Podcast Summary:

The Skinny Confidential Him And Her Show
Episode: Chriselle Lim On Personal Transformation, Healthy Breakups, Boundaries, & Embracing Change
Hosts: Lauryn Bosstick & Michael Bosstick
Guest: Chriselle Lim
Air Date: November 13, 2025

Episode Overview

This episode welcomes back Chriselle Lim, OG digital fashion tastemaker, entrepreneur, and founder of Fleur fragrance. Chriselle shares her story of profound personal and professional transformation over the past six years. The conversation explores her journey through motherhood, divorce, building (and selling) a business, redefining boundaries (especially around sharing her children online), and embracing change with honesty and resilience. Tangible takeaways and vulnerable moments abound as Chriselle and the hosts reflect on growth, finding peace, and what it means to truly start anew.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Filling the Gap: Life Since Last Appearance

Timestamps: 01:39–05:37

• Chriselle last appeared in July 2019 (episode 200, pre-COVID). Since then:
  • Went through a divorce (officially in 2021).
  • Acquired and relaunched Fleur fragrance brand, later selling it.
  • Gave birth to her second child and got engaged to a new partner.

"If someone told me that this would be my life today … I would be like, you are crazy."
—Chriselle Lim (04:49)

2. The Impact of Motherhood on Productivity

Timestamps: 02:04–04:35

• Chriselle and Lauryn discuss how becoming a mother transformed their understanding of productivity.
• Chriselle originally told Lauryn, “Once you become a mom, you are able to master productivity at its finest…” (02:30)
• Both reflect on the forced efficiency and focus of parenthood.

3. Divorce in the Public Eye & Setting Boundaries With Kids Online

Timestamps: 05:37–13:52

• Chriselle explains choosing divorce during COVID, using the time of stillness for introspection and clarity.
• Talks about navigating divorce publicly, evolving her content, and protecting her children’s privacy.

"We were kind of the first generations, influencer wise, to have kids... I just don’t want to show my kids that much anymore."
—Chriselle Lim (07:24)

• Chriselle and Lauryn agree there was no blueprint for early mom influencers around sharing (or not sharing) their kids online.
• Michael and Lauryn discuss how their oldest is almost 11 and having opinions about what gets shared.

4. Generational Reflection on Tech, Parenting, and Social Media

Timestamps: 13:12–14:50

• Discussion of evolving approaches to kids and tech use; referencing Jonathan Haidt’s “The Anxious Generation.”
• Chriselle reminisces about the dial-up internet era and her roots as an “OG” creator.

5. Making the Divorce Announcement—Process and Emotions

Timestamps: 15:13–17:01

• Chriselle describes tactfully announcing her separation on social media:
  • Waiting a year, mutual agreement, turning off comments.
  • Consideration for her children’s future privacy.
• She felt liberated, not sad by the time of public announcement:

"They always say, especially women, after they actually make the divorce announcement … they were already divorced years ago in their head."
—Chriselle Lim (17:01)

6. Tangible Advice on Healthy Breakups & Transformation

Timestamps: 18:31–20:19

• Chriselle urges that the decision to leave must go deeper than a passing feeling. "You have to know, like, deep down inside … this is the thing I need to do for myself." (19:05)
• She offers encouragement to women contemplating major life changes: happiness is possible on the other side.

7. Finding Peace, Reclaiming Presence

Timestamps: 20:19–21:41

• Chriselle describes her first real peace post-divorce: walking to the park, noticing the wind for the first time in years.
• She and the hosts agree: "The true luxury is to have a calm nervous system." (21:21)

8. Entrepreneurs, Chaos, and Self-Awareness

Timestamps: 21:41–26:07

• Michael discusses thriving in stress and pressure; Chriselle says self-awareness is key to knowing how you function best.
• Chriselle: "To thrive as an entrepreneur, you have to be a really good problem solver... it’s down to how well and how fast can you solve these problems." (25:14)

9. Chriselle’s Content Evolution & The “Rich Mom” Persona

Timestamps: 33:04–38:03

• Chriselle’s secret to longevity: embracing evolution, not being attached to platforms or personas.
• Success on TikTok during COVID with her “Rich Mom” character—eventually phased out as it stopped serving her real self and healing.

"I’m not a fragile bitch. I can take shit … let’s move on."
—Chriselle Lim (33:11)

• She describes working through depression and retreating when social media became too much.

10. Behind the Scenes: Vulnerability, Family Support, and Loneliness

Timestamps: 38:03–41:24

• Chriselle shares about solitary moments, being supported by her parents (who moved in with her), crying late into the night, and finding comfort and healing through family and Korean food.

"Late nights with my mom… we [would] just be at the table crying."
—Chriselle Lim (39:42)

• They discuss the misconception that influencers with millions of followers can’t feel lonely or down.

11. Universality of Vulnerability

Timestamps: 41:24–43:32

• Michael notes: “At the end of the day … people are just people.”
• Chriselle recounts a recent dinner with high-powered entrepreneurs (including Meghan Markle) where all confessed deep insecurities when speaking.

12. Dating After Divorce and Building a Blended Family

Timestamps: 45:23–53:30

• Chriselle wasn’t looking to date after her divorce—was enjoying her independence and success.
• Met Sebastian, her now fiancé, by chance at Paris Fashion Week; both were going through divorces.

"If anyone is going to come into my life at this point, it has to be additive... It has to add something I don’t have right now."
—Chriselle Lim (46:16)

• Their relationship developed slowly and thoughtfully, especially when it came to introducing children from both sides.

13. Rethinking Marriage, Paperwork, and Commitment

Timestamps: 53:30–63:07

• Chriselle reflects on what marriage really means after her first experience: “Marriage is essentially a piece of paper.” (53:30)
• Open, honest communication—with no judgment—defines her relationship now.
• She highlights the importance of discussing hard topics like prenups and practicalities, and separating legal binds from commitment.

14. Beauty, Surgery, and Confidence in Aging

Timestamps: 63:33–68:47

• Chriselle candidly reveals her decision to dissolve facial fillers after feeling “puffy.”
• Noted the importance of facial massage and long-term thinking when it comes to aesthetics.
• Shares that her approach now is about sustainable, long-term beauty rather than constant, reactive maintenance.

15. Fleur: Reinventing Fragrance & Business Success

Timestamps: 68:49–74:27

• Chriselle speaks about acquiring, relaunching, and recently selling Fleur:
  • Missing Person, Fleur’s hit scent, was inspired by her story of loss and loneliness; it sold out with a 250,000-person waitlist (71:05).
  • Unique, lighter scents are meant to layer and become the wearer’s own.
  • Process focused on authentic storytelling and empowering customers to share their emotional connections.

"We launched with Missing Person... through my story of loss and pain and feeling lonely and missing myself, missing a person, missing feeling loved..."
—Chriselle Lim (69:46)

Notable Quotes

• "Once you become a mom, you are able to master productivity at its finest..." —Chriselle Lim (02:30)
• "We didn’t know, there was no blueprint before us to know if we should or shouldn’t share the kids..." —Lauran (09:40)
• "You have to know, like, deep down inside … this is the thing I need to do for myself." —Chriselle Lim (19:05)
• "The true luxury, I believe now, is to have a calm nervous system." —Chriselle Lim (21:21)
• "I’m not a fragile bitch. I can take shit... let’s move on." —Chriselle Lim (33:11)
• "If anyone is going to come into my life at this point, it has to be additive." —Chriselle Lim (46:16)

Memorable and Lighthearted Moments

• The recurring Tom Cruise admiration/debate (43:32–45:05)
• Chriselle’s fiancé proposing at the airport for its symbolic, unconventional significance (52:21)
• Honest beauty talk about fillers, dissolving, and surgery (63:36–68:47)
• Light joking about parenting chaos, kids and paper cuts (24:29–25:55)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• 04:49 — Chriselle outlines the massive life changes since her last appearance
• 07:24 — Sharing about boundaries and privacy as a digital mom
• 15:20 — How she and her ex handled announcing their divorce
• 20:26 — First peaceful moment post-divorce
• 25:14 — The entrepreneurial “thriving in chaos” mindset
• 33:04 — How adaptability and resilience powered her career
• 39:42 — The critical role of her family’s support post-divorce
• 41:24/43:32 — Vulnerability and universality among high-achievers
• 46:16 — On new relationships: “has to be additive”
• 53:30 — The true meaning of marriage and paperwork
• 68:49 — Fleur’s sale and success, and the Missing Person scent story

Closing

Lauryn, Michael, and Chriselle wrap feeling inspired by her candor, evolution, and lived wisdom. The episode is overflowing with practical lessons, self-awareness, and reminders that true growth rarely happens in comfort zones. At its heart, the conversation is about agency, boundaries, and the power of reinvention at any stage of life.

Where to Find Chriselle:

• Instagram & TikTok: @chrisellelim
• Fragrance: fleur.com (use code SKINNY for 15% off)

(For listeners: The summary omits ads and sponsorships; see episode for full sponsor information.)