The Emotional Purge: Hiring Help and Finding Peace feat. Becky

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Podcast Summary: The Southern Tea

Episode: The Emotional Purge: Hiring Help and Finding Peace feat. Becky
Date: February 25, 2026
Host: Lindsie Chrisley
Guest: Becky

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Episode Overview

This episode of The Southern Tea is a candid, emotional conversation between host Lindsie Chrisley and recurring guest Becky. The central themes revolve around navigating heartbreak, self-reflection, healing after tumultuous relationships, finding support in friendships, and making space for peace—both emotionally and in practical life, like hiring new help. The episode also touches on modern motherhood, intrusive thoughts, pop culture obsessions, and the role of public narratives for personalities with online platforms.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Navigating Breakups and Emotional Processing

• Lindsie reveals a recent breakup (04:02–07:19), referencing leaks about her former relationship on Reddit and expressing a need to respect the relationship by not reacting impulsively.
• She emphasizes needing time before publicly parsing the breakup, recognizing the complexity and the involvement of children.
• Quote:

  "I am no longer in a relationship. I am single girl, Lindsay. But like, any man that's listening to this, like, do not try to slide into my DM, because, no, not remotely ready for that, and maybe I will not be ready for that ever." —Lindsie (04:02)

• Becky and Lindsie discuss the value of taking a pause before responding, the cyclical emotions of messy breakups, and the wisdom of later perspective.
• Both acknowledge the challenges of co-parenting and dating as public figures.

2. Public Narrative versus Private Healing

• Lindsie feels pressure from followers to "spill the tea" whenever relationships end, leading to conversations about how much public figures owe their audience (17:34–18:31).
• There’s a clear line drawn between sharing authentically and protecting one’s own healing.
• Quote:

  "Just because I go through a breakup does not mean that I'm getting back with my ex husband." —Lindsie (71:29)

3. The Emotional Purge – Letting Go

• Lindsie describes physically clearing out reminders of her ex and finding it cathartic (19:53–20:08).
• Becky notes Lindsie’s tough exterior is often a defense mechanism masking real pain.
• Music, especially blasting Taylor Swift’s "The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived," becomes a recurring self-care theme.
• Quote:

  "You know what's been super healing for me over the last couple of days?... Just blasting the smallest man who ever lived." —Lindsie (21:00)

4. Friendship, Support, and Identity

• The conversation touches on the unique, restorative energy Lindsie finds in her group of friends, many of whom are queer, including her new assistant and team members (25:44–28:14).
• There’s a running joke about queer friends being “safe” because there’s no risk of romantic heartbreak.

5. Re-Evaluating Past Relationships

• Lindsie admits to going through a pattern of not being truly ready for relationships post-divorce, taking responsibility for her own choices (13:31–14:34).
• Becky affirms accountability while gently reminding that being cheated on is never justifiable and that Lindsie deserves more.

6. The Realities of Single Parenting

• Lindsie shares about traveling solo with her son, Jackson—how these moments have been unexpectedly joyful and healing post-breakup/divorce (32:57–34:18).
• The pair discuss intrusive parental thoughts and how anxiety is heightened as a single parent (35:56–38:15).

7. Pop Culture Comforts

• They bond over reality TV, Gilmore Girls, Taylor Swift, and the nostalgia of old shows as sources of comfort and community (41:23–46:44).
• Becky is deep into Gilmore Girls, which leads to light-hearted comparisons about taste in partners.

8. Accountability, Narcissism, and Justice

• An honest inquiry into who is truly a narcissist and how that word is often misused online (46:44–48:12).
• The concept of being “justice-driven” arises, with both agreeing they want people who hurt others to face consequences, but acknowledging that karma can be slow (48:48–51:36).

9. Hiring and Managing New Help

• Lindsie discusses the changes in her support team, having to hire a new assistant and new show staff—leading to reflections on trust, criteria for hiring, and the anxiety (and humor) in inviting people into her chaotic world (25:44–32:36).

10. Listener Involvement & Advice Hotline

• Announcement of a new, anonymous hotline for listeners to call in with secrets or requests for advice, promising distorted voices for anonymity (68:10–70:19).
• Quote:

  "It's more of, like, what would I do? And do the opposite thing." —Lindsie (68:10)

11. Healing and Looking Forward

• The conversation wraps with jokes about therapy, ayahuasca retreats, and potential "healing era" plans, complete with a bit of self-deprecating humor.
• Lindsie admits she needs a new therapist after hers lost their license (57:32–59:06).
• Both look forward to new group adventures focused on deep healing (59:06–61:18).
• Quote:

  "Can you imagine just Kale on one of those trips?... The both of you have so much unhealed trauma that, like, I don't know if one trip would be enough." —Becky (60:54)

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Notable Quotes

• On breakups in the public eye:

  "When other people try to put out other narratives... that also creates more controversy in somebody's mind to be like, well, wait, I want her to speak on it, and I want to hear her side of the story." —Lindsie (18:31)

• On healing in public:

  "Do you think people would like a more healed me version?... Because people would probably assume that maybe a healed version of you wouldn’t be as chaotic and funny, but I think that there’s a beautiful chaotic and funny healed version of you." —Becky (22:29)

• On friendship:

  "Y’all cannot hurt me." —Lindsie on surrounding herself with queer friends (26:19)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 04:02 – Lindsie discusses recent breakup and emotional fallout
• 07:19 – Becky and Lindsie reflect on handling emotions post-breakup
• 13:31 – Lindsie takes accountability for her relationship patterns
• 17:34 – The expectations and boundaries of sharing with a public audience
• 21:00 – Music as therapy, Taylor Swift discussion
• 25:44 – Hiring a new assistant and finding comfort in chosen community
• 32:57 – Post-divorce parenting wins
• 35:56 – Anxiety and intrusive thoughts as a parent
• 41:23 – Pop culture, Gilmore Girls and TV comfort watches
• 46:44 – Discussing narcissism and justice-driven personalities
• 68:10 – Introduction of anonymous advice hotline
• 59:06 – Searching for new healing routines, discussing therapy and retreats
• 71:29 – Fans rooting for Lindsie to reunite with her ex-husband

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Tone and Language

Throughout, the tone is candid, occasionally irreverent and self-deprecating, but always grounded in real emotion and friendship. Lindsie, as always, brings her signature southern humor and openness—even in tough moments—while Becky offers steady, empathetic insight and some playful ribbing.

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Memorable Moments

• Lindsie jokes that Cash App is essentially sponsoring her son’s early financial independence, showcasing her wry, “boy mom” humor.
• The segment on “the cloud” and tech paranoia (03:07–03:49) turns into a humorous side track about personal data and digital mysteries.
• Lighthearted banter about song choices and healing—“smallest man who ever lived”—becomes a group anthem post-breakup.
• The “grippy sock vacation” joke about an ayahuasca retreat to escape life’s chaos.
• Lindsie's story of her therapist losing their license leading her to re-examine her own growth journey.

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Useful For

• Anyone navigating breakups, grief, or public scrutiny of private life
• Listeners who appreciate authentic, unguarded discussions about healing and personal growth
• Fans of Lindsie’s friendship circle and their journey together through life’s challenges
• Mothers and single parents relating to intrusive thoughts, co-parenting, and kid adventures
• Listeners seeking humor and solidarity in the less polished corners of adult life

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Transcript

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Maybe I'm just, like, weird. Maybe I'm crunchy. This is the Southern Tea with Lindsay Chrisley. I think it's so funny when you get Christmas cards and all of these people write their children's accomplishments on the back. I don't love them. A Southern girl and a boy mom who's trying to navigate life while staying true to her roots. I am a functioning, non functioning human being right now. Join Lindsay each week as she swears to spill the tea, the whole tea, and nothing but the tea. Tea. That is the tea. Here's Lindsay. Good morning and welcome back to another episode of the Southern Tea. How are you, Becky?

[Becky]

Good morning, Lindsay. Chrisley. Oh, how are we doing? Thanks for having me back.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I just, like, had the biggest sigh of relief seeing your face.

[Becky]

Feelings, mutual vibes are always high around each other. I was talking to Leah about this last night, and she just wanted me to make sure I wasn't adding more to my plate. That was gonna make me feel overwhelmed. Right. Life can be overwhelming. I've. I've had a million things, but I said to her, I was like, you know, I really. I'm looking forward to getting more time with you because I do value our friendship, and I feel like this is gonna bring us even closer.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I know. So Kayl and I are going to Dallas on. Well, I'm not gonna say the dates that. That we're going to Dallas, but we're going to Dallas. And it just makes me so sad that you're not going with us.

[Becky]

The trio needs to get back together.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know, it's like the gang needs to get back together. It would be so fun. Do you have fomo? When we go somewhere and you're not

[Becky]

there pre having a kid, I would say yes. I'm a little bit more tired. I'm a lot more tired than I'm used to being. So maybe not. But as. Maybe not as much. But yes, I do. Just because we just kick our feet and giggle like we're little kids when we're all together. And I miss that feeling. Right? You know what?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I was okay. So I had to get a new phone. For whatever reason, I got 100. I thought 128 gigabyte phone was going to be, like, great for me and absolutely not. Like, I can't even open up my camera app before it reroutes me to the storage. So basically my phone's broken. It's been blowing up all morning. So I was going through photos and I get to the trip that we took to la. You Know, why are we riding it in a limo? And I saw that, like, gif that you made of kale, like, jumping up and down her pajamas.

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And I'm like, I can't delete that. So I had to go get a new phone, and now I have to drop this thing off because I. Are you good at technology?

[Becky]

I. I'd say fairly good.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Okay, well, I. If I try to transfer this myself, everything's gonna be gone.

[Becky]

It's not that hard. It's. Is everything backed up to icloud?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No.

[Becky]

So just go on the cloud.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

What is the cloud? Who is she?

[Becky]

There's just people dancing around up there, just sucking up your information and going, no.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You never wondered that? Like, who. Who is the cloud?

[Becky]

I. I know my limitations of thought. And so, no, I don't really wonder it because, like, I don't need to wonder it, like, it works. It's there. I don't need to make myself more confused because if I start, I often drive down the road and I'll look at the electrical lines, and I'm like, how are those there? And how did they know to put those there? Like, I cannot go down this path.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Can you imagine if somebody ever got into our cloud?

[Becky]

Honestly, mine not so bad. Yours. There would be a lot to learn in that cloud.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah, there would be a lot to learn in that cloud. We were actually. Kayla and I were talking about this, like, many moons ago. We were like, if anybody ever got our phones, just go ahead and kill us now.

[Becky]

The two of you? Yes. And potentially mine. Just by proxy, Right? Like, just by. Guilty by association of text threads, you know?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You mean our text threads? Yeah, literally, like, stuff that said, like, we immediately would be arrested.

[Becky]

Yes.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Becky]

Okay.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So outside of needing to get a new phone, I have to take care of that today. I have been absolutely going through it, and I don't want to say that I've been a basket case, because I have not. I have just been soaking it all in. For those who do not go on the lovely Reddit. There was some information that was leaked about my relationship. I am no longer in a relationship. I am single girl, Lindsay. But like, any man that's listening to this, like, do not try to slide into my dm, because, no, not. Not remotely ready for that, and maybe I will not be ready for that ever. I have been emotionally very unwell. I slept from. Okay, yesterday. I came home from Pilates. I know, like, champagne problems. Came home from Pilates, took a bath, and immediately went to bed and was asleep by 7pm I started trying to watch his and hers. Have you watched it?

[Becky]

I started it. I haven't finished you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You wish it was like hers and hers, though.

[Becky]

Continue with your monologue, Lindsay.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So, tried to watch that. Woke up around 11 and fix myself some pancakes because I didn't have anything for dinner and went right back to bed. Looked at my phone this morning and it looked like a psychopath, like, blew up on it. I mean, we're talking 19 paragraph texts. And so I said, yeah, it's good that this phone's going to T mobile today because I am not about to do this. I am going to talk about all of this at a later date, but I feel like. And I don't know your thoughts on this. Talking about it too soon and me not even knowing where I'm emotionally at probably isn't like the wisest of choices. And not for nothing, I was in a relationship with this person a little over a year and a half on and off. And I do want to respect that time and, like, the good parts of the things that we had and not just go down a slippery slope of some freaking rabbit hole. I know that he's not taking the same approach that I am, but as I said on my Instagram story last night, guilty dogs always bark first. And, yeah, I plan to record a solo episode when I'm in Dallas, like, going through all this if I am ready at that point.

[Becky]

Point. I think that there's a lot of growth in taking you and Kale both, like, taking a second before you react, because situations of these sorts are super emotional. Right. We talked about this. And I don't. I don't know how much you want to talk about it right now, because I know that you're gonna gather your thoughts, gather your feelings, talk about it in the way that you want. But we did speak about this a little bit yesterday. Just of, like, there's a lot of emotions that come from kind of chaotic relationships, which would make this situation even more just triggering for you. So there's like a lot of feelings, a lot of emotions, highs and lows throughout the past year and a half. So that's like kind of all coming to a head now. So be gentle with yourself, Be gentle with your decisions.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's almost like I'm processing things that I probably should have processed prior to ever getting back together. Does that make sense?

[Becky]

For sure? Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And now it's all just, like, hitting me at one time, and I'm like, okay, well, if I would have made that decision, then this wouldn't have happened and that wouldn't have happened. And I mean obviously hindsight's 20 20, you know, you, you can't go back and, and be like, well, I wish I should have, could have, woulda. It's just unfortunate. And there are children that are involved. And so I'm just. I guess my biggest confusion and maybe you can give some insight on this is like at our big ages, why are we running to the freaking Internet to try to tell a story about something when you're caught red handed doing something?

[Becky]

Like, I don't me putting my mind and like, I guess I do sometimes, but I do not understand the male psyche and I do not understand why

[Lindsay Chrisley]

you're with a girl Fair.

[Becky]

But it goes beyond that. Right? Like, I think that, I don't think that this is the, like this issue was the overlying issue of your relationship. Right. Like I. There's a lot that goes into it. And we also talked about how you historically like have a lot of healing to do yourself. And I think that not for nothing that this is a really good chance for you to heal you without having that added layer and added pressure of a relationship that had such a highs and lows of emotions.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I would agree.

[Becky]

But I don't know why people go to the, I mean, pot calling kettle black for. For some of the things. You know, like we all go to the Internet for certain, for certain aspects. It's just in this specific one, it's just a lot. Right. Like, because it adds like more layers to an already complex situation. And like your feelings are involved, his feelings are involved. Other people like, and it's like, do we need to prolong the conversation? Like let it be what happened. Like you can try to prove your innocence, but like how or why? For what?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I just. Unless we are going with the method that video and photo evidence is AI. Like that would be a good one. Yeah, you know it was AI.

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I mean I saw you wearing the same thing on that day, but

[Becky]

it

[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

Want to like back up a little bit because I do feel like truly since I've known you or known about you, I have been going through shit over the last five years and I filed for divorce really close to the time that my parents were indicted and so I was navigating the divorce, navigating that stuff with them. Lots of emotions come with both of those events. Got into another relationship, got cheated on at that time. Now because of this situation I'm looking back on everything and I'm like for what business did I have to even be in a relationship at that point? You know, like there is some accountability that's on my part. Even though I was, I did not see anybody until eight months after My divorce was final. Like, never even went on a date. I still had absolutely zero business doing that.

[Becky]

Yeah. I think that. That in this moment, there can be recognition of accountability of. Of things you've done. But I also want you to make sure that you know that you never deserve to be cheated on in any situation. Like, cheating is never, like, the answer to any. Or. And there's no valid, like, validating it. Right? Like, even. Like, there's no reason that that should be happening. I think that there's a. Again, like, you had, like, I. I love you as a person, and, like, I love your heart, and I love those, like, aspects of. Of you that I probably get to see that maybe sometimes people in general don't. But, like, there are so many broken parts of you that, like, I wish I could heal, and, like, I wish I could give you the tools and, like, the answers to heal. And I'm hoping maybe this is. Again, like, this is your clean slate to kind of, like, take a breath and that doesn't go to say, like, don't, like, entertain people. Like, you just have. Like, you have a lot of healing to do and, like, because you deserve more than what has been given to you and, like, how people are treating you in these relationships. You're probably not a saint in, like, in that, too. But, like, that added fuel comes from that unhealed places that you're coming from.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So, I mean, I would agree. And sometimes I just think, like, I was talking to somebody yesterday, and I said, you can love someone, but not like them. And I think that's the point that I got to. And that relationship. Like, I love you, but I don't like you.

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, I don't. Like, there's, like, a lot of highs

[Becky]

and lows in that relationship. Right. Like, that's toxic in nature. Like, that's, like, not healthy. It feels, like, obsessive. Right. Like, and controlling and, like, all of those things.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

But remember the Webbies?

[Becky]

Yeah. Yes.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And I'm like.

[Becky]

But I'm the problem.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, of course I'm the problem, because, you know, and. And Kale was the problem, and everybody's the problem that, you know, has somewhat of a platform that people think, oh, they're gonna hear her louder.

[Becky]

Mm.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's not about being louder. And I think that that's, like, so important. It's. It's not all bad, but it's not all good. And it's not about being the loudest person in the room.

[Becky]

Yeah. I'm curious, like, what the. I've always just Wanted. If I see people break up, like, I'd love to know. Obviously, it's not my. Like, no one owes me anything, but if I have, like, a. What, like, what is that kind of relationship they say with people that you don't know? Online social media. Yeah, if I have a peris, like, I want to know, I don't need to know because it's not mine. But, like, what are people looking for out of this from you? Like, what is the. What do you feel? Like, the expectation is, like, how much do you need to deliver information around this? Like, is. Or, like, why is that expected?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Also, I mean, I think that it would be naive to say people wouldn't expect it because they do create, like, these narratives of things, and they're following you and following your journey and listening to your podcast and doing all this stuff. So to some degree, and. And I've talked about this with others as well, I battle with what do I owe the public? Because just to some degree, I do owe something.

[Becky]

Something for sure. But that's what, like, my question, like, how much, like, information is needed. Because from my perspective, right, Like, I haven't even asked more questions because all I needed to know was, like, this is the situation. And then I see you hurt and in pain and, like, struggling and, like, knowing that, like, I don't need more detail and I'm like, a friend of yours, right? Like, I don't know.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

But again, I. I also think that when other people try to put out other narratives of what's going on, that also creates more controversy in somebody's mind to be like, well, wait, I want her to speak on it, and I want to, you know, hear her side of the story, and she's probably going to come with receipts. And, like, we all know me, you know, so, yeah, I. I get it to some degree. I just. I also want to say, for somebody like me or somebody like Kale, we've navigated relationships in the public eye. So somebody getting with us, unless we're getting with somebody who has also done that. These other people, for example, the last relationship that I was in, nobody's ever, like, seen any of his other relationships. So of course it's going to be questions of all of my stuff. Like, oh, well, when she was with suburban dad, when she was with trampoline dad, now Mexico, man. Like, and if you guys hear the vacuum in the background, again, because I don't want to say I'm crashing out, but, yes, I called my lovely lady that comes and helps me clean my house. She is like a saint in this world. Okay. And I have trash bags from just this weekend, Becky, of throwing away that is like reminders of him.

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's like a purge.

[Becky]

And that just, it makes me feel sad that, you know, I, I, I don't enjoy watching people I care about struggle. And I know that the way that you sometimes can come off is like, fudge this. I don't care. Fudge this. Like, fudge you. Fuck everything. But I do know that there's a lot of pain behind this because it also takes a lot for you to, like, trust someone and, like, let someone in your life. So I don't want to discredit. Even though you might present as, like, having being okay. Like, I know that you're, you're hurting a lot in these moments.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well, I think people also don't realize that that's like a coping and defense mechanism, right?

[Becky]

Oh, for sure. Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I know people are going to have questions. So the easiest thing is to just either be a smart ass or say this.

[Becky]

Yeah. Literally.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know what's been super healing for me over the last couple of days?

[Becky]

Tell me.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Just blasting the smallest man who ever lived.

[Becky]

Oh, yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know, I've been in my kitchen, cut in a rug.

[Becky]

You know, it's so ironic to that when everything happened with Kale and she's not like a Swifty at all. Like, she doesn't even listen to Taylor Swift. I think that I was like, hey, now would be a really good time for you to listen to Tortured Poets Department.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I also sent her Tortured Poets Department. I'm like, come on. Like, I know that you're not a fan. I am a big fan, but can you please just listen to Swift like you will have, you will find. So there is so much healing in music. I feel like, for sure, like, not me, just, I mean, it does not matter where I'm at in this current moment. I could be in my kitchen, smallest man who ever lived in my car, smallest man who ever lived in my AirPods. Smallest man who ever lived. And it's like, eventually, what is that saying? Like, if you tell yourself enough, like, if you tell yourself something enough so many times, then you just, like, start believing it. I'm like, okay. I know that if I keep listening to this and I resonate with this, like, I'm going to heal.

[Becky]

Mm. Yeah. People can. You can heal from music. I love Taylor Swift. I was fortunate enough to go to the ERAS tour.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So do you think that people would like a more healed me version?

[Becky]

I think I Don't know what people. I. I don't know what people would expect from you from a healed version, but I think that there's like. Because people would probably assume that maybe a healed version of you wouldn't be as like, chaotic and funny, but I think that there's like a beautiful chaotic and funny healed version of you that is like, exciting to think about. Right. Because, like, your sadness isn't at the expense of like, the joke. Right?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I'm no longer the butt of the joke.

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Hey, it's so rude. Wait, so did you go on my Instagram stories this weekend?

[Becky]

Maybe?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Because in. In what world or right mind would I think that it's a good idea to just blast. I don't with you on Instagram stories. Okay. And then I'm just like cutting a rug, dancing with one of my guy friends to God's Guns n Roses.

[Becky]

I did see that.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I'm like, you know what? Yeah, it was like a full sin moment. Truly to your point. Fudge you.

[Becky]

Fudge you. Fuck you. Yeah, I did see that. I'm like, she's on a shit, huh? But I do value that you, when you are in these moments that you have friends around you that you can go to to try to heal, try to, you know, take yourself out of that situation, you're not just like going into. Into a hole.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Becky]

Wait.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So I also need to tell you this. So, obviously, with Kristen being gone, needed to hire somebody else. And I found my hire yesterday. Absolutely obsessed. But please tell me why everybody that is around me currently is a lesbian or are gay.

[Becky]

Maybe we just bring you some. Some sort of peace, you know, it's not like. Like, there's no bad energy.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Y' all cannot hurt me.

[Becky]

Yeah, so.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So I hired him yesterday, and he starts when I get back from Dallas.

[Becky]

You hired him?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah, I hired him. And I'm so excited for it because I. I mean, yes, he's gay, but I just need a man in my life. Like,

[Becky]

maybe this is what you've needed the entire time. You just need a little filler of a gay man to, like, feed that itch so, like, you can now heal.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And I think it's that. I'm telling you, I told Kale yesterday on a call, I said, I don't know, but something about this just feels right. Like. And then I go to the meeting, and he's, you know, typing all of his notes and so organized and sends me an email before I can even get out of Pilates. And I'm like, okay. Like, this is truly gonna work. And he's like, oh, I'll come over and on Sundays, we'll meal prep. And I'm like, yes. Who needs a man when you can have a gay one?

[Becky]

How old is this man?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

He's a little bit younger than me. He's 33, I think.

[Becky]

Okay, where'd you find him?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I was like, are you sure you're gay? He was like, yeah, definitely. Like, I definitely am. Like, I love that. And then, obviously, with Kristen being gone, we hired a new person for Coffee combos and a new person for Southern Tea. And she's actually on this recording with us. It's Madison, and absolutely obsessed with her as well. So it's just, like, life is looking up.

[Becky]

Madison is also gay.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

That's why I said I'm, like, surrounded

[Becky]

by it, though people weren't just gonna assume putting those dots together.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So I needed to add, everybody that I am surrounded by is gay. You, Madison, my new assistant.

[Becky]

I just.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I don't Know, just, like, the energy I feel like I need in my life right now. And again, y' all can't hurt me. Like, yes, we have common interests, but, like, we don't have common relationship interests.

[Becky]

Yeah, we aren't. We aren't letting the patriarchy take us down. You know, like, you need that energy around you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wait, please tell me why I'm also sitting by this mini hoop.

[Becky]

I. You know, being a boy Mom, I didn't even question it. And being friends with Kale, I didn't even question it. I'm. But I really want to dive in. Like, how do you. I love. I would love. My goal in life maybe is one day to be successful enough that I can have a personal assistant as well. What are, like, the criterias that you have? Like, and are you afraid of someone new coming in to see how crazy you are?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Madison said, number one, be gay. No, I am not fearful of that, which I probably should be. I. I should have some more fear again. I just got another novel. As we're sitting here speaking, his ears were ringing. You blocked me. Like, you did what you did, and then you blocked me, and then you're telling me what you saw in the inner. Like, go, goodbye. Goodbye for now. I'm with my gays. Number one, be gay. No, I'm just kidding. So, I don't know. I was having a meeting with Kale yesterday, and obviously there's just been. We were talking about how we're, like, eight weeks into the new year, and if we thought that 2025 was bad. 2026 said, buckle up.

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, y' all are not ready for this. It has been absolute hell. Never, never in my life did I think that what has transpired would transpire. Background checks for everybody. Full blown background checks. Like, we are going full FBI, CIA on everybody.

[Becky]

Not on me. I'm. I'm clear, but everyone else.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Are you sure? Do you have any priors?

[Becky]

I don't have any priors, surprisingly. Never been in trouble with the law. Huh? I. I am as well. I was, you know, not to change the subject, but deep, brief detour. I was friends, so I worked at a pizza place in college before I was 21, when I first got there, and it was open till 4am so all the. The town cops would come into the pizza place. And so I knew them. And so I think that's why I. I avoided, like, police trouble in college because, like, I was reckless. I. I enjoyed college a lot. And so there was plenty of, like, drunk in public and all. And, like, Drinking and all those things that I probably should have gotten, but I didn't because I was good at talking my way out of it.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well, I've never been in trouble, which is a privilege either, really never.

[Becky]

Interesting.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Why did you suspect that I had?

[Becky]

I just feel like everyone has, you know, everyone has that like, oh, I got a peeing in public or like open container in public, especially going to like a big party school. But yeah, to wrap up.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You never got in any type of trouble and you like started college going to the frat house and then ended it going to the sorority house is wild to me.

[Becky]

Yeah. Literally.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Literally.

[Becky]

I'm telling you that that pizza place saved. Saves me in a lot of ways. So wrapping a bow on your assistant. I, I, maybe I need to meet with him too, just to give him like a, A debrief down. Yeah. And he's in your town. Like he'll be like in person assistant.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. So I'm really excited about that too because since I've had an assistant, it was always Kristen. And obviously that's remote. But there are certain things that would be like so nice to be able to have someone here. And I know people are probably going to be like, everybody doesn't need assistance or whatever. I also have no help. So yeah, no help. Family will travels.

[Becky]

You have the means to do it, right? Like you, if you were in a position that you didn't have the means to be able to have someone come in and be like of assistance, you would figure it out and like, but like you have the means to do it. So that is something that can help increase the quality of your life. So I support it.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Also, did you see that Jackson and I went to Clemson? I did, yeah. Okay. So I will tell you another great thing about breakups. And it's like really hard. Just like follow the bouncing ball. But it's really hard post divorce when you're dating somebody and you have limited amount of time to date them because obviously parenting. And so he and I had the same somewhat same parenting schedule. He had less days than me, but somewhat same. And so we were always doing stuff together with our kids and we took our first little trip and it's so crazy because again, hindsight's 20 20. I booked that trip for Jackson and I to do that prior to even knowing about anything that had transpired. I love traveling with that kid by myself.

[Becky]

That's so cute.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like there is nothing better. Like we did Disney over Christmas break and David did come I think for one day, but then we were There for all the other days by ourself and. And just taking him to do that stuff and not having to split time with anybody is so nice. And the joy that he gets from just being with me by myself.

[Becky]

I look forward to that one day. What was your favorite part of the Disney trip together?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I would say my favorite part was Hollywood Studios.

[Becky]

Okay, not Disney, but.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well, that is Disney. It's just a. Hollywood Studios is a park. I think it used to be called. Did it used to be the Universal Park?

[Becky]

Universal Studios, Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

But now it's like Hollywood Studios.

[Becky]

I thought that was separate.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's not.

[Becky]

I don't know. I'm. I'm. I say things confidently. You'll learn that. And like, sometimes, like, there's no validity behind it.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No. That was probably my favorite, my favorite park day with him. We got to go to the drive in movie, and it was kind of like we were on a mom Sunday, but we were at Disney World World. Really fun. I also love just being able to have conversations with him solo Dolo, because some of the stuff that comes out of his mouth when he's with me by myself is very, very different than if he was around other people. And just to see the joy in his eyes to be there with his mom and. And also to, like, feel safe. Like, that's what's so crazy to me. Like, I will be scared at first. When we divorced, we never went anywhere by ourselves, you know? And so when I first started taking them to go places, I was fearful. I'm like, what if something happens? Like, will I be okay? And I still have a little bit of those fears, like, driving down the highway. And I. I don't know if you have intrusive thoughts ever, but I've struggled with it since I had Jackson. Probably like a mental disorder, I'm not sure.

[Becky]

But intrusive thoughts as a parent is, like, pretty common to happen.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You think it is?

[Becky]

Yeah, it is.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Because I will be driving, driving down the highway, and all of a sudden my mind goes, I could have a blowout and Will's not here, you know, and it scares me. But have you ever thought of, like, just being a kid? I thought about this the other day, like, just being a kid, and you just like, trust whatever your parents say. Like, hey, get in the car. We're going such. You never think about their driving. You never think about, are we going to be safe to get here. They never think about any of that. And for me to be a single mom and is like, itty bitty as I Am somebody could truly just off me at any moment. He has no fear.

[Becky]

Yeah, but that's probably because you all like he feels safe with you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. And I love that he does, but sometimes I don't even feel safe.

[Becky]

I think that's just being an adult. I was held up by a gun one time when I was 18.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Why is that so casual?

[Becky]

Well, there's a point to the point here. So my intrusive thoughts come from like scenarios like that because of like my PTSD from being held up by a gun. So like I always think there's going to be someone with a gun like in all situations when I leave my house or entering my house.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I mean.

[Becky]

But Leah got really bad intrusive thoughts When? When, after she gave birth.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wait, what kind did she have?

[Becky]

Like everything like lit, like anything you can think of of like any way to be like death being brought upon them. She's thought of it.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Okay. Like the first sign of my intrusive thoughts was when I would late. I, I held him so much that when I did finally put him down, I didn't know what to do. So I'm like what do I do with my arms? Like because I was carrying him always everywhere and if I laid him down he like fell asleep, let's say like in a bouncer. I would go up to him and put my finger underneath his nose to make sure he was breathing and it's not normal.

[Becky]

It is normal like, but all things considered, like it's unfortunate that those emotions are what like overcome like parents. But like is normal. Like a lot, a lot of people struggle with that.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Becky]

Like I need to tell I need it. I'm hoping. I don't know if you are going to a line here. Have you watched Gilmore Girls?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yes, like way back when though.

[Becky]

Okay, I like tried talking. Kale has never watched Gilmore Girls so I like there's no enjoyment talking. I am watching Gilmore Girls for the first time right now. That's like me and Bex watch it in the morning and I didn't realize like the chokehold that Gilmore Girls has on this, like, nation. And, like, people are obsessed with it, and they are so triggered by, like, whose team you're on. Because of all the people that Rory date. I'm on season five, which is when she's in college. She just met Logan, which is her college boyfriend. Well, eventually will be. I hate everyone that she has been with. Like, I hate. There's no part of Jess that I. I like. There's. I would. Dean was actually coming back on the up, and then he went below Jess. I don't like Logan. I've just met him. I don't, like, like him as a person. And I am really passionate about this.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So that's feel about me.

[Becky]

What?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's the same way you feel about me. Will you date?

[Becky]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Literally, that guy.

[Becky]

But so I like, that's. That's what's new. Bex will be eight months tomorrow, and

[Lindsay Chrisley]

time just, like, fly by. But it feels so slow in the beginning, but it's, like, also so fast.

[Becky]

Yeah. All the things I'm starting to actually enjoy parenthood. Because he's, like, a pretty cool kid, which is fun. I did break the Internet on Karma and Chaos today because I. I said I could never be a stay at home mom and that I wouldn't like him if I was.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, my God.

[Becky]

And I stand by that. I, like, I have so much respect for people that can be a stay at home mom, but I, like, that's just not for me. I'm back and I'm. I'm back doing therapy more. I think I'm depressed and so, yeah, just trying to get through life right now. The winner is Wintering. Huh.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know what I said? I can't remember if I said it to kill yesterday or not. I said it to somebody yesterday. I said, I'm gonna worry about, like, the therapeutic part of this healing and what's going on in life when I get back from Dallas. Like, do you get like that, like, where you compartmentalize stuff?

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Becky]

Mm.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

But I love that you're back in therapy.

[Becky]

I'm not. I'm back to doing more therapy. I never left therapy, but I was doing it once a month. But my therapist asked was like, we should probably meet again.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

She's like, something's definitely.

[Becky]

Yeah. She's like. She's like, I think. I think we. You need me more now. Do you watch. Do you watch tv? Did you watch the new season of paradise came out?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

No, I didn't even know what that is.

[Becky]

It's a really good show. I would suggest I would suggest watching it. The. The first episode of season two aired yesterday or two days. Yeah, yesterday. And Lee and I watched it last night, and it was so good. I. I like, I often miss, like, a really good show that really, like, sucks you in that, like. Yeah, you want to continue to watch. And I'm pumped for this season.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know what's so weird? I like watching new shows, but once I've watched something, I don't really like to go back and re watch unless it's, like, nostalgic. So I'm trying to think of a show. The one that Blake Lively and Leighton Meester were on. Gossip Girl.

[Becky]

Oh, yeah. I never watched that.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, you should. Xoxo. Can we. Can we binge Gossip Girl together?

[Becky]

Yeah, once I'm done with Gilmore Girls

[Lindsay Chrisley]

and we'll talk about all the people that we hate on it.

[Becky]

Yeah, for sure.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Would be a vibe.

[Becky]

It. I mean, it could be a vibe. I. People.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I'm gonna like everybody opposite than you for sure.

[Becky]

Like, you need to re watch Gilmore Girls because you probably will. Like, all the. The guys that I don't like because they're all just like, red flags. Skeezes.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's like, how many flags can I collect?

[Becky]

I like, I can't. It makes me feel sad for people that they love these characters because I'm like, you need to look internally for the things that you're loving about them.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I know, but, like, doesn't everybody deserve some sense of love? You know what I mean? Like, even if they're bad.

[Becky]

No, I don't.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

That was a toxic thing for me to say.

[Becky]

I just. I don't. I. I think people need to show signs of change, like, especially bad. Like, I mean, I think you deal with, like, a lot of, like, narcissism. So, like, narcissism is really hard to give empathy towards because, like, there's no. There's no real coming back from that unless you get actual help.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So. Narcissists. I feel like that's a word that is way over used and overplayed with social media. And it's like, if something's wrong with somebody, everybody's like, oh, that's just a narcissist. No, I can promise you, if you ever have dealt with a narcissist, you don't have to question if they are a narcissist. Yeah, like the flipping the script of. Remember when Kale told us that one time, she's like, we could have watched the same car crash and would have had two totally different depictions on what transpired. And one would be true and one would be like completely outlandish.

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Probably a narcissist.

[Becky]

Yeah. And people can have narcissist. Narcissistic tendencies and not be like a narcissist. There's just. There's different quality. Like I called someone and I just. Is an narcissist, I believe. And Gilmore Girls and someone was like, someone was asking if they thought I thought they were a narcissist. Because they think before they say things and sometimes they'll pull back on what they say because they know they're going to hurt people. I'm like, first of all, you are not questioning yourself if you are a nurse. Like, narcissists don't think, like, don't even have that thought process that they could be one.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well, and it's. They also narcissist. They act like they're empathetic people, but it's all just a ploy.

[Becky]

Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

To get to where they're going 100%.

[Becky]

Yeah. No.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And the gaslighting, who?

[Becky]

Yeah. I don't get gaslit well.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I don't deal well with gaslighting.

[Becky]

I feel like you probably let a little gaslighting happen in your life.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I absolutely have let gaslighting happen. But I don't deal well with it because I am very. Are you kind of a justice driven person or not?

[Becky]

A what?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

A justice driven person.

[Becky]

What does that mean?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So, for example, you want people to get their karma for like whatever is transpired and like you sit back, eat the popcorn and wait for it. That is me to a T. Somebody can gaslight the hell out of me and say, I mean, I just got a gaslighting text right now, in fact. And it's like that we weren't in the same place at the same time doing the same thing. And you're a psychopath.

[Becky]

You know, I don't know it. I don't think people get what they deserve often enough. So I don't know if I believe in the justice because one of my worst qualities. This is one of my worst qualities as a person is if someone does me wrong, I want everyone else to hate them too. Right. Like I it into my core. Like, I want everyone also to hate them. And it bothers me when other people don't. Like just because someone hurt me.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Becky]

And I like, I wish people don't hurt me often enough to feel that way. I have like a few people in my mind that are sticking out, like ex. Not. I should finish that. Not exes. It's like ex best friends and stuff. And I don't know if I. Well, how did you state it?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like justice driven.

[Becky]

I just don't believe that people get what they deserve. Some. Sometimes people do, but I don't think enough.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well, I can tell you, I just watched a situation unfold very, very recently. Somebody did something to someone and then they kind of got away with it for years and then redid that same pattern to somebody else. And like, now the karma's here. Madison said T. Is it someone I know? Yeah.

[Becky]

Tea? Yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's like sometimes you just have to wait for the karma to come. Right. But Jackson is very justice driven. I am very justice driven. If you do something to me, I want you to pay for that for the rest of your life.

[Becky]

I feel like I am a little justice driven to an extent. I think probably my. My levels are different than yours. Like, you have to really like. It's not like petty stuff. I feel like you could probably be a little petty sometimes.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah, I can.

[Becky]

I know.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

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[Becky]

I like you just said it with like such a like dead straight face. You'd probably prefer hers and hers.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah you, you would. I'm okay. I did fall asleep during that show but everybody keeps telling me it's like a must watch show. I'm like give me something to watch because when I get like in a sad state or I need to do like some healing or self reflecting, it's always early bed. Like you will not catch me outside. It is early bed. It is a good show. I've been shows I read. Please tell me who I think I am downloading, like, self help books.

[Becky]

I think you're beyond self help books. I think that might be a good first step. People are probably gonna be like, why the is she so mean to Lindsay? And I'm not being mean. I. I want. I want Lindsay to find, heal, like healing patterns and like, really truly find like her inner peace. It's all out of love.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, I think I'm gonna get there, you know?

[Becky]

I believe in you. I really do. I really believe that if you take the next right, it. We'll see. We'll see if you're dating someone soon. We'll see if like, what happens.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I am in no way, shape or form ready to do any of that.

[Becky]

We shall see. I Nothing will surprise you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

They always pop out. Like, that's the worst part. Like, I met Trent at the trampoline park after my relationship with suburban dad. Then I met David on a boat that I didn't even know he was going to be there. We'll see where the next person I meet, I love meeting him in the wild.

[Becky]

I hope you meet someone in New Jersey so then you can come and visit me more often.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know what? I actually have thought about that. Like, maybe distance would be the thing for me, but the level of cheating that has transpired, I'm just not sure that I'm like healed enough to do that.

[Becky]

Yeah, let's just. Let's maybe. Are you in therapy?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Had to find a new therapist. Also. I tell you what happened to my therapist.

[Becky]

Maybe refresh my brain.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I'm just sitting at the car wash one day and I'm supposed to have therapy the next day, and my therapist is calling me and I'm like, she never calls me. Like, did. Did she think that something was wrong with me? So I answer and she's like, hey, we're gonna have to put therapy on pause, but I want you to continue your therapy journey. There, you know, is some legal stuff that's going on. And I'm like, so did you full blown lose your license? And is that why I am the way I am? Like, what do you mean?

[Becky]

Did she lose her license?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah, but I think she got him back. But now I'm just like, I can't. Madison said this would only happen to you. I fear like, yes. I'm like, I've been going to this therapist. When I tell you, Becky, I started this therapist right before I decided to file for divorce. Like, that's how long I've been going to her. And then to just be sitting at the car wash getting a Bronco cleaned up, and for them to cold call you and be like, well, by the way, kind of lost my license. Like, what? What? What? What did you do?

[Becky]

I think a new therapist was. Is a good idea. If she has been your therapist for

[Lindsay Chrisley]

this long, you're like, that is a sign because you keep doing the same stuff over and over.

[Becky]

You know what we should do on our next trio trip?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

A retreat.

[Becky]

A retreat.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I knew you were going there.

[Becky]

We should go and do some and do. Go on an ayahuasca journey.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Can we do that?

[Becky]

I'm so down.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I want to go to, like, I want to get so extreme about this healing process that I want to go and live, like, in a tent for, like, a week.

[Becky]

I think that would be great for you.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, off the grid. Like, how people say, off the grid. Yeah, I want to do that. Like, no cell phone. No. Like.

[Becky]

Like, just sitting with yourself. Sitting with.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Don't you think that would be good?

[Becky]

Yeah, let's find one.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Can you find it? Because we know if I find it, it's probably gonna be some bootleg.

[Becky]

Yeah. You cannot, like, some online. If you're listening and you've ever gone on, like, maybe an ayahuasca retreat, let me know. Or if you've done any, like, weekend journey trips where it's, like, self healing. Oh, Madison suggested. That's a great first task for your assistant.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know what?

[Becky]

It is?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

He'll probably. It. You know, we're gonna dub this as our grippy sock vacation.

[Becky]

Yes. I mean, fair. Some sometimes you just need that.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, we. We just get merch and, like, it all comes out from our therapy retreat, and we've turned into, like, these total crunchy.

[Becky]

Imagine if the three of us go into this journey and walk out, like, completely change people, where we're like, love thy neighbor.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Like, can you imagine just kale on one of those trips?

[Becky]

The both of you have so much unhealed trauma that, like, I don't know if one trip would be enough.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's like they ask us to extend, and it becomes extended.

[Becky]

Say they're like, we actually think you need a couple more weeks here.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

They're like, we have just scratched the surface. Becky, you can go home.

[Becky]

Yeah. Wait.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wouldn't that be so fun? And we could, like, vlog it.

[Becky]

I think that defeats the purpose, but we could. Yeah, we could find something, and that's like, a happy medium.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Hidden camera.

[Becky]

Yeah. No, I don't think that's good. Because I'm sure there's a lot of, like, things that are going to be talked about that aren't, like, public information.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

But what if we. We get so healed that we don't even care what the public knows anymore and we're just like, release.

[Becky]

I feel like that's the journey. We're down right now. That's the vibes that I'm getting from all parties. So thank God I don't have a skeletons to dig up. I shouldn't say that, but, Becky, you

[Lindsay Chrisley]

went from the fraternity house to the sorority house. I am truly shocked at this point that no guy has come forward.

[Becky]

Honestly, I am so shocked as well. And, like, I've had my fair. So this is actually my. This is my biggest fear. And I've talked about this, I think, before. I've had one night stands, like, plenty of them. And Leah and I have taken intermissions. And in the early years of our relationship, when we were children, Leah would enjoy a nice breakup here and there because she. I was the first girl she ever dated. So, like, she, like, she was just going through different life changes, and so she would love to break up with me during those breakups. I would have, like, one night stands. Right. And my biggest fear is one of these people coming forward because we've been together for now for 10 years, and I say we've been together for 10 years. So, like, I don't. Like, we've broken up like, a couple times in the. Yeah. And so my biggest fear is, like, one of these girls coming forward and being like, she's a cheater, you know, like. Like, I slept with her.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wait, so when you would do these breakups with Leah, like, was it always a girl that you were.

[Becky]

Oh, yeah.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Nightstands with.

[Becky]

Oh, I almost went home with a gay guy once, actually.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So maybe this is ignorant, but if he's gay and you're gay, do y'

[Becky]

all still hook up maybe at that point? Why not? Right? There's some breakups that hurt so much that, like, drive you into a psychosis that, like, anything is possible. And me hooking up with a man in that moment was possible.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, my God, Becky, you even like men. And I think that that's why you don't like anybody that I've been with.

[Becky]

Okay, first of all, I haven't really met everyone that you've been with. I just, I. I have a good sense of people. Like, my antennas on humans is there. It's. I. All my best friends are men. I'm not a man hater. Like, I am, but like, I'm not. Like, I. I value good men. I value my best friends. I value their heart and their like, ability to take care of their wives and their ability to be good dads. But like, men also. Like, it's majority of men that let me down in life. Right.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So, I mean, truly. Likewise.

[Becky]

Well, it might be a 50, 50 draw at this point.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Wait, okay, so over the weekend, Will call Jackson and he's like, have you been watching like baby monkey Punch? And yes, like, we were a little bit on our phones when we were out of town, but not really. Like, we were just like soaking in the vibes, you know? And Jackson's like, who's monkey Punch? Have you been watching it?

[Becky]

I've seen clips of it. Like the. The one that got the like monkey guy that got dragged and then like ran over and like hugged his teddy bear.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yes. And he was abandoned by his mother. Like, I wish I could send you this link.

[Becky]

Why can't you?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I mean, I probably can. I just like, didn't want to because that would require effort. Okay, send it to you. Like, why is that so adorable?

[Becky]

He loves his comfort toy. The wild, like, animals make me so sad. Right? Like, I can't, I can't. Like, how do I say this? Leah. Leah also is the same way. Like, we'll drive up our driveway and there'll be deer in the snow. And I'm like. And we're like, where do they sleep? Like, do they need a home? And I'm kind of like that too. So, like, I can't watch this shit because it makes me just feel so sad. Like, look at that. Like, does he want to live with me?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well, okay, I've got a couple of thoughts on this. So it says he was born in July 2025 and rejected by his mother. And then he lived at a zoo. I guess he got this little comfort toy and it would. The intent of the comfort toy was to bond and practice grooming. I just, number one, I've never seen a wild animal, like, drag around a stuffed animal like that. And I don't know why I would have seen one, but it like, melts my whole soul. And ever since I was probably six years old, I've wanted a baby monkey. Like, I just want one so bad. I see people on Tick Tock that have them as animals and they'll just be like, crawling all over them, like all over the house. And I mean, it's not really, like, esthetically my vibe, but also, I still want one. Have you ever Seen, like, the little monkeys that dress up in the overalls?

[Becky]

No.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

They're like little tiny things, and they dress up in the overalls. And I know it's like, I want it, but I probably couldn't take care of it.

[Becky]

Yeah, let's start with, like, a stuffed animal. Yeah, let's start there.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I think that's what I need to do. But baby monkey punch, like, I've gone down, like, a deep, dark rabbit hole, and I need to know if everybody else is obsessed with it as I am, but as it makes me happy but, like, equally as sad.

[Becky]

Yeah. I. I can't. Like, when I saw that monkey, like, drag him and then him run over to the. Like, my heart, like, broke.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

So sad. So sad. Oh, I also have to tell you this. So, yes, we. We have a team behind us that investigates the entire Internet. So apparently Madison yesterday posted that we have a hotline for the Southern T now, and people can call in and ask for advice, and we're gonna. Not that I should really be giving advice. It's more of, like, what would I do? And do the opposite thing. Yeah, Becky could probably give some great advice, but also to be able to leave their, like, deepest, darkest, darkest secrets. And tea. And so I know there was a lot of confusion behind it because the voices will be distorted, so it will be completely anonymous, unless you don't want to be anonymous. And I'll give you guys the number in a second. But apparently this made it to Reddit that we now have a T hotline. And it's like, what is the Internet trying to do? Like, we're just trying to have a good time.

[Becky]

You know, I think they're always trying to find something to cancel you for.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

You know, it's like, we're just trying to bring the listeners in and to listen to their stories and to be able to give advice that they do not need to take. And we want to know the tea of what's going on in other people's lives.

[Becky]

Yeah. And people like to share things like, that's fun. Like, this is. It's great content. It's good entertainment. Like, let the girl live.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. Just. We're girls out here girling. So it is a voicemail hotline. And you can call it. Leave the voicemail. Your voice will be distorted. The number is 929-333-6386. And we're just gonna, like, roll through a couple. I mean, I don't know how it's really going to be structured. I don't know if we're gonna do, like, one or two per episode. I don't know if we're gonna do a whole episode of them. What do you think?

[Becky]

I think you should wait to see what comes in and then decide. You have to, like, be able to navigate based on maybe you get 10, maybe you get 100. If you get 100, I would do an episode on, like, just on those. Like, that sounds fun.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

It's like, okay, so are you. Well, you would not be in these groups, but, like, are you dating the same guy? It's like, my favorite group ever.

[Becky]

Are you in it?

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, yeah, I'm in it. Like, I have absolutely zero reason to be in it. Like, the trauma is already so deep, but, like, I just like to go on and read about, like, what other people are doing, and then I like to read the advice that people give them. And my advice is always exactly the opposite of what anybody else says.

[Becky]

I. I think you should probably post the person you're dating next time in there just to confirm anything before you move forward.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I would hope that I would be far enough along in the healing journey before I open that door up.

[Becky]

Fair.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Fair. Move myself from that group and not worry about somebody popping up on it.

[Becky]

Fair. I take it back. Yeah, let's not think about dating yet. Let's think about healing. Let's. Let's go into our healing era.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I also love that anytime that I go through a breakup, it's, like, just like, the richest shit ever. They're like, I really think Lindsay and Will are soul mates. And I'm like, in what world did you think that we were soul mates? Because I went through a breakup. Like, just because I go through a breakup does not mean that I'm getting back with my ex husband

[Becky]

lips locked over here.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, Becky, I love you so much.

[Becky]

I love you too. I'm happy we're doing. I'm happy I'm here. I'm happy to be learning. Right. Like, I'm excited to see what the vibe is over on this side.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Oh, what happened?

[Becky]

I don't know. What.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

What is going on? So, Becky, can you tell everybody who is listening to this, the other podcast that you have, what you guys kind of, like, talk about over there?

[Becky]

Yeah, I have two podcasts, Lindsay.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Same

[Becky]

karma and chaos. I'm sure there's a lot of people that listen to it. It's this, it's similar, but, like, Kayla and I have a pretty deep friendship. So I, I, when we started it, it was like, kind of like a healing journey for us. We weren't friends for five years and then we became like picked up where we left off. So it is just like a brain dump of like things that are going on. Karma and chaos is a lot of fun. It's. It's really chaotic. And then I have for the Haters, which is my solo podcast. I interview people based on their life story, helping to feel. Make people feel less alone in struggles they might be going through by shedding light to difficult conversations, shedding light to people's, you know, things that have happened to them, which is, it's really beautiful. So if you, how do you select

[Lindsay Chrisley]

the stories that you choose to interview?

[Becky]

I, I am privileged that people just reach out. So I have like a submission process through my website. I do pre interviews with people and then it kind of just goes from there. I'm booked out for pre interviews for the next six months and. Yeah. And I'm probably like three months ahead of, of recordings at this point as well, so.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Well, wouldn't that be nice to be like in that state of life?

[Becky]

Well, it's different, right? Like this like an interview based podcast like mine where it's every day everyone has a story. Like, I'm never gonna be short of stories. Everyone's story is valid. I am thinking about switching up the way that I produce those episodes just to kind of set myself apart or try to set myself apart. Because the one thing that you are trying to battle then with everyday people is not everyone is good at articulating their feelings and their story. Right. And so I want to try to maybe get a little bit more creative and add some narration so to help draw that bigger picture, to help kind of move that story along. So that's something I'm teasing with right now.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

That's so cool. I have like a love hate relationship with being ahead on recordings because I love being able to record like the week of something happening.

[Becky]

So it's relevant.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Yeah. And then I also love the flexibility of having stuff pre recorded. And so I'm trying to find the balance like with that.

[Becky]

It's like with, with those. They're timeless, right? Like, well, a lot of them are timeless because you're already talking about something that's happened and you're just talking about that healing journey with Karma and Cass. We do. We bulk record when we in person. But I can understand that because like an episode will come out like three weeks after we recorded and someone's saying something to me and I'm like, I don't even remember saying that. Like, I don't even Know what we're talking about at this point. Yeah, like, that ship has sailed. That's not even a thought on my mind anymore.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I have a couple of recordings when I'm in Dallas with Kale and then I have a couple of recordings for the Southern Tea.

[Becky]

Nice.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

And I'm just. I will be ahead finally.

[Becky]

Take that breath, girl.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Take that healing. Watch his and hers, hers and hers.

[Becky]

Watch Paradise.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

I am. I'm gonna put it on my. What is it called? Like, your watch list? Is that what it's called? Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna put it on my watch list. Like, I'm not committing to you that it's gonna get done anytime soon.

[Becky]

I have learned to have low expectations in life around people and that in the nicest way possible. Because after becoming a parent, like, all is out. The, like, I hold no accountability unless it's for something you're supposed to show up for. But you do.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Tomorrow I'm not going to be watching any shows because I'm taking Jackson to go see that new Steph Curry movie.

[Becky]

Goat didn't even know that that was a thing.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Basketball movie. He's obsessed with basketball. So we're gonna go see that. Do you ever go to like the actual like old school theater? No, like, not the ones that have like the reclining chairs, but like the old school ones, you know, that probably have like come stains on the seats and stuff.

[Becky]

Literally.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Literally. Because that that's what we're going to be doing tomorrow. But I know that you have to go. Thanks so much for joining me. I love you so much.

[Becky]

Love you. Thanks for having me on again. I'm happy to be here as always. I'm excited for this new era in your life.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Listen, Becky's like my stuff I animal that I didn't know that I needed.

[Becky]

That's so cute.

[Lindsay Chrisley]

Just love it. Okay, if you guys have not followed the Southern Tea Podcast on Instagram, you can follow us at. The Southern Tea Podcast. If you have not subscribed to the show, you can do that from any podcast app. Wherever you get your pods, always first at podcast one. We hope you all have a great week and we'll talk to you soon.

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[Becky]

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[Lindsay Chrisley]

Hi, I'm Stassi Schroeder. On my podcast, I share candid updates from my personal life, chat with some of my best friends about what's going on in our lives, give commentary on the latest pop culture headlines, and sometimes deep dive into random topics. I'm obsessed with like human design. It's a bit all over the place, but that's how I like it. And you will too. Listen to my podcast, Stassi, wherever you get your podcasts.