we do do some things with experiences with the money, but we also save for our future. So you don't have to take care of me when I'm old. You should be taking care of your own kids instead of me. And so you got to do both. That's called being a grown up. But don't get over on that camp where experiences are more important, where we're going to be irresponsible about our future. Nah, my experience experiences were a tent at a lake. That's what I remember. I remember it fondly.
George Kamel
And now you're lamping.
Dave Ramsey
And now I don't do that anymore. That puts us out of the Ramsey show in the books. We'll be back with you before you know it. In the meantime, remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace and that's to walk daily with the Prince of peace, Christ Jesus, Sam.
This episode of The Ramsey Show dives into the central theme that you are in charge of your financial decisions—no one else gets a vote. Hosted by Dave Ramsey and George Kamel, the show features real-life callers wrestling with everything from student loans and retirement to family money dynamics and business struggles. Throughout, Dave and George reinforce classic Ramsey principles: avoid debt, build wealth purposefully, set and protect boundaries (especially with family), and make every big financial decision with intention and wisdom.
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This episode delivers tough love, practical steps, and unfiltered Ramsey wisdom for people at all stages of their financial journey. Whether you’re fielding manipulative family offers, reining in your business dreams, or making everyday choices, the advice stays the same: act intentionally, avoid debt, and don’t let anyone else—family, friends, or salespeople—take the wheel of your finances.