How To Deal With Being Broken Up With | Lewis Howes

Summary

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Podcast Summary: The School of Greatness – How To Deal With Being Broken Up With

Host: Lewis Howes
Date: February 4, 2026

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Episode Overview

In this solo episode, Lewis Howes explores the often-painful experience of breakups and why embracing singlehood can be a transformative season. Drawing on his own journey from relationship struggles to a deeply connected marriage, Lewis breaks down “the five things I wish someone had taught me sooner” about why being single is the essential foundation for lasting, healthy love. With uplifting honesty, practical exercises, and personal anecdotes—including insight from his wife, Martha, and relationship expert Matthew Hussey—Lewis guides listeners through all the highs and lows of moving on and building real self-worth, confidence, and readiness for partnership.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Value of Being Single: Learning Who You Are

[01:25]

• Lewis stresses the societal pressure to find someone quickly and the stigma of singlehood, flipping the narrative:

  “What if being single isn’t a problem you need to fix? What if it’s a season to build the greatest version of yourself?” [02:01]

• He explains that being single gives critical space:
  • To ask hard questions: What do I really want? What am I avoiding?
  • To define your own voice and identity, rather than losing yourself in relationships as a form of distraction.
• Memorable encouragement:

  “You can’t build a healthy ‘we’ until you know who you are.” [02:24]

• Lewis shares his history of jumping into relationships to avoid loneliness, then realizing the need to enjoy his own company and set real standards rather than letting chemistry mask as compatibility.

Exercise:

• Look in the mirror and reflect: “Are you proud of you? Are you happy with the boundaries and standards you’re setting?”

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2. Healing Old Wounds Before You Bleed on Others

[11:45]

• Lewis warns that failing to heal from past hurts leads us to “bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” [11:51]
• He relates his own story of playing football with a broken wrist for months, using it as a metaphor: Unhealed emotional wounds will be triggered by anyone who gets close—until you do the work.
• The “healing journey” for Lewis involved stillness, workshops, therapy, journaling, and courageous self-reflection.

Key Quote:

“If you don’t heal your wounds, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” [11:51]

• Importance of facing yourself:

  “It’s hard to heal if you’re always distracting yourself with the next thing that creates chemical feelings inside your body.” [13:34]

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3. Building True Confidence: Not Based on Being Chosen

[29:58]

• Lewis distinguishes between two types of confidence:
  • Confidence from within—a secure knowledge that you’ll be okay whether a relationship succeeds or fails.
  • Dependent confidence—validation that disappears with rejection.
• Work on validating your own worth, not relying on attention:

  “If your confidence comes from being chosen, oh my friend, it’s going to disappear the moment you’re rejected.” [30:03]

• Lewis shares, “I lost years of my life trying to please other people… It exhausted me physically, emotionally, mentally.” [33:37]
• The antidote: Build the kind of confidence that says, “I’ll be okay if they stay, and I’ll be okay if they leave.”

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4. Raising Standards vs. Raising Walls

[36:02]

• Explains the difference between high and low standards:

  “Low standards come from a fear of being alone. High standards come from a peace with yourself.” [36:06]

• When you're comfortable being single, you stop:

  • Settling for bad behavior
  • Over-explaining red flags
  • Staying too long in misaligned relationships

• Lewis discusses boundaries and transparent standards in dating Martha—the commitment to therapy and aligning on values before physical connection as examples.

Martha’s Perspective:
[41:00]

• Martha (Lewis' wife) joins briefly to share that curiosity (not judgment) helped her avoid trying to change people.
• She stresses that knowing yourself is crucial for identifying a truly compatible partner.
• On dealing with differing values:

  “Accepting the other person is one of the biggest things to create a beautiful relationship. That’s why knowing yourself is so important.” [44:19]

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5. Preparation for Lasting, Healthy Love

[54:52]

• The “single season” is where you lay the foundation for a great relationship:
  • Emotional responsibility
  • Self-awareness
  • Loving without losing yourself
• Lewis and Martha’s relationship works, not because they “complete” each other, but because they “come to the table open to growth, open to self-healing, open to becoming better versions of ourselves every day.” [54:54]

Final Encouragement:

“Being single is not a failure, it’s a foundation.” [56:44]
“The best relationships are created by people who learned how to stand strong on their own first, who learned how to heal their own wounds, who learned how to forgive and not hold on to resentment.” [58:22]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “You can’t build a healthy ‘we’ until you know who you are.” – Lewis Howes [02:24]
• “If you don’t heal your wounds, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” – Lewis Howes [11:51]
• “Our nervous system imprint is created at a very early point in life and we spend the rest of our lives replicating that if we’re not careful.” – Matthew Hussey [22:34]
• “Confidence is knowing you’ll be okay if they stay and you’ll be okay if they leave.” – Lewis Howes [34:15]
• “Low standards come from a fear of being alone. High standards come from a peace with yourself.” – Lewis Howes [36:06]
• “Accepting the other person is one of the biggest things to create a beautiful relationship. That’s why knowing yourself is so important.” – Martha [44:19]
• “Being single is not a failure, it’s a foundation.” – Lewis Howes [56:44]

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [01:25] – Introduction to the value of being single
• [11:45] – Healing your wounds before new relationships
• [16:11] – Lewis on therapy and doing the healing work before commitment
• [22:34] – Matthew Hussey explains patterns, nervous system imprints, and why we repeat relationship mistakes
• [29:58] – Building real confidence versus dependent confidence
• [36:02] – How being single raises standards, not walls
• [41:00] – Martha joins for sharing personal perspective on curiosity, values, and acceptance
• [54:52] – The goal: becoming ready for healthy, lasting love

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Actionable Advice & Exercises

• Mirror exercise: Practice self-affirmation and genuine reflection.
• Journal your non-negotiables: Write down your values, character traits, and vision for future relationships.
• Conduct a “values alignment” meditation/visualization with a partner (or for yourself).

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Closing Thoughts

Lewis invites listeners to shift the paradigm:

• Don’t treat singlehood as a problem; use it as a growth season.
• Heal, clarify your values, build internal confidence, establish standards, and prepare for a love that’s a partnership of equals—not a search for “completion.”
• “I’m building me”—that’s the spirit he champions for everyone navigating the pain of a breakup or the ambiguity of being alone.
• “The love you want later is being built by the work you do on yourself right now.” [57:56]

For further exploration and tools, check out the show notes and leave your reflections with the theme #ImBuildingMe.

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[Listeners are encouraged to share comments and connect on social media, embracing this journey of becoming the greatest version of themselves.]

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Need to have a single season in your life. And here's why. We live in a world that tells us don't be alone or find someone fast. Where being single means something is wrong with you. But what if being single isn't a problem that you need to fix? What if it's a season to build the greatest version of yourself? What if the reason your relationships keep falling apart is because you never gave yourself time? Time to stand on your own. You never gave yourself space. I've been single and I've been in unhealthy relationships. And now I'm in a deep, consciously committed marriage. And today I'm going to share with you the five things that I wish someone had taught me sooner about why being single is the best way to attract a better love life. And reason number one is being single teaches you who you are without distractions. You can't build a healthy we until you know who you are. And most people don't fall in love. They fall into a distraction, right? How many times have you been into a relationship because you were afraid of being single? You didn't want to face your fears. You felt like you were missing out on something and the first moment you felt attraction, you leaned in and you got into a committed relationship. People use relationships to avoid themselves. Their insecurities, their fears, their lack of direction or where they're headed. And when you're always with someone, you never sit still long enough to hear your own voice. When I was single, I was forced to ask hard questions. What do I believe? What is it I truly want? What am I avoiding? And what am I running from? There was no one to blame. There was no one to hide behind. And that clarity changed everything. And when I allowed myself to be single before dating Martha, I really asked myself these questions because I had been in multiple relationships, long term relationships with good women, but just weren't the right women for me. And so there was a lot of conflict, there was a lot of struggle, there was a lot of frustrations, there was a lot of unique this is so hard. Why is it so hard? And all these different challenges that happen. And after many relationships that didn't work out, that didn't bring that peace and fulfillment and growth mindset together, I started asking myself these questions. And when I was single, I started really diving deeper in the healing journey. And the healing journey started to create space and awareness of what I had been doing, the responsibility I got to take for the decisions I made being in those relationships and then giving me clarity and a purpose and a vision for the relationship I wanted to create again. Before Martha, I just had to get real with myself. I had to realize that I had been looking for someone to make me happy. I'd been looking for someone to fill a void of insecurity, of self doubt, of not enoughness. And if I was in a relationship, then it would make me feel happier. And I really had to learn how to enjoy my own company and set different standards for connection and commitment long term, rather than look for chemistry masking as compatibility, because chemistry does not equal compatibility. Maybe it does. But if you're unwilling to talk about the hard things or really get clear on your vision, your values, your lifestyle, the dreams you have, and find someone who's willing to fully accept you for who you are. And you have the courage to look at someone with all their history and all their past and all their family issues and their whole dynamics and, and can you have the courage to accept them? That is a big thing because most people get connected to someone through chemistry and then hope that it automatically equals compatibility. And you hope that they just fit this mold of a vision that you have for your life. But a lot of the times they don't until you ask the hard questions. And then when you realize that the hard questions you don't get the answers you want, you try changing the partner to fit your narrative of dream life in the relationships that you have. And they don't want to change. And then they feel resistance and then you feel resentment that they didn't change for you. And all of a sudden you have chemistry, but it's not compatibility. And now you have problems, problems that are really hard to work through. But now you're a year or two in and you've already created all this connection and you've merged. Your friends and your families have met, you've gone on trips, you've posted on social media talking about how amazing this person is, only to realize after the honeymoon phase, oh, they're not that amazing after all. Because they don't fit the narrative of the vision and the values that I have in my life. Again, I had to learn to enjoy my own company so that that didn't happen again. And once I stopped needing someone to fill the silence for me, to make me feel lovable, I became ready to share the silence with the right person. And I want you to use your single season to get clear on what your values are and define them. Not just I want to have fun with someone and I want to have good sex and I want to be like chemistry and sparks. That's not values. That's a feeling. So I need you to define your values if you want to have a long term, sustainable, fulfilling relationship. If you're just looking to have fun and date people, okay, cool. Don't define your values. Just have fun and know that that will burn out over time and you'll never create something deep and meaningful or with that fleeting chemical feeling. So number one is to define your values, clarify your vision, and get comfortable with your own company. Man, this is a tough one for a lot of people. Let me know if this resonates that it's hard being alone and loving yourself. Can you love the person you are with on a daily basis without anyone around? Can you look in the mirror? Not in a narcissistic or egotistical way. Can you look in the mirror and say, man, I'm really proud of you. I really love the person you're becoming. I love how you overcame these challenges over these last few months. I really admire and respect the person you've been. I respect that you've been honoring your word and your commitments to yourself and to other people. And you just keep showing up for yourself. I love that you're creating boundaries in your relationships and your friendships and in certain things, that you're creating boundaries to make sure you're taking care of you. I love that about you. Are you able to speak to yourself in the mirror and truly admire the person you're becoming, knowing that we all have room to grow and none of us are going to be perfect? But can you look at yourself and say, you're doing it? You're not where I want you to be, but you're doing it. And I love that you overcame this challenge and you overcame this fear and you just. You're not going to be perfect. I get it. But I admire you, I respect you, and I love you. It may sound weird thinking about this and doing this exercise, but I highly recommend you do it and reflect. Physically reflect in the mirror and then spiritually interpret that reflection with yourself and say, are you proud of you? Are you happy with the results you're having in your life? Are you happy with the boundaries you're creating? Are you happy with the standards you're setting and are you meeting those standards? And listen, we all have down seasons and down months and go through grief and loss where we're not going to be our best self. But can you try to be your best self and can you constantly recommit to that, knowing you're going to fall from grace from time to time? Can you do your best to set standards for yourself and then live up to the standards? If you can, then you can enjoy the company with you. It's when you don't set these standards and you cannot look yourself in the face in the mirror and say, I'm proud of you. It doesn't mean you're not where you want to be. That's okay. But you can be proud of the person you've become and what you've overcome. If you can look yourself in the mirror and be proud of what you've overcome from a year, five, 10 years ago, knowing you have room to grow, then that's a good thing. But if you look yourself in the mirror and you're disgusted, it's not time to jump into a relationship right away. It's time to work on you. And as you become honest with yourself, you are likely to notice that you have some unresolved trauma and pain from your relationships or your past. Which brings us to reason number two, that you need to be single. And reason number two is being single heals the wounds you keep bringing into relationships. And if you don't heal your wounds, you will Bleed on people who didn't cut you. I saw this somewhere online and I just thought that was a powerful thing to say. If you don't heal your wounds, you will bleed on people who didn't cut you, who didn't wound you, who didn't hurt you. And they will be the recipient of a past pain that they did not create for you. And a lot of us aren't looking for love. We're looking for relief. We're looking for a sense of, ah. I've got this feeling of good. I've got this feeling of a chemistry of connection. I got this feeling of spark of someone new. It's so exciting, it's so interesting and so different. And are they thinking about me? Are they texting me? Are they calling me? Are we going to go, what's the next adventure? We're going to go on distraction. I'm not saying it's not cool and fun, but it's distracting you from facing yourself, from facing the pain, from facing the trauma, from facing the hurt that someone did to you or what you did to yourself. We're looking for relief. Relief from abandonment, relief from rejection, relief from not feeling enough. And when those wounds go unhealed, we attract people that trigger the crap out of those wounds. We attract people that just imagine having a broken arm and you just snapped your arm and it's just dangling and you never healed it, you never set the arm. I actually know that feeling because that happened to my wrist. And for about nine months it was broken while I was playing football. It's extremely painful. And every time I caught a ball or every time someone hit it, it was like shooting a sharp pain. It's like someone took a knife and just jammed it in my wrist and then sliced open my arm. And the pain rushed from the top of my head down to my feet. It was so painful. Imagine doing that, getting into a relationship and attracting someone with a broken arm. And then someone, every time they go on a date with you, they just grab your arm and they just yank it, right? It's like we attract people who are eventually going to trigger your wound. They're going to poke you in the place that hurts the most. And I used to think that chemistry meant compatibility, but man, was I wrong. And it doesn't mean you can't be compatible with chemistry. But if you connect through chemistry right away, without understanding if you're compatible and values and vision, all these different things, it's going to end up being painful. And what I was really feeling was a familiar pain. When I felt that chemistry in new relationships. Until I started to do the inner work, until I started to face myself spiritually, physically, metaphorically, until I started to do exercises and workshops and therapeutic experiences that allowed me to heal the pain that was inside of me that had been wounded and broken for so long, that never mended. Until I started to do more journaling and reflection and self reflection and alone time with myself without distractions so I could really listen and face myself. Because it's hard to heal if you're always distracting yourself with the next thing that creates chemical feelings inside of your body. You need some space. You need some alone time. You need to be able to create experiences to reflect and think about why, how, who, what and what you can do to start processing them, to start grieving these losses, to start creating healthy boundaries, to start improving yourself, to start creating new standards. You need that space and time. But if you distract yourself with other people or other problems or social media and you never take that alone time, it's going to be painful for a long time. And I was afraid to face myself. So I kept repeating the same mistakes over and over again in new relationships, thinking the new person was going to be different. But I was still at the center of all those new relationships and I just repeated the same patterns but with a different person.

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What doing the inner work really taught me was that I needed to fully heal and start loving myself in new ways, where I would create boundaries and I wouldn't enter into relationship unless there were values that were aligned, unless there was a shared vision, unless there was a shared growth mindset. And what changed from my previous relationships where it was more of like, oh, there's a spark or there's a connection or there's some chemical feelings, let's just jump in because this feels good versus starting to actually do things differently, slow down, allow for space and time, for character behavior to show up and be revealed, rather than creating a chemical bond through chemistry right away and the practice of doing that before getting committed with Martha. Martha and I have been together for, I guess it's almost five years. And so people who are watching, who've been in, we've been married for a year now. We've been together for almost five years. So I'm assuming people watching say, well, wait till 10 years comes in, wait till kids, wait till 20 years happens. And yes, I get it, we are five years in. And so I'm speaking from experience of almost five years together. We now have twin girls that are almost three months old. And you're right, everyone is right that when there is time and then there are kids, there's new challenges that arise. And it's been an amazing experience. But it doesn't mean there hasn't been challenges. But here's the thing. The biggest thing that has happened from my past is I was prepared for the challenges. And there's going to be potentially more challenges as my kids get older and they develop, there's going to be different challenges. But because I have been on a healing journey and because I partnered with Martha and I made a commitment with her and saying, hey, we are entering our relationship in therapy, which is kind of unheard of, but I was just like, I'm Sick and tired of getting into relationships, creating a chemical bond without having a clear vision of our values together and making sure we're in alignment on those values. And so we created a commitment to join therapy together. In the beginning, I was doing my own healing journey and I was doing my practices, and I felt like I was in a really good place. She was doing her own healing journey, and she had her own therapist that she was in a good place with as well. But I said, listen, I don't want to jump into a committed relationship without some type of therapeutic support, just to create clear communication, to make sure we're in alignment on these things, to make sure that we have certain tools to be able to communicate and handle challenges when they happen. Because challenges are going to come in your life. Even if you're with the perfect partner, even if you're dating someone who is incredible and so loving and kind and generous and they give you the world, there's going to be some challenge that happens in the future. And I just want you to be prepared emotionally, physically, spiritually, to have the tools to. To do your best when those challenges arise. I have not been my best in every moment in our relationship. Neither has Martha. And that's okay. We accept and love each other, knowing that we are trying to give our best, even though we may not be our best in moments where we have lost sleep, there's a lot of challenge. There's something going on. Like we have grace with each other and understand, and we also have tools to support one another. And because we have these shared values, because we made the time commitment to create alignment early on through shared therapy and individual therapy, and because we have alignment of where we're heading in the future, it gives us a lot more opportunities to have love and joy and beauty in our relationship. And again, it doesn't mean there aren't challenging moments. But the goal is not to eliminate challenges. It's to prepare yourself to be able to handle them with as much peace, poise, and confidence that you can so you can come together stronger after every challenge. And it is worth. Is worth it because it was taking me making sure that I was responsible for my triggers so that I wouldn't be triggered in the future. I stopped looking for a partner to be a therapist or to, like, fulfill some need for me. And I did the work so that I could show up as a partner, not a patient, and vice versa. I think I attracted a lot of partners where I was trying to help them as much as I could and help them overcome their Fears and coach them up and all these different things, because I saw great things inside of them. But a lot of them were unwilling to go that route. They had limitations that were holding them back. And again, it's almost like getting to a place where you don't need a relationship. There were many times where I just thought to myself, man, Martha is this incredible person and the only way that I want to be in a relationship, if this is a big win, win for both of us, if we have such great alignment that she is fulfilled and I am fulfilled to be ourselves fully, to fully express ourselves within the relationship. And if we can't do that, if she can't be her best self in the relationship, if I can't be my best self in the relationship, then maybe we're not in the right alignment and that's okay. It's not changing myself to try to please her so that she accepts me and she takes me in and she doesn't leave me. No. Early on, I was like, hey, if we're not the right match, I want the best for you, and I hope you want the best for me. And if that's us together, great. Let's explore this. Let's see what this looks like. Let's see what this could look like without creating all these chemical bonds early on that make it hard for us to have the challenging, courageous conversations and see if we are the right match for each other. And again, I've had many conversations with my friend Matthew Hussey on this topic, and I think this moment right here sums up the reason behind these patterns better than I could talk about it myself. So let's watch this.

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You know, there's obviously so much knowledge now on where those things come from and that there are old patterns in how we related to our caregivers or our parents or how they related to us. That gets us used to a certain pattern. We get this nervous system imprint that is created at a very early point in life, and we spend the rest of our lives replicating that if we're not careful. So the. The great kind of challenge, I think, for all of us. And this, this is true, by the way, of men, too.

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Right.

[C]

How many men relentlessly chase after women who don't seem to want them?

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Right. Who reject them.

[C]

Reject them. Who treat them like they're disposable.

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Yeah.

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How many guys are playing the friend to a woman for years on end who picks them up and puts them down whenever it suits her? And they're doing it for years on end? This is not just a female pattern. This is a people pattern. Why is it that we respond to people who treat us poorly?

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Why do we think we do?

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Because there is something about it that is known to us.

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It is familiar.

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It's. It's familiar and we don't realize it. We think. It's. We think we hate it. I hate it. I hate that this person doesn't want me. And if I could just get this person to want me, I'd feel good again. But what people often find is if that person truly turned around to meet you and gave you everything that you wanted from the beginning, it would have felt strange that there's something in this dynamic that is, in a weird way, safe to you. Yes, it doesn't make you feel safe, but there's some kind of safety in the familiar. And. And that's not our fault. We should exercise compassion towards ourselves for that. Because it's not our fault that these. These really damaging and destructive patterns are things that we chase because that this was created at a time when we weren't deciding our response systems to things. It was. We were in survival mode. And, you know, there's a. I spoke to a woman recently. I did a show recently where the host of the show said, I really struggle to have hard conversations with people. Like, if I have to have a heart. And a big part of this book is, like, I have a whole section on how to have hard conversations. Because by the way every relationship is shaped, is. Is. Is. Is made in the crucible of hard conversations, right? Can you have the difficult conversation? Can you say the thing you're afraid to say? And can you express your need without fearing that if you do, something bad will happen? And so many of the times people end up in painful relationships, or not even relationships, they end up in painful dynamics or they end up in limbo with someone where it never ends up as a relationship, it's always casual. Is. Because they're afraid to have the hard conversations. There was this woman that was part one of the hosts of the show, and it was. And she said to me, I really struggle to have hard conversations. And I don't know why. I just, you know, every time I go to have a hard conversation, it's like I break out in sweats and I panic and I'm. You know, she said, it's just. It wasn't that in my family, like, no one's really ever had hard conversations, she said. And she didn't realize what she was saying as she said it, but she said, you know, I Mean, it's like my dad, for example. If I try to have a hard conversation with him, he just leaves the room.

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Right.

[C]

And I. And she kept going, but she didn't realize what she had said, which is your entire life. Because that wasn't a pattern. Your dad started yesterday. Right. Your dad's most likely been like that since the day you were born. So what you learned is that if you tried to have a hard conversation with your father, he would leave the.

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Room, he would abandon you.

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So now you have what therapists call a core abandonment window. Right? That's a. This is something that's now with you. And you wonder why, with this person that you're on date three with, who shouldn't even be that important to you, why it feels hard to articulate that, you know, you are disappointed that they showed up half hour late to the day or that they didn't text you for a week. And then all of a sudden, like, reached out, out of nowhere to say, do you want to do something in one hour? And then you went without expressing that, like, hey, we had two great dates. And then you would like, I didn't hear from you for a week. And now you're like, are you ready in an hour? The reason she didn't express that is. And the reason it made her so terrified to express it, un. Irrationally terrified, is because in her world, it's been perfectly rational. It's not. This is where compassion comes in. Because we're very good at calling ourselves crazy. Like, I feel crazy. Why am I so scared of having this conversation? Or we get called crazy by other people. That's a favorite thing to call people. She was crazy. Oh, they're crazy. Like, you can't believe what they tried to do or what they said to me. They're not crazy. Something happened. So they experienced something in their world at a time when it was their reality. It was her reality growing up. That. And I'm, you know, I'm extrapolating here, but like I said, if she's saying that about her dad, almost certainly her dad didn't start doing that last week.

[A]

Right.

[C]

He's been doing it her whole life. It was real for her that there was a time in her life where if she tried to express a need with her father or tell him something that she wasn't happy with or something that she'd like him to do more of or less of or a way that he'd hurt her, he would not be able to have the conversation and he would leave that when you're a child, that's. That poses a real threat to you.

[A]

Yes.

[C]

So what she's feeling now is rational for her in her world based on where she came from. We look at it from the outside and go, I can't believe that she would be so afraid to say this thing. And she's going to end up in a two year relationship with someone who never meets any of her needs, who doesn't even know what her needs are, who she resents deep down because it's like he never thinks of me.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But she's terrified to have that conversation. Because for her, if she has a hard conversation, it means abandonment. And abandonment means on an emotional level, not a logical level. She might not survive.

[B]

Yes.

[C]

And so when someone says I struggle, I find it a turn off. When someone is nice, they are articulating a deep, deep pattern that has been there for a long time in their life that they didn't choose and that they may not even be aware of.

[B]

A key takeaway is we get this nervous system imprint that is created at a very early point in life and we spend the rest of our lives replicating that if we're not careful. So I want you to ask yourself what patterns keep showing up in my relationships? What am I afraid of that could happen if I were alone? And what part of me is still seeking validation? If you can sit with yourself and answer these questions, then I think you have the wisdom and the knowledge that you can start to heal yourself first. Which then allows you to focus on the third reason that you should not be in a relationship and the third reason that you need to be single. And reason number three, being single builds real confidence, not dependent confidence. And if your confidence comes from being chosen, oh my friend, it's going to disappear the moment you're rejected. It is going to disappear when you feel like they don't accept you or they don't like something about you or they don't want to be with you anymore. You're going to feel all your confidence leaving your body and you're going to feel like the most incomfident person in the world if things don't work out. And there are two types of confidence. One that comes from within, a true sense of knowingness and power that you know everything's going to be okay no matter what happens. You know, if this relationship doesn't work out, you're going to be okay. It doesn't mean you might not be sad and hurt and feel a loss and a grief, but if it doesn't Work out. You're going to be okay. You're going to overcome the challenge, the pain, the stress of it. So there are two types of confidence. One that comes within and one that comes from attention. And being single forces you to build the first one. And when you learn to regulate your emotions and validate your own worth or meet your own needs, you stop begging for attention and begging for love and please don't leave me. You stop this, like, needy energy and you start choosing it. You start choosing yourself first. You start choosing your standards. You start living into your values instead of being giving up on them to make one person not yell at you, or one person okay with you, or one person happy with you. There were so many times where I would gain confidence in previous relationships because I got into the new relationship and they were into me. And then I lost it. I lost it because they wanted to change me and I had to give in to make them happy. And then when they scream at me or yell at me or give me the silent treatment or whatever it was, it was like, oh, they don't love me for who I am. They need me to be something else to make them happy. And I lacked the courage and the confidence to just say, hey, this is who I am. What's going on? Why can't we work this out? And I accept you and you accept me. I lacked the courage, and therefore I lacked the confidence in those relationships. And I would give in to try to please people that weren't able to accept who I was. And it really affected me. It impacted me emotionally, it impacted me mentally. I would carry this into the day. It would exhaust me in my business. I felt like I was living at like a 5 or a 6 out of 10 when I would lose that confidence. Because I wasn't choosing myself. I was choosing other people's needs over my own. And it affected every, every area of my life. I feel like I lost years of my life trying to please other people and exhausted me. And it really weighed on me physically, emotionally, mentally. And I don't know how I was able to even create anything in the world with this kind of weight that I was carrying. And it felt completely different when I started to step into my relationship from a place of confidence, from within. Because confidence is knowing you'll be okay if they stay and you'll be okay if they leave. Having the confidence internally will change everything, and it'll change everything for you because of reason number four.

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[D]

So, for example, when I was dating you, everything you were saying and you were being and your action and everything, it was information for me about who you are. Because my intention was not to change you, not to do anything, but just to get to know you. And like I said, people are fascinating, right? And especially when you're in the dating process. I was, you know, I met you and I was like, oh, my God, who's this guy? I want to know who he is, what he is all about. And so. So anything you would do, I wouldn't take it personal. And so I think, and I don't know if you agree, but sometimes the mistake that we do is that we try to accommodate to the other person because we want to be loved, we want to be liked, or we see only the best parts that they have, but we don't see the other parts, right? And so then when we do that, we kind of cloud ourselves, we cloud our vision because we're not seeing who the entire Persona is. The entire personality is of, you know, of the person that you're seeing. And for example, there was, you know, in a different time, I went out with a guy that was great, but he was into Ketamine. I don't do any drugs. I don't drink, I don't smoke. I don't do anything. And so instead of being judgmental, because that's the thing, the mistake we make, very quickly, we become judgmental instead of. Instead of being judgmental, I was so curious, who is this person? I want to know. And then when he mentioned that with curiosity, I was like, oh, tell me more. I want to know more. And then obviously what happened is I went home that night, and I was like, this is not the guy for me. It will be the guy for someone else for sure that enjoys that, which is good, but not for me. So that's why I feel like knowing yourself very well is very important in order for you to then go out in the world and meet other people and find whomever it is your best match. So for me, when I met you and you were like, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do any drugs. I was like, yes, you know, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do any drugs. And for me, that's important, you know? And the values. The values were very important. You have amazing values and integrity. You know, you have this generosity. You are kind with people. And I think for me, that was very important to see that you're not only saying that you have all these values, because we had conversations about values. You're not only saying that you're being the values that you're saying. And it was really beautiful when I met you to see you be and to see you be you. And so then it was never. After I healed, it was never my intention to ever want to change anyone. Because if we are honest with each other and our pasts, in a way, Louis, I think we were trying to change our ex partners in some ways, you know, so whether it was, like, if it was, let's say, one of the exes, an explosive personality, here I was, or here you were. Hey, read this book. There's this podcast. You know, in a way, you're trying to help them, but at the same time, we're not accepting who they are. And so that's why I feel like accepting the other person is one of the biggest things to create a beautiful relationship. That's why knowing yourself is so important.

[E]

It just causes more friction. It doesn't mean the relationship can't work.

[D]

But.

[E]

But I think what we've tried to do is make sure we're in alignment with as much things as possible and accepting the other person's values, vision, and lifestyle, and also saying, okay, am I in alignment with it? And maybe sometimes I don't want to do certain things, but I've accepted who you are, and I'm okay with certain things, that I do them right and vice versa, as opposed to being like.

[B]

Wow, I really don't like these 17.

[E]

Things that you like doing or your. Your values around this thing or whatever it might be, but I'm gonna give in without really truly accepting it. That's when there's more friction, I think. So I think we've gotten really fortunate in being aligned. But I also think that, you know, We've both spent 20 years in multiple relationships where we learned and made mistakes and did things where, okay, we've got.

[B]

A lot of wisdom now.

[E]

And I've told you many times that if I got into, like, a relationship in my early 20s and got married, I don't think there's any way that I would have been able to make it work. If we got in a relationship where it was out of alignment from the start, like, we just got married, because.

[B]

I was like, oh, I love you.

[E]

And this is amazing. And we're having this chemistry, and I got married without getting clear on are we aligned on our values, our vision, our lifestyle, and all these other things. I don't know if I would have had the skills or the willpower or the emotional intelligence to navigate a healthy marriage. I just don't think I could have done it. And I'm not saying I'm making excuse. I just don't think I was capable of that. And it's probably why I was so afraid of commitment in my 20s, because.

[B]

I was like, I don't want to.

[E]

Mess this up, But I think a lot of people jump into commitment and then into marriage without a hundred percent honesty and authenticity around who they are, what they want now, and what they're planning and attending for the future. So what is a question that women can ask men? What are specific questions they can ask to where they can get more information out of them to see if it's a right alignment or maybe match?

[D]

I think O is so important.

[B]

And obviously, you got to listen.

[E]

Obviously, you got to listen to the person to have discernment.

[D]

Yeah.

[E]

When you're listening, because a lot of guys could scoot around it or be a little inauthentic or, you know, potentially.

[B]

Lie to not tell you the wrong.

[E]

Thing and make sure they don't hurt you. So how do you have the intuition also to hear and feel this Is authentic.

[D]

Yeah, I think, I think the, one of the things that is the thing that I used to do when I was in my 20s is that when you are on the first few dates, you usually talk a lot about yourself. You want the other person to fall in love with you. So you share, share, share, share, share so much information. And because you want to be liked, I'd say now, I would say get as much information as you can from the other person. It's amazing to meet someone new and it's amazing to get to know their stories and in the way they tell you their stories and how they tell you their stories, you're going to find information. So for example, it's not the same when you meet a guy who has cheated in the past who tells you that he cheated because the woman was crazy. If a guy tells you he cheated because the woman was crazy, that's a guy that has not healed. He has not taken responsibility of his own actions. But if he tells you, listen, this is what happened. There's two sides of the story. This is her story, this is my story, and this is what happened then. And what do you learn? Like asking questions like this. So what do you learn? Or not even asking that question. Just wait to see if he tells you. What did he learn or she learned? Well, I learned that I was out of integrity and that's the worst thing I can do to myself because then I lose self, love. I learned that I hurt another human being, that I betrayed someone else. And in that process, I also betrayed myself. Oh, that's a person that has learned the lesson. So pay attention in not only the story, but how they tell you the story. I think that's a very important one. And listen to them and believe them again. It's this thing. Believe what they're saying.

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[D]

And.

[B]

And this was a beautiful thing because about 80% of our values were shared. And there were other things that we had and it wouldn't necessarily be the thing that I was like most cared about for my life. But I also didn't say that's a non negotiable, I can't do.

[A]

Right?

[B]

So I was like, okay, cool. That's something you value.

[A]

Cool.

[B]

I'm in alignment with it as long as these are the core things we're going to be focusing on. And we talked about our values, we got to know our character before chemical connection. And we shared about our vision for life. And I was just so clear. I was like, this is where I'm going to be doing for the next 10 years. This is my time to drive. And maybe this changes in the future, but don't expect me to change. Expect me to grow, expect me to elevate, expect me to continue to expand, but don't expect me to change from what I have, from a vision of my life right now. If I want to change on my own because it comes to me differently or that chapter closes, cool, I'm going to change on my own. But don't change me to fit and make you happy. And that was a big thing. I never had that before with any partner that I was with. And I told her, I'm not going to change you from your vision. And there's certain things that I need to get on board with and be excited about that fits your vision. I get that. And I will be on board with those things. And that created a powerful alignment. And again, it doesn't mean everything's perfect. And there's still challenges we need to overcome, but it allows us to have a framework. It allows us to have an understanding, a trust, a respect that we have tools that we can work on when there are challenges and we can come together and appreciate each other. And I want you to be honest with yourself about what you truly want the next time you want to be with someone. Are you looking to be with someone because you've been single for a while and you just want to feel good, but you're not really sure you know what you want long term, that may not be the right time to get in a relationship. And I know it's hard, Trust me, I have been single many times. And you just want to feel good. You want to be around someone that likes you and that, you know, gives you affection. And just like you have that a fun time with, I get it, you can have fun and meet people. But I'm telling you, don't get committed to someone if you're going to lower your standards, if you're going to avoid discomfort, raise yourself to meet them, raise yourself to meet them. And if you don't do that, it brings us to the final reason, which is the most important reason to be single. Reason number five. Being single prepares you for healthy, lasting love. And the goal isn't to find someone. The goal is to be ready for the right one. Healthy love is not two people trying to fill each other's emptiness. It's not what it's about. It's not about trying to fill each other's emptiness. It's two people choosing to build together consciously Your single season teaches you emotional responsibility. It teaches you self awareness. It teaches you how to love without losing your identity. And my marriage works not because we complete each other. It's not because I'm 50% and she's my other 50% and our two halves make a whole. No. It's because we come to the table open to growth, open to self healing, open to becoming better versions of ourselves every day. So I don't want you to rush this single season. I get it. It's fun to be in love. It's fun to connect with someone else. It's fun to feel loved and go on adventures. I get it. It doesn't mean you can't go out on dates and meet people, sure. But don't rush the single season of needing to get into a committed relationship with the first person that shows you affection or some type of chemical spark because you think this is going to be the only person that loves you. Don't rush the single season. Use it, honor it. Let it shape you. The love you want later is being built by the work you do on yourself right now. Being single is not a failure. It's a foundation. And it's extremely important. It's where you find yourself. It's where you have the space and the time to heal your past and start integrating those lessons. It's where you build your confidence. It's where you set new standards and it's where you prepare for real love. So don't skip this single season that makes the next one sustainable. And if this message resonated with you, then share a comment below. I'm building me because I want this to be the time that you are building the greatest version of yourself. Using this space, using this single season time to build a greater you. A you that you've never had before because you've been stuck in past patterns that have kept repeating themselves. To be in relationships that don't serve your greatest version of you. I'm building me. That's what this time is about. It's a beautiful time. It's a time when you meet someone, you can say, I want the best for you and I want the best for me. And if that means we're going to explore the next steps together, great. And if it means that, oh, we don't see eye to eye on things, we can still have some chemical feelings and it not mean we have to get together, that's okay. Also, you don't have to jump just because you feel a spark. Because a spark might learn into a fire that burns everything down. You want to have a spark that is a sustainable flame, a flame that doesn't catch you on fire or the other person it wants to be. A flame that warms you both, not burns you both. I'm building me. That's what this season is about. And remember, the best relationships are created by people who learned how to stand strong on their own first, who learned how to heal their own wounds, who learned how to forgive and not hold on to resentment from past relationships and not carry that resentment into the next relationship. Because you deserve to have conscious love. 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