
We may be in a valley of tears, but we are never alone. Fr. Mark-Mary reads from the Gospel of John, revealing that the Blessed Mother has shared in our sufferings, and in the Rosary, is always with us. We are blessed to have Mary, who knew both suffering and the hope of God’s promises, as a perfect mother who will always love us. Today’s focus is “To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve. To thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears,,” and we will be praying one Our Father, three Hail Marys, and one Glory Be.
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Mark Mary with Franciscan Friars at the Renewal and this is the Rosary in a Year podcast, where through prayer and meditation, the Rosary brings us deeper into relationship with Jesus and Mary and becomes a source of grace for the whole world. The Rosary in a Year is brought to you by Ascension. This is day 19. To download the prayer plan for Rosary in a year, visit ascensionpress.com rosary in a year or text RIY to 33777. You'll get an outline of how we're going to pray each month. It's a great way to track your progress. The Best Place to Listen Podcast in the Ascension App. There are special features built just for this podcast and also recordings of the full Rosary with myself and other friars. No matter what app you're listening in, remember to tap, follow or subscribe for your daily notifications. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve. To thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. John, chapter 19, verse 26 and following says this. When Jesus saw his mother and disciples whom he loved standing near, he said to his mother, woman, behold your son. Then he said to the disciple, behold your mother. And from that hour the disciple took.
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In this context, both John and the Blessed Mother and our Lord are suffering. John suffering as he sees the one he loved being crucified, and the Blessed Mother as her own heart is pierced.
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Sorrows beholds her Son being betrayed and crucified. The Blessed Mother, Our lady knows what it means to suffer. She knows it deeply and intimately from within. The Blessed Mother also is a woman of hope and she has the experience of the Resurrection. She has the experience of Christ risen from the dead. She has an experience of Heaven. Jesus gives us this most beautiful of gifts in His Mother. As one who knows what we're experiencing, I think these words of the Hail Holy Queen take on a particular beauty and meaning and depth when we reflect on their author. I admit that the authorship of the Hail Holy Queen is a bit still disputed, but most people seem to point to this 11th century blessed named Blessed Herman of Richenau. I apologize if my pronunciation of the last name isn't great, but Blessed Herman was born with cerebral palsy, spina bifida and a cleft palate. Later on in his life he would end up going blind. He's a man who would have struggled greatly. He's a man who would have been very, very very familiar with the cross and the fact that this world that we live in, it's a fallen world. And so his experience of it as a value of tears makes sense. And I think we do have to recognize that we do continue to live in a fallen world, the world that is affected by sin, and that referring to it as a valley of tears is honest and really fair. What Blessed Herman would experience deeply in his life and would pass on to us through his prayer was that he had a companion in the midst of this valley of tears, someone who was with him to accompany him and support him and encourage him in the Blessed Mother. The Blessed Mother being one who also know deeply the suffering possible in this life. I'd like to share a story. It's a story told of a Catholic missionary out in kind of a remote village area. It's a Catholic area, and he's out there and he's visiting a number of homes. And he comes to a small home where there's a widow living there. And, you know, he visits her a couple of times. And he sees a very, very bloody crucifix on her wall in a way that was well meaning that one day he brings a picture, a holy picture of the laughing Jesus, of Jesus being joyful. And he kind of takes it upon himself because he's so confident in the gift to take down the crucifix, hand.
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It to this widow, and to put.
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Up this picture of the joyful and laughing Jesus. He concludes his visit, goes away, and maybe a week or two later he comes back. And what he finds on the wall is the bloody crucifix and the picture of the laughing, joyful Jesus is nowhere to be found. And taken aback by it and very surprised, he says to the woman, what happened? Like, I gave you a gift, and I don't see it anymore. And so this widow says, you know, like, Father, I'm. I'm. Yes, I understand. I'm very, very grateful for the gift. And, you know, I believe in the resurrection and all that. But you see the crucified Jesus, I know that he gets me. And this woman experienced life as a valley of tears. This woman, like Blessed Herman, was very familiar with the cross, and she knew that. And she found consolation in the fact that Jesus, her Savior, knew what it.
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He was familiar with her life experience. And I do believe it's noteworthy that Jesus gives us the Blessed Mother, his mother, to be our mother in the context of the crucifixion. She knows what it means to love those who are. Who've gone astray. She knows what it means to experience betrayal and Hurt and pain and loss and even loss of a loved one, of a child. But she also knows that God is a father who keeps his promises, who.
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So she is a perfect mother and a perfect guide as we continue this journey through the Valley of Tears. As we close with prayer, let's just.
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To acknowledge any area.
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Up, where we are struggling, particularly where.
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We feel misunderstood or alone in it. And let us turn to our lady. And let us turn to our Lord, who know it, who get it from within. Let's experience the grace and the peace and the consolation that comes from them understanding of being in it with us. My brothers and sisters, whatever it is, Jesus and Mary, they get it. They get it and they're with you in it. And let's bring this them as we pray. In the name of the Father, and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.
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And lead us not into temptation, but.
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Deliver us from evil. Amen. Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with the. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen. Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with the. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen. Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with the. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen. Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spirit. As it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be, world without end. Amen. In the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.
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All right, everybody. Thank you for joining me and praying.
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With me again today.
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I look forward to continuing this journey with you tomorrow.
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God bless y'. All.
Episode: Day 19 – Valley of Tears
Date: January 19, 2026
Host: Fr. Mark-Mary Ames, CFR
In Day 19 of “The Rosary in a Year,” Fr. Mark-Mary reflects on the phrase “valley of tears” from the Hail Holy Queen, using biblical and personal stories to explore the reality of suffering in our fallen world. He invites listeners to find companionship and hope in Jesus and Mary—both of whom intimately understand pain. The episode emphasizes honesty about life's hardships while drawing courage from the knowledge that we are not alone in our trials.
Fr. Mark-Mary opens by referencing John 19:26-27, where Jesus gives his mother to John and, by extension, to all of us in the midst of suffering on the cross (00:35–01:17).
He emphasizes that both John and Mary are suffering at the foot of the cross, sharing in Jesus’ pain (01:17–01:33).
Mary is introduced as “the Woman of Sorrows,” whose own experience of suffering allows her to compassionately accompany us (01:33–02:04).
He reflects on Jesus’ choice to give us Mary as a gift—a companion who knows our pain yet also knows resurrection and hope.
The prayer’s phrase “valley of tears” is explored through the background of its likely author, Blessed Herman of Reichenau (02:20–03:52).
Fr. Mark-Mary shares that describing the world as a “valley of tears” is “honest and really fair,” considering we all experience suffering (03:44).
Fr. Mark-Mary shares a moving story of a Catholic missionary who, intending to bring joy, replaces a widow’s bloody crucifix with a picture of a laughing Jesus—only to later find the crucifix restored (04:19–05:09).
Fr. Mark-Mary expands:
On Suffering and Understanding:
On the ‘Valley of Tears’:
On Bringing Suffering to Mary:
Encouragement:
Fr. Mark-Mary speaks with pastoral gentleness and compassion, addressing listeners as “my brothers and sisters” and inviting them to solidarity and prayer. His storytelling is simple, heartfelt, and rooted in Catholic tradition and scripture.
Fr. Mark-Mary’s reflection in this episode is an honest acknowledgment of suffering, reminding us that life is indeed a “valley of tears.” Yet, he emphasizes that in Mary and Jesus, we have companions who truly “get it” from within. Their solidarity turns pain into a place of companionship and hope, making the path through the valley lighter because we’re never alone.
For a deeper journey, listeners are encouraged to embrace prayer, turning to Jesus and Mary especially in their hardest moments.