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She writes in her book that sure, she would have liked the chef Adam Perry Lang to give her incontrovertible evidence or, or the pilot to hand over all the flight logs or the houseman to confirm that he paid her and saw her naked, but for her, what she really was searching for was validation. She wanted these people to say, yes, Virginia, I remember you. I'm here for you now. And I know this may seem naive to a lot of you who think, why would people that worked for Jeffrey Epstein for decades decide that they were suddenly going to side with the women who were abused by him? But she really hoped for people's better angels. She thought now that he's dead, they wouldn't be afraid of him anymore. I mean, she writes about being afraid of him herself. When they said that they knew where her brother went to school, but for her, she just wanted them to see her as a person, to be validated, to realize like what she went through was real and worthy of being protected. And she tried to explain to me that even the smallest truth, a single crumb, meant everything. And, you know, she saw value in our trip. And I don't think she wouldn't have written about it if she didn't, even though there were so many dial tones, slammed doors, hang ups, and so much silence. But yeah, Virginia really had a lot of hope. And I learned that from her. The second thing I learned from Virginia is that the survivors are punished for speaking out, not protected. Our culture just protects the powerful and it punishes the vulnerable. Virginia was labeled a liar and a teen prostitute since she started telling her story in 2011. She was dismissed for not being the perfect victim. And you Know powerful people like Prince Andrew, they were receiving protection in the press, legal shielding, credibility and sex crimes. Prosecutor Deborah Turkheimer, who wrote a book called Credible, she writes about this. It's called the credibility discount. And it particularly affects vulnerable women. And she says that powerful men who they come out against, they have a credibility inflation because they are famous, they have notoriety. And the community tends to side with them over vulnerable women who they say are seeking paydays or want money or attention. And so for the victims who are brave enough to speak out to tell their truth, what happens is that the community rejects them and they're often re traumatized again. And according to Turkheimer, this is often even more traumatizing than the abuse itself. So it takes a lot of courage to come out and to tell stories of abuse. And that's why you don't hear it so often. That's why you find out after someone finally breaks through that there were so many others. They just needed one person. And Virginia was that person in the Epstein story. She was the first person. For Virginia, being believed was dangerous. Once Jeffrey Epstein was arrested in 2019 and people started to listen to her and take her seriously, she started getting threats, dealing with emotional trauma. When we were knocking on doors, one of the adult models she said she was forced to sleep with told her, Jeffrey's dead and you helped kill him. She said that her, she had a break in at her house and you know, she basically lived in fear for telling the truth. And for that I am grateful for her courage because it is not easy to tell the truth, especially when you are up against powerful, powerful people and you've been trafficked to as many as three dozen people. And that's perhaps why even in her death, she still didn't name all the names of the people that she was trafficked to. This is the fourth thing I learned from Virginia and from the current state of our political system right now and the way it was actually for the past three decades, the system still refuses to listen. We have to remember that for the survivors of Jeffrey Epstein, they know what's in the files. They are the truth. They told their stories over and over and over again. And yet Congress has not asked them to testify. And in fact, what we have learned from the House Oversight Committee that Alex Acosta, the U.S. attorney of Florida at the time who created the sweetheart deal for Jeffrey Epstein, he didn't read the victim's testimonies. In fact, there was a recommendation of a 60 count indictment from an 82 page memo. But he believed that these Women would suffer a withering impeachment from Jeffrey Epstein's attorneys that they could not defend themselves before a jury. Cash Patel, the FBI director, has not read the witness testimonies. And the question is, what does it take for these people to take the survivor seriously? How hard do they have to knock on the door of justice? How many times do they have to tell their stories, retraumatizing themselves to actually be heard? Are they destined to remain nobody's girls? You know, I've thought about it and I wonder, has the me too moment actually made a difference for women like Virginia? Has it backfired? Have we over corrected? I'd be curious to hear what you think. Leave me some comments and write to me. I wonder where we truly are right now. Number five. What I've learned from Virginia and the other survivors of Jeffrey Epstein is that they feel that they carry the burden for everyone. For Virginia, she lived with the scars and the trauma of what Jeffrey Epstein did to her. And she didn't do anything about it for a long time, for almost a decade. And it wasn't until she saw her daughter's eyes and she thought to herself, I can't let this happen to anyone else. And that is when she started speaking out and that's when she started getting attacked to. And it was the same for Jane do one Courtney Wilde, who didn't think it was worth it to tell her story, to protect herself. She didn't think it was worth it to. To speak with prosecutors, to. To tell her own story. But it was when she read the deposition of her best friend that she realized that what happened in Jeffrey Epstein's house was wrong and it shouldn't have happened to her. But the abuse had so degraded her and made her feel so unworthy that she didn't think she was worth fighting for. And let's not forget, when FBI agents and prosecutors were trying to reach these victims, Jeffrey Epstein told them that they were coming for them, not him. He told them that they were teenage prostitutes and that they could use his lawyers because they were the ones who were in trouble, not him. And they were so manipulated by him they had no one there looking out for them that they believed him. They were truly nobody's girls. All these years later, they're the heroes in their own stories. The chef, the pilot, the house manager. They didn't come forward until they were compelled by the prosecutors to come forward. Actually, Juana Lessi, who let Virginia and I into his house and only gave out breadcrumbs of truth. He ended up being a very critical witness in the case against Galen Maxwell. He saw a lot, but he would never acknowledge what Virginia said happened to the extent that Virginia said it happened. He knew there were young girls coming in out of the house. He picked them up from high school. He said some one of them was younger than Virginia, as young as 14, but didn't know what was happening in that house that he worked in for two decades. It's a lot to take in and I'm thankful to all of you for being so supportive during this time. Reading her book is traumatic and it is a really hard read and she even understands it herself. Putting stops and breaks in there so that people can actually take a breather and feel and not just feel overwhelmed by what she went through because her story is so dark. It is. I wasn't sure if it could ever be put to paper. It is, it is a harrowing tale. In this next segment, you'll see I went on Piers Morgan this morning, Wednesday morning and on the show it was a bit difficult. There were there, there were a few people that were very critical of Virginia. And as someone who spent a lot of time with her, I found her to be very credible. And it was a bit heated the back and forth. One of the men who is close to the Maxwell family, I had a real discussion with him about what do you think is an acceptable age to be a prostitute? Because that is how he kept referring to Virginia. And what do you think consent is? Is it normal for adults to be traveling around the country with teenagers? Got heated. Be curious to hear what you think. Thank you all for tuning in and I'll be back again tomorrow.
