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The Sage Sorority
Hosted by Shantel Rousseau · EN
💡 Wisdom. Sisterhood. Real Talk.
Welcome to The Sage Sorority—the ultimate podcast for modern women navigating life, career, and relationships with confidence, humour, and a little bit of chaos. Hosted from London, this show is your weekly dose of unfiltered big sister advice, blending deep conversations with fun, relatable insights on self-worth, success, dating, and personal growth.
✨ What You’ll Get in Every Episode:
✔️ Raw, real conversations about life as a woman in your 30s & 40s
✔️ Empowering advice on career, money, relationships & self-care
✔️ Expert guests & inspiring women sharing their unfiltered truths
✔️ A mix of deep wisdom & playful banter—because life’s too short for boring podcasts
If you’re figuring out who you are, what you want, and how to live a life that feels as good as it looks, you’re in the right place. Join us for honest discussions on personal growth, female friendships, modern love, and leveling up in every aspect of life.
📍 New episodes every Thursday
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💌 Connect with us: @thesagesorority
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episode 028 - 5 self-worth lessons, I wish I knew sooner (revisit)
1w ago00:20:30Tap to summarizeBack by very popular demand (!!!) It's July, its 'summer of outside' according to Tinx, so here's five lessons that I genuinely wish someone had handed me earlier — on boundaries, safety, the rooms you're in, knowing when to leave, and what repair actually looks like in the people worth keeping. Quick, honest, and I think more relevant now than when it first came out. If this one hits, send it to someone who needs it.Listen and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts + YouTube.want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/y4JGTR2O youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 017 - when loving him meant losing herself (revisit)
2w ago00:58:01Tap to summarizeA woman on the tube. A TikTok. Words filling the screen about paying for a wedding alone, sleeping on the floor with eczema flaring, going 50/50 with a man who gave her a 30-pound Warren James set as a wedding gift. Then watching him remarry in under two years and give his new wife everything she was told she couldn't have.When my friend called her a red flag, I had a different thought: when a woman is a red flag, her biggest victim is herself. This episode is about that. Self-abandonment in relationships, what it actually looks like, why we don't talk about it with the same urgency we give every other red flag, and what discernment over desperation actually requires of you.Listen + subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and YouTube.--want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →Episode 003 - First Love, Forever Standards (revisit)
3w ago00:31:38Tap to summarizeI'm at Cannes Lions this week for the first time (!!!) so we're revisiting one of the most listened-to episodes in TSS history. If you're new here, this is a great place to start. And if you've been around since the beginning, I think you'll want to hear this one again.This episode is built around what I call the Relationship Blueprint Theory: the idea that your earliest romantic experiences, more than almost anything else, quietly shape what you expect, what you tolerate, and what feels like love well into your adult life. There are also some genuinely useful frameworks in here for figuring out what you've internalized, where your standards actually come from, and how to start rewriting the blueprint on your own terms.If you've ever said "why do I keep ending up here," this one's for you.Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and YouTube. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!--want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseausnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/y4JGTR2Oyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 067 - 8 observations every woman in her 30s needs to hear
4w ago00:20:23Tap to summarize8 observations I've been carrying around in my notes app, and honestly, talking about with anyone who will listen. Things I'm watching in real time... in the world, in the women around me, in myself. Luck. Money. Longing. Comparison. Ambition. Meritocracy. Spirituality. Clarity. All of it on the table today.If even one of these lands for you, DM me the number. I read every single one.Books mentioned: Success and Luck by Robert Frank. Happy Money by Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton. Act Like a Leader, Think Like a Leader by Herminia Ibarra.Episode referenced: episode 060 — emma grede, start with yourself and the disclaimer economywant to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/ 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 066 - what a weekend alone with kids, really taught me about motherhood
Jun 1200:42:52Tap to summarizeI had my niece (5) and nephew (almost 3) for a full weekend. School runs, cooking, activities, baths, the lot. And by Sunday evening, I had more clarity about myself than I'd had in a while.This episode isn't a hot take on motherhood. It's not a debate about whether you should or shouldn't want children. It's an honest account of what happens when you pay close attention to how you feel — not what you think you should feel — in the middle of an experience that's very far from your normal life.We get into the relentlessness of early parenting that's genuinely hard to understand from the outside. The part nobody warns you about around autonomy and what losing it, even briefly, actually does to you. The social script around this conversation and why it keeps so many women from being honest. And what two US studies — from the University of New Hampshire and Michigan State — actually say about childless women and the threat of regret.There's no clean answer at the end of this one. That's kind of the point.UNH study (the 5.7 million figure): https://www.unh.edu/unhtoday/news/release/2025/09/15/study-shows-number-childless-women-us-continues-riseMSU study (the regret finding): https://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2023/04/childfree-study-confirmed-april2023--want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 065 - ask a sage vol. 4: networking, career emptiness and a dating spiral
Jun 400:37:32Tap to summarizeAsk a Sage is back. Three questions, three honest answers.We cover why networking feels gross and how to fix it, what to do when you've achieved everything you wanted and still feel empty (and yes, I mention Stefanie Sword-Williams' Career Comedown — read it), and the "fine but I feel nothing" dating pattern that more of you are experiencing than you'd think.I also open up about where I'm at with the pod right now — the slow build, the burnout, the inputs not matching the outputs. If you're building something and it's taking longer than you planned for, this one's for you too.Anonymous question link in the show notes. Send yours through.--want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wOTHE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCmyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 064 - relationships aren't graded solely by outcome
May 2100:19:40Tap to summarizeThere's a question that comes up every time someone mentions an ex at dinner: "Where is he now?" And what that question is really doing is asking you to justify whether the relationship was worth having based on how it ended. If there's no ring, no forever, no clean resolution then the whole thing gets filed under wasted time.This episode is a direct challenge to that framing. Shantel breaks down why measuring a relationship by its outcome is not just unhelpful, it actively strips you of your own power. A relationship that ended is not evidence of failure. Presence, growth, vulnerability, and the version of yourself you became inside that chapter (!!!) none of that disappears because someone left.This one covers the narrative most women inherit without questioning, what it actually means to take sovereignty over your own relationship history, the difference between accountability and self-blame, and why grieving a relationship is not the same as admitting you wasted time.If you've ever described a past relationship as a waste, or felt embarrassed about how long you stayed, or quietly wondered whether your past counts, this episode is for you.--want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3ue want to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.com have a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘 SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesorority INSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSorority subscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO THE SAGE SORORITY PODCAST - https://feeds.captivate.fm/thesagesorority/ 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantel instagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/ tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCm youtube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonline OUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 063 - misbehave with integrity
May 1400:24:50Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel explores what it means for women to “misbehave with integrity,” inspired by Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ The Late Bloomer.This episode is about good girl conditioning, people-pleasing, self-trust, over-functioning, emotional labour, and the quiet resentment that builds when women keep choosing propriety over honesty.Shantel unpacks the difference between being proper and being ethical, why women often delay decisions they’ve already made, and why acting without cruelty, manipulation, or deliberate harm may be the permission you’ve been waiting for.Topics include: Good girl conditioning, People-pleasing and resentmentSelf-trust and decision-making, Emotional labour in relationshipsOver-functioning in friendships, family, work, and datingWhy “I should” keeps women stuck, Becoming less likeable but more honestReferenced in this episode:The Late Bloomer by Clarissa Pinkola EstésWomen Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola EstésEpisode 012: Big Energy, No ApologyEpisode 027: The Rules Are Made UpEpisode 038: The Rebrand EraIf this episode resonated, share it with a friend and subscribe to The Sage Sorority on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube.--want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO
Transcribe →episode 062 - how to choose your core values and actually live by them
May 700:36:57Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Sage Sorority, Shantel breaks down how to choose your core values and actually live by them, drawing on the values clarification work used in therapy and coaching. You'll learn the difference between values, goals, preferences, and aesthetics, why your real values are revealed by your trade-offs, and how to use a six-to-eight value framework as a practical filter for decisions in friendship, dating, work, money, and creativity. If you've ever felt the gap between who you say you are and what your choices keep revealing, this is the episode that helps you name what matters and build from there.LIST OF VALUES 1 - https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/LIST OF VALUES 2 (also some great exercises in this one!) - https://taproot.com/live-your-core-values-exercise-to-increase-your-success/want to book a girl chat session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCmyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
Transcribe →episode 061 - belle burden, emma grede and the one thing nobody is talking about
Apr 3000:17:00Tap to summarizeThree episodes. Three completely different topics. And the whole time I kept thinking: why does this all feel like the same conversation?Belle Burden knew before she signed that prenup. Most of us know long before we end a friendship. And Emma Grede? She's getting dragged online for simply trusting herself out loud. Today I'm naming the one thing that connects all three, and why it matters more than any of us want to admit.We're talking about what happens in the gap between knowing something and actually trusting it. Why that gap is costing women more than they realise. And why a woman who has closed that gap completely, like Emma, makes so many people deeply uncomfortable.If you've been listening all month, this is where it all lands. If you're new here, welcome. You found a good one.--want to book a coaching session? all the info is here - https://squ.re/45jq3uewant to partner w/The Sage Sorority Podcast? let’s chat - thesagesorority@gmail.comhave a question? send in an (anonymous) one for Q&A - https://tellonym.me/thesagesorority 💘SUBSTACK// https://open.substack.com/pub/thesagesororityINSTAGRAM// https://www.instagram.com/thesagesorority/TIKTOK// https://www.tiktok.com/@thesagesororityYOUTUBE// https://www.youtube.com/@TheSageSororitysubscribe to The Sage Sorority Podcast + leave a (cheeky) 5* rating 💘apple: https://bit.ly/41ZNwO2spotify: https://spoti.fi/4iVPAhnyoutube: http://bit.ly/45ei8wO 💘catch up with, our founder + host, Shantelinstagram// https://www.instagram.com/shantelrousseau/tiktok// https://www.tiktok.com/@shantelrousseauSnapchat// https://snapchat.com/t/fb8LTRCmyoutube// https://www.youtube.com/@shantelrousseauonlineOUTFITS - ShopMy// https://shopmy.us/shantelrousseauOUTFITS - LTK// https://www.shopltk.com/explore/shantelrousseau💘
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