Podcast Summary: The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Show

Episode: Bre Tiesi On The Truth Behind Selling Sunset, Motherhood, Personal Boundaries, & Finding Your Balance
Hosts: Lauryn Bosstick & Michael Bosstick
Guest: Bre Tiesi
Release Date: November 27, 2025

Overview

In this candid and lively episode, Bre Tiesi — real estate agent, investor, business consultant, star of Netflix’s "Selling Sunset," and mother — joins Lauryn and Michael Bosstick to reveal the realities behind reality TV, discuss motherhood and work-life boundaries, and share insights on navigating a high-profile career and personal life. The conversation ranges from setting non-negotiable boundaries, dealing with on-screen drama, financial literacy, and wellness routines, all presented in Bre’s unfiltered style.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Entering Reality TV: What You Don’t See

• Motivation & Expectations: Bre shares that reality TV was a path she felt drawn into by friends and acquaintances saying she was "meant for it," coming to see it as almost destiny after repeated suggestions.

  “Everyone I was around was like, ‘you need to do TV’… It kind of just kept coming up and I don't think I really decided." (01:49, Bre Tiesi)

• Behind the Scenes: Days are long, starting with hours of glam, significant commuting, and full filming schedules, making balancing motherhood “a full day and effort.” (02:18-02:50)

2. The Emotional Toll and Navigating Drama

• Emotional Exhaustion: The cast experiences emotional fatigue unlike physical exhaustion due to constant interpersonal drama. (03:09)

  "It's a completely different... It drains you in a different level for sure." (03:09, Bre Tiesi)

• Authenticity vs. Scripted Perception: Bre is adamant that the drama is real, not manufactured — the “batshit crazy” dynamics would exist even off-camera.

  “We are this batshit crazy. Every single person on here and these things are real… It’s not like scripted like everyone thinks it is.” (03:47, Bre Tiesi)

• Personal Boundaries After Filming: “We don’t usually talk to each other in between [seasons]…not even like we're mad…it’s just like, girl, I don't wanna see you. I just need a break. I love you, but I’ll see you in a couple months.” (03:30)

3. Owning Your Narrative & Relationship with Nick Cannon

• Anticipation of Judgment: Bre openly expected to be targeted for her relationship with Nick Cannon.

  “You kind of have to know that whatever dirty laundry you have is going to be what people come for…” (06:36)

• Owning Her Truth: Emphasizes self-acceptance as a shield, which led to unexpected public support.

  “There is anything you can say about me that I haven't said or would say or claimed from my past. So it can't really be used against me.” (06:36) “I'm genuinely happy. Nothing you say can affect me… I was happy that...people really saw that.” (08:10, Bre Tiesi)

• Public Reaction: The more she owned her story, the more it “took the air out of their sails” for people attempting to drag her. (08:00)

4. Setting and Enforcing Personal Boundaries

• Dealing with Producing/Editing: Bre describes drawing hard boundaries after Season 7 due to what she describes as “twisting narratives” and outright “blatant lies” being edited into the show.

  “If we continue down this path... I'm not going to continue to do this.” (09:37)

• Contract Negotiation Advice: Know when to walk away, have clarity and non-negotiables, and don’t be afraid to lose out on money for your integrity.

  “You have to be okay walking away. I’ve done it a ton of times, and it sucks…but if you don’t have those boundaries…what are we doing?” (12:16)

5. The Truth About Real Estate (Not Reality TV)

• Real Work, Not a Side Hustle: Bre clarifies all cast members have real estate licenses and actively work in the field. Real estate is “not a side hustle,” but a full-time job with high stakes and delayed rewards.

  “Real estate is so much work and there’s so much time that goes into it where you may never see a dollar…” (14:13) “This is a full time career. It’s not part time at all.” (15:09)

• Misconceptions: Some scenes may use stand-in homes to protect client privacy, but the business and transactions are real. (15:44)

6. Financial Literacy & Business Organization

• Lessons Learned: Stressing the importance of proper legal and financial setup (LLC vs. Corp, proper insurance, good accountants/attorneys), and not cutting corners to avoid “cleanup” down the road.

  “It’s going to cost you later… It’s a lot more painful cleaning up the stuff down the line.” (28:45-29:22, Michael & Bre)

• Delegation is Vital: “No one’s a one-woman show...you still have supporting people at different levels." (28:09)

7. Motherhood, Wellness & Priorities

• Motherhood Organization: Bre stays highly organized to balance being a mom with a busy professional life. She uses rigorous routines and consistent scheduling to maintain “positive attachment” (secure attachment) with her son.

  “Organization is how I prioritize him…everything is—I will move things, I will cancel things, I will not do stuff [for my son].” (41:26) “Now my son looks forward to…he knows this weekend…he starts to get excited…and has something to look forward to with the Type A [organization].” (41:26-42:51)

• Wellness Habits:
  • Detailed nightly and weekly beauty/skincare rituals, often involving her son, with written-out and labeled products (38:42-40:26).
  • “If I don't work out, I feel like I can’t do anything…It is a non-negotiable for me.” (50:22)
  • Mix of weight training, Pilates, hot yoga (sometimes with Nick), boxing, Peloton (50:26-51:46).
• Postpartum Experience: Open about the extremity of returning to film 6 weeks postpartum, the emotional and physical toll, and the lack of grace allowed for women in her position.

  “Six weeks postpartum wearing a diaper…” (53:09) “We really sacrifice so much… we don’t get enough grace to really deal with what postpartum is…” (54:32)

8. Coping with Public Scrutiny

• Handling Internet Hate: Bre takes a detached, almost amused approach to online criticism, not engaging and de-prioritizing the opinions of strangers.

  “I don’t see the Internet as being a real place…your opinions don’t matter. The people that are the closest in my circle matter. And that's really it.” (59:54)

Memorable Quotes

• On Authenticity:
  "Take it or leave it. Fuck off. I'm going to do me regardless." (08:10, Bre Tiesi)
• On Emotional Labor in Reality TV:
  "We don’t usually talk to each other in between [seasons]…we really need that reset.” (03:30, Bre Tiesi)
• On Setting Boundaries:
  "If whenever they played with me in any way, I just wouldn’t show up.” (10:46, Bre Tiesi)
• On Real Estate:
  "It’s not a side hustle. This is a full time career." (15:09, Bre Tiesi)
• On Motherhood & Priorities:
  “My entire life truly is either my work or my kid… Nick gets a little fraction…” (41:26)
• On Postpartum & Filming:
  "Six weeks postpartum wearing a diaper." (53:09, Bre Tiesi)
• On Haters/Online Comments:
  "You're not a real person. I don't know you. No one has ever or will ever say that to my face." (59:54, Bre Tiesi)

Notable Segment Timestamps

• 01:49: Why Bre entered reality TV — and what her friends told her
• 02:18: A day in the life of Selling Sunset filming
• 03:09: Emotional exhaustion of reality TV
• 03:47: Reality vs. script — “We are this batshit crazy”
• 06:36: Anticipating drama about her relationship with Nick Cannon
• 08:10: On owning her truth and dealing with criticism
• 09:37: Drawing boundaries with producers and contracts
• 12:16: Bre’s contract negotiation tips
• 15:09: Misconceptions about real estate on reality TV
• 27:42: Building financial literacy and setting up business entities
• 38:42 & 50:22: Wellness and fitness as non-negotiables; daily and weekly routines
• 41:26: Motherhood, organization, and “positive attachment”
• 53:09: Filming Selling Sunset six weeks postpartum
• 59:54: Dealing with online vitriol
• 61:00: Hints about next season’s drama — “trio” breaking up and shifting alliances

Final Takeaways

Bre Tiesi delivers an unfiltered, grounded, and insightful look at the realities of balancing fame, motherhood, business, and wellbeing. She stresses the importance of authenticity, setting unwavering boundaries, proper business foundations, and self-care, all while navigating the unique pressures of public life and reality television. Her openness about postpartum struggles, the intensity of reality filming, and the hard-won lessons of financial literacy offer actionable takeaways for listeners in any walk of life.

Where to Follow Bre Tiesi:

• Instagram & TikTok (62:06)

Next Season of Selling Sunset:

• Premieres October 29th (62:00)

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