BONUS EP: Bill de Blasio’s Ex Girlfriend Opens Up About Cheating & Fallout

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The Tara Palmeri Show

Episode: BONUS EP – Bill de Blasio’s Ex-Girlfriend Opens Up About Cheating & Fallout
Date: December 13, 2025
Host: Tara Palmeri
Guest: Nomiki Konst (Democratic consultant, activist, and commentator)

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Episode Overview

In this candid bonus episode, Tara Palmeri sits down with Democratic consultant and activist Nomiki Konst, recently in the headlines due to her breakup with former New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio. Nomiki opens up about the emotional fallout, infidelity, and the challenges of being in the public eye while managing deeply personal heartbreak. The conversation shifts from Democratic politics and movement building to the intensely personal, touching on themes of agency, narrative control, fertility struggles, and resilience, all while maintaining an engaging, unsparing tone.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Setting the Stage: From Politics to Personal (00:00–01:45)

• Tara introduces the episode as a departure from standard political analysis, leading with Democratic politics in Texas before seamlessly transitioning into her guest Nomiki's personal life, which has become a public spectacle after her relationship with Bill de Blasio ended.
• Tara immediately addresses the elephant in the room: “How are you feeling right now?” (01:46)

2. The Breakup: Public Narrative vs. Private Reality (01:46–04:36)

• Nomiki expresses frustration over losing control of her own story:

  “What was frustrating to me was that the narrative about my life was being set on the terms of reporters, editors, and people all around us.” (01:49)

• She discusses the emotional toll of the public breakup, the suddenness of it, and that it coincided with her IVF treatment, underscoring the personal stakes:

  “…I’m a 41-year-old woman who was in a relationship for almost a year… we broke up four days into my IVF treatment.” (02:37)

3. Infidelity, Fertility, and Fallout (03:39–05:44)

• The conversation gets into specifics of the cheating and its timing:

  “You were in love four days after you had sex with somebody after lunch. I don’t think that’s the case, Bill. There’s just a lot of questions about what’s really going on with him right now.” (04:22)

• Nomiki describes feeling like de Blasio’s unofficial press secretary, extinguishing rumors and managing narratives on his behalf:

  “I have been the press secretary for Bill de Blasio and not for Nomiki Konst. And so even in the relationship, by the way…” (04:12)

• She explains her motivation for publicly addressing the situation:

  “That’s why I did the podcast, so I could just point to it if people ask.” (05:38)

4. The Other Woman and Gendered Responsibility (06:00–09:28)

• Nomiki shares details on the new partner—a local politician from South Tucson—and the surreal, small-world connections within political circles.
• She suspects de Blasio panicked about the prospect of having children due to personal and financial pressures.

  “I personally think he just panicked… Instead of talking to me about that... maybe doing a little more therapy.” (06:30)

• She tells a pointed story about making him healthy granola bars at home while he was cheating:

  “While I am doing something to make his life better, his health, the metaphor of these bars. He is literally carelessly, recklessly… having sex with someone after lunch at his apartment, a person he knew for an hour…” (08:37)

5. Aftermath and Self-Reflection (09:28–11:50)

• Tara and Nomiki reflect on the “dodged bullet” of not having a child with de Blasio in the aftermath of the betrayal.
• Nomiki considers her fertility options, now as a single woman, with some humor and support from Tara:

  “…any takers out there? Anybody? I need, like, good looking, smart… I don’t want my child to do a DNA test and see they have 850 siblings.” (10:35)

6. Rebuilding, Feminism, and the Industry (11:50–13:53)

• The episode closes on themes of self-care, resilience, and the rarity (and importance) of female voices in media.
• Nomiki encourages more women to take up space and ownership in the conversation:

  “I love seeing female hosts because it’s so hard in this space so dominated by men.” (12:32)

• She highlights the double-standard women face, citing that when invited, many say they’re not “qualified,” versus men who accept any opportunity:

  “A lot of women would say, ‘I’m not qualified to talk about that.’ And a man would just be like, ‘Okay, okay, I’ll talk about whatever.’” (12:57)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On setting the narrative:

  “I haven’t really said this publicly, but like, this started because of the person that he’s involved with, and now is.” — Nomiki Konst (02:17)

• On relationship dynamics:

  “I have been the press secretary for Bill de Blasio and not for Nomiki Konst.” — Nomiki Konst (04:04)

• On betrayal:

  “While I am doing something to make his life better, his health, the metaphor of these bars. He is literally carelessly, recklessly… having sex with someone after lunch at his apartment, a person he knew for an hour…” — Nomiki Konst (08:37)

• On bouncing back:

  “Now, it’s wild. I’m like… reading books again. Going to party. Nourishing yourself. Making those granola bars for yourself.” — Nomiki Konst (11:50)

• On media gender dynamics:

  “I love seeing female hosts because it’s so hard in this space so dominated by men.” — Nomiki Konst (12:32)

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Timestamps of Important Segments

• 00:00–01:45: Tara Palmeri introduces Nomiki Konst and frames the episode’s dual focus (political and personal).
• 01:46–04:36: Nomiki recounts the public unfolding of her breakup and her desire to reclaim the narrative.
• 04:36–05:44: Discussion of infidelity, de Blasio’s public statements, and Nomiki’s emotional labor in both relationship and media.
• 06:00–09:28: Nomiki details the events surrounding the affair and its emotional aftermath.
• 09:28–11:50: The two touch on next steps, single motherhood, and personal healing.
• 12:32–13:53: Reflections on female representation in media and mutual encouragement.

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Summary

This episode is a rare window into the private pain behind public headlines. Nomiki Konst’s account is unguarded, honest, and direct, offering both a cautionary tale about relationships in the fishbowl of politics and a testament to reclaiming agency after betrayal. Tara Palmeri provides a supportive but incisive space for Nomiki to unpack the layers of her story—personal, professional, and political—making for an engrossing listen that lands on a note of feminist solidarity and renewed self-reliance.

Transcript

[A]

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[B]

Meet Jasmine Crockett, the newest Lone Star Loon and one of the most extreme members of Congress Texas has ever sent to Washington.

[A]

So is she the bold choice Democrats need in a state that's shifting under their feet or a candidate who could actually make the race easier for Republicans? To break this down, I'm joined by Democratic consultant Nomiki Kontz. She is an activist, a commentator, and someone who understands movement, politics and party inside baseball better than most. Take a listen here. Namiki, how are you doing? I saw that. I know you were on a podcast yesterday talking about your breakup.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

How are you feeling right now?

[B]

I'm okay.

[A]

I know it's in the New York Post.

[B]

Oh, it's. It's been a. It's been a lot. I mean, I. Tara, you know, me and. And, you know, I don't talk about my private life ever. Publicly, at least. And I think what was frustrating to me was that the narrative was being about my life was being set on the terms of reporters, editors, but also just people all around the com, all around us talking.

[A]

Right.

[B]

And, you know, I haven't really said this publicly, but, like, this started because of the person that he's involved with, and now is.

[A]

We're talking about Bill de Blasio, by the way.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Says no. Mickey's ex, the former mayor of New York, who I covered in City hall for a year, which is kind of weird.

[B]

He loves me tuning in. No, I mean, it was. It was. It was complicated. And, like, I just got really tired of having to answer all these things, you know, not answer, actually, frankly, just hear and get text messages and all Sorts of stuff. And so I. A friend of mine was like, you know, you should probably just tell things on your terms and it's your narrative. And Ture is a great reporter host and tells narrative stories. And he has this podcast, why did we Break Up? That just came out. And I was like, all right, I will sit down with him. And we sat down for a bit and it's a 25 minute conversation where I talk about the details and, you know, and it was sudden and unfortunate. And I, you know, I think part of my narrative was like, I'm a 41 year old woman who was in a relationship with somebody for almost a year and we broke up four days into my IVF treatment. And I think, you know, he's been trying to deny that. And it's like, why would somebody with endometriosis who had six. Six rounds of egg freezing and you went to the fertility clinic with me in Greece. You know, I think some of this was. He was, you know, it was just a lot of.

[A]

So you had embryos together.

[B]

I think that's a really big deal. I came to the treatment in the middle when I found out.

[A]

That seems like that's a really big deal to create embryos with a person, especially if you're a Republican.

[B]

It didn't happen.

[A]

It didn't.

[B]

It didn't happen. I mean, we. I found out about it. People can go check out the podcast a few days in. You know, he said something yesterday, like in a quote, you know, we want to be private. It's like, you're the one talking the press. You're the one posting the photos on the Internet of you guys. I'm the one literally putting out fires every day. The number of stories I've had to kill, the rumors, the stuff. Stuff I don't want out about us. Like, I have been the press secretary for Bill de Blasio and not for Nomeniki Const. And so even in the relationship, by the way. So it's like, yeah, I think you're.

[A]

Almost like his advisor, strategist in some ways.

[B]

In some ways. And he was to me too. I mean, I'm not gonna like, denounce. We had a really wonderful relationship. We're deeply in love. So when I hear his quote from yesterday in the Post saying that he fell in love with someone, he should have told me sooner. You. I found out four days after you cheated on me at lunch. You were in love four days after you. You had sex with somebody after lunch. Like, I don't think that's the case, Bill. Like, so, I mean, there's just a lot of questions about what's really going on with him right now. And I worry as his former partner, but I have to take care of myself, and I feel like, you know, I have to really focus on my narrative and my work, and this has affected it. Like, as you said, like, I'm somebody who's working with the press as a consultant, and now I'm the center of the story. I got a call right before I jumped on this podcast from a reporter being like, I know this isn't really what I should be asking you right now. It was something political. And. But he was like, but how? You know, not on the record, but, like, is it all true? And I was just like, oh, my God. I'm like, oh, listen to the podcast because of this. That's why I did the podcast is.

[A]

Yeah, you wanted it on the record so that if you have questions, you can just be like, point two, I don't want to keep telling the same story over and over again.

[B]

And they're embarrassed, and it's like they're together now, which is interesting because a month ago, he said, you love me. So I'm just curious.

[A]

Vice mayor of South. South Tucson, is that right?

[B]

South Tucson is about a mile large. It's a city council. It's like a rotating mayorship thing. Yeah, Mayorship of South Tucson.

[A]

Yeah. Random.

[B]

I talked to her. I met her at the gala where Bill, you know, Bill and I both spoke. And, you know, she came to New York and had lunch with him and just said she's in an open relationship with her queen, quote, husband, which she now says is not her husband. Maybe legally, but that's what she said. She said to me. And he. I mean, I. Listen, I personally think he just panicked. I think he was worried about having kids and what the financial responsibility would be. He's with a fine from the city. That's all very public information. And, you know, instead of, like, I don't know, talking to me about that and delving in and maybe doing a little bit more therapy or different types of therapy. Good. Good for them. Go have fun. You don't want kids. She's got two kids from two different fathers. Have fun.

[A]

Yeah, okay.

[B]

Cheers. Whatever.

[A]

Yeah, I found a hug fighter haircut. You know what I mean?

[B]

That's what they say.

[A]

Wash that man out of your hair. That's what that's like.

[B]

The irony is I. He. I was walking into the salon that day.

[A]

It always happens when you're at the salon.

[B]

Oh, my God, it was wild. Well, one thing I didn't say on the podcast is, so that day when it all happened, when he had lunch with her. So we had this like five day downtime or whatever. It was between a trip from Italy to Greece and I had like, Laura Loomer came after me. And then like, my day spiraled. Like, anything that could have gone wrong.

[A]

She's from the same area. You guys are all from Arizona, weirdly.

[B]

Laura Lumeris. Oh, God.

[A]

Yeah, she's from Arizona.

[B]

She put a vex on me, I think. So I'm like, I don't know why she cares about me. I didn't say anything interesting. It was just like this tweet. But then what comes with her is like death threats and crazy people and all that stuff. So, yeah, I had that. And then I had like all these other things that just kept spiraling. And so I said to Bill that morning when I was going into the sun, I was like, or midday, whatever it was, I really, like, for the first time ever, I really need you here for me emotionally. And he's like, okay, I'll talk to you after lunch. I'm going to have lunch with the mayor of South Tucson. And then I was going into the salon. And then when I finished the salon, I came home and I. This is. This is part of the lesson for women. Bill likes to eat granola bars before while he's drinking his coffee before breakfast. Weird, but they're really unhealthy granola bars for. Full of sugar and all sorts of sugar.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So I was making him homemade granola bars with sprouted quinoa and little bits of chocolate and blueberries and all this stuff for his health and cinnamon. And I was sitting there, you know, at my kitchen island making them, and I had a flash that he was cheating on me.

[A]

Yeah, you felt it in your gut.

[B]

I don't know what it was just something. And I was like, women's Kitchen, last day. Yes, exactly. While I'm making these bars, while I am doing something to make his life better, his health, the metaphor of these bars. He is literally carelessly, recklessly, in every way possible, recklessly having sex with someone after lunch at his apartment, a person he knew for an hour, you know, not even think security on top of it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I'm like, thank you. I respect you, I care about you. And you do this days before I go to ivf. So, you know, we tried to work it out for like a month. And then she. Yeah, she was.

[A]

Well, Aren't you glad you aren't having a child with him?

[B]

I mean, that was my morning thought was, yeah.

[A]

What, Dodge the bullet, as they say.

[B]

What would he have done? Like, anything. He. I mean, he was worried about money, but he. In the beginning, like, there were many, many years worth of conversations. We started having this conversation about kids, like, right away, because when you're 41 and you're dating someone, it comes up right away. But he was later hit with the fine and things started to kind of. Conversation shifted, but we were. Even if it was just as backup, like in Greece, just having those frozen embryos was important. So it's okay. It's all good. So maybe I just, you know, get a donor now. Any takers out there? Anybody I need, like, good looking, smart, smart. I have a donor that's, like, donated to, like, a million different people. I don't want my child to. Somebody do a DNA test and see that they have, you know, 850 siblings.

[A]

Siblings?

[B]

Yeah, like those.

[A]

I don't want somebody. Yeah. No, that's not for you.

[B]

No, no.

[A]

One of a kind. Limited edition.

[B]

Exactly. Exactly.

[A]

I'll help you out with this. We can go through, like, apparently, it's really fun. You can, like, go through the. The pamphlets and, like, read about the various donors and one of my girlfriends that I can connect you with her.

[B]

Oh. I mean, I'm thinking about it. I think I need a little bit of time. I mean, I don't have a lot of time. Clearly, a little bit of time.

[A]

But, you know, nine months without wine, though. Are you gonna be okay with that?

[B]

Without wine? Well, I did so many. I've frozen my egg so many times that I definitely take, like, months without drinking wine, which is why when I do drink it, I live it.

[A]

Yeah. Oh, I know.

[B]

You know, you.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Italian podcast.

[A]

Well, I love having you on. Thanks so much, Jamiki. I. I think you're gonna sail through this.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

Very swiftly. And you'll be on to a better, healthier, happier relationship, so. Or just a better, happier time with yourself. So I'm.

[B]

I'm certain of it now. It's wild. I'm like. I'm reading books again. Going to party.

[A]

Nourishing yourself. Making those granola bars for yourself.

[B]

I stopped going to parties for a while, and I didn't even realize it. And now I'm, you know, every night. It's the holiday season. You had a party. I went to your party. It was great. Congratulations.

[A]

Yep. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

So congratulations to you on your transition. Your move. I Love the setup. Thanks.

[A]

Thanks. Well, it's not done yet, so we're still working on it. I gotta. I gotta work on the sound. I know it's a little echoey and tinny, so I'm gonna get a rug, put some sound panels, some more pictures up. It's. It's all coming together. It takes a minute, you know, Doing great.

[B]

It's so great. I love seeing female hosts because it's so hard in the space so dominated by men.

[A]

So I know we gotta take over.

[B]

Definitely.

[A]

So tired of it. I'm so tired of all the men. And I realized that I. I started thinking about it. I was like, I have so many male guests on. I need to have more female guests on the show. And then I started thinking about that. So I noticed when I had a.

[B]

Show, we did a. A Friday segment called Femme Fridays. And it was very difficult because a lot of women would say, I'm not qualified to talk about that. And a man would just be like, okay, okay, I'll talk about whatever.

[A]

They're like. I listen to talk radio. I can talk about anything. Yeah. No, men, there's their. Their minds are different. You. You should. Yeah. I just say, okay, okay, okay.

[B]

This is evolved into a radical feminist pep talk.

[A]

I'm all for it. Thank you so much for coming on the show. Would love to have you come back as a regular. Do you have any thoughts? It's like, why is. Why is the Democratic Party not doing this? What's going on?

[B]

Anytime.

[A]

I know you're always outspoken, and it's good to have somebody who's not just carrying water. So it's cool. All right, well, have a great day.

[B]

Appreciate you.

[A]

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