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The following podcast is a Dear Media production.
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You had to be a certain height to be any sort of, like, Runway model or model in general. Like, you had to fit a certain prototype, and a lot of that had to do with your height and weight.
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C
You ever feel like you struggled with imposter syndrome at all or not, like, feeling you belonged because you were new to that environment?
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B
It was more based on how I looked. Unfortunately, I was the youngest person actually to compete in. In that year. And then I was also, by far, the shortest. People are going to tear you to shreds online, and you're just going to read what they're deciding to tear you to shreds about, and you're going to internalize that and be insecure. So for me, it was my height. So dumb.
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C
Did you, I guess, learn at the time to kind of set boundaries with social media, or have you kind of learned that now when you need to.
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B
Take breaks, take the breaks from social media? It's toxic. There's always something that you're going to be insecure about, and there are always settings that are going to make you feel that imposter syndrome. That's why it's just so important to have a really strong circle who really knows who you are. Lean on that and what they think of you.
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C
Olivia, welcome to the Squeeze.
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Thanks.
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C
I'm so excited to chat because I.
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Feel like you have such a.
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So many fun things going on in your life right now with your new Netflix show, Being a Mom.
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And I was kind of telling you before, we have, like, a lot of random mutuals, but I have to tell.
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C
You, my husband reminded me of this.
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We. We were at the same Luke Combs concert.
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B
My husband reminded me of the same thing. He's like, don't forget you met them at the concert. I was like, well, I didn't meet them, but I think I saw them. Right? Yeah.
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C
Yeah.
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We were in, like, the opposite ends of the room.
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C
We, Taylor and I literally had this exact same conf. We just had this exact conversation. He was like, don't forget the story. I was like, wait, we didn't meet her, though. He was like, no, but. And then he reminded me because he loves football. He loves your husband. Like, he's just. He's a big football guy.
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B
And clearly my husband loves Twilight because he was the one that brought it to my attention. That's so good.
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C
He sees Christian sitting there, and he's.
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Like, oh, my gosh, look who's here.
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I'm like, go say hi. And Taylor thinks that he just, like, hates going up to people because I think he has this irrational fear that, like, he's gonna bother someone or that no one's gonna know who he is. Like, he just, like, doesn't want to make people feel weird.
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I'm like, just go say, hi, hon. It's fine.
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And he's like, no, no, no. Like, I'm not gonna. I don't wanna bug him. And then, like, a few knows who he is. Yeah, that's what I tried telling him. But then a few minutes later, Christian came and tapped him on the shoulder, and he was very excited. So.
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So the circle, like, kids in do.
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You want to be friends?
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I know.
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C
Literally. Oh, my gosh. That's so cute. So we start each episode off with, I have a jar here. We have a game called Citrus got real. It's like little funny icebreaker questions, but I pulled one for you. And the question is, what item do.
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You always carry in your purse or bag?
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Ooh. It's probably something really horrible and vain like lip gloss. No, I'm just kidding. I actually. This is funny. I did a what's in my bag with, like, my circle at the game this past weekend, and I had a lip gloss, a mirror, and my rosaries. How funny is that? Like, oh, my gosh, my rosaries. I'm really starting to turn into my mom.
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C
But.
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Yeah, I know. Truly. But what do we carry in our bags now? I mean, I guess an external charger. I always have some sort of like, chapstick lip gloss, something like that. I don't carry a credit card anymore because we have our phones. And then now I my rosaries all the time because I'm a mom and I have to pray for a lot.
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That's good. I know. I am a sucker for a lippy. What's your like, go to lip gloss right now.
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I have to say I'm a sucker for Rhode. And also just like a good old fashioned shea butter. Yeah, it's great. They're on. They're $8 for two sticks on Amazon. It's great.
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C
I love.
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And they work so well. I.
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We.
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We love.
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We love a good deal for something. Yes, absolutely.
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It looks like a giant Elmer's glue stick.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, it works.
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C
That's so good. Okay, well, I'm excited to dive all things life and mom and work. But let's talk about your new Netflix show.
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There's a new show Next gen chef.
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C
Congrats.
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Can you tell us about the show?
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Thank you. Yes. It is everything I've ever wanted to watch in a cooking show. It's the most talented young chefs in America under the age of 30, and they're competing for the largest culinary prize in history. So $500,000, a huge opportunity for them to truly set their. Their life up for success and change the trajectory of their career.
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C
Wow. That's insane. What made you want to be a part of the show?
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B
I absolutely love cooking shows. I grew up watching them with my mom. I also grew up in the restauran myself, so I'm very familiar with that world, and, you know, definitely a dream job for me. I'm so grateful. It's one of those things that have been on my vision board my whole life. I just. I. I love feel good shows. I love connection with food, and it's all those things plus, like, the heat of a competition. You really see a lot of heart, soul, and competitiveness.
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I love that.
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What's your. What's, like, your favorite saying to cook or food to eat?
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I love Italian food, but living with my husband, who is basically a carnivore, like, unwittingly, I cook a lot of meat. I cook a lot of protein.
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C
Yeah.
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I wish that we had more, like, pasta, carbs, and pizza. But because of his job, I do find myself doing mostly, like, a meat and potatoes type of thing, like a beef stew or stuff like that.
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Yeah. I was not, like, a big meat eater at all. Obviously, my husband does not have the same job as your husband and does not need to consume the amount of food that yours probably does. But I think I. I feel like I've learned that that's, like, very much like guys just like, red meat. Like, I don't know. I don't know, like, what it is, but my husband is a steak and potatoes type of person.
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No, I know. Well, gains, man. You know, they got to get the gains.
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C
I wish that's how it worked for us. You've been a mom for, let's. How many months? You can probably tell me the months better than I can.
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Ten weeks.
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Oh, my gosh.
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Well, congrats. That is just. My. My best friend just gave birth yesterday, and I'm so excited because she's my first, like, friend, like, childhood friend to, like, have a. We have friends, like, in my adult life that I've met, that I've had babies. We've been friends since childhood, so it is, like. I'm, like, so elated for her. But how.
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How has these first 10 weeks been?
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That's so exciting. Like, you guys were babies, and now you're Having babies.
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I know.
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Babies. When you met. Yeah.
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Yeah.
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That's adorable. It's been so fun. Every day is so different, and I'm really just trying to. To really sit in it because I know it goes by so fast. Everybody says these are the days that go by quicker than you could have ever imagined. And she's starting to just become so much easier, sleeping through the night, not waking up every two hours. Like, I can really. I really have the opportunity to be grounded and still in each moment. So I'm really trying to. Because I know that she's. Every day, she's changing. I just know it's. It's gonna fly by. It already is.
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Yeah. Oh, my gosh. How was your, like, birth experience? Did. Did you have, like, a birth plan going into it? Were you able to stick with it, or.
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Well, she was breached from the beginning, and she was also a really big baby. She was nine pounds, So I knew I needed to get a C section. And part of that was. I mean, you just kind of surrender to it. It really wasn't what I envisioned for myself, and it took a little bit of a grieving period, and I tried to have her flip and everything, but I could not get her to move. She was just so a really big baby and just, like, wedged in there. But I. I mean, it's. I think there's. It's just a really. It's a traumatic experience, no matter what, because you're delivering a human into the world, and it's coming out of, like, a small hole, whichever one it is. So it's really wild. It was wild and beautiful, and everybody says that, like, you look back on it and it's the best time of your life. And I will say that's totally true. Like, while I was in it, I was really scared, and I was thinking, like, I never want to do this again. But now she's 10 weeks, and I'm already thinking that it was. I mean, I would do it 10 million times over. Yeah, maybe I will.
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So I know so many people that I know are like, it's just kind of like, amnesia. Like, you're like, oh, it wasn't fun, but it's fine. I'll do it again.
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Like, yeah, you forget. And I'm sure, like, right when you're about to do it again, you're like, why did I decide to do this again? And then, you know, you do it, and you're really excited about it. So it's the most beautiful thing in the world. It's a wild ride Yeah, I.
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So a little on my. My background. I'm an rn, and I worked as an rn, like, during coven, all this stuff. And my best friend who just gave birth, she's actually a labor and delivery nurse. We did nursing school together. And when we were in nursing school doing our rotations, I did, like, during my labor and delivery rotation, I watched a vaginal birth and I went home. Taylor and I were just dating at the time, but I went home and I was like, honey, like, I have.
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To forget what that looked like before.
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I could have a child. And I don't. I asked my best friend all the time, like, how are you? Like, just like, she literally births babies for her job and she wanted to birth a baby. I'm like, I just, like, I need to forget, like, everything about that, because I don't. I always say I want to be from, like, this end, not the receiving end of it, because that's just a view that is, like, not fun. But I. I always talk about that. I feel like I would want to have a C section just because I feel like I'm like, a planner and I have anxiety and I feel like I would want to. Like, my friends that have had C sections, they're like, you go in, you schedule it. One of my girlfriends, she's like, I bring my, like, her warm tone lamp with her for her to see sections. Like, she just, like, makes it, like, such an experience. So, yeah. Yeah. I'm. I'm so curious to see, like, how. How that time, like, is for me. So I'm, like, trying to ask all the moms all of the questions right now because that's, like, the next phase of life for me.
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Yeah. And honestly, you will find that everybody has a different experience. Some women have VBACs. Like, they'll have a C section, then they'll have the vaginal birth. Yeah. And they prefer the vaginal birth. I think everybody's birth story is so different. And, like, you just have to hope that you get the experience that you were supposed to get. I mean, I just choose to believe that that's what I had to do because I wanted a vaginal birth. Because you think. You just hear that it's better for the baby and that they're going to be able to get all the amniotic fluids squeeze out of their lungs. Like, luckily, that actually was not an issue at all with my C section. But you just hear all of these things. It's better for them to go through the birth canal. So I had to kind of surrender to it too. And just like, just choose to believe that this is what is best for me and the baby.
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Yeah, I know. I think. I think it's like, what I've learned is you can have a plan, but, like, know that your plan of birth may not go as planned or it most likely won't, honestly.
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I know, I know. Well, I hope for you because you have experience and you know what you want already, that you can have what you want.
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Yeah, hopefully.
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I don't know how that works, but I know you just like, can you just do that? I don't know.
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I know. I have to convince Tyeese to give me a C section. I just saw her not that long ago and she's like, you're still not pregnant. And I was like, no, I'm not pregnant yet. She's like, I want a baby. I'm like, okay, well, you're gonna take that up with my husband. So. So.
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Oh, my gosh.
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I know. I'm the hold up, though. I'm the holdup. He's like, he's been ready for a while. And I'm like, no.
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Well, how old are you? If you don't mind me asking? How old are you?
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I'm 28.
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Oh, you have plenty of time.
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I know.
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33.
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Yeah, no, I. I know. I think I told. I told him and I told Ty that by the time I'm 30, I'm going to be off my birth control and we'll just let nature run its course.
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Yeah.
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Time. If I'm not.
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You have time.
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Yeah, I know, I know, I know.
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I'm.
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I'm like, I am ready, though. I did have a pregnancy scare at the beginning of this year and I fully thought I was pregnant, but it ended up just being some, like, hormonal change with my birth control that I hadn't experienced before. And I woke up the next morning after I knew I wasn't pregnant, after I had been thinking I was for like two weeks. And I woke up and my first thought was I was sad I wasn't pregnant. So I was like, oh, I'm ready. That's cute.
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Okay.
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I have. One of my best friends had the same experience. She didn't know if she wanted to have her fourth baby. And she. And I was like, well, let's just see. Like, why don't you just see what God has in store for you?
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Yeah.
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So she ends up having a similar situation where she thought she was pregnant and then she got her period and she realized that she was really upset. I was like, okay. Now you know that you want a fourth baby.
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Yeah.
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So it's good. I mean, I hate to say it like that, but you know, because it could have been a little scarier than that. But now, now you know that you want a baby. Yeah. So yay. Yay. I know that I don't not want a baby.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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No, exactly.
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Exactly. That's so funny.
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A
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Tread +@1peloton.com how, how is your postpartum experience been? Did have you been struggling with like postpartum depression or hormonal shifts at all?
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Thank God, no postpartum depression. But I do do have an interesting thing called Demur, which you don't hear about that often. And I just noticed when I was breastfeeding I had this intense, horrible, depressing feeling. Like a pit in your stomach, like hits you like a brick as soon as she latches and you have a letdown. And so I asked, of course my best friend chat gbt and it's completely, it's a, basically when your oxytocin rises for you to have a letdown, it's a, it's a temporary crash in your dopamine, like complete. Oh, completely gone. Yeah. And it's very common. And so I of course went to Tick Tock and I found so many other people who have this. And drinking water helps. Distracting yourself helps. But I mean, I cannot complain at all. I felt I wanted, you know, it's worth it to feed your baby, but it's such an interesting, unbelievable hormonal thing that happens that no one talks about, but it doesn't affect everybody. It's interesting.
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What was it called?
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Demur.
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Oh, I'm going to look into that. Yeah, that's interesting.
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D M E R. Okay.
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Good to know.
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I'd love to know. I think something that I struggle with, with kind of like being hesitant in being a mom is like just I feel like I'm not gonna be able. Which I know is like totally just my mind being silly. But my hold up has been like.
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I'm not going to be able to.
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Like do things like, like career. Like I feel like it's gonna like hold me back like once I'm a mom. Like that's like my thought process. But I've been hearing that that's not the case from most moms. But I'd love to kind of hear like your take on that.
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Yeah, I think that for anybody who says no, you can do it all. I mean, like I'm just going to be real with you. There's totally a shift and like whether or not you want there to be or not. Like, you are. You have somebody that's physically dependent on you. So I'm not going to sugarcoat it. Yeah, it's scary. And honestly, I've leaned, Like, that's why I'm so grateful that I have my husband. Because while I'm totally working and I'm doing everything in my power to keep working, and I'm so happy to have the opportunities that I have. Like, let's say they all went away. Would I have the same ability that I had 10, 12, 15, 20 years ago to, like, light that fire up my butt when, like, I have somebody who, like, really needs me, which is my baby? No. Like, I would choose my baby ten times over, obviously. So, yeah, that's just my honest opinion. It's definitely, like, a scary time, but I'm also just kind of a worry war in that way. Like, I'm very ambitious, so I did have a little bit of an identity crisis. I really did. And it's very common. And to anybody out there who didn't and doesn't and is like, a working woman, I commend you. I did not have the mental fortitude. I totally got scared.
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Yeah.
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No, I love that that's real. I know. I keep telling myself, like, I'm. I can, like, think about it and, like, worry about it as much as I want right now, but I think once I, like, have a baby, it's just. My brain's gonna, Like, I'm not. I can't view it because I don't have a kid yet. Like, I'm not gonna. I don't have, like. I can't say, see it, you know, because I'm not a mom yet.
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But even hearing you talk and, like, I wish that I had somebody to say this to me also. Like, just the fact that you're worrying about it is enough to say that you're going to make it work. Like, you just do. Like, if you want to work and you want to keep working, you will keep working, and you will make it work. It's just kind of. I think you just, like, are really stuck with. You're just really. You're in a new phase, and it's like a lot of juggling. It's like a new sort of balancing act. But you. You can do it.
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C
Yeah, you can do it.
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I can do it. We can do it.
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C
What's been, like, the biggest thing? Because obviously your schedule is busy. Your husband's schedule is busy.
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How.
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C
How have you learned or how are you striving to kind of make sure you have alone time for yourself to prioritize yourself, and then you guys together as a couple.
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B
That's a good question. Well, we always try to try to go on a date once a week, and it doesn't always happen. And sometimes the date is literally just rotting in bed watching, like, the mob Netflix show. We were just watching, actually. Sorry. We were watching Next Gen Chef, obviously. We really were, though. Yeah, we try to have a date once a week, but his schedule is really different because it's, you know, the football season is so crazy, and then he gets a little bit of a break, and then, you know, eventually he won't be playing football at all. So it's like a short window of time that we just kind of give each other grace because I know he's doing everything that he has to do for his career, and he should be.
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Yeah, I'd love to know, like, obviously his career has had a lot of, like, highs and lows. How. How have you learned to, like, support him and him. You with. You know, I've. I haven't been. Taylor and I've been together for about eight years, but he hasn't really been working much. He's been focusing a lot on his mental health the past few years, and we've been in. Been together through highs and lows in that regard. And having to, like, learn how to support my husband through that has, like, been a journey, but one of, like, the coolest things. What. What have you kind of, like, learned through that or about marriage and how.
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To support each other?
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That's such a good question. I feel like just starting out with asking, how can I help?
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C
Yeah.
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I feel like we all need somebody to ask us that every once in a while, and it means so much when they do.
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C
Yeah.
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I mean, it's like an. It's an opportunity to not only get help, but to also get what's bothering you off your chest, which is so cathartic in itself. Yeah. So for him, that looks like so many different things. And honestly, the. What I know to be true, one of the biggest ways that I can support him regularly is just letting him do what he needs to do to feel prepared, which is very time consuming. Like, we don't spend a lot of time together, but I. I mean, we do. I don't want that to be a quote. We do spend a lot of time together, but he. He is focused on what he's focused on, and I completely support that because I want him to feel prepared and do what he thinks he's on earth.
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C
To do, for sure. No, I. I love that. And that's been really cool. I mean, I've. I grew up watching football, but I feel like over the past couple years, we've. We've become close with quite a few, like, players and their families and really gotten to see, like, the inner workings of, like, what it is to be married to, related to NFL player. And it's just like, obviously we commend the players a lot, but also we have to commend the wives and the families because it is work for you guys too. Not being able to see your spouses and having to deal with the schedule and, like, really, like, learning how to adjust. It's really commendable.
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B
Thanks. Thank you. And it's also very reciprocal. He does the same for me, so it's great. It's. It would be one thing if I didn't feel like it was reciprocal, but it absolutely is.
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C
Yeah, I love that.
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A
Okay, so you know those movies that make you laugh, cry, and then immediately text your friends, like, we have to see this together? Well, that's exactly how I felt after watching the trailer for Eternity. It's this visually gorgeous, feel good rom com about love, second chances, and what happens when life, or maybe the afterlife throws you one more curveball. It's clever, heartfelt, and the kind of story that instantly pulls you in. And the trailer alone gives you chills. It opens with Elizabeth Olsen's character waking up in this dreamlike afterlife where everything feels familiar yet surreal at the same time. And that's when she sees him. Her first husband, the one she lost years ago in a tragic war. You can feel the wave of emotion hit her, and before you even have time to process it, her second husband walks in. Suddenly, she's standing between the two great loves of her life, both there, both real, and both wanting her to choose them. It's such a unique, powerful concept, this idea of what happens when you're confronted with the loves that shaped you most. Who do you belong with when both love stories were so real? When both changed you? This trailer teases this beautifully. It's emotional, a little funny, and filled with that tension that makes you want to know what happened next. It stars Elizabeth Olsen, Miles Teller, and Callum Turner. And the chemistry between them is truly so good. You can feel every little glance, every moment of tension. It's natural, charming, and full of heart. It's one of those love triangles where you genuinely don't know who to root for because you find yourself understanding why she's drawn to both. You just want to See how it all unfolds and who she ends up choosing, if she can even choose. What I love most about eternity is that it's not just the surface level romance. It's got depth.
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B
It's.
- [28:34]
A
It's that perfect mix of humor, emotion, and introspection that keeps you smiling one minute and quietly reflecting the next. It's warm, it's a little chaotic. It's funny. And it leaves you thinking about the choices we make in life and how sometimes the hardest decisions are the ones between two really good things. And you know when a movie makes you stop and think about your own life, like, what would I do if I were in that position? That's the magic of this. It sneaks up on you with these little moments of real vulnerability. And before you know it, you're emotionally invested. And honestly, it's been a minute since we've had a romantic comedy that feels this big and the kind you actually want to experience in a theater. There's something about watching a love story play out on the big screen that just hits differently. You hear the crowd laughing, reacting, gasping, and suddenly you're all a part of it together. It's that collective energy that makes seeing a movie like this in theaters truly so special. And visually, it's beautiful. Every scene has this rich cinematic glow. It's soft, emotional, and just easy to get lost in. You can tell every frame was crafted with intention. The colors, the lighting, the way it's shot. It feels immersive and romantic without being over the top. It's the kind of movie that feels warm, nostalgic, and full of heart. The kind that makes you want to stay in that world just a little bit longer. And beyond the love story, there's this deeper layer about timing, fate, and what ifs that shape our lives. It's about looking back at those pivotal moments and realizing how much one choice is can change everything. It's also hopeful. It reminds you that love can be messy and complicated and still beautiful all at once. That's what makes eternity so special, because it's not just a rom com. It's a story about what really matters, about connection, about finding peace with your past while also embracing what's next. Whether you go for the laughs, the chemistry, or just a good escape from real life for a couple hours, this movie delivers on every level. So if you're planning your Thanksgiving weekend, this is the one to see. Grab your friends, your family, your partner, whoever you love watching a good story with, and make a night out of it. Eternity is in theaters everywhere. Thanksgiving, November 26th. Trust me, it's one of those movies that's even better when you see it on the big screen. And I cannot wait to see it.
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C
I want to jump to talking about kind of your background in pageantry and now having social media. How have you ever, like, struggled with comparison? Or do you feel like social media kind of brings, like, that pressure? Because I'm sure. I mean, I don't want to put words in your mouth, but I'm sure there was some form of pressure doing pageantry to look or act a certain way. Not. Not putting on a front, but, you know, you're competing, so, like, you're.
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B
No, yeah, yeah. It was definitely. So here is the backstory for that. There's definitely putting up a front because I never did pageants. I only did the pageant that I did when I was 19, which was Ms. Rhode island, and then I won Miss Rhode island when I was 19, and I won Miss USA when I was 20, and then I won Miss USA, Miss Universe when I was 20. So I won. I did all that really, within that one. I didn't grow up doing pageants. My parents thought it was such a joke, and they were so embarrassed. My dad, like, left halfway because they're in the Miss Rhode island pageant because there was, like, a football game going on. You know, they did not grow up with that at all. So I would say it was 100% playing a part and 100% apart, like a front. I had to learn how to walk in heels. I watched past pageants. I, like, kind of figured out the whole thing, and I just faked it till I made it.
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C
What made. What made you want to do that first pageant?
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B
So I looked at. I looked at a lot of. I knew that I wanted to do something in entertainment. And at the time, I didn't know if I would want it to be a host or if I wanted to go into acting. But I knew that Halle Berry had been the runner up of Miss usa. I knew that Juliana Rancic did pageants. I knew Maria Menounos did pageants. I knew Michelle Pfeiffer did pageant. Like, I just knew a lot of these people in the entertainment world started out in pageants. And I was just this 18 year old in Rhode island trying to make it, you know, and just get out of there. And that. That was something that I saw as an opportunity. And I really just didn't think that I would win. I. I just thought it could get me one step closer to being like, these people who were really successful in my eyes.
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A
Wow. Wow.
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C
I didn't. I didn't realize that. So you've. That must have been a lot like winning all three of those, like, back to back. Like, did your life just, like, completely change?
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B
Yeah, it really did. It. It really did change overnight. I remember winning Miss Miss USA and then being immediately going to New York. I was at the time, it was with NBC, and it was, you know, it was a big production. I remember we didn't have even have Instagram, but I remember waking up with, like, hundreds of thousands of Twitter followers and looking out my window and I could see. See all the lights of New York City, and it was just. It was wild. It was just. It really was, like, not a lot of things. You can't say a lot of things. Change your life overnight. Like, that really did.
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A
Yeah, that is.
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C
That is wild. Like, I can't even.
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A
I can't even.
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B
I was a college student, and then all of a sudden, forget your class. I still have dreams about the classes. Nightmares about the classes that I didn't finish. Oh, my gosh.
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C
So how long from winning Miss USA did you go on to competing for Miss Universe?
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B
Well, it was all.
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C
So it was all the same time.
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B
Yeah, it was all. So I was Miss Rhode Island 2012, and then I was Miss USA 2012, and then I was Miss Universe 2012. It was all just like that circuit. That's kind of how it works.
- [34:21]
C
Yeah, that's. That's literally crazy. What did that following year look like for you?
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B
While I was. Yeah, while I was carrying the title. A lot of travel. Well, and by the way, this was 11 years ago. A lot has changed. But at that point, it was. It was a job. And you would travel, especially as Miss Universe. I went to over 30 countries, I think, I believe, and I lived on a plane. I truly lived on a plane. I would go and address, like, with the state officials of this town in India. Like, I had no idea what I was doing, but I was somehow just there showing up, speaking in front of thousands of people along all these little, you know, tours around the world. Because, as I know, the pageants have a certain reputation, but in Asia, they're. They're really, really. They're huge.
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A
Yeah.
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B
So you'd be. It was. It was truly a different world.
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A
Yeah.
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C
Not having, like, that background in pageants, did you ever feel like you struggled with imposter syndrome at all or not like, feeling like you belonged because you were new to that environment?
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B
There were definitely things that contributed to imposter syndrome, but it was more based on how I looked, unfortunately, just because I was. I was the youngest person actually to compete in that year. And then I was also by far the shortest, which at that time, I mean, we've come such a long way as far as inclusivity, but at that time, I don't know. I hope people listening can actually, actually know what I'm referring to. But you had to be a certain height to be any sort of like, Runway model or model in general. Like, you had to fit a certain prototype, and a lot of that had to do with your height and weight. So I was really, I'm short. I'm short in the modeling world. So that was one of the things. And you just.
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C
You're gonna.
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B
People are gonna tear you to shreds online, and you're just gonna read what they're deciding to tear you to shreds about, and you're gonna internalize that and be insecure. So for me, it was my height. They. But I mean, it sounds so silly even looking back on. It's like, ugh, so dumb.
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C
Yeah.
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B
But, yeah, I've definitely had imposter syndrome in different, more real ways. But I'm being honest with you. With Pageant, it was the height. So crazy.
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C
Yeah. How. How have you. How did you. Or did you, I guess, learn at the time to kind of set boundaries with social media? Or have you kind of learned that now to protect your mental health and mental peace with that?
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B
I feel like I'm trying to think because as far as imposter syndrome and insecurities and all that, it definitely. I feel like it's something that follows you regardless of where you are in your career. So there's always something that you're going to be insecure about, and there are always scenario settings that are going to make you feel that Imposter syndrome. I definitely find myself limiting my time on social media because of that. And, yeah, I think just. Just thinking of it as a part of you and not all of you. And just, you know, it's so hard because you listen to what the world thinks of you and you can internalize that and it's struggle with it. I mean, who wouldn't? But that's why it's just so important to have a really strong circle who really knows who you are and lean on that and what they think of you. And when you need to take breaks, take the breaks from social media, it's toxic. It's definitely very hard to process certain things on there and the way that it makes you feel and the things that people say.
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C
Yeah, no, it's so true. That's. That's great advice. I recently just wasn't on my phone because the finale of one of the shows that I watch was coming out and I was watching it at night with my girlfriends and I was like, I don't want any spoilers. So none of us went on social media that day. And it was like the next day.
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A
I was like, oh, I don't feel the need to, like, go on my phone.
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C
Like, it just. Even that one day of detoxing just felt like, so nice. And it reminded me that I don't, like, need to chronically scroll and I really should not be.
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B
Yeah, well, things like this are so valuable and what you're doing because it's such a feel good place for people to seek comfort and connection without having to fall into a, you know, something that makes them feel bad.
- [38:49]
C
Yeah, no, that's so true.
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A
Thank you.
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C
That's really sweet. Has motherhood changed how you view or use social media at all?
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B
I've always tried to limit the time that I spend on it because I, you know, everything that you do is giving you feedback. Is this making you feel or is this making you feel bad? Is this draining you or is this uplifting you? And based on that, I, I really try not to scroll a ton with my daughter. I think it's just like, you know, you've got your eight hours during the day that you can do what you have to do. And I think it's just turned into a survival tactic. I don't have time to just aimlessly scroll on my phone. Like, I have to prioritize what's most important, which is usually not what's on my for you page.
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A
Yeah.
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C
Yeah. Well, that's. No, that's special.
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A
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C
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C
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C
Last thing I would love to kind of shed light on is endometriosis and kind of your experience with it. Because obviously we've had Thais Dr. A on the show. We've talked about endometriosis a bit. I have quite a few girlfriends that have it. One of my girlfriends actually just had.
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A
Her third surgery earlier this week.
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C
So I'd love to kind of hear if you can just kind of explain what endometriosis is and when did you like first realize something was going on?
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B
So every month the woman's endometrial lining sheds. That's what's your that is your period. The endometrial lining is supposed to line your uterus. Endometriosis is when the endometrial lining that sheds grows outside of the uterus. So it could grow in your bowel, grow in your liver, it could grow in your rectum, it could grow could grow in any other part of your body. And it's extremely painful depending on where these lesions, they call them, or endometrial tissue decides to grow. So with these lesions it gets, it gets worse and worse and worse and worse and worse until eventually, hopefully you get answers and you get a surgery. But the average, the average diagnosis time for endometriosis is 10 years, which is something that I've worked really hard to try to bring to light because that's absolutely horrifying. And even me, myself suffered for years. And so dozens of physicians before I was actually taken seriously with my condition. So I really, I knew something was wrong because it, because I had excruciating pain. My endometriosis is primarily in the back of my uterus, so a lot of low back pain and to the point where I couldn't get out of bed. I was like, I was living in the bath. I was taking prescription level medication and still in pain, just so upset. And it's one thing to live with chronic pain, but it's another thing to live with chronic pain and feel like no one's hearing you because then it's scary.
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C
Yeah.
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B
Like at least you know that there's an answer. That would be a great situation. I didn't even know what was going on because nobody would diagnose me with. What I later researched for myself was endometriosis. This was before I met Dr. A. But I'm so grateful for her because after I finally did enough researching on YouTube, Reddit, Instagram, Facebook, I realized, okay, I think that I have this thing called endometriosis. And it wasn't in the front of my pelvic area, it was in the back. So because of that, like, my symptoms were just a little bit more unique. But now that we, that I talk about it more, I find a lot of people who actually have exactly what I had. So anyway, I went to her and I said, I think I have endometriosis. And lo and behold, she found, found it like on an ultrasound after I went to so many other people and they did so many ultrasounds. Oh my gosh, Dr. A for President.
- [47:30]
C
I literally, I literally, I feel like so inspired by her every time I, like, see her or like, hear her talk. Like, she's just, I just love what she's doing for women and just like, really shedding light on our stuff that we have going on that a lot of people don't know about. And I have so many friends that have been, you know, diagnosed with PCOS and like, are finally getting a diagnosis after hearing, like, how to advocate for themselves and pushing and pushing for like, they knowing something's wrong but not really being heard. So, yeah, we, we love her, but I'd love to know before we head into our last Little Lemon 7 segment, what piece of advice would you give to someone, to women out there that feels like they're in pain, something is wrong, but they aren't being taken seriously. How they could better advocate for themselves.
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B
As far as endometriosis goes? Or in general.
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C
Yeah, I. And I mean, or in general. But yeah, with endometriosis or just our female reproductive problems that so many women.
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B
Yeah.
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C
Struggle with but don't know how to advocate from. For themselves or don't feel like they're being heard similar to kind of what you experienced.
- [48:52]
B
Yeah, well, that's what that I know. Found.com has a whole page of resources specifically for endometriosis. There's also Nancy's nook on Facebook. Like, that's kind of where I have told people to go. But for anybody out there who is suffering, just know that you're not alone. And hopefully you can. Can see the better part of social media and find people who have the same condition and what they did to seek help. It's such a cool thing to see, the strides we're taking with women's health, specifically endometriosis. Seeing the amount of people that even on my own little level are advocating for themselves and going to the right doctors and calling out the wrong. The bad doctors. It's amazing to see people getting the help they need and being vulnerable about it because unfortunately, if you don't advocate for yourself, you're not going to always get the help you need.
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C
Yeah, I love that.
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A
Thank you for that.
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C
Let's head into our last little segment, shall we? Fun little, fun little segment. Lemon 7. You could rapid fire these. You can share a monologue of your explanation. Whatever your heart desires, you can answer.
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A
But number one is what movie or.
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C
Song title best describes your mental health today?
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B
Dreams by the Cranberries Because I'm in love with my daughter, obviously.
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C
Number two is how open are you with people in your life when struggling core friends?
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B
Very, very, very, very open. Everybody else? Very, very, very, very, very not.
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C
Yeah. Have you always been like that? Or is that something you've kind of like, had to learn later in life to kind of just like.
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B
It's so funny. I was literally just talking to my husband about this. No, it's 100A defense mechanism. When I was growing up, I feel like I wanted to be best friends with everybody. But then, you know, you get. You go through life and bad friendships and bad people and friendships callous you. So I have a really hard Time now as an adult, opening up to people, and I think we all. I. I envy people who are just, like, able to be really vulnerable with a lot of people. I struggle with that, but I'm working on it.
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C
Yeah. I mean, at least you have your core people that you can be honest with, because I feel like that's as long as you got someone to talk to. I feel like that's the most important thing.
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B
Yes, it's true.
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A
Number three is if you could only.
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C
Follow three social media accounts, what would they be?
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B
Definitely a parenting account. I don't have a specific one right now. I really like the moody foodie who's on Instagram. She makes the most delicious food and she makes it look so easy. And I need to get her cookbook. So I really like her. I also really like. Who doesn't love, like, a feel good, uplifting Instagram account like yours? And also everybody else that puts out feel good content. So I think those.
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C
Yeah, I love that.
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A
Well, thank you.
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C
I'm honored. Number four is what is your favorite form of self care?
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B
Being in nature.
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C
Oh. Is there, like.
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A
Like anywhere just walking outdoors or do.
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C
You like to go and, like, vacation somewhere outside?
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B
Well, either. Honestly, I'll just take what I can get, but I do. I just noticed that nothing grounds me more than being in nature.
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C
Yeah. Do you think you're more of a beach person or a mountain person?
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B
I think my husband and I also talk about this all the time. We're mountain people. We are.
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A
I know.
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C
Okay. Number five is what is the most.
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A
Misunderstood thing about you?
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B
I think people don't know how goofy I am. I'm very goofy. And they, you know. Yeah. They have this idea of me being, I don't know, uptight or really put together, and it's not totally accurate.
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A
We love. We love goofiness. Number six is who has had the most positive impact on your mental health?
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B
Definitely my husband and family special.
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A
And the last but not least, number seven is if you could go back to one moment in your life, what moment would that be and what would.
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C
You say to yourself?
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B
Any moment when. This is a lot of crunch here. Probably a mo. Probably just my younger self going through, well, situations that I didn't necessarily have to put myself through, like tough relationships or toxic situations that I should have not been in. I wish that I had told myself that there is hope, so that I. But. But then again, the pain of those moments is what.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Preps you for the rest of your life. So I guess I have to be grateful for those moments, too, so. No, no, no.
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C
I think that's a good answer. I think there's still, like, I always say, like, I. So, like, I worked as a Covid nurse, and I was diagnosed with PTSD and depression from working. And I always say I wouldn't change it, but I would go back and be like, hey, like, you're going to get through this. I just give myself a little, like, a little pep talk. So I think. I think.
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B
I think that's nice. I feel like we all need to hear that when we're going through something, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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C
Yeah.
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B
And this is making you better. Yeah, that's the other thing. This is making you a better person.
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A
Yeah. I love that.
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C
That's a great note to end on.
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A
Well, thank you for joining me today.
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C
And I'm excited to watch this Netflix show. I love a cooking show. So we will be watching this tonight.
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B
Good. I'm so happy. I hope you like it. And thank you for having me.
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C
Awesome.
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A
Thank you.
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B
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B
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