Bola Sokunbi (12:45)
So I'll use myself as an example. When I got my first job, first job I'd ever had in The US I got a job as a consultant. My salary was $54,000 before taxes. I don't know what benefits I got because I was just excited to get this job. And I remember a few months later at a lunch meeting with my co workers, they started talking about salary. And that's a conversation HR hates for you to have. And a lot of my peers, maybe There was like 10 of us at this table, exact same qualifications as me, exact same job. We sat at the same desk together every day. I was making 54,000, one of them was making 70,000, 68,000, 75,000. And the difference between them and me was that they asked. I did not ask. I was just so excited. I accepted it. And that for me was an eye opening moment. I was embarrassed and I was annoyed. I'm like, well, you should have asked for more. And so that lit a fire under me and I started thinking to myself, how can I ask for more? Because basically what that has done is even if I get a promotion, I'm going to get a raise based on that salary that I never negotiated right. And, and so I went up to my career counselor, which we had assigned to us, or you have a mentor at work or a leader at work, or some, a friend at work that you trust that's at a higher position. And I said, listen, what can I do to start advocating for myself at work? And the advice she gave me, she was like, do your best work, which is what you're doing, but make sure that your manager knows that you're doing your best work and position yourself to get the best possible raises and other benefits so that when you leave this job, you have a better place to negotiate from. And that basically meant telling my boss, oh, you know that project that we worked on, I completed it, I'd love to get your feedback. And then she said, keep a checklist of all the things you've done really well at this company, no matter how small. Save every congratulatory or well done email from your boss. That way when you go into your promotion meeting or your assessment meeting, you know, you can say, by the way, boss, it's been a great year for me. Look at all these amazing things that I have done. And she's like, practice having that conversation. And it's not a fight, it's not an argument, it's you going to your boss, having this conversation and saying, boss, I've done all this amazing things. And she said, also, reach out to your boss once a month, every six weeks, and just say, hey, Boss, can I have a quick check in? So you say top of mind. And that worked for me so effectively, and I was able to negotiate each promotion. And by the time I left that job and I got into my last corporate job, before I got the idea to start my business, I was a super negotiator. I remember I went for my last interview and the boss was introducing me around. They hadn't given me the offer letter yet, but he said, me, Bola, she's going to be in the position that we've been trying to fill for the last two years. And when I heard two years, I was like, ding, ding, ding. That means they need me. So not only did I negotiate my salary, I was able to get a work from home plan once a week at the time when nobody was working from home. I negotiated getting a Mac computer when everybody had Windows. I negotiated my vacation time from two weeks to three weeks. I negotiated an economic chair that cost $2,000. I negotiated everything possible. And I just asked. I'm like, oh, hey, what kind of chair am I going to sit on? Oh, you know, I use a Mac on my last computer. Can I get a Mac now? I just asked and it was yes, no, yes, yes, no, no. And so when I started that job, you know, there was a manager there who was upset about my chair and my computer. And I'm like, the boss's office is right there. Go and ask. So you have to ask, knowing that the worst response you're going to get is no. And you know what you do when you get that note? You shelf it. And then in three months, you revisit it. You ask again.