Life Advice

Summary

The Ryen Russillo Podcast: Life Advice Episode Summary

Episode Information

• Title: Life Advice
• Host: Ryen Russillo, alongside co-hosts Kyle and Morgan
• Release Date: August 5, 2025
• Description: In this special edition, Ryen Russillo and his co-hosts tackle real-life dilemmas sent in by listeners, offering thoughtful and often humorous advice on navigating personal challenges.

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1. Navigating Household Climate Control

Timestamp: [02:17] – [07:11]

Listener's Dilemma:
A married individual struggles with differing temperature preferences in his household. His wife prefers to keep the temperature low without using air conditioning or heating, leading to discomfort for him, especially during extreme weather.

Discussion Highlights:

• Ryen Russillo empathizes with the frustration, comparing it humorously to the inconsistency of an NBA player's performance: “Sasha Vujacic when the shot's falling, I'm on fire, but when I'm off, it's airballs and side eyes from the bench” ([00:00] Transcript).
• Kyle suggests practical solutions like setting personal comfort zones and potentially negotiating specific temperature settings: “I think I'll start with a base at 68 and decide if I can kick it up to 69, 70” ([02:20]).
• Morgan advises open communication, emphasizing the importance of expressing personal discomfort without placing blame: “Hey, I know you don't like when air blows on you, but I'm genuinely very uncomfortable” ([05:11]).
• The trio explores creative compromises, such as individual sleeping arrangements or strategically managing thermostat settings to accommodate both partners’ needs.

Notable Quote:
“Maybe you have to just start going, 'Hey, I can't do this anymore.'” – Ryen Russillo ([07:11])

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2. Handling Unexpected Encounters with Celebrities at Disney World

Timestamp: [11:05] – [36:39]

Listener's Scenario:
An enthusiastic listener recounts an encounter with NBA players at Disney World, raising questions about whether to approach or respect their privacy, especially when they are with family.

Discussion Highlights:

• Ryen Russillo praises the listener’s decision to respect the NBA player’s time with family, noting the value of allowing celebrities to enjoy personal moments without interruption: “I think you absolutely nailed it, man” ([31:21]).
• Kyle reinforces the idea that fans often overthink interactions with celebrities and highlights the importance of being considerate: “It's a big favor you did by just letting them enjoy their time” ([31:21]).
• Morgan echoes the sentiment, suggesting that maintaining boundaries is crucial to respecting personal space and family time.

Notable Quote:
“He spent the whole time snapping photos of the ride since he's also a Disney adult, so I didn't want to bug him” – Listener ([29:14])

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3. Maintaining Good Relations with Difficult Neighbors Over Shared Hedges

Timestamp: [34:23] – [38:17]

Listener's Challenge:
A listener in Oregon seeks advice on pruning a shared hedge that blocks a narrow road. The neighbor’s current boyfriend is difficult, making direct communication about the hedge maintenance uncomfortable.

Discussion Highlights:

• Kyle emphasizes the importance of taking proactive steps to maintain the hedge, even if it might upset the neighbor: “If you just trim yours, they're going to be like, oh, it's unbelievable” ([36:30]).
• Morgan advises that since there was prior approval to prune, the listener can proceed with confidence: “The worst that's going to happen is he's going to come out and say something” ([37:20]).
• Ryen Russillo encourages the listener to prioritize communal and aesthetic responsibilities over potential confrontations, suggesting that maintaining the hedge is beneficial for both parties.

Notable Quote:
“Nothing crazy happened where you don't, you know, you didn't do something that you feel extremely guilty about other than just, hey, this is now the new reality” – Ryen Russillo ([37:20])

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4. Transitioning to a New Career Path from Correctional Officer to Firefighter

Timestamp: [38:03] – [44:09]

Listener's Question:
A 29-year-old correctional officer seeks advice on switching careers after his prison closes, contemplating roles outside the criminal justice system, such as becoming a firefighter.

Discussion Highlights:

• Kyle directly recommends transitioning to firefighting, sharing a success story of someone who made a similar switch and thrived: “He did a smooth transition and ended as a captain” ([39:53]).
• Morgan advocates for pursuing passion over convenience, urging the listener to pivot early before feeling stuck: “If you're young, just do it… Don't keep being unhappy in this job” ([40:22]).
• Ryen Russillo adds depth by discussing the complexities and realities of changing careers, highlighting the importance of understanding both the rewards and challenges: “It is a tough ass job where you could argue that even when you're done, you're never actually done” ([40:22]).

Notable Quote:
“If you’re a young person, just do it, you know, like every day you're not doing it, it's just wasted” – Morgan ([40:08])

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5. Coping with Divorce and Planning a Solo Vacation on a Birthday

Timestamp: [38:34] – [53:33]

Listener's Story:
A listener shares his experience of ending a 13-year marriage, dealing with personal and financial stress, and contemplating a solo vacation for his upcoming birthday.

Discussion Highlights:

• Ryen Russillo delves into the psychological aspects of traveling solo post-divorce, questioning whether it’s a true need for solitude or a temporary escape: “If you’re not alone a lot and if you are a little down, are you going to be walking along the fucking beaches in Puerto Rico by yourself on your birthday” ([46:46]).
• Kyle and Morgan provide practical advice on ensuring emotional support, suggesting that the listener confide in a close friend or adjust vacation plans to include supportive company if necessary. They emphasize the importance of self-care and seeking companionship to avoid loneliness during a vulnerable time.
• The hosts also discuss the potential benefits and pitfalls of solo travel, including the importance of being mentally prepared and avoiding over-indulgence to maintain a positive mindset.

Notable Quote:
“If you are wired to be alone during this time, then I would say go for it. But I do think there’s a lot of people that are going through this again” – Ryen Russillo ([46:47])

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Conclusion

In this episode of "Life Advice," Ryen Russillo, along with co-hosts Kyle and Morgan, provides insightful and compassionate guidance on a variety of personal challenges. From household disputes and navigating celebrity encounters to career transitions and coping with significant life changes like divorce, the trio offers practical solutions infused with humor and empathy. Their collaborative approach ensures that listeners receive balanced advice tailored to diverse situations, making this episode a valuable resource for anyone seeking support and direction in their personal lives.

Final Thought:
“Relationships are compromises,” Ryen Russillo encapsulates the essence of the advice given, reminding listeners that mutual understanding and willingness to adjust are key to overcoming personal and interpersonal challenges.

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Thank you for tuning into this Life Advice edition of The Ryen Russillo Podcast. For more insightful discussions, subscribe on Spotify or your preferred podcast platform.

Transcript

[Ryan Russillo]

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[Kyle]

That's not me, man. Couldn't be me.

[Ryan Russillo]

What do you need it at, Kyle? What do you need it at?

[Kyle]

I think I'll start with a base at 68 and decide if I can kick it up to 69, 70, and then I'll probably be heading back down towards 68.

[Ryan Russillo]

I'm a 68 guy myself.

[Morgan]

Morgan, how the other half lives? I don't have a thermostat. I got two window air conditioners. They're on at all times always. And you hope for the best.

[Kyle]

All right.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, city living. Yeah, city living. But wait, it gets worse in the winter. She also refuses to use the heat. We'll wake up and it's 56 degrees inside and she's just fine. Says she doesn't like any air, hot or cold, blowing on her. All right, so this isn't just a female running hot because the men out there in the game, in the trenches, getting the innings in, we know how that runs. It's just like, man, yeah, this is unreasonable. They don't want to be cold. She just doesn't want air. I don't understand. I don't understand it. Or that. I've tried reasoning, layering fans, open windows, you name it. I swear I'm not being dramatic when I say the biggest ongoing issue in our otherwise rock solid relationship is this. So what do I do here? Fall on the sword? Go full happy wife, happy life? Try to reclaim at least a degree or two of climate to control sanity? Or is this some mythical compromise? I haven't even considered, appreciate any wisdom from the council.

[Kyle]

Man.

[Ryan Russillo]

It sounds like she's just determined. Like, this is a placebo thing with her where she probably could be more comfortable, and she's just decided she doesn't like air at all. And it's. This is like, I'm so frustrated for you. Even just reading this, recounting the story. I'm like, this sucks. Like, I got the original part of it when he was like, I don't want to be cold. Right. She doesn't care. That happens a lot. But now I'll also be freezing in the winter, and I don't want any heat. That's psychotic.

[Kyle]

I think I would probably try to take a stand more in the summer than in the winter. You know, you could put something on if you need to. I mean, you shouldn't have to do any of this. It sounds like, you know, sounds like baseboard. He would have been fine. But it sounds like you're in a modern sort of place, you know, because it's not really air rushing on her. This is like part of me wants to say, like, just every time you pass a thermostat, do your thing. And then when it all. When you have it out. Just try to. Try to make up a little ground that you've lost. This is really tough. This is really tough. It almost seems like it's a. You need a mediator for this. And maybe that could be us. I generally. I'm not someone who's like, show them this, but this is. This is like a mild form of torture.

[Morgan]

Honestly, I think you need to say, like, hey, I know you don't, like when, like, air blows on you, but I'm, like, genuinely very uncomfortable being in this house because it's too hot, too cold, whatever it is. And, like, if she doesn't understand that, like, I don't know where you go from there.

[Kyle]

Summertime, only underwear in the house.

[Ryan Russillo]

There you go.

[Morgan]

Friends come over, underwear, just like, yeah.

[Kyle]

You might have to do that one time and really like it. And it might not be something you're. You know, you might not be one of those guys who's, like, happy to do it. But I think you. You got. You have to make a point. If, like, you just saying, like, this is awful for me. I live in a form of hell. If that's not. If that doesn't get through, or you don't think you can get that out. Right. Maybe it's just like, all right, your rules. This is what I gotta do. I don't. Wintertime, you know, I don't know. I think I'd rather be cold and put something on than be hot and, like, feel like there's no options.

[Morgan]

Yeah.

[Kyle]

So, yeah, part of me is saying, like, just do a thermostat war and wait for the fight. And the other part is, like, all right, like, show her the madness that you're going to have to live in. Like, make her. Make her feel uncomfortable with it, too, somehow.

[Morgan]

Also, does she not like going outside with the wind? I don't understand how you can't have a window open.

[Ryan Russillo]

Maybe in the winter you just put. You order a $400 sleeping bag and then you get in it. Yeah, things get in, right. And then in the summer, you build a porch, screened in. And just a little, like. Just a very minimal. Almost like you're going over Shaolin. Just like, this is my sleeping pad, but at least I'll have the fresh air outside. So he's in la. Depends on which part of la. But, I mean, LA is actually colder. It just ends up being colder than you would think it would be. I know it's not really, really cold, but at least for me, being a stupid Northeast guy thinking, like, I'm almost In Mexico over there forever. Yeah, right. And then you go out like in December, you're wearing a T shirt, People are like, what the is wrong with you? It's like 51 degrees out. Like, hey, this is. This is.

[Kyle]

That's that sea breeze too, though.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, yeah, good point, Kyle, good point. You might have to start doing little dramatic things like that. Now, granted, you know, getting an estimate for a screened in porch during the summer so that you can sleep outside. To try to emphasize, like, you might have to do that because some people in partnerships, like, I kind of dream of the idea of the separate bedroom thing. And for other people, it's like such a non starter, right? You know, just be like, hey, I can't sleep. I'm not sleeping in here. And then it's like, oh, my God, you know, we're not going to get married. You might. Since you're already married, you might have to just start going, hey, I can't do this anymore. I cannot do this anymore. Somebody told me the other day, relationships are compromises, right? And it sounds like she's like asking you to accept this compromise, that all three of us are like, this is awful. Now the other thing I could think of is, could you talk to your H Vac guy? Do you have one?

[Kyle]

You got a quiet way to quiet this down a little bit?

[Ryan Russillo]

No. Could you talk to him and say, yeah, maybe. Is there a no flow version of this, right. Where she doesn't even realize counter to.

[Kyle]

The principle of H Vac? But I don't know.

[Ryan Russillo]

Right.

[Kyle]

But I don't know.

[Ryan Russillo]

She's asleep. You go hit something, you even set it to a timer, right. She doesn't even notice. Like, I feel like she's being absolutely impossible. Yeah. So there's also another H Vac. Is there any? I don't even know if this is real or not. Could you go, hey, can you mess with the settings? Can you make 72? 70, right. And can you bring her into 70 without she even realizing? Because you're like, it says 72. That's good, right? And next thing you know, it's like you're trading for players in NHL and it's like, can I use this analogy before? Can I flip an 87? You know, can I get a Todd Bertuzzi here? And can I package Bertuzzi with something else for Matt Sundin? And then if I want Crosby, like, I'm in the conversation now because I have Sundin. So if you can incrementally mess with the settings enough. And again, I think the Technical people will be on the side of it. But if they can be. If it could be wrong for another reason, why can't it be wrong for the right reason? We're like, if. Is there any way we can have 72 be 70?

[Kyle]

It sounds like the temperature isn't the issue for her. She's not reasonable about turning on the heat on. When, you know, it says it's 56 in the wintertime. It sounds like she's got a real problem with airflow.

[Ryan Russillo]

I don't know.

[Morgan]

The fact that this is. This is not a compromise. If just one person is doing something, it's not a compromise. You're just doing within their personality.

[Kyle]

You have to win some ground here. You have to somehow just leave buckets of ice everywhere like some gas station Styrofoam coolers and be like, you know, I'm just trying to. Just trying to compromise.

[Morgan]

Honey, set up an inflatable pool in the living room.

[Kyle]

Well, that's insane.

[Ryan Russillo]

I don't know if you guys can translate this one for me. Subject is Rosilla was a tank. What's up? 6, 2, 2 5. Age 29. Big guy here. 2K14. State champions lacrosse in 8 mile. Eminem said, f crank Brook while battle rapping Anthony Mackey while I smoked the rass. So, anyways, I've been on the Pod C. Girlfriend got me fired. In the annals of double R history, my question goes to Ryan. 29:30 in January. I feel like I'm at a breaking point of wanting to settle down with the girl I'm with. But is it out of convenience? I rush into relationships. No problem with ladies. But I tell myself every time, this is the one. My rent is 25% of monthly income, and Chauncey Phillips in the red jersey was the greatest guard ever born. I'll hang up and listen. That was sent late at night.

[Kyle]

Yeah, there's lot of red. He probably wouldn't have sent as well as a work email, but I tell.

[Ryan Russillo]

Myself every time, this is the one. My rent is 25% of monthly income. Chauncey Billups.

[Morgan]

Man, we're on fire today, huh?

[Kyle]

I think everybody. I think, okay. All right.

[Ryan Russillo]

I don't need to do. If you have something, feel free. This is a. You get a lot of space?

[Kyle]

No, I don't care.

[Ryan Russillo]

It's fine.

[Morgan]

Feel free to.

[Ryan Russillo]

I like that. You were trying.

[Kyle]

I was trying.

[Ryan Russillo]

Now. Now I'm interested.

[Kyle]

You know, I just.

[Ryan Russillo]

I've.

[Kyle]

I've picked up this skill over standing outside of the Frolic Room for five minutes. At a time on Hollywood Boulevard. And sometimes you just feel like you want to give the guy that's talking to you something. Even though they're talking in kind of that emails format. But that's all right. I don't have to.

[Ryan Russillo]

Twin bed follow up. Yeah, we'll do one. What's up fellas? 36, 6, 3, 2, 15. No way. No way, no gym stats. I build my muscle through being an undersized post for the last 30 years based on my game. Based my game off my two favorite players of all time. Tim Duncan, Charles Barkley. I think you and I get along great on the court. Ryan. Currently staring at the twilight years of my city league team. All right, guy can ball six three. Chuck down low. Duncan little handoffs. I like it. Was watching the Charles Barkley shot against David Robinson the other day one of my happiest basketball moments. I wasn't even playing.

[Kyle]

I feel doing the area. Was it you're watching like a full game or what?

[Ryan Russillo]

What was. No, the clip's making the rounds. Cause it's like oh, okay. Yeah. I mean it's not the anniversary. Cause it's now July. But it might have been the year though. Yeah, yeah. Good times, good times. I felt compelled to follow up after hearing the email with the guy in the twin size bed dilemma. I live in a studio condo of 470 square feet in the Pacific Northwest for roughly 10 years while I saved up the money to buy a house. Early on in my tenure, I opted for a king size bed in my studio condo. Some have called this choice absurd, but I would argue it was a stroke of brilliance. No girl is going to be pumped to see your place for the first time when she realizes it's a studio. But a super comfy king sized bed made it an attractive place to stay. Plenty of room in the bed for them to sprawl out was not so subtle message that I take bedroom activity seriously. This guy's got all the game. This went the other way. I it said twin bed. Follow up. And this guy's showing us pictures of a king size bed in his apartment. It's just the apartment's all bed.

[Morgan]

Yeah, 478 is bigger than you think. My last apartment was like 550. There was some room to maneuver.

[Ryan Russillo]

Dude.

[Morgan]

We'Re over here in your mansions.

[Ryan Russillo]

470 is bigger than you think. I don't think I could live in New York City now. I used to always want to. I just was like, let me give it a shot. I'll see how it Goes. And now it's like I. I could. The window closed. When I was living in Seaport last year in Boston, I was like, yeah, this is never happening. For real. All right. This is sort of bedroom equivalent of dressing for the job you want, not the job you have. I did quite well with the. I said, what are you calling? You just tell us. Like emailing in calling to tell us you hooked up a lot. I guess he did. I did quite well with the ladies in my 20s. Maybe not 14 girls at the same wedding, but I digress. I think the bed was a solid factor. It sounds like you're also 6:3, dude, and pretty good city league team, so could have been that. It was always a topic of conversation that consistently got laughs, but I was self aware of the absurdity. I think our email or needs to lean in the other way and go for the king. Or hell, make it a California king. Attaching photos of the old condo setup I took the night before I moved out. Thanks for all the fun. Yeah, I mean, it's the couch faces the bed.

[Morgan]

It's a studio then.

[Ryan Russillo]

Okay, Right. So imagine it straight shot kitchen. Then behind the kitchen. He actually has a little table to eat at.

[Kyle]

And then I figured he'd just eat on the bed.

[Ryan Russillo]

Right.

[Morgan]

No alcove situation going on.

[Ryan Russillo]

The couch is into this other sector that's like this framed out. I don't know if these are sliders that close this off, but then it's just bed.

[Kyle]

Yeah. Certainly a choice. I think he's onto something. When you're like, this guy's got a king bed. He must take this kind of seriously. I think there's something there. I don't know. I'm not a woman. I don't really know exactly. But I mean, there's. I guess there's an argument to be made. I just don't know what a commitment.

[Morgan]

What percentage of girls are going home with a guy and being like, oh, full size bed, I'm out of here. I just don't think that's happening.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, well, that's by the way, our.

[Kyle]

Guy Like a 500 square footer, though, you know? I don't know, dude.

[Ryan Russillo]

I don't know. It just depends. I mean, it depends on who. Who's visiting, man. Our guy followed up. So I don't know if this is old news, but he was like, hey, I'm going with the full. Thanks for reading the email. He was awesome about it.

[Kyle]

Full's great.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Kyle]

I mean, you, you did that there, Mike, you. He wasn't even thinking about a full.

[Morgan]

Full's a good size bed and he.

[Kyle]

Feels like he won something there, you know?

[Ryan Russillo]

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[Kyle]

Yeah, sounds like we're gonna have to tell you this is over.

[Ryan Russillo]

This has now been over for a while, dude. Yeah. Yeah. I don't I don't think you have a major problem here. I think it has way more to do with the people around you. And if you're all neighbors, they're kind of stuck with you anyway. So, you know, maybe you just take the ribbing, laugh it all off and be like, hey, man, you know, sorry my, my wife is so bountiful. Right. You want me to do. Oh, man.

[Kyle]

Yeah. It sounds like this is like the. This is the late night version, right? You're doing all the other stuff. Sounds like they're, you know, you're showing up for dogs on the grill. You know, you're showing up for football.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah. You're putting the hours.

[Kyle]

You're showing up for football, you know, so, you know, sorry if it's. Sorry if this is the one thing, but yeah, this is a classic. Like, you're not out. You're definitely not out for this. You're not out of the group.

[Morgan]

I would say pick your spot here because, like, pick one.

[Kyle]

Show everyone, right?

[Morgan]

You don't need to be like, staying out till, you know, whatever. Whatever it is. 2am every night, but like once a quarter. Once, you know, once, twice a year. Like, put on your moment. Exactly.

[Kyle]

That was good advice, Mike.

[Morgan]

Thanks, buddy.

[Ryan Russillo]

Okay, good stuff.

[Kyle]

Losing steam here, huh?

[Ryan Russillo]

In line with NBA player at Disney World. Let's bring it back. We got Wargon. It's a Disney World question, right? What better way to do this? Six, two, 200 pounds. Age 44. Lift with dumbbells. Kettlebells in my home office. Heaviest dumbbells, 80 pound set. Good stuff. Three putty for bogey from three and a par three last week. So probably not a great athlete anymore. It's all right. It happens. Just returned from my 10 days. 10 days Worgon. What's your longest stretch of what?

[Morgan]

Oh, at Disney, I'm like 10 days of lifting. Four days. I don't know if I've ever done more than four or five days.

[Kyle]

Dude. I found out this last summer that my wife's family, Disney family, they book three weeks of bungalows. They know the guy. They know the guy and they cycle people in and out and they stay down there for three whole weeks.

[Morgan]

Doesn't it get repetitive?

[Kyle]

We're trying not to them. This was. I said this to him and I'm like, I'm new guy in the family. I was like, this is after a week, two weeks. You're not. He's like, no, we love it. We don't have to go if we don't have to because we could just stay in the bungalow.

[Morgan]

Three week vacation in any one place is kind of insane.

[Kyle]

And he. Well, Poughkeepsie is a different animal, I think. But that's a whole life there, though. But he was trying to convince me to come down and my wife is a huge Disney person. Disney adult. I don't. Just dealing with that. But three weeks, there you go. I just wanted to get that off my chest. I haven't really been able to tell anyone. I'm just trying everything I can to not be roped in and listen, they wouldn't want me to come there for three weeks, but they wouldn't want you there for three.

[Ryan Russillo]

Three weeks. That's true. The version of you that would be. Would be that third week, Kyle, @ Disney World. And I'm not even criticizing you.

[Kyle]

No. How could you?

[Morgan]

When. When does the biggest drop off come? Days one and two, you're probably fine. But when does it. When does it take three.

[Kyle]

Three starts. Three start. I mean. Yeah. Yep. Terrible.

[Morgan]

Epcot though, drinking around there.

[Kyle]

You know, one thing I can spot is when something's a good deal at a bar and when something's a bad deal at a bar. And I feel like Epcot's a bad.

[Ryan Russillo]

Deal at a bar, horrible deal.

[Kyle]

Okay.

[Morgan]

Tons of fun.

[Kyle]

All right, well, you, you're. That's a duality of man right there with your, you know, your airport lounge, free martinis, and then you're going to, you know, pay 20 bucks for a pre mixed cocktail that says it's from Brazil. I don't, I don't know. Dude.

[Ryan Russillo]

I remember when Epcot center was being built. Kids were talking about it.

[Kyle]

When was that?

[Ryan Russillo]

I feel like it's the 80s, but I don't know. I'm going to look it up right now.

[Morgan]

Brazil is also not a country in Epcot.

[Ryan Russillo]

Sorry.

[Morgan]

Apology accepted.

[Ryan Russillo]

Construction began in 1980, opened in 82. Wow. You would just. I don't even know how you would see pictures of it because it's not like we had the Internet, but it just that you're like, what is it, man? It's another planet. Be like you can go everywhere in the world right there.

[Kyle]

Sounds nuts.

[Ryan Russillo]

How long, how many hours do you need to do Epcot, right, Morgan?

[Morgan]

You got to be there from like noon to close if you're doing a drink and like a little, A little snack in every country.

[Ryan Russillo]

Small plates.

[Morgan]

Yeah, small plates. Couple drinks.

[Kyle]

Fuck are you guys talking about?

[Ryan Russillo]

Do you not know what Epcot is?

[Kyle]

No, I know that like in. In Orlando, Florida, you can go everywhere I mean, you know, the fucking Eiffel Tower really isn't in Las Vegas. I don't, I don't really. I don't know what the payoff is.

[Morgan]

It's like you're. There's like 10 countries and you're getting a drink and like a little snack in each one. Maybe, maybe a couple drinks in each one. And you're just doing your best.

[Kyle]

All right, I'm looking at the countries here.

[Ryan Russillo]

I don't.

[Morgan]

Yeah, like, you're gonna go in like a, like a British pub, get like a beer and a shot. You know, Mexico has margaritas.

[Ryan Russillo]

All right.

[Kyle]

I, I listen as a guy who's like, we live really close to Universal Studios Hollywood, and for some reason the magic of that has not worn off on my wife. Like, we went and they were like, you know, for 20 bucks extra, you're a California neighbor. Pass. You can come free on like non weekend days. This is back when we were both off, like Wednesdays or. Yeah, I think it was Wednesdays. And like, she would just bring me back there and we just go for free. And look at the. You know, Universal Studios Hollywood is like, there's not even, like, rides. It's just like they still have this Transformers thing from the second Transformers movie. And you can see the pixels in the screen when you're on this ride. And that magic never wore off for her. So that's how I view a lot of these things. It's just like, I'm so over it. And she's like, oh, should we go back to Harry Potter world? Another butterbeer. What are we doing? So I don't know. I guess I'm just not the type of guy that does this stuff. But we didn't even get to this guy's question. In line with an NBA player.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, I'm still stuck on this Epcot thing. It stood for Experimental prototype. Community of Tomorrow still stands for that.

[Morgan]

Yep.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, technically you're right. Yep. But they did change kind of the. I don't know what they did with the acronym or they all caps it, but they should for an acronym anyway. But yeah, this was like a big deal. I think a lot of. I think a lot of kids, especially because I was super young when you were hearing about this, like, what's going on? Our family was never, ever going to visit Disney World, ever. My parents, if it was a vacation that they didn't want to do, they weren't going on it. So basically every time we went somewhere, it was somewhere that one of them wanted to go. And then we would never go together. So we weren't a Disney family, which is. I'm okay with it now. But you, when you're a kid, you feel pretty left out, right? You're like, this is. This is going to be tough. Like, what did you get to see? And then kids are coming back, basically telling you they traveled the world. You're like, what? Like, well, how big is that thing? Is it like the size of a planet? I've seen a picture of it. It's just, you know, like it kind of looks like the Death Star.

[Kyle]

All right, so you don't go in that ball, right?

[Morgan]

There's a ride inside of it. There's a ride inside of it?

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah. Okay, well, what do you think? It's just a ball.

[Kyle]

I don't know. Yeah, that would be the cheapest version to build something like that, I think. I don't know.

[Ryan Russillo]

I don't know. Okay, let's. We'll get back to the question. I apologize. So just returned to 10 days. Got that. I'm a huge. We live in Wisconsin and I'm a huge Bucks fan. We shared a raft ride to soon be closed the Tom Sawyer island attraction at Magic Kingdom with Brooke Lopez. Have you been on that one, Tom Sawyer?

[Morgan]

No, I know they're getting rid of it for a cars ride though.

[Ryan Russillo]

Is it because Russia is popular with high school kids now? There was maybe 10 people in total on the raft and we were a few feet away from him for the couple minute ride to the island. He was with his wife's small child, so I didn't say anything to him. He spent the whole time snapping photos of the ride since he's also a Disney adult, so. But I didn't want to bug him. Upon telling the story to my brother in law, he said I should have talked to Brook since I'm a huge Bucks fan and live in Wisconsin. Was I right to leave him alone since he was with his family or should I have said hi? I've attached a pick since I'm sure you get a lot of these questions about running into NBA players and obscure Disney attractions. Also hoping Worgon can fill in with any other Disney World details needed. I think we covered that part already. Yeah. So yeah, Brooke is going to stand out. Seven foot one, I think. I think it's great you left him alone. He's holding a small, small child and even though he's a really nice guy and he probably would have been cool with you and you have not only you sharing a raft. He played for Your team. But you have to understand, like, at Disney World, every micro encounter would add up for him. And everybody that decides like, hey, let me just let this guy be a dad with his little kid and enjoy Disney. You did him the biggest favor anybody could have done him. So your brother in law's totally wrong.

[Kyle]

Yeah. I think it's also one thing also wouldn't do this, but you see where people get upset when they're coming out of the ice cream shop with their kid and someone's like, hey, hey, man. Or they're eating. This guy's actively doing something it seems like he enjoyed too. So I feel like that just the way that like, you, the way that you would rip him out of not only like, oh, shit, I got to be this version of me, but you rip him out while he's taking photos of something that he's actually really enjoying, plus time with his kids. I think it definitely would have, you know, put that to the second power or something like that. So, yeah, really good move by you. Everyone says what they would have do would do in that situation. It sounds like you had a little bit of conscience bubble up and you were like, yeah, let me not do this. So you can, you can sleep well.

[Ryan Russillo]

Knowing that, yeah, I think you absolutely nailed it, man. And I, this isn't to say like, hey, everybody should leave everybody alone. I'm just telling you, like, I've even had to learn from my own experience of going up to somebody that I thought I had some sort of connection with or, hey, I've interviewed this guy. I'm talking about me going up to talk to somebody.

[Kyle]

Right?

[Ryan Russillo]

They never care, man. They never care. And I don't even. Like, I have to. There has to be a real reason. Like, hey, remember when we lived together, you, me and Damon? This episode is brought to you by Vuori. Vori isn't just activewear. It's a game changer. Their stuff is next level comfortable. Like, why didn't I get these sooner comfortable. Their Sunday performance joggers, made with four way performance stretch fabric, are insanely soft and actually look good outside the gym too. Go to vuory.comryan R Y E N to get 20% off your four first purchase with Fiori and enjoy free shipping on all US orders over $75 plus free returns. Exclusions apply. Visit the website for full terms and conditions. This episode is brought to you by Frank's Red Hot. Bring everybody to life with the perfect blend of flavor and heat. You can put Frank's Red Hot on everything and Believe me, you will. A world where wings bring out the flavor of game day any day. Where buffalo chicken dip takes a party up a notch. Where any slice of pizza instantly becomes the world's best slice of pizza. Visit franksredhot.com shake to learn more. 62245 Think Luca and Peak off season. Do I need to ask my neighbor every year if they'd like their hedge pruned? Okay. I share a road facing hedge with the house next door. The owner of that house, single woman, two kids, has extremely terrible choices in men. Her current boyfriend is several of several years, is a prickly veteran car salesman. Now he just drinks and smokes all day and tries to start altercations with anyone about anything. Well, sounds like maybe just iron sharpens iron over there. We live in a nice neighborhood in Oregon. Nice plants grow like crazy. We have a shared hedge made of Laurel, probably 25ft tall. These things need pruning. See, look at this, Kyle. You know, I'm going to forward Kyle the picture.

[Kyle]

It's so funny. There's so many pictures attached that I assumed I'd want to see. And the fact that this is the one you're like, look at the size of this hedge.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, I don't do a good job with that.

[Kyle]

But I like the king bedroom taking up the studio apartment. I was interested in that. But yeah, let's take a look at this hedge.

[Ryan Russillo]

All right. Need to go back to the hedge. I lost it here. Sorry. Yeah, okay. No, we're fine. We're fine. So again, 25ft tall. These things need pruning regularly. They get out of control. The next door neighbors are not the type to to do the upkeep. Last year I offered to prune the road facing portion of the hedge as it grows and blocks a narrow road. This is on public land. Last year she was happy for us to prune it. A picture is attached to. I want to prune it again. The problem with these types of plants is that for about a week after you prune them, they're more transparent. They would temporarily expose their front yard where this guy drinks and smokes. Given the prickly nature of the current boyfriend, I am simultaneously I don't want to ask or even talk to him. So my question given I got approval to prune to prune the public land side of the hedge last year, do I need to continue to ask or can I just go ahead and prune away? This place looks like the Amazon forest. This is. This is an actually insane picture. Like I can't even Tell that that's a road. It looks like a small golf. Like a golf cart path in Mexico or something where you're like, am I.

[Kyle]

Still on sanctuary somewhere?

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah. So you have the pick now?

[Kyle]

Yeah, I got it.

[Ryan Russillo]

It's nuts, right?

[Kyle]

Yeah. I mean, the whole thing isn't even in the photo. Cr.

[Ryan Russillo]

If you don't want to talk to a guy, that's fine. It sounds like he's probably going to get upset either way. So if you just trim yours, then they're going to be like, oh, shit. It's unbelievable that you would offer this up, but I understand that, like, there's probably a benefit for you here, too. I would just go ahead. I would just go ahead and do it. This guy's not going to do it. You're absolutely right. There's something about day drinking that just gets in the way of a lot of gardening. Right.

[Kyle]

I wonder. I think I might be different, but.

[Ryan Russillo]

I need to get a house. But you're a man's man. You're a man's man. I could see you out there being like, I need a cold one.

[Kyle]

Yeah. This tractor needs to have two cup holders, one for water and.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, right. I think when I'm thinking about you with it, it's an accessory to the event. On the other edge of things, there could be like, hey, I have to do this today, so I'm not going in the basement. Right, right, right, right. And I know the bulkhead needs some new screws on it. We'll get to that a little bit later. So, yeah, yeah, I would say go ahead and do it. Anything, Warga, Just do it.

[Morgan]

The worst that's going to happen is he's going to come out and say something and you'll be like, oh, well, last year you said it was okay. I figured it was this time. Sorry about that. It won't happen again. There's no downside.

[Kyle]

Yeah. This isn't a you're getting sued scenario, but yeah, this is like, one of the things I think I would look for. God willing, I am ever house hunting for real and not just treating Zillow like it's a dating app or whatever. But I think that's one of the things I would try to avoid is shared things. I just. I don't know, maybe it's probably. I've seen too much Judy. But there's just so many fence and property lines and, you know, you. You did this and then that happened. I think I would just try to avoid that. Obviously, that's not going to help. This email, it's just something I've always. One of those things if I ever. I'm hoping not to have to deal with a shared whatever.

[Ryan Russillo]

Maybe you would though. Maybe you're. You're a community guy. I could see you being like, hey, do you guys need your hedges?

[Kyle]

Yeah, I just. But that's, that's totally based on whoever's next door. Like, I might be that guy, but I don't, you know?

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah. Okay, let's see what time this one was sent. All right. Five, five. Three quarters. 175, bench, 265 short. King. Having trouble getting higher weight. Working out at Planet Fitness, but that's not important.

[Morgan]

Moving right along.

[Kyle]

Yeah, Mike's a Planet Fitness guy.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah. We talked about this though, right? They just. What better way to welcome you than with lower weights? I have a question. Question about changing career paths. 29 years old, I work as a New York State correctional officer. My prison closed down and I could have worked one and a half hours away working 16 hour shifts. No, thanks. Yeah, I mean, prison officer already. Like, you're wired a little different, right, to be able to do that job? So then 16 hour shifts while you're commuting for three. That leaves five hours, buddy, for video games and sleep. Out of college, I went to the police academy, was part time officer for three years. I never had a job I was passionate about, but always felt like I needed something interesting going on or some wild going on. Do you have any idea or any advice about entering a totally different career path? I'm working hospital security starting next week, but the pay is crap, of course. Have you ever had a point entering a totally different world or have any advice about getting started?

[Kyle]

You sound like you're a shoe in for a fireman. It sounds like this would be the.

[Ryan Russillo]

Best choice you ever made. That might be the best advice we've ever given. Quick to the point, and it might be accurate.

[Kyle]

Yeah. I wasn't gonna name CEO before he was a fireman. He did it. He did. Smooth transition, ended as a captain.

[Morgan]

I wasn't gonna name a specific job, but if you wanna shift your career path, just do it. Like if you're young, just do it, you know, like every day you're not doing it, it's just wasted. At this point I feel like, like, don't keep being unhappy in this job. Like pivot, find something you like and sort of move on from there.

[Kyle]

Hell yeah.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah. I mean, the soldier. I'm afraid this guy might be looking at like Soldier of Fortune ads in the back of the magazine. I don't even know if they have that anymore. Probably not. There's probably some online version of that. Yeah, yeah, there's probably some dark web version of like, where do you need me? I'm reporting 72 hours, man. Yeah, I don't. I've already told my story so many times that I'm sick of it. So it was, I think the big thing about any abrupt change to whatever is you're gonna really. It's gonna be a glamorous version. It's always a glamorous version of like, hey, I want to do this. So maybe I could talk about the writing part of it. Right? Because it, it's gone slower. There's a potential chance of something working out. It's also is equal to the chance of it not working out. But there are times that I, I'm putting in the hours to editing and all I was thinking about when I wanted to write a TV show or a movie was the. How great it would be and how much fun it would be to create and how much fun it would be to work with like, smart people who've done shows or films that you thought were awesome and to be in the room and to be challenged creatively and the puzzle solving of writing. And I can tell you now, I've been editing a script every week since the end of March, and I'm kind of like, when's this done? When's this done for like, hey, we're done. And that's the part that you don't think about when you meet somebody, be like, oh my God, you're a screenwriter. Like, oh, what's that like? And then you realize why so many of these people are in therapy, because it is a tough ass job where you could argue that even when you're done, you're never actually done. But at some point you have to realize like, oh, I guess we're done now. So all those hours that I spend by myself being like, maybe this works better here or maybe this works better there. And then you get another round of notes and then the notes are like trying something totally different. And you're like, yeah, but if I move this Jenga piece out of the way, then all of this other stuff falls apart. And this whole reason why I did this is because of something else that's going to happen here. And then that person's either like, well, that doesn't make any sense and you don't need it. And you just write and write and rewrite and rewrite and rewrite so that was an abrupt change where, now that I understand it, where I was ready to never do sports anymore. I'm very thankful that I still get to do sports and that the podcast is somewhat successful and I'm able to do both. But there are some days where I'll have to admit it's like, is there a version of this where you have a much easier life and you just watch some games, whatever. But I creatively want to do something that's more significant to me than what I've done to this point. Just be careful of making it this because we are. We tend to just glamorize any of the other opportunities that could potentially exist with yet never having the firsthand experience of what the job actually is. So, Kyle, Fire department, great hanging, instant friends. Just a bunch of dudes. I might join it in a couple years.

[Kyle]

They eat so well. They usually somebody helps get a nice TV in there, you know, they're not.

[Ryan Russillo]

I ran into the guys, you know, at the Hermosa house, like out at something, and I was just like. Like come by, hang out?

[Kyle]

Yes.

[Ryan Russillo]

Like I might.

[Kyle]

Yes. The answer is yes.

[Ryan Russillo]

All right, last one here. No gym stats. I do cardio workouts four to six days a week to stay in pretty good shape. About a month ago, I essentially ended my marriage with my wife, whom I was with for 13 years. No paperwork has been filed, but I don't see a way that things can be fixed. There were numerous reasons why I had ended the relationship and I finally couldn't take it anymore. Slowly, over time, I became a person I don't want to be. I've been contemplating it for several months. We actually went on a break for about. About four months ago for around three weeks. I was living at a buddy's house. I moved back into our house and things are good for a couple weeks. And then I started getting the same feelings I had when we took the first break. To be honest, I didn't put in enough effort and try to make things better. I've been going through a lot of ups and downs emotionally during this time apart. I have good days and bad days. My wife has moved out and I've been staying with family while I'm alone in our house with our dog. Luckily, we have no kids to add to the stressful time, but my dog does have health issues and makes it tough for me to try to get away and enjoy life as much as I can. During this time, I. I haven't had a vacation about two years since it's hard to get someone I know to trust to take care of our dog. I could really use some time away from reality and try to relax and forget about things as much as possible for a few days. Even though I'm the one who ended things, it's obviously very hard on me as well. Since my wife is taking this extremely hard. She's had to be work off of work for physical and mental health reasons, leaving me as the only one with an income until she can start getting paid for disability. I've been having to dip into our savings to pay the bills, which just adds to another level of stress on me. My birthday's coming up. For numerous reasons, I didn't feel like inviting friends to celebrate with me and having everyone ask, where's your wife? I don't feel like there's any answer I could give to that question that would have people scratching their head as to why my wife is the only one not at my birthday. I also don't want to stay home alone on my birthday. One of my friends who was aware of my current situation offered to take care of the dog for a few days so I'd get away. So I'm going on vacation by myself on my birthday weekend. So my questions are, did I make the right choice by planning a vacation by myself during my current situation and state of mind? Should I bitten the bullet and stayed in town? Invited a bunch of friends out to celebrate with me and support me, but had to have explained to everyone that my wife and I are done? And lastly, what advice do you have for me to enjoy my solo vacation and maximize my fun and stay in the right headspace? I want to hear advice from all of you, but especially Ryan, since you're obviously used to traveling solo. By the way, sorry for any grammatical errors or sentence structure. All right. Don't worry about it.

[Morgan]

Jeez, what a question to end on.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, yeah. I mean, I probably take the lead on this one. Here's my question to you. How are you alone? All right. And how are you alone when you're dealing with something that you know? I don't know if you're full blown depressed, but it sounds like the ups. The reality is the ups and downs of your days going to be some weird lows in there because you're going through all of this stuff, which sucks and I feel bad for you. If you are wired to be alone during this time, then I would say go for it. But I do think there's a lot of people that are going through this again. It's almost Speaking to what we just did is just maximizing the glorification of these other things that you haven't necessarily experienced. Where if you're not alone a lot and if you are a little down, are you going to be walking along the fucking beaches in Puerto Rico by yourself on your birthday and your life has been totally disrupted and all you really want to do is just be back to something that's comfortable, even though if you're present day to day at home isn't super comfortable. Do you even have the answers to know this about yourself? Like, if you've never ever done this before, I would say it's not for everyone. I'm okay with it. Whether I've been in a great place or whether I haven't. I mean, I've had birthdays where the good thing is you kind of forget it's your birthday. Like, I've had a couple where I just. That's the window when I can travel and I'll be like, oh, like today's my birthday. And that could sound really depressing to somebody else that it's like you forgot your own birthday bartender in France.

[Kyle]

Oh no, this guy.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, that's another thing too is like, how much do you drink? Because like, if you're gonna drink a lot and then as you're older and the depressive effects of alcohol and all of this disruption in your life, like, that might not be the best hangover you're ever gonna have. So you might want to just make sure you didn't treat this as like a bender to get away. Unless, you know, some people don't ever have any of that stuff. Like they don't have to deal with, with any of those things if they drink a little bit more than they should, usually it's something that's going to happen to you when you get older. And some people are not listening to this and just agreeing be like, yeah, that, that two to maybe two and a half day funk that just exists for no other fucking reason than the science behind it. So you're always, you're already going into this a little fragile and maybe you are like, hey, I actually do like to be by myself and I'm the one that left her. And even though there's been disruption, I need a break. I need a break from my day to day and all that space then I kind of love the idea. So maybe I started off with negative, negative advice on this one. I just need to know, like, there could be a moment, like, I've had enough trips now where, yeah, I mean, maybe this is sharing a little bit, previewing the travel logs. I've had a couple where I'm like, hey, what are you gonna do? You just walk around this village by yourself again? Take some notes. Yeah. Like you're just gonna keep fucking doing this every summer. Travelpod disguised is a reason you do this, when in fact, maybe that's just bullshit and it gives you some weird excuse to, like, pretend you're doing this, but there's actually a much bigger fucking reason.

[Kyle]

You gotta figure this out before you melt down in a woodworking museum somewhere across the globe.

[Ryan Russillo]

So it isn't a warning. I just. If you really like your friends, man, and they want to do something, and if the downside to this is, like, you have to explain that your wife's out of the picture, like, this has happened to other couples before, right? It happens. Yeah. Like. And if there's nothing crazy that happened where you don't. You know, it doesn't even sound like you did something that you feel extremely guilty about other than just, hey, this is now the new reality. She's upset. I'm not thrilled about it, but this is if. If you could have a local hang with your buddies and you're not by yourself. I don't hate that idea.

[Kyle]

That seemed like the medicine for me there.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, but it's about you. It's about who you are. I don't necessarily need it. This guy might not need it. Kyle, you probably look at it as like, hey, that's. That's the best. But, you know, sometimes I'm also like. I'm looking at this birthday going, are you not going to be around anybody? This is a big one. And I might not.

[Kyle]

This is 50.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah. So.

[Kyle]

Yeah. I mean, I don't know. Also, I'm generally trying not to, but you're allowed to lie to your friends as long as you tell them the truth. Eventually, if you're just like. If you don't want to. If you just want to be like, oh, she. This is a boys thing. You know what I mean? You don't have to be like, well, funny you ask why Helen's not here. We're actually going through it and the dog and whatever. You don't have to do all that.

[Morgan]

Yeah, but I think if you're drinking, it's coming out, you know, it's your birthday.

[Kyle]

You're not even. You know.

[Ryan Russillo]

That's the other question. Yeah.

[Kyle]

I don't know.

[Ryan Russillo]

I mean, there's also, like, certain ones, like, hey, what do you want to do? And Be like, oh, do you want to go over and like, his wife's out of the house, but it's his birthday to be like, you know, you know, the scouring report on your friend, is that going to be a good hang? Maybe you think you're doing them the favor. Be like, hey, by me not having them over and then having to talk about it, I avoid maybe me being the bummer of the night. And then it's not even a birthday celebration. I mean, I don't. Again, you're just somebody who emailed in. I feel for you on this one. Playing out all the angles is the best that I can do. And that's what I was trying to do with that.

[Kyle]

Sounds like he's going on the trip. I just, I don't know. Yeah, you didn't have to like invite every. All the families from the neighborhood. You know what I mean? It could have, you could have, you could have knocked down the list a little bit and just had like four core guys go to a baseball game or something. I mean, the older you get, the smaller your gesture of birthday celebrations need to be. But listen, you're going on the trip. Ryan, you gave him the advice on the trip. I just, I think you, you, you should have given your friends a little bit more credit or, or given yourself more credit without, you know, could one guy ruining your own birthday. Oh, there you go.

[Morgan]

I think whether you go on the trip or not, you got to pick your one closest friend and let them in because this is going to be a hard time for you and you don't want to do this alone. And so even if you're going to leave, like, you want that friend to sort of touch base with, you know, you might get sad on the trip. You want someone you can talk to that's not, you know, your wife. Maybe you don't want to talk to family right now. I would say just find your friend because they're going to, you know, support you through anything.

[Ryan Russillo]

Yeah, I think that's really good too orgone. So maybe we made this too big of an answer. But again, that was, that was kind of the point. All right, thanks to Kyle. Thanks to Oregon. Thanks to Jonathan Frius, a life advice only edition of the Ryan Rossillo podcast on Ringer Spotify.

[Morgan]

They were gonna name me Michael Jordan. My dad was like, I don't think he can live up to it. So they named me Michael Jared.

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