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Dave Ramsey
This is the Ramsey show, where America shows up to have a conversation about their money, about their profession, and about their relationships. The phone number is 888-2552-258882-55225. Alongside George Camel, I'm Ken Coleman. George, keep more of that money and I'm gonna help you make more of that money that you want to make. That's a combination today. You ready to go?
George Camel
I'm stoked.
Dave Ramsey
You got a very elated no jacket today. No bomber jacket.
George Camel
You went with a traditional, you're ready to go sailing. So I thought let's keep it cash.
Dave Ramsey
I, I do have a summer vibe about me today.
George Camel
Summer Ken is my favorite version.
Dave Ramsey
I'm here for it. Jeremy starts us off in Lexington, South Carolina. Jeremy, how can we help today?
Ken Coleman
Hey, how's it going? Longtime listener, first time caller.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, we love those. Welcome aboard.
Ken Coleman
So it's absolutely a pleasure to get on the line here. So my wife and I are in a bit of a situation. We have, both of us have student debt, student loans. We have a credit card, and my dad has a parent plus loan now. Education system hasn't really told us what to do for a parent plus loan, but we have been educated now. So basically we're wondering if we can use a mortgage loan from buying my dad's property that he was going to give to us anyway to pay off mine, my wife's student loans, in addition to the parent plus loan that is on his credit plus, you know, a credit card.
George Camel
How much total debt do you have?
Ken Coleman
Total debt is around, including the credit card would probably be 110.
George Camel
110. That's both student loans and the credit card. But not including the parent plus loan, which is in your dad's name, including.
Ken Coleman
The parent plus loan plus the mortgage that is on the current place that I have right now, which is only about 23,000.
George Camel
So you have a home right now?
Ken Coleman
No.
George Camel
So it's your dad's place?
Ken Coleman
Yeah, I'm basically renting it from him. The mortgage is all still in his name that I'm just paying it directly.
George Camel
This feels all out of sorts. Okay, so the 23,000 left on the mortgage, you're living there. You're essentially paying rent, which covers the mortgage, but you're paying it directly to the mortgage company.
Ken Coleman
Yes. It's only 460amonth.
George Camel
Okay.
Ken Coleman
You can't rent for that.
George Camel
And you're saying your dad wants to now sell you, the house, you would then take on a bigger mortgage in order to do so.
Ken Coleman
So no, he's not going to get any profit from this.
George Camel
Okay, so explain to me how the mortgage goes.
Ken Coleman
He was already going to give it to me. The land of five acres and the.
George Camel
House when he passes. No, already, That's a terrible idea.
Ken Coleman
So he was already going to give it to me, but now we have this debt that we need to consolidate.
George Camel
Why do you need to consolidate it?
Ken Coleman
Because, well, the credit card interest is out the roof. I mean, again, it's only 10 grand. But the student loans, you know, he makes double what I make. I make about 53. He makes six figures. So on the Parent plus loan, we've agreed that I'd pay that back. That was an agreement we made in.
George Camel
High school when I was young and dumb. Why not just keep the current situation? You have basically low rent. Use your income and your wife's income. Okay, how much total do you guys make?
Ken Coleman
She makes 45 a year and I make 53.
George Camel
Okay, so about 100,000 a year. How quickly can we pay off 110,000? That becomes the equation, right?
Ken Coleman
Yep. I mean, we're looking at seven years, but.
George Camel
No, no, that's crazy. Your rent is 400 bucks and it's going to take you seven years to pay off 100 grand?
Ken Coleman
Well, it's the student loans too.
George Camel
So that's, that's what we would pay.
Ken Coleman
To pay them off or move the money around. But in the long term of having an income driven student loan repayment plan is stretching that out to 20, 30 years.
George Camel
Well, yeah, income driven repayment plan would do that to you, but you're not. If you're doing the debt snowball method that we teach and you're aggressively attacking your debt, not just making minimum payments, you would knock this thing out in probably closer to three or four years at this rate.
Ken Coleman
Okay?
George Camel
And I would tell you, get your income up, get your expenses down, because making 100 grand with as low rent as you guys have, you should be able to throw a few thousand dollars a month at this debt.
Ken Coleman
Okay?
George Camel
So think about that. Could you throw four grand a month at the debt if you really got tight?
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
George Camel
Okay, well, think about the math on that. That's almost 50 grand a year. You said you have 110 total. This thing's done in a little over two years.
Ken Coleman
Correct.
George Camel
So where did this 10 year plan come from? And what the. What the scheming of Dad's going to give me the house to do a.
Dave Ramsey
Consolidation loan it feels like it's become too complex because it feels like they're trying to find a shortcut.
George Camel
Yes.
Ken Coleman
Well, the shortcut right now is he. He's expecting the parent plus loan repayment to be like $500 a month. And on top of what we're already paying for our student loans. That's kind of a new thing of we're adding this $500 a month.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, but how does that. I get what you're trying to say, but how does that give you the case to go? Well, let's do this really convoluted thing and try to figure this out. He signed up for this. He's a grown man.
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, then I guess I want to.
Ken Coleman
Make sure having the leverage of the land and putting it in our name.
Dave Ramsey
Just, I mean, but George, why is that a terrible. Here's what I want you to do. I want you to give George a minute or two here to explain why that's a really bad idea. He started down that path and I want you to hear him out.
George Camel
Okay, so I'm, I'm confused as to. You're trying to move one debt to another debt and essentially say, hey, we're going to take on a mortgage instead of paying all these debts off separately, right?
Ken Coleman
Yes. A single payment a month.
George Camel
And that's going to solve the problems how?
Ken Coleman
Less stress. And I mean, we can, we can't get taxes from. We can't put an expense or get tax breaks from the student loans or credit card interest.
George Camel
So now you're doing this for a mortgage interest tax break.
Ken Coleman
I mean, it's an additional benefit.
George Camel
Do you guys itemize your deductions when you file your taxes?
Ken Coleman
Yes, because I have a business as well.
George Camel
The interest on this, I mean, you're not, it's not even going to be enough to warrant the tax break. I feel like everything you're doing is for a different reason than what you originally told me. I think we need one clear goal. And if you're calling this show, that goal should be to be completely debt free.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, that's the goal. And as fast as we can get that.
George Camel
The other part is if your dad gives you this house now, then it's going to move the step up in basis to what did he buy the house for originally?
Ken Coleman
So it's a double wide, which means it has a title.
George Camel
So it's going down in value every day.
Ken Coleman
Yes.
Dave Ramsey
Don't do this.
George Camel
Why are we doing it? This just gets crazier.
Dave Ramsey
And by the way, even if it did make sense the amount of savings is going to be next to nothing. Am I right, George? Yeah, Quick calculation. So, Jeremy, this idea that I'm lowering stress by coming up with one payment is not true. The stress is from the total debt. And the money saved on this is not going to be worth it.
George Camel
I would not take a mortgage out on something going down in value, not a double wide.
Dave Ramsey
Jeremy, that's like a country song.
George Camel
This is bad news. You should be trying to get out of this situation, not stick yourself in it further and further and further. No more deals with dad, no more scheming, no more moving one debt to another. Just pay off your freaking debts. You sign the dotted line, you guys have a solid income. Get the income up, expenses down, get out of this debt in two years. And that's the only solution I would be pursuing at this point. Hey, George Camel here. Listen, we need to talk specifically about Mama Bear legal forms. Allow me to paint you a picture. You plan a vacation, you make a budget, you book the Airbnb, you build a spreadsheet of activities because you're that person. You fire up the Maps app and boom, trip of a lifetime. So here's the question. If you plan that carefully for a one week getaway, why are you just winging it when it comes to your will? Not having a will in place is like dropping your family off at a foreign airport with no map, no translator, and no clue what happens next. So when you pass away, sure, your family will be grieving, but they're also overwhelmed, stuck in court and letting the government decide what happens to everything you worked so hard for. All because you didn't leave clear instructions. So the good news is you can fix this in 20 minutes with mama Bear legal forms. I use them for my own will. And it was fast, simple, and gave me and my family peace of mind. There's no stuffy lawyer's office, no drama, Just a few clicks and your family's protected. Listen, a will is too important to ignore. It's how you love your people. Well, even after you've yeeed your last haw, as we say in the south. So go to mamabearlegalforms.com and handle this tonight. Use the promo code, Ramsey, and you'll save 20%. That's mama bearlegalforms.com, promo code. Ramsey.
Dave Ramsey
Dale is on the line in Augusta, Maine. Dale, how can we help?
Ken Coleman
Well, thank you for taking my call. I have a question that's. I just don't know how to answer it. If I were unable to get out of a contract that is over $16,000 for window replacements. Would I be better off to go forward with a replacement installation or pay the 30% fee required if I don't follow through?
Dave Ramsey
Wow.
George Camel
What caused you to. To back out now?
Ken Coleman
Well, it was. It was. It was just a really stupid idea that we signed on the dotted line or I signed on the dotted line because the. It was a. They. Somebody put a flyer in my window. My house is 160 years old. We need windows. We don't need fabulous windows, but we need seven windows replacement. So I called them, they came to the house. The man was amazing. He did a great presentation. And at the end of it he gave us the price. Now, I really knew better, but for some reason, not that night. And when was when he boat? A week and a half ago.
George Camel
Okay, and when did you sign the contract?
Ken Coleman
That night.
George Camel
So it's already been like 10 days since you signed the contract?
Ken Coleman
Yes, and what I did was the first thing I did was call an attorney and the second thing I did was call the Dave Ramsey show. Now I might be out of it, but it's not all completed yet.
Dave Ramsey
What do you. What do you mean? The lawyer helped you start the process?
Ken Coleman
Yes. I'm 70 this year. So I called Senior plus and they turned me on to a free attorney. Like they just give you advice. And he looked over the contract and he's working on getting them to do a rescission. Like we are waiting to have the finance company get returned the 30% they pull. So not finalized yet.
Dave Ramsey
Have you already made some type of deposit?
Ken Coleman
They pulled it. They pulled it when you signed the cop. When I signed the contract, it had a 30% condition if you didn't go through with it. And that gave them, they thought the right to pull 30% of that 16,000.
Dave Ramsey
Do they have access to your bank account?
Ken Coleman
No, they. The deal is this. They tell you an exorbitant amount, then they cut it down. And then when you say no, it's, well, we can finance it at like 5% for 15 years. And now you have a payment of $130 a month.
George Camel
Is that what you did?
Ken Coleman
Yes.
George Camel
So you financed it and you've so far financed 30%?
Ken Coleman
Correct.
George Camel
Is that what I'm getting?
Dave Ramsey
Have you made any payments, though? That's what I'm trying to understand.
Ken Coleman
No. No payments. The payments come after the windows are installed.
Dave Ramsey
Right. I'm sorry to interrupt, but I'm just trying to help us get to the bottom of this. So I understand you Signed a contract and it would include a payment plan, but that doesn't actually start happening until the windows are installed. That. That I understand, but do they currently have your bank account to where it's like an auto draft. Do they have any access to your accounts?
Ken Coleman
No, but what you're doing when you sign that is just signing a loan. They partner with a finance company and they did get the almost $5,000.
George Camel
So essentially you're $5,000 in debt.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, from the. From the.
George Camel
From the finance.
Dave Ramsey
From the finance company. They gave the window company the five grand.
George Camel
So now you got two people to deal with the financ and the window company.
Ken Coleman
Yes.
George Camel
So you need to be checking both of those contracts that you sign to figure out if there's a way out. I don't know that there's a way out. You signed the dotted line multiple times. At this point, do you have any money?
Ken Coleman
Well, not much. I got a call from the finance company saying the contractor has asked them to cancel.
George Camel
Have they ordered materials yet?
Ken Coleman
No, I told them no, I didn't want the window.
Dave Ramsey
See, that's what I was saying.
George Camel
That'll give you leverage. If they haven't ordered materials yet, they may be willing to reduce that and help you get out of it. There may still be a fee, a stupid tax.
Dave Ramsey
But the window company is easy because you just go, look, I don't want the windows. But the problem is there's already been this financial transaction of $5,000 that you have to put in a rewind. That to me is.
George Camel
The question is, did the financing company give the 5,000 to the window company?
Dave Ramsey
Sounds like they did.
George Camel
And if the window company hasn't used that to purchase materials or pay for labor, that's where I'm going. You might be able to get some or all of it back. But again, that's going to be between you and the attorney and the contracts. You know, us bozos in here can't help much. But I'm hoping because you haven't gone that far into it yet, there may be some resolution.
Ken Coleman
Me too.
George Camel
And that's where the contract will stipulate all of that. There's no way to go. Well, we're going to rip up the contract. That's just not going to happen. And so it all depends on what the contract says are your rights to cancel, what the fees are, if you should cancel. And you know, worst case, you're on the hook for this debt, at least for five. Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And hopefully put a stop to it. Goes no more than five and Then I'm the guy that goes, well, if I made this dumb decision and the window company's got 5,000 of my money, I'm going, I want $5,000 worth of windows.
George Camel
Because you still need windows.
Dave Ramsey
Because you still need windows. And so if you're. If you can't get out of this. This loan, pay the 5,000 off quickly, but get you some windows. Get you how? I don't know how much 5,000 get you these days.
George Camel
I'd hope a lot.
Dave Ramsey
It's probably a window and a half knowing. Knowing this world.
George Camel
But seven windows for 16 grand? That feels insane.
Ken Coleman
Well, they're two feet by four. There's their standard size windows. It was just.
George Camel
Yeah, I'm in the wrong business. I could be out here charging over two grand per window.
Ken Coleman
You know, you're pretty smart.
George Camel
Yeah. I mean, is there anyone else involved here? Are you alone, single?
Ken Coleman
No, I am happily married. And. And he's just a big supporter of me. He set to the whole thing, and we both agree.
George Camel
I wish he wasn't a supporter of you right now. Wish he called this out. He just sat there. Yeah, sounds like a good deal, honey. You go for it.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, that's my man.
George Camel
Oh, my goodness.
Ken Coleman
But here's the good thing that came out of it. I've been listening to you guys for just a few months, and we are now on board with the baby steps, and we're both, like, almost 70.
Dave Ramsey
Good for you. Hey, I gotta jump in real quick. Can I tell you something? Because I'm trying to. I'm trying to think all the way through this deal. If we. If you can't get out of the 5,000, like, they're going, we're not giving you that back. You got two options. You eat it, but. Or you get windows. But I'm looking at this online. You got to double check all this stuff. But the average cost replaced a single window, according to a thousand homeowners is $554.
George Camel
That sounds more like it.
Dave Ramsey
So.
Ken Coleman
But that's now.
Dave Ramsey
So let's go ahead, and if we can't get the 5,000 back, get you $5,000 worth of windows. But it's better than 16. Yes, yes. 5,000 is better than 16,000. So I'm just. George, I'm just going. Worst case scenario.
George Camel
I'm just wondering, hey, can you pay a $500 fee and say, hey, listen, here's 500 bucks for your troubles. Get me out of this thing, give me the money back, and get out of the financing deal? Yeah, that's probably a best case scenario.
Ken Coleman
Okay.
George Camel
But I would keep working with that attorney to figure out what's going on in this contract. What are your state laws? What rights do you have as the consumer?
Dave Ramsey
Does this window?
Ken Coleman
Does this estate loss?
Dave Ramsey
Does this window replacement? Is this a local company? They got a local shop.
George Camel
How'd you find them?
Ken Coleman
They're national. Pink flyer in my door.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, I wonder if you could call your sales guy back, who was such a wonderful gentleman when he was pitching you and I wonder.
Ken Coleman
He told me.
Dave Ramsey
What'd he tell you?
Ken Coleman
He said this isn't the first time somebody's tried to cancel. It's not going to work.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, he's a gem. He's. Yeah, he goes from being Prince Charming to Clint Eastwood just that fast, George.
George Camel
Yikes. And this is why you got a flyer in my door? I'm never doing business with you. Get them flyers out here. Don't knock on my door. I'll report you to the HOA. I'm not scared.
Dave Ramsey
Would you?
George Camel
Yeah, 100%.
Dave Ramsey
Pretty snippy email.
George Camel
I don't answer the door. I don't look at flyers. I toss them right in the trash.
Dave Ramsey
What if I come knock on your door tonight?
George Camel
You can pound sand and kick rocks. Text me first.
Dave Ramsey
Even if I got an apple pie or something, I'm standing there smiling, even more suspicious. Me?
George Camel
Yeah. You know I can't have gluten. You trying to kill me?
Ken Coleman
Foreign. What's up, guys? It's Jade. And let me tell you, when my husband and I had $280,000 of student loan debt, we were not sitting around waiting on the government to bail us out.
George Camel
We did the hard work to pay it off ourselves.
Ken Coleman
So if you're still holding out hope that forgiveness is coming, that's like you waiting for your landlord to start paying your rent.
George Camel
It ain't gonna happen.
Ken Coleman
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George Camel
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Ken Coleman
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Dave Ramsey
Hey, I want to say thanks to all of you that have shared the show recently or a long time ago. We're just seeing the growth of the show and we're so grateful because you are the reason we do the show. And when you share it or you subscribe or you follow however you're participating and consuming the show, that the algorithm rewards that. And we're so grateful. And so we want to reward you, the audience, by making it even, make it even easier. And with Ramsey 101 playlist on YouTube. So this playlist, Ramsey 101 is what it's called. It's filled with classic Ramsey content, like the baby steps, how to pay off debt with the debt snowball, how to build an emergency fund, some of the real basics and so much more, of course. So all you got to do to access this, and by the way, this is something that you can now share. Somebody's kicking the tires or they you're telling about what you're doing. They're like, how can I? Hey, boom. I'm going to go right to the Ramsey 101 playlist and I can get you the fundamentals. So they're not searching. It's a great way to lift them. And you do that by clicking on the link at the top of the show notes to open the Ramsey101 playlist. You can text it, DM it, send it in a group chat, all of the ways. So it's also featured at the top of our YouTube channel. So there you go. So, questions, who would you share it with? George, I put Jade on the spot the other day when I talked about this. Who would you share the Ramsey 101 playlist? You got somebody.
George Camel
Right now my heart goes to the, to the haters because they know me, they know my job.
Dave Ramsey
They're coming at you, say, hey, maybe.
George Camel
This will change your mind.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
So maybe to a family member, knock.
Dave Ramsey
Yourself out with the old Ramsey 101 vault.
George Camel
Yeah, well, I'm looking at it right now. 12 videos too. It really sums up the entire ethos of Ramsey because you never know what to share. A clip of Ken, a clip of John, a crazy call from the show. This really will center you, give you a foundation core stuff.
Dave Ramsey
All right, let's go to Zach in Phoenix, Arizona. Zach, how can we help today?
Ken Coleman
Hey, sorry, my alarm just went off. Can you guys hear me?
George Camel
Okay, yeah, just waking up.
Dave Ramsey
Did you make it on time? Are we just getting out of bed? What's the alarm for?
Ken Coleman
I have so many different alarms, I can't even tell you. I need an alarm to tell me what my alarms are for.
Dave Ramsey
Well, can I just say I'm a little alarm that another alarm is going to go off while we're talking to you?
George Camel
Yeah, I don't want to be alarmist, but you should do something about. About that.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, I'm so glad I got you, too, because I love a good dad joke.
George Camel
Yes.
Ken Coleman
I'm a little nervous, but they say I have a face for radio, so here we go.
Dave Ramsey
Well, so do we, so join the club.
Ken Coleman
Here's my situation. So, unfortunately, my dad passed away recently in April.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, I'm so sorry.
Ken Coleman
And, yeah, thank you. Yeah, it's no fun. No will or trust left behind, so that's no fun either. I have a brother and s. Both adults, my brothers in his early 30s, sister in her mid-40s that we were left behind, and a stepbrother as well, who's in his mid-20s. Stepbrother, wasn't adopted. So the heirs are just me and my two biological siblings. My dad wasn't married. My two siblings want to do one thing with the. The estate, and I want to do another. They. They want to keep the house and all in my brother's name. It's got about 308k in equity on it and 103k left on the mortgage. And I personally just would prefer to be bought out. And if, you know, they're reluctantly agreeing to the terms, but it's creating a lot of friction, and I'm just wondering if what I'm wanting is ethically sound or not.
Dave Ramsey
George, I don't hear anything unethical.
George Camel
Yeah. What part makes you feel like it's unethical?
Ken Coleman
I guess just knowing that my. I'm not helping keep the house, I suppose, with my share. And we all know that my dad would want to keep the house, and his goals were kind of unrealistic. He wanted all of us to live in it together, like, all of us adults and my own little family.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
So what would your share be.
Ken Coleman
If they were to buy equity, so about 103k maybe.
Dave Ramsey
And they've agreed to do this?
Ken Coleman
Yeah, I mean, it hasn't been, like, written in stone yet, but, you know, we just started consulting with the probate lawyer, and as of right now, that's. That's the plan. But, you know, it's kind of making my sister and brother look at me different.
Dave Ramsey
Who cares?
George Camel
I mean, that's just part of the process, especially since your dad didn't have any plan in place. And so it's got to go through probate court. This is the pro. It's not a litigious thing where you're angry at your siblings. Just. This is the process to go through this.
Dave Ramsey
They. They don't like it. But you can reduce the friction by taking the high road. Yeah, don't engage. Don't engage in a debate about it. Just go, here's my reasons. I'll say it one time. You can ask me any question about my reasons. I'm not looking for any stress or tension with you guys on this. I just want. I just want my clean cut and I'm out. And they may not like it. They'll get over it.
George Camel
And it's also the least amount of damage because you're saying they're going to want to keep the house. So it's only going to strain the relationships further. If you try to force the sale, you know, with some kind of partition action in court to do this now, they're really going to not like you. And so if they want to keep the house and you say, hey, I don't want any part in this house, you can buy me out. They're going to have to, you know, does he have the cash to do it? Is he going to refinance? What's his plan to buy you out?
Ken Coleman
I think refinance is the plan.
George Camel
And can he afford this on his own?
Ken Coleman
I think so. It's. So it has 103 left on mortgage to probably double.
George Camel
And what about sister? Because she's not living there.
Ken Coleman
She's going to donate her share to my brother.
George Camel
Oh, wow.
Dave Ramsey
Wow. This guy must be some all American, you know, hero. What's the story that your dad leaves him the house? Your sister's going, hey, take my share. What's this guy got on you? Or is he just, like, super charismatic?
Ken Coleman
No, it's. It's just a really strange situation.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
Ken Coleman
You know, about a year before this happened, my dad was telling me my brother was kind of already fighting with me about it, saying like, hey, this is my plans for if and when dad passes. I'm going to take the house and I'll take control of it. And I was like, well, hang on a second. You know, that's not really fair. There's multiple heirs. And I asked my dad to talk to my brother. He said he would, and he said he'd get a will. And Trust done. And he just never did, unfortunately, is your brother. The oldest intentions weren't to leave it all to one person.
Dave Ramsey
Right.
Ken Coleman
Ideally, he would want all of us living in it and, but you know, that's just not practical.
Dave Ramsey
So the brother is just, the brother is just kind of going, he's flexing. There's no will, there's no nothing. There's no real agreement other than he's saying, this is what I want to do.
Ken Coleman
I'm asking because I was like to have a conversation like, hey, you know, I want to keep the house. Can we all try to keep it together versus just saying like, hey, here's what's going to happen. I'm going to take over everything. It kind of left a bad taste in my mouth. And I was like, okay, well, yeah, I don't even want to try to co own this house.
Dave Ramsey
Well, I, I, I am more confident than ever, George and Zach, that this is absolutely not anywhere close to unethical, but it's actually very wise. What your brother is doing is absolutely unhealthy. There's not a positive motive behind this. This is pure selfish, pure power play. I don. Your sister's deal is. But he's got some type of real intimidation or hold on her. It's, the whole thing is nuts. And I think it's great that you're trying to get out of it, don't you, George? You have any different thoughts?
George Camel
Well, no, it's, it's not going to hold up in probate court for him to be like, this is just going to be mine.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, I know. I can't wait for that. I can't wait for that conversation.
George Camel
So they're going to go. No, all three are the heirs. And here's what that means. Either you force the sale, or he needs to buy you out. That's the only option.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. And you just sit over there and smile.
George Camel
You being a jerk. Yeah. He goes, okay, I'm gonna free finance now. I have a $200,000 mortgage. Yeah, hopefully he can afford it. And if not, that's his problem. And it's up to him if he needs to sell the house later on down the road, if he can't afford the upkeep. So you're not doing anything wrong. I would not let him make you feel bad about this. You're not being a terrible brother. You're just doing what was not said because dad didn't have a will or estate. And this is the mess that you're left with. And I'm sorry for that on top of grieving your father's loss, you also now have this strained relationship to deal with.
Dave Ramsey
And you know what? One other thing I'd say, and George, correct me if you, if you disagree with this, I wouldn't let him manipulate you. Between this end of his phone call and probate court, you're owed your share of it. You get to decide. Don't just kind of walk away from this and give him. I feel like he's done that to your sister. He's hoping you'll get him already capitulated. I would hold firm, man. What's yours is yours. You be a man, you stand up to him, he'll walk away.
Ken Coleman
All right, Dave, you have some strong opinions? Possibly, Yeah, I think so. Okay. Because you really prefer credit unions over big banks? Well, credit unions, for one thing, are non profit, which means that the members, the customers own the credit union.
George Camel
So any profits that the credit union.
Ken Coleman
Makes goes back into customer pricing. So you get better interest rate on savings, cheaper checking and so on, that kind of thing. But that's what's more important than that.
Dave Ramsey
Though, is the fact that the customer.
Ken Coleman
Is the owner, changes the spirit on the credit union.
Dave Ramsey
So I find very few credit unions.
Ken Coleman
That aren't very customer centric. Well, and I think we have found one that is incredible and that's Fairwinds. They are an incredible credit union that is really out with the heart to help the customer.
Dave Ramsey
They're the right kind of people with the right kind of values and they've.
Ken Coleman
Done a really, really good job with customer service and the deals that they're offering. The Ramsey Tribe is incredible. Yeah, absolutely. And I love that the things that we teach, they so line up with. And you're right, their customer is unbelievable. Winston and I just signed up and we got an account. And I'm not kidding, it took less than five minutes. It was so user friendly. Like the step by step approach was unbelievable. And then the next day my phone rings and it says fair Winds on my phone. So I answered it and talked to someone there and they said, yeah, they give calls to every new customer. And so again, they just really care about your experience. And I, I so, so appreciate that. Plus, anything that you can do at a traditional branch, you can do with them@fairwinds.org or on their app. And you'll have access to over 33,000 ATMs.
Dave Ramsey
Hey, you guys know how much I.
Ken Coleman
Hate banks in general. And so for me to do this is a big deal. Talk to our friends at Fairwinds.
George Camel
And check out the combined checking and savings bundle that they created just for the Ramsey Tribe.
Dave Ramsey
You guys, it's incredible.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, you guys, it's so easy to join Fairwinds no matter where you live. So go to Fairwinds.org Ramsey.
George Camel
Fairwinds is federally insured by NCUA.
Dave Ramsey
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Ken Coleman
Hey, how are you?
Dave Ramsey
We're doing well. How are you today?
Ken Coleman
Doing well.
Dave Ramsey
Good. What's up?
Ken Coleman
So I have some questions. I went through a divorce in the last probably year and a half. I'm 33. I have two children and I have split custody of them, 50. 50. I don't have any child support or alimony. So basically my biggest expenses are my rent and my child care cost. Basically my question is I'm trying to start building for retirement because I'm basically starting over in life and trying to invest into my future, essentially.
Dave Ramsey
Do you have any debt?
Ken Coleman
I do not. After the divorce, I had a good little bit, about $6,000. But I hit it hard and I paid off all my credit cards.
Dave Ramsey
What kind of savings do you have?
Ken Coleman
Currently I have 1000 in my emergency fund and I just opened up in a Roth IRA in the last year. I've only got about 1400 in there.
Dave Ramsey
What's your income?
Ken Coleman
I have no truck payment.
Dave Ramsey
Good. So what's your income?
Ken Coleman
I currently make approximately 85,000 a year.
Dave Ramsey
And what do you do?
Ken Coleman
I'm an HVLC technician.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. What is a, what's a financial path forward look like for you as far as growth in that role? Is there a path to six figures in your area based on your expertise? What's that look like for you as far as potential growth?
Ken Coleman
I'm on the pretty high end already.
Dave Ramsey
All right, so you have no debt. You're making 85,000 you've just started what we would call baby step two. I mean, excuse me, baby step one, you have the thousand dollar emergency fund and you just knocked out your credit card debt, so you're really in baby step three, which is to get the three to six months. Am I understanding that correct?
Ken Coleman
Yep, that's correct.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. Well, George, walk him through what that's going to look like for him as far as saving for retirement.
George Camel
Yeah. I love that you're excited to build wealth for the future, but right now.
Dave Ramsey
Hold on, I think he's got a correction here. Travis, I'm sorry, it sound like you were about to say something else like.
Ken Coleman
Oh, yes, my goal. I would like to retire by roughly 62 because it's a labor intensive job and I can't hear myself crawling into houses and addicts.
Dave Ramsey
All right, perfect.
Ken Coleman
Two years.
George Camel
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
All right, George.
Ken Coleman
Determined.
George Camel
I crunch your numbers and I know your future. So here's the deal. Right now is not the time to be investing because if you have a $1200 emergency, you're going back into debt. And so right now what we need to do is take that amazing income and stack as much of it away as possible into that emergency fund until we get to that three to six month mark. And for you, having been punched in the face like that with a divorce, I'd want to lean towards six months. So what does a full month of expenses take for you to live currently? Is it $4,000, $3,000?
Ken Coleman
I spent about 800 in child care and my rent is 1700, so.
George Camel
And then food, utilities, insurance. Yeah, so are we talking 3, 500?
Ken Coleman
I also put it. Yeah, probably. And then I also put away, I started investing into my 401k through work because they match 4%.
George Camel
Okay. But here's what I'm asking you to do, and I think it's going to get you there a whole lot faster, even to your wealth. Goal is to pause all investing right now, even the match, until you have this emergency fund saved up. So you, you need about 20 grand before you go. Okay, now I'm ready to start building wealth because we're still kind of building some foundation here. We're not ready to build for the future quite yet. You're on the cusp. But you do this for another, let's say six months. Could you really sock away, you know, three grand a month for six months to get to that 20 grand mark?
Ken Coleman
Yeah, I just have to keep hitting it hard.
George Camel
Exactly.
Ken Coleman
Working more overtime.
George Camel
And so now's not the time to let your foot off the gas. You'll get there. You'll get back to enjoying life a little bit more, Eating out, saving up for, you know, vacations and upgrading car and all that stuff. But right now you're in baby step three, which is a slog. It's a grind, man. It's not the fun. Baby step. Baby step two, at least you're paying off debt. You're seeing some progress. Baby step three, you're just stacking, stacking and stacking and stacking. But six months from now, let's say before the end of the year, you're going to be back to investing. But instead of a measly 4%, you're going to be up to 15% of 85,000, which is over $12,000 a year.
Dave Ramsey
So run those.
George Camel
Can I crunch the numbers for you?
Dave Ramsey
I love when you do this, George.
George Camel
When do you turn 34?
Ken Coleman
In October.
George Camel
Okay. He had to think about it. I got nervous.
Dave Ramsey
I know. I wasn't sure where that was.
George Camel
So by the. From 34, you said you have 1400 bucks in retirement right now?
Ken Coleman
Correct.
George Camel
Okay. So from 34 to 62, let's say you never get a race. You make $85,000 until you're 62, but you invest 15%, it's a little over a thousand bucks a month. You ready for your grand total? You're looking at about $2 million in that one account.
Dave Ramsey
How's that? How's that? Yes. At 60. At 60 what?
George Camel
That's at 62.
Dave Ramsey
That was your stated goal, Travis. At 62, Georgia's got you right at $2 million. If you do exactly what he said. How's. How's that feel?
Ken Coleman
That would be amazing.
George Camel
It's like you won a game show. But here's what it takes. Consistency. That's why you need this emergency fund, because having that in place means you're never going to debt again. You can consistently invest and have margin for the future. That's the purpose of getting out of debt, too, to have that margin. And my guess is you're good at your job if you're getting paid 85,000, right?
Ken Coleman
Oh, absolutely.
George Camel
So it's probably going to go up over time. It's not a far stretch to say you could be making six figures a few years from now doing this.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, I believe so.
George Camel
And that, therefore that 15% grows as your income grows, which means you're going to have Even more than 2 million if you do this stuff. And that's not including getting your home paid off. Do you have a home right Now?
Ken Coleman
No, I rent.
George Camel
Do you want to be a homeowner someday?
Ken Coleman
Yes, eventually I do. Right now I'm just trying to rebuild my wealth.
George Camel
Absolutely.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
So part of your wealth will be a paid for home one day. And so as you build that 15%, keep investing that. Anything above that you can save for a down payment. And you know, five, ten years from now, you're gonna have a big stack of cash to be a homeowner and start building some equity as you build wealth through your 401k. So I feel good about this. I know it feels like you got knocked down, you'll never get back up again, but man, you are 33.
Dave Ramsey
That's right. And Travis, those numbers go up pretty substantially if you're doing some side hustle work because of your H VAC experience. You can put more money in that calculator that George is walking through. And by the way, that's@ramseysolutions.com the investment calculator. And you can see how those numbers go up. So if the goal is 62, then you know you can always make more money and through doing more work and, and put more in and then you get that compound effect. So if that's the goal, then you.
Ken Coleman
Gotta get 85, 000. Also includes a lot of overtime.
Dave Ramsey
Well, good for you though. You got kiddos, man. Welcome to the. Welcome to life. Oh yeah, you're the sole provider now.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, I love it.
Dave Ramsey
And a boy, so. I know. But I also would encourage you that you don't have to limit yourself to. The only way I make more money is overtime. I think you have a lot more skill and experience than you're giving yourself credit for. And you're still a young guy, and I mean young guy. So let's be looking for opportunities to make six figures. What would that ha. What would have to happen? And it. And let's not just assume that I've got a work 60 hours a week to get there. You've got some skill, you've got experience. Make relationships and connections happen all over the place. And you'd be surprised where you are 10 years from now. But that's going to allow you to get to the point at 62 where you can walk away and walk away with comfort. That's the goal. Not just walk away in order to.
George Camel
Shut down, not just survive. We want you thriving.
Dave Ramsey
That's exactly right. Thanks for the call, Travis. Good stuff. George, a few things get me more excited than you punching numbers in the investment. I love it.
George Camel
It's nerdery. Meets hope.
Dave Ramsey
We need some music to support that. And a big reveal.
George Camel
Some calculator music.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, a drum roll.
George Camel
I'll work on that.
Ken Coleman
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Dave Ramsey
This is the Ramsey show where America hangs out to have a conversation about their money, their profession and their relationship. The phone number to jump in is 888-25-5225, alongside George Camel. I'm Ken Coleman, thrilled to be with you all and Lizzy is with us in Toronto. Lizzy, how are you and how can we help?
Ken Coleman
Fine, thank you. So just a Backstory. I'm Lizzie, 25 year old mom of two, under the age of three. I'm unemployed and I have a fiance that works six days a week, extensive hours. He makes around 150k a year. But when he's home, he thinks because he brings in all the financial support that all he has to do is be on his phone and do nothing around the house. And I'm at my wits end and I'm ready to leave, but because I feel like I'm in a prison where I have no family, I have no resources of getting out and showing him that I'm not gonna stay somewhere where you're begging me to get a job, but I still have to hold all the manpower in the house.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, well, yeah, so this is, this is a simple solution, but it's gonna be difficult. It's Going to be hard to do, but it's pretty simple. You're going to have to to you're doing a lot on your own, it sounds like. Anyway, he's bringing in all the income. This relationship is. Sounds like it's non existent. Whatever exists is certainly unhealthy. So it's the fiance. Are they his kids? Are they somebody else's kids? What's the story there?
Ken Coleman
No, no, they're our kids.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so you want out, correct?
Ken Coleman
Yeah. Because I just think this person is not willing to change and he thinks that there's nothing wrong with him or he's not doing anything wrong.
Dave Ramsey
I agree. So you should get out. You guys aren't married anyway, so. Yeah, what I would say is you need to figure out what to do based on him not being around. You have to treat it like he's not around, period. No money. Now you're in a situation where you are in a prison because he's paying for all the bills. You have no income. So the simple steps are, and I say simple, I'm not saying this is going to be easy, but the simple steps are, you've got to figure out who would watch the kids. When I'm working full time, can I do full time work from a remote situation and still be able to watch the kids? I think that's probably highly unlikely, but you'll know the answer to that. So the answer is no. Let's assume it's no. Then you've got to come up with a situation where you go, what? How much money would I need to make to not only take care of me and the kids, but also be able to pay for the childcare above and beyond the basics you're tracking with me so far, correct?
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so it's time for you to get out there and, you know, shake the tree and you got to find work and you got to say, I'm moving forward on my own. If he, once I leave, gets the wake up call that he desperately needs to get great news, let's repair the relationship at that point. But you've got to go. And then you're a mama bear. And so the question is, what experience, what skill set do you have in the workplace?
Ken Coleman
So I'm in business management, but I just, I just finished studying business management in 2024 and before that I did aesthetics and spa management.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so what do you think you could make? And I'm not holding you to this. This is just so that we can begin to get our brains working. What do you think the, the income opportunity is for you in, in your economy there, in, in Toronto or nearby.
Ken Coleman
I think there's maybe minimum 50, 50k a year.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. Can you live on 50k a year comfortably?
Ken Coleman
Probably not. Unless it's paycheck to paycheck. Like it would be paycheck to paycheck if it's 52.
Dave Ramsey
I want to bring George in real quick because he's really, really good here at coaching. I want, she knows the professional side of things. And by the way, I'm going to give you a copy of my book. Find the work you're wired to do. It's got an assessment in it that I want you to take and it's really going to help you from an ideation standpoint and you really need to take it. That's my gift to you. But I want George to come in here because you, as you're looking for professional opportunities, realistically you may have to work two jobs in the early days to be able to afford child care. And George, I want you to walk her through what she needs to be doing even now and building an actual budget.
Ken Coleman
They're also his kids too, so I think I get it.
Dave Ramsey
But you said he does nothing. You said he does nothing. So I'm assuming he's not going to help you. If he helps you, great.
Ken Coleman
No, I think he would like he's okay with his responsibilities. He knows his financial responsibilities. I think it's the household responsibilities he doesn't want to take accountability for because I'm not working. So he thinks I don't have to do it.
George Camel
I don't like this idea that you're not working. I have a stay at home wife. I would rather be here because it is chaos at the house, she's exhausted. And so the idea that he thinks you're not working is already disrespectful. He doesn't value you, he doesn't value what you're bringing to this family and raising these children. And so I don't know what, what's going on behind that of if that's from how he grew up or what it is, but you need to have a very direct conversation with him where he doesn't shut down.
Ken Coleman
It's generation, it's generational because his mom was also a wife and then his.
George Camel
Dad probably didn't value his wife.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, he saw his dad and he.
George Camel
Goes, this is normal. The man works and the wife just is a leech and she just sits at home all day. It's insane. And so you're not crazy to think this is not okay and you deserve to be valued and respected in the household. And so you have three options. Staying the same is not an option. Right. Staying where you're at. So we either have to deal with the problem at hand and see if he's willing to change and can turn, turn course here, or you leave and start a life on your own. And that's either going to be you as a, you know, single mom working three jobs, trying to find child care. I don't know what that next step is for you. I hope this can be resolved, that he can remain a part of, you know, these kids lives and support them. Him. I don't know what the laws in Canada are as far as, you know, you guys aren't married, but there's probably some common law here that says he's going to have to provide child support.
Dave Ramsey
And spousal support and to that end. So Lizzie.
Ken Coleman
Canadian.
Dave Ramsey
So Lizzie. So hold on a second. I want to give it back to George because you jumped in when I was setting him up and so whatever, whatever.
Ken Coleman
Sorry, sorry.
Dave Ramsey
No, no, you're great. No, no, I'm not, I'm not chastising. I want you to hear this part from George. Whatever you think he's going to do to support the kids financially that George becomes a part of this new budget, I want you to walk her through. I think she's got to create a pre budget which will help her determine what she's going to have to earn based on whatever he's going to do to support. But she's on her own. That's where I'm trying to take this.
George Camel
Yeah, I would create just a fake budget on your own of what a new life would look like and how you would be able to support this and what custody would look like if he has the kids half the week. I don't know what that would end up being if that's the next step. But that's the kind of part you need to map out on paper to put some facts because right now it's just a lot of emotion and that's hard to grapple with as far as taking a next step.
Dave Ramsey
So walk her through that, George, real quick. From rent the four walls to some other things she needs, I would start.
George Camel
Researching, hey, what would it look like to live on my own? What would that cost? What is rent in this area? Obviously the kids are really young so they'd likely need to be in some type of daycare or you're working some sort of very flexible Remote job where you can take care of them. That's going to be difficult, too. And so then map it all out. Food, utilities, transportation costs, all of that insurance on my own. What would all that cost? And then go, what do I need to make in order to make that happen? What jobs are out there that pay that with my skill set and time? So it's. You're kind of reverse engineering it. But there's so much going on here where I'm like, he wants her to get a job. For what? They don't need the income. He just thinks she's lazy. And so I think they should swap roles for a day. Let him take care of the kids for 24 hours and see if he's a shell of a human at the end of it.
Dave Ramsey
I could tell you, I remember we had three kids under the age of three. And I remember one of the first times that Stacy went out for like maybe 90 minutes, I thought I was going to absolutely implode. Statistics show that half of Americans don't have enough life insurance or they don't have any at all. I don't understand this, John.
George Camel
Why don't people want to take care of their family?
Ken Coleman
They think they're going to die or something.
Dave Ramsey
Well, I used to be one of those guys. I didn't even think about it. And one of my buddies said, hey.
Ken Coleman
The only reason to not have life insurance is if you hate your wife and kids.
Dave Ramsey
And I immediately went and got term life insurance.
Ken Coleman
That's a gut punch.
Dave Ramsey
And. Oh, you're telling me.
George Camel
And for decades, Dave, I've sat across people who've lost.
Ken Coleman
Lost a spouse.
Dave Ramsey
They've lost somebody important to them.
George Camel
Me, too. They don't know what to do next.
Ken Coleman
Me, too.
Dave Ramsey
I mean, you're gonna have a crisis.
Ken Coleman
Here, and, you know, you got two options. While you're sitting and talking to a.
George Camel
Young widow, she's concerned about how she's.
Ken Coleman
Going to invest all this money properly and not mess this up. Or she's concerned how she's going to eat tomorrow.
George Camel
That's exactly.
Ken Coleman
These are the two options. And take care of your dadgum family, man.
Dave Ramsey
Term life insurance can replace income, pay off debts, cover funeral expenses.
George Camel
So your family can actually have the opportunity to just be sad.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
To just miss you.
Dave Ramsey
That's exactly what it's supposed to be.
Ken Coleman
It's saying, I love you to your family. Term life insurance, Jeff Zander and the.
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Ken Coleman
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Dave Ramsey
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Ken Coleman
Hey, guys. How are you today?
Dave Ramsey
Good. What are you doing?
Ken Coleman
Not much. So I just have a little financial question. So I've been working for a successful flower shop for the last 10 years and the owners want to retire. And I'd love to purchase the business, but the problem I'm having is getting approved for an SBA loan. And it's very frustrating because I'm 42, I'm debt free, minus the home that I'm currently living in, along with my rental property, which I have about 150,000 in equity. I have an 830 credit score. You know, I have seven credit cards with $70,000 available to me. Like, I feel like I'm doing great, yet I, with. Even with all that, I can't get approved for an SBA loan without a guarantor. And I honestly don't have anyone in my life that would be able to be a guarantor for $180,000 loan. So my question is, if I have all this going for me and I can't be approved without a guarantor, what are other directions that I can go in order to, you know, purchase a business?
Dave Ramsey
How long you been working for them?
Ken Coleman
10 years.
Dave Ramsey
Great relationship.
Ken Coleman
Yes, sir.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, what's the price?
Ken Coleman
It's going to be 180.
Dave Ramsey
Okay. Yeah. George. What? You can walk her through that. But that's, there's, it's a very do. In fact, I like that price point.
George Camel
Yeah, I was scared it was going to be like a seven figure deal here. So, number one, I'm, I hate to say it, I'm kind of glad you didn't get approved for the loan because I don't recommend any business owner take on debt to start or fund or purchase a business. There is another way to do this that I think makes sense for both Parties, and that's something called a structured pay out. So you guys agree it's 180 grand and you pay them $5,000 a month out of the profits of the business. That's 60 grand a year. They get their full 180 within three years. See how that works?
Ken Coleman
That seems a lot better.
George Camel
Exactly. And then you're not taking on actual debt. And so there's no, there's no guarantee here, but it's saying, hey, I'm going to pay you this percentage or this amount of the profits until we hit this purchase price. And so these can look, we never.
Ken Coleman
Thought about doing that without a loan.
George Camel
So yeah, the options are out there. Yeah, well, debt is so normalized. We all just go, well, we'll all just try to get loans for everything. But this really protects you and it puts, it gives them some peace that they're actually going to get their money within a reasonable amount of time. And so I would talk to them and explain the situation, say, listen, I can't get a loan out. I want to take over this business. Would you do a structured payout? I would have an attorney draw it up. Up to make sure that both parties agree to every, all the terms involved. And then within that three years, you would then become a full owner over that time.
Dave Ramsey
And I would only add to what George said by don't feel pressure, don't over commit on what that amount is every month. You got to really make sure you've got your eyes on the books before you would agree to anything or even propose anything, you need to really understand the books. So for instance, right now, as it stands, do you have any sense of, of what the net profit is on a monthly basis?
Ken Coleman
Yes. So she has actually given me all access to the books. So because it is a floral shop, you know, February, we're taking in $50,000 versus March, which is 30. So you know, and obviously when you have the bigger months, you set aside the money for the smaller months. So right now, gross, like last year the business made 330 and she's taking home, you know, $15,000 a month. And that's after all utilities as, after all, you know, employees are paid, supplies, everything. So it's a very good business. And she's making wonderful money. So I can definitely do the five a month. That would not be a problem. And you know, my husband works, I don't have any bills. So even if I have to cut back on what I take home, it's gonna be fine because I don't have Any. I don't have anything to.
Dave Ramsey
What would be an ideal number just. Just for our conversation? What would be an ideal number to where you pay yourself a really nice chunk and you're paying a chunk to the owner?
Ken Coleman
I've thought about that and I'm not sure. I do have some Roths that I want to invest in. You know, I am on baby step number five, so I think it would really depend on, you know, what I take. What I could take would depend on actually, you know, what I'd invest in and what I personally could put in my account for me. So I've thought about it, but I haven't thought about it. It's really just, you know, what's happening in my life at the time. My son's on a church mission, So I pay 500amonth, you know, for him for the next five months. So, you know, at the end of the year, it's. My prices are going to be different. I would love to take home, you know, 25, 3,000. That would be way more than enough than I would ever need. I just, you know, shove it into savings. So.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, so you're saying ideal if you could pay yourself 2500amonth. You said that would be ideal.
Ken Coleman
That would be more than I would need.
Dave Ramsey
Oh my gosh. And she's been paying herself 15,000amonth.
Ken Coleman
Right. Right. So, yeah.
Dave Ramsey
So you know what?
Ken Coleman
I would. I could save my daughter's college and, you know.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. But I. To bring George in on this opinion here. George, I'll go out. I want to be conservative if I'm her.
George Camel
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And if the paying herself 2,500 would be more than she needs and the previous owner's been paying 15, I would want to pay. I would want Katie to pay herself as little as absolute possible so that we pay the 180 price point off so much. And I would also say, George, and I'm also being very conservative here, Katie and I just want to see what George is taking is. I'd also not invest in the business much at all, if any, until I paid the 180. Do you agree or is that too conservative?
George Camel
I mean, there's major things that have to be done, like light things to. I don't know what kind of the renovations that need to happen or branding. You know, I don't know what the. The flower shop stated is.
Ken Coleman
No, I mean it's, you know, it's. It's an established business. Everything's running great. The only thing I would do is put my van as A company van, because it does need to be replaced. But other than that, there's nothing major that I can see in the future. That, I mean, you know, it's established, it has everything it needs. Just supplies, monthly type of thing. Great.
George Camel
Are there any retained earnings in the business?
Ken Coleman
I'm sorry?
George Camel
Are there any retained earnings in the business?
Ken Coleman
What do you mean?
George Camel
Like, are there any savings for future investment? Do they put any money aside and would you need to have that?
Ken Coleman
I would. I would have a separate savings account, you know, for the business, for emergencies. But I don't. I don't think she has that now. I just think it, you know, she pays us. She's very lax. She just kind of pays as she goes.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, she's.
Ken Coleman
I'm very. You know, I want my account. My account.
George Camel
And you know that this business will continue at this revenue pace even if you took over. Clients won't be leaving. Customers won't be leaving. If they're like, whoa, what happened to ownership?
Ken Coleman
Yeah, yeah. I've been there for 10 years, so I know the clients. And, you know, looking at the profit and loss statements, it just keeps going up every year.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, well, Katie, I'm super pumped.
George Camel
Yeah, this sounds like a great deal, honestly.
Dave Ramsey
I'm going to just say this one more time. I would be super conservative on spending. I'd be very aggressive in pouring every nickel of profit you can towards the 180. And when that gets you there, where you're free and clear now, you can invest and grow this thing, pay yourself more. And I just think you've got yourself a really great business. So I would definitely do it this way. I'm curious, what are your other big seasons besides February for Valentine's Day? Is Christmas big? What do you got going on? I'm just curious what the seasonal dips and rises are.
Ken Coleman
Yeah. So we have Valentine's Day and then Mother's Day. Mother's Day is actually more profitable than Valentine's. So Mother's Day, we can bring in about 60,000. Yeah. And then Valentine's brings in about 45 to 55,000. Unfortunately, we have a lot of deaths at the beginning of the year. Everyone holds on for the holidays. So we actually are major into funerals, which is all throughout the year, but normally the cheapest month income is about 20,000.
Dave Ramsey
That's fantastic.
George Camel
That's amazing. It looks like you know this business inside and out, and maybe you kind of let them hang on with. With the business for the first year to just make sure there's no bumps. In the road as part of the deal.
Ken Coleman
Yeah. So the owner actually, obviously over 10 years we've become really close and she has actually offered to stay with me when I purchased it to stay with me for about four or five months and be my employee just so she's my backup and if I have any questions and she can, you know, just kind of coach me.
George Camel
And she'll take a pay cut for that.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, she'll make what I make and she's giving me a month free, so.
George Camel
Wow.
Dave Ramsey
I like this deal.
George Camel
Yeah. I'd still have an attorney draw it up just to make sure it's not like a handshake agreement. But this sounds like a best case scenario for all parties. And I love that you're not doing it with debt anymore. Thank God you got denied. You're going to do it a much smarter way.
Dave Ramsey
Fun fact, Katie. My very first job, 14 years of age working for Anderson's Greenhouse still there in Newport News, Virginia. And I was the. I was the laborer who got the poinsettia plants prepared and ready to go. Big Christmas business on poinsettia, so.
Ken Coleman
And I bet you were busy.
Dave Ramsey
You need to get into that business. There's another big boom in December. Everybody likes those fresh red plants, especially George.
Ken Coleman
Sticking to a budget is hard enough. And inflation, George, it isn't helping us.
George Camel
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Ken Coleman
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George Camel
Yeah. And Aldi has the lowest prices of any national grocery store, which is really important. Impressive. And with all the money you saved, you're going to be making more progress toward your financial goals.
Ken Coleman
Yes. Which is what we want for you guys. So stop overpaying and start shopping at Aldi. Find a store near you today at Aldi US That's a L D. I usually.
Dave Ramsey
All right, let's go to Martin in Lubbock, Texas. Martin, how can we help today?
Ken Coleman
Hey man, I appreciate answering my call. I enjoy listening to you guys.
Dave Ramsey
Thank you.
Ken Coleman
I'm calling, I'm calling about insurance. I'm a 65 year old rancher that is puts insurance about a step above the irs. And I'm to the point of trying to decide if I want to self insure not my vehicles so much, but our home and our in our outbuildings on our ranch and just kind of want your idea about it. I've been thinking about this for quite a while.
Dave Ramsey
Well, my guess is you're thinking about it because you've got, you think the right amount of cash, right amount of money to be able to do this or is this just an idea only?
Ken Coleman
Well, I can, I can replace it myself.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, run the numbers. Yeah, run the numbers out for us.
Ken Coleman
Well, the, the house, I'm going to say is probably what they have it valued at 780,000. And then the. I've got two barns that about 150,000 a piece. I can build them cheaper than that. But that's what it would cost if I had them built because I built them years ago or we did a couple other buildings running, probably about $50,000. So whatever that comes out to. A million or so dollars maybe let's say a tornado came through, which has, it has happened before. But I have not made a claim on my home ever. Not a hail claim.
George Camel
What is your insurance cost total?
Ken Coleman
Very much. It's per year, it's. Oh, I'm grasping, about 96, 9,600 a year.
George Camel
Okay.
Dave Ramsey
Versus if. Let's just play out the worst case scenario and you just ran the numbers. So if I'm understanding you right, you're telling me you got that cash set aside where you could replace all those buildings, home included. But why. So here's my. And this is an honest question. Why does the $9,600 bother you so much? Yeah. Because instead of using up all that.
George Camel
Cash, how much cash do you have?
Ken Coleman
Like what?
George Camel
How much do you have liquid?
Dave Ramsey
That's fair.
Ken Coleman
Liquid. Liquid cash. If you're in.
Dave Ramsey
It's not a trick question.
Ken Coleman
No, I'm going to say let's say 2.5.
George Camel
Okay.
Ken Coleman
And then of course I've got investments that I can't just.
Dave Ramsey
That's liquid.
Ken Coleman
That I can't just get out.
George Camel
It would take some work to liquefy it, if you will.
Dave Ramsey
I just don't see what would possibly bother you so much given that that's your financial position. Why $9,600 a year?
George Camel
Yeah. You put that 2 million in a savings account, it's gonna make enough to pay for your insurance 10 times over. And so I'll tell you, Dave Ramsey has insurance on all his properties. He can very well self insure if he wants to to but for the bargain. It's worth the peace of mind knowing he doesn't have to burn his own cash for the, you know, 800 bucks a month that you're paying toward insurance. And the other piece is for liability coverage, you know, Exposure to lawsuits.
Ken Coleman
No, I've been told that a bunch. But I would insurance.
Dave Ramsey
If I were you, Martin, here's the bottom line. If I were you, I would pay that insurance with a smile on my face. Given your position, you're worth several million.
George Camel
Dollars and you got to pay the tax man that's the smartest. On top of paying taxes already.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. Put all your angst towards the irs, that I'm all for. But not the insurance man in this case, the insurance is a really smart financial move for you. Very smart. That's peace of mind. I would go to bed every night going, taxes. But then I'd go, ah, insurance. That's. That's. Am I right, George?
George Camel
Well, it sounds like you've been burning some brain calories just thinking about this.
Ken Coleman
This.
George Camel
It's living rent free in your head just thinking about it.
Dave Ramsey
He said the insurance man is just barely above the IRS guy. And I thought there was a deeper story here.
Ken Coleman
It wasn't. It wasn't. It's just that, you know, when. When you do cars and you do tractors and you do, you know, you do crop insurance and you. I get it. It seems like that's all I do is insure.
Dave Ramsey
I get it.
George Camel
And one thing you can do is see if you can, you know, raise your deductible, which could lower your premium. So you can still dig into your insurance and say, hey, where can I do better to. To lower what I'm paying, since I can take on more risk. So I would work with a good insurance broker. Do you have one that you trust?
Ken Coleman
Yeah, I do. I do. I've. I've known him for years, and so I can't. I can't really. I don't know if I put him with the irs, but there we go.
George Camel
I would talk to him.
Dave Ramsey
You know what this really is, Martin, I think I.
Ken Coleman
Don't make me feel good. Okay?
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, well, you know, Martin, I think. I think I figured out what's going on with you. You just. You're so tight, you squeak when you walk block. And you.
George Camel
You pretty well, the idea of you paying anyone.
Dave Ramsey
So the idea of paying insurance is not even about the insurance. You just got stuck at pain.
Ken Coleman
And it is. It is.
Dave Ramsey
And so the force, the forced payment is what gives you hives.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, yeah, it. It's what just aggravates me, you know?
Dave Ramsey
I get it, brother, but man, check back.
Ken Coleman
I'm like, yeah, I know.
Dave Ramsey
But the flip side of that is, is that it allows you to keep that cash and that two can Grow and grow and grow. And so you're just gonna have to play some type of mental game here to get over it. And I thought that was what was going on with you. And I get it. I get it.
George Camel
I'd shed a tear and then wipe it with a hundred dollar bill and move on with my day.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, no, that's a flex.
George Camel
That's how you do it.
Dave Ramsey
I like that.
George Camel
I want to be Martin when I grow up, though. I mean, this.
Dave Ramsey
Who doesn't want out? This guy's got it.
George Camel
I want to be a race.
Dave Ramsey
He's got dirt. He's got buildings on the dirt. He's got millions in the bank. And he's calling us, griping about insurance. That's how Martin.
George Camel
That's how a true American is.
Dave Ramsey
Life is good, friend.
George Camel
He would have been pouring tea into the harbor.
Dave Ramsey
Yes.
George Camel
He was a little older.
Dave Ramsey
Guarantee you he'd have been throwing it over the ship. Let's go to Isabella in your neck of the woods, George. The Boston area. Hey, Isabella, how can we help?
Ken Coleman
So I was kind of a weird one, or maybe it's not, but I trying to figure out if my husband and I should file bankruptcy.
George Camel
Yeah, that's weird. What's going on?
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
George Camel
What's causing you to even go to this like napalm solution?
Ken Coleman
So we're both 21. We got married in April, so. Just married.
George Camel
But is this how you're celebrated with bankruptcy?
Ken Coleman
Yes.
George Camel
Okay.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, it's super fun.
Dave Ramsey
What did you two do? Did you do this together or did you bring this mess into the marriage?
Ken Coleman
So technically, it was right before we got married. Long story short, my husband's father was trying to sell their childhood home and we are kind of in a weird home situation right now. We're living with my parents and an in law and it's not super ideal. Yeah. And he ended up my husband taking an $80,000 loan out, a home equity loan on that property for his name to be on the deed and us for have us to have half of the property basically live upstairs. His father would move downstairs. His father had like $30,000 in credit card debt and needed us to pay that off, which looking back now, was not a great idea.
George Camel
I'm looking for any good idea so far in this relationship.
Dave Ramsey
This sounds like a reality TV show. I live with my parents and an in law and everybody's got debt and we split the house up. Half ownership. It's just a reality.
George Camel
Even sell the house because he only owns half.
Ken Coleman
So we tried to. So we had to Move out because it got really hostile. Not to go too into it, but yeah, his dad has a history of domestic violence and a whole thing which I didn't know about until after this was done.
George Camel
That would have been good information.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, boy.
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
George Camel
So now you are paying a payment on a place you don't even live while paying another payment to rent somewhere else.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, so fortunately we only pay like 400 because we're technically living with my parents. So they've been nice and helping us with all this, but we're pretty much at a crossroads of his father refuses to sell the home unless my husband takes his name off the deed and basically gives him all the rights, which who knows what he's going to do and if he actually sells it because we're pretty sure he's renting it out and we're kind of in a really weird spot.
George Camel
Yeah, well, bankruptcy is not going to solve this. This is a relational issue, potentially attorney issue, to get out of this mess. What's your total debt between the two of you?
Ken Coleman
It's 80,000 for the home equity and then a about 6,000 in credit card debt.
George Camel
And what's the total income between the two of you?
Ken Coleman
I can't work. I. I had to leave my job last year. I have health issues and so it's just my husband working. Unfortunately, the hard part with all of this.
George Camel
Oh, my goodness. Well, we're going to need to get the income up, the expenses down, and clean up this mess. And hopefully we can get out of this home equity loan situation if the house can be sold.
Dave Ramsey
Not the option here.
George Camel
Exactly.
Dave Ramsey
All right, it's time for my personal favorite segment on the Ramsay show, Strong words. It's when George talks nerdy. I love when you talk nerdy, George. So without any further ado. Talk nerdy to me.
George Camel
Guess what today's is about.
Dave Ramsey
I don't know. Should I guess?
George Camel
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
It involves either real estate, the irs. Oh, it's about taxes, withholding.
George Camel
How'd you know?
Dave Ramsey
Well, I mean, if it's about taxes.
George Camel
We gotta talk about. How do you know when it's time to change your tax withholdings?
Dave Ramsey
Oh, okay.
George Camel
This is the age old.
Dave Ramsey
I'm gonna try to be polite because you know I hate taxes.
George Camel
Well, this is gonna really fill your cup.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, I thought you were gonna say burn my biscuits. That too. Okay, here we go. Here's the stamp. I steam my broccoli.
George Camel
As of April 25th 5th. Over 90 million people got a refund from the IRS this year. And you would think, wow, What a nice thing. Your refund or tax bill reveals how accurate your tax withholdings or quarterly payments were throughout the year. So the goal, a lot of people don't know this, is not to get a refund, not to owe a bunch of money, but to break even. Got that?
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, got it.
George Camel
Because a big tax refund means you're withholding too much. The government held onto your money at 0% interest and then gave it back to you.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
Come tax refund time. So most people, they submit their W4 form, they set it, they forget it. But then life changes. And so should your withholdings. And the amount taken out depends on two things. What you make and what's on that W4 form. So how does this work, tax withholding? Well, everyone who works pays income tax. In certain states, you might also pay a separate income tax. So when you start a new job, you have a major life change. Like, you get married, you got to fill out a W4 form, and that tells your employer how much to take out of your paycheck for taxes. So how do you determine this withholding amount? There's two ways. Number. Number one, you can divide up last year's taxes. So look up what you owed last year, divided by 12. That's how much more needs to be withheld each month. And then you can do a mock tax return. I know that's what you like to do on the weekends, Ken, just to stay sharp.
Dave Ramsey
Well, you know, my morning coffee on a Saturday morning around, you know, mid March, I like to start tinkering with that.
George Camel
Yeah, like you used to do a mock trial. Remember those back in school?
Dave Ramsey
I. That. You.
Ken Coleman
You.
Dave Ramsey
This will be no surprise to you. That was one of my favorite things, high school.
George Camel
You would have been a great trial lawyer.
Dave Ramsey
You know, it's been said before.
George Camel
Okay, well, instead of the trial, try a tax return. You can do this with any, you know, online tax software. It's free. It'll tell you exactly what you owe. You divide that amount by 26 if you get paid every two weeks, or 24 if you get paid twice a month. So, like, we get paid twice a month here at Ramsey. So that's what we would do.
Dave Ramsey
Now, let me ask a question. When you do that, can you get mock arrested if you mess it up?
Ken Coleman
Up.
George Camel
That's a good question. I don't. I think you're.
Dave Ramsey
I get a little nervous about doing my own tax return.
George Camel
It's like maritime law.
Dave Ramsey
I know, but I'm saying if you fill it out wrong, do you get Some type of warning that says no.
George Camel
You can fudge the numbers with a fake tax because you're not actually submitting anything.
Dave Ramsey
All right, I thought it was a dumb question.
George Camel
I think, I don't think the government's watching at that point. Okay, so here's how to update your withholding. You should update your W4 when something major happens that affects your finances and your tax bill. So let's say you buy a home, you get married, you have a baby. That could change things. And so if you Change that on W4, you're withhold will stay accurate. That's what you want. And then look at your tax refund or your tax bill. No major life changes last year, but you still got a big refund. It is time to adjust and then check and change that W form. So it's that simple. And it's really easy to do. You can, if you, you know, have an employer, just email hr, walk up to them and say, hey, I got to change my W4. And they will help you out with that. And if you've got questions, you can contact a Ramsey trusted tax pro, ramseysolutions.com we are here for you.
Dave Ramsey
And that painless is George talking Nerdy.
George Camel
They don't teach you this stuff in school?
Dave Ramsey
No, they don't.
George Camel
They should. Our high school curriculum. I actually teach on the W4 form.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
And I say, what's a W4 form for? Oh, the kids love it. They eat it up.
Dave Ramsey
They laugh at that.
George Camel
They eat up a little alliteration.
Dave Ramsey
I mean, there's no wonder that you're so popular to the next generation.
George Camel
Is that true?
Dave Ramsey
I've seen it with my own eyes. When we have student groups come here to Ramsey Solutions and you walk out. I feel like the Beatles are here.
George Camel
It is scary because they're all 6 foot 7. I don't know what they're feeding kids these days, but they're all towering over me like with their Snapchats out, trying to take selfies. And I get very scared.
Dave Ramsey
What do you think it is that makes you appeal to these youngsters?
George Camel
I think it's that I'm not intimidating. Whereas you, you've got a real like Clint Eastwood vibe.
Dave Ramsey
Not true.
George Camel
You know what I mean?
Dave Ramsey
Not true. But I get what you're saying about you.
George Camel
I'm the least intimidating man you could meet.
Dave Ramsey
I think it's something. I think you're very.
George Camel
And I don't take myself seriously. I'm self deprecating. That's what kids want. They want someone with a guard down who's quick to make fun of themselves.
Dave Ramsey
Good. All right, let's go to Vanessa in Naples, Florida. Vanessa, how can we help?
Ken Coleman
Hi, John and George. Thank you guys so much for honoring me with your time. I'm currently in the process where I'm listing my home and we're looking to have about 620,000 in equity. My mom's my realtor. She's kind of suggesting us to purchase a home more expensive cash to avoid capital gains tax. But I'm kind of wanting to liquefy as much money as I can and kind of be frugal with the home purchase and try to have as much in our savings.
George Camel
Well, I'm confused. Explain to me how it's better to buy a more expensive home, tax wise.
Ken Coleman
Yes. She was saying because of the amount of equity and profit we're making on the home. She was explaining that if we purchase a home too inexpensive, we're going to have to pay capital gains on the difference.
George Camel
I don't understand that.
Dave Ramsey
I don't either.
George Camel
So how much did you purchase the house for?
Ken Coleman
So I purchased the home back in 2020 for 325. We only owe about 275 right now.
George Camel
Okay, so the home was purchased for 325. What are you going to sell it for?
Ken Coleman
895.
George Camel
895. And you guys are married, filing jointly.
Ken Coleman
I'm currently filing jointly with my husband, but I purchased a home prior to marriage.
George Camel
Okay, but if you're married, filing jointly, you should have $500,000 worth of tax free growth, correct?
Ken Coleman
Correct. That's. That was my understanding.
George Camel
So you'll only owe capital gains on the 70,000 above that.
Ken Coleman
Okay.
George Camel
And so it should be long term capital gains.
Dave Ramsey
And so that's why we're confused as to why she would recommend that. And, and, and I'm going to tell you point blank, you should go with your gut and what you want to do.
George Camel
Yeah. I don't understand what the new house has to do with your capital gains taxes on this sale.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, right.
George Camel
I don't think it has anything to do with it.
Ken Coleman
Confused.
Dave Ramsey
So what's.
Ken Coleman
Even if I'm not an expert on this end, but.
Dave Ramsey
Well, first of all, we're not tax experts either, but I don't. I think she's got that confused. But here's the point. I still think we're focusing on the wrong thing. Whether mom's right or me and George are right on the capital gains things is not the issue. It's not what we should be discussing. What we should be discussing is. Is that she's recommending you buy a more expensive house. Oh, by the way, she's going to make more the more that the house costs.
George Camel
What do you. What's commission on it?
Dave Ramsey
Sorry, mom.
George Camel
Is she giving you a deal?
Ken Coleman
Right, so. No. She said if we do a discount and may not attract the buyer's agent, so she's charging the full.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. So again, let me come back to the core thing. You want to have more cash as you move into the next house for your financial goals. You want to be more frugal on this next purchase. And I agree with you because first of all, it makes total sense. Sense. Second, it's what you want to do. Don't do what mom is telling you to do. You're a big girl.
Ken Coleman
Yeah. Yeah. We currently have a 10 month old, so my long term goal is to kind of take a step back from work because my husband's a firefighter and we're living alone out here, so he's starting to get a little burnt out. So I'm hoping to, you know, kind of be able to take a step back, take care of the kids and.
George Camel
Great.
Dave Ramsey
So what are you going to tell?
Ken Coleman
Money in our emergency fund. Great list. And I'll purchase the home that my husband and I decide. And my husband's on board. He agrees with getting the best home for the least amount of money.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, well, your mom is wrong on multiple accounts, so there's our answer. Okay, she's wrong.
Ken Coleman
Appreciate you guys.
Dave Ramsey
Absolutely. Thanks for calling. But listen, you're right, she's wrong. Bless her heart. Be respectful, tell her how it's going to be. And you do what you want to.
George Camel
Do on this because one, one final question, Vanessa. What's your household income?
Ken Coleman
So I currently make 90 and my husband makes 65, so we're a little under 150.
George Camel
Okay. So you would be at a 15% long term capital gains rate, which means 15% of that extra 70, you're looking at, like a $10,000 tax. And that doesn't change regardless of what happens next. Once you sell this home, that's what you owe.
Dave Ramsey
It's nothing to do with the next purchase.
George Camel
So I'm confused. Maybe I'm too dumb to understand, but I don't know what your next house purchase has to do with this and how buying a more expensive one is going to offset the taxes.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
But I would talk to a tax pro and say, thanks, mom. I'm going to handle this one. I make these decisions.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. And congratulations on where you guys are and the decisions you're making for your family.
George Camel
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
As well as your finances.
George Camel
Amazing equity in this home.
Dave Ramsey
Way to go, Vanessa. Sorry, mom. Don't give advice to somebody else.
George Camel
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Dave Ramsey
Is the the Ramsey show where America hangs out to have a conversation about their money, their profession and their relationships alongside the incomparable George Camel. I'm Ken Coleman. Triple 882-55-5225 is the number. Triple 882-55-2225 is how you can jump in. And Lindsay's here in Columbia, South Carolina. Lindsay, hello.
Ken Coleman
Hey, how are you guys?
Dave Ramsey
Well, we're having a lot of fun. How can we help?
Ken Coleman
That's good. Well, mine's kind of different. I'm calling more because of relationship advice.
Dave Ramsey
It's my favorite thing, my favorite part. I'm not kidding you. I love this. What's going on?
Ken Coleman
Well, I've been going back and forth and I just figured I'd come ask the experts. I've been with my long term boyfriend for six months, years. But we've been long distance. We were together in college and now he's in another state and about seven hours away. And I am a graduate student. I'm also working full time as a speech language pathologist and he also graduated a year after me. But he is unemployed for the last six months. He's 24, will be 25 soon and I'm 25 currently. And he does not have a driver's license. He doesn't have a car. Um, he has been unemployed. He just does not know what he wants to do with his.
Dave Ramsey
He living with his parents.
Ken Coleman
He was living with siblings and now he's living with his grandparents.
Dave Ramsey
Lovely. And why does he not have a driver's license?
Ken Coleman
Well, I think it's because, well, from what I have been told, it's been access to a car in order to, I guess do the test and get what he needs and he doesn't have the best.
George Camel
It sounds like you don't believe that.
Ken Coleman
It's just because I feel like if you really want something, you'll make it happen. I just, I'm not.
George Camel
But do you think he's lying to you?
Ken Coleman
I don't think he's lying. I know his family dynamic and this children had to kind of like raise themselves and there has not been any like role models like you know, adult wise. So kind of having to maneuver life with without a role model. He's a first generation and you know, I'm not trying to make excuses, but this is just the face of the matter and it's just we're not in the same face of life. So I'm just kind of like looking forward. I graduate next year and I'm. I've got a $20,000 raise that's going to come soon and he's got debt and I don't have any.
George Camel
Lindsay, I'm going to cut to the chase. You don't respect this guy. Why are you with him?
Ken Coleman
Because, I mean, I love who he is. I mean, who is he? Like, he's my best friend and he, he actually became in his relationship with God in the last year or two and so he's just shown me a lot of improvement as a person, but an aspect of just like the driving ambition. I'm just not seeing what I would like to see and it just makes me pessimistic.
Dave Ramsey
So what's your question for us? You said you called the experts. What's your question?
Ken Coleman
Question as far as what you've seen from people who are much older than me. I know how, you know, money, financial, things like this can break relationships. I have, my parents have been divorced and I just don't want to follow the same footsteps. I want to look back and be like, you know, I made the right decision and like, you know, love can't pay the bills. Love isn't, isn't necessarily the only foundation I have.
Dave Ramsey
No, I get it. Listen, I totally get you what I. Here's what I'm trying to do. I want you to identify what it is that you're asking us. And I think I know what is your question for us. I think you're. Here's what I think. Let me try to help you. I think you think that you should break up with this guy, but you're not sure and you wanted to get our opinion right?
Ken Coleman
Like, I just didn't know if it's too soon considering like too soon to do what age to break up? Because I feel like I'm being impatient.
Dave Ramsey
No, I, I actually am old enough to be your dad. So can I be, can I be your show dad, please?
Ken Coleman
Because I don't have one.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, bless your heart.
Ken Coleman
That's okay.
Dave Ramsey
I'm going to be your dad on this. If you were my daughter, I would say trust your instincts. It's okay for you to love him. You have loved him. You can still love him and not be with him. And I don't think he is is in a place in his life where he can be the level of boyfriend that you deserve at this stage in your life. You're not a 16 year old girl anymore.
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And I think you have to love him enough to let him go for now. And in letting him go, we're going to find out if he has the grit to continue to grow from his faith, conversion and what's going on inside of him spiritually. Yay for that. But he's still got to step out into the real world and overcome the junk that he dealt with growing up. Seems like his siblings have on some level. And so you need to be his friend right now, not his girlfriend. That's my dad advice. And move forward as the though he is somebody that you have loved, you love on some level, but you are not ready to choose to love him as a fiance or a husband because he's not in a place to be that for you.
Ken Coleman
Correct. I agree.
George Camel
George, agree or disagree 100%. And I think you're only going to get increasingly resentful if you hang on to this relationship knowing within your gut that it's not going to to work. Yeah, it's not going to work. If you feel like a babysitter in this relationship, you're stuck in this dynamic. You have very different values and goals. He won't take responsibility. You're not seeing any real effort or improvement. Then staying means you're not being true to your own values, goals and well being. You're causing yourself harm and him harm.
Ken Coleman
I agree.
George Camel
So I think you, we're not here to tell you what you need to do. You need to decide that for yourself. But by the way you're talking, it tells me that you're just looking for permission because you're fed up. And that's an okay thing to be fed up with someone's behavior.
Dave Ramsey
By the way, while I'm thinking about it, Lindsay and George and again playing the dad role here, I'd go, if he loves you so much, why isn't he living in the same area as you, finding a job and being around you.
Ken Coleman
Right.
Dave Ramsey
Homeboy is. Is now. You don't have to answer it. I'm just telling you. I'm not criticizing him, but I'm saying that tells me. And I actually. This may sound odd to you, Lindsay, but I'm actually giving him some grace. I don't think he's capable of doing that. Because if he was, he would have.
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And so he's not where you are, trying to woo you and be the best boyfriend he can be. He's off trying to lick his wounds. And that's what I think he needs to do. He needs to heal, and he needs to come back out of the cave. And I just think for right now, it's time to let him go. Which I already explained in detail.
Ken Coleman
So, yeah.
Dave Ramsey
I'm so sorry.
Ken Coleman
The honest.
George Camel
It doesn't make it easier.
Ken Coleman
I really, I. I appreciate it. I really, truly do. Thank you, guys.
Dave Ramsey
Listen, Lindsay, you're worth a man who can be what you need him to be.
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
And I think that's what needs to be your bumper sticker today. You hear me?
Ken Coleman
That's a good one. Yes.
Dave Ramsey
Because, sweetheart, I know that that's hard maybe sometimes for you to believe because your own father's not in the picture. And that brain breaks my heart as well.
George Camel
You don't have a good picture of what this is supposed to look like.
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
But you're crushing it, kiddo. You're crushing it.
Ken Coleman
Thank you so much.
Dave Ramsey
You are on the path.
Ken Coleman
Thank you, guys.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, you bet. We're rooting for you, Lindsay. Favorite caller of the day, right there. Lindsay's my fave. I don't mind saying. I don't care who knows.
George Camel
Dang. I'm right next to you, man.
Dave Ramsey
I said call her, okay? Not co host.
George Camel
You work your butt off for your money, but your money's never going to.
Ken Coleman
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Dave Ramsey
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Dave Ramsey
Chase is up next in Minneapolis. Chase, how can we help today?
Ken Coleman
Hey, Ken. George, thanks for taking my call.
Dave Ramsey
Sure.
George Camel
So my wife and I, we've been.
Ken Coleman
On the Ramsey program for about eight years. We're getting ready to be on baby step seven again at here in about 18 months. But we recently moved to Minnesota and we've been at a new church for about six months. We love the church, great community. But they're currently looking at taking out a $2 million loan to do some remodels on the church. And so we're not sure if it's the right church for us.
Dave Ramsey
Just because of that?
Ken Coleman
Yeah. Kind of the way they've navigated it, they, you know, they made a. Making a campaign initially to raise some of the funds and, and they weren't, you know, the remodel is going to cost more than they expected. So they're looking to do a loan, you know, right now, $2 million. They're debt free otherwise before this. And so we're just, we're not big proponents of debt.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. You know, this is tricky because you get to decide where you go to church and why you go to church there. So I'm not sure what you want us to weigh in on because there are a lot of churches in America that use debt like a lot of people use debt for home mortgages. So, you know, we at Ramsey Solutions don't think that mortgages are evil. I you wanting to leave the church over this is your prerogative. If you're asking me would I leave a church if they decided to get to take a loan out to do some remodeling, I probably wouldn't leave over that singular issue. If they were dishonest and how they communicated to the church body about it and there was something squirrely in how they communicated it and the church body and the church leadership weren't in, in, in, you know, congruence and there was something squirly like that, then I can see that that's the best I can do, George, is, is try to weigh in that way.
George Camel
Yeah, I understand your frustration because they're debt free currently and you know that, hey, my tithe money partially is going to go toward paying off this debt that we didn't really need to take on. Is that part of what's going on here?
Ken Coleman
That is they are going to be putting it to a member vote, you know, and so it's going to be a, you know, majority rules on the vote. Obviously, we know that majority Americans don't view debt the same way, you know, Ramsey followers do. But so they're going to be putting it to a vote. I guess the biggest question is how do I navigate, you know, my conversations with other, you know, as far as, you know, I personally think there's a poor decision, you know, and I think that that's what, you know, what I've really felt led to share with others.
George Camel
Have you talked to the leadership about this? Have you voiced your concerns? I have. Privately I have, yes. And what, what have they said?
Ken Coleman
Some of the, some of the governing board, you know, is against the vet as well. That's why they're putting it to the members. But, but also, you know, they believe that this remodel is essential to get, you know, more people in the door, essentially.
George Camel
And what if you offered a solution where you said, hey, what if we did this at the speed of cash and we did a campaign to raise the funds instead of take on the debt and then work on paying it off?
Ken Coleman
Yeah, and I think that would be, you know, that'd be the ideal. That's my opinion on it. But they are putting it to a vote here in a of state weeks and the vote is, do we take the $2 million loan or not? And then obviously, if not, they'll explore other options where I'd love to have that conversation there.
George Camel
I think you push on it actually. Let's see how this all plays out.
Dave Ramsey
Let me say this. I don't think it's your job to be the campaign manager against it. Again, it's your prerogative. But I believe that we gotta be very careful in the church. I think there's a higher standard here to not get gossip, to not turn into some type of agency.
George Camel
I wouldn't be picketing outside.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. So when you asked the question a few minutes earlier that I want to address, you said, what do I do? When we, when people discuss it and when people discuss it and you're brought into the conversation and say which way you're going to vote, you can go. As for me, in my house, we're anti debt and we think we would rather have the church save this money up over time and we do the renovation when we can pay cash. That's our position on it. That's because where we are personally, this is what the Bible says about debt. You can say everything you want to, but you got to stop short of gossip. You got to stop, stop short of running the leadership down because if it bothers you that much and you can't be a healthy member of that church, then you should walk. If it bothers you that much, then yes, you should leave. And again, that's your prerogative. I don't criticize that. But should that be the very single issue for me? No, it wouldn't be. But I honor yours. If that's a thing for you, then be that way. But you could certainly you need to voice your opinion and, and vote. But you know, after that, I'm just telling you, if you think the only.
George Camel
Church, you're going to go with it or leave.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah. But you going to a, a debt free church may be more difficult than you think it is.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, yeah.
George Camel
I don't want you church hopping for the next 20 years because you disagree with a financial decision they made at one point. And so it, it's going to be exhausting. But I think the question to ask yourself is can I still worship here, serve here, trust the leadership here, even if I disagree, disagree, and at some point if there's a pattern of disagreement that bothers you spiritually, I think that's your sign to leave.
Dave Ramsey
All right, I want to. Thanks for the call, Chase. I want to transition to. We took a call a little bit earlier, a young lady who in a long distance relationship, the longtime boyfriend. She's young like 24, 25. But they started dating when they were 16ish. He's now living seven hours away, living with siblings George and not working, doesn't have a driver's license. And she cited a lack of ambition. But when you pressed her she said I love him and you said why are you still with him? Because you could tell she was almost looking for permission to break up. And she responded to you I love who he is and he's apparently growing spiritually but certainly stuck financially, professionally, in every way. And so you said that reminded you of a recent social media reel and the TV team that up.
George Camel
So take it away. Clip of Professor Scott Galloway interviewed by Lewis House.
Dave Ramsey
Okay.
George Camel
Talking about this long and I think this hits the heart of what's going on in a lot of frustrating relationships in America today. So let's play the clip.
Dave Ramsey
Let's check it out.
George Camel
My young metaphorically, women are getting taller every day.
Ken Coleman
They're killing it financially.
Dave Ramsey
Education, intelligence, opportunities, resources.
George Camel
Women are killing it and it's amazing.
Ken Coleman
We shouldn't do anything that gets in the way of that. The question is how do we lift up men?
George Camel
Who wants more economically and emotionally viable men, women?
Dave Ramsey
Why are men not doing as well in today's society and why are versus women continuing to thrive? Which is a great thing. But why aren't Men thriving equally or.
George Camel
At the same pace.
Ken Coleman
So I'm parroting Richard Reeves.
George Camel
Great work of boys to men. There's a lot of reasons biologically, men mature later. Their prefrontal cortex is literally 18 to.
Dave Ramsey
24 months behind a girl's.
Ken Coleman
So a senior, two seniors applying to college, a boy and a girl. 17 year old, boy and girl.
George Camel
Essentially the girl is competing against a 15 year old.
Dave Ramsey
Oh my gosh.
George Camel
So they think about, think about school.
Ken Coleman
What are the behaviors we promote in school? Be organized, be a pleaser, sit still.
George Camel
Basically education is set up for girls.
Dave Ramsey
I couldn't do it.
George Camel
And there's a lot of shame when.
Ken Coleman
Boys, you know, just.
Dave Ramsey
Man, it's so challenging.
Ken Coleman
My 13 year old, the idea of my 13 year old sitting in.
George Camel
Okay, still, there was a part before that that I think we missed. But he talks about what women are looking for in a man, what's attractive. And he talks about kindness, intelligence. And the most important one was a man's ability to see signal future provision. And that's, I think at the heart of our friend Lindsay's call is she was seeing, she was reading the tea leaves going, this guy's not going to be able to protect me.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
You know, from a primal level of just physically but financially, can he protect me and provide or.
Dave Ramsey
Because I know some, some females in our audience would go, I don't like the way that sounds. So let me. And I'm not disagreeing with you. Some women would see it that way. Other women would say, I don't see any possibility of an effective partner.
George Camel
Exactly.
Dave Ramsey
You know, to actually lack of information. Yeah.
George Camel
Bleeds into the professional, the financial.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, I, I think that's, I think it's absolutely true. And by the way, that doesn't make a woman needy or weak. That would be to me very normal.
George Camel
If this was a business partnership. I want to know that you're going to be able to. Well, to handle some.
Dave Ramsey
You and I are both girl dads and we both want our daughters to seek men that can be providing, protecting, adding in partnering so that it is a true partnership and not one just completely relying on the other.
George Camel
Yeah. No one's signing up to be the babysitter and parent for the rest of their life. They want a true partner. And so you got to signal those things through your ambition, through your personal and professional.
Dave Ramsey
I thought that was very interesting what he said. I think that's true. I'm not sure my prefrontal cortex is finished.
George Camel
We'll get there. I'll work on it. During the break, I'm hoping.
Ken Coleman
All right.
Dave Ramsey
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George Camel
Let's get to the question. It comes from Alex in California. California. I'm 16 years old and I'm very interested in personal finance. As an avid watcher of your show and a researcher of personal finance advice, I realize how important it is to have a good financial future, which includes planning for retirement. Currently, I'm investing $2,500 a month into index funds.
Dave Ramsey
Wow.
George Camel
However, I keep coming across articles and content from Ramsey advocating for actively managed mutual funds instead. I don't understand the benefit of investing in something with much higher fees. Can you please explain what I'm missing or what I am wrong on?
Dave Ramsey
Wow.
George Camel
I'm still confused. 16 years old and they're investing 2,500 bucks a month.
Dave Ramsey
Way to go, Alex.
George Camel
I assume this is real. I don't know if the team is trolling me, but that's a pretty insane 16 year old who's crushing it. I don't know if they're even in school at this point. They probably are running a business full time.
Dave Ramsey
You know, it's funny to me that you're that surprised by this. I absolutely am buying this. I think that a 16 year old who may have a great side business or something, they're really crushing it. And they got no expenses. And he's essentially probably investing almost everything you bring. Yeah, this kid sounds like a young George Camel.
George Camel
I wish, I wish. I mean, I was a knucklehead up until yesterday, so I'm just really impressed with this guy. But okay, let's talk about what, what he's after here. So we're talking about index funds, funds versus mutual funds, which both are giant baskets of stocks, like 90 to 200 stocks in one fund.
Dave Ramsey
He's hung up on the fees.
George Camel
It sounds hung up on the fees, which I understand. If you just look at it on paper, you're going, well, index funds are designed to be passive and they just match what the market is doing. An actively managed mutual fund, on the other hand, there is a team of professionals managing the fund, choosing which funds go in which should come out of it. Which means they can be a little more expensive because there's fees involved. These people need to make a living. And so face value index funds are cheaper most of the time. But fees are not everything everything. Performance matters more. So you're not just going to choose a car because of fuel economy alone. You got to look at all the other factors. And so we do recommend actively managed mutual funds, especially in retirement accounts. But we're not anti index funds by any stretch. I'll use those outside of retirement all day. Dave Ramsey will do the same. But within a retirement account you don't have to deal with turnover and therefore it's not as expensive as you might imagine. And the goal here with the actively managed mutual fund is to beat the market. So if the index is here, just, you know, just call it a flat line foundation. The goal of the the mutual fund is to slightly beat it by a few percentage points. And so that's what you want to look for is a mutual fund with a long term track record, a great team of pros that have been doing this over a period of time. And I just looked up the stats just to see what are the actual stats on this.
Dave Ramsey
Oh, is this a little extra talk nerdy?
George Camel
This is a little bonus for you. Over the past decade, an annual average 27% of active activ managed funds benchmark to the S&P 500 beat it. So over one in four mutual funds beat it.
Dave Ramsey
Very nice.
George Camel
You can flip, base, pull, you could flip it, right? And go, well, 73% of index funds beat the mutual funds, right? Sure. And the goal here is not to have them fight and be competitive. It's to go, okay, well if 1 and 4 beat it, let's try to find that 1 and 4 because that 1 to 2% over a long period of time really adds up. So that's the purpose behind it. And if you get 1 to 2% or 3% percent more, it will more than justify the fees. So it's a very nerdy discussion to have. The key here is savings rate. Are you putting money away into some type of fund over a consistent long period of time? And so for arguing over will you have 2.1 or 2.2 million? I'm happy to have that argument. The truth is America is retiring broke because they're not investing at all or falling for investment traps. So I'm a fan of index funds, I'm a fan of mutual funds. Funds both have validity and have their place. And for a 16 year old you know, it sounds like he, he's going to be a multi, multi millionaire, maybe with his own show one day.
Dave Ramsey
He's on his way. By the way, it makes me think. I want to recommend to our audience. You're hearing George talk about this, answer this question. You're going, man, I wish I just had a better grasp of investing. And we recently created the Ramsey Investing Hub. This is fabulous. Has a ton of tools and information that will help you understand invest, investing, and then actually be able to Invest. It's@ramseysolutions.com investing ramseysolutions.com investing or of course, it's in the show notes. And this is the Ramsey Investing Hub team's done a great job on this, by the way of kind of taking all of the basic principles that we teach and putting them right there so you can kind of peruse through. And it's. It's fabulous.
George Camel
Investment calculators, investment guides, all kinds of tools.
Dave Ramsey
What? Tell you what, I love that investment calculator.
George Camel
Love a hub.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, that's really good, George. Love the Ramsey Investing Hub.
George Camel
Doesn't get enough love.
Dave Ramsey
Amy is in Los Angeles, California. Amy, how can we help today?
Ken Coleman
Hi. Hello. Thank you for taking my call.
Dave Ramsey
Sure.
Ken Coleman
I just started listening to you guys this year, and I have learned so much. My question is, are we doing the right thing by having all of our money in the same brokerage? Brokerage firm? So my husband, we've got some retirement in there, and then we have some regular money. I've always been taught, don't put all of your eggs in one basket.
Dave Ramsey
That's right.
Ken Coleman
It's the right thing.
Dave Ramsey
Who told you that?
Ken Coleman
You know what? Just growing up, I can tell you. Exactly, exactly.
Dave Ramsey
No, I think it's great advice and we agree with that, especially when it comes to investing, George.
George Camel
Yeah, well, you're talking about a brokerage firm. You're not talking about what is the asset that's in these accounts. What are you investing in as far.
Ken Coleman
As, like the mutual funds and all of that? The breakdown of that.
George Camel
Yeah. When we say you don't want all your eggs in one basket, that doesn't mean it can't be with a single firm. We're just saying don't invest in a single stock.
Dave Ramsey
Did you mean fund or did you mean firm?
Ken Coleman
It's a firm. It's a firm. It's a. It's a very large brokerage firm.
Dave Ramsey
But they've got you invested. Are you diversified within them?
Ken Coleman
Exactly. Yes, we are.
George Camel
Okay, then you're fine.
Ken Coleman
You're fine. Fine.
George Camel
And yeah, let's say you have all your money with Vanguard or whoever. It's. That's not the issue. It's. The issue is when you have all of your money in Tesla and Elon got in a fight with Trump and now Tesla Stock is down 16% and that's your entire nest egg.
Dave Ramsey
That's from the head.
George Camel
That's what we're avoiding here.
Ken Coleman
Yeah.
George Camel
So when you say you're investing in a fund, is it mostly equities versus bonds?
Ken Coleman
You know what, I'm not so sure. Equities. Explain stocks.
George Camel
So that would be stocks versus bonds.
Ken Coleman
Oh, oh, oh, oh. Okay. So we have mutual funds and then we have some of it in tax free bonds because we had to pay a lot of tax last year and we did have it in a credit union. And then my husband, after we pay all the taxes, he put it into tax free bonds and then a good part of it is in a 60, 40 mutual funds bonds. So there's three parts to this whole equation. In the brokerage firm.
George Camel
How old are you two?
Ken Coleman
I'm 59 and he's 64. He is. Right. Retired.
George Camel
Okay. So depending on who you talk to and what financial advisor you're working with, you know, they tend to say, hey, over time you want to switch to more conservative investments, meaning moving your money out of stocks and equities and into bonds. And Dave Ramsey himself disagrees with this asset allocation theory for a simple reason. The what got you here is what's going to keep you there. And so if you move all your money to bonds while the markets gets 23% returns, you're going to get a 6% return and be saying, wow, where I didn't get a return on my money. Yeah, because you basically left the market. And so we, we advocate for being more heavily in equities because over time we've seen that that's going to be your best bet to keep your wealth and grow it instead of just maintain it. Do you work with a financial advisor now?
Ken Coleman
We do. He does. We. I'm, I'm new. I, I come from a family of spenders and my husband's always been smarter with money than I have. So I mean, I'm lucky that we are where because of him. It's just that now I'm learning more and getting more involved and so I'm just, I'm questioning him. So we kind of go back and forth.
George Camel
I love that all of the questions.
Ken Coleman
Okay.
George Camel
And if they're unwilling to answer or they get defensive, they're not. They don't have the heart of a teacher. It might be time to find a new financial advisor. But I love that you're digging in and learning this stuff. It's never too late. But I want you to understand what you're investing in and why. That's the key. So you may have a little homework to do. What is your net worth? What? Or what's the total nest egg?
Ken Coleman
For both of us, it's 2.2 million. And that's including everything. But that's not 1.6 is in the brokerage firm. And then, you know, based on our house and we have in the bank and everything.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah, you know, you've done well.
Ken Coleman
Keep it up.
Dave Ramsey
You've done well.
Ken Coleman
Want to keep it up?
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
Ken Coleman
Can I ask one more quick question, you guys?
George Camel
We got 10.
Dave Ramsey
We got 10 seconds.
Ken Coleman
Just kidding. Okay. And investing. Would it help me to do your class on investing, the one that you just added?
Dave Ramsey
Yes, because it's free and it'll really help you out. It's awesome. You love the free stuff, don't you, Amy? The answer is yes. We all do. Check it out.
Ken Coleman
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Dave Ramsey
Our scripture of the day comes from Jeremiah 3. 3217. Oh, sovereign Lord, you've made the heavens and the earth by your great power, an outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you. Our quote of the day from Warren Buffett. It's not necessary to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results. What do you think about old Warren starting to. Starting to downshift? Did you see that new CD?
George Camel
I mean, the dude's like in his 90s now.
Dave Ramsey
He's the oracle.
George Camel
So I feel like it's time. And his.
Dave Ramsey
His.
George Camel
One of his best buddies passed away, sadly. I know old Charlie Munger.
Dave Ramsey
You know that's right, Charles.
George Camel
They Were like, you know, walls. What's the one from Sesame Street? Waldorf and Statler. Is that it?
Dave Ramsey
Sesame Street. You mean Bert and Ernie?
George Camel
That. Nope. The old guys in the balcony.
Dave Ramsey
That's on Sesame Street. That's the Muppets.
George Camel
Mix it up.
Dave Ramsey
I'm here. I'm trying to follow you.
George Camel
Yeah.
Dave Ramsey
You said Sesame street, and I thought, well, the most famous Sesame street buddies were Bert and Ernie. But you're talking about the two old dudes.
George Camel
Waldorf. From the Muppets. To me, that is Warren Buffett and Charlie. Peanut butter, butter and jelly.
Dave Ramsey
You know. You know you have a very popular segment on your YouTube channel, millionaires in Cars.
George Camel
That's right. Getting coffee.
Dave Ramsey
Getting coffee. And you should get Warren Buffett.
George Camel
Could we get him?
Dave Ramsey
I think if you really tried.
George Camel
If somebody knows Warren. Somebody out there, Nebraska, you have to go to him. We go to Omaha.
Dave Ramsey
You go to Omaha. But what's he doing in Omaha? Omaha. I don't know if he's retiring. He's got time.
George Camel
Drinking Coca Cola.
Dave Ramsey
Being an old man, you sticking him in a. In a rental car would be really funny.
George Camel
I would very much enjoy that. All right. That's my new bucket list goal.
Dave Ramsey
Yeah.
George Camel
Is to do that segment with Warren.
Dave Ramsey
Did you ever get any pushback from basically ripping off Seinfeld with the.
George Camel
No.
Dave Ramsey
People have said comedians.
George Camel
They're coming after you. I'm like, seinfeld did that Netflix show years ago. It has long since been off the air. I don't think Netflix is dealing with. With my little YouTube channel.
Dave Ramsey
That's fair.
George Camel
Do they have the rights to anything filmed in a car? What's carpool? Karaoke coming after us next.
Dave Ramsey
All right, kids, you know, listen, relax. You got your dander up. All right.
Ken Coleman
Sorry.
Dave Ramsey
You're starting to get really hot. It's just funny.
George Camel
Yeah. I'm a big Seinfeld fan. That's where it came from. I thought we could. We should do a financial segment in a car.
Dave Ramsey
I like it.
George Camel
With millionaires instead of comedians. Listen, I don't know.
Dave Ramsey
I didn't know that that was going to hit a Nerf. All right, you need to stop shouting at me. We got to get to join you.
George Camel
Hit it.
Dave Ramsey
Jordan is in Panama City, Florida. Jordan, how can we help?
Ken Coleman
Hello, I am calling because I'm an educator and I make about 50,000 a year. That's take home. And I'm in debt right now, so I have about 30k in credit card debt and also personal loans as well. I have three personal loans currently, and I'm trying To figure out what would be the best course of action on my income to be able to kind of reduce some of this debt. Have a daughter. I'm a single parent, so I have to take care of all the household expenses, you know, her extracurricular activities, like her sports that she plays, things like that. So. And I'm trying to not have to work for three jobs, you know, trying to make sure I'm present. So I'm kind of running into some issues as far as, like, trying to make sure that my income is enough to kind of pay off some of this debt and get in a better financial system.
Dave Ramsey
Okay, let's start. Let's start with where you are currently with your current income, because I certainly understand your heart there, you know, to try not to take on more, you know, because now you gotta have somebody watch her, and that's tough. So with George, the budget guru here, first question I have for you is, with your current income and your current workload, are you budgeting to a point that you actually have some margin each month after all of your basic expenses?
Ken Coleman
It's very minimal because like I said, I. I do have. Even though it's not like a ton of credit card debt, it's over, like, nine different credit cards. So they all have different monthly payments. So that kind of makes it a little bit more challenging on the credit card.
George Camel
What happened that got us into all this debt? What do you spend all this money on personal loans and credit cards?
Ken Coleman
Well, what happened was I was living in a. I hadn't always been living for hours, Living to where else? That was slightly higher cost of living and still in the same position. But I wasn't making. I wasn't even making 20 an hour to try to survive. So at that point, I was just in survival mode. So I was getting more credit and equating that to more money, but that's not more money. That's just more debt.
George Camel
Okay, so have you taken a turn? Have you borrowed a dime in the last year? When did all this stop?
Ken Coleman
No, it. It's been three years now.
George Camel
Three years since you've had this debt or took. Took out this debt, and now you're trying to clean up the mess?
Ken Coleman
Correct.
George Camel
Okay. And you have how much in personal loans? You said you have 30,000 in credit card debt, but it sounds like there's more.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, I'm not 100% sure the exact amount. I think it's closer to that 30k. There's. It's three different personal loans, so three different payments. So that's about 9.95amonth just to repay them.
George Camel
We're gonna. We're gonna have some homework to do. You're going to go to annualcreditreport.com you can pull your credit reports for free. And that's going to give you a real accurate picture of where you stand today. How much debt you owe into who. Then what you're going to do is list all these debts out from smallest to largest nine credit cards. We're going to list out the smallest one first, then go all the way up, and you're going to make minimum payments on all of these debts. But on that little one, you're going to attack it with a vengeance. So it's going to get paid off fast and it's going to free up a payment faster.
Ken Coleman
Okay.
George Camel
That's called the debt snowball method. Method. That is the only way and best way to get out of debt once and for all in my book. And so in the baby steps that we teach, baby step one is $1,000. Starter emergency fund. Do you have a thousand bucks right now?
Ken Coleman
No.
George Camel
How soon could you get a thousand bucks next paycheck?
Ken Coleman
Well, because we do get a couple different checks for at the end of the year. I could probably take out a thousand from that because we get multiple paychecks at one time to finish paying.
George Camel
But what about your next paycheck? How much is that going to be?
Ken Coleman
I take home about 2,000, but we get four of them to pay out our contract, so It'll be about 8,000 that I'll get.
George Camel
Okay. And what are your total monthly expenses? Like Ken mentioned, what do you actually need to run your household for one month?
Ken Coleman
Approximately 2,000 because my mortgage is about 14 and some change.
George Camel
What was the total per month for?
Ken Coleman
It's about 1445.
George Camel
No, I'm saying what's the total expenses per month? Is it 3000, 4000, 5000 per month to cover everything?
Ken Coleman
About. About 2000. Because I don't have a car payment.
Dave Ramsey
No, that's. It can't be right. Because you said Your mortgage is 1400. You told us that your debt payment on the credit cards alone is 900.
Ken Coleman
Oh. Oh, I thought you were talking about. I just.
George Camel
Transportation, minimum debt payments, insurance, all of that combined to cover you for one month.
Ken Coleman
That's about $3,500.
George Camel
Okay. And you're bringing in probably around 4,200 or so. You said you make 50k take home.
Ken Coleman
Yeah, it's. It's right under 42. It's actually about 41. Okay.
George Camel
So here's what that means, though. You said you spend 3,500amonth and you bring in 4,100, which means you should have 600 bucks extra per month, right?
Ken Coleman
It just depends. It varies by month.
George Camel
Because, Jordan, hear me clearly. This needs to become mathematically sound. Where you go, I know exactly where every dollar is going. I know exactly where every dollar, every dollar is coming in. So far, you've been floating through life. Is that true? You've been in survival mode, living paycheck to paycheck for. For too long. And so going forward, you need to know exactly what's happening with your money because you work too hard to be this broke. So I'm going to hook you up with every Dollar premium. It's our budgeting app, and you're going to lay out your income. That take home pay from each paycheck is going to be listed under income for the month of June. Then underneath that list, every single expense, everything has a line item. Everything has a home, every dollar has a job. And that's going to show you how much is left over. And with that amount left over, you're going to put that away in a savings account. Do you have one of those?
Ken Coleman
I do.
George Camel
Okay, good. Which means within two paychecks or three paychecks, you'll have $1,000 in that savings account, correct?
Ken Coleman
Yes.
George Camel
Which means it's not maybe going to happen. It's going to happen. I'm putting 600 bucks away no matter what, and I'll figure out the rest. That's the kind of attitude you're going to need to get out of this debt on top of getting your income up.
Dave Ramsey
So better job is what we're looking to in the long term. Short term, if you have to pick up a second job, that's fine. But you got to get to a point. Let's. Let's work off of George's numbers where you should have a surplus of $600 a month. Okay. Now if we can go make an additional 1500, let's just. Or let's just say 1400. Let's round that up to two grand. You start putting that 20 towards debt. That's $24,000 of debt paid off in 12 months. I just want you to catch a vision for that. Doesn't mean you're gonna have to do that forever. But you may have to do that for a short season because you're a single mama. But you can do it. We believe in you.
Ken Coleman
Hey, you guys. I was shocked to learn that 88% of you out there are sharing the Ramsey show. I mean, that is so incredible. Thank you so much. And I want to tell you that we're making it even easier to share. So this June, we have pulled together the brand new Ramsey101 YouTube playlist. A quick start collection of how to get started walking the Ramsey plan. Now, this playlist is perfect for that one person in your life who needs help winning with money and just doesn't know where to start. So here's what's inside. What the baby steps are and why they actually work. How the debt snowball helps you pay off debt fast. And how to build wealth and invest for the future and so much more. So here's what you need to do. Click the link at the top of the show notes. It'll take you straight to the YouTube video playlist. Copy it, text it, send it in a group chat. Just say, hey, I thought this might help. Because one playlist shared at the right time could be the turning point. One share, one playlist, one step could change everything for that one person in your life. So click the link, share the Ramsey show, and let's help someone out there start winning with money.
Podcast Summary: The Ramsey Show – "You Don’t Need a Shortcut—You Need a Strategy"
Release Date: June 6, 2025
Host: Dave Ramsey and George Camel
Introduction
In this compelling episode of The Ramsey Show, host Dave Ramsey and co-host George Camel delve into various financial challenges faced by everyday listeners. True to the show's mission, they provide practical advice aimed at helping individuals overcome debt, make informed financial decisions, and build lasting wealth without resorting to shortcuts.
Caller 1: Jeremy from Lexington, South Carolina – Managing Student Debt and Debt Consolidation
Timestamp: [01:04] – [08:03]
Issue:
Jeremy and his wife are grappling with significant student loan debt, credit card debt, and a Parent PLUS loan held by Jeremy’s father. They contemplate using a mortgage loan to purchase their father’s property, intending to consolidate and pay off their debts.
Discussion:
Jeremy explains their total debt stands at approximately $110,000, excluding the mortgage of $23,000 on his father’s property. He considers consolidating these debts by taking on a larger mortgage to simplify payments into a single monthly expense.
Advice from George Camel and Dave Ramsey:
George questions the necessity and effectiveness of debt consolidation through a mortgage, highlighting the minimal savings and increased complexity it introduces. He emphasizes the debt snowball method, advising Jeremy to aggressively pay down debts with their combined household income of around $100,000. George suggests that by allocating extra funds each month towards debt repayment, they could eliminate their debt within two years rather than seven.
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Caller 2: Dale from Augusta, Maine – Navigating a Window Replacement Contract
Timestamp: [10:27] – [20:01]
Issue:
Dale, a 70-year-old rancher, faces a predicament after signing a contract for window replacements costing $16,000. He seeks advice on whether to proceed with the installation or incur a 30% cancellation fee.
Discussion:
Dale recounts feeling pressured into the contract by the window company's persuasive sales tactics. Upon reconsideration, he seeks to rescind the agreement but faces financial penalties.
Advice from George and Dave:
George advises Dale to leverage the fact that the window company hasn’t ordered materials yet to negotiate a reduction or cancellation without significant penalties. Dave underscores the importance of understanding contractual obligations and prioritizing essential expenses over unnecessary debt.
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Educational Segment: Understanding Tax Withholdings
Timestamp: [76:12] – [85:35]
Topic:
George Camel and Dave Ramsey tackle the often-overlooked subject of tax withholdings. They explain how accurate tax withholdings can prevent large refunds or unexpected tax bills, advocating for a break-even approach.
Key Points:
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Caller 3: Alex from California – Investment Strategies for a Young Investor
Timestamp: [106:28] – [119:35]
Issue:
Alex, a 16-year-old enthusiast in personal finance, is currently investing $2,500 monthly in index funds. He encounters contrasting advice from Dave Ramsey and George Camel regarding the merits of actively managed mutual funds versus index funds.
Discussion:
Alex seeks clarity on why Ramsey advocates for actively managed mutual funds despite their higher fees compared to index funds.
Advice from George and Dave:
George explains that while index funds are cost-effective and track the market, actively managed funds aim to outperform the market through professional management. He emphasizes the importance of performance over fees, noting that a minority of mutual funds do indeed outperform index funds. Dave reinforces the idea that diversifying investments and focusing on savings rates are crucial for long-term financial success.
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Caller 4: Lindsay from Columbia, South Carolina – Relationship and Financial Independence
Timestamp: [86:42] – [95:01]
Issue:
Lindsay is in a long-term, long-distance relationship with a boyfriend who is unemployed, lacks ambition, and does not have a driver's license. She seeks advice on whether to continue the relationship, balancing her financial independence with her emotional investment.
Discussion:
Lindsay expresses frustration over her boyfriend’s lack of contribution both financially and domestically, despite his recent spiritual growth. She fears repeating the pattern of her parents' troubled marriage and desires a relationship built on mutual support and responsibility.
Advice from George and Dave:
George and Dave recommend that Lindsay prioritize her well-being and financial stability over the relationship. They encourage her to recognize that love alone cannot sustain a partnership if underlying financial and personal growth issues remain unresolved. They advocate for Lindsay to consider ending the relationship if it hinders her financial and personal goals.
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Caller 5: Martin from Lubbock, Texas – Insurance Decisions for a Rancher
Timestamp: [66:11] – [72:20]
Issue:
Martin, a 65-year-old rancher, considers self-insuring his home and outbuildings instead of maintaining a hefty insurance policy costing nearly $10,000 annually.
Discussion:
Martin assesses his ability to self-insure, estimating replacement costs for his property and barns at around $1 million. He wonders if foregone insurance premiums are justified given his financial capacity.
Advice from George and Dave:
George and Dave stress the importance of insurance for peace of mind and financial protection against unforeseen disasters. They argue that the cost of insurance is negligible compared to the potential financial devastation of a major loss. They advise Martin to maintain his insurance coverage to safeguard his assets and avoid depleting his savings in case of emergencies.
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Conclusion and Key Takeaways
Throughout the episode, Dave Ramsey and George Camel reinforce foundational financial principles:
By addressing real-life financial dilemmas with practical advice, this episode underscores the importance of strategic planning and disciplined financial management in achieving long-term wealth and stability.
Notable Quotes Compilation:
This episode of The Ramsey Show offers listeners actionable insights into managing debt, making informed financial decisions, and fostering healthy financial habits, all while navigating the complexities of personal relationships and investments.