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Patricia Heaton
I never imagined I would have this kind of career. That was the heyday. You had Seinfeld, you had Friends, so there was all these great comedies, and we got to be a part of that. That is probably not coming back now since the advent of streaming, which blew up the whole system. Where we shot the Middle, which is on Warner Ranch, which is around the corner from Warner Brothers, and it used to house like the Walton house and the Lethal Weapon house, and the Friends Fountain was all there, and that was all razed to the ground. And they built a ton of sound stages. And Pandemic Happened and the Strike Cellar all happened. And on the Paramount lot, there's just a bunch of empty sound stages there. Now, a really veteran comedy writer said he was in a writer's room where a bunch of the writers were in their 20s and they had a character that was like a marine, and he didn't like to hug anybody, didn't want guys hugging him. He would, like, tense up. And one of the young writers said, well, that's really homophobic. We can't write that. So there's a certain wokeness, I think, in some young people that you're Catholic.
Dave Rubin
Pro life, you're pro Israel. How much of that were you talking about sort of publicly, way back versus now? You're extremely outspoken.
Patricia Heaton
Obviously, the thing that I think a lot of people outside of Hollywood have a misconception about, even though actors, myself included, will state our political opinions, when you're working, you're just trying to make a show successful and that you should be conscious that there might be somebody who has a different opinion. You know, you have Tilda Swinton and you have Mark Ruffalo, and you have Benedict Cumberbatch and all these folks who live a very privileged life, because the same people who were standing up in Hollywood against what Israel was doing in Gaza stayed silent when Boko Haram in Nigeria were murdering Christians.
Dave Rubin
All right, Patricia Heaton, you're not getting a proper intro read off the teleprompter because I can describe you as legendary actress, cookbook author, activist, Twitter fighter a little bit lately, but mostly, you are like an old friend to me somehow. Even though we've only known each other for a couple of years, it burned very hot in LA before we both escaped. You went to Nashville. I came here. But it is great to see you.
Patricia Heaton
Well, and now that I have all your old outdoor patio furniture, we're forever connected. I'm forever in your debt.
Dave Rubin
You literally. We were moving. I had all this extra stuff. You were like My kids will take it. I kind of thought you were kidding. You all showed up five minutes later and the Heaton children are enjoying my Home Depot furniture.
Patricia Heaton
Correct? Yes.
Dave Rubin
And it's all still there.
Patricia Heaton
It's all still there.
Dave Rubin
It's really great to see you. We became good friends very quickly in la and then we both fled. As I said, there's so many things I want to talk to you about. In a limited time, let's do a little bit about just comedy and acting and all that. First, before we get into all the political stuff. You guys just did the reunion show for Raymond. How did that feel to you? I mean, I know it's like the most cliche question I can ask in some sense, but to get back there with everybody, or at least whoever was still around, obviously you guys have lost some people over the years and just be part of that again. Such a legendary thing.
Patricia Heaton
Well, they reconstructed this set and it was sort of a Twilight Zone vibe because it felt so deeply familiar. Spent nine and a half years on that set. Over 200 episodes. Right. And so it was like. It's like a weird kind of like, we're here, but we're not really here. But it was so great. You know, we all had kids while we were on the show. There was the show and then there was all our lives that were happening. And all the crew came back. And so that just shows you kind of what a family this was that we. I remember every crew member's name. I don't remember my kids birthdays, and I remember every crew member's name. And to see everybody again, it was very, you know, very formative years. So. And you just realize what a rare thing it is to have that kind of chemistry among the actors with that level of writing. And because it's on a network, you're limited to the things you can say. You can't curse. There's certain things you can't show. And so I feel like either it's gonna get really dumbed down because of that, or it gets really elevated because the writers have to work extra hard. And that's what happened on Everybody Loves Raymond under the leadership of Phil Rosenthal. And the other thing that made it ring so true is because every story was from Rhea's life, Phil's life, or the writers lives. Phil has famously said, go home and fight with your spouse and then come back and tell us about it and we'll do an episode. So that's why it's so unique, universally acclaimed, you know. And I remember I was doing Some charity work for this organization, World Vision. And I was in Rwanda, and the fellow, the Rwandan that worked for World Vision there and I were in a car driving around and we were just talking about his weekend plans. And this is in rural Rwanda. He lives on a farm. And he said, oh, I have to go to a wedding of someone my wife works with. And I don't wanna go, I just wanna stay on the farm. And I thought, even in Rwanda, marriages are exactly the same as they are in the United States when it comes down to relationships and husbands and wives and their differences. And that's why Raymond works, because the show even is relatable in Rwanda.
Dave Rubin
How much of it do you think was also just the special timing sort of culturally, even technologically? Obviously, things have now shifted. The online thing and everything else that that type of sitcom could really work then. It almost seems like. I mean, I guess some people would say Big Bang Theory, but Raymond seems like. What year did it go off there?
Patricia Heaton
It started when Sam was three. I think it started in. Oh, I was pregnant with Joe the first season. 97.
Dave Rubin
It started 97 years. So nine years into 2006. That seems like probably the last great old school sitcom. Now you. Yes, I did the Middle after that, which was also great, but.
Patricia Heaton
Right. But Middle was like a single camera.
Dave Rubin
But it was single camera. It was a different.
Patricia Heaton
But as a multi. Yeah. Yes.
Dave Rubin
What do you make of that? That. That. Because it's so special for people of a certain age. Yes, those sitcoms.
Patricia Heaton
Yes. I don't know. I mean, because after that, Everybody Hates Chris was on it and that was a really funny, funny, funny show at the same level. But it was single camera. The Middle was single camera. And all comedy kind of moved into single camera at that time. And so getting back to that kind of writing, it requires a certain kind of energy. Like I say, that single camera comedy is like Brie and Chablis and multi camera is like beer and brats. There's a Midwestern vibe to it. There's a theatrical ness to it where the punchlines have to punch and so that you get this laugh out loud quality to it. And I believe that that takes people who grew up with that. And I think a lot of kids today and younger writers maybe didn't grow up with that, and they grew up with comedies that had more subtle humor, more ironic humor. And so I think that's what we're seeing. And do you think it can come back?
Dave Rubin
I think there's a way. I don't know exactly what it Is I just know, because when I still watch, when I watch Raymond, when I watch Seinfeld, when I watch Golden Girls, I mean, you know, the laundry list of shows that I love, like, it still works. So there's gotta be a way it can translate. It's about the translation.
Patricia Heaton
Yes. And I wonder if. If there's something about like a Midwest sensibility, a Jewish sensibility. I think you still had like a borscht belt humor that stand up comedians still had a little bit, and that a lot of the writers grew up with that kind of thing. And so that was kind of in their DNA and that you don't have it as much anymore. So how you get back to that, I'm not 100% sure. I know a really veteran comedy writer said he was in a writer's room where a bunch of the writers were in their 20s and they had a character that was like a marine. And he didn't like to hug anybody. He didn't want guys hugging him. He would like tense up. And they were writing this character. And one of the young writers said, well, that's really homophobic. We can't write that. And they said, listen, how does a character change and evolve unless they start in some place? So why not just have him start there? And we see by the end, maybe grudgingly, but by the end he accepts a hug. Like, you can't have that ending unless you have that beginning. So there's a certain wokeness, I think, in some young people, although there might be even a backlash against that now in this era that we're.
Dave Rubin
Right. I remember you telling me a couple of years ago that you were in a writer's room for a show that I think maybe never aired, that where they. You basically felt they had to hire this diverse cast of writers and they were basically fighting the entire time over what was offensive, Right?
Patricia Heaton
Yes, that's obvious. But it's crazy, right? That's. Yeah, because, you know, the first thing I heard was like, where they came from or what ethnicity they were or what sexuality they identified as, as a. And I kept thinking, yeah, but can they write comedy?
Dave Rubin
You're like, great, you're a lesbian.
Patricia Heaton
Right? Exactly. You know, so. So I think it can come back. I'm trying. We're taking stuff out and pitching it, so we'll see.
Dave Rubin
Do you think some of it's also just economics that like, you know, the old things can be so cheap now on an iPhone and with little, you know, what do they call black magic or whatever that getting a studio to sit there and you got to feed those people and do. How many takes would you guys usually do for.
Patricia Heaton
Well, Raymond was very efficient. It was like two takes. You know, we. Phil, didn't like to keep the audience too long and have them get tired out. But in the world of producing half hour comedies, sitcom is pretty cheap. And it's even cheaper now because they don't pay anything. And they're not producing 22 and 24 episodes. They're doing 10.
Dave Rubin
Right. Does that seem crazy?
Patricia Heaton
Yes.
Dave Rubin
I mean, long seasons.
Patricia Heaton
But I'm telling you, Dave, I. And my Dave. As you know, we have many Daves in our lives.
Dave Rubin
Yes, we do. We're both married today.
Patricia Heaton
That's true. And so we realized, like we were thinking about this during the pandemic that, I mean, I used to, like, literally kiss the ground every day I stepped out of my car on the Warner Brothers lot. Cause both were shot in the middle and Raymond were at Warner Brothers. I never imagined I would have this kind of career, but I. What was I gonna say? I look back, so I was always grateful. But I look back on it now and I'm like, that was the heyday. You had sign. You had friends. Even going back to a show like Wings. When my first son was born in 93, I watched Wings was so funny. So there was all these great comedies and we got to be a part of that. And whenever you would go either at ABC or CBS to one of these Television Critics association events and all the casts would show up and you were like, we're all on show. Isn't this cool? You'd see your friends from other shows. And we realized that is probably not coming back now since the advent of streaming, which blew up the whole system. Even when HBO came onto the scene, you still had the major networks. The three, plus Fox was sort of there. And then you had hbo. And that was kind of it. It's not that anymore. And I realized, my goodness, we got to do that. Like, I look, I always was grateful. But I look back on it and I thought we really didn't realize that we were in this golden era of television.
Dave Rubin
One of the last great things that I did in LA was my last birthday there. You guys came out to dinner with us with Bob Saget and his wife Kelly.
Patricia Heaton
Yes.
Dave Rubin
And here I am sitting with two of, like, the legends that I grew up watching. And Bob was talking about how, you know, they had rebooted or they had, you know, basically brought back Full House, Fuller House on Netflix. But he was going on and on about in the old days, what we got paid to do this. And he's like, now I just sit there and we don't get residuals. And I know it's kind of cry me river in some sense for whatever.
Patricia Heaton
But just to describe what that was like and that up front, they'd fly the whole cast down and you're. And you're in this fabulous hotel on Central Park West. And I remember for one of my birthdays, I got a weekend at the Montage in Laguna. And you'd get. I mean, just the money was flowing then, you know, it ain't anymore.
Dave Rubin
Anymore. Well, let's. Well, let's actually. Let's talk about LA for a little bit, because we. Because we did both flee. And it's partly. It wasn't directly, at least for me, because Hollywood was kind of changing. It was all the other decay that was happening around Covid and everything else. But you guys left right after us, and you were more deeply connected to that world than I was.
Patricia Heaton
Yeah. We had filmed a movie called Unexpected, which is available on Amazon prime for anybody who'd like to see it, with Anna Camp and Joe Mazzello.
Dave Rubin
A true professional prom.
Patricia Heaton
Yes. But we had filmed it in Oklahoma, and then we were filming something somewhere else, and it was outside of la, and we just thought that the taxes are high, the crime is high, the homelessness is high, and we're not working in LA as much as we're working outside of la. So why don't we leave? Let's just leave our boys. We'll abandon our children, who by that time were pretty much on their own. And they'd have my furniture, and they have your furniture. And so we just said, let's go to Nashville because we were familiar with it. We had friends there, and, you know, we really haven't looked back. And I. And when I go back now, I think, does it feel different to me because I'm not working here anymore, or has it really changed? And I think there is a little bit of a sadness about it that I think is real, and it's not just because of my experience. And we have just got a email from a writer saying, you got out at the right time. And a lot of the writers I know from Raymond and the Middle have left. They went back to their hometowns and with their families. I did a couple episodes of Frasier last summer with Kelsey Grammer and on the Paramount lot, and it was only Frasier and Kathy Bates Matlock that were on the lot. And now there's I think now Matlock is the only one on that lot.
Dave Rubin
Wow.
Patricia Heaton
Yes.
Dave Rubin
So those sound stages are just empty. Empty.
Patricia Heaton
And where we shot the middle, which is on Warner Ranch, which is around the corner from Warner Brothers, and it used to house, like the Walton house and the Lethal Weapon house and the Bewitched house, and the Friends fountain was all there, and that was all raised to the ground, and they built a ton of sound stages. And then the pandemic happened and the Strike Cellar all happened, and there's just a bunch of empty sound stages there now. God, I know.
Dave Rubin
You can do a zombie movie. I guess that would probably be it. Let's talk a little bit about your beliefs in general, because you're also a little bit of an outsider in a Hollywood perspective, in that you're Catholic, you talk about it pro life, you're pro life, you're conservative, you're pro Israel. I mean, there's a bunch of stuff here that doesn't quite fit in the system. I mean, how much of that. Well, how much of that were you talking about sort of publicly way back when versus now? You're extremely outspoken. Obviously.
Patricia Heaton
I was pretty outspoken back then. I think I remember when I was interviewing for Linda Bloodworth Thomason to do a part on a new. A spinoff from Designing Women called Women of the House, where Delta Burke's character, her husband in Designing Women, had been a congressman or a senator, and then he dies, and so she takes over his seat. That's. Did.
Dave Rubin
Did it do a season?
Patricia Heaton
It. Just a season and a half or something like that. It was me, Delta, Terry Gar, the wonderful Terry Garr. And so. And Valerie Mahaffey. And I sat down with her and I said, I just want you to know I'm pro life. So I don't. Because the show is slightly political. And I said, so I don't see myself really doing any pro choice character, you know, unless there's another pro life character on the show that makes an equal argument. And she said, there's nothing funny about abortion. We're not gonna do that on this show. And I'm like, okay. But so I was clear about those things. And I think people knew. Okay. I don't know if I ever told you this story, but my very first show with Linda Lavin was called Room for Two, and we played mother and daughter, where I produced a morning show, and she ends up having an opinion thing, like an Andy Rooney thing on my morning show, much to my character's chagrin. Right. And so that was during the time where Clinton was running against Bush and everybody was for Clinton and she was doing a lot of work for Clinton and whatever. And it's really because of the pro life thing that I was like, okay, I'm voting for Bush. It's not like I had a big commitment to Republican ideals necessarily. But when the Democrats put abortion in their platform, that is a game changer. If it's not in the platform and there are some Democrats who are pro life and some who are pro choice, then you could still be a Democrat. But when it's in the platform, then as a Catholic, you know, you're out or I'm out. And so. But I. So I never said anything, but it was just getting the point where they were just saying terrible things about Republicans just freely, because they assume that everybody thinks like they do, right? And I'm new here in town, so that was my first sitcom. So I go to a. I see a friend of mine outside of work had a little Bush quail button, right? I said, give me that button. Give me the button. I'm going to wear it to work. I'm not going to say anything.
Dave Rubin
I'm just going to wear it to work.
Patricia Heaton
So I put it on my jacket lapel and it was like. Had my handbag over it. And I'm like, I don't know if I really should be doing this. And then finally we sat down for the table read. It was the first day of the week. And the director saw it, who's, by the way, these are all wonderful people who are all my friends. And he said, are you wearing a Bush quail button? And I'm like, yeah. And he goes, I mean, we gotta get started on this table read. But could you tell me what. Can you tell us why? In, like a minute? And I didn't really have an answer. I was like, well, I said, I'm pro life and blah, blah, blah. And I tried to make up something, well, Clinton doesn't have any experience in international affairs, which I was just pulling out my bum, you know, you should.
Dave Rubin
Have said, well, Dan Quayle's really smart.
Patricia Heaton
Yes, he's a good spel. But so. And there was like, everyone was staring at me. And there was another guest actor who had been on the previous week, who I'd completely hit it off with, who was staring daggers at me after I said this. And he said, I can't believe it, but I am just hating you right now. And I said, well. And we had had long, deep conversations prior to that. And I said, well, it's probably cause you hate your dad and your dad's voting for Bush. And then God bless Linda Lavin, who passed away last year, who was my dear friend for life. And she said, it doesn't matter because Clinton's gonna win. Now let's do the table read. And that was just a beautiful way to handle it. But afterwards, after we finished the table read, the script supervisor, who's also a liberal, came over to me and she goes, you're the bravest person I've ever met. And then Linda's assistant, who was a gay woman, married, probably not married at the time, but had a partner with a kid, she comes down from Linda's office and said, my partner and I don't agree with most of your views, but we absolutely defend your right to say it and have your views. And I was like, okay, refreshing. And then another writer came down, a guy and was like, I heard about your button. And I thought this thing spread like wildfire through the show. But, you know, I wasn't meaning to share my political opinions, but I just wanted people to be aware that not everybody shares your political view and that you should be conscious that there might be somebody who has a different opinion. So when you're walking around freely, like crapping on every person that has a different political opinion, it might be your friend standing right there that you're talking about and you don't know it. Just like for my pro life views, I don't ever talk about that in a makeup trailer on the set because many, many people have had abortions and it's a sensitive subject, and I would never want to introduce that especially into the workplace. Right. And the thing that I think a lot of people outside of Hollywood have a misconception about, even though actors, myself included, will state our political opinions, when you're working, you're just trying to make a show successful, right? And you're going in there and you want to be nice to the crew, you want to know your lines, hit your marks, not complain about anything, show up. That's really what it's about on a day to day basis. We're all people who have families that we're trying to support. And so we want the show to be the best it can be. And that's really the focus. So even though I have political opinions and a lot of my dear, dear friends have very differing opinions, we're really united, first of all, in just friendship and admiration and respect for each other, but also the fact that we're just trying to make it work in this really, really really difficult business.
Dave Rubin
Well, you're also not awful about it. And what I mean by that is there are so many actors now. Like, you're probably friends with him, so you don't have to nod either way. I'll try to read your eyes. But like De Niro, he's done so many incredible things. I just watched Godfather 2 again the other day, and it's, like, so amazing to see him so young. And, you know. And I know we have a slight disagreement on the one they did for Netflix. I really didn't like it. You loved it. The Irishman.
Patricia Heaton
The Irishman, Yeah.
Dave Rubin
I just loved it, but it doesn't matter.
Patricia Heaton
Yeah.
Dave Rubin
But, like, I now am starting to have trouble separating the art from the artist, and I. And I hate that. And it's when I find that I watch something where I don't recognize anybody, I find it the most authentic in a way, because we know too much about these people. Yeah.
Patricia Heaton
And that, you know, I probably. I admire actors who have chosen really, to just keep it separate. It's a real discipline because you're pressured to really be out there publicly, not necessarily with your opinions, but to have social media and to push projects and create this image and all this stuff outside of your work. So there's pressure for you to do that as far as selling a show and being a good player, a good employee for whoever's producing your show. And, you know, I'm just such an opinionated person, and sometimes I just cannot not say anything. So that's my own fault. And there's probably people who don't want to watch me because they don't like my opinions, and that's the price. Yeah. And I do admire those folks who just. You don't know anything about what they believe, and they just do their job. I do admire that. And I think there's freedom in that. Yeah. But I say, like, I would say, especially in the Israel, Palestine space, like, Mark Ruffalo is very opposite. Right. I still watch him. I still. I know I don't.
Dave Rubin
Well, I also don't think he's a good actor.
Patricia Heaton
Oh, well, Task was really good. That was just on and we just rewatched you Can Count on Me, which is one of his very first movies with Laura Linney. It's so good. So I still. I don't know. I don't have a problem watching him. And I think.
Dave Rubin
Have you chatted?
Patricia Heaton
I've never.
Dave Rubin
For anyone that doesn't know him. So you're incredibly pro Israel and very, very vocal about it. Again, you're Catholic, not Jewish.
Patricia Heaton
Yes.
Dave Rubin
You can support Israel and not be Jewish. So have you had any interactions with him? Because you guys are on, like. Cause he's like. It's not that. Just he's like sort of pro. It's not even Palestine because it doesn't make sense. But he's not even that. He's pro Gazan, let's say, or something. He's like hardcore Israel hate.
Patricia Heaton
Yes. I don't know him at all and I've never spoken to. So I haven't. And I'm trying to think if I've had. I don't think I've had any interactions except with. No, I haven't had any interactions with people who are on the other side. There are a lot of, like, big movie people who, you know, you have Tilda Swinton and you have Mark Ruffalo and you have Benedict Cumberbatch and all these folks who live a very privileged life.
Dave Rubin
He should apologize for that. New War of the Roses.
Patricia Heaton
Oh, I. You know what? I just kind of looked at the trailer and I'm like, can I, can.
Dave Rubin
I have a. I think you're gonna be better than Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner.
Patricia Heaton
Well, here's the thing. Not everybody is funny. And just because you have funny lines doesn't mean you're going to be funny. Like, you know, Will Ferrell funny. You just have to look at him. Kristen Wiig, very funny. Amy Poehler, very funny. Like, there's so many people that. Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock, they're just funny.
Dave Rubin
Right?
Patricia Heaton
And that's what it. You have to have that as a comedic actor. I think all comedic actors can do drama, but not all, you know, dramatic actors can do comedy. In fact, most cannot because they're just not funny people.
Dave Rubin
It's like watching a Rodney movie. The movies usually weren't that incredible, but you're ready to laugh the entire time. You know, back to school, you're laughing. Sometimes you're not even sure what he's saying.
Patricia Heaton
You're right.
Dave Rubin
But you're right, Benedict, he's not. I mean, the movie was.
Patricia Heaton
I didn't see it because it looked like.
Dave Rubin
And the woman who played.
Patricia Heaton
Oh, Olivia Coleman.
Dave Rubin
Yeah. Like, she's obviously a good actress. She's not funny.
Patricia Heaton
So you have these Right.
Dave Rubin
People desperately trying to be funny.
Patricia Heaton
Well, I think there's a thing.
Dave Rubin
Putting aside the Israel stuff.
Patricia Heaton
Yes. But I think there's a thing with, with some British actors who they just, they quit.
Dave Rubin
Yes.
Patricia Heaton
They quip.
Dave Rubin
Yes.
Patricia Heaton
And that's considered comedy. But that's not really, comedy isn't just quips in a British accent. An ironic thing. Ironic thing. Droll things. That's not comedy.
Dave Rubin
That's what the whole movie was.
Patricia Heaton
It's all droll quips, quip, quip, quip.
Dave Rubin
And you're just like, yeah, yeah.
Patricia Heaton
And I noticed that in the trailer and I'm like, that's not going to be good.
Dave Rubin
Versus seeing Michael Douglas, like, sweat.
Patricia Heaton
Yes.
Dave Rubin
In the sauna. And then the hatred when she's locking it up.
Patricia Heaton
Yes. Yeah.
Dave Rubin
But okay, so as it pertains to the Israel stuff, you've become an unbelievable supporter for Israel, which is tough to do as someone in the industry you're in. But where did that even come from? From you originally?
Patricia Heaton
Well, I'm gonna get all spiritual on you now. So, you know, we had.
Dave Rubin
It's the season.
Patricia Heaton
It's the season. It's Christmas and Hanukkah coming up. And so we had this long, crazy pandemic. Then we had a writer strike, then we had an actor strike. So we're having a couple of years now where I'm not really working and I'm not a leisure oriented person. I like to work. I can only enjoy a vacation if I'm coming off of a job or I know I'm going to a job. So here am moved to Nashville. Love it there. But I just, every day, if I don't have something to do, I can doom scroll for eight hours like nobody's business. And that's not healthy. So I was just like praying like, lord, you gotta give me something to do. I would hope it's another TV show, but if not, just give me something to, like, for two years I'm praying this. Like, literally, that's the prayer. And then October 7th happened. And I'm watching on my social media Hamas posting body cam footage of what they're doing. And it's so horrifying. And I was like, what the hell? And I thought there's going to be uprising on the streets in support of Israel and especially in Nashville, because there's three churches on every corner and they've all gone to Israel and they all love Israel. So we're going to see support of Israel in Nashville. And just like, where is everybody? Where is Everybody? And then two days later. So by October 9th, everyone was calling Israel the bad guy. And all the colleges were full of people shouting free Palestine. From the river to the sea with posters and flags. What? Like in 24 hours they suddenly had all this stuff ready. That was very suspicious. Right? There's gonna Be a lot of books coming out in the next 10 years about what's going on, because none of this stuff stays hidden for long. And so I was like, I grew up. My dad served in World War II. We grew up reading about Anne Frank. We all knew the Holocaust had happened. This was just a shared common knowledge amongst all Americans, right? And so I thought, does nobody remember all this stuff? And it was supposed to be never again, and now here we are. And I just started, I think, the first post I had said, if. If this is on Instagram, if. Did you ever have the thought, if you were a German During World War II, do you hope you would be the good German who hid their Jewish neighbor? Well, today you have that opportunity. Reach out to your Jewish friends. Support. I listed a bunch of organizations. Support these organizations if you can. And then I did text and call a bunch of Jewish friends. And they. I said, how are you doing? And they said, we're not doing good, and you're the only person that's asked. And so I thought, I know a lot of my friends support Jewish people and support Israel, but I think they don't know what to say, and they feel awkward, and they've never had these conversations with their Jewish friends. And so, along with my partner Elizabeth, who's Christian, married to a Jewish man, we created this organization called 10-7-07c, to activate Christians to be visibly and vocally supportive of the Jewish people of Israel's right to exist and to fight antisemitism. And we were just starting in Nashville. But the minute people saw that someone like me, who was not Jewish and who had a platform was speaking out, we started getting calls from a lot of different places saying, can you come here and can you come there and can you speak for us and can you do this? And so I just felt like it was something I was called to do. And I think an experience I had when I first moved to Los Angeles was really pivotal for me. I was in a gym, on a treadmill, and there was a very elderly woman next to me on her treadmill. And when I looked over at her, she had numbers tattooed on her wrist. And I was so. It was like a gut punch, because we've read about this all our lives. We've heard. I'd never met anyone who experienced it, and I didn't talk to her, but I was like, oh. It was like, it's right there. It's right there. And so that always quickened me to what Jewish people went through. And I've just had so many Jewish friends. And I just, you know, I mean, I'm in an industry where Jewish people are super successful, and so there's many Jewish people around me. And so that's kind of what started it all.
Dave Rubin
A lot of them, unfortunately, have traded it in for the leftist stuff. So you get the nonsense at the Emmys.
Patricia Heaton
It's mysterious that that has happened.
Dave Rubin
Fame does weird things.
Patricia Heaton
Yeah. I'm not sure why that is. There's maybe. I think part of it is because Maga. Well, not anymore, but on the right, it's been mostly pro Israel, and particularly Trump has been very good. So people who hate Trump feel like if they support, even if they're Jewish, if they come out in support of Israel, that they're connecting themselves to Trump. And that is like the third rail for a lot of people. It's the third rail. People just don't want to have any association with him whatsoever.
Dave Rubin
You know, I keep saying that Trump Derangement syndrome actually will be studied as a mental disorder.
Patricia Heaton
I think you're right.
Dave Rubin
Because if you view this man's belief system as the center of your universe, if you make a decision because he believes in the opposite or vice versa, then it actually is a mental condition.
Patricia Heaton
Correct. I think it will be because you'll go against your own, you know, your own self preservation. Preservation. Yeah, that's. That's absolutely right. And I think also being in Hollywood for years, where if you're pro life, they take your woman card away. Right. So I've always been a little bit on the outside of it, and so I'm used to it. So almost that is sort of a preparation for me to be okay about being open about this, the Israel issue, because I've always been someone who's not gone with the main flow in Hollywood.
Dave Rubin
Do you think that's closed any doors? I mean, you would think if this was Hollywood of 50 years ago, it could have opened doors, right. Would have a lot of Jews. Now it seems like it's gone the other way. Do you think it's closed some doors?
Patricia Heaton
You know the weird thing about that? How would I know? Yeah, you don't know. And if for me, as a Christian, I believe God is ultimately in charge, then it doesn't matter if somebody closes a door, because God can open any door he wants to for me. And so, and. And my whole career has been because of his graciousness to me. I came to LA in like 89. No agent, no manager, no car. One commercial on a reel, and I end up with two huge Hit sitcoms, a star on the Walk of Fame, three Emmys. That's God. That was totally God. So when I look at that, I'm like, you know what? He did that because I didn't have anything going for me. So he can do anything. So even in this time, I'm just called to speak up for what's right. And it's very clear in scripture for Christians that we. Christianity doesn't exist without Judaism. Jesus was Jewish. This whole thing, our. Our whole faith system is grafted into Judaic roots. So. And God tells us in. In the Old Testament, we have to bless Israel. And so. And this doesn't mean that you agree with what the current government there is doing nothing against people who have an issue with political decisions being made over there. That's that. Listen, there are family members of hostages who didn't agree with what they were doing. So it's not that we can see that, really. This is about anti Semitism. Because the same people who were standing up in Hollywood against what Israel was doing in Gaza stayed silent when Boko Haram in Nigeria were murdering Christians. Not a peep. So it's clear that it's about Jews and not about the actual violence that's going on. Yeah.
Dave Rubin
God, there's a lot there. Were you a member of Friends of Abe?
Patricia Heaton
Boko Haram.
Dave Rubin
Now tell me about your time with Boko Haram. Were you in Friends of Abe?
Patricia Heaton
Oh, yeah.
Dave Rubin
So Friends of a.
Patricia Heaton
Listen, the first meeting was at our house.
Dave Rubin
Oh, well, then please tell me about it, because people don't believe this is a real thing. I once had a very strange Uber ride with someone who said that he was in Friends of Abe. And for some reason in my head, I heard that as Friends of Dorothy, and the conversation went completely sideways.
Patricia Heaton
Yeah, you were both going.
Dave Rubin
Yeah, people can Google both of those.
Patricia Heaton
If they want, but at least on.
Dave Rubin
The Friends of Abe. So Friends of Babe was basically a secret sort of conservative group popped up in Hollywood to hide all of you scary people.
Patricia Heaton
Right.
Dave Rubin
But at least make sure you could have a meal together.
Patricia Heaton
Correct. So Gary Sinise was like, hey, come to dinner with me. And he was talking about getting people together, and he had a dinner at a restaurant. And then Jon Voight called me. He said, I hear you're a certain way. I was like, what? What are you talking about?
Dave Rubin
That could have been a Friend of Darling.
Patricia Heaton
It could have been. But eventually Gary said, hey, would you mind hosting a few conservatives? Some of them are Libertarian, some are Republican, you know, independents. It's quite A mixed group, actually. And would you mind, you know, could we host it at your house? I think it's gonna be like 20 people, 130 people later with caterers. And my friend Dan Sullivan, who is now the senator from Alaska at that time, he was Condi Rice's secretary. He came and spoke and it was Kelsey Grammer and John Voight and Gary Sinisen. A whole bunch of. I think Ben Shapiro was there. Whole bunch of people. And all it was was fellowship. It's just we weren't funding campaigns. We weren't trying to start anything. We just wasn't propaganda. We were feeding in system. It was just like you could talk freely at any of these meetings. And it was called Friends of Abe after, like Friends of Dorothy, which was code for being gay. So Friends of Abe, which is Abraham Lincoln, who was the first Republican president. Right. Was that right? First Republican, Yeah. Or he was a Republican.
Dave Rubin
I think he was the first Republican. Yeah.
Patricia Heaton
Okay.
Dave Rubin
He left the Whigs.
Patricia Heaton
Right. So. So it was called that. So that you knew if you were a friend of Abe, you were probably conservative. Right. So. So. And it just. We just started having these gatherings once a month. There would be a lunch and if you found out somebody was conservative, you could them to this lunch and sponsor them and then you could join. And I think you were just joining a thing to hang out with people. As I said, there was nothing that we were doing except hanging out and having a place to talk. And I think it ended up being 3,000 people by the time it sort of ended because we all knew each other now. We didn't need an organization to connect us because there were only a couple thousand in Hollywood and we all eventually met. Right.
Dave Rubin
And if you remember now I'm fully remembering this. We did discuss this because David and I were gonna start it again at our house because then it went away.
Patricia Heaton
Yes.
Dave Rubin
I think Jeremy Boreing was also another point.
Patricia Heaton
Jeremy Boreing. That's right.
Dave Rubin
Went on to do Daily Wire Boys. And then I. But ironically, it feels like it's probably needed again now. Like it maybe needed a little break and could use a little.
Patricia Heaton
Yeah, I think more because we have to battle stuff within our own party. Because how weird. Since Charlie Kirk was assassinated, there was initially almost a spiritual thing that happened where people who had never really even thought about this stuff were posting on social media that, like, I'm feeling called to go to church. There was a lot of that and that they were saying, I don't even know this guy and something's really wrong with our country if this is happening, that you can't just talk on a campus without being shot. So for a minute there was a movement of like, this is going to bring us together. And then from the right, there was this big uprising of anti Semitism that came out and. And they were using Charlie Kirk as an excuse, saying he was being pressured by Israel and he. All this kind of rumors and stuff. And people we know who are feeding that, other pundits are feeding that for whatever reason, whether they're being paid by a foreign entity or. Or they're just crazy little of both or both combination. And so that's been shocking. And as a Catholic, there's this kind of vein of people in the Catholic Church who seem to have adopted a sort of Byzantine, medieval view of Jews. And they are saying. And they're combining it with this America first thing. And it doesn't really make sense. And so again, we find that this Jew hatred. That's what it is. It's Jew hatred is resurfacing. But now on the right, which a couple people had predicted, like I think James Lindsay had talked about it. And so that is. I think that there's a spiritual aspect to that. There's a spiritual war going on in this world and young people who are ignorant are being infected. It's almost like a zombie apocalypse. Like, people will pop up who you couldn't ever imagine questioning Israel's right to exist. On the right. I'm just like, oh, not you. Are you kidding? You too. Like, it's a little bit scary. I just feel like our group is getting like, smaller because this infection is happening to everybody. And I think that's what if we redid something like Friends of Abe, it would be to address that and we'd.
Dave Rubin
Have some of the good guys on our side. I mean, what I keep thinking lately, as this is happening, and I've watched some of my friends who I don't even need to name drop, but public people that have kind of gone off the deep end thinking, actually, if anything, this is just refining the rest of us. Like, it's not fun. It's not fun in its own way. And it's not.
Patricia Heaton
Not.
Dave Rubin
It's like pretty terrible, actually. When you see someone go the other way.
Patricia Heaton
Yes.
Dave Rubin
And kind of abandon everything, you think that you knew about it.
Patricia Heaton
They thought they believed. Yeah.
Dave Rubin
But then it's doing something good to the rest of us. And I'm sure there's a biblical analogy.
Patricia Heaton
Yes, for sure. And I think you see who will sell their soul for money because I think it's coming down to money and clicks.
Dave Rubin
Yeah.
Patricia Heaton
And, you know, in the New Testament, it says, what does it profiteth a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul? And I think we're seeing that happening, that people are want. They have agreed for attention, for money, for clicks, for subscribers, and they're willing to sell their soul for that. That's what I think is happening. And listen, like you said, we're being refined, and God doesn't need a lot of people. He needs the right people, and we're just finding out who the right people are. That might sound arrogant to say that. I'm saying we're the right people. I'm not saying I am a particularly good person, but I don't see how you can see in any other way than black and white. Than black and white. As I said, you can criticize the current government in Israel, but the right for Israel to exist, there's no question. Look at a map. Look at the number of Jews in the world, which is this big. You can't even find Israel on a map. It's so small.
Dave Rubin
Yeah. They literally can't put a letter on it.
Patricia Heaton
They can't. It's so small. It is.
Dave Rubin
They have to put it in the Mediterranean Sea.
Patricia Heaton
Correct. And they are. There's. There's what, 55 countries that are Muslim countries. Why do you insist that Israel be destroyed? You just must hate Jews.
Dave Rubin
Yeah. It ain't rocket science. At the end of the day, what else are you working on these days? At the last episode, I was like, because you have to get back to West Palm. You're a busy person doing all sorts of things. We have to send you back up there. And I was like, all right, well, how do we. That was a professional segue, right?
Patricia Heaton
Yes. Well, we've got some projects that we're pitching and movies we're raising money for. It's the Wild west again in show business. And so. And I mean, often my Dave and I just think, how many more years do we want to be pushing this boulder up the hill, you know? Cause it just takes a really long time.
Dave Rubin
Is it as fun for you on set as it was back in the day?
Patricia Heaton
It's fun. I love meeting new people. And as an actor, you're always learning. There's always something you can add to your craft when you're observing how other people work. And I still have. I feel like I have a long way to go as an actor. Like, I watch other people like, oh, I have to learn how to be Able to do it that way or have that relaxed attitude or whatever. And so that's the cool thing about it. But it is. I don't have the same intense desire and passion for it. You know, if I. As I said, like, I'm a. I'm a Not a leisure person. I like to work, so I have to have something to do. It doesn't have to be acting. And I really enjoy acting. I'm more inclined now to do an ensemble thing. So I. So it's not all resting on my shoulders, but so I still love it. And if the right. And it has to be the right thing, because it is still work. It's hard work. And how do you feel about the.
Dave Rubin
Live audience versus doing things without it? Because I know some, you know, you find there's all these stories of, like, old stage actors that hated the live audience. And then there were people that grew up in television that loved it, or there'd be every. Every version of that.
Patricia Heaton
They both have their advantages and disadvantages. So on Raymond and you rehearse for four days. They shoot the fifth day with the live audio. It's wonderful to get that experience and immediate experience and response from the audience. And there's a heightened energy that you need as if you're doing a play to do multi camera. And so that's wonderful. But that shoot taping day takes so much energy where when you do a single cam, like the middle, you can make a bunch of mistakes and they'll just shoot you again. And you can try it different ways. You can kind of play with it.
Dave Rubin
Right. You don't have to feel bad for the crowd that only got one.
Patricia Heaton
Yeah, you're not keeping anybody for long and having to keep buying them pizza and having a comedian tell them jokes while they, you know. But you're there for 12 to 14 hours. So the. So the leisure time you get in a single camera you pay for in that your day is two or three times as long. And you don't get to see it pieced together until it goes on the air because they shoot it all out of order. So you don't get that satisfaction of watching it like a play from beginning to end. So they're just very different animals. And I'm just so blessed that I was able to do both so I could sort of hone those skills. I remember when I first went on the middle and they said, okay, I was in the makeup trailer. They said, come on out for rehearsal. We rehearsed the blocking, and then they sent us back in I'm like. Like, that's it. There's all the rehearsal we get. So you had to, like, come in with it already fully developed in yourself. And that was really scary to me. I think for the first two years, I just thought, I don't know what I'm doing. I just don't know what I'm doing. And eventually you kind of get into it. But every year that when the first week coming back to Raymond or the first week coming back to the middle, I always thought, I don't know how to do this. I don't remember how to do this. Like, fear. And then you do it, and then you're like, okay, I think I remembered it. Mouth. Yeah.
Dave Rubin
All right, last one, then. Wait. I want to see if I can segue this properly. I was going to try to tie this to how we met originally, so I can't. This is going to be another butchered seg, which, for a sitcom person is particularly bad. But we met because you DMed me after I did a show in LA. It was one of the last shows that I did with Jordan, and you were in the audience at the Orpheum, and I remember getting the dm and I was like, my God, first of all, I can't believe. Believe that you care about any of this stuff like, that you're reaching out to me. It was also at the early time at Twitter. Now everyone knows everyone.
Patricia Heaton
Correct.
Dave Rubin
So it was like, that was sort of special. But it reminds me now of something that. To try to get this all into one bucket here. There's a video of Jordan on Rogan where he says, if you think what happened to the left was bad, wait till you see the reaction for the people on the right. And that's sort of what you were referencing before about what's going on. So to tie all of these things together that we've done, acting, people meeting each other, fleeing places, going to places, fighting for truth, all of that. It's right before Christmas. Give me the closing scene here.
Patricia Heaton
Like a positive. You want a positive word?
Dave Rubin
I don't know. You're the guest. Go crazy. You want to end this on. No, it always ends on a laugh lady or apocalyptic. Yeah, you're a sitcom person. It always ends either on a laugh or every, what, eighth episode would end.
Patricia Heaton
On a. Yeah, yeah. I mean, look, Christmas is about God coming into the world as a little baby. I mean, the good news is he came into the world because he loves us so much. The bad news is he came into the world because we are in deep doo doo and right. But I'll just leave you with this. This is, this is my motto in life. Jesus said, in this world you will have trouble, but be of good cheer because I have overcome the world. So we know there's going to be trouble. But at the end of the day, at the end of the millennium, at the end of time, it's all good. The war has been fought and it's been won by love.
Dave Rubin
And we are inserting canned flaw. Directed by. It was a pleasure.
Patricia Heaton
Yes. Great. Thank you so much for having me.
Dave Rubin
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Episode: Inside Hollywood's Secret Conservative Club & If Hollywood Is Over | Patricia Heaton
Date: December 14, 2025
Host: Dave Rubin
Guest: Patricia Heaton
This episode features Dave Rubin in conversation with acclaimed actress Patricia Heaton, best known for "Everybody Loves Raymond" and "The Middle." The discussion covers the dramatic shifts in Hollywood—culturally, technologically, and politically—what it's like to be a conservative in the entertainment industry, the decline of the sitcom era, life after leaving LA, her outspoken pro-Israel advocacy after October 7th, and her role in the formation of Hollywood’s secret conservative club, Friends of Abe.
Nostalgia for Classic Sitcoms
The Decline of Multi-Cam Sitcoms
Advent of Streaming & Economic Changes
Changing Creative Climate
Diversity vs. Merit
Why She Left Hollywood for Nashville
Empty Stages & "Zombie Movie" Vibe
Standing By Her Beliefs: Early Stories
Navigating Friendships Across Political Divides
How She Became a Vocal Supporter
On Hollywood’s “Hypocrisy”
Secret Gatherings for Hollywood Conservatives
On Anti-Semitism from the Right
The New "Wild West" in Show Biz
Reflecting on Craft
On Industry Decline & Nostalgia:
On Political Pressure in Writers’ Rooms:
On Being Outspoken in Hollywood:
On Her Advocacy for Israel:
On Faith and Perseverance:
This candid conversation between Dave Rubin and Patricia Heaton blends nostalgia with sobering industry reality and sharp political insight. It’s a rare inside look at the personal and professional costs of holding outsider beliefs in Hollywood, the collapse of a golden TV age, and finding purpose through faith and activism. For anyone curious about the intersection of entertainment, politics, and personal conviction, this episode is a must-listen.