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them our show sent you this is a question when did this stop being interesting to you and can you remember when? Because if you cannot remember the last time your work genuinely excited you, not a good day here or there, but like you know that deep excitement. I'm talking about little butterflies you get in your stomach. That answer is telling you something and I really think it's worth listening to. Once you start hearing that signal, the next thing that happens almost always is that identity question, right? This one kept me stuck for years before I finally left. Who am I without this job, I cannot tell you how many times I asked myself that question. And I even. I asked Ira, I stayed in the wrong place in a lot of different ways because I never had the answer to that. So here's what it actually felt like every time somebody at a party or an event would say, like, so, what are you doing now? And I didn't have a clean answer. It felt like a small cut, because for 30 years, I always had the answer. Oh, my name's Tamsa. I'm a news anchor. I anchor the news. I do the evening news. And that answer came with everything attached to it, like credibility, authority, a reason for people to take me seriously, something for people to talk about. And when that title was gone, I kept waiting for somebody to figure out that I had nothing to back it up with anymore. And that's what identity tied to a job title actually does to you. It outsources your sense of self to something that's outside of you. And in that case, your confidence isn't yours. It belongs to the role. Right? Your credibility isn't yours. Maybe it belongs to the institution of the company. So you've got to make sure that all those things belong to you, because when that role goes away, you're standing there wondering who gave you permission to take up space in whatever room you're in. So I remember waking up, like, three months later going, oh, my gosh, did I make a mistake? Not because I missed the job, but because at least I knew who I was when I was there and I had that title. And I think the most honest thing that I can say about why women oftentimes stay in their careers, not everybody, but oftentimes stay in their careers that no longer fit. It's not a fear of failure. It's a fear of not knowing who we are on the other side. So what I finally had to understand, and it definitely took me longer than I'd like to admit, is that the job was never the source of any of that. The confidence I had, the credibility, the ability to walk into a room and hold it, that was always mine. I just gave it all to the title and to the job. So I'm going to give you a little bit of a challenge. I want you to try something. I want you to write down every role you've ever had, every job, every version of yourself, and then don't look at the titles, look underneath them. What were you doing in every single one of those roles? Not what you were called. What were you doing? Because here's what I realized about myself, something continued to show up over and over again. Like the same skill, the same quality you bring to that, not what it says on your business card. And for me, it was this. I could make complicated things feel human. I could walk into a room and I could talk to people directly, and I would listen to their story because I'm really, really curious and ask a million questions. And I love hearing how their story could help other people. And that's what I did when I was a local reporter in, like, you know, Market 200 and when I was a news anchor in Market 1. And the same is actually true right now. That wasn't like the newsrooms thing. That was what I was good at and made me. I don't know, it just made me feel great and confident and helpful. And that's the part that you're gonna take with you. So if you're thinking like, oh, my gosh, I wanna do something else, I don't know what to do. I don't know where to begin. You do know where to begin. And that's why that word reinvention, a lot of times really is misplaced, because I feel like reinvention makes us think we have to start all over from square one, and we don't. You already have what you need. You already have that real currency. You already have what it is that is going to bring you to the next place. Okay, I'm going to be really direct with you here because most career advice kind of skips over this, and I think it's a disservice. I think you really have to sit with it because you say the words, but then actually doing them can be complicated. So let's talk about finances first before

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you make any move.

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you don't do that. So I would say ideally, six to 12 months of personal expenses in the bank, money that you don't have to touch while you figure out the next thing. That's why it takes time to start, you know, ramping up a bit. So if you're listening to this today, start today thinking about those things. And that number's different for everybody. But be honest with yourself about what yours actually is. Because when you make a career transition or change jobs or want to start something different, when you're in financial stress, it just is really, really hard. And it's hard in a way that doesn't have to be that difficult. Give yourself the breathing room. You deserve it. You don't have to change jobs today, but I think you'll really make better decisions because of it. Because when I first started thinking about things versus where I was down the line, people thought I made that decision overnight. I did not make that overnight. The second thing is jump before you're pushed. Most women I know who have left careers look back and they're like, oh gosh, the signs were there way before I left.

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Maybe it was a slow fade.

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Maybe it was feeling like the conversations that you let slide that just kept going. Politics at work. And you might already be sensing that it's time for you to go. So I would start exploring your options now.

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tomorrow, but because you wanna leave on

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your own terms and you're in control. And that was always kind of sitting there in the back of my head. Especially because I had somebody when I was very young telling me that my role I would age out of eventually. So that always kind of sat in the back of my mind. I never wanted to be pushed out. I wanted to make that decision for myself and decide that my story about

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is, and this is different for everybody, but it's kind of like a test drive, right? Start tapping your toe into what it is you might want to do before you actually commit. Maybe an hour here, there a Saturday. You don't have to go build a whole new career overnight and have like a board of advisors and be ready to go and have employees. But find out whether you actually love the reality of it and not just the idea of it. I've watched a lot of people like completely love a concept and then discover the actual job kind of sucks and it's not what they imagined. So the fantasy of a thing and then the real thing when you have to get up and do it could be different. So I did that exact same thing. I started showing up on social media while I was still anchoring the evening news and I wasn't even strategic about it. I started talking about things I was learning, feeling and going through and it connected. And I've connected with so many of you as a result. And then I kept going. And then I'd wake up earlier, do my videos and I would not want to stop them. And I would answer my comments and my DMs and really start building relationships with people who I'd never met before who were going through the same things I was. And then I started writing the book and interviewing experts. But all that happened while I was still sitting in that anchor chair every night. And trust me, I'm not gonna BS you. That overlap period was a lot. There were early mornings and late nights, and people were like, you're burning the candle at both ends. It's crazy.

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It doesn't make any sense.

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But that overlap brought clarity to me. So when I made that decision, I knew what I was doing. I spent every morning just kind of building the next little thing. And the big part of it was that the community was real and the work mattered in such a way that it filled me up instead of draining me versus a job that I just felt like I was done doing. And then eventually, and people told me this, once you leave, you're going to be like, I wonder why I stayed so long.

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Why did I wait?

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And that's exactly what I thought. So whatever your test drive or dipping your toe in the water looks like, that side project, the early mornings, let that energize you. And don't underestimate what that period is doing for you, because it's not just building the next thing. It's you showing up every single day realizing that next chapter, our next thing, our next job is possible. I think it's also important not to burn bridges behind you. You know, the world is very small. Those relationships really matter. The contacts, the people, the colleagues, the people who are part of the work, they all matter in the next chapter. I still have all those relationships, and they overlap in a lot of different ways. And there's oftentimes when somebody will reach out to me and say, like, hey, I want to start doing podcasts now. Where can I do that? Or what can I do? Or how can I help? So it's really important that you don't underestimate people and community, and it just makes you feel better overall. It really, really does. That all travels with you. I know we've gone through a lot today. I want to end with one thing I needed to hear the most. And nobody said this to me. It's not too late. I left a 30 year career at the age of 52. My book came out when I was 54. This podcast launched after that. I'm not telling you this to hold myself up as some kind of example. Far from it. I'm telling you this because I know exactly what that voice in the back of your head sounds like. That's like the window's closing. Your best years are behind you. You know, you should have done this earlier in life, because I live with that voice for so many years in my head. I want you to hear this from somebody standing on the other side of it now. Your window's not closing. The things that will work in this second chapter or third chapter, self, knowledge, wisdom, resilience, clarity about what matters. You didn't have those things when you were 25 or 30. You have earned all of that. You've been earning them this whole time. The next chapter doesn't happen in spite of everything you've been through. I promise you it happens because of all of that. The good and the bad and staying in something that doesn't fit anymore because you're afraid of what's next. It's not going to be safety at some point. It's just kind of feeling stuck. So nobody's giving you a green light. No one is going to tell you the timing is perfect. But I am here to tell you that if you decide you're ready, then you must go. If today stirred something in you, I so hope it did. I want you to start with one thing. Find one person who has done something close to what you're imagining you want to do. And reach out on LinkedIn, on Instagram, on YouTube, wherever it is. That one conversation might be the one that changes everything. And please, if you can, share this episode with the woman in your life who has been sitting on this feeling too. You know who she is. She knows who she is and she probably just needs to hear it today, that you're not too old, you've not missed out, you're not too far in. I promise you, you're just getting started. And I would love to hear your story. I really would. I'm so glad you're here and I will see you next time on the Tamsen Show.

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