How To Regulate Your Nervous System, Break Toxic Relationship Patterns, & Heal Your Body Ft. Alyssa Lynch

Summary

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Podcast Summary: The Bossticks – How To Regulate Your Nervous System, Break Toxic Relationship Patterns & Heal Your Body ft. Alyssa Lynch

Hosts: Lauryn Bosstick & Michael Bosstick
Guest: Alyssa Lynch
Date: April 30, 2026
Podcast: The Bossticks

Episode Overview

This “girl talk” episode dives deeply into healing from toxic relationships, nervous system regulation, self-love, and holistic wellness. Lauryn and Alyssa share an open and intimate conversation covering trauma, personal growth, hormone health, and honest reflections on living a life that feels as good as it looks. Alyssa provides a rare, vulnerable look at her journey—from formative relationships and nervous system overload to her discovery of tools and routines that have supported her healing.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Alyssa’s Early Years, Trauma & Relationship Patterns

• Alyssa’s Move to LA & Relationship Trauma

  • At 19, Alyssa moved to LA and began her social media journey through her then-boyfriend, entering his world and losing her own sense of identity.
  • A breakup at 21 proved traumatic. Her partner experienced a spiritual psychosis, deeply affecting her nervous system, leading to insomnia, amenorrhea, and weight loss.
  • Quote: “I didn’t have any friends here... I really revolved—I was inserted into his life, and I didn’t create my own life.” (04:00)

• Nervous System Breakdown

  • After the breakup: two and a half years of insomnia, health issues, extreme sensitivity (“hypersensitivity after that was just really intense”).

  • Alyssa describes her nervous system as “in complete shutdown mode.”

  • Quote:

    “My nervous system went into complete, like, shutdown mode. And so I have been working since then to heal my nervous system. And I’ve never shared that story before.” (05:16)

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Healing Journey & Learning Self-Love

• The Role of Relationships in Growth

  • Alyssa recognizes relationships as her greatest teachers, sharing she’s had five long-term partners, each revealing different patterns (“fixing” others, settling, losing herself).

  • Quote:

    “My biggest lessons are through relationships… It’s funny how you can get into a relationship after a traumatizing one and it’s just filling the voids that weren’t present in the last one, but it doesn’t mean it’s right.” (07:01)

• Self-Reflection & Breaking Patterns

  • Alyssa discusses how childhood experiences (parents who had her as teens) cultivated a hyper-empathy and drive to “fix” people.

  • Healing meant acknowledging patterns and shifting the narrative from victimhood to self-inquiry: “Why have I put myself in that position?” (15:11)

  • Quote:

    “You have to, like, switch out of the victim mindset... Nervous system dysregulation is just, like, annoying… But the moment I started to, like, surrender... it alleviates so much.” (26:04)

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The Mind-Body Connection & Hormonal Health

• Body as Messenger

  • Alyssa reveals her menstrual cycle disappears in relationships that aren’t right for her and reappears when she regains authenticity and safety.

  • Quote:

    “I have never had a period in a relationship. The day I break up with somebody, I get my period. The day I get into a relationship, I lose it... I was so mad at my body for not working properly. But really, it was just protecting me.” (23:11)

• Generational Energy & Ancestral Trauma

  • Alyssa reflects on absorbing her mother’s emotions about becoming a teen parent and how inherited fears have shaped her choices.

  • Quote:

    “You can, when you’re in the womb, take some energy from, you know, your mom. And I think there’s been fear in me growing up of having a child with the wrong person.” (24:25)

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Tools for Nervous System Regulation

Somatic & Holistic Practices

• Working with a Healer (“Brian”)

  • Combines cranial reflexology, fascial work, and breathwork for nervous system support.

  • Describes being an “anxious body” rather than an anxious mind—signs include hives, water retention, eyelash loss.

  • Breathwork and somatic release are crucial—focusing especially on the pelvis for emotional storage and creative blockages.

  • Quote:

    “I'll do a 5-minute breathwork or meditation. When I do those, I imagine...my pelvis area that holds trauma...and try and imagine it going down out of my feet. I'll usually cry for five minutes straight, then feel so relieved after.” (28:51)

• Physical Release Techniques

  • Discussion on trauma release—mouth work, emotional releases (crying/laughing), and pelvic floor therapy.

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Environmental Change & Lifestyle Shift

• Leaving LA for Ojai

  • Moving to nature facilitated nervous system healing but revealed the need for a balance between serenity and creative inspiration.

  • Alyssa thrives with a “calm home base” but seeks energy and stimulation from periodic city visits.

  • Quote:

    “Being in New York...gets you out of your mind. And I’m inspired. I’m creatively inspired a lot by that.” (33:20–36:40)

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Beauty, Wellness, and Rituals

• Wellness from Within

  • Embracing “less is more”: no supplements, focus on hydration, sunlight, breathwork, walking.
  • Journal Speak: a therapeutic, brutal stream-of-consciousness journaling practice (destroying the pages after, to release feelings).
  • Quote:

    “[Journal Speak]...it’s not things you would usually—it's opposite of manifesting. You write and you’re just sort of rage-writing and then you rip it up.” (56:14)

• Beauty Hacks with a Wellness Angle

  • Devotion to de-puffing routines: facial icing/ice roller, and notably, her own collaboration with Clearstem on matcha-infused eye patches (“puffy princess”).
  • Quote:

    “After I ice roll, I want to put something under my eyes...so people don’t see my under eyes.” (39:55)

  • Alyssa and Lauryn discuss demand for these eye patches, and plans for Alyssa to release her own line.

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Insight on Over-Wellness & Histamine Reactions

• Impact of "Overdetoxing" and MCAS

  • Introduction to Mast Cell Activation Syndrome (MCAS) and histamine overload—especially after COVID-19, noting too much sauna, massage, and intense workouts can actually cause more swelling, not less.

  • Alyssa now moderates intensity and leans into walking, gentle movement, and meditation.

  • Quote:

    “Every time I would go to a lymphatic massage, I would get so swollen and puffy, and I was like, ‘This is supposed to do the opposite for me, right?’” (49:00)

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Authentic Routines & Embracing the Present

• Morning & Nighttime Rituals
  • Sunlight first thing in the morning, no phone, journaling, walking, and making or buying a ceremonial matcha—practices to savor and slow down.
  • Value of enjoying the simple phase of life pre-children.
  • Quote:

    “Romanticize the shit out of it...if you do end up having kids, that changes. Like we were talking about phases. And if I were you, I would sip that matcha so slow and relaxed... and just enjoy it and embrace this chapter of your life.” (57:30)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “You gotta write a book about the nervous system, Alyssa.” (28:46, Lauryn)
• “I’ve branded myself as like the puffy princess… Sometimes I wake up and it’s like my eyes are swollen shut.” (39:12, Alyssa)
• “[About detox culture]...We get obsessed with one thing and we don’t realize that if you do that too intensely, there are repercussions.” (51:15, Alyssa)
• “[On the city/nature balance:] New York and LA is my mistress. I suck it, I fuck it, and then I get the fuck out. And I want to marry the birds and the grass…” (36:40, Lauryn)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• Alyssa’s Origin Story & Trauma: 01:30–06:25
• Nervous System & Body’s Warning Signs: 06:25–10:38
• Toxic Patterns & Childhood Roots: 12:04–15:32
• Healing from Victim Mindset: 15:11–16:56
• Hormones, Periods, & Energy Work: 23:11–26:47
• Somatic Release & Holistic Therapy: 27:22–32:48
• The Impact of Environment: 33:20–37:06
• Beauty and Wellness Rituals: 39:12–41:26
• MCAS & Wellness Overload: 47:51–54:11
• Morning & Evening Routines: 54:35–58:21

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Guest Details

• Alyssa Lynch: Find her on all platforms as @alyssalynch. Eye patches and more via Clearstem (check for upcoming preorders or new launches).

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Takeaways

• Healing and self-trust stem from deep awareness, body attunement, and courage to break patterns.
• Overdoing anything—even “good” wellness practices—can backfire; personal balance and listening to the body’s signals are key.
• Rituals, both simple and sensory, are foundational in nervous system regulation.
• Vulnerability in sharing is healing for both self and others, fostering empathy and community.

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Transcript

[Lauren Bostic]

Welcome to the Bostics, starring Lauren Bostic and Michael Bostic. Together, they are the Bostics.

[Michael Bostic]

Girl talk. This is a total girl talk episode. Alyssa lynch and I get into a candid conversation. She opens up in this episode like never before. She shares some really personal experiences in this episode. And she also talks about her journey with self trust and self love. In this episode, you can expect a super open conversation. So we discuss healing, being calm, real grounded, and we really focus on how to build a life that actually feels good, not just one that looks good. Alyssa lynch, welcome to the Bostics. Okay, Alyssa lynch is here. We kicked Michael off the episode because we wanted to have some girl talk. And I think that this episode just didn't need his interjection, if I'm being honest.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I love his interjections, but I'm sorry,

[Michael Bostic]

we're gonna go all over the place. We're gonna talk about healing, old trauma, energy, healers, periods, beauty, health, wellness, skin. And I just don't. Let's just do a feminine energy next time you. Come on. We'll do both. Okay. Welcome to the show.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Thank you.

[Michael Bostic]

So give us a little bit of background on the journey that you have been on the last couple of years. Cause it's been intense. It has, yeah.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Well, going back to when I moved to LA, I think it kind of started. I was 19 and I moved here and I was really excited. I was in a relationship and that's kind of when I got started with social media, because he was in the business and I kind of judged it at first. And then I was like, this actually is just a way to, like, be creative. I mean, this was in 2016. Right. So it was a way to just be creative and have the freedom to do kind of whatever you wanted. And we. It was a really. It was a really traumatizing breakup. I. I know I was only 20 or 21 when the breakup happened, but I was so in love and in fantasyland. And I thought we were buying a house together and having kids together and all these things. He started to get really spiritual. And that's when I. I've always had a spirituality thing inside of me that I've always wanted to explore as well. And so I think I took that as permission. And I was 21. I was like, I'm booking myself this yoga retreat. I met so many lovely girls. And thank goodness for that, because when I got home, I had only been gone for six days. But he had done some type of spiritual drug, which I know is a beautiful experience. For some people, but I think with maybe some of the. Some of his chemical imbalances, that it set something off. I mean, he was in a psychosis and it was traumatizing. He wouldn't snap out of it.

[Michael Bostic]

Psychosis is traumatizing, but it's so traumatizing for another person to experience as well. Like, this is not the same, but similar. My brother. My brother has diabetes, and he had a seizure in front of me. And that's. I feel like that's kind of like a psychosis and totally. And of course it's traumatic for the person having the seizure, but I just remember. And I'm sure you felt the same. Being so affected by. My goodness, by seeing that as someone you love.

[Alyssa Lynch]

It was also hard because it wasn't. There was so much, like, ego that I was being told that I was crazy. And it was so interesting that, you know, he really questioned his sexuality and thought that he was in love with a man and also. Also would. Would do things like meditate at the wheel and get in car accidents from it. No, it was like, my mother was like, sweetheart, come home to Canada, please. And then now everyone, like, now I can laugh about it. And people are like, you need to write, like, a cliche Los Angeles book, you know, because that stuff only, like, happens in stories and movies. But it was reality. And I was just such a. I just. I didn't have any friends here. I didn't have a life here. I did, which was my mistake, and I learned from that. But I really revolved. I was inserted into his life, and I didn't create my own life. And so then having to try and get out of that was really tough. I had health issues come up, and my period stopped, and I lost a lot of weight, and I had such crazy insomnia. I didn't sleep for two and a half years.

[Michael Bostic]

This is wild.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah.

[Michael Bostic]

So it. So it sounds like that this. This relationship, like, affected your entire identity.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah, I think it really, really affected my nervous system. You know, I think my nervous system went into complete, like, shutdown mode. And so I have been working since then to. To heal my nervous system. And I. I've never shared that story before. So a lot of, you know, people, and I am a sensitive person, and I know, like, I think you can relate. I've heard you talk about even, like, when you walk into a room, if it's really fragrant, you're like, ugh, you know?

[Michael Bostic]

Oh, the worst.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Oh, it's the worst. I'm like, I gotta stay at Hotels that have no fragrance. So even on that, like, physical level, I've always been like that. Um, but I do think this certain circumstance really set something off. And the hypersensitivity after that was just, like, really intense.

[Michael Bostic]

I think that when you're at capacity with your nervous system already, and so many of us are, because of all these overhead lights and. And the fragrances and all the different things that are in the world of the food, and then something like that happens. It's like your thermometer, like, just cracks.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah.

[Michael Bostic]

And I. From what I'm seeing in front of me and what I've seen on your social media is, it seems like after this horrible relationship, you went through a lot, but it seems like you also have had this really healing journey of. And I could be wrong. This is my feeling of learning to love yourself, for sure. So I would think when you enter into your next relationship and you'll have to take us on. On with that story, but, like, it seems like you entered in your first one depending on him, and then the second one or the next one, maybe you entered loving yourself.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Absolutely. I think my biggest lesson in this life or in this era, like, 20s, my 20s era is my biggest lessons are through relationships. Like, I have been in relationships. Like, I've been in five serious relationships, and they've been years long. And in between, I'm very single in the sense of, like. Like, I'm not dating. I'm spending all of that time on myself. But I've learned so much. And it's funny how you can. You can get into a relationship after a traumatizing one, and it's just filling the voids that weren't present in the last one. But it doesn't mean it's right. But you're so obsessed with the fact that you're like, oh, my gosh, I've never gotten physical touch, and now I'm getting it with this person, you know, but it doesn't mean that it's right. So. So I've just learned so much about myself throughout my relationships.

[Michael Bostic]

What has it been like for you to have a platform and to have all these people who are wanting to know what happened, and you're just not maybe ready to share every last detail Right. When you're in it?

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah. I think I'm an extremely empathetic person. And so even when someone has hurt me and done things that are just, like, so not okay, I'm so protective over them still. And I just have this sense of, like, I can't. It's not just my business, it's theirs too. And I just can't share that. So I think that's been. But I'm also. It's hard because it's like. It's like I'm fighting myself because I'm also a very open person. And I think the most healing thing is talking and being able to be super vulnerable. And then, you know, when someone can relate or when someone feels seen, like, that's the best feeling to me.

[Michael Bostic]

When. When you were going through this on social and you started to have, like, this nervous system breakdown, how much did you end up sharing and how much did you say for yourself? And is there anything that you want your people who follow you to know that you were like, maybe something that they didn't know was going on behind the scenes that now you want to.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah, I mean, I think I really. Well, that's why I really leaned into wellness after that breakup, because I was like. Felt like I was dying. So I needed all of these wellness habits. It was very obvious. I was £90. I definitely. I don't even. I think the word eating disorder is like, it's never something I was diagnosed with because I never saw a professional. And I just think it's so complex. I look back and I'm like, I don't even know if that's an eating disorder because I think I was just so over. My nervous system was so out of whack that I didn't want to. I was afraid to put certain things into my body because I didn't want to feel worse.

[Michael Bostic]

I also, when I get really, really sad about something, I think some people, they gain weight and some people lose weight. I get sick to, like, even the thought of food when I'm really upset about something. And so you're right. That is a complex word. It is. It's almost like the relationship ending activated that. So I don't know. I mean, I don't know enough about eating disorders, but I just know that sometimes you get so sad and you get so depleted that you just don't want to look at food.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Exactly. And I think a lot of the time people can just think it's, oh, you're just obsessed with your weight and being thin and it's like that. Actually, I didn't even have the capacity to really think about that then.

[Michael Bostic]

It's a lot more complex from what I've. When I've interviewed people who have experienced that, it's not so simple as being vapid about the way you look. Totally that's an important message, I think. Yeah. And I think just because social media shows up in images, that's what, you know, people think there's a lot more sometimes going on behind the scenes that people don't see. And I think, like, people, like, for stories, take stories. You see three to five minutes of someone's day. Like, you don't see my daughter having a tantrum, or like, there's so many idiosyncrasies and things that happen throughout the day that you just don't see.

[Alyssa Lynch]

So true.

[Michael Bostic]

And I think that it's important to

[Alyssa Lynch]

give people grace a thousand percent. And I feel like it's starting, hopefully, to go in more of that direction, because we were in a direction a couple of years ago that gave truly nobody grace, just full assumptions. So I really. Yeah, I really hope so. So that. That was definitely one. And then I think, like, the next relationship I got into, and I did share a lot about that. I mean, I. I moved in with that person the day Covid hit.

[Michael Bostic]

Oh, and the next relationship, you had to quarantine right away with this person

[Alyssa Lynch]

right away with someone who is clinically extremely anxious hypochondriac. And I am someone, like I said, like, I'm so empathetic that it has really hurt me because I. When I see someone sad, I just, like, go into fix, help mode. And I mean, I. Because I grew. My mom had me in high school. My dad was in high school. Like, I just felt like from a really young age, just trying to make sure, like, I'm not in anyone's way, and everything's, like, really solid and good. And, you know, when your parents are teenagers, like, they have emotions, and so you. You can almost come up with ways as a really young child to try and find ways to calm people and to make them happy. And it's like, it's your number one focus. And so that happened again during quarantine. And I talked to so many people who are like, you know, this is bad to say, but, like, quarantine was the best. It was amazing. It was when we all just got together. I'm like, oh, my gosh, I wish my quarantine was horrible.

[Michael Bostic]

That's interesting that your parents had you in high school. Yeah, if I had my children now in high school, I would be a completely different parent than I am now. In fact, if I had had my children 10 years ago, they would have gotten a different parent.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Right.

[Michael Bostic]

That. That is wild to think about. High school is like, you're still processing your own. Your Own stuff, of course. And that makes so much sense that you're saying, like, they had their own stuff and you're trying to, like, help fix it as a little girl. Yeah. That makes a lot of sense though, why you were picking these people.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Absolutely. It was like it was projects. Especially after being so hurt. You were. I was like, okay, I really gave my heart to someone who I thought could hold it. And so I. I know what I'm good at. I'm good at helping other people. And so, you know, it's not all conscious. I'm just. I've really reflected on this and I think I then got into something where I was like, I know my role here. I can help somebody. And in the end, of course, it was like there was so many secrets and cheating and disloyalty that I am usually the most intuitive person, but I was so focused on feeling bad for this person because I did love them. I had so much love for them that all of those, like, intuitions were completely suppressed.

[Michael Bostic]

With what you went through as a child, though, it makes sense that your picker was not the picker that you deserve, for sure. How through each of these relationships have you gotten to a place where you feel like you love yourself enough to attract someone who is worth your time?

[Alyssa Lynch]

I think it's being self aware and really reflecting. Like, you know, I could sit and be like, it's not fair. I was cheated on. I was lied to. I was this. Or I could be like, why have I put myself in that position? And I'm a really like, analytical thinker. I want to understand all of my thoughts.

[Michael Bostic]

You seem very cerebral.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah, yeah. And I. And it's a great thing. Sometimes it gets a little too much where I'm like, okay, just let it go and move on. But I, I think looking back, I'm like, how, you know, what are my patterns? How have I gotten into that? It was almost like I got into the fixer. I need to fix him. And then I went into another relationship after that that was complete settling. It was almost like I had to try different directions to realize more things about myself. And once I was in the one that was settling, I was like, I just woke up one day and this was only like a 10 month relationship, but I woke up one day being like, no, no, no, this is not what I do. And that was just. That was almost the worst one because it was like a slap in the face to myself. It was like, you did this to yourself. You chose this person. And you know, he didn't try to be anything he wasn't. But, but and I don't mean for this to sound egotistical at all, but it was like I am so much higher than and not like better, but like I'm so much more in tune and I can call something in that is that is on the level I'm at.

[Michael Bostic]

You're out of alignment with yourself and for you to be able to recognize that you're right is really self aware. I believe with everything in life and my life that everything is happening for you. I really believe that. Yeah, I think you can look back even if you like look back on everything that you've been through and you're here now. Look at everything that you've learned that's helped you get in alignment to be where you are. You almost have to like course correct to get here for sure.

[Lauren Bostic]

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[Alyssa Lynch]

What's interesting and I know we'll get into. But it's also, it's also funny that, you know, our bodies. What I've really realized too about going through any health issues or hormone issues is that our bodies are always trying to tell us something. And I have never had a period in a relationship. The day I break up with somebody I get my period and the day I get into a relationship I lose it. I am now in a relationship and have had a healthy cycle and it is. And also it's the healthiest relationship I've been in a. By far. I honestly didn't even know it was possible for something to be. I don't like to word the, to use the word easy but to be honest, it is a million times easier than anything I've ever been in. And I just now can look back and be like, oh my gosh, I was so mad at my body for not working properly. But really it was just protecting me I think from being with the wrong person.

[Michael Bostic]

That's wild.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah.

[Michael Bostic]

Because if you had had your period, you could have gotten pregnant with one of these people.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Huh. And I think it's also, you know, to get a little woo woo. The healer that I've worked with is like, of course my mother didn't want to have me in high school. You know, I wasn't planned. It doesn't mean that I was like my mom did the best job ever as a friggin 16 year old. You know, like incredible. But I think you can, when you're in the womb, take some energy from, you know, from your mom. And I think there's been fear in me growing up of having a child with the wrong person. Because no offense to my father, but I think my mom's thought that a

[Michael Bostic]

lot of times, you know, that is so true. I am the most woo woo. And I totally agree that the baby picks up on all of it. I, I've flipped three kids in my stomach. Oh. That were breached. Like that's so. Because they can feel, they can feel it. They can feel what you're feeling. If you're, if you're sad, you can physically. I mean this people are gonna be like, I'm turning this off. But they, they can, they absorb how you're feeling. And so that makes a lot of sense that. But how freeing and liberating for you to be able to understand that so you have the tools to move forward and live this Beautiful life. Imagine if you. You didn't think about and have empathy for your mom at 16 or if you didn't understand maybe how your mother was feeling when she carried you. It's really, to me, it's cool that you have this information.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Exactly. Yeah. And you have to, like, switch out of the victim mindset and just see it that way. And once you do, like, even nervous system dysregulation is just, like, annoying because there's so many components to it and you don't understand. And I think I've had so many, like, inflammation issues and, like, body aches and pains. And the moment, and this is honestly a really recent thing, the moment I started to, like, surrender to those uncomfortabilities and be like, this is information. This isn't my body punishing me. It's it trying to show me a sign for something. It alleviates so much.

[Michael Bostic]

It's so interesting for me to hear that you have inflammation issues, because when I look at you, you guys got to pull up her Instagram if you can't see her or go watch the YouTube. But I know a lot of people know you. Inflammation would not be on my bingo card for you. You don't look inflamed to me.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Thank you.

[Michael Bostic]

Like, I don't.

[Alyssa Lynch]

It is a thing, though. I will say, like, I, you know, my. My boobs go two sizes bigger. I carry. Will carry 10 pounds of water retention and like, if I really work on my nervous system over four days, it will go away.

[Michael Bostic]

What does that look like, working on your nervous system to get rid of inflammation?

[Alyssa Lynch]

So a lot of it. A lot of the practices that I've learned come from Brian, who I've worked with a lot.

[Michael Bostic]

Yeah, tell us about this.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah, so he. It's hard to title him. I don't even know how he titles himself, but I think it's like cranial reflexology meets fascial work meets. He's just really good at nervous system help, especially with women. And there's a lot of, like, breath work is really good for me because, you know, some people are like, anxious minds. I'm more of an anxious body. And so I. And like I said, I like to understand and know everything. And sometimes my body is reacting and my mind feels good. Like, I'm like, I'm chill. I'm not anxious. It's not like I have rumerating thoughts, but I will have, like, my body feels adrenaline. Like it could run a Marathon at 10pm and I'm like, what is going on? So I know that my nervous system's dysregulated or I'll get hives all over my chest or my eyelashes fall out. Like I don't have any eyelashes anymore. Which is also, I guess a sign of. Yeah. Of mineral deficiency because of nervous system dysregulation.

[Michael Bostic]

You gotta write a book about the nervous system, Alyssa.

[Alyssa Lynch]

There's so much to it.

[Michael Bostic]

Wow.

[Alyssa Lynch]

So I use the app open and I just will do like a 5 minute breathwork or meditation. That has really helped. But when I'm doing those, I literally imagine it's usually my pelvis area that holds trauma or just emotion in general. It blocks me from creativity. It feels really heavy. And it's like every time I like breathe into that area and try and imagine it going down out of my feet, it's amazing. I'll usually like cry for five minutes straight and then feel so relieved after.

[Michael Bostic]

This is going to sound off the beaten path.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I'm here for it.

[Michael Bostic]

So have you ever gotten work on your pelvic floor where they go up you with fingers? No. You gotta try it. So. Yes. Yes. You gotta try it. Something's calling me to tell you this. Okay.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Okay.

[Michael Bostic]

There's a woman in Austin that after I had a baby, she. Your pelvic floor. Like, think about all that trauma from birth. But also what you're saying. There's something in your pelvic floor. I mean, that's. This is my own. This is Dr. Lauren.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I love Dr. Lauren. Give it to me.

[Michael Bostic]

She goes up you with gloves and she adjusts not only your pelvic floor, she almost takes pressure off your organs inside. Right. And it is amazing. And she does it for about an hour. Wow. She also goes up the butthole. I have not done that one yet. I'm gonna let Taylor be the guinea pig for that one. But this is a real thing. It's like. It's cranial sacral inside.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Well, it makes sense if they're. You have organs and muscles and everything up there as well. And it's like there's only so much. I mean, Brian definitely doesn't go up there. That would. That would.

[Michael Bostic]

That's why I'm.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I go to a woman.

[Michael Bostic]

Oh, you go to a woman. That's why I'm recommending Dr. Maria in Austin. I'm obsessed with her. She like doesn't even have social media. She's the best.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Love that.

[Michael Bostic]

But I think that you should look into adjustment in the pelvic floor. If anyone. If anyone listening, any recommendations for us? It really. For you I feel like you would love it.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Well, that's the treatment or the sessions that we do. I'm lying down and he pushes on different places in my body and will be like. I mean, I don't even know why he does it. He's like, okay, is it sore here? Yeah. Okay, I gotta go up to your head now. And now I'm gonna put pressure on your head, and I will feel the craziest release, the biggest one, and I've never. I don't know if you've ever had this done, is when he puts gloves on and goes inside of my mouth. There's a spot up above your teeth, like, up here. Up, like, almost towards your nose and. And then back also behind your teeth. And he will put pressure on it, and it is the craziest emotional release. He said he's done it to, like, marines that have been carrying so much trauma. And when he does it, they will cry like little babies, and they're like, I haven't cried in 20 years. You know? And one time I did it bawled my eyes out. The next time I did it, could not stop laughing. It was like. That was my emotional release. Like, so much like hysterical laughing.

[Michael Bostic]

That's trauma in your fascia. It is. Yeah. Yeah. Try that pelvic floor thing.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I'm going to.

[Michael Bostic]

It's really. I know, guys, it sounds crazy.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I'm going to. I'm going to fly to Austin to get someone's hands up.

[Michael Bostic]

Next time you're there, I'll set. I'll set it up for you. You. And it's. She, like, it takes pressure off your hips, especially if you already know what I'm talking about, because you did the mouth one. Yeah. It's the same.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Oh, yeah.

[Michael Bostic]

Vibe. It's just your vagina.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Right, Right. Perfect. Can't wait.

[Michael Bostic]

Taylor. Don't get any ideas. Taylor's like, googling, like, pelvic floor banging porn right now.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Okay.

[Michael Bostic]

You never know what you're gonna get. I love it. How has moving to Ojai and out of LA and out of this energy helped you heal your nervous system? And what are things that you're doing on a daily basis to allow yourself to flourish? Okay.

[Alyssa Lynch]

So I've learned so much, again, about myself throughout this move because. And I'm sure you can relate the over stimulation here in Los Angeles, especially as someone who's, like, in the business and always, like, putting themselves in situations that, you know, people are networking and talking and that. It's a lot. And that's why I'm so grateful. I feel like my friend group is quite rare. Everyone is in the industry, but I don't think people realize that. 99.9% of the time that is not documented. There's no photos taken. We're off of our phones. It's been a, like, thank goodness for them. Like, leaving my entire family and moving here as one, just by myself. Having them is everything. It's been really healing and amazing. But even with that, like, LA was just. Yeah, it was getting too much. And I finally. I met someone who really related to me on that. Like, he is the best at being so social, and he's incredibly adaptable, which I think is a really great skill. But he wants to be near the grass and the dirt and hear birds chirping in the morning, not sirens and trucks and all of that. So we moved up there, and it's so beautiful. We're on, like, 11 acres and it's like, it's so nice. You don't have a neighbor in sight. It's beautiful. Right? But then I also realized, and I think this is the funny thing, is that you can talk to people and be like, I'm overstimulated. And they're like, well, you're a highly sensitive person. You need to be. Yeah, you need to move somewhere, like, out of. In the middle of nowhere and doing nothing. What I realized about myself, though, is I also, because I noticed this when I was going to New York, that I, like, loved it. I love New York. I love walking around. I don't like going to New York and having a schedule from 8am to 8 to 10pm that is a no, no good. But I love being there because I think with this incredibly analytical mind of mine and needing to understand everything, it can get to be a lot, like, in my head. And so being in New York and being able to observe everybody else and, like, everything around you and no one's paying attention to you. It's like, it gets you out of your mind. And I'm inspired. I'm creatively inspired a lot by. By that. So it was an interesting thing for me because I almost felt, like, bored in Ojai, but also my nervous system was taking an exhale. But to an extent, then it would get anxious because I'm like, I'm stuck. I'm. I'm. I'm not inspired enough. So it's just interesting. You can learn, like, different things about yourself. And I think obviously not everyone has the ability to travel a lot, but I think that's why, like, having A home base that is calm. But getting in this phase of life to travel to places that creatively inspire me is.

[Michael Bostic]

Is the perfect recipe that I feel the same way. Yeah, I say this all the time. Like New York and LA is my mistress. I suck it, I fuck it, and then I get the fuck out. And I want to marry the birds and the grass and I want to wake up and walk in the street with my baby in my pajamas. Like, I don't want to run to anyone. I just want to be low, low, low vibes. Right?

[Alyssa Lynch]

I completely feel the same way. I made a TikTok the other day and I was like, I love that I moved to farm Town, but I'm in LA right now. I have my fricking overpriced, expensive coconut water matcha. I just went to skims and bought something that Kylie Jenner was wearing, and I am a hoe for this shit.

[Michael Bostic]

Where is the matcha? And what is the thing that you bought that she's wearing?

[Alyssa Lynch]

Oh, my gosh. I bought like a one piece crazy one piece swimsuit. Cause I'm entering that era from skims,

[Michael Bostic]

but everyone's googling it.

[Alyssa Lynch]

But it's super fitted. I was like, I want something more chic. I don't always want my boobs to just be out in a bikini.

[Michael Bostic]

You do have great boobs.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Thanks. Thanks. They're a lot sometimes my mother just got a reduction and she's trying to influence me and I am like, don't touch your boobs.

[Michael Bostic]

They look so good.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I'm gonna wait till I have kids, but then maybe a reduction in a lift.

[Michael Bostic]

You know what? I think you look great.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Thank you.

[Michael Bostic]

Thank you, Dr. Lauren. And then what's the cocon matcha? Where do we get that? That sounds good.

[Alyssa Lynch]

So I get it actually right down the street. I get. If I'm getting iced, I get it from Sun Life and I get the matcha. So they have, like, already curated recipes for their matcha, but you can custom make them. So I get a matcha iced, no milk, coconut water.

[Michael Bostic]

From Sun Life.

[Alyssa Lynch]

From Sun Life. And then I get a little dollop of the coconut cold foam.

[Michael Bostic]

Khalil, did you hear that? You should do the Alyssa on the menu.

[Alyssa Lynch]

We did what? It's not there anymore. We did it for, like, a certain amount of time, but we did a. Actually a matcha affogato. So it was pouring matcha on their, like, ice cream, and it was a hit. And then we also did a smoothie. But yeah, I'm. I love him. And I love Sun Life.

[Michael Bostic]

A Matcha Affogato.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I know, it was fun.

[Michael Bostic]

That's amazing. Yeah. What are some beauty things that you do that also have, like, a little bit of wellness in them? I know you're very into the hacks and the optimization.

[Alyssa Lynch]

You know, not. Not saying this just because I'm here, but the, like, your especially travel size ice roller is. Is everything. I love like a facial ice dunk as well, but sometimes that's incredibly messy and I'm traveling or whatever. So just being able to go everywhere with that is so great. Cause I'm. I mean, I've. I mean, at this point, I've branded myself as like the puffy princess, where, like, sometimes I wake up and it's like my eyes are swollen shut. So that whole process to debuff, it's long. But that has saved my life.

[Michael Bostic]

You're such a big proponent of the ice roller. I always see, I'm like, you're amazing.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Well, and then I created eye patches because I was like, these bags are so crazy that after I ice roll, I want to put something under my eyes to go on a walk or to go get a coffee so people don't see my under eyes.

[Michael Bostic]

Are those the green ones?

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah. They're not. They just sold out.

[Michael Bostic]

Okay. Cause it's really funny. I was on your Instagram today doing research, and I saw you in those green iPads. I didn't realize they were yours.

[Alyssa Lynch]

So I wanted to create my own eyepatch and I was working with Clearstem and I went to them and I said, I'm gonna do this with or without you, but I would love to do it with you because I trust your formulations, I trust your products. Someone with. I. I struggled with, like, dermatitis, which is just like a bitch, you know, it's hard to know where. Why it's happening. And so I went to them and I said, I want them to be infused with Matcha because green tea is great for the skin and de puffing. And I also love Matcha and it's aesthetic and brand worthy and all of that. So we did it. They said, wake me up all over them. And they're the best eye patches. Like, they really are. It's hard to find eye patches that stay on. And I can do like a heated sweat class with them and they stay. They stay on.

[Michael Bostic]

And I need some of these eye patches.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I'll get you some.

[Michael Bostic]

And the best is when you ice roll over the eye patch. It's so good.

[Alyssa Lynch]

The best feeling because These ones, too, like, they already give you that kind of, like, tingling feeling of waking you up. So with the ice roller over top, it's great. I am thinking about launching my own because people are really sad that they're not there anymore.

[Michael Bostic]

It's so funny. When I saw your page, I was like, those eye patches are cute. I was, like, literally about to look at them, and then I was getting my hair cut. So I changed and I saw them. They're, like, very aesthetic.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah, I think it's. I mean, as, you know, as someone who owns a very aesthetic, aesthetic wellness brand, like, they're important. It's important. It drives people to be curious about it.

[Lauren Bostic]

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[Michael Bostic]

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[Alyssa Lynch]

I know. So working on it.

[Michael Bostic]

We love Clear Stem. Clearstem's amazing.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Clear Stem also launched their own eye patches. So it's very similar. A little different, but very similar. So those are now available.

[Michael Bostic]

Well, maybe you can put like a pre order button for this episode.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I will.

[Michael Bostic]

Because that would be really fun for them to be able to go support, support everything you're doing. What are other things you do? Red light workout? Are we lifting weights? Are you runner? What? What are you doing?

[Alyssa Lynch]

Okay. So recently I have learned about myself that I don't know. Have you guys ever had anyone on the podcast talk about MCAS Mast cell activation syndrome or like histamine overload?

[Michael Bostic]

I've heard that word. But we've never had anyone on the show, so tell us.

[Alyssa Lynch]

So there's like, a few, like, super talented professionals that honestly, like, you should get on the show. Because I feel like MCAs or histamine issues weren't a very. They were more of a rare thing. But since COVID happened, these. You know, you've heard of long Covid, right?

[Michael Bostic]

Where people.

[Alyssa Lynch]

It has. People with long Covid, it has really affected their histamine response. And so a lot of people now, and the more I talk about it with people, I mean, it's just wild how many people are on antihistamines every day.

[Michael Bostic]

I have a rash all over my legs right now, and I can't figure out what it's from.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Just try and take a Pepcid and a Claritin and see what happens, why it goes away. That's when I realized it was a histamine thing I couldn't figure out. Every time I would go to a lymphatic massage, a buccal massage, I would go and do a crazy hard workout. Sauna, sauna. I would get so swollen and puffy, and I was like, this is supposed to do the opposite for me, right? And I think. I mean, the wellness industry, it's, like, obsessed with detoxing because we have to. We live in a world where the environment is so bad that we have to detox. But then people are having these histamine responses. So what I think about it is I think about how they kind of describe it as like, you have a bucket and every thing. Like, one lymphatic massage is one glass in the bucket. One hard workout is another glass in the bucket. And your body can only handle so much much until your histamine is over or it's overloading, and then your histamine responds to it. So mast cell activation syndrome is like your white blood cells are almost firing off alarms at all times because your system is just overloaded. So I started to realize that, like,

[Michael Bostic]

you were doing too much while I

[Alyssa Lynch]

was doing too much.

[Michael Bostic]

And so that's interesting.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I'm still figuring out what workouts and what works for me. But if you would have told me two years ago that I would go two weeks without working out, I would have been like, you're crazy. But that is my reality right now. I'm walking, I'm meditating, and I will do like a 10 to 15 minute, like, whether it's Melissa Wood workout or Megan Roop workout, like, at my house, because I just feel like I can trust that versus I used to go into that heated room every day and do, you know, a really intense workout, and it just started not working for me.

[Michael Bostic]

I'm not a fan of the heat. Yeah. The heat of the workout. I love sauna, but I'm not a fan of heated rooms. It feels like a lot of bacteria.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Totally.

[Michael Bostic]

I don't know why I've always felt like that.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah, it needs to be a really clean studio, too, to, like, make my mind at ease.

[Michael Bostic]

But then also, I'm like. But then we're putting Windex all over the studio, and then we're heating it up. I. I've always. There's something about that that feels.

[Alyssa Lynch]

No, you're really onto something too. Because I feel like everyone gets obsessed with something, and then, you know, it's. It's our society. We get obsessed with one thing, and we don't realize that if you do that too intensely, there are repercussions. It's like, if you only focus on protein, then you're gonna lack fiber and, like. You know what I mean?

[Michael Bostic]

Also, if you. What I'm seeing too, is people eating too much meat and then you get iron.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Exactly.

[Michael Bostic]

Like, you have an iron influx and.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Exactly.

[Michael Bostic]

And that's a problem. You're so right. And you're really onto something with that. It's. It's. It. I hate to say the word balance, but it is, like a balancing act of, like, not going too hard. I'm such an intense person.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Me too.

[Michael Bostic]

Like, when I cold plunge, I want to be in there for five minutes in the most freezing cold. And it needs to be. So Michael is. He's a fourth Japanese, so he's very. He's very. He eats until he's 80% full and he's done. And, like, what's that? Like, it's so weird to watch. I've never heard of.

[Alyssa Lynch]

That Must be so nice. That must be your. His mind must just be kind of like, gosh, I'm jealous of that because I'm not the same. I get. I'm. And I think this is. This is. What I mean is this is just me trying to break certain too intense habits.

[Michael Bostic]

It's hard. Like, I want the water freezing cold, and that's not like you want it. Like, I feel like the intensity has gotta be a response to something, though. Like.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Right.

[Michael Bostic]

Like, what is. What is it that, like, makes you want to be so intense?

[Alyssa Lynch]

Well, I think, too. I think back to, you know, my childhood and where I grew up. Like, no shade to anyone. Where I grew up but they are all doing the same job and they're coasting and. And maybe some of them are really happy. But to me, viewing that growing up, terrifying. Like, terrifying. I was always. I mean, at six years old, I sat my family down and I was like, I'm going to move to Hollywood and I will miss you. And it's like a joke we all joke about now because they always thought I was bullshit. And the moment I graduated, I was like, bye, guys. And I just wanted to be around people who were so inspiring. And so you have to go through times of being intense. You know, I think I heard you and Michael talking about one time of like, how there was a point in your guys career where you're like, you don't sleep, you go intense. But like, that's a phase of life. And then at a certain point you have to also be like, okay, sleep is. I get to sleep now. I get to create this life because I went through the intensity that I now get to create a life that I'm able to manage the intensity. I have the tools now. And I'm also gonna take time to not be so intense.

[Michael Bostic]

I think you're right. I think the intensity works until it doesn't.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Exactly.

[Michael Bostic]

And if you can't pivot when the intensity works, you end up being very burnt out. You have to come back on the show with Michael too, because I feel like we got some girl talk out of the way. But before you go, you have to tell us about your morning and nighttime routine rituals. Cause I feel like you're probably really ritualistic.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah, I am. I am.

[Michael Bostic]

That doesn't surprise me.

[Alyssa Lynch]

My morning, I mean, it's nothing like revolutionary, but my morning is sunlight. First thing, like you can ask my boyfriend, he grabs the phone and I'm so offended. I'm offended.

[Michael Bostic]

It's actually disgusting. I think it's so gross. We can't open an eyelid without grabbing the phone. It's. I'm sorry, I get cold.

[Alyssa Lynch]

And he's like, what's wrong? And I'm like, you've just been.

[Michael Bostic]

Have you ever seen the throw up emoji? Like the one that's like barfing everywhere? That's how I feel when Michael does that.

[Alyssa Lynch]

That's how I feel.

[Michael Bostic]

I literally. It's a turn off. Oh.

[Alyssa Lynch]

And I like this like wave of like anger comes over me. I want to grab it and throw it and I want to.

[Michael Bostic]

No one's ever said that the way, like I feel the same way. I'm like angry.

[Alyssa Lynch]

No, I'm annoyed. So I open the blinds and I get sunlight because that's what's good for our eyes. And I used to do, like, hot water with lemon and all of these supplements. And to be honest, I've realized that less is more. I, like, don't. I just kind of cut all the supplements right now, and I'm just like. Like, drinking water. Like, I know it's crazy, but, like, yeah, hydrate. It feels good. It feels great. And then I do this thing called journal speak. Have you heard of that? It's really helping me. You pretty much. Nicole Sachs created it. You write down everything you're thinking in your brain. It. It can be. And it usually is so ruthless. Like, it is not things you would usually. It's like, the opposite of manifesting. Like, if you.

[Michael Bostic]

Is it like the morning pages?

[Alyssa Lynch]

No. It's like, I am worthless. I'm useless. I feel fat. I feel like. I mean, like, you wouldn't want to see my pages. It's bad. But what you do is you write, and you're just. You're kind of like, rage writing. And then you rip it up and you throw it away, and it's really therapeutic and nice.

[Michael Bostic]

And after you see him on the phone, you can be like, yeah, he's awful. Disgusting. Ew.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah. So I do that, and then I make a matcha or I go get one, and I just, like, go on a walk. And that's my morning routine.

[Michael Bostic]

I'm gonna tell all you girls out there something. All you girls that don't have children, you better be enjoying your matcha morning where you can.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Oh, I'm trying. Every moment.

[Michael Bostic]

I do enjoy every second. I know I will pick up a pen and sit down at the table. It gets ripped out of my hand. I'm hungry. There's not. Right as I'm about to write my rage.

[Alyssa Lynch]

No, you need to, like, lock yourself in a closet.

[Michael Bostic]

But that's okay. I'm in this phase in my life, and I love it. And it's so intense in the morning with children. But my point is, to everyone who does not have children now is. Love your morning.

[Alyssa Lynch]

I know.

[Michael Bostic]

Embrace your morning.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Romanticize the shit out of it.

[Michael Bostic]

Yes. Because if you do end up having kids, that changes. Like, we were talking about phases. And if I were you, I would sip that matcha, so slow and relaxed, and I would just write as slow as you can and just enjoy it and embrace this chapter of your life. And, I mean, my advice is don't, like, feel like you have to, like, rush anything Just be in the moment. It's really amazing. I look back on my mornings before kids and it's different. And not one's better than the other. They're both very fulfilling.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Totally.

[Michael Bostic]

It's just, I just think people who do not have children need to understand that you're. You're lucky, right?

[Alyssa Lynch]

Yeah. There's nothing worse than seeing someone who doesn't have children and has the ability to have that morning of freedom that doesn't take advantage of it and goes into full, like, gotta get to work at 7:30. And then my meeting's at 8:30. And then this, I'm like, just breathe,

[Michael Bostic]

like slow down, breathe and do your journal speak. I'm gonna do that. Maybe though, when Michael picks up his phone and I'm alone in the hotel, I'm gonna send you something really funny. Okay. Thank you for coming on. Where can everyone find you if they want to check out the iPads, where can they grab them? Maybe they're on pre order.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Well, yeah, thank you so much for having me. Yes, you can look on Clearstem's website, there still might be some available. They're available until they're sold out and then I might just make my own. So stay tuned for that. But you can find me at Alyssa lynch on all platforms.

[Michael Bostic]

Thank you for coming on the show.

[Alyssa Lynch]

Thanks for having me.