Episode Overview

Theme:
In this episode of The Slowdown, host Maggie Smith reflects on the concept of private, intimate communication within families and communities—be it through “twinspeak” or the secret shorthand of shared experiences—and draws a parallel to how poetry serves as its own secret language. The episode culminates in a reading and contemplation of David Baker’s poem “Never-ending Birds,” exploring how language can encapsulate familial love, memory, and the inevitable passage of time.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

The Power of Secret Languages (01:21 - 04:30)

• Twinspeak/Cryptophagia:
  Maggie opens with the idea of “twinspeak,” a unique way some twins communicate privately, sharing how intriguing she found it as a child and learning it is a real phenomenon called “cryptophagia.”
• Discovery & Facts:
  She cites Nancy Siegel from Cal State Fullerton, who states “about 40% of twin toddlers engage in some form of twinspeak or cryptophagia.”
• Family Shorthand:
  Maggie draws connections to her own upbringing with sisters, highlighting that inside jokes and shared anecdotes serve as a form of secret family language.
  • “In that sense, maybe every family has a secret language.” (03:42)
  • She extends “family” to include chosen families and communities, mentioning similar shorthand with her own children.

Poetry as Intimate Communication (04:30 - 05:15)

• Poetry’s Role:
  Maggie suggests that poetry functions as a kind of secret language—"a way of saying the unsayable, a way of articulating experiences or ideas that are hard to wrap our minds around."
• Community Connection:
  She sees sharing poetry as "inviting other people into an intimate conversation," much like sharing a family’s private lexicon.

Memorable Poem Reading: “Never-ending Birds” by David Baker (05:16 - 07:18)

“Today’s poem is one I’ve carried around in my mind for years, one whose language I flash to instinctively when I see a flock of birds, especially a murmuration of starlings. I think of the phrase ‘never ending birds,’ a phrase coined not by the speaker of this poem, but by the speaker’s child.” (05:18)

Poem Excerpt read by Maggie Smith:

“That’s us pointing to the clouds.
Those are clouds of birds.”
…
“October gray, blue, white oleo of birds,
never ending birds.
You called the first time years
we say it the three of us, any two of us,
one of those just endearments, apt
Clarity’s kiss on the lips of hope.
I have another house. Now you have two.
That’s us pointing with our delible whorls
into the far away, the true born blue, white unfeathering cloud
of another year, another sheet of their never ending.
There’s your mother wedding back, your wild curl.
I’m your father. That’s us three pointing up.
Dear girl,
they will not. It’s we who do
End.”

Notable Reflections:

• Maggie connects the simple, shared phrase “never ending birds” with the nuanced, enduring bonds and transitions in family.
• The poem poignantly addresses the temporal nature of human life (“It’s we who do end”) in contrast to the endless patterns observed in nature.

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On the universality of private language:

  “In that sense, maybe every family has a secret language.” —Maggie Smith (03:42)

• On poetic intimacy:

  “Poetry can be a kind of secret language, too, a way of saying the unsayable, a way of articulating experiences or ideas that are hard to wrap our minds around.” —Maggie Smith (04:38)

• On legacy and fleetingness:

  “Dear girl, they will not. It's we who do end.” —David Baker, read by Maggie Smith (07:13)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Secret family languages and twinspeak: 01:21 – 04:30
• Poetry as “secret language”: 04:30 – 05:15
• Introduction to “Never-ending Birds”: 05:16 – 05:45
• Full poem reading: 05:46 – 07:18
• Closing reflective moments: 07:19 – 07:30

Episode Summary

Maggie Smith thoughtfully explores the idea of private languages—whether the literal “twinspeak” between some siblings, the shorthand shared among family or chosen community, or the artful secret language of poetry. She suggests that these codes of connection are “like a superpower,” imbuing ordinary life with meaning and intimacy. Through the reading of David Baker’s “Never-ending Birds,” she invites listeners to reflect on how simple phrases and shared attention anchor us to each other and to moments both fleeting and eternal. The poem’s moving exploration of family, memory, and the passage of time resonates as a testimonial to the enduring power of language—both public and deeply personal.