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Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau
Hosted by Beatrice Kamau · EN
Clearer, not Louder Podcast (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast) is a podcast about discernment, the power of the voice, and the intersection of how the two impact you and the world around you.
In a world that encourages constant reacting, overexplaining, and performing, this space is about learning to pause, notice what's actually happening, and respond with clarity.
Each episode explores the subtle dynamics that shape our relationships, decisions, and inner lives- the moments when something feels off, when we ignore our God-given wisdom, or when we realize we've been negotiating with things that don't align with our principles.
Through thoughtful reflections and insightful conversations, Clearer, Not Louder helps you develop the kind of clarity and discernment that doesn't require force or volume but rather, honesty, awareness, and the powerful, undiluted version of your voice.
Because the goal isn't to be louder.
It's to be clearer.
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Ep 15. Protect Your Whimsy: Friendship Edition
1w ago00:27:18Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we chat: How they say... you're the "sum of the 5 closest people around you." And while I personally find that particular phrase to be a bit corny, I've come to realize... there's wisdom in that phrase, especially, for the whimsy girl. What you'll learn in this episode: What friendship characteristics negatively impact whimsy, vibrant, playful, and emotionally alive women and which friendship characteristics to look out for as a whimsy girl to support you in your joy and curiosity How to go about finding and cultivating friendships as an adult whimsy girl-- it's not as hard as you think. Why some whimsy girls are meant to have large friend groups and others, 1-2 close friends and why both... are more than okay. IG: @clearernotlouder
Transcribe →Ep 14 The Return and Reclamation of Whimsy
2w ago00:28:27Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we chat: Whimsy as aliveness, joy, optimism, delight, and vibrancy--- NOT childishness-- and why all things whimsical deserve a front seat in your life. What you'll learn in this episode: Why whimsy AND sophistication can exist together at once-- a conversation on how paradox can and should work together really beautifully Whimsy as a reclamation of yourself, your agency, and who God created you to be How whimsy is spiritual and God's gift over your life and a key aspect of your life's purpose IG: @clearernotlouder Read More
Transcribe →Ep 13 Betrayal, Grief, & Why No One Is Above the Program
3w ago00:20:50Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we chat: The grief and utter SHOCK that comes when relationships and friendships you thought would last... forever end. In this episode, we chat how remembering that no one is above the program might actually take you from difficulty accepting what happened to a calm peace and ability to finally move on with strength and dignity. What you'll learn in this episode: What "no one is above the program" when it comes to betrayal in relationships means and how it might actually help you process the betrayal and grief. Why betrayal isn't as personal as you think it is (even though it feels like it was custom-made just for you, I know!) The liberation that comes from accepting things as THEY ARE not as you wish them to be and... how to get there. IG: @clearernotlouder
Transcribe →Ep 12. Arriving in Singlehood (and Letting Go of Idolatry of Marriage & Relationships)
May 2800:34:08Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we chat: What it's like when being single no longer feels like a problem to solve, a challenge to overcome, or something to trevail. In this episode, we discover the confidence, security, contentment, and PEACE that comes from arriving in singlehood and we confront the idolatry of marriage and relationships that... may be preventing you from getting there. What you'll learn in this episode: The difference between arriving in singlehood and treating being single like something to "get through" The 4 things that can indicate idolatry of Marriage and/or relationships The 4 things that indicate your arrival into singlehood (and contentment in it!) IG: @clearernotlouder
Transcribe →Ep 11 Love is Not Enough Part 5-- Dating Lessons from My 30's.
May 2100:35:39Tap to summarizeWhy love... is not enough. Part 5. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Navigating dating men who are insecure and the difference between a man who likes you vs. likes what you can do for him, Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These FINAL 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road
Transcribe →Ep. 10 Love is Not Enough-- Part 4 Dating Lessons From my 30's
May 1400:32:56Tap to summarizeWhy love... is not enough. Part 4. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 3 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Navigating when a relationship seems good on PAPER with no obvious "problems" yet and still you feel something is OFF and remain restless in the relationship
Transcribe →Ep 9 Love is Not Enough Part 3-- Dating Lessons from my 30's
May 700:32:05Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 3. In this episode I continue discussing what I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 2 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road Positive, real life examples of what relational responsibility and caregiving temparament might look like in the RIGHT relationship-- a continued discussion from last week's episode.
Transcribe →Ep 8 Love is Not Enough Part 2-- Dating Lessons From my 30's
Apr 3000:38:31Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. Part 2. What I have come to realize is important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone upon entering my 30's-- and what I believe will benefit you greatly, too! You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: Practical things I've learned to look for/look out for in my 30's that I believe often get OVERLOOKED when you're young. These 4 things can be the difference between your joy/peace/happiness and stress in your relationship. Things to look for early on in dating/courtship so you don't end up sidelined YEARS down the road How I learned these lessons personally in my previous relationships--- the HARD way IG: @clearernotlouder
Transcribe →Ep 7 Love is Not Enough Part 1-- Lessons from my 20's.
Apr 2300:36:31Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we chat: Why love... is not enough. The mistakes I made in my previous relationships. And what I got RIGHT in my 20's when it came to dating and what I undermined and didn't realize was important ESPECIALLY concerning marriage, children, and a future with someone. You're going to want a pen and pad for this one! What you'll learn in this episode: What I was evaluating and looking for in relationships that I actually got right and have taken with me in my 30's Where I've matured (and how you can too so you don't make my mistakes!) when it comes to really evaluating compatibility and saving yourself unnecessary STRESS. What I got WRONG in my 20's and would no longer dismiss (every woman should know these!) IG: @clearernotlouder
Transcribe →Ep 6. What Are You Willing to Endure?
Apr 1600:19:29Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we chat: A fresh perspective on the the ever-recylced conversastions around "Know[ing] Your Standards" and "Know[ing] Your Worth" through discussion of how to begin putting it into practice by examining and holding a magnifying glass to what you are willing to endure What you'll learn in this episode: Determining what you'are willing to endure in relationships and what its costing you. The difference between well-placed duty and misplaced duty and what its costing you in relationships (and not to mention with your sanity and self-esteem!) What scripture actually has to say about enduring things in life that are depleting you, taking from you, and causing you death by a thousand cuts IG: @clearernotlouder
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