
#804: Join us as we sit down with Teddi Mellencamp – reality TV star, entrepreneur, & accountability coach. From her early days navigating Hollywood to starring in Bravo’s hit show, The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Teddi is no stranger to...
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Lauren Everts
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Michael Bostick
Teddy Mellencamp, like never before, truly. She said it on her Instagram story. She said she was preparing to come on this show, and she was mentally preparing and just getting ready, getting in. Getting in the headspace to come on. We discussed all different kinds of life experiences on this episode. She was very candid and open. I think you're gonna see a different side of Teddi, which is what I was most excited about. I am a housewives connoisseur, and I got to know her in a different way on this episode. Beverly Hills Real Housewives star. She's also a podcast host. She runs a huge powerhouse brand called all in by Teddy, and she has helped over 35,000 people transform their lives. With that, get ready for some real talk inspiration and actionable tips to help you unlock your potential. Let's welcome the incredible Teddi Mellencamp to the show.
Lauren Everts
This is the Skinny Confidential, him and her.
Michael Bostick
Teddi Mellencamp, welcome to the show.
Teddi Mellencamp
Hi, guys.
Michael Bostick
Do you know what a housewife connoisseur I am?
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, really? Yeah.
Michael Bostick
You might. I. I might have to come on your show. I might be better at dissecting everything than the housewives you have on.
Teddi Mellencamp
Well, I'm no longer on Beverly.
Michael Bostick
No, no, no. I know, but I mean, come on your podcast. No, not on Beverly Hills.
Teddi Mellencamp
I was like, I need to come.
Michael Bostick
On your housewives, like, podcast.
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, on the two T's. Yes, you have to come. That would be perfect if, like, Tam's out sick or Erica is not available. You've got to come on, because I need your hot takes. And what's your favorite franchise?
Michael Bostick
My favorite franchise is I have three Beverly Hills. Cause, I mean, I feel like everyone loves the glitz, the glamour, the dynamics. I love Salt Lake. Cause I love Meredith Marks. Oh, we partied with Meredith Marks in Where Were We?
Lauren Everts
We've been a few places.
Michael Bostick
A few places. And she's very fun.
Teddi Mellencamp
She is very fun. Did you watch the season finale, Salt Lake, yet?
Michael Bostick
I haven't. Ruin it for me.
Teddi Mellencamp
I'm not gonna ruin it for you. But it's very hard when you see people in real life and you hang out with them in real life, and then you watch them on the show and you see this completely different side of somebody, and you're like, hold on. Now I have to recap what I just saw. Even though I know that I liked you in person.
Michael Bostick
I know. But here's my thing. It's like a soap opera. Like, I feel like you guys have to lay it on a little bit, so I'm okay with the juxtaposition.
Teddi Mellencamp
I don't mind at all if somebody's more dramatic or they're stirring it or whatever it may be. I don't like when people get up and leave.
Michael Bostick
Oh, well, don't tell me. I haven't seen.
Teddi Mellencamp
Well, she does every episode, so it's pretty easy to never.
Michael Bostick
Maybe she should make, like, merch about leaving.
Lauren Everts
I'm the one where I will peripheral these things. But then when I meet the person in real life, then I get super vested, and now I'm, like, yelling at people on the screen if they're mean to people I've met. You know? I mean. Yeah, because now I'm like, oh, I'm connected.
Teddi Mellencamp
So you're. You're invested in it once that happens.
Michael Bostick
My other franchise, my third one, is Potomac.
Teddi Mellencamp
Potomac.
Michael Bostick
Because I feel like there is so much shade.
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, it's.
Michael Bostick
It's the most shadiest of shades of shades, and they don't give a fuck.
Teddi Mellencamp
Well, they don't care because they all are. Like, I'm getting that paycheck no matter what. And, like, we're going for it. And. But, I mean, they can kind of on Potomac. You know, they'll take it so far that you're like, you know, at some point people are going to watch this back, and some of those people are going to be your kids.
Michael Bostick
It's going to be pretty wild. I'm not going to lie. If you want to see the shadiest show on television, it's Potomac.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
So I want to go back to when you were a little girl. What was it like growing up with your parents?
Teddi Mellencamp
I would say. I mean, people always want it to be this, like, fairy tale of a story. Well, I'm sorry to disappoint. My parents met. My dad hadn't, like, had his first hit yet, but he was already, like, in the music industry starting out. He'd come out, met my mom at the Rainbow room. She was 18 years old, and they had, like, a relationship. He was married back in Indiana, and then she got pregnant with me and we moved to Indiana. And that's kind of how my life came to be. And then his first hit, Jack and Diane, was the year that I was born, 1981. And then they were divorced by. I had a little sister. I still do her name's Justice. And they were divorced by the time I was in the third grade.
Michael Bostick
So was your childhood fairly normal, even though your dad was so famous?
Teddi Mellencamp
I don't remember probably 90% of my childhood.
Lauren Everts
Why is that?
Teddi Mellencamp
Like, I'm one of those people that if you show me a picture, I pretend in my head that I remember it, but I don't fully remember it. My parents, you know, once they got a divorce, my mom got our vacation house and then decided to move us there full time. So my dad lived in Indiana, and my sister and myself and my mom moved to Hilton Head Island, South Carolina.
Michael Bostick
So how did your dad manage everything he was doing on tour and being like, this rock star and having kids? Like, what is that like?
Teddi Mellencamp
Well, I think, you know, I had an older sister already, but, I mean, it was. I mean, I don't want to say too much because it's my dad and my mom, but, like, it was a brutal divorce. It was all of the things that you hope it's not going to be. And, you know, so the visitations, the, you know, all of it, it was strained for quite some time.
Michael Bostick
What were you like as a little girl?
Teddi Mellencamp
I was kind of always that overachiever looking for attention, kind of having to figure it all out on my own. Also very sensitive. I'm a cancer. So, like, things hit me really hard. But I'm going to pretend that they.
Michael Bostick
Don'T overachiever you know what? Michael and I are first children, too. We understand what is in the soup with the first kids. They all want to overachieve. It's like how they get attention. It's across the board.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. I think it's also because not only are you the first, but you have this need. And I think, especially for me, I don't know if your guys parents are together, but, like, for me, when I was with my mom or when I was with my dad, I wanted to make them happy and I wanted to make them feel proud. So I kind of did everything inside of myself to try to do that. And then when I realized I probably couldn't, then that's when I got really into riding horses and did that, like, traveled around pretty much from the time I was in the 6th grade till I aged out till I was 18. Just traveling around with my horse trainers and doing that.
Michael Bostick
You're very good at horse riding, huh?
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, thank you.
Michael Bostick
You know, his mom is too. His mom played polo.
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, cool.
Lauren Everts
I think she was one of the only women to win, or maybe the first woman to win the Spreckles Cup. Oh, she used to play with men, too. It used to scare the shit out of me. Yeah, it's because the, like. I mean, you know, polo, if, you know, like, it's. It's my sister.
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, it's intense.
Lauren Everts
Yeah, she did. My sister did. What is it? Competitive riding where you do the jumps and all.
Teddi Mellencamp
That's what I do.
Lauren Everts
So that, to me, was a bit safer. But my mom was out there, like, the mallet and that ball and, like, going with men. It was crazy. It used to scare me as a kid.
Teddi Mellencamp
Well, equestrian is one of the only sports where men compete against women.
Michael Bostick
Huh. Huh?
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, like, there's no. It's, you know, even now that I'm an amateur, I got my amateur status back. It's, you know, 36 and over. They show against each other.
Michael Bostick
I didn't know that.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
I just really want to wear those pants. What's the brand of the pants that I should get to look like you guys?
Teddi Mellencamp
They're called dada.
Michael Bostick
Okay.
Teddi Mellencamp
D A, D A. But you'll probably want to get a black pair because then it's, like, super cute. You can't really tell that they're riding pants.
Michael Bostick
Okay. Especially right now. I need a black pair. You know what I mean? Stop.
Teddi Mellencamp
Congratulations. Thank you, by the way.
Michael Bostick
Thank you very much. Yeah, I definitely need a black pair. You have been so open about your struggle with your weight, and that's Actually, one of the reasons that I connected with you, which we can talk about later, but when you were a little girl, did you struggle with that, or was that not till later on after your pregnancies?
Teddi Mellencamp
So when I was a little girl, I struggled with it in the way that I didn't nourish my body properly or really enough. And then I moved to Los Angeles when I was 17, and I had stopped riding horses, and I, you know, started working the mailroom at caa, and I wanted to be an actress, and I was a hostess at Eurochow and Mr. Chow. And I was just trying to make things work, living in a studio apartment with a girl I met in acting school. And I would probably say within the first seven months of living here, I probably had gained, like, 70 pounds. Like, it was. It was a lot.
Michael Bostick
Which you're tiny in person. It's like, on the show, you guys all look so, like, tall. Yeah, you just look like. I don't know. You're just a tiny framed person.
Teddi Mellencamp
I'm very short. So it's like it was. I was kind of eating my feelings. I guess I had come from, you know, whether it was the horse world or growing up in Hilton Head, South Carolina, like, a very. Like, I was a big fish in a small pond. And then I came out here, and it was like a dime a dozen. You know, there was nothing that really set anything apart. And then, you know, you add wanting to be an actor into it, and I had gained. I had gained probably, like, £40. And then I was still, like, touch and go going on auditions. And then I booked something, and then between the time of when I booked it to when the pilot started, I had gained more weight. And when I went in for my, like, meeting and fitting and all the things, they were like, teddi needs to lose weight or she can't have this job.
Michael Bostick
What'd you do?
Teddi Mellencamp
I never auditioned for another acting job again.
Michael Bostick
Whoa, we gotta get you back into acting.
Teddi Mellencamp
No, I'm not even good at it. It was just another way to try to, like, fill the void that I have inside of me.
Michael Bostick
When. When you're trying to act like that in Los Angeles and your dad is who he is. Are you saying I'm not even gonna pretend that's my dad? Or are you, like. Like, I guess not texting at the time, calling him and being like, hey, can you help me?
Teddi Mellencamp
I never asked him for any entertainment, like, that type of help. Yes. He got me my interview at CAA to work in the mailroom, and then I worked my way up, met agents, managers, those types of things. But no, I mean, in Hilton Head, where I grew up. Yes. Like, he would come to a volleyball game and, you know, a couple of the moms would be like, ooh. But, like, it wasn't a big deal. It wasn't until I started working for an agent. And I forget where. He wanted dinner reservations, but he's like, can you get dinner reservations? Blah, blah. And I'm like, I tried. I can't get it. You know, at this time, I had, like, a real southern draw. I'm like, I tried. I can't get it. He's like, one, like, we need you to lose your accent. And two, drop your name. It'll get us in. And I'm like, what do you mean, drop your name? And he's like, say Mellencamp. And that was like, I had never done that before. I didn't even know that was a thing. And then it was, you know. Yes, there are times I used it to my advantage to get into Joseph's on a Monday night. But, like, I didn't use it for work.
Michael Bostick
If I had that last name when I was young, I would have been a fucking terror. I would have been calling the top restaurants and being like, mellencamp, Lauren Mellencamp.
Teddi Mellencamp
My dad's sister's name's Laura.
Michael Bostick
So that I would have been a nightmare. At 16.
Lauren Everts
You gotta use what you can use.
Michael Bostick
Yeah. I would've been on the bar. Like, I would.
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, my first couple years in la, they were a. You know, it was dicey. It was like, okay to get in this club to do that, but it never was. I, like, did I walk in and meet with, like, a casting director? And I was like, Then afterwards, call my dad. He'd be like, go fuck yourself. Deal with it. You know, like, get your own job. You know, like, I don't know.
Michael Bostick
After you gained 70 pounds, did you go on a journey to lose it? What did you do? Because I want to get to what you do now, and I want to know the process of how you got there.
Teddi Mellencamp
It was kind of multiple times throughout my life, you know, the gaining of the weight and the losing the weight and kind of putting my identity into it, which I now think is kind of the first time that I've, you know, in these last eight years, I've been like, my life isn't actually about how much I weigh, you know, since I started all in. But at that point in time, you know, I had gone after the acting bust, I went Back to riding horses. It naturally came off again because I went back to my same unhealthy patterns. And then, you know, I met my husband. Well, I guess my soon to be ex husband. And that's when I quit riding and tried to get pregnant. And I couldn't get pregnant. Had like a couple miscarriages, went through ivf, had my daughter slate and then had my son cruise. You know, it was the first time in my life I wasn't, like, making my own money. And people often think, like, oh, she must have this fat trust fund or all this. No, like, when I came to la, I came out with my Jetta. You know, I lived in my studio apartment. Like, there wasn't that. And that's fine. I'm so grateful that he didn't do that because it's taught me to be a fighter. But it was the first time, you know, I'm with a man who is, you know, the breadwinner. He's in charge, and I have kids and I feel like I almost kind of lost myself. I kind of became like a misery loves company person. Like, let's all bring, you know, at these mommy and me's, let's all get together and complain about our lives. And, you know, it got to the point where I didn't even want to be in a photograph with my kids because I felt so uncomfortable in my own skin. But yet I wasn't really doing anything about it. I wasn't moving my body, I wasn't eating. Even things that, like, would nourish my body, you know, like, it was just. I hated myself.
Lauren Everts
What do you mean by misery loves company? And how does that even manifest itself?
Teddi Mellencamp
Like, you surround yourself with other people. Like, you can either surround yourself with other people that are gonna lift you up and you're gonna feel good and you're gonna motivate each. Yeah. You know, on my life and granted, some of these friends that I had, you know, when I first had my kids are still my best friends now. But at that point in our lives, we weren't there. We weren't like, okay, we feel like crap or we feel low or we have postpartum or whatever it may be, let's go on a hike. We'd be like, all right, let's sit here and eat crap and cry and talk and vent and let our kids play around together. Like, it really was kind of that place. And then finally, you know, my marriage was. Was not great. I had no kind of financial freedom of my own because I didn't make any Money. And even if he didn't say it, I wasn't one of those people that felt comfortable. Just, like, we didn't have. Like, I felt like, can I go get my nails done? You know, like, it became one of those things. And so I started an Instagram. It was a bad name. Ally. Workout junkie. And I said, I'm going to change my life today. Follow along if you're interested. And I did that for 365 days. Never had a client. Wasn't thinking it was going to be a business. I just needed Instagram to hold me accountable, to change my life.
Michael Bostick
Go back to when you met your husband. Where was this?
Teddi Mellencamp
So I met my husband the day after Christmas at a nightclub. Coco de Vil.
Michael Bostick
Coco de Vil?
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
Good name. Well, I've never heard of Coco de Ville.
Lauren Everts
Is that here?
Teddi Mellencamp
Mm.
Lauren Everts
Oh, it was.
Teddi Mellencamp
It was next to the Belmont.
Michael Bostick
Okay.
Lauren Everts
Okay.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. Do you remember it?
Michael Bostick
No. I don't know. Coco. That's a cute name, though. I feel like someone needs to name their daughter that.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. So it was the day after Christmas. Like, who goes out the day after Christmas? You know, I guess if you. You were me. But I was actually at the Belmont eating dinner with a couple of my friends, and I had just gotten divorced. My divorce was just fine on there. Like, just come out. We went to dinner. I think I was in Uggs and, like, a sweater dress. Like, I was not in any place to be going to a nightclub, but after a couple drinks, they're like, let's go out. Let's, let's. And I was like, we're not gonna get in. And they're like, we're twins. We always get in. Like, they're blonde twins. Like, blonde twins.
Michael Bostick
They always get in.
Teddi Mellencamp
They always get in. So I was like, okay. So I was walking out. As I was walking in, he was walking out, and then he turned around and. Yeah.
Michael Bostick
And then you also mentioned ivf. What was that? Like, there's. At the time that you did it, I feel like it was very. I don't want to say taboo, but talking about it.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. I mean, I think it's the same way as how people weren't talking about, like, postpartum anxiety or postpartum depression or any of those things. Someone in my family made a joke to me. They were like, we were always so proud of you. Didn't get pregnant, 18, like both your sisters. But then we realized it's just because you couldn't, you know? Like, you know, that's so.
Michael Bostick
Gosh.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. And I mean, I think it also, it. It's like, my childhood, there are certain things that, like, I would hate to tell you exactly how it was, because I. Anything that's super painful for me after timing, like, I really can't remember.
Lauren Everts
Well, that's why I asked you why you couldn't remember. Cause a lot of that and, you know, this doing what you do, like, it's a trauma response. Right. Like, the brain blocks out things that are too painful to remember to protect you.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
What's it called, though? I sometimes do this, too. It's like. I don't know, there's a word when you, like, disconnect from something.
Teddi Mellencamp
Disassociate.
Michael Bostick
Yeah, that's what it sounds like a little bit.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. So, like, for me, you know, whether it was when I first got married and we were having or before I even got married, when I knew that things weren't 100% right, but I kept pushing through and, like, we're gonna figure this out, or when I was having issues, you know, after having the kids, or even when I couldn't get pregnant or my childhood and some of the trauma that went back that far, I get very, like, almost, like, stoic. Like ice or. The other alternative is uber emotional. And so I'm really scared to show that emotional side, which is why I've really worked hard to try to be more vulnerable so that I can actually grow instead of just staying exactly where I am.
Lauren Everts
So in, like, past relationships, as you grew up, if. If you were met with confrontation, how would you typically deal with that? Was it be, like, kind of block it out and disregard it and not address the. Whatever was going on, or Would you.
Teddi Mellencamp
I'm fine, like, with, like, girlfriends, like, friends that know, like, I'm happy to have a conversation or duke it out or whatever, but if I'm, like, in love with you, and, you know, I know that there's not supposed to be unconditional love unless it's your children, but, like, I always, like, craved that, and it's not something, you know, healthy or even. I mean, my therapist says that that's not even something that you. You want or should require, you know, because then there's codependency and all of those other things. But I think, you know, when I'm confronted with hurtful things, I just pretend I don't care, and then I become very cold.
Lauren Everts
But you do care.
Teddi Mellencamp
But I do care, but I'm broken.
Michael Bostick
And she mentioned you said you're sensitive as a child. So it's like a It's like a mix of both at once, which is confusing to you, I'm sure.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
I also think what's interesting when people come on the show and they've talked about, like, getting a divorce is that divorce, what I've learned, does not just happen overnight. It is like. I mean, you're talking about. How old is your oldest daughter?
Teddi Mellencamp
When I met my husband, his daughter was three weeks old.
Michael Bostick
Wow. I didn't know that she was three weeks a baby. Also, kind of.
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, I have an amazing relationship with her mom now. Like, I love her. Like, they weren't married or anything. Like, they were already broken up when I met. But, like, yeah, when I met him, so it was so much. And I never even knew I wanted kids. And then I met Isabella, and I fell in love with her. And that's when I. You know, I put my whole life into Edwin and Bella and becoming. Wanting to become that perfect wife that, like, I never got to see.
Michael Bostick
When you're.
Teddi Mellencamp
You.
Michael Bostick
You said when your daughter was. Around the time your daughter was born, there was. There was problems, though. It's been like, that's years and years and years and years. Like, it's not like. This is the thing that I want to just mention about divorce, from what I'm hearing is, like, it's. It doesn't just, like, you don't get in a fight and get divorced. It's, like, years and years and years. From what I've heard from people.
Teddi Mellencamp
Well, what I. What I've kind of learned throughout, like, yes, I would say that, you know, me and Edwin have had some of the most amazing years and the most amazing times. And when we met, I mean, it was, like, hot, and it was all the things. And then there would be. You know, there'd be somebody else, and, like. And then I'd be like, it's okay. I can work through it. I'm gonna make him love me more, you know, whatever it was. And then, you know, then you have kids and things happen. And then I would say, at. Probably at the point in time when Edwin was ready to start working on it and really change, I probably stopped.
Michael Bostick
That's interesting.
Lauren Everts
Meaning, like, you guys were struggling before, and then you were trying to fix it, and then he wasn't. And by the time he wanted to fix it, you were kind of checked out.
Teddi Mellencamp
But I never told him I was checked out. I think that's the problem.
Lauren Everts
But did I summarize that?
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, but that's right. So he started, you know, really getting. You know, he Became really good friends with a bunch of motivational speakers. He started really trying to change his life, and he did. And I think I had, like, I don't know, almost like, resentment or animosity or fear of ever, like, being open again. So then I just kind of closed off and probably went into autopilot for quite some times. But then there would be some really amazing times, and I'd be like, all right, this is actually how it's supposed to be. And I mean, still to this day, like, I have to. You know, last night I was like, you know, crying, and I'm like, maybe I just. Maybe I just figure it out. Like, maybe I figured out just because, like, I don't want our kids to grow up in a home that. Where their parents aren't together and, you know, like, all of it. But it's scary. Cause you don't know. But, yeah, I would say, you know, then I booked a TV show.
Michael Bostick
Yeah. Tell me through what you were going through, at what point and what were you going through when you decided to book Housewives?
Teddi Mellencamp
So I would say the hardest time before, like, before we got married was a little bit tough. But then we got married, things were good, and I always loved him, and I still love him, and, you know, he's an amazing dad. But I would say the worst time in our marriage was right after the kids. Up until when I booked the show, you know, I had had all the IVF issues. And then our biggest struggle was right when they had told me that you booked Housewives. And I. I don't know, I had, like, so much fear. And I think that's why if you watch me on Beverly Hills, and then if you also listen to Two T's and a Pod, they're like, you sound like two different people. And I was like, yeah, I was a shell of myself, like, trying to portray this perfect life that was really far from perfect.
Michael Bostick
I also think as a viewer of the show, that is not an easy franchise. It's almost like going to, like.
Lauren Everts
Are any of them easy?
Michael Bostick
No, this one in particular. It's like the. What's the. The thing in baseball.
Teddi Mellencamp
The.
Michael Bostick
The highest one. Oh, the A team. The. What's it like? What's the highest.
Lauren Everts
Please don't do a sports announcement.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, I. I don't know either, but, like, the biggest.
Michael Bostick
It's the. It's the All Star League, Major league. Everyone is looking a certain way that, like, it's. It's very thin. It's. It's. It's the best glam that you can possibly get. And I can say that because my favorite glam is in Los Angeles. It's like the house is like, who cares what your house looks like? Cause next door there's someone bigger, and next door there's someone bigger, and next door there's. It's like. It's just so extravagant. I can imagine with everything you're going through to go on that show, there's pressure.
Teddi Mellencamp
And it wasn't even that for me, like, my first season. It was more. So I would say now that I've watched all. I mean, I didn't watch Housewives before, but now that I watched them all and I recapped them all for a living, I would say Beverly Hills, the strongest is probably the least one where women ask questions and expect vulnerable answers back.
Michael Bostick
What do you mean?
Teddi Mellencamp
Like, when you're watching, I don't know, Salt Lake, for example, Mary is sharing really heartbreaking things about her son with one of the other women, one of the other with Angie, and Angie is then sharing a story back, but also listening. And there's like this vulnerability between the conversation. I think that in Beverly Hills in particular, there is such a need for wanting everything to be. You know, we all had businesses, we all had that. Like, nobody wants to be the one that's under attack. And also nobody's listening or really asking the questions.
Michael Bostick
Well, also, no one wants to show the cracks.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, no one should want. But if nobody's asking you the question, like, people always wanted to ask me about my weight, and they would ask me, and then producers would be like, you don't get upset about it. I'm like. Cause I'm not upset about it. It's a part of my life that I'm happy to share. I think that there's a lot of girls that have gone through the same things that I have. I don't mind sharing that. And so it's like, I think producers are always looking for what it was with me, but if the women probably would have asked a couple questions, they would have figured it out. I would have been open about.
Michael Bostick
About your marriage, my life, anything.
Lauren Everts
The real things.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, the real things.
Michael Bostick
Yeah.
Lauren Everts
I mean, this with respect and a lot of the people that are on that franchise personally. But what's interesting, watching it and then knowing and then also just like being human is. You're right. Like, there's obviously real human issues with many of the cast members that has been articulated and shown since that maybe sometimes wanted and unwanted. But you're right. Like, if you watch that Show. A lot of it was kind of either not shown or swept under the rug or, like, kind of hidden. And then all of a sudden, shit breaks loose and all hell starts to happen.
Michael Bostick
I have a theory. I think it's because there's this undertone with Beverly Hills of if you call someone out, you better bet your ass they're gonna call you out.
Teddi Mellencamp
But I think there's a difference between calling somebody out and having authentic conversations. And I think that now, like, if you listen to my podcast with Erica, who. Erica and I didn't even get along when we were on the show the first year together, but now we have a podcast together. It's called Diamonds in the Rough. We can open up and connect and talk about things that never in all of the time we spent together, we ever had, because neither of us could really listen. Because if you have your guard up so much, you're not. You're thinking about the next thing you're gonna say versus what should I ask this person? Or what. What. You know, or how am I gonna make good tv or what? Like, it has to be more like, what is this person feeling right now?
Michael Bostick
It sounds like there's a little bit of self producing going on.
Teddi Mellencamp
You can't help yourself but self produce.
Michael Bostick
I'm not judging it. I can't imagine.
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, and the women that don't. I mean, they're excellent housewives and, you know, But I think in Beverly Hills, normally the drama is narrowed down between, like, two women, and they're just gonna go at it, and then it's gonna be a pile on because you're not getting deep into the crux of what's going on.
Lauren Everts
How do you convince your husband to go on that franchise and to do this? I always joke on this show, like, we do this, and you can have all these conversations, and, like, we get to control them. And I don't have a third party, you know, cutting it up and tell me what to do.
Michael Bostick
It's bad, because, shit, if we had a third party, they'd be on my side, bitch.
Lauren Everts
Yeah. And I could tell her to be quiet when I'm talking. I'm just kidding. But I wonder. I always say, I'm like, I've never seen it work out for any of these guys that go on these shows.
Michael Bostick
So, Harry Hamlin, here's the thing.
Teddi Mellencamp
I think the show actually made our marriage better.
Michael Bostick
Yeah.
Teddi Mellencamp
And Edwin would say this himself. The show held him accountable because all of a sudden, people knew who he was, you know, like, yeah, but that's.
Lauren Everts
Kind of a crazy statement, too. It's like, I gotta go on TV to be accountable in my marriage.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. Like. And so there were parts of it that really helped. And there was also parts like, now all of a sudden, my business has grown, I'm on a television show, and I can do what I want. You know, like, I can be like, oh, I want to go on this trip, or I want to go here. I want. And I can pay for it. And, like, there's a difference in the changes on that show. And I can also say I saw things in myself the way I was in my marriage, that I was like, ugh. Like, I was like, gosh, I really nag a lot. And, you know, like, look, we should.
Lauren Everts
Go on the show.
Michael Bostick
Actually, fuck no.
Teddi Mellencamp
I was like, gosh, I really nag a lot.
Michael Bostick
I have accountability on that, Teddy.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, but it's also interesting because they'll show certain things. Like, I remember we had one conversation that they never showed, and I'm like, if they would have shown this, if they would have aired this, it would have eaten Edwin alive. But, like, Edwin was able to come out of the show after three years, and he came out completely unscathed, which he should. He wasn't ever. He didn't do anything wrong. Except for this one dinner where he, you know, he's talked about it, so that's why I feel comfortable sharing it. But they had us have that conversation, like, should we have another baby? And, you know, at that moment, I'm trying to self produce him through my head, like, kicking him under the table, and he's like, oh, gosh. But then, are you gonna get all big and depressed again? And I was like. I was like, if they air this, this is going. They're going to eat you, you know? And then, so you're sitting the rest of the dinner, like, is that how it is?
Michael Bostick
Are you like, actually, like, when something said that you're so uncomfortable with and you can't control the other person? Like, you're just sitting there.
Lauren Everts
Like, my shins would be destroyed if.
Teddi Mellencamp
I was on that show. Like, if I. If. If they would have had car cams on us that night we left that dinner, it would have been off. Freaking.
Michael Bostick
Were you just like, why would you say that on television?
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, but also, why would you say that at all? But it was like, I wanted to protect him. And then I think a lot of guys.
Michael Bostick
I'm gonna be really honest right now. I think a lot of guys think that what he said. Of course, you guys, I'm not gonna be like sitting here that, like, you can't even keep a straight face. I think a lot of guys think what Edwin said. It is hard to watch your wife gain a bunch of weight and be complaining every day that her feet hurt and she's tired and get the fuck out of her face because she needs a minute. Yeah, like, I think the other day.
Lauren Everts
Lauren tried to get out of the car in the middle of an intersection because she was upset about.
Michael Bostick
God knows I was proving a point.
Lauren Everts
And I was just sitting there.
Michael Bostick
I think a lot of guys feel that way, actually.
Teddi Mellencamp
And, and if we weren't being filmed at that moment, I would have just given it to him back. I would have been like, go f yourself. You know, like. But I was like, no, I need to protect us right now. And so I'm going to just pretend that that comment meant nothing to me. So I was like. And then it doesn't become a thing. And then you move on from it.
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Lauren Everts
Take the TV shows out of it. I say this even with social. There's a lot of couples that go. And they, like, start to kind of produce what a perfect relationship looks like. Those people are always the ones that I'm the most worried about. It's like relationships in general. Both marriages, you know, friendships, they're always imperfect. There's always like. That's the whole Lauren and I's marriage is a constant work in progress. Right? Like, there's constantly going back and forth. Okay, we do that better. Shouldn't do this. Communicate. If anyone that's in a relationship says that it's all bells and whistles all the time and, like, perfect birds and whatever, honey, it's just not. It's. It's not truthful. And so, you know, I don't. I think the scrutiny that happens on those shows is probably very difficult for a marriage because a marriage is constantly working on the marriage. Right.
Michael Bostick
And a man who's not, maybe. Maybe their wife's getting paid, but they're not. They're like, why am I doing this?
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. I mean, I would say, really, the show, I mean, I was on it for only three years. I would say our marriage was fine during the show. You know, like, it got. We got through it. That was fine. And then it was kind of after all the things that happened after I was fired or whatever it was, you know, my business was being attacked. One of my daughters had her finger. Accidentally, she chopped off her finger. Like the door slammed on. This is in the middle of COVID She had her, like, following me behind like I was going to take the trash out. It's like 10am I'm like, Slade, I'll be right in. And she's like, mom. And put her hand and. And my baby dove had to have neurosurgery we're in Covid.
Lauren Everts
Terrible.
Teddi Mellencamp
I lost my job being attacked online. Like, all of these things happen.
Lauren Everts
Why'd you get attacked online?
Teddi Mellencamp
So there was a woman online who started coming after. So right after my last, I was still hired. Like, I thought I was still coming back to the show. I had done my interview to, like, what's going on for this year, you know, like, thinking things were happening. And then there was a woman who started attacking me online, saying I created eating disorders that I attack that, you know, you can't even imagine. I mean, she went after me, I think for 365 days, maybe more. Around that same time, she was tweeting. And Camille Grammer retweeted something that this woman said, who, once again, never met this woman, don't know who she is. Like, have no correlation to, like, none of her friends were my clients. I have no idea who this person is. Retweets something she says. And then Kyle, being a good friend to me, comments to Camille, like, you're just jealous cause you don't have a business and a, you know, something like that. But now this girl who probably had, I don't know, a thousand followers, all of a sudden, within days, had 45,000 followers. And then the more that she started coming for me, the more her followers grew. And then right around that same time, it was announced on Daily Mail that I'm no longer a housewife.
Michael Bostick
Do you think that the show didn't want that, like, that energy, like, what, what, what?
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, we're in 2020, so it's the beginning of Cancel Culture and anything like that. I mean, and I didn't want. I didn't even want to be. I was like. All my paid posts, all the things, like, I had to turn off commenting. I spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on a crisis management team. That, by the way, waste of money. Anyone that tells you that you should hire a crisis management team. No, they all. They tell you. And I'm going to give you. This is a hot tip. Don't say anything. Be quiet.
Michael Bostick
You should have called me.
Lauren Everts
If you would have had a crisis before.
Michael Bostick
If you would have called me, if you would have called me, I would have said. What would I have said? Don't say anything.
Teddi Mellencamp
Be quiet.
Michael Bostick
Yeah, that's all I literally would have said. All people like this that are attacking people online want is attention.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
And with the crisis management team and all these different things you're saying back there, statements, there's all this shit.
Teddi Mellencamp
Just don't say, yeah, we never said Anything. But I hired a team just to tell me to be quiet.
Lauren Everts
There's a weird.
Michael Bostick
I got it. So you did tell you to be quiet?
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, and I never. I mean, now I'm talking about it, but, I mean, my public is in here right now. Like, did I ever talk about it? Never once.
Lauren Everts
There's a weird thing. Like, it's funny, like, not even doing this show, but, like, running a media company. Like, Dear media. I always find this so funny because obviously, like, doing this show and then producing a lot of other shows, we're no strangers to this kind of stuff, but it's never affected the business. Cause I've never given it any care. Like, people whine about what's said on shows or what we say, and I'm like, I don't care. Like, just don't listen. Then go away, Advertisers. You don't want to pay for it, go somewhere else.
Michael Bostick
By the way, I do want to say this.
Lauren Everts
I've never understood this.
Michael Bostick
And I'll say this on air. I tried your program based. I saw the show. I tried the program. This is before I had Zaza.
Teddi Mellencamp
So this is 2018.
Michael Bostick
2018. I tried it, and it's great. It's. It's. It's amazing. Like, it's. You hold you accountable. I think I. I feel like I lost. Like, I don't remember exactly, but, like, eight pounds. I felt great.
Teddi Mellencamp
You lost nine pounds.
Michael Bostick
You know, she knows. Okay, I lost nine pounds. I felt great. And it was like a great reset. And what it. What it did for me is it trained my taste buds. Like, it retrained them to. To eat a little bit healthier. But the problem was, literally the day that I finished, I found out I was pregnant.
Lauren Everts
But, you know, when you say, don't say anything. And I just listen. And I don't mean to throw shade at anybody that's in crisis management or PR or publicist or whatever, but everybody feels that everything on the Internet justifies a response from the person that's on the other side of that. And I've never understood this. The Internet is the place. There's 7 billion people on the planet. There's hundreds of millions of people paying attention to these platforms all the time. It's impossible to respond to everybody and to please everybody all the time. My advice to anyone that's dealing with any of this is, who cares? There's a million other advertisers. If they don't want to work with you, who cares? There's a million other platforms. Who cares? You can self produce, you can do things for free without the consequence of having to be behind any kind of person that basically gives you that approval. And I'm saying this as someone that not only does a show, but produces 100 shows. And I've never paid any attention to any of that stuff.
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, I didn't really have a choice. I mean, they were, it was actually my business was attacked. Like there was, it was in the New York Times. Like my business was really big.
Michael Bostick
It's probably good for business though, right?
Teddi Mellencamp
For a little while it was good for business, but then it became like a, I don't know, changed my feeling about how I was working within my business because it was like every day it was another hit and I was.
Michael Bostick
Like, oh, so you almost had to be careful like with the way that you were interacting with clients because you have a second guessing yourself.
Teddi Mellencamp
Not even that. It was more just like, gosh, this, like, this is something that I love and I created this business because it changed my life and now it's changed over 30,000 other people's lives and now this. And, and now I have someone I don't even know who's turned something that has been one of the biggest struggles in my life into something that I was trying to hurt other people with. And that's what really hurt me. And I know we talked that you lost £9 or whatever, but what I remember what it did for you is a lot of. Because you were so busy, you had a really hard time scheduling out certain times for yourself.
Michael Bostick
It was a nightmare.
Teddi Mellencamp
And I remember the conversations of like, okay, well we're gonna pick a time. We're gonna pick that 30 minutes. Like, when are you gonna go on the walk or when are you gonna do the Pilates or when is it gonna. All of those things. And you'd be like, well, I don't know if I could pick a time. I'm like, no, if you don't pick a time, it's not gonna happen.
Michael Bostick
Yep. No, you, it's, it's also like, it's a check. It's a check in with yourself. It's like, it's a good tool in your toolkit. Yeah, I enjoyed it. I like to try everything. I'm someone that's really open minded with all different kinds of things. And I, I thought it was great. I lost weight, I felt good, and it did reset my taste buds. So I had a good experience.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. And I mean, I still, it's still to this day, it's something that I Follow. And I, you know, I still tag my workouts and hold myself accountable because. Not, yeah, I've had weight issues my entire life, but for me, it's the mental health aspect. When I'm not moving my body, when I'm not, like, getting my endorphins up, when I'm not doing those type of things, I am sad. Like, I struggle with, you know, like, I am diagnosed ocd and I have anxiety. Like, moving my body helps me.
Michael Bostick
How. How are you? Like, what do you do that's ocd? How did you know you had that?
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, you have to take, like, a multitude of tests, but did you.
Michael Bostick
Do something that's like a ritual?
Teddi Mellencamp
I'm not like, yeah, I do, like, weird counting stuff, but for me, it's a lot about scheduling, a lot about, like, everything having to be perfectly organized, but not, like, my house isn't immaculate. That's why I was like, why can't it be things that, you know, whatever. But I would redo the calendar a thousand times, but just, it's that constant. Like, my mind is constantly wondering and overthinking every single thing. And it doesn't stop.
Michael Bostick
Even when you try to go to sleep?
Teddi Mellencamp
No, definitely when I try to go to sleep.
Michael Bostick
So it gets worse when you're trying to go to sleep.
Teddi Mellencamp
And so, yeah, I mean, now that I've learned about meditation, I've learned about, you know, box breathing, different things. I do a cold plunge, I do the sauna. Like I'm medicated. You know, like, let's be clear, like, I. Your toolkit. I have a toolkit to get through it. And then I've learned that on the days that I'm not getting through it, it's okay for me to go. You know what? I'm going to go to work today, and then afterwards, I'm just going to. I'm going to lay, I'm going to cry, I'm going to do this, or I'm going to let myself feel that. I put myself through the ringer. You know, these past couple of weeks.
Michael Bostick
When you look back on the show experience and you're. You've evolved now, what would you tell yourself and what. What are things that surprised you about the show when you look back on it?
Teddi Mellencamp
I wish I would have just trusted my instincts and. And been more of who I actually am versus what I thought people would want me to be.
Michael Bostick
Yeah.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. Because, I mean, people get mad at me all the time on the podcast about stuff I say or things I do or my opinions, and I'M like, I don't care.
Michael Bostick
Yeah, I noticed that with you now I feel like you're just like, you know what? I'm gonna let it rip. If you like me or you don't like me, like, fuck off.
Lauren Everts
But anybody that says they would go on a platform like that and just be themselves like that, I don't think they're being honest. I mean, that's, that's a big platform to go on with national syndication, a lot of attention, and fans that are can be really supportive, but also really brutal. And like, you're on a. You're on a world stage.
Teddi Mellencamp
And I. But I think also, like, if I was on a different show now, I'm not saying I want to be back on Beverly Hills, but if I was on another show now and I were to do it, I would go in and show the good, the bad and the ugly.
Michael Bostick
Get her on.
Teddi Mellencamp
But I think that because I didn't, because I wanted to give this idea of perfection, of this, what I made myself was so rigid and uncomfortable. And also, you know, I was significantly younger than the majority of the women I came in. You know, like you also, I think.
Michael Bostick
I'm in a note. To be pregnant on film is stressful.
Teddi Mellencamp
And by the time I left, I had formed those really great relationships with some of the girls. Like, I had some best friends, and still to this day, they're some of my best friends. So, yeah, I mean, I think it just, it takes you a little bit of time to open up. And around the time I probably would have is around the time I was gone. But that's why I'm so happy I was able to do the podcast, I.
Michael Bostick
Think too, if it helps for me, and I'm sure a lot of people listening to have context of your whole childhood and how you moved here and gained 70 pounds and all of these things that you've experienced in your marriage. It helps to have context of the behind the scenes because it then makes sense that you would go on the show and try to be a perfectionist. Like all the things that you've just told me on this show. Of course you went on the show the first time and tried to be a perfectionist. Look at, look at your background. That's why I love long form content like this, because it makes people understand how they got to that place.
Teddi Mellencamp
And then also if you're somebody who, like, I'm assuming you probably are as well, like, if you go to do a job, you want to go and do it well.
Michael Bostick
Yeah.
Teddi Mellencamp
So if somebody were to say, like, gosh, it'd be helpful if so. And so would bring that. I'd be like, okay, great doing it. You know, Like, I'm gonna do my job, and this is what I'm here to do. And instead of, like, letting things authentically come out as I felt them.
Michael Bostick
Don't you think, too, though? Like, I feel like you're at such a strong point with your podcast. Your podcast is everywhere. Both your podcasts are everywhere. And it's almost like all of this happened to sort of get you to this point where you're hosting these two.
Teddi Mellencamp
Really successful shows, I think. You know, it definitely came at a time when. When the podcast was first offered to me. I mean, it was. It was a pretty low time. You know, Dove had just had neurosurgery. We're in Covid. Like, everything's. And I got the call, and I was like, no, I am not. I just got fired from Housewives. I'm not going to recap that show. Like, throw. I'm going to look so desperado, you know? And I was in my own head. And then I, like, slept on it. I probably called Sue. I was like, okay, actually, you know what? I will do it, but I want to pick who my co host is. And they were like, okay. And they gave me all these ideas, and I was like, no, the only person I want is Tamara Judge.
Michael Bostick
Did you know Tamara before?
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, we hung out at Andy's baby shower and stuff, but not.
Michael Bostick
Well, you were at Andy's baby shower?
Teddi Mellencamp
Yes.
Michael Bostick
Okay, I'm gonna put that down. I'm gonna have to ask you about that. Keep going.
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, yeah. You don't know the John Mayer story from the baby shower?
Michael Bostick
You're gonna tell me?
Teddi Mellencamp
No. So I said, tamara. Tamara had also just gotten fired or she got demoted, but then she quit because she didn't wanna be a friend. And they were like, we're never gonna get Tamara. And I was like, give me 15 minutes. And I, like, sent her a DM. And I'm like, hey, can I talk to you? And she called me right away, and I said, listen, I'm sure you're as, like, messed up in the head as I am right now. Cause any sort of rejection feels so bizarre. I'm like, but I think we could do something great with this, and we could make real money, and we could show off our worst sides and our best sides, and we could use it to our advantage. We don't always agree. I've watched you. I don't always agree. What you say we're completely different people. But, like, I think this could be great. And it was a hit. And that's how we became the Twats.
Michael Bostick
Yeah. I think it's funny because a lot of housewives launch podcasts.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. Since.
Michael Bostick
But yours was sticky. Like, it hit.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. I think it's because we really, like, we go on and we're like, one, you're only as good as last week's episode. And two, like, sorry if I know you, but, like, I'm gonna recap exactly what I watched this week.
Michael Bostick
Who's gotten pissed at you guys?
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, my gosh. Everyone there isn't. I mean, this last week. But the best is like, Tam will like, blindside me. Cause we're friends with different housewives from different franchises. So there's like, I'm super close with Chanel Ion. She's close with uba, they're cousins. So like, I'm sitting there texting with Chanel Ion, everything's great, blah, blah, blah. We recap New York. I didn't like something Uber did set it on the pod. No, but also, it's a television show. I don't really care. But uba then message Tamra. And so then we get on the pod. Instead of Tam giving me any kinds of heads up, I'm like, welcome to another episode of Tutus in a Pod. And she's like, uva's mad at you. And then reads the messages from Uva, you know, And I'm like, oh, my gosh. And then there's like, you know, then you get mad and I'm like, well, tell uba, then act better. You know, like, don't say that stuff. It was insensitive.
Michael Bostick
Who's the most fabulous housewife that you've met in person besides Tamara? Cause I know you love her. Cause you guys are host.
Teddi Mellencamp
Well, I mean, there's difference between fabulous and, like, who I'm closest with. Like, my closest housewife friends are, you know, Kyle, Tamara, Erica, Brenna. And then, no, I got close with Emily when I was doing the pod with her. But like, the people I see outside of, you know, this world are those original four, but no, like, fabulous, like, when you see them. Oh, Caroline Stansberry's pretty fabulous.
Michael Bostick
She's fucking fabulous. I have to agree. Caroline, if you're listening, she's fabulous.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, she's fabulous. The kindest housewife, Dolores Catania. Oh, like, she. I mean, checks in. Like, she is the first person to check in. She does it without judgment. She gives good feedback. But also is a good listener.
Michael Bostick
Like she used to work in a jail.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. I mean, she knows how to manage all of our crazy.
Michael Bostick
Yeah, she does know how to. Let's go back to the John Mayer Andy Cohen baby shower. What was that like?
Teddi Mellencamp
Okay, so the baby shower was really fun.
Michael Bostick
Okay.
Teddi Mellencamp
It, I mean, because it's. It's essentially was like the housewife Olympics.
Michael Bostick
Uh huh.
Teddi Mellencamp
Like we are all getting there. The. The paparazzi is, you know, watching us come in with our gifts.
Lauren Everts
Does everyone get an invite? Every housewife?
Michael Bostick
No, that's not. No, Michael, come on.
Teddi Mellencamp
And some people chose not to go because they couldn't be around certain housewives, you know, whatever it was. But I would say there was probably 30 of us. Like, you can pull up a photo, I think it's about maybe 40. And we all had like our like assigned seats and we sat down and then we all moved around by like, who we were kind of vibing with or lack of a better word. But I mean, it was wild. Like dancing on tables. Like it was. Housewives are fighting like that aren't even on the same franchise film that. I mean, it was a really big missed opportunity because my insta stories, I mean, and even the next day. And then I'll get back to John Mary. Even the next day, I was like. Cause afterwards we went to Craig's because I mean, this was a brunch. So like afterwards we went to Craig's and then the next morning I woke up and I was like, oh my gosh. And I like, was on a group text with probably Tamara or Kyle or whomever it was. And I was like, oh my gosh. We got home at like 2am last time. I'm exhausted. She's like, teddy, we got home at 8:15.
Michael Bostick
Oh. Cause you guys are just started so early and you're drinking.
Lauren Everts
Wow.
Michael Bostick
God damn it. I wish they felt.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, I mean, can you post the.
Michael Bostick
Clips or like DM me some that we can like, share?
Teddi Mellencamp
My favorite was the Ramona singer looking at me and being like, Gina, I think, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, I'm not Gina. And she's like, Gina from O.C.
Michael Bostick
You guys look nothing alike either.
Teddi Mellencamp
Don't worry. Then she came on our podcast before that whole thing happened with her, and she still didn't know my name.
Michael Bostick
I was like, it's Ramona. It's Ramona.
Teddi Mellencamp
I was like, you know what, you can just kind of learn it. Just. But then I was like, forget it. Just talk to Tamara. I'll sit here. But no, the John Mayer story was he was sitting next to me, and he said, so, are you actually a housewife? And I was like, what do you mean? And he goes, are you married? And I said, yes, I'm actually one of the ones still married. I mean, this was years ago, and I thought that was a totally normal thing to say. 90% of the other women in the room were not married. So I said, yeah, I'm actually one of the ones still married. Then he went on Andy's podcast the next day and was like, I think Teddy Mellencamp's hitting on me. She said, I'm actually still married. And then I was like, you, John Mayer?
Michael Bostick
I did. I have heard from a couple girls that he has a nice, big personality.
Teddi Mellencamp
I've heard from a couple girls he likes to do it with a couple girls at one time.
Michael Bostick
Oh, John. Yeah, you should have said, your bodies are a wonderland. Your bodies are.
Teddi Mellencamp
No, but I'm not really mad at John Mayer. I mean, I think he's probably doing a concert with my dad's so love you, John Mayer.
Michael Bostick
The fact that he called Andy Cohen and Anderson Cooper from a bar that has cats. Did you see this, Lauren?
Lauren Everts
I gotta be honest. I'm not up to speed on this cat bar.
Michael Bostick
There's cats all over the bar.
Teddi Mellencamp
There's a cat cafe.
Michael Bostick
There's a cat cafe in London. And he called them from the cat cafe.
Lauren Everts
Does that sound kind of, like, unsanitary?
Michael Bostick
There's, like, a cat on his head. And, like, a cat. It's probably stuck under his penis.
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, to me, that would kill any lady boner that I had. But anyways, lot of cats. A lot of cats.
Lauren Everts
I like John Mayer, though.
Teddi Mellencamp
I like. I like. It was. I think he was joking, but it got, like, all this press, and I was like, not what I need right now.
Michael Bostick
Kind of fun to, like John Mayer and Teddy Mellencamp. You never know.
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, that'll be a headline.
Michael Bostick
We have to discuss your journey with. With skin cancer. And I wrote a book called get the Fuck out of the sun, and I love it. I'm so happy. I. People are confused. They say, I hate sun. It's not that. It's that I'm strategic about when I use the sun advantage. So I. I look, I have on my phone, and I love talking about this with you. On my settings, it says the U, the uv. So I programmed it so I can see. And if it's over a certain thing, I just don't, like, indulge in the sun. So I Go out in the morning when it's like 0 or 1.
Teddi Mellencamp
Right.
Michael Bostick
What was your relationship like with the sun before you got this? And then when you did get this, what was that like?
Teddi Mellencamp
So, I mean, I. My relationship was sun. I mean, you have to. I'm probably significantly older than you, but, like, I grew up in the 80s. Like, we would put baby oil on ourselves and iodine and, like, grew up on the beach. And I would just bake myself. You know, like, Zaza would have to.
Michael Bostick
Go to her room.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. Like, I had a tanning bed in my bedroom at one point only because, like, we had moved into a smaller house and there was nowhere else for the tanning bed to go. And so, like, my friends would come over and we would just tan ourselves. You know, we didn't know any better. I mean, we also had pop Tarts every day for breakfast.
Michael Bostick
Like, you didn't know. You don't know what you don't know.
Teddi Mellencamp
You don't know what you don't know.
Lauren Everts
Pop Tarts are okay.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. I mean, maybe not anymore. I mean, brown sugar and cinnamon is pretty delicious. But we. You know, my. That was always kind of my relationship with the sun. Like, the more sun, the better I look. Better tanner, you know, like, whatever it was. And then still as an adult, my relationship, I would always put sunscreen on my kids. Like, that's how you're taught, you know, like, protect your kids skin. But I didn't really protect mine. I'd put it sunscreen on my face, but I never, like, thought about my arm or my hands or my back. I'd run in a sports bra only. Cause I have textural issues. Cause of some of my OCD stuff. And then I had this ginormous patch on the back of my shoulder that I always kind of had. That used to be just a big white circle. And then it turned into no longer a big white circle.
Lauren Everts
How big are we talking? Sorry.
Teddi Mellencamp
Probably like this. I was born with it. We thought it was a birthmark.
Lauren Everts
Okay.
Teddi Mellencamp
Like a hypo hyperpigmentation. And then as I got older, it started to get freckled. And then I started getting these, like. I don't know, they almost looked like sunspots. And sometimes they would raise, and sometimes they would be small. And, you know, around 20, the first time someone brought it up to me was like, 20, 19. I was. It was. I was on the show, and somebody's like, those things on your shoulder look a little brutal. I went to a dermatologist, and they were like, oh, we Think it's dermatitis. Put this cream on it. And they went down and I was like, oh, great. You know, like, okay. So whenever they would flare up, I just put this stuff on and move on. And then I guess, I mean, I can't even remember what year it was. I guess it was three years ago. I was on a run with, with Kyle and our friend Jen and they were like, Teddi, the things on your back, you're going to the doctor. And like part of my anxiety is I granted I had a neck lift, but like, I still don't like going to the doctor.
Michael Bostick
Oh, I gotta ask you about that. Go on.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Lauren Everts
So just because the stress of like you don't like.
Teddi Mellencamp
It's like I don't like making appointments, I don't like filling out paperwork. I don't like all of these things.
Michael Bostick
It feels inefficient.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. Like if I'm going and I think that I'm going for a purpose. Like the necklace, I was like, great.
Michael Bostick
It's beauty too. It's.
Teddi Mellencamp
It's selfish, but self indulging. But I just never, I didn't take it seriously. Plus I didn't know that skin cancer was a big deal. Like I was like one. It's not skin scan. It's like moles. Get over it.
Lauren Everts
You've had it forever.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, like I've had it since I was a kid. So I went and immediately she's like, well one, you're gonna need to go to an oncologist. But like I'm gonna cut this one out and we're gonna start this process. And then pretty much throughout the next three years, I think I've had over 20 surgeries and wow. I mean, have you seen my back?
Michael Bostick
I. I've seen you post an Instagram story, but can you show me so I can see? I've seen you post like an Instagram of. I didn't know that you've had 20 surgeries, Teddi.
Teddi Mellencamp
And my last surgery, I had over 800 stitches.
Michael Bostick
Oh my gosh.
Teddi Mellencamp
It was. I mean, it's going to take me a second.
Lauren Everts
Do you guys might be able to find it on the screen?
Michael Bostick
No, we don't care at all. Wait, are you done with the surgeries or you don't know?
Teddi Mellencamp
We don't know this last time that I booked an appointment, like, because I have to get checked every three months now. I was the first time I haven't had melanoma. That's so. It was cute. It was really big news. Okay, so like here's Holy shit.
Michael Bostick
That's what Demi Moore has on her back.
Lauren Everts
That is.
Michael Bostick
That looks like.
Lauren Everts
That's different.
Michael Bostick
That is huge.
Lauren Everts
Whoa, look at the screen.
Michael Bostick
You guys need to go to her Instagram to see this. This is crazy.
Lauren Everts
Holy shit. That's like. Really, Teddy?
Michael Bostick
This is like.
Lauren Everts
So what did they have to do? There they went. And they started cutting along that line.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. So it had started out where, you know, they just take one at a time, or sometimes it was two at a time. But the kind of like the mind game or the mind F with cancer or skin cancer is, you know, there's different stages for each one. This one's that. This. You know, and then there's so many more testing you need to do. You need to do your genetic testing, then you need to do this, and then you have everybody else's opinions. And then, you know, I'm definitely. I would say this is also another part in my life where this is where I started to shut down. Like, where my husband was working on our marriage, I started to shut down and. And because I wasn't able to tell him what I needed, like, there were moments where I was like, I'm maybe gonna die. Like, I don't know what I'm going to do. And then, you know, men are such fixers. It's like, well, that one's only stage two. We're good with that, right? We're good. And I'm like, well, I mean, I was just turned down for life insurance. But instead of me being vulnerable and being like, I need you to just lay with me right now. I need you. I know that you're wanting to fix all of this and make it seem like it's okay, but I need softness. I don't want you to fix it. I want you to hold me and I want you to tell me that I'm gonna be okay. And I want you to have these conversations like, if I do die, like, this is the type of woman I'm gonna marry. I needed those moments, but I didn't ask for them. And I just. I mean, two days after that surgery, you know, I was in the post treatment facility where they help you heal. I mean, I was back doing the podcast. Like, I.
Lauren Everts
So again, it's like another block.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
Like, how long ago was this?
Teddi Mellencamp
Not this past Christmas. The Christmas before. I had. I think that surgery was on the 27th of December.
Michael Bostick
Men, no offense, they don't. They do not know. It's. I actually think it's like a. It must be, like, from Caveman days. How to show up tenderly when you need a tenderness. And I've noticed my. In my own experience because. And I think you can relate to this, you and I do have a dominant, dominant masculine energy that when we. And again, I'm just speaking for. You can tell me if I'm wrong. When you step into your feminine. It's confusing sometimes to the man. That's what I've noticed in my own experience.
Lauren Everts
Do you want me to answer for all men on the board?
Michael Bostick
Sure, go ahead.
Teddi Mellencamp
Go ahead.
Michael Bostick
We'd love it.
Lauren Everts
Okay, perfect.
Michael Bostick
We'll dissect it.
Teddi Mellencamp
We'll probably get annoyed at it.
Lauren Everts
I think you nailed it on the head. I think most men's instinct when things are going wrong in order to feel in control and to feel helpful as you try to go for the fix. And that's just.
Michael Bostick
Sometimes we don't want a fix, though. We literally just want you to lay there and like what you said, give you a hug.
Lauren Everts
Again, controversial statement these days. But this is why men and women are different, right? It's like our instinct is to go to that fix. And it takes a lot of like, learning and training and patience to, to kind of step out of that sometimes.
Michael Bostick
Sometimes you get frustrated too, that you have to tell them.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. And I think, you know, he was like, well, I thought I was being of service because I was, you know, like. And now we're learning all of these things, you know, because we're in co parenting therapy and you know, doing all those things and we're just learning so much about like, wow, like how we weren't, how I wasn't. He may have been because I said I didn't, I didn't think you were happy. And he's like, what do you mean? I love you more now than I've ever loved you. And I was like, what? Like, I haven't, I haven't been feeling.
Michael Bostick
That because they don't verbalize it.
Teddi Mellencamp
And then there was just. I think it just, I really felt in those moments like, you know, when you get turned down for life insurance or when, like, I remember those first couple appointments that he didn't come to with me or the first couple surgeries. And like, but I didn't ask. I would just text my best friend and be like, will you come with me? You know, like, because I wanted so badly for him just to know. So I don't blame him for it. I. I wish I would have had the strength to say what I needed. So if you're a woman listening to this and like, you think that your person doesn't love you or doesn't care about you because they're trying to fix something. It's just because they're scared too. And they don't want to make you more scared. But you have to actually, it's okay to say, like, this isn't enough for me. Like, this isn't actually what I need. Like, you're actually making me more nervous when you talk about what stage it is. And then all of those things. I really wish I would have been, throughout my entire life, more transparent about what I actually really need versus what I, you know, put on the front that I. That I need.
Michael Bostick
Sometimes they don't listen to.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
Which is a different. Yeah, sometimes you do tell them that must be only.
Lauren Everts
That must be only applicable to men. You're right.
Michael Bostick
Well, it's just like, you know, men, you guys do have your shortcuts.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. But then also, sometimes you. Like, sometimes my. I'm not a, like a fighter. Like, I'm one of those people. If you say something to me that hurts me to my core, I will remember it for the rest of my life. I know I block out a lot of stuff, but if you say something, I am kind of like, I think ahead. I've never said something to anybody that I love that I was like, wow, they're gonna be able to remember that statement forever. And I think that's also another thing that I didn't make clear. Like when we get upset, I shut down and then you say certain things and then I carry those things for the next three years. And you moved on 20 minutes later.
Michael Bostick
Right.
Teddi Mellencamp
Because it's different personality types.
Michael Bostick
I think it's pretty self aware though, that you're sort of analyzing that.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Lauren Everts
That's like my sister and me. Right?
Michael Bostick
Your sister and you are different, that's for sure. But I. I love your sister. You're different.
Lauren Everts
I'll just say this like, I think there is all, like, would women really want men to automatically switch and be this. I think there is an argument about the ultra feminization of a lot of men these days. I'm just putting that out there. I understand we all want this perfect world where everyone has all the pieces, but I think you nailed it on the head, which is the communication. What I found in our marriage is I want to understand everything that's going on all the time. But sometimes, unless she tells me, it's not wired in my brain to think that way.
Michael Bostick
In some cases, I do also think when you are married to A dominant go getter woman. It's hard to then switch sometimes.
Teddi Mellencamp
And also, I mean, he's always been somebody that, I mean he runs a very successful business. He's an entrepreneur. He's got his hands in a million. Like he works his tail off. And I never had a, I never had a problem with that. It was always like. But then there was a moment where I was like, now is the time, I need you to slow down. But I didn't say it.
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Michael Bostick
If you were counseling yourself, looking back on your marriage, you would say you need to say what it is.
Lauren Everts
I think that's very self aware to say.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, I think I needed to say what it is. I think I needed to like, I needed to verbalize the things that really hurt me in the moment. I needed to actually really talk through them. And I think some of the things that I would have thought were made our relationship better actually made them made it worse.
Michael Bostick
What do you mean?
Teddi Mellencamp
We went through some sort of like marriage exploration where we did learn a couple of things about each other which I thought was incredible. Like I always said, I'm an introvert. Cause he's. Edwin's one of those people that like, you know, whether it's we're going to church or we're going to lunch or we're doing whatever. He will talk to anybody for 85 hours if he could.
Michael Bostick
Wow.
Teddi Mellencamp
Like, he is in it and it could. Like, he loves it and he's asking all the questions. He's doing. I've got probably 14 minutes in me. Like, if I'm not. If, like, I don't love you or if I'm not close with you, I've got. I can do it for five minutes, but I am not like a type of person. So I. We. You know, I would have to be like, I'd, like, tap him. I'd be like, stay as long, you know, Like, I can't. I can't do that. It's not how I'm wired. Be free. Like, if you're gonna pay me, I'm there and I will do it for 25 hours. But, like, if I am just on my own, I lose steam.
Lauren Everts
So.
Teddi Mellencamp
But he had always thought, like, gosh, Teddy, it's not that nice that, like, you know, we finish something and then you just need to go. And I'm like, well, I'm happy to say hi and be kind to everyone, but I'm not like a small talker. I'm an introvert. And he's like, you're not an introvert. You introvert. You're on a podcast. You talk constantly for a living. But we took these tests, and in the entire room, there was a whole bunch of people. I was the lowest. There was one other, and she's like a big time woman entrepreneur that had a lower score than me. But we were the two lowest introverts or the two highest introverts in the entire seminar.
Michael Bostick
So that probably felt good so you could solidify that.
Teddi Mellencamp
So that was helpful. But kind of what wasn't was like, I think oftentimes when you're in a group setting getting counseling, I think it can be hard.
Michael Bostick
Yeah.
Teddi Mellencamp
And I think you can show different sides of yourself. And I felt in that moment, very shut down. Not from my husband, but just I felt like I couldn't really share. And so that was like another. Like, just another. Like, especially if you're introvert.
Michael Bostick
He went into that wanting you to open, you shut down.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. I mean, we both went into it wanting to be open, but, like, kind of after day one, I was like, well, this is not gonna be the place for me, you know? Like, I was like, this is.
Michael Bostick
So how long was it?
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, we were there a couple days.
Michael Bostick
Oh, I thought you were gonna say a week.
Lauren Everts
I couldn't do that.
Michael Bostick
You don't know what you could do?
Lauren Everts
Maybe.
Michael Bostick
You never know.
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, my favorite parts and I was talking to another wife that went. Was like the times we would like play tennis or go play pickle, you know, like the activities. I could go play tennis, but like the.
Lauren Everts
Yeah, I'm not a big group setting guy. Like that.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, it's. It's. It's not.
Lauren Everts
Especially if you're introverted.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
What. When you guys make the decision to separate, what. What is the gossip? Like, how do you handle all this online? Do you block it? Do you delete Instagram app? Are you responding? What. What's your. What's your tactics?
Teddi Mellencamp
The biggest thing for me through all of this is, yes, I want to protect my children. Like, at the end of the day, I could say a million things about Edwin and he could say a million things about him, but I believe that I have been quite respectful of him on this podcast and I would hope that he would be the same of me.
Michael Bostick
And so what do you do with all of the people commenting and all this shit? Do you look at it? Do you block it out? What do you do?
Teddi Mellencamp
Really depends. I mean, if it's on a post with my kids.
Michael Bostick
Oh, come on.
Teddi Mellencamp
Then I try to remove it, but I mean, there's a good portion that at this point, my kids are aware of, you know, and it's hard as a parent because when you're sharing, you know, things that you've done or ways that you've contributed to the demise of a marriage, you don't wanna then throw your significant under significant other under the bus like, you don't like. So then the press started doing that and I had never done it, so I'm like, you don't need to throw hit. Like, yes, he shared that. When I first started Housewives was a hard time for it. Like, anything that I've shared today is stuff he shared. But, like, the press started picking up stuff from a source close to Teddy, and it just. And then it made us so mad at each other because I would say a source close to Edwin or this. And like, I was like, are you leaking this? Like, there were moments where I was like, are you leaking this to the press? Are you telling people this? Like, why? Like, I'm not gonna go back in time and reveal our entire history. Like, I'm gonna try to keep it as copacetic as possible. And like, I still. Regardless, if we never get back together and our marriage is over, you're the father of my children and I will love you forever. And I want to Be the kind of parents that we go to a birthday party together, we throw a birthday party together, that we are a team and, like, that I'll be friends with his next wife, you know, like, whatever. I want that. I don't want the kind of divorce that my parents had. Like, I. And I think the media really made that difficult for a little bit. They've kind of laid off me a little bit at this point, but, like, it was brutal.
Michael Bostick
Well, if I can just give you a compliment throughout this whole interview, I think that you've done nothing. What you. But what you just said, like, to me, after listening to this, I think it totally is possible for you guys to throw a birthday and that you just own the narrative and sort of took the air out of the press through this whole interview so far. Like, I feel like the best way to combat it is to do what you've just done and talk about it and own it and take it back into your own hands. The media. Michael and I just had a big guest on, and the media, the shit that they pulled from this show, it was like. It was not real. It was like, literally, like, well, listen, it's a hard.
Lauren Everts
It's a hard business when you need to make headlines. Right? And, like, I think the. The reason I like this medium so much, outside of it being our business is you really get to know people without sound bites.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Lauren Everts
And you get to tell stories and give context and background. And, you know, whether you think you disagree with someone or not. Like, what I've learned doing this show for so long is you learn about why people think the way they do or are the way they are. And even, like, when I just hear about your childhood and the way that you grew up, like, a lot of it now maps out and makes sense, and it's a exploration of the human condition. You know what I mean? Like, nobody's perfect.
Teddi Mellencamp
And I think when you're not feeling 100% like yourself, and then you're feeling all of a sudden this over, like, it's a dopamine rush to feel special. And I think that in those times, you know, if you're open and authentic and you talk to your person, then, you know, things may or may not happen. But if. If you're not, you're probably gonna make some decisions that are ultimately gonna affect your life.
Michael Bostick
I think it sounds like maybe you never know what's gonna happen for you. I mean, you know, maybe you guys get back together, maybe you don't. Maybe you throw a birthday party together, and maybe you're meeting each other's new significant others. But it doesn't sound like a concrete black or white situation, I think.
Teddi Mellencamp
And what I've always kind of said is, I need time.
Michael Bostick
Yeah.
Teddi Mellencamp
Like, I need time. I also, like, I said, you know, like, I want to date. Like, I want to meet people. Like, I want to. I want. I want to know. Because I don't know, because for 16 years, I've tried to be this person, and I'm not that person sometimes. Like, yeah, I'm a great mom. I have a lot of fun with my kids. I'm an activity person, but I'm not someone that cooks. I'm not good at crafts. Like, I'm not going to have the perfect sign that says, today's for, like. But, like, if we get down to it, like, I. I will be at every sporting event for my kids. Like, I will go on every fun adventure that you could possibly do. Like, I've learned a lot about myself, and I just want to be a good mom to my kids. And I realize that a lot of people are putting the two together. Like, well, you did this, so it means that you don't care about your family or you don't care about your kids. And that's the most hurtful thing people could say. Like. Like, I would honestly do anything for them. And if I think at the end of the day, what's better for them is for me and their dad not to be together. We're not going to be together. Like, that's. I. I want my kids happy.
Michael Bostick
I think that you're an unbelievable mom. And anyone that's saying that is projecting their own shit onto you. You just really have to look through it of a lens like that there's something that they're projecting onto you. The two. You could simultaneously do two things at once. And I think you're a great mom. And I've seen. I've watched you on. I mean, I've watched you on Instagram in the show, but you just can feel it. You're an unbelievable mom.
Teddi Mellencamp
Thank you.
Michael Bostick
I think that I'm gonna say 2025 is gonna be your year.
Teddi Mellencamp
You think?
Michael Bostick
Yeah. Why not? Abundant mindset.
Teddi Mellencamp
You know what? I'm gonna have an abundant mindset.
Michael Bostick
I think it's gonna be your year. Year.
Teddi Mellencamp
We've been having a pretty rough one since 2020, so maybe 2025 is where it's gonna go.
Michael Bostick
You don't have melanoma anymore, right?
Teddi Mellencamp
My last check, a month and a half ago, I did not.
Michael Bostick
Does that Mean, when you say you don't have it, does it mean you're cured?
Teddi Mellencamp
No, With. With skin cancer or melanoma. It means. So every single time you go in and get your skin check, and it's like a full skin check. And if you're listening, you shouldn't only be getting skin checks. You should also be, like, going to your gynecological appointment. You need eye exams. You could have melanoma in the eye. Like, you need to book all of your appointments, get your mammograms. If you're of a certain age, get a colonoscopy. Like, all of it. You have to be diligent about your health. And it can't be something that you put off because every. I mean, we. I'm not kidding. For at least two years, every three months that I went back from my checks, I had another melanin.
Lauren Everts
So see, Lauren, you gave me from going in there and do. I went in there, I got all naked. I did the whole thing.
Michael Bostick
Yeah, he had a speck. Like, an actual speck. It was a real spec. Like, he had a speck on his face. Like it. You couldn't see it.
Lauren Everts
But you gotta watch, right?
Michael Bostick
And I. I'm happy having Teddy on. I'll be a little kinder. But you did have a speck that you talked about for.
Lauren Everts
I got to read my face check. And next thing I knew, I was.
Michael Bostick
Like, probably about 15 times a day for two months.
Teddi Mellencamp
But then why. This is. Okay, this is where my issue with man and woman is.
Michael Bostick
Let it rip.
Teddi Mellencamp
Okay, so you have the spec. Like, I. At least with my armed situation, people may have told me, but I was like, whatever. I didn't talk about it. I just was keeping it going. But if it was something that was bothering you over and over and over again, why didn't you just immediately book your appointment?
Lauren Everts
No, I did. That's what she said.
Michael Bostick
He did. He did. But this is my problem with him. The appointment. He's fine. It looks nothing. And then he kept talking about this fact.
Teddi Mellencamp
Oh, no.
Lauren Everts
But Teddy. But, Teddy, you told me you went in and one person said it was nothing for you, too. I need to get expert opinion.
Michael Bostick
Go get another opinion.
Lauren Everts
I did.
Teddi Mellencamp
And was it anything?
Lauren Everts
No.
Michael Bostick
Okay, so he's still talking about it.
Lauren Everts
No, you're talking about it.
Teddi Mellencamp
Here's the thing. Since you've had the full skin check then. And about your skin coloring is probably closer to mine. Like, we have like a reddish undertone, so. Which it really doesn't even matter what your skin Tone is. But, like, you're gonna see more freckles and more things than probably on your skin. Okay, but go in every six months for a skin check.
Michael Bostick
Yeah.
Lauren Everts
We're on the same side, right? I don't think it's crazy.
Michael Bostick
You've bought and checked twice, and we're still talking about the spec.
Teddi Mellencamp
Listen, where is the spec show on the screen?
Michael Bostick
Look at the spec. Hold on. I can't see exactly. How do you think I feel? I'm pregnant. He's talking about what it was button.
Lauren Everts
And we just had a derma on the show. It was. It's a broken blood vessel that's called a hema something that.
Teddi Mellencamp
I know I have one right here.
Lauren Everts
And they can.
Teddi Mellencamp
They inject a little something into it.
Lauren Everts
They burn it off or whatever they want. It kind of sting sometimes when I put some vitamin C on it.
Teddi Mellencamp
I know mine does as well.
Michael Bostick
Name the baby Speck.
Teddi Mellencamp
That's my brother's name.
Lauren Everts
Oh, brother's name is Speck.
Teddi Mellencamp
Speck Wild horse.
Michael Bostick
That's cool.
Lauren Everts
That's kind of a cool name back.
Michael Bostick
Wild horse.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yep.
Michael Bostick
Teddi has definitely, like, you've given us a lot of information. If you see something on your body, anything that's weird, go to the doctor and get your pre. It's called pre cancer. How do you pre screening?
Teddi Mellencamp
You can go to a dermatologist to do this, but you need to go to a licensed dermatologist.
Michael Bostick
Okay.
Teddi Mellencamp
It's not like the random chick you're gonna get Botox from. Yeah. You're gonna like, you go to. Go to licensed dermatologist.
Lauren Everts
They do the little. The thing with the light and the thing.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah. And they need to check your. If they're only checking the parts that they can see while you're.
Michael Bostick
Butthole.
Lauren Everts
Lauren. I got it.
Teddi Mellencamp
I let that they'll do at the gynecologist. But yes, they do need to check your butthole.
Lauren Everts
I let them go.
Teddi Mellencamp
They need to check in between your toes. They need to check your vagine. All of it, but, like, they're separate doctors. My. My licensed dermatologist didn't check my vagine, but she checked everything else. And then I went to the gynecologist and got all the other stuff checked.
Lauren Everts
The person with me was like, sir, put that away. We actually.
Teddi Mellencamp
You're actually making me uncomfortable.
Michael Bostick
The spec has been like, the topic of conversation. Let's move on from that. Before you go, you have to tell us about your neck lift. People on this podcast on the show who listen, they love beauty tips, tricks you were so open about that. Tell me, like, do you really, like, love it? Your neck looks. It's. The neck is necking.
Teddi Mellencamp
The neck is necking. No, I love. It's. You know, I've made a lot of bad decisions. My neck lift was not one of them. So I always, no matter, like, how my weight fluctuated, I always kind of, like, did had to do this in pictures. And it was because when I went in, Dr. Sharmala Sunder, she is incredible because she's also not gonna have you do stuff that you don't need done. So I asked her, I'm like, like, should I get a freeze? Like, should I get thermage? Like, should I get threads? Like, what's happening?
Michael Bostick
No threads.
Teddi Mellencamp
No. No threads. No, no, no. So she said, you know, she touched my neck. She looked. She's like, okay, so here's what your particular issue. Issue is your hyoid bone, which is the bone that's right here.
Michael Bostick
Okay.
Teddi Mellencamp
Like, genetically speaking. I bet if you look around at your family, like, your hyoid bone goes like this. So it makes your neck naturally. No matter how taut your skin may be, it's always going to be, like, out like this. So I'm like, so what does that mean? Will the oralift work? And she's like, no. I mean, yeah, 20% better. An aura lift work. If you actually want something that'll work, you have to do a neck lift. Because I'm going to have to go in there. There. I'm not going to use doctor terms, but essentially put a little basket over your thing and tighten up that hyoid bone. And then I'll just tighten up the skin. Because if not, you could do all of the, you know, freezing the fat or whatever. She's like, it's not about the fat on your neck or it's not about loose skin. It's your genetic, like, how your body is. So I was like, okay, well, let's go. And then I was like, yeah, I'll document on Instagram. And we got ourself a deal.
Michael Bostick
Did it hurt?
Teddi Mellencamp
No, it hurt more. I had that Morpheus laser done.
Michael Bostick
No. Oh, I heard that hurt so bad.
Teddi Mellencamp
So what she said was, she's like, while you're under, I'm gonna do the Morpheus laser because it's really painful. And then that way, your recovery, it's all happening at once, which makes sense. But then when I woke up, I was like. But I was like, hold on. We didn't have surgery up here. Why is it hurting here? And she's like. Like, that's the Morpheus, but the Morpheus really works incredibly well.
Michael Bostick
But it does.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
Okay.
Teddi Mellencamp
So the Morpheus is amazing.
Michael Bostick
I've heard really good things. I just heard it hurts.
Teddi Mellencamp
And there's also, like, the CO2, the one that Tamara did. Do you see Tamara's documentation?
Michael Bostick
She's ice rolling. She's so cute. She's ice rolling. I'm like, you need an ice roller right now. When I saw she got that done.
Teddi Mellencamp
I. I had to send her a text. I'm like, you might want to wait for the post until you're on. Off the. Off of the pain meds.
Michael Bostick
Didn't she do the podcast in this situation? That's funny.
Teddi Mellencamp
I was like, hey, Smurf, what's up?
Michael Bostick
You guys are funny.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah, she's funny.
Michael Bostick
Also, I do have to shout out, you always go to Pelicure. I know. And Anna is a really good friend of mine, the owner. We both love Pellicure. If you guys are in la, you have to go to me and Teddy's favorite Korean Vichy shower. It's so good.
Teddi Mellencamp
So good. And now they have a new scalp massage. Have you done that yet? Where they haven't?
Lauren Everts
I've done it twice.
Teddi Mellencamp
My. It is so good. And then they give you a blowout afterwards, and it's like, a good blowout. It's not what you were gonna say.
Michael Bostick
And then they give you a blowjob. I'm like, no wonder Michael keeps going back.
Teddi Mellencamp
No wonder Michael's always in a good mood when he gets back from Pellet Curl.
Lauren Everts
But I. I did do the thing, and it's like, it's the best.
Teddi Mellencamp
And then they show you, like, your scalp where there's, like, extra. And I was like, what? I, like, wash my hair on a regular basis. Why is my scalp like that? No. Pellicure is incredible and always relaxing.
Michael Bostick
Can you imagine my scalp? Because I only wash my hair three times a month.
Teddi Mellencamp
Well, when I said I wash my hair a decent amount of time, I meant, like, once a week. Okay.
Michael Bostick
Okay.
Lauren Everts
It's better for your hair.
Teddi Mellencamp
I mean, it's better for your hair. It's probably not better for my scalp and my tape and extensions, but if.
Michael Bostick
You do a little massage, I think it's fine. Then you're stimulating the fascia.
Teddi Mellencamp
Okay.
Michael Bostick
That's my theory. I don't know.
Teddi Mellencamp
Perfect.
Michael Bostick
Teddi, I think you're great. You're warm, you're funny, and you're very open on this show. Thank you so much for coming on Pimp yourself out. Where can everyone find you? Your brand, your podcast, all the things.
Teddi Mellencamp
My Instagram's Eddie Mellencamp. My podcast is two T's in a Pod and Diamonds in the Rough. I would love for you guys to give us a listen. And my accountability program, which people's favorite thing to say right now is, how can you hold anyone accountable to anything for your health and wellness? Is allinbyteddy.com and if you mention the Skinny Confidential in your application, I will give you 15% off.
Michael Bostick
You know what? Accountability is not about being perfect.
Teddi Mellencamp
Accountability is, you know what? Showing up and doing what you got to do to make your life better.
Michael Bostick
And if you're gonna say that, that you have to be really perfect to call someone out for not being perfect.
Teddi Mellencamp
Yeah.
Michael Bostick
You better have perfection going on in your lawn.
Teddi Mellencamp
And you better actually, like, have a picture on your Instagram if it's one dog and you've got no followers and, like, it's just all these empty boxes. Like, I don't want to hear it from you.
Michael Bostick
No. Or if it's a woman picture and there's a God quote, Bible quote in the pile. I mean, if I could make a parody of Peace, Love, and light.
Teddi Mellencamp
You are a bitch. I see you in next Tuesday.
Michael Bostick
I hate mindset. God is good.
Lauren Everts
P.S. media, people and journalists that bring kids into the thing. Karma's coming for you.
Teddi Mellencamp
Ooh.
Michael Bostick
Oh, Michael did a zinger.
Lauren Everts
It's true. It's true.
Michael Bostick
Okay, Teddy Mullenkamp, come back anytime. Let me know when you wanna go over housewives. Cause I can bring my Trapper Keeper.
Teddi Mellencamp
You're coming in.
Lauren Everts
Thank you, Teddy.
The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast
Episode: Teddi Mellencamp Gets Real On Marriage Struggles, Personal Struggles, Skin Cancer Battle, & Lessons from RHOBH
Release Date: February 3, 2025
In this compelling episode of The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast, hosts Lauryn Bosstick and Michael Bosstick engage in an unfiltered conversation with Teddi Mellencamp. As a former star of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills (RHOBH), Teddi opens up about her tumultuous marriage, personal battles with weight and mental health, her courageous fight against skin cancer, and the lessons she's learned from her reality TV experience. This in-depth discussion offers listeners invaluable insights and actionable takeaways for personal growth and resilience.
Teddi Mellencamp begins by sharing her upbringing and family dynamics. Born in 1981, Teddi's father, a musician famous for his hit "Jack and Diane," met her mother at the Rainbow Room. Their relationship was short-lived, leading to a divorce by Teddi's third grade.
Teddi Mellencamp [06:00]: "It was a brutal divorce. It was all of the things that you hope it's not going to be."
The divorce had a profound impact on Teddi, resulting in strained visitations and a childhood largely forgotten due to her tendency to disassociate from painful memories.
Moving to Los Angeles at 17 to pursue an acting career marked the beginning of Teddi's significant weight gain. Despite her petite frame, she admitted to gaining approximately 70 pounds within seven months of relocating.
Teddi Mellencamp [10:05]: "I had gained probably, like, 70 pounds. It was a lot."
The pressure of auditions and the competitive nature of LA exacerbated her struggles. An unsuccessful audition led her to abandon acting altogether, pushing her further into unhealthy patterns.
Teddi Mellencamp [11:47]: "I never auditioned for another acting job again."
Teddi's battle with weight was intertwined with her desire for parental approval and her sensitive nature as a Cancer.
Teddi Mellencamp [07:20]: "I was kind of always that overachiever looking for attention... Also very sensitive."
Teddi met her husband, Edwin Mellencamp, under unconventional circumstances—a night out just after Christmas while she was newly divorced. Their relationship blossomed quickly, resulting in marriage and two children.
Teddi Mellencamp [17:14]: "I met my husband the day after Christmas at a nightclub."
However, the pressures of reality TV and Teddi's personal struggles strained their marriage. While Edwin began working on personal growth and accountability, Teddi felt increasingly detached, leading to resentment and emotional shutdowns.
Teddi Mellencamp [23:24]: "I think I had almost like, resentment or animosity or fear of ever, like, being open again."
Being cast on RHOBH brought both opportunities and challenges. Teddi found the environment demanding, where maintaining a facade of perfection often overshadowed authentic connections.
Teddi Mellencamp [26:55]: "Beverly Hills, the strongest is probably the least one where women ask questions and expect vulnerable answers back."
The show's production style emphasized drama over vulnerability, making it difficult for Teddi to express her true self. Despite forming strong friendships with some cast members, the relentless spotlight took a toll on her mental well-being.
Teddi Mellencamp [30:50]: "Edwin was able to come out of the show after three years, and he came out completely unscathed."
The culmination of marital struggles and external pressures led Teddi and Edwin to decide on separation. Navigating this transition was fraught with media scrutiny and personal pain.
Teddi Mellencamp [80:34]: "I believe that I have been quite respectful of him on this podcast and I would hope that he would be the same of me."
Online attacks and cancel culture further complicated their separation, forcing Teddi to hire a crisis management team—a move she later criticized.
Teddi Mellencamp [42:28]: "Anyone that tells you that you should hire a crisis management team. No, they all tell you."
Teddi candidly discusses her diagnosis with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and anxiety. These mental health challenges were exacerbated by her weight struggles and her efforts to maintain an image on reality TV.
Teddi Mellencamp [46:09]: "I have a toolkit to get through it... I've learned that on the days that I'm not getting through it, it's okay for me to go."
Her journey towards mental wellness involved adopting practices like meditation, box breathing, cold plunges, and sauna sessions. Teddi emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and self-compassion in her healing process.
Teddi Mellencamp [84:28]: "I need time. I also, like, I said, you know, like, I want to date... I'm not someone that cooks. I'm not good at crafts."
Perhaps the most harrowing part of Teddi's story is her battle with skin cancer. Starting in her late teens, Teddi faced multiple diagnoses requiring over 20 surgeries, including the removal of an 800-stitch back surgery.
Teddi Mellencamp [61:31]: "I've had it since I was a kid. So I went and immediately... I'm gonna cut this one out and we're gonna start this process."
Her persistent fight underscores the importance of regular skin checks and early detection. Teddi shares her experience navigating the healthcare system, highlighting the challenges of balancing treatment with personal and professional responsibilities.
Teddi Mellencamp [63:00]: "And so, like, pretty much throughout the next three years, I think I've had over 20 surgeries."
Through her trials, Teddi has emerged as a beacon of resilience and authenticity. She now hosts two podcasts—Two T's in a Pod and Diamonds in the Rough—aimed at helping others transform their lives through accountability and self-improvement.
Teddi Mellencamp [95:21]: "My podcast is Two T's in a Pod and Diamonds in the Rough. I would love for you guys to give us a listen."
Her accountability program, available at allinbyteddy.com, offers personalized support for individuals seeking to enhance their health and wellness.
Teddi Mellencamp [95:48]: "Accountability is, you know what? Showing up and doing what you got to do to make your life better."
Teddi Mellencamp's journey, as recounted in this episode, is a testament to overcoming adversity through self-awareness, resilience, and authenticity. Her openness about personal struggles—from weight and mental health to battling skin cancer and navigating a high-pressure marriage—provides listeners with relatable experiences and motivational insights. Teddi's story encourages embracing vulnerability, seeking support, and prioritizing one's well-being amidst life's challenges.
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