A decade ago, I woke up and it felt like my life had crashed all at once. A miscarriage. A divorce. A business partnership ending — all inside of a few months. These weren't small things.

I found three things that worked like hitting a reset button — control, alt, delete. You know, the command you give your computer when something's stuck. They helped me stop fighting what had happened and lit the way to rebuilding on purpose.

Accept it's happening — Not why it's happening, not what it means. Just: this is real, and figuring out the why won't undo it. The moment I stopped spending my energy on why and started spending it on what's next, everything shifted.

Make space, then get curious — When the life you had gets cleared out, there's suddenly room. Don't rush to fill it with the next relationship, the next business, the next distraction. Sit in it. That's where you start noticing what's actually trying to come through.

Bust your ass — Once you know the direction, go all in. Rebuilding isn't comfortable and it sure isn't fast. I wrote three books in ten years, drove twelve hours to teach a free workshop, and slept in my truck. That's just a little of what it took.

Over a decade later, and I still wouldn't trade the life I'm building for the one I "lost."

If you know someone in the middle of their own version of this, please send them this episode.

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Want to go deeper?
My first book, Today I Rise, was written during my own divorce

Or watch Transformations: How to Navigate Life's Biggest Changes for more on what real change actually requires

And if you don't know where to start, get the framework here.

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Chapter List

00:00 Control Alt Delete: A Life Reset

05:48 Accept That It's Happening

11:33 Make the Space — Then Get Curious

17:05 Bust Your Ass — Build the New Life

20:30 Wrap Up