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But it's not converting. The problem 99.9% of the time is that your funnel is good, but you suck at selling. If you want to learn how to sell so your funnels will actually convert, then get a ticket to my next selling online event by going to sellingonline.com podcast. That's sellingonline.com podcast. Hey, what's up everybody? Welcome back to the podcast. Today I'm going to give you guys a gift. Jason Friedman is someone who is in my inner circle. He's in my Atlas program and he is one of the smartest dudes I've ever met and it's kind of cool. He spoke at our last mastermind in paradise for Inner Circle, our two CCX members. And he talked about something that I don't talk a lot about. Obviously, I am a marketing nerd. I love marketing and traffic and funnels and sales and all the fun stuff. What Jason talks about is customer retention. After you get the people, how do you actually keep them? And his presentation was brilliant. I think it's really fun too because, you know, my focus is we try to make insane products. So I do focus on retention, but also, like I usually, you know, just the cloth that I'm cut from. I focus on acquisition. Acquisition. This presentation, I think will be useful for all of you guys because it's focusing on like growing through retention, not just through acquisition. Acquisition, if I can say it correctly. So anyway, I hope you guys enjoy this presentation from Jason. Afterwards, you should go look him up on social, follow him, tell him he's amazing and this presentation is one of these could help a lot of you guys to make more money without spending more money, which is the key. So I appreciate you all. I hope you enjoy this presentation from Jason Friedman.
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This is the Russell Brunson show. Not too long ago, I was sitting in a room kind of like this. It was in Boise, it was Atlas, and I was sitting in a seat listening to like genius after genius after genius. Every one of them talking about how to do these amazing things with their business. More traffic, better conversions, all this amazing stuff. And as I sat there, I kind of felt uneasy. I mean, I had lots of great notes, lots of great stuff, but not one single person talked about what happens after someone says yes to you. Everything was before the yes, how you get more strangers into your business, but nobody was talking about how to get more customers, to get results. And it really hit me hard Now. I had stopped teaching customer experience, like, all that stuff that he said was awesome. I pivoted my business a bit, and I tell you more about that another time. I don't have as much time right now, but I felt this need to come back to that. And so what I want to talk to you about is a different way to think about Roas today. Now, this morning. It was really heartening to hear Simon and then even Richmond talking a little bit more about customer experience and journeys, because experience is everything. The crazy thing is you can't give people an experience. They have to have one. You can do lots of things to set it up so that they do have one. And in that Atlas room, I was challenged by my Dr. Sonia. Where's Dr. Sonia? She said, who here is going to write a book? And I was like, I might write a book. I thought more about it. Come back to that in a second. But I'm a theater kid. I started when I was 8 years old. My friend Billy wanted to go and try out for this, the camp play. And he, like, needed an emotional support human with him. And so I went with him. And I was sitting in the back watching all this stuff unfold. And there was this dude on stage building all the sets, and. And every so often, he'd run over to the lighting board and adjust the sound. And I was, like, totally captivated by this guy. And I was like, oh, my gosh. And over the next 20 years, like, I went to school for theater. I was a lighting designer. I traveled with Rush, Peter Gabriel, Fleetwood Mac, Run dmc, and Public Enemy. I was the token, and I did, like, legit theater. Les Mis, Jesus Christ Superstar, Fiddler on the Roof. What was so interesting was actually one meeting, one production meeting that changed everything about how I saw the world. And so I was sitting there with, like, the theater, C suite, right? The director, the choreographer, the stage manager, all the designers. And as they were going through the script, reading through the script, the director was like, I want them to laugh right there at this moment. And then, like, a little later, he's like, Hey, I want them to, like, jump to their feet in, like, roarious applause. And he did this for all these different things. And I was like, dude, like, there's no way. Like, that's crazy. And then on opening night, I sat there and, like, on command, everybody did exactly what he wanted. I was like, holy crap. You don't have to guess at transformation. You can choreograph it. You can actually deliver an engineer client success and client transformation. You can engineer the opportunities for them to have the experience you want them to have. Because guess what? No matter what they're having an experience, you kind of want it to be the one that you want them to have. And so you got to do it by design, not by default. And so what I'm is questing, like, is it possible to do this in business? Like, can you actually do this, like, for a business? And I was like, huh? And I spent 25 years of my life proving that you can do it for business. I raised over $20 billion for Stanford, Harvard, Duke, Yale doing customer experience activation events. I did it for brands like Armani, you know, you name it. Everybody out there, it's like, all the big guys. And then when Dr. Sonia challenged us to write the book, I was like, you know what? I'm going to write the book, even though I wasn't going to do this anymore. So the book is called Addicted to Strangers because you all have an addiction to strangers. How to win while everyone else is playing the wrong game. Now, you notice that I'm manifesting Russell writing the forward. I haven't asked him yet, so we'll see. We'll see what he says. We'll see what he says. All right? But here's the reality, right? The reality is that we've built the entire empire of all of our businesses on conversion, and we've forgotten connection. That's where Russell started out the other day. He was talking about brand and connection and people, right? We can't out. AI, AI. We have to embrace us. The relationships, the people. That's the most important thing. So I got a quick pop quiz for everybody. How many people here have an ads budget and ads revenue? Yeah. How many people here have a client success budget? Okay, cool. Few of you. Here's the deal. Funnels convert experiences compound. Funnels convert experiences compound. And so I want to give you a different definition for roas. I want you to think about it as return on audience success. I want you to flip the funnel. I want you to think about how there's a funnel on the back End Like Richmond was talking about how, like, activating people on the back end is one of the most important, most powerful things you could possibly do. Because when you do that, they become not just raving fans, they become raving recruiters. They bring more people in than your ads will ever bring in. It reduces the old definition of our last. It makes it better. You get a higher return on advertising spend. And so how do you do this? Well, the formula that we have to do, this is what we call the kinetic customer formula. We want active, engaged customers. And so here's how it works. There's a bunch of letters and numbers and plus signs and minus signs and all that. But essentially, there's five, four variables and an outcome. It's attitudes, behaviors, momentum, and friction. And if you can master understanding these four pieces, you will get to what we call a radical result. What is a radical result? A radical result was when people rave about your products and services. They can't stop themselves from talking about it because it was just so good. They return to buy more products and services from you. They renew that membership so that you have that ongoing linchpin, amazing model of continuity. And they recruit other people. Not refer, recruit. It's different. They bring them in, they go out, and they grab them. Like, you have to do a tiny challenge. You have to do it, and they grab them and they bring them. You have to come to funnel hacking live. You have to do this, you have to do that. What happens when your customers do that is you start to compound. And so attitudes are how people are thinking about your business. What are they thinking? What are they thinking about their journey? A lot of it's actually internal problems that they have where they're afraid they might not get those results. Behaviors are what they do right. And all of those things can get magnified by momentum. But then, of course, there's friction. And friction is the silent assassin in your business. Too many of us make it too hard to do business with us because we think about it from the business perspective. The one thing that I always took for granted, I didn't realize how powerful it was, is that in theater, everything's designed for the audience, like the sight lines, the angles, the props, the sets, the lights. Everything is thinking about what that audience is going to do. Go back to what that director said. I want them to laugh here. What do we need to do for them to do that? And in our business, it's like, I see all these people like, yeah, like, the guru is, like, on stage doing all this stuff to get Everybody in. They never show up to fulfillment. Right? Sometimes we have to scale what's not scalable. We have to do those touch points, like we're talking about making a phone call, right? Like, that's brilliant. Right, that's brilliant. And the other thing is, like, what I'm going to give you today is not just a checklist. I don't want you to think about that. I'm going to give you some tactical things you can do. But I want you to change your philosophy. I want you to start using what I call journey based thinking. Journey based thinking is like thinking about things on a continuum. It's not just moment by moment by moment. It's moment by moment by moment that are connected. Who was talking about linking all the things was that somebody was talking about having all the links together. You can't have a broken link. But here's the other thing to keep in mind. Customers do not move in steps, they move in stories, right? They have that itty bitty shady committee in their head. They have the imposter syndrome comes up. They think about all the things that are happening and it stops them from taking action. And so I think about what we're about to see is like conversion choreography, or if you want, transformation choreography. And so here's the couple strategies. And these are probably things you might know. Maybe it's a referral or a review, but I think they're pretty important. The first one is time to first value. And if you haven't been practicing this, this is probably the most important one. How quickly do you get somebody a win? How quickly do you get somebody a win? What's a win? A perception of value. It's not the ultimate result that's too big. But the faster we can get someone to feel good, like, yes, I won. That was great. Here's the crazy thing. Most people don't know when they're winning. You have to tell them. You have to tell them. So we want to get someone as much of a short period of time to value as we possibly can right in the beginning. And then we want to create a win streak. We want that value to keep happening. How can we keep getting people multiple wins? Right? That's number one. Number two is what I call mind the gap for our UK friends. So in theater, transitions are like rehearsed within an inch of their lives. Like, we do the scenes, but like the scene changes. We practice over and over again till we get them smooth. Like if you don't do the scene change, right? Like if the. The curtain Falls on the actor or someone gets hit with a moving set piece, it's a bad day, you lose the whole thing. And so we don't want that. But in our businesses, we don't worry and focus on those transitions. We lose people in the transitions. At the last inner circle meeting, I think it was Fabios Orz was talking about connection rate. He was talking about how many people saw a Facebook ad and never got to the page. That's a transition. There's massive, massive loss if you're not focusing on that. So we have to look at the transitions. Transitions from moment to moment, transitions from, you know, one program to another program, transition from page to page, whatever that happens to be. And now I'm curious how many of you love over delivering? Like, you just do it all the time for your clients. Stop it. No more. No more. No more over delivering on over delivery. Here's the crazy thing. If all there ever is is over delivery, it becomes expected. It's no more over delivery. Context and contrast is everything. A lot of times you just gotta deliver. Do what you say and then pick your key moments to over deliver. When you always over deliver, you end up with overwhelm and you end up spending so much extra money to do it, it's actually not worth it in your business. So do over deliver, but do it strategically. Pick the key moments because moments make experiences. Personalize it. And I love what Simon was talking about this morning. He does pre personalize it. He printed on those cards before he went out there. Personalization, especially in this world, is amazing. But it's not just having dear first name. That's not personalization. That's expected at this point. And if your emails go out and say dear first name because you didn't put the right merge field, that's really bad. Right? So what do I mean by personalize it? I mean get to know your customers, understand them, segment them, give relevance to them in the communications, in the way you interact with them in, in the phone calls and things you do. When you can find things that are not traditionally scalable and scale them, like making the phone calls, doing those things, it has such an immense effect. It says there's an exponential return on that investment of time. And so if you can find ways to do that, you're going to be really glad that you did gamify it. Gamification, right? Using game thinking to get people to do what you want them to do. Right. Perfect example. This morning was the challenge thing, right? We got to have a really good prize. I'm going to fly them first class and I'm going to have them come out there. People will do anything for a little red ribbon. Right? Napoleon said that. And so we have to give people status, access, power stuff. Status, access, power stuff. What are you doing to create gamification? Challenges are amazing. Challenges in fulfillment are amazing. Challenges on the front end are amazing. And it's driving people to compete and win. How many people, like, love running in the back of the room to get the T shirt from Russell at all the events? Right. It's stuff crazy enough. Stuff is the lowest level. Stuff is what is, like, the least valuable. What's really the most valuable is recognition. It's being known, it's being seen, it's being asked to speak on this stage. It's the app list lanyard. It's the inner circle lanyard. It's being part of a group that shows that you've ascended up the ladder. What are you doing in your business to let people feel like they've ascended? Because ascension does equal retention. Love that. All right, Engineer expectations. If you don't set an expectation, your client still has one, and it's often not what you want it to be. So I want you to think about, where can you actually set and manage those expectations to their benefit to get them better results, to make them show up more? Like what. What Richmond was talking about with, like, the amount of people that comment and respond in a Facebook group. That's amazing. How many people were, like, blown away by that? Dude, those are amazing numbers. I've never seen anybody that's had that result either. And I've seen lots of this. And so that's amazing. Reward and recognize your customers. Make sure that they feel seen. We all want to feel seen. The problem that we have is, I mean, it's like someone says yes to you, and then they get inside and then you kind of ghost them. Doesn't feel very good. We need to see them. And I would say we also want to create rituals. What are things that we can do that are special, that are very impactful to people? And a lot of people like you start thinking, okay, in reasonable. Has to be expensive. It doesn't have to be expensive. Give an example. In a chain of sleep diagnostic centers, we test people for restless leg syndrome, narcolepsy, sleep apnea, things like that. When they come in, we welcome them. Now, imagine you went to the doctor's office. They tell you you're probably going to die in your sleep because you stop breathing every, like, 10 seconds. And that's not just snoring. You're like, your body stops breathing and you have to solve this, otherwise you're going to have a heart attack or a stroke. So they come into this crazy place, they get connected to all these things, wires and stuff, and they have a video camera watching them sleep. Super uncomfortable scenario, right? So one of the things we do when they come in and they go through the place and it's beautifully designed, they have all the amenities and whatever. We ask them one question. Are you going to be going to work right from here tomorrow? Yeah. Would you like us to press your clothes? They're like, what? Like, would you like us to press or steam your clothes? You're going to go to work, want to make sure you look good. They're like, holy crap. We had an iron, an ironing board and a steamer in the back. Not once did anyone ever take us up on this. But almost every client went back to their doctor and said, this place is unbelievable. They thought of everything. They thought the healthcare was better because we asked them that question. Right? That is what it means when you start to be unreasonable. What are the unreasonable things? The completely unexpected things that you can bring into your customer's world that will help you make a bigger and better impact. I want to leave you with this. I want you to flip your funnel focus. I want you to stop just looking at the front end of your business as a funnel and look at the back end of your business as a funnel also. It's a funnel to your next level program. To your next level program. It's a funnel to have them become your reading recruiting fans. We want them to be talking about it. Focus a lot of effort and energy on what happens after they say yes. Because if you don't focus, you're going to see with the ad costs going through the roof today and you're fighting for eyeballs and we have more upsells and downsells that we have to add in to try and self liquidate the funnel. It gets messy and then it feels like it's an offer factory, not a transformation factory and we end up creating a disappointment factory. And I don't want anybody in this room especially to have that. So stop competing on acquisition and start competing on retention. Now, I know, I know this is going to be controversial. This whole idea of like, what if he or she can spend the most money to acquire customers wins. But what if she he who can spend the most money to acquire your customers was based on the philosophy that your customers were becoming your best traffic what if that's how you were spending the most to acquire a customer? By getting their success. And then they bring all these other people in? That's how we need to do it. Funnels, convert experiences, compound. And at the end of the day, while the world automates the soul out of everything, you can build something AI proof. You don't need more traffic. You need more traction. Thank you very much.
Episode 89: Jason Friedman’s Customer Retention System For Raving Superfans
Date: November 19, 2025
Host: Russell Brunson
Guest: Jason Friedman (Founder, Audience Strategies)
Theme: Rethinking Customer Retention and Creating Raving Superfans
In this episode, Russell Brunson hands the mic to Jason Friedman, a leading expert in customer experience strategy. While most marketers obsess over acquisition and conversion, Jason reveals why the real growth lever lies in retention—turning customers into raving superfans who recruit others and drive exponential growth. Drawing on lessons from theater, psychology, and decades of business success, Jason offers a dynamic roadmap for engineering client transformations and building businesses where experiences compound, not just convert.
[01:00 – 02:04]
“This presentation… is focusing on growing through retention, not just through acquisition. …to help a lot of you guys make more money without spending more money, which is the key.” (Russell, 01:50)
[02:05 – 07:00]
Jason begins by sharing a story from a high-level mastermind:
“The book is called Addicted to Strangers because you all have an addiction to strangers. How to win while everyone else is playing the wrong game.” (Jason, 05:54)
[07:01 – 10:40]
Jason draws a powerful analogy from his early career in theater:
“You can actually deliver and engineer client success… You gotta do it by design, not by default.” (Jason, 08:10)
[10:41 – 13:50]
Jason proposes a new definition of ROAS: not just “Return on Ad Spend” but “Return on Audience Success.”
“I want you to flip the funnel… There’s a funnel on the back end… When you do that, they become not just raving fans—they become raving recruiters.” (Jason, 12:15)
Backend activation is the real lever for sustainable growth:
“They bring more people in than your ads will ever bring in.” (Jason, 12:30)
[13:51 – 18:00]
Jason introduces his proprietary model:
“Funnels convert. Experiences compound.” (Jason, 11:59 repeated & 18:00)
[18:01 – 31:00]
“We lose people in the transitions. …You have to look at the transitions.” (Jason, 22:10)
“If all there ever is, is over-delivery, it becomes expected.” (Jason, 24:43)
(30:17)
Jason shares an example from the healthcare industry:
“We asked one question: Are you going to work right from here tomorrow? Would you like us to press your clothes? Not once did anyone take us up on this—but almost every client went back to their doctor and said, ‘This place is unbelievable. They thought of everything.’ …They thought the healthcare was better because we asked that question.”
Highlights that unreasonable, totally unexpected gestures can transform perceptions.
[32:00 – End]
Stop treating retention as an afterthought.
The people who win aren’t those who spend most on acquisition, but whose customers become true advocates:
“What if… spending the most to acquire a customer was actually based on your customers becoming your best traffic?” (Jason, 33:41)
With ad costs rising and offers stacking, “offer factories” will lose to transformation factories.
Final takeaway:
“Funnels convert. Experiences compound. …While the world automates the soul out of everything, you can build something AI-proof. You don’t need more traffic. You need more traction.” (Jason, 35:04)
“Everything was before the yes. …Nobody was talking about how to get more customers to get results. …It really hit me hard.” (Jason, 02:45)
“You can’t give people an experience. They have to have one. You can do lots of things to set it up so they do.” (Jason, 03:41)
“You don’t have to guess at transformation. You can choreograph it.” (Jason, 08:02)
“Customers do not move in steps; they move in stories.” (Jason, 17:50)
"They renew, they recruit—not refer, recruit. …They bring them in. …They become raving recruiters.” (Jason, 14:47)
“While the world automates the soul out of everything, you can build something AI-proof. …You don’t need more traffic. You need more traction.” (Jason, 35:04)
Listen to this episode if you want smart, tactical ways to grow your business’s lifetime value, reduce your paid traffic dependency, and build an army of recruiting superfans, all while delivering transformational customer experiences that are impossible to copy or automate away.