The Skinny Confidential Him and Her Show

Episode: Dr. Robert Kiltz On Hormone Balance, Managing Inflammation, & Gender Roles In Fertility
Hosts: Lauryn Bosstick & Michael Bosstick
Guest: Dr. Robert Kiltz, Double Board-Certified OBGYN & Reproductive Endocrinologist; Founder, CNY Fertility
Date: February 19, 2026

Episode Overview

In this engaging, deeply personal episode, Dr. Robert Kiltz shares his unconventional journey from a turbulent childhood in Los Angeles gangs to becoming a pioneering fertility expert. The discussion explores the root causes of disease, the mind-body connection, controversial takes on nutrition (especially the carnivore diet), hormone health, gender roles in fertility, and holistic paths to wellness. Dr. Kiltz challenges mainstream medical dogma, making a compelling case for faith, mindset, and dietary simplicity as primary levers for human health and fertility.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Dr. Kiltz’s Early Life and Unlikely Journey to Medicine (01:16–09:21)

• Grew up with adversity: Gang involvement, father in jail, dyslexia, depression, and family instability (01:34–06:25).
  • “Their hardships sort of became my hardships and I suffered from dyslexia and depression, anxiety and bowel problems as a child.” – Dr. Kiltz (01:42)
• Turning point: Arrested as a teen, forced to choose a different path; credits work ethic and family support.
• Entry into medicine: Initially focused on art and mechanics; a leg injury and inspiring doctor set him on the path to medical school, despite academic struggles with reading (06:25–09:21).

2. Critique of Traditional Medical Training (09:21–11:27)

• Dr. Kiltz highlights a gap: doctors are trained to diagnose and treat disease, not prevent or understand root causes.
  • “There’s no real drive to understand the cause of disease…what we were doing wasn’t working a lot.” – Dr. Kiltz (09:46, 11:11)

3. The Mind-Body Connection and Role of Mindset in Healing (13:32–22:26)

• Mid-career shift: After professional and personal turmoil, Dr. Kiltz discovered meditation, mindfulness, and Eastern thought, incorporating wellness practices like meditation, yoga, and acupuncture into fertility care (11:39–15:15).
• Mindset as medicine: Practicing daily intentions and affirmations, he found mindset shifts transformed patients’ outcomes—especially in fertility.
  • “If we can help people calm the mind, reduce epinephrine and cortisol, build serotonin, oxytocin, we can change the energy, reduce inflammation hopefully and help them get pregnant.” – Dr. Kiltz (12:40)
• Faith and visualization: “Faith is seeing life in absolute…the way it’s supposed to be and imagining these are just pieces of the path to get you to the place you wish to be. And if we can actually see the thing we wish as if it is, it shows up.” – Dr. Kiltz (16:34)

4. Nutrition, Disease, and the Carnivore Lifestyle (13:32–25:10; 47:26–50:53; 56:53–60:07)

• Personal healing with Paleo, Keto, Carnivore: High-fat, meat-based diets improved his health and patient outcomes.
  • “Within a month, my stuff was better...My mindset was brighter, my energy was greater.” – Dr. Kiltz (14:21)
• Fat is essential, and low-fat diets are harmful: “Nobody eats fat…everything you’re eating has to go to the liver and be converted to fat. But our livers are damaged secondary to a low fat diet and eating three to six meals a day.” – Dr. Kiltz (23:09)
• Controversial plant critique: Argues plants cause inflammation and disease; links plant origin of birth control pills to fertility shifts.
  • “The original source of the birth control pill and the abortion pill—herbal medicine, plant-based.” – Dr. Kiltz (25:10)
• On processed foods and plant-based toxins: Advocates cooking plants thoroughly if consumed, and focusing on animal fats for reducing inflammation and gut issues.
• Microbiome and disease: Explains that overfeeding gut microbes with carbs/sugars from plants leads to inflammation, impacting everything from fertility to emotional health (47:26–50:53).

5. Fertility, Gender, and Modern Lifestyles (25:11–30:38; 65:35–69:15)

• On delaying childbearing and sex as entertainment:
  • “Postponing childbearing into the late 30s and 40s isn’t optimal…no other animal basically starts having their time for reproduction and says, well, let’s wait a few years.” – Dr. Kiltz (27:14)
• Rising infertility & shared gender responsibility:
  • “It’s 100% both. Our ability to say, oh, it’s 70% yours and 30% yours. How do we know that?” – Dr. Kiltz (65:50)
• Improving egg and sperm health: Same prescription for both sexes—mindset, fat-focused diet (“stick of butter a day”), fasting, reduced inflammation.

6. Affirmations, Visualization, and the Power of Positivity (38:22–44:44)

• Simple effective affirmations:
  • “I am a mom, I’m a dad, I’m a parent. It’s the simplest thing to do. I am.” – Dr. Kiltz (38:27)
• On daily practice: Both mindset and physical wellness are ongoing, not one-time fixes.
  • “Every thought you think is a prayer to the universe. Every negative thought attracts. Every positive thought attracts.” – Dr. Kiltz (41:01)
• Tools for worry & rumination: Dr. Kiltz recommends gratitude and “I love you, thank you” as mental reset mantras (44:40).

7. Fasting & Meal Frequency (47:26–50:53)

• On the dangers of constant eating:
  • “The problem is three meals a day. Our gut is full from the day we’re born to the day we die...[Fasting] allows the body to heal itself.” – Dr. Kiltz (47:26)
• Fasting regimens: He personally practices three-day fasts monthly, five-day fasts quarterly, and one meal a day.

8. Exercise vs. Motion (72:40–75:36)

• Not a fan of formal exercise: Instead, recommends natural, organic movement and daily physical engagement—
  • “Animals don’t exercise...If they’re running, it’s either usually to capture something or run away from something, but they’re not exercising.” – Dr. Kiltz (72:47)
• Warns against repetitive, high-impact routines for long-term joint and tissue health.

9. Gender Dynamics and Fertility Blame (65:35–69:15)

• Rejects blame: “It’s always a sperm problem, it’s always an egg problem…same way you fix your eggs—mindset and carnivore, faith, fat, fasting, fertility. It’s simple.” – Dr. Kiltz (67:36)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Visualization (Faith in Practice):
  • “Faith is seeing life in absolute...as if it is, it shows up.” (16:34)
• On Plant-Based Diets & Disease:
  • “Why are we sick? Why are we depressed? ...Because our brain is highly damaged due to what I believe is a plant-based diet, low-fat diet...” (21:22)
• On Birth Control in Modern Society:
  • “Is the birth control pill good for humans? No, terrible for humans. It’s one of the worst things we’ve ever done.” (25:25)
• On Both Genders’ Role in Fertility:
  • “It’s 100% the woman’s cause, and it’s 100% the man’s cause.” (65:50)
• On Fasting:
  • “Fasting is easy. I love it.” (47:22)
• On Affirmations:
  • “I love you. Thank you. It’s my go to.” (44:40)
• On Fat:
  • “A stick of butter a day—that’s the best.” (69:15)
• On Modern Exercise Advice:
  • “Animals don’t exercise...the repetitive motion [like exercise] can be harmful.” (72:47)
• On Mindfulness & Louise Hay:
  • “I love Louise Hay...it took me a while to figure this out. It was sort of like this: it’s just my thinking that’s the problem.” (41:25)

Timestamps for Substantive Sections

| Segment | Content Highlight | Timestamp | |---------------------------------------------|-------------------------------------------------------|-------------| | Dr. Kiltz’s Early Life & Gang Experience | Childhood adversity, leaving gangs | 01:16–06:25 | | Medical Training Critique | Diet, prevention missing in medical curricula | 09:21–11:27 | | Mindset & Meditation in Fertility | Emotional wellness impact; prayer & yoga | 11:39–15:15 | | Carnivore/Keto Diet & Health | His health journey, dietary recommendations | 13:32–25:10 | | Plants & Birth Control Pills | Link between plants, hormones, & fertility | 25:10–27:26 | | On Modern Lifestyles & Infertility | Delayed childbearing, male & female roles | 27:14–30:38 | | Affirmations & Visualization | “I am” statements, daily gratitude, positivity | 38:22–44:44 | | Fasting & Disease Prevention | Fasted states, autophagy, gut healing | 47:26–50:53 | | Gut Health & Diet Adjustments | Meat vs. plant digestion, food recalls | 56:53–60:07 | | Fat & Sperm/Egg Health | Butter, diet, gender roles in fertility | 65:35–69:15 | | Exercise vs. Motion | Against formal exercise for longevity | 72:40–75:36 |

Useful Takeaways for the Listener

• Fertility isn’t just medical—mindset and nutrition matter.
• Plant-based, low-fat diets may be at the root of modern inflammatory diseases, according to Dr. Kiltz.
• Mindfulness, faith, daily affirmation, and gratitude help rewire the brain for healing.
• Fat is not the enemy—animal fat is central to hormone health and fertility.
• Fasting (not constant eating) is natural and healing.
• Both men and women need to take responsibility for fertility challenges.
• Exercise isn’t about “working out”—natural, pleasurable motion matters more.

Where to Find Dr. Robert Kiltz

• Website: drkilts.com
• Instagram, YouTube, TikTok: @drrobertkilts

Final Note:
Dr. Kiltz’s perspective is both radical and refreshing, blending spiritual philosophy with evolutionary biology and bold nutritional advice. Whether you agree or not, his emphasis on individual agency, positivity, and self-knowledge offers an empowering message to anyone struggling with health and fertility.