Anthony Slater (21:42)

Yeah, Minnesota's lay down, which you just mentioned, I think when McDaniels remember he misses like two straight left corner threes. And the second one, I felt like he was already hanging his head before it had even hit the rim. And I think it made him one of 10 shooting early. And it was like, okay, so this is how it's going to go. You know, I remember there's the Nikhil Alexander Walker, like it looked like he had a layup, but he's spooked by Hartenstein. Maybe he tries the floater just to interrupt you.

Ryan Marcillo (22:07)

I can't believe that. Like I have both of these in my open. Of all the bad plays that I ran through with Minnesota. Like, again, the audience has already heard this from the beginning of the podcast, but the fact that you're pointing out two of the ones I decided to even use.

Anthony Slater (22:20)

Yeah, it's.

Ryan Marcillo (22:21)

It just. Okay, it speaks to like when na short arms. That one you're like, oh, these guys are just defeated.

Anthony Slater (22:28)

And then look, you got the NAS read off the knee. You know, just some of that stuff that that part of it is probably like, look, it was a Thunder coronation. But again, I think probably as you're mentioning, they didn't prove to us much. Like, hey, Thunder blew a team out. What it was this like the 61st double digit win. I think it was an NBA record that they've. They've. They've won 61 games by 10 or more points. So that wasn't the surprise. I just, I kind of thought it was going to be competitive. They pull away late type of game and it was not that.

Ryan Marcillo (22:58)

So 68 wins for this team and now this run through the west and maybe it's the Denver series. I know Golden State ran into some of this in 2015 and I say it all the time. We have a really hard time with new but it feels like last night was the first moment the rest of the NBA world kind of woke up and went oh I guess this team's awesome. I. I guess I, I know, I know what the rules are. I know that they have to have a title. They have to have somebody that's perhaps has a title from somewhere else. Like we need those things to really sign off on. But this team felt like not to say we could guarantee they were going to win a championship this year but it felt like they deserved more of a sign off I think throughout the regular season months than they got in that. That we're obviously getting now.

Anthony Slater (23:48)

Yeah, I went out there in late March and did a. I think it was like a Sunday Tuesday where it was Pacers which is interesting considering the potential finals matchup in Bulls with the Josh Giddy return was actually the story of that. That game.

Ryan Marcillo (24:02)

Trippy video.

Anthony Slater (24:03)

Yeah. Like claps. It was like super. It was one of. Because I had been to the de' Aaron Fox return, I had been to the Jimmy Butler return and I then the Giddy one all in like a three week period and it was like there was some venom in the first two. There was absolutely none in the. In the last one because giddy was like I kind of got what I wanted. Right. And potentially might get the contract in the Thunder. Like don't worry, we got what we wanted to. But anyway that's irrelevant to the point of those two games. I remember the first one was against the Pacers and Chet was out with a hip issue. Jalen Williams the big was out with a hip issue and Hartenstein left in the first half with a hip issue was very weird. All three big guys were out and so they just went super small. A lot of Kenridge Williams and they against a Pacers team. Right. That can be up and down and they just blew them out by you know, at one point. I think they're up 30 in the second half and that's the game Rick Carlisle, who's he doesn't he praise, you know, very in rosy ways post game came out and said that's the best team on the planet. It was kind of like the highlight quote of that night. I remember. And then they won't go and play the Bulls team. Two days later, all their big men are back and they're trying to test out the double big because they played it so little and they went ultra big, protected the rim, blew the Bulls out by like 35. And it was at a point, I think they had won like 13, 14 in a row. At that point it looked like, hey, like 70 wins is potentially within reach. And that was I guess my moment, seeing the way that like two nights apart, how differently they played and how didn't matter. They just blew these teams out.

Ryan Marcillo (25:39)

That's one thing that I, I've liked about this team all year long. And you know, I was listening to Windhorst talk about this and you know, it's, it's been said, it's right. You sit there and worry about depth of the regular season and then you get to the playoffs, it's like you're really only playing seven and maybe there's an eighth guy that you like, maybe if you're a deeper team and it's an eight man rotation. But if you're trying to do more than that, it's probably getting in the way. And so depth at times in the playoffs, maybe it becomes underrated. Maybe people just become a little too dismissive of it. And the funny part of this conversation too, not to be, you know, too dismissive of the Knicks down three one is that's a big asset for the Pacers. But when you see OKC play a certain way against Denver and then all of a sudden it's like, you know what? We're going to throw Ken Rich Williams out there now, who is a rotational player in the NBA. I mean, he used to get big minutes before this team got better and you never felt like, hey, this guy's terrible. Like what's he doing out there? You're like, yeah, he's all right. And you give them this entire different look. And then when Minnesota takes Rudy out, they take Rudy out in the non sga minutes, start the second quarter, because they're thinking, all right, maybe we can get away with resting Rudy here. Because even if you don't like Rudy, it's clearly more of a detriment to SGA's plan offensively. Just at least have him in the paint for obvious reasons because of his Defense. And so OKC is like, all right, fine, like you're going to go small now we're going to go small. So this may be the rare case where usually if you have a team that's this good, it's like here are the seven guys and we do the same thing all the time. I feel like they can play three or four different ways and it's all really scary. And I wonder if playoff history made people overlook that because usually it doesn't matter.

Anthony Slater (27:25)

Yeah, usually you'd get to the end of the regular season, you'd look at like five man lineup data and a team that won 68 games, as you mentioned, like ridiculously healthy and they have like this five man unit that's played 200 more minutes and just crushed teams. And that's just not what it is. You know, you mentioned Aaron Wiggins, like is deep, deep rotation. He had like 40 point games this season. The bigger Jalen Williams, the other Jalen Williams on the team, I thought he was good in the Denver series, you know, and he's just completely out of it now. And it's just to me like they had adversity this year, right? Chad Holmgren I think played 32 games only Hartenstein missed 20 something. I think they were hardened in those experiences. They played a chunk of games without the center. I was at the game, Chad Holmgren breaks his hip. I think they were nine and one or ten and one at the time. And hardens that had the thumb issue and there was like real concern like, hey, Thunder about to go on like a slide here. They don't have a center. Like that was like the, the talking point of that that week. And then they just rattled off like three, four straight wins. Caruso was playing some center, Jalen Will smaller, the wing version was playing center. And they proved a lot within that. But also I think, you know, and they talk about this, they, you know, how many pitches that Mark Dagnall can throw basically is the way they like to term it. And he, yeah, he's like basically, you know, like a seven pitch pitcher. You know, he's got the knuckleball, the four ball, the you know, 95 mile an hour fastball, all of it. And that is in the playoffs. It isn't, oh, we want your 11th man's better than their 11th man. It's just like, tell us how you want to play and we will beat you at that style.

Ryan Marcillo (28:55)

Yeah, right. Like how many teams would be this good, almost win 70 games, have a starting lineup? What Game 4 was it against Minnesota, and then they. They switched it where they went with Chet and Caruso. I think to start the second half, they're like, you know what? We just. I don't know. I could be getting one of the games wrong, but it was a double. Big starting lineup. And then it was like, now we're actually going to just split. Split them up, and then we're going to come out with Caruso because we like what we think we're going to see in the next 12 minutes. And it's just. It's. It's stupid that a team that has the MVP that's this good can still tinker. And you. You never feel like, oh, why are they playing these five guys together? It always feels like it's. It's the right approach based on who they're going up against.

Anthony Slater (29:35)

And that's another good example. Caruso, where. I remember being there mid season and he was out again. He had, like, several ailments this year. He missed a lot of games, but it was a lot of management type stuff. And I remember in mid season, kind of have a conversation with people like, like, is this a concern? You know, you did. It was kind of one of the big acquisitions of the summer. It was more like, no, this is good. They're preserving the body. This is very good for him. He'll be there when he's a playoff player. He. He feels very comfortable on this team because, unlike Chicago, he doesn't feel he needs to play 30 minutes a night every night and try to, like, you know, help them, you know, basically improve their seed as much as possible in the. In the playing bracket. And that has proven itself out. Right. He's been unleashed in the playoffs on a nightly basis, and I think part of that is because he was able to sit one out of every three games this year, basically.

Ryan Marcillo (30:21)

Now your time with the warriors coincided with Durant going from OKC to Golden State.

Anthony Slater (30:26)

Yeah.

Ryan Marcillo (30:27)

So Golden State already had one. They had the great 2016 regular season. They lose in game seven of the finals. We all know the deal there. Is there any correlation? Was there any moment in your time when you had access to the Thunder where you were just like, this reminds me of the Warriors. And it's not just so much a style of play, but was there something where, like, it wasn't hard to figure out how special the 16, 17 warriors were going to be, but those times where you're around these people that much, you're like, this kind of reminds me of this. Or this is something that's Similar or there's just maybe a mental approach to the way they carry themselves.

Anthony Slater (31:03)

Yeah, the seriousness of like specific roles, you know, and the warriors, it was probably a little bit more veteran driven on the bench. Right. The Barbosas, the Livingstons, the Iguodalas, all that. It was like time of their career where they were like, okay, it's time to accept that, that I can be the perfect eighth man, the perfect seventh man. Whereas with the Thunder, what's been interesting is it's like, you know, a lot of young guys doing that. Not all young guys, obviously Caruso, Hartenstein, that they're, they're more vet. But like Casey Wallace is a great example. You know, I, I actually sat down recently with Dort, Caruso and Wallace because it's like their, their three man trio and, and Caruso and Dort are two of like the, I don't know, eight players ever to be undrafted and, and get all defense. But Wallace is not the type of guy that's had to grind himself to the league. He was a point guard in college. Right. He's a lottery pick. And to see the rarity of his mindset coming in where, you know, a lot of young guys would like want to stretch their legs and, and, and you know, do some of the point guard stuff and scoring stuff that you know, he's probably capable of and certainly if you put him on a bad team, I think he would be, you know, he would score and assist a lot more. But you know, he is just like laser focused on like what he can do best to help this team specifically win. And you just when you are around the Thunder, like I think if I just put a few quotes on paper, you're like a cliche quote here, cliche quote here, you know, but it is just impressive to see the way and, and, and Sam Preston has done this purposely. The type of, of guys he's brought in, just, just how, you know, zoomed in they are on, on the day to day task and you know, it's like that is the type of stuff that leads to winning. When you can get rotation player 1 through 11 that is like completely accepting of their exact role on any given night.

Ryan Marcillo (32:48)

Let's talk about the Minnesota side of this. Last night's awful. We get that. You know, it's probably better to remove ourselves a couple days from him being like, okay, they made it back to the Western Conference finals. You have to feel good about the season. Obviously you're not going to feel great about the series specifically last night, but to get back There and then to have the changes. But all the looming stuff of the off season that I touched on in the beginning with Randall, obviously with Naz Reed, Alexander Walker, who was a bargain for this team at like, I think $4 million this past year, some things do need to change. I don't know how much you could change with the Rudy part of it. The Conley minutes were tough and they pulled the plug on that numerous times throughout the series. But looking at the Randall part of it, I was wondering if he might just opt in because it's still 30 million and then see what's available next year. Because I don't think they want to move on from him. But we know that there are some limitations and why he's been on a million different teams here already. So I wonder, look, that's a really good front office. So I don't think they wake up today being like, hey, however I felt on Monday, now I feel entirely different. But they're going to have to, they're not going to be able for. To bring back all these people. And I, I don't know if there's a larger move for them.

Anthony Slater (34:04)

Yeah, I mean, I wonder if Randall's like the opt in and extend where maybe he threatens, you know, an opt out, threatened to try to leave, just to try to get 30 and then build off 30, because, you know, I don't think he's going to be wanting to walk into, you know, a walk year, essentially. But everything's about extensions now. I remember the conversation. I remember being at game one of these west finals and Randall was coming off that Warrior series where he was probably the best player on the floor. Draymond Green was going on his podcast basically, like accepting the fact that he got, you know, barbecued basically for five games by Randall. And there was a lot of conversation pre game and even at halftime of game one, I can actually remember because I think Randall had 20 in the first half of like, oh, he's opting out, like, you know, best free agent on the market. But you make a fair point. Sometimes we forget, like, when we're. You're in the heat of like the west finals and you've seen Julius Randall look like the best player in the west for, for 10 straight days. You're like, who's where? Where is the money? You know, I'm looking at it right now with obviously, you know, trying to track this Jonathan Kaminga situation. Brook, you know, Brooklyn has cap space, but they have dreams of the big fish. And if they don't, it sounds to me, from what I'm hearing that they're probably more conduit to like three team deals, try to gather assets and work as a vehicle. Detroit's got a little cap space, but, you know, it's very hard these days to just clear 42 in a room and then just add a max free agent. So to me, you probably are talking about it in opt in an extent or, you know, through negotiations. Now you can do like the trade and extend off that. But Randall might be something. We're looking at something where he's just extending off that number, which, by the way, that's. It's probably fair. Fair. Fair. Ish. Value. You know, I'm not sure he is your. Your full super max veteran level, you know, guy, but like in the 30s and 40 million in this current salary cap, I think that's fair.

Ryan Marcillo (35:59)

Yeah, I. I don't know. Why stay on this though? Because you have this piece up on Kamingo where I'm sure he sees his value at a certain number. And then I was looking at like, is he a non taxpayer, mid level player? You know, that number's just over 14 million. Like that seems to be right. Or are there teams out there that are going, hey, look, he didn't fit what Steve wanted to do. You and I have talked about him in the past. He actually has some incredible postseason moments. You know, some of the scoring that he had early in the series against Minnesota. And yet it was funny because I was watching that game, I was like, he's hitting every single shot, but he's also doing stuff where you're like, this is why Steve doesn't play him. But he has to play him in this series. Like, there was one play where I think he switched in to like a worse way to fend. Like he had a matchup. He runs pick and roll, switches into a defender. It's like, why would you pick him? And then he decided to attack. And there was another play against like, Rudy where it was like, oh, hey, I saw Luca do this against Rudy in the Western Conference finals. Like, now I'm gonna cook him. And it was like, no, you're not. And then he just gets so far deep that he's like, then screwed. But he hit every single shot. So it's now like, hey, Kaminga made himself all this money, so the market for him, if it's. If it's. I guess I look at it as like, maybe there's one GM out there that goes, this guy was misused. We love the talent coming out. We're reminded of it at times with his size and athleticism and his age, but I still don't know how that number, like, who, who does three years, 60 million for Jonathan Kaminga.

Anthony Slater (37:30)

Yeah, that. Well, you know, again, because of the limitations of the market out there will be interesting. But also like, he's got a tough situation here where the warriors are not just letting him walk and so they're going to extend the qualifying offer and that means he's going to have to find a sign and trade. But the sign and trade mechanics are very difficult for the warriors. And nobody wants to get too deep into like, you know, the CBA minutiae. But it's called this base year compensation rule where let's say a team wanted to give him 26 million as a starting salary, they're absorbing it as 26, but a signing trade means it only counts as half for the Warriors. So they're bringing 13 million back. So how can they find requisite value at 13 million? And if they, you know, you could, you could technically take 125% of 13 million, but let's say they took 14 million back, well, then you're capable at the first apron, which is, you know, really handcuffs the Warriors. So again, I don't want to get deep into the weeds, but it just seems really hard for the warriors to find a proper sign and trade situation. And it looks like Kaminga is going to have to, you know, leave via sign and trade. Because again, if Brooklyn and I have not heard that they're ready readying an offer sheet, if Brooklyn's not going to offer sheet in which, by the way, the warriors just might match for asset management anyways, it has to be via sign and trade. And that market, from what I'm hearing, it just looks pretty, you know, bleak for the Warriors. So to me, what it looks like is the warriors maybe you know, having to swallow the pill, bring him back at a number that, that is almost interesting because you're right, the smaller number, sure, the better the price. But also part of the reason to maybe bring him back is to then trade him at his full value come summertime. And the bigger the number, the more spending power you have. And like, he is the warriors biggest ticket item to, you know, kind of reform this rotation the way they need to while they try to chase down another title over the next couple of years. And like, in some ways, the more money he makes, you don't want to go too much, but the more money he makes, the better it might be for them. It's weird.

Ryan Marcillo (39:32)

Yeah, it is weird because I was looking at it, it was like, what is it worth it to go through all of this hassle? If you do assign a trade with him to hook up Kamingo with the contract to then first aping yourself? Well, that doesn't make a ton of sense. And then it's like, okay, so who is somebody that's available that makes 14 million that the other team wants to actually trade? So if that happens, it's like, that player probably isn't that good. And then you could have the headline of like, I can't believe Kaminga was traded for this guy. It's like, yeah, that's not really how it works. And I didn't want to go necessarily into like the full Kaminga thing, but it's just better to under, like I led you there. So I'm glad we did it. But my purpose of doing so is then to look at like Minnesota's options and some of this stuff like Nas, I would imagine, even however you feel about Nas, Reid this morning, he's a $14 million a guy. He, I would imagine he's a full, non packed, non taxpayer, mid level player. That's going to be really tough for Minnesota with the Randall decision to be able to afford him and bring everybody back. Because, I mean, part of CAT moving out was how aggressive that contract was going to get. And then obviously part of the CAT conversation was because they did the Rudy deal in the first place and then extended them at a lower number, but it's still so much money. So whenever I think about all these potential moves this summer, I'm like, okay, but where, where are the landing spots? Like, where are the landing spots where Detroit could probably make an argument of let's do it like Orlando and use the space now. But then Orlando resigned so many of their own guys. Detroit may say, let's get this next player in here before we lose the cap space, but then you're thinking like, you have four guys, you're going to want to resign and Cade's number is going to go up now too. So it's, it's a really interesting circle of, well, this guy's a free agent. Okay, but where's he gonna go? But then it's like, yeah, but the rest of the free agents suck. So like somebody, somebody has to go somewhere. And I don't, I don't know what that means for Randall or Kaminga. Let's move it to Ant. I had said in the open, like, look, I get it. Like, I know how It'll be covered like, oh, this Ant guy thought he was supposed to be good. He's three years younger than SGA. SGA has the much better team. I didn't like Ant's second half in Game 4. I think on the broadcast they seem to like his game four more than I did because of him making the right decisions in the first half, which I would agree with them on that part of it. But I kind of just chalk it up to like, you know, he has, he has a lot of the attention and whenever any of these younger players with this much attention without a ring get eliminated, then it turns into this reevaluation of who the player is, which I'm just not going to do.

Anthony Slater (42:13)

Yeah, I think he is learning lessons in these playoffs, which he should like the last couple, you know, in the deeper stages that you go, typically you do. And I thought, you know, one of them this series was the, like the, the off ball defense, you know, like, like the minor ways you could still impact winning even when either you have an offshooting night or a team, this is completely taking you out schematically. There was, there were some small nice moments, I thought, in, in the few games where they used him off the ball a little bit and like, you know, nobody's gonna say, hey, you know, become Steph Curry and learn how to, you know, do you know, all that type of stuff. But I think that, you know, he should look at a little of that film and realize ways that, you know, when a team is just going to straight double or, you know, try to take you off the ball, you can still find points. Other ways slash, like, you know, he could be devastating slasher, you know, in certain situations. It's what for years everyone begged Westbrook, right? It was like, oh, if he could just figure out how to be the off ball type cutter. And it was like, okay, like he just. Because he did it once and you can look at a film of like, man, look at this, you know, downhill guy. It's like, you know, his instincts are not that. And I think that's probably like a problem with Edwards is a lot of his instincts and, you know, off ball defense, off ball offense are not great. But I do think maybe, you know, as a guy who seems to want to get better every year and, you know, improve on certain aspects of his game, maybe is that is the one. But that is also the toughest stuff to work on in the summer, right? You know, you could say, hey, I want to work on my two dribble, pull up I want to work on all my individual stuff. It's tough to be like, you know, let's get 10 guys out here and I'm going to work on, you know, basically cutting at the right time from the dunker spot. So we'll see. But yeah, I agree with you. Like, look, they ran into a buzzsaw that we've, as we talked about, everyone should have kind of knew was a buzz saw. And, you know, he wasn't his best, but it's not. You know, he was. He was second team all NBA. I mean, he looked like a seventh, eighth, ninth best player in the league. And sometimes those type of guys go down in the west finals. That's fine.

Ryan Marcillo (44:21)

Looking at the east now, I do think these teams are close. I thought it'd be a competitive series. And, you know, look, The Pacers are up 3:1, and you know, the way they looked in that first half, a game four, you know, then they get it to like 20. The Knicks make a push. So there's some stuff there with the Knicks where I'll have moments where I'm kind of like, all right, the Pacers just have this other gear, right? And they clearly didn't like the pace of game three, and that's why you could hear Carlisle yelling, game for Pace, pace, pace. They brought it up during the broadcast and they get out and they start flying around and it's. It's really fun. And I think the Pacers, like, that's the part of them, like, if we can get so many more possessions just by pushing the pace constantly and having Halliburton navigate this ship is. Is really impressive. So that might be the gear, like that extra little gear the Pacers have that might end up being the story of the Easter Conference finals, that that's a little different that. That the Knicks just can't match, that we can get it. You know, a bunch of other factors that would all be relevant to the outcome of the series here. But when I think about the NBA Finals, if I just think about the Pacers, part of it first, like SGA in that group, like, they would probably welcome it a little bit more. And they know because we've. We've seen the top and center lineups as they've been searching for somebody behind Turner and then going with Bradley over Bryant here, which, you know, you probably don't feel good about either of those options. So sometimes it's the Ob Siakam front line. But when I think about like OKC going, oh, okay, like, you fine. You want to play Toppen and Siakam at your front line. Like maybe we'll go big and beat up on you or maybe we'll just have Kenridge Williams surrounded by four shooters and we'll run right there with you. Even though you know, that's obviously the Pacers are the best I think team in the league at what we've seen from pushing the tempo here.

Anthony Slater (46:21)

Yeah, I think like game one of any theoretical finals between those two, they're probably going to go like 10, 11 deep each. You know, do the whole like experimentation by the second half. Try to find some answers of what works in the series. I may like regret saying this, but it does feel like the Pacers are almost like the AAA version of the Thunder. Right. Or you know, that maybe that's putting it too harshly like the B, B minus version of the Thunder. And yeah, I, I, maybe again like I went to that Pacers Thunder game. The, the Thunder beat him both times this year and you know, Halliburton was having a tough time create, creating separation. Right. And you, you know the type of waves of just bulldogs that they're going to be able to throw at Halliburton that he just has not faced in the east finals on a consistent or playoffs I should say on a consistent basis. The, the rim protection that sits behind there. I just, I think Indiana is going to have, going to have a little bit more trouble scoring than they're used to and I think that'll snowball. But again, you know, maybe, you know, the Knicks can, can threaten. I shouldn't be, you know, previewing a series that, that isn't for sure yet. But I, coming off the Minnesota series, there was a Minnesota second round series where they won. I think there was a lot of buzz. But you know, I think in retrospect you can look at the Lakers laid down, the warriors were just like without Steph, like you know, we're just inadequate. And Minnesota was not as threatening as I think the world thought they might be. And I, we may be having that same conversation about the pacers in like 10 days, 11 days from now.

Ryan Marcillo (47:55)

Yeah. And just to first of all, when you're saying a team is like a B minus version of a 68 win team put together what they've done, that's not necessarily an insult. Although Pacers fans will take it as an insult. And to be fair to this series in the east too, like, would you actually think if the Knicks could pull off this incredible comeback that they would be a better matchup for the Thunder with the.

Anthony Slater (48:17)

Yeah, Especially because, like, that would be like a seven game, like, you know, emotional war. I can't imagine MSG partying on. And then, you know, you got to walk into Oklahoma City and probably just get, you know, boat race one and two. So no, to answer your question, if.

Ryan Marcillo (48:33)

You want to read Slater's piece on Kaminga, check it out on the Athletic. And yeah, there's a lot of, like, it's just tougher and tougher to talk about all the transactional stuff. I feel like every time I do a segment with Bill, I get a couple texts from Bobby Marks, being like, well, there's a thing with just like, man, we need you on speed dial. Thanks, man. And enjoy the finals. All right.

Anthony Slater (48:52)

All right. Thanks for having me.

Ryan Marcillo (48:56)

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Bye. I drive a Ferrari 355 Cabriolet.

Ryan Marcillo (51:16)

What's up? I have a ridiculous house in the South Fork. I have every toy you can possibly imagine. And best of all, kids, I am liquid.

Kyle (51:26)

So now you know what's possible.

Ryan Marcillo (51:28)

Let me tell you what's required on the road back in LA tonight, but, yeah, finishing up at Bally. Neal. What? Golf.

Kyle (51:36)

Saw that.

Ryan Marcillo (51:37)

Yeah.

Kyle (51:39)

Is it great when you hit a drive and everyone that's with you goes, whoa? That's what keeps me coming back.

Ryan Marcillo (51:45)

Yeah, I. This is the best golf experience I've ever had in my life. I mean, I just started playing again, what last couple years. So I've been invited to some cool spots. But this whole experience, it's. I'm almost Nebraska. I think it's in the absolute middle of nowhere. And a friend is a member and he talked about inviting a bunch of guys up. So it was like four of us that were college roommates. I had a roommate again for a couple nights.

Kyle (52:11)

Oh, were you in like a cabin?

Ryan Marcillo (52:13)

Where were you?

Kyle (52:13)

What kind of. What do they call it? Doesn't look like a cabin.

Ryan Marcillo (52:16)

Looks like a. Maybe a B and B, but unbelievable design by whoever set it up. Where the beds. You don't have to look at your other buddy. So, like, I was off to the side and then he was. He was over there. So we never really had to talk to each other. It was great, great way to catch up. But, yeah, this is an all time, all time golfing experience, so. And I played well yesterday. So for me, you know, considering how I played, made it that much better. I was due for a nice round. So again, I'm not great. Yeah, I'm not great.

Kyle (52:48)

What does that mean? If you're a dude.

Ryan Marcillo (52:50)

Yeah, right. If you're not very good. Like, if I were to tell you my score and I go, well, you think that's good. But yeah, for. For me at this course, I was. I was happy and I think some of the people that lost money to me were not based on our handicap. So anyway, let's. Let's get into some life advice. But yeah, I just wanted to shout out Bally Neil because this is staff whole deal. Our caddies incredible shout out to Sully. Although I did pull. Well, maybe I'll. Maybe I'll leave that for another time. Oh, no, no, there's nothing people hate.

Kyle (53:26)

When you do that. Just so you know. People absolutely hate that.

Ryan Marcillo (53:31)

There you go. It's just a lifetime of teases. Don't know what to tell you. All right, let's see here. A guy wants to fight me over the Knicks. All right, this is long and there's a lot to it, but we'll see. Oregon, you're a Knicks fan, right?

Listener (53:46)

No, not really. I'll root for the Knicks just because the whole city's behind them, but not a huge fan of them.

Ryan Marcillo (53:52)

So you're like a community guy?

Listener (53:54)

Yeah, let's put it that way.

Ryan Marcillo (53:57)

All right, it's cool. And by the way, if they lose, they end up losing the Easter conference finals. It sounds like you're going to rebound pretty quickly, so that's good to know. All right, 5 11, 210 pickup comp is Boris DL without the athleticism. So I have a Fantasy League of 10 guys that have amassed of high school to college buddies. Naturally, a few have fallen off throughout the year, so a few other connections I do not know have been added. One of them has become the quote, villain of the league. He's that guy that's offering you the worst trades of all time and takes as his personal offense when you tell him no. This man, baby, we can call him Matt using real names. I don't care. Oh. Is now threatening to fight me over constant needling from myself. The genesis of my needling started the end of March Madness this year. Instead of having a flat buy in from everyone for the tournament, we thought it'd be funny to have a random amount do wherever you placed. At the end of the madness, I was victorious in the bracket, went to collect from the fellows. Everyone paid up within a week except for Matt. His excuse for not paying was quote, we all never agreed to this idea. So I went back and did some digging. The text conversation and his words were about the idea. This is such a stupid idea, but I'm in. Most everyone else liked the message or did not acknowledge at all. The amount that he owed was a whopping $35. But as a point of principle, I did not want to let this slide. I resorted to your most basic of name calling. That is you're broke. That's why you can't pay. You aren't for funny. No one enjoys your presence in the league. That last one didn't feel super basic. Yeah, no one enjoys your presence in the league. That's. I mean, you're not really friends, but that's, that's kind of like you're never going to be friend. Like that's an ender. Fast forward to these past couple weeks with the Pacers Knicks series. He's been openly celebrating their run this playoff so far and rightfully so. They haven't been there in 25 years. See, even that's a dig. Now when they start to lose, I take it as a chance to bother him as I find it annoying that he still hasn't paid his debts from March. I make a few memes, one attached below and crack jokes about the Knicks. Then he goes on a full on meltdown saying he's going to hit me, quote, really, really hard. Now we all have a annual meetup to do our fantasy football draft in person, so I'll be seeing him in late August. He is much larger than myself, probably at least 4 to 5 inches and God knows how many pounds. This guy emailing in said he's 5, 11, 210. So it sounds like this guy's enormous. My question to the brain trust of dudes is do I need to stop needling him to have a peaceful weekend with my friends? Do I get in tremendous shape so I can actually fight him? Does he deserve to be kicked out for being soft as baby shit? Any and all thoughts would be appreciated. He also wants Rudy to talk more about soccer, so he sent the memes. You know the guy with the two buttons sweating? Remind Matt he owes me $35. Remind Matt the Knicks are down 3:1. Wow. And then he sent some texts. This is from his guy. You can take me out of the group chat. I'm telling you right now, I'm done with you and your shit. I will knock you the fuck out. So either read the room and be normal or do what you want to do and go keyboard warrior.

Kyle (57:15)

This guy's not going to fight you.

Listener (57:17)

This guy fucking hates Matt.

Ryan Marcillo (57:19)

Hates him.

Kyle (57:20)

Hates him.

Ryan Marcillo (57:20)

He's going to hate him even more after this email. And then he was, well, I don't know. Let me kind of peruse through the text here. I mean, nothing's like, egregious. But I always try to. I'm telling you, if you keep coming at me, I will real life hit you. You're doing this because of $35. You poking at me after every Nick's loss is irritating, as I imagine it is pretty irritating. So again, it's your decision of whether or not you want to keep going after me or how you want to go about it. And then the emailer responded, well, maybe if you paid your bets, I wouldn't be as annoying. Exclamation point.

Kyle (58:04)

And then he said his face when that one came through.

Ryan Marcillo (58:06)

Yeah, I guess they both got removed from the group chat because they were ruining it. Yeah. All right, I'm not going to read all these texts, but I think we get the gist of it here. Look, if you went back and you honestly found correspondence where he said he was in on the March Madness bet and he didn't pay it right. Nobody likes that. Nobody likes dealing with that. But now he's not going to pay you because you're annoying him so much. And it sounds like I understand why you're doing it, but you may be crossing a line here and now. It could be. Not that it's going to be a physical altercation, but you have to understand, like, if this guy's that big. And again, I don't know your history, like, have you been in scraps? Have you not been in scraps? The idea that you're going to train for three months before you see this guy in August.

Listener (58:56)

Yeah. His second option was like a rocky training montage.

Ryan Marcillo (58:59)

Yeah.

Anthony Slater (58:59)

Yeah.

Ryan Marcillo (59:00)

Is that, is that really going to do anything? Like, are you going to. Like, what's the training going to be? Push ups or getting punched in the face by other people? So I don't think if he's really the bigger guy and you're admitting that he's offended that he can't. That you can't understand that in the hierarchy of things, even if he owes you the 35 bucks, he's wrong. He owes you the $35. Like, how far do you really want to go with this? And you're right, Kyle. Like, I don't know if it's actually going to lead to a physical altercation. And I think the other part that's important here is if you guys are going in this hot and you don't let up or you don't try to resolve this some way, then it is actually a pretty selfish thing where you're screwing up an annual meetup of all the other people. Worrying about this tension between two guys over $35. And that's something that again, I was at this golf trip right now. I get along with everybody. Imagine if there was somebody that had this 30 year vendetta with and then we're both in the mix and then everybody has anxiety about it. And then I decided, like, let that override that. Everybody doesn't get these many chances in life to. To have all these, you know, you get older and older and you don't have these many as many of these opportunities and you're going to fuck that up for everybody else because of $35. And I'm not saying you're wrong to want your 35 bucks back, but I kind of feel like the emailer, like you might want to just dial it back. I mean, what are you doing?

Kyle (60:24)

The one thing that concerns me a little bit about the possibility of the physical altercation coming up is that how level headed that text was where he mentioned what, like it wasn't misspelled or didn't sound like a drunk guy on a Snick's beer right after the Knicks lost. Like it sounds like a guy who's been thinking about this to. My point is it sounds like you got $35 worth of reactions out of this man already. It sounds like you certainly got your money's worth.

Ryan Marcillo (60:51)

You're finding a new way to just estimate value.

Kyle (60:54)

It's a new global currency. Yeah, stress coin. But I think the one thing that you have on your side is this guy. It's not a bet that he didn't pay.

Ryan Marcillo (61:05)

Right.

Kyle (61:05)

This is his dues for the league where he placed. Right. This isn't a bet he made in March Madness. This was randomly by where you place. Right. Didn't he say that?

Ryan Marcillo (61:13)

Yeah, yeah, it is. But it. He said he went through the text and found him saying, I'm in.

Kyle (61:19)

Yes, but I'm saying the money that he is owed isn't a bet that, you know, he made off to the side with this guy. This is from the league, right?

Ryan Marcillo (61:26)

Yeah, but he won it. It's the March Madness thing. So he won the pool, so he owes him the 35 bucks.

Kyle (61:32)

Yes, yes. So I mean, it sounds like, what is it? There's 10 guys in this league. It sounds like maybe he should be like someone else should be like, hey, man, in order for this league thing to work is like everyone just kind of has to do the thing. So maybe that's. Maybe that's a conversation. You know, if it's a popular league and you could just slot him out.

Ryan Marcillo (61:50)

Cool.

Kyle (61:50)

Sounds like you're part of the core and he's been, you know, an expansion team, but I.

Listener (61:56)

Both these guys are on the outs right now.

Kyle (61:57)

Yeah. I believe the rest of the league.

Listener (61:59)

Is just done with their shit.

Kyle (62:00)

Yeah. Just focus and bring it back to sports, man.

Anthony Slater (62:03)

Yeah.

Ryan Marcillo (62:05)

Yeah. I mean, it's hard for the bigger guy for us to side with him when it's like you've decided you want to pay 35 bucks this guy, clearly, because you already can't stand him. But if you're a huge Knicks fan and they blow game one and this guy's needling you minutes after that game, like, the big guy's not going, well, I do own the $35, so I'll take. He's. He hates you. And it sounds like you kind of get off on this a little bit, but look. Yeah, I don't know. It's weird.

Kyle (62:42)

That is bigger than. Do I hate the guy who won. Otherwise, what the fuck? Sorry for Kirsten, but, like, you know, there's some rules that are above everything, and that's like, you know, you got to follow the rules of the thing we're all here to do. So I don't know, maybe it's someone else should ask him. I don't know if there's a commissioner that can speak to this. Just be like, hey, listen, you know, before we meet up for August, we just got to make sure the ledger is balanced. Whatever. I mean, I think this was a.

Listener (63:07)

Side bet where our guy is basically the commissioner of this March Madness bracket. Right. Is that. Is that what you guys are getting?

Kyle (63:13)

Yeah, it sounds like it's the same group.

Listener (63:15)

He organized the March Madness bracket. The emailer.

Ryan Marcillo (63:17)

Well, I don't even know that it matters. Clearly, this guy won, and they set it up a different way. And he has evidence that said that the guy was in. And, yeah, it's really lame to not pay the $35, but annoying the shit out of him and getting to the point where he's ready to beat you up probably doesn't mean 35 bucks is coming anytime soon either.

Kyle (63:38)

Right?

Listener (63:39)

These guys have to be young. They got to be a bit younger.

Ryan Marcillo (63:43)

Yeah, I'd imagine. I mean, hey, 55, senior vice president.

Kyle (63:53)

Yeah, I'd certainly switch the annoying tactics.

Ryan Marcillo (63:55)

But because we also know who this emailer is. We've all had a guy in your life where. I remember I told you that dinner I was at in Chicago a couple years ago, and it was a bunch of friends, and then it was a Guy I didn't know, and he sat next to me, and somebody had given me a heads up. He's like. He's a huge listener in the whole deal. I was like, all right, whatever. And then it was right before a game, tipped off a playoff game. And he was like, who do you like? And I went, well, you know, I think the Celtics are better than Miami. And, you know, that's kind of the way I look at it. Or they were up 20 or whatever it was. And he was like, cool. And then Miami just came out scorching, you know, just one of those games. And then he was like, I faded you. He's like, I faded you. And I was like, all right. And then he was kind of, like, gloating because Miami just. I had it wrong in Miami was like, going for it, and he was, like, enjoying it and kind of reminded me. And I just went like. And then finally I said something to him, like, at the table when people weren't really paying attention.

Kyle (65:07)

Nice.

Ryan Marcillo (65:07)

Like, hey, man, I. I was like, I deal with this, like, literally every hour if I want to. If I want to see it. It's there for me all day long. And I come out to a dinner, I meet you, and you're gonna fucking just. You're just gonna. With me out of the gates. I've known you 10 minutes.

Kyle (65:22)

How'd that go?

Ryan Marcillo (65:23)

We got over it, though. We worked. We worked it out.

Kyle (65:25)

Yeah, it sucks when it's your buddy's friend and, like, you don't really know him. And, you know, certain people, they just start off minus 10 points and they gotta make that up. So I think, like, when you're with your buddies and there's a new guy that some of them know, and then he just comes out on the wrong foot, you're just like, God, I don't know, how are we gonna make it back? How can we do this? You're down 20 points, man. I'm trying, but you're not helping me. So.

Ryan Marcillo (65:47)

Yeah, it was. It was like, early, like, laughter and kind of like, looking at me and smiling, you know, like, haha.

Anthony Slater (65:54)

Yeah.

Listener (65:54)

Kind of play along with the joke for a bit.

Ryan Marcillo (65:57)

Yeah.

Anthony Slater (65:58)

And.

Ryan Marcillo (65:59)

And on the inside, like, I've never rooted harder for Boston.

Kyle (66:02)

Right.

Ryan Marcillo (66:02)

Because I was like, get back in this game. Okay, let's see, what else do we have? I don't know that we helped a ton on that one. I do know, like, I had secondhand anger for the guy that owed $35 reading some of that stuff.

Kyle (66:24)

Yeah.

Ryan Marcillo (66:25)

But if you're five bucks.

Kyle (66:27)

But that was by design.

Ryan Marcillo (66:30)

Okay, we've got a training one here for Wargon.

Anthony Slater (66:32)

Oh boy.

Ryan Marcillo (66:34)

Yeah, because maybe there's another one that we read here real quick. Longtime listener dating back to who's the Jerk? All right, loved who's the Jerk? Big fan of the work, live in Salt Lake City where fitness is currency. All right, a lot of currency talk today, Kyle. I like the stress coin call. That was funny. And Salt Lake wealth isn't measured in dollar signs. It's measured in powder days, vertical feet climbed by footer bike and VO2 max. Man, that does sound pretty good. I've been a daily runner since an injury pulled me away from the weight room in college 10 years ago. I'm not a naturally gifted runner, but hard work and persistence year over year has resulted in several running specific achievements that I'm very proud of. Now to the point of this email. As a non lifter, after years of listening, I still have no idea what gym stats are worthy of my admission or, excuse me, of my admiration. That makes way more sense. In my humble opinion, you boys aren't as dialed in as you could be on what race times or mile splits warrant the big time kudos. Not a criticism, just my two cents. I think we all agree that getting after it at any level should be celebrated. But if you were to create a set of Ryan Rossillo presidential fitness standards to award excellence in the gym or on the track pavement, what would they be and why? Wow. I feel like Wargon's kind of our mild guy now though. He's our split time guy, so I feel like that part of the pot has improved. Or perhaps. Morgan, I'm not letting you get in there enough. So from now on, open invitation, anytime any kind of running thing comes in, interrupt me immediately.

Kyle (68:11)

Theater and running, that's.

Listener (68:12)

That's your theater and running. I'm the theater running guy. Yeah, I don't have much on this one. You know, like a sub 35k is good for like a regular person, I think. Sub two hour half marathon, sub four hour marathon. And like if you're like a real athlete, you'll do it faster.

Kyle (68:28)

That was incredibly efficient.

Ryan Marcillo (68:30)

What about a mile?

Listener (68:32)

A singular mile? Yeah, I don't, I don't know, sub eight maybe.

Ryan Marcillo (68:37)

That's bad.

Listener (68:38)

That's bad.

Ryan Marcillo (68:40)

Yeah. One mile. I don't think anybody's going, hey, dude, broken a mile.

Kyle (68:45)

Yeah, dudes are bragging about 5 minute miles these days, aren't they?

Ryan Marcillo (68:49)

I mean, I think if you're talking.

Kyle (68:50)

About five and a half I don't know.

Ryan Marcillo (68:51)

I think if you're under six for just a regular guy, that's pretty good for just talking about. Yeah. Now if you're like really good. I mean, I don't know what high school guys are doing, but, you know, you're trying to break five minutes. That was a pretty big deal years ago. I'm sure plenty of high school kids smash through it. I'm sure of it. But yeah, I think the regular guy, if you're running up under 6, 1 mile, that's probably pretty good, depending on how old you are. And I'm not talking about, like a guy who's like, I'm a miler. I'm all about the mile. You're clearly doing much better than that. So marathon. What was the number there? So if you're like, hey, I'm training.

Listener (69:32)

And yeah, I think if you're like a regular person, you're like, I'm going to train for this marathon. I think under four hours is pretty good.

Ryan Marcillo (69:39)

Okay. I think eight pull ups for a man, eight pull ups would be really good. And I'm not going to be a meathead about the bench press thing because, you know, you could sit there and say, oh, you should have to do 225. No, I mean, it looks a lot cooler. If you're at the gym, you can put four plates on and rep it, but, you know, if you're in there doing your body weight, you know, I think that's. That's pretty. It's pretty good. I think that's what everybody should. I don't know that everybody walking the planet should be like, I gotta bench my body weight. I gotta bench my body weight. But, yeah, I don't know anything else. Kyle, push ups. 20 push ups.

Kyle (70:19)

Yeah, 20 sounds good. If we're talking 8 minute miles, 20 push ups, it'd be fine.

Ryan Marcillo (70:25)

4, 5, 40s.

Kyle (70:26)

4, 5.

Listener (70:28)

We need to put together, like a presidential fitness test starts.

Ryan Marcillo (70:30)

You want to do this?

Kyle (70:32)

That would be great. This summer, Ryan.

Ryan Marcillo (70:33)

I think you should. No one's going to mail them.

Listener (70:37)

Digital certificates.

Ryan Marcillo (70:40)

There you go. You have been awarded. Okay. All right. 24, 5, 11 and 3 quarters, 195. I can get a good 10 to 12 reps with 225 on the bench. Wow. And I just got a weighted vest, so I got that going for me. Longtime listener. I graduated college about a year ago, had the same girlfriend, let's call her Amelia, for 14 months. We started dating around April of our senior year, and she happens to live where my Current job is it's worked out well for us to be able to see each other on a somewhat regular basis. Things have been great and I really can't think of any major complaints or arguments we've had we haven't been able to overcome yet. But this past Memorial Day weekend, she said something that sort of shook me. We were going to breakfast. Amelia was talking about one of her friends that's going to law school and how she would write my prenup for me. Oh, right, the turntables. Now let's get this nugget out of the way. Amelia is very financially savvy and doesn't have any debt and has saved some money and invested much more than your average 23 year old woman. I wouldn't say she's sitting on a gold mine and I know she isn't sitting on some seven figure trust fund or anything really along those lines. When she brought up the prenup, I said, that's interesting. Haven't really thought about it. I always subscribe to the theory of marriage, that what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine. And she said jokingly, well, I like what yours is mine, but part of what's mine is mine.

Kyle (71:59)

You know, she's just saying what we're all thinking.

Ryan Marcillo (72:07)

I sort of took that with a grain of salt, knowing our humor, and I didn't really think much of it, but after breakfast, it is literally all I could think about all day long. I really don't think I'd want to sign a prenup because in my mind that is hedging your bets on the marriage and you're basically saying, well, who knows what's going to happen?

Kyle (72:24)

I don't know, man.

Ryan Marcillo (72:25)

I can't say I'm 100 anti prenups because every situation is different. But in my mind, for us, I just don't seem to see eye to eye with Amelia. Am I overreacting or should I just eventually sign a pre dump if I do in fact marry this person and not think twice? Or is it something big enough to warrant some kind of breakup or at least a compromise? But what even is the compromise to a prenup? Yeah, not getting married, I guess, is one of them. I'm not sure if she would budge on this notion. So I'm really starting to think long term here. I can't say I feel like I can budge on my stance either, but I can't say never. I'm going to talk to her about this tonight. Oh, that was last night. And there's a follow up. So this is like living in real time with this guy's dilemma. So there will be more than likely a follow up. Thanks for reading. Here we go. Follow up. We talked last night. It went about how I expected. Unfortunately, Amelia was very adamant about having one for when she was married. And it did seem like I kept explaining myself over and over again. She said it makes her feel safe, but in my mind, why don't you already feel safe when we were married? I understand that anything can. Well, what are we saying here? I don't think he meant that word, but I'd like to think that when I marry somebody, I won't be getting a divorce. I'm just skipping ahead here. Is it a. Maybe he's just rector. I don't understand what that word is. Is it a weird feeling? Because we've gone through other discussions and seem to either come to a conclusion or at least an understanding. But this conversation went in a direction of me giving a lot of reasons, examples of why I wouldn't love signing one, and her just saying, well, I want this. Amelia said if we sign it, it's just like insurance. But why am I getting insurance on someone I want to spend the rest of my life with? She also said if we sign it, it's just there. We don't have to think about it. But I do feel like it would always be just stuck in the back of my mind. Am I overthinking this? Is this normal or regular for couples to get? Or are my reservations about a prenup valid? Well, look, you said something I think is really important here. If she's 23 and she's already this financially savvy, which you use that term, and you know, she clearly has some fiscal understanding that most people that are 23, they don't even prioritize any of this stuff, right? Or her. Her financial literacy, I guess I should say, is. Is advanced. And I think that's actually a great sign. There's a lot of stuff that I wish I had known or just understood when I was. Whether it was in college or after college. I mean, again, I don't know what my awareness would have done to change my habits, but.

Kyle (75:00)

No, I agree. If we could have. If I could have not done the sewing course in my home economics class and we covered that, you know, if I wasn't making popcorn in a fucking saucepan like woo, I think we could have used that time for maybe some financial stuff. Pay your electric bill stuff I could have learned earlier.

Ryan Marcillo (75:16)

You Know, honestly, that shit should be just mandatory in high school.

Kyle (75:19)

I agree.

Ryan Marcillo (75:20)

Mandatory.

Kyle (75:21)

Just thinking of, like, the home ec, so we could have lost so much of that.

Ryan Marcillo (75:25)

Do you guys believe in the theory that it's by design so that so many people screw up and that they get into debt and the wheels keep on turning? Yeah.

Kyle (75:33)

We're talking credit card companies. I don't know, man. I do not know.

Ryan Marcillo (75:37)

Hey, mister, on YouTube the other night, this would be my Rogan clip or.

Kyle (75:43)

Yeah.

Ryan Marcillo (75:48)

Here'S what I would say. I'm obviously proprina.

Kyle (75:58)

Now at this point.

Ryan Marcillo (75:59)

Right, right. It depends on where you're at different stages in life. Like, if both people don't have anything.

Kyle (76:05)

2002, Ryan maybe wasn't thinking about it so much.

Ryan Marcillo (76:08)

I mean, I would. I. She would have laughed in my face.

Kyle (76:11)

Yeah, right.

Ryan Marcillo (76:12)

Like, I'll sign that right now. Right. Because then there's also the. The argument if you're divorced, it's like, well, we met here and, you know, any. It's over that I was with him during all that time. And, you know, again, I've. I've yet to get divorced. So I don't know how all of those arguments go, but I do have some understanding of it with my own personal experience with my parents. But I'm. I'm, like, fundamental about this. I think if the one person has made all of this money and the other person didn't, I don't know how the person that didn't bring anything to the table financially feels like they have a position where it's like, oh, I get half your stuff now. I don't really know what's on the table here when you're both this young. Right. So, like, you're not really. I don't. I don't think the emailer here is talking about this in, like, financial terms of, like, hey, this person's really rich, and if I were to marry them and then, you know, I'm not down the road. Yeah, yeah, right. It is a principal thing. But what I would say is it's very simple when you're in love, to wonder like, hey, I'm in love, and this is the person I want to marry. And that love completely influences your thoughts about the things that are not emotional. And a prenup is not emotional. A prenup is. We have this just in case. And when you're getting divorced, all of those emotions that you let cloud your feelings about a prenup, they're all gone, man. They hit.

Kyle (77:59)

Power audits.

Ryan Marcillo (78:00)

Yeah. So you can't Apply the same process to. Well, if I feel this way about you and all of these things, why would you ever want to enter any element of doubt into this thing? And it's like, well, that's the whole fucking point, man. That's the whole point. So if she wants to do it, and it sounds like she wants to do it more because of her, again, your term financial savvy, than it is that she's protecting some massive nest egg that most 23 year olds don't have, I mean, if she were worth a couple mil and it was a trust fund, I think she'd have every right to ask you for this. And the fact that she doesn't have that and she still wants it, I would admire it more than I would use it as some looming dark cloud.

Kyle (78:50)

Yeah, I think, you know, there's, there's enough anecdotal evidence out there. I don't really have any stats for you, but, you know, there's enough anecdotal evidence of people who were probably the breadwinners or maybe they weren't just being like exasperated enough to tell you what's going on with their divorce and how shitty it's been. Like, there's just enough evidence out there. I don't, I don't have the 50% stat of, you know, what happens when people lose in a divorce. I just think we all know somebody that's like, had a rough one and I'm just like, I can't imagine. I can't imagine. Like, I have struggles now. I have some bad months now, and I'm like, I can't imagine if, like half of my shit was gone. And I was just trying to figure this out so I could see why it would be something that someone would want, a relationship, if not both people. And I think a prenup could be anything. Right. A lot of times it could mean, you know, what we've had before we enter into this venture together is ours. But if we make money together, that's what we're splitting.

Ryan Marcillo (79:43)

Right? Right.

Kyle (79:44)

So if you're young and you're thinking about the future, I think you just, just if you're not planning on anything going south and you're planning on doing your best, it should be fine. If you guys end up getting divorced. It's just, it's just this is the way she's wired and she's probably really proud of what she's been able to put together, and I think that's totally fine. I think anybody that wants a prenup when they're talking about marriage should be able to say it. I totally get why people would not want to say it even if they want one. So the fact that she even got this out there, good on her. She's a startup. Yeah. I think just, you know, if you're focused on the right things, it shouldn't really matter. It's a. It's a great way of just, like, taking the logic and putting it in this. In this safe space. It's like, listen, if it happens and we're covered if it doesn't happen, I'm not planning on it, probably going to have an expensive wedding. Why would I do that if I was, you know, planning for this to fail? So I think it's probably just a matter of perspective. And I'm actually a little. I'm proud of her that she didn't just buckle, because, you know, I probably would have buckled if we did the whole prenup thing. I can't. I can't say I didn't think about it. I just didn't want to have that conversation when I got married, but. So I think it's cool that she didn't buckle when you guys had a real talk about it. I'm sorry that it's not the way you want it to go, but it's how I feel, buddy.

Listener (80:53)

Right. You're, like, complimenting her financial savvy and at the same time, sort of being irked a little bit by her financial savvy. And then you got to remember, no one is getting married with the thought of divorcing down the line, or at least the majority of people are. And it doesn't sound like this is your situation, so this is just a backup plan that you really don't have to worry about. Like Kyle said, if you give it your all and try to make this.

Kyle (81:12)

Work, well, certainly people who don't want prenups might be thinking about.

Ryan Marcillo (81:15)

Right? Yeah. If I had a ton of money and somebody didn't want to do it, I would be even, like, more worried about it.

Kyle (81:26)

That's something you're writing to Life Advice about, right?

Ryan Marcillo (81:29)

Like, I think there should be common sense divorce proceedings, whether it's the man or the woman that's loaded. But some of the athlete divorces just be like, okay, what were you doing before you met him? Okay.

Kyle (81:45)

Or her.

Ryan Marcillo (81:46)

Yeah. Right. You know, this person could have picked somebody else. Their available pool of marriage was larger than yours. Like, it was easier for him to find you than it would be for you to find somebody that does this. And so here's your check. But like, common sense is going to kick in here and if there's no kids, like, you're not getting half. Not getting half of his rookie extension anyway.

Listener (82:13)

This feels very check coded.

Kyle (82:14)

Let's get out. Let's get out.

Ryan Marcillo (82:17)

And again, if it were the other way around, I would feel, of course, the exact same way. Like, this is a very straightforward thing for me, but it is so many times not straightforward, especially when you don't have that prenup. So I wouldn't be so bummed out about it, man. And to Kyle's point, if you grow together financially, there's probably language in there that would. Would put that in a different box altogether. All right, that'll do for the pod. Thanks to Wargon. Thanks to Kyle. Thanks to Jonathan Frius. Check out the video portion of the pod on our Spotify app. Subscribe to our YouTube page. We should just do a Friday feedback. Friday feedback. RR gmail.com I'll have the three of us do it. We won't. Rudy. Yeah, there you go. As always, thanks for listening. Ryan was still a podcast bringer. Spotify.

Listener (82:56)

They were gonna name me Michael Jordan. My dad was like, I don't think he can live up to it. So they named me Michael. Jared.

Ryan Marcillo (83:19)

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