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It said the temptation to give up is greatest right before you're about to succeed. 99% of the world I read a statistic gives up if they fail three times at anything. For those of you who feel the most pressure, that is probably a sign the breakthrough is close. What's up everybody? Welcome to my party. Who's here for the first time? Welcome everybody. Who flew the furthest to be here? Anybody from Dubai? Dubai, Switzerland, uk? Anybody from China? One person from China. Okay. Really? Yeah. You don't look you the least Chinese looking guy at this party. Okay. One thing I was going to say, I was, I was reading an old Chinese book and it said, speaking of China, it said the temptation to give up is greatest right before you're about to succeed. And I think about that myself. I've had different spurts in my life where I was not making any money and I was just grinding away and I almost gave up. And just sometimes life changes in a day. I can remember like four different days in my life where my life changed and I made an extra, you know, made my first a hundred K a year. Then I figured out how to make my first million. Then you could figure out make your first ten million, hundred million. Life goes like this, flat jumps. Then life tests you. God, the universe, it sees if you're worth, if you're deserved to be at the next level. So you'll plateau for a couple years and then you'll jump back up. 99% of the world I read a statistic gives up if they fail three times at anything. Going to the gym, a diet, launching a business, making money, acting in Hollywood, being a musician. So just remember all the benefit is in you persevering past where 99% of people drop off. And almost any person I've ever met, that was a success story whether it was in making money, billionaires, whether it was in music, entertainment, social media, personal brands. If you ask them, hey man, what was the day you got big? And they'll be like, oh I remember like December 13, I went viral in 2023. And then you say the month before then, did you think about giving up? And they're like, fuck yeah dude, it's crazy. So just for those of you who feel the most pressure, that is probably a sign the breakthrough is close. So I actually get the most depressed when everything feels like it's going great. Because I found in my life if you learn how to manifest then every time I have a bad day in the morning, I, I sometimes can control my brain and go Wait a sec, Ty. Every single time you have a bad morning, if you just keep the mindset strong, some breakthrough happens. I figure out a new funnel, a new automation. I meet a new person. So if you talk to the smartest scientists on Earth right now, the Nobel Prize two years ago was won by these scientists who found out that local reality is false. Okay? Albert Einstein said, this was my nightmare, that local reality was false. What that means is what you see with your eyes is not reality. So what these scientists found, the simple way to understand it is when you look away from the moon right now, it disappears. And when you look back at it, it renders, like a computer game. So what you're looking for in your life starts to appear. So let's say I see people going dating sucks in la. I'm like, you know what's going to happen to you? You're going to render from thin air the worst people in LA and end up on a date with them. But if you all, if you start to say yourself, I have good luck in la, all of a sudden it begins to render. So power of positive thinking is a real thing. It's been proven over and over. Optimists live longer. I saw Elon Musk said, life's hard, but you have to be an optimist. And he made $450 billion. He said he thought he'd be bankrupt three times between like 2012 and 2020. Three times, he said, I was sure I'd be bankrupt, but $1 million came in to fund the business. One loan hit, and all of a sudden the guy's worth half a trillion dollars. So life does not come to the people who do well in short runs. If you're a sprinter, you might as well lower your ambition. If you can just go hard and focus for like a week, a month, a year, you're going to lose. So just pick a smaller game. But for those of you who want to do big things, you're going to have to sprint for a while. They call it the ten dark years. In general, successful people that you now know, they had 10 years where nobody knew what they were. They were laughed at. They were nothing. And then all of a sudden, they got their breakthrough. Breakthroughs don't happen like this. Monday doesn't get a little bit better than Tuesday. It kind of stays flat, flat, flat, flat. It tests you. And if you can keep rendering what you want, saying what you want with real belief behind it, then all of a sudden, the video game starts to bring you the life you want. Remember those Same scientists say time's also not real. It's called the block theory of time. It means the reason we think that time happens every second, every minute, every day is because human brains are too small to fathom the universe. More likely, all of time is happening at the same time. But we have little, little pea brains. So we perceive things as like, oh, I've been working hard for a week, I've been working hard for a month. Nah, don't think that way. Sometimes you have to turn your emotions off and go, I'm in my 10 dark years. And then out of the ashes, you'll suddenly rise. Okay, time's not real. Even the challenges that you think are freaking you out, they're not even real. Stop giving them credit credence, stop manifesting them. If you want to find a dude or a girl to date in la, stop saying LA sucks. If you want to make money, stop complaining to your friends, Call your friends and be like, I think I'm a little bit closer to the breakthrough. It's a little bit tough right now, but I'm a little bit closer to a breakthrough. Hang up, start texting like that. So every single sentence you start to say, if you change your vocabulary brings you closer to what you want. Speak what you want, act what you want, think what you want. And by the way, little practical hack scientists have found, when you go to sleep, take your phone, find the smartest person you know on YouTube or podcast or Spotify and play that shit in the background, real light. Scientists have found you can actually get smarter. You can improve your life by listening to the right stuff. So that could be music sometimes, but listen to smart people. If you're an actor, listen to a three hour podcast by Robert De Niro talking about his grind to become an actor. If you're an entrepreneur, listen to a three hour podcast about Jeff Bezos. Let that shit reprogram your brain. The worst thing about the modern world is all of us have been programmed by people they didn't know what they were doing. They call them parents. My dad was in prison when I was born. My dad didn't know how to raise me, my mom didn't know how to raise me. So you have to go out and find mentors who are like virtual fathers and mothers to you. And I found those over the years and that made all the difference in my life. So listen to those people at night. With YouTube the blessing, you can just listen and those words slowly but surely start to reprogram the hard wiring of your brain so that's all I wanted to say, I like LA because LA, even though there's things I don't like about L, A, LA is the most optimistic city probably in the world, I tell guys, if you're bad with women, come to la, New York, they won't talk to you, but all you got to do in L, A is walk up to a girl and be like, big fan, big fan of your stuff, all women are like, thank you, they're all trying to be famous or something, so I hope you meet somebody new, at least walk away with five phone numbers of somebody that you normally wouldn't talk to. By the way, that's your homework for this party, so go up to somebody that's not your normal social circle, how they dress, how they look, what age they are, Talk to them, get a phone number, okay? Networking is the seventh lever of wealth, the most powerful lever, so I hope you all meet somebody interesting and have a good party.
"(At My House Party) Be More Social – Stop Giving Up!"
Date: May 25, 2025
Host: Tai Lopez
This episode, recorded live at one of Tai Lopez's house parties, revolves around perseverance, the importance of a positive mindset, and the transformative power of social connections. Tai uses personal stories, scientific ideas, and practical advice to illustrate why most people stop short of success, and offers strategies to overcome discouragement and "render" better realities—both in business and personal life. The setting is interactive and informal, with Tai sharing insights as he encourages guests to break out of their social comfort zones.
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Personal Anecdote
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Positive Thinking
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Advice:
Tai recommends playing educational podcasts or motivational talks softly while sleeping, as a way to “reprogram” your brain.
“When you go to sleep... play that shit in the background, real light. Scientists have found you can actually get smarter.” ([11:26])
He emphasizes finding virtual mentors, especially if you lacked strong parental guidance:
“You have to go out and find mentors who are like virtual fathers and mothers to you.” ([12:16])