TikTok Couple: Our break up & birth story w/ the Quist Family (Courtney and Alex)

Summary

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The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby

Episode: TikTok Couple: Our Break Up & Birth Story w/ the Quist Family

Guests: Courtney & Alex Quist (@thequistfamily)

Date: August 6, 2025
Hosts: Matt & Abby Howard

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Overview

In this heartfelt and lively episode of "The Unplanned Podcast," Matt & Abby chat with viral TikTok couple Courtney and Alex Quist. Known for their marriage and parenting content, the Quists dive deep into their whirlwind relationship, an unexpected breakup, whirlwind marriage, and the raw realities of becoming new parents. From navigating modern dating, overcoming birth fears, to the honest challenges of first-time parenthood, the Quists offer an encouraging perspective for those forging their own family stories.

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Main Themes

• The reality behind social media love stories
• Navigating modern relationships (including dating apps)
• The myth of “soulmates” and the choice of love
• Rapid relationship timelines & family reactions
• Transformative moments in early parenthood
• Birth stories and facing generational fears
• Honest talk about postpartum, baby milestones, and balanced parenting

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Meeting & Early Relationship: Dating in the Digital Era

• Met on Hinge: Their relationship began with a long late-night call after connecting on the app. “I was like, I don’t even know what this girl’s last name is, but ‘Courtney Quist’ has a good ring to it.” — Alex (03:23)
• Modern dating realities: Courtney was casually dating multiple people when she met Alex, sparking critique on TikTok. She defended this, sharing it was common to "date around" before exclusivity.
  “I was destroyed. People were like, ‘Oh my gosh, she was cheating on him…’ And I was like, bring it back 30 years, when that was a normal thing.” — Courtney (04:34)
• Moving in proximity: Three days after meeting, Courtney happened to move five minutes from Alex. She joked about accepting help moving from several guys she’d dated, leading to some awkward but comedic moments. (07:34–08:25)

2. The Almost-Breakup & “Soulmate” Realization

• Breakup for clarity: Courtney, expecting a magical “soulmate” moment, initiated a breakup. Both were devastated, but within three days realized their connection went deeper than ephemeral chemistry.
  “We broke up for three days, and then in those three days, I was like, never mind. I can’t picture my life without you.” — Courtney (01:50, 02:48)
• Love is a choice: The myth of a perfect moment or person is debunked; instead, the couples stress intentionality and growth as a foundation for lasting love. “It’s dangerous to have that mindset… If you’re thinking, ‘Oh, like, this is the one, just perfect’… the instant they see some flaws, they’ll be like, ‘Oh, my gosh. Was I wrong?’” — Alex (12:51) “Love is a choice. Like, is this someone that you could choose to, like, live with for the rest of your life?” — Courtney (13:46)

3. Whirlwind Timeline: Engagement & Marriage

• Rapid progression: Met July 1, engaged five months later, married at nine months. Both were 29 at the time. (16:09–15:36)
• Friends before dating: Their strong friendship laid a healthy foundation, including a unique period of no physical intimacy or labels, per Alex’s conviction.
  “He really got to meet the true, authentic Courtney, which is what I wanted too.” — Courtney (20:46)
• No pushback: Despite the fast timeline, the couple recounts minimal family opposition, aside from a humorous first meeting with Courtney’s dad:
  “What’s your name again? I’ll probably forget it.” — Courtney’s dad (30:47)

4. Engagement & Proposal Stories

• Surprise proposal: Alex successfully surprises Courtney by staging a lease signing for their future apartment, flying in her best friend and parents to witness the event. Courtney almost foils the plan by obsessively measuring the closet on arrival (28:41–29:54).
• Ring talk: Both couples reminisce about prioritizing meaningful over flashy rings — “I made it a goal to find the cheapest wedding band I could find.” — Matt (25:59)

5. Fears, Family, and Baby Planning

• Big family dreams: Initially, Courtney wanted nine children, but math and reality (and seeing vans like the LeBrants) have revised the number downward.
  “Maybe not five, so maybe four. I think four is probably where we’re going to end up being.” — Courtney (32:58)
• Overcoming birth fears: Generational trauma defined Courtney’s fears about labor, as both her mother and grandmother nearly died during birth. Therapy and preparation helped her manage anxiety. “As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I called a clinic because I was crying… Luckily, they set me up with counseling.” — Courtney (36:56)

6. Birth & Postpartum: Realities and Stories

• The “best birth experience”:
  • Courtney went nearly 42 weeks, avoided induction, and her water broke naturally.
  • She delivered at 7cm dilation due to her baby’s tiny head, astonishing the nursing staff:
    “Her head was just tiny… we had all of these nurses coming in because no one had ever seen anything like this.” — Courtney (41:54)
  • Epidural and medical care were “amazing;” she’s passionate about sharing positive birth stories.
    “I had an amazing experience. Like, it exceeded my expectations.… I wish more girls would hear that side of birth.” — Courtney (39:02)
• Notable moments:
  • Courtney loved the sensation of her water breaking:
    “Honestly, I could do that a million times again. It was the craziest, most satisfying feeling.” (40:47)
  • Used a mirror during delivery to watch her daughter be born (“craziest experience”, 43:10)
  • Pushed with rap and musical soundtracks for motivation, notably “Hamilton.” (47:01)
• Holding her baby:
  “I was crying like crazy because I had 30 minutes to realize, oh my gosh, I am now a mom… There’s no going back now.” — Courtney (47:27)

7. Parenthood: Adjustments and Surprises

• Structure shock:
  “It sort of wrecked my world a little bit because… there’s so much structure… I feel like by the second kid, I’m gonna be a pro. But first kid… I struggled a bit, but it’s so fun.” — Courtney (51:44)
• Dad’s experience:
  “It took me longer to feel like I built a connection with Aspen… I thought when she was born it was just gonna be instant… But now, oh, it’s so much fun.” — Alex (53:56)
  • Alex discusses helplessness during birth, doing his best to be supportive:
    “There’s nothing that I can do for her that’s really going to make her feel better or take any of that pain away.” (50:29)
• Balancing work & parenting: Both work from home as full-time creators, negotiating shifts between content creation and childcare. (52:12–53:37)

8. Modern Parenting Choices & Reflections

• Screen time: Minimal use under 1 year, but open to adjusting as they grow (“I’m kind of anti iPad, but I think that might change.” — Courtney, 58:01)
• Solids & Milestones: Aspen (their daughter) loves bacon but struggles with most solid foods.
• Embracing change: Much of parenting—standards, rules, perspectives—shifts from preconceptions to lived experience.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Love is a choice. Like, is this someone that you could choose to, like, live with for the rest of your life?” — Courtney (13:46)
• “She accidentally said, ‘I love you’ first. I dropped her off at her house. ‘Bye. Love you.’ 'Never mind, never mind.'” — Alex & Courtney (24:04)
• “You really got to meet the true, authentic Courtney, which is what I wanted too.” — Courtney (20:46)
• “Having a baby, was that the initial plan? …We sort of just—just started to not use precaution. And then I just got pregnant, like, right away.” — Courtney (36:11)
• “It took me longer to feel like I built a connection with Aspen… Now, oh, it’s so much fun. She’s laughing all the time.” — Alex (53:56)
• “Her head was just tiny… nurses coming in because no one had ever seen anything like this.” — Courtney (41:54)
• “If you’ve defined the relationship and you’ve said, ‘Oh, we are exclusive,’ and then you’re going on other dates, I think that’s obviously a problem. There’s nothing wrong with going on a date with somebody and then two weeks later going on a date with somebody else.” — Matt (05:59)
• “Maybe you just need to… keep trying [solids] over and over again and then maybe she can get used to it.” — Courtney (57:20)

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Recommended Segments (Timestamps)

| Topic | Timestamp | |----------------------------------------|------------| | Meeting, dating multiple people | 03:15–08:46| | Breakup & “Soulmate” Reflection | 01:50–02:48, 12:51–13:46| | Engagement, proposal, and rings | 16:09–29:54| | Parenting standards & structure shock | 43:10–53:53| | Birth story & overcoming fears | 34:52–43:41| | Dad’s perspective on early fatherhood | 53:56–56:18| | Parenting in the digital age | 57:29–59:30| | Family planning reflections | 59:30–60:55|

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Closing

Matt & Abby praise the Quists for their candor and relatability, and invite listeners to follow @thequistfamily on TikTok, YouTube, and Instagram for more on their journey. The episode offers an authentic, humorous, and hopeful look at how modern couples forge love, family, and meaning in a world full of expectations.

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Transcript

[Alex Quist]

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[Matt]

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[Alex Quist]

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[Courtney Quist]

I thought when you met your person, it would be so clear to me. This is my soulmate. And we didn't have that. And so I was like, I think it's best for us to break up.

[Matt]

How long were you dating multiple guys at once?

[Courtney Quist]

Okay.

[Matt]

Was it three people at once or how. Okay.

[Alex Quist]

And on top of that, I said that I just wanted to be friends.

[Matt]

What was it like to have your.

[Courtney Quist]

Water break every so often? It was just like a gush. Honestly, I could do that a million times.

[Matt]

Your water breaking felt good.

[Courtney Quist]

It was like the craziest, most satisfying feeling.

[Alex Quist]

She accidentally said, I love you first. I dropped her off at her house. Bye.

[Courtney Quist]

Love you. Yeah, she just said, never mind. Never mind.

[Matt]

Today on Unplanned, we sat down with the Quist family. Courtney and Alex blew up on Tik Tok. They're best known for their hilarious content on marriage and parenting. But you probably didn't know they got married just nine months after they met or that in that time, the relationship almost didn't make it. We talk about meeting on a dating app, why Courtney was so afraid of giving birth, and how she avoided getting induced, all on today's episode. Courtney and Alex Quest. Welcome to Unplanned.

[Alex Quist]

Thank you. Thank you so much for having us.

[Matt]

I feel like we have a lot of fun things to talk about. You guys are new parents. I think your relationship story is so interesting too. You got married, I think, nine months.

[Alex Quist]

After you met for the first time on the dot.

[Matt]

With things moving so fast, was there ever a moment of like, I hope this is the right decision? Yeah.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. You tell them that.

[Courtney Quist]

We broke up for about three days because I thought when you met your person, there was going to be this moment where I was like, this is my soulmate. And we didn't have that. And so I was like, like, since we haven't had that, like, I think it's best for us to break up. We broke up for three days, and then in those three days, I was like, never mind. I can't picture my life without you. Sometimes I feel like you need to break up in order to realize what you didn't have or, like, I don't know how. You don't? Yeah.

[Matt]

How did you break up? Like, I feel like that's such a scary thing to tell someone. I'm breaking up with you. Did you. Did you do it in person? Did you do it over text?

[Alex Quist]

I actually kind of made her do it a little bit. So it had been maybe two or three weeks, and she just kept on saying, I just don't have peace. I just don't have peace about the relationship, and I don't know what it is. You're praying for peace, and so at one point, you just like, hey, like, I think maybe let's just give this a try for a little bit longer. But, like, if the Lord doesn't give me peace, we should. We should break up. And I'm like, well, I'm not gonna walk on eggshells for two weeks just waiting for you to break up with me.

[Courtney Quist]

And I was both crying because neither one of us actually wanted to break up, But I was like. I was like, what's the point of continuing to do this if we don't know? If. I don't know. I. I thought you had one person. That's what I thought for so long. And I was like, no. I was like, it would be so clear to me if you were my soulmate. And, yeah, I don't know. It only took three days for me to realize. I was like, never mind. I don't want to picture my life without you.

[Matt]

Were you dating him with the intention of marriage? So you thought you should feel a stronger, like, aha moment than you did?

[Courtney Quist]

Our story is just, like, so complicated because we met on a dating app, and then we immediately hopped on a call, and then the next day, we met, but before.

[Alex Quist]

Before we even met. So that night that we hopped on a phone call too, I couldn't sleep. I literally woke up at 1am and I just started journaling and praying. And, like, I saved that journal entry in there. I was like, I don't even know what this girl's last name is, but Courtney Quist has a good ring to it. I was like, you know, this would be really cool if I read this on her wedding day. And it did. Yeah. So, like, I had a really good feeling. Literally just from one phone call.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah. And then the next day, we met, and then we just became friends. And then it got confident because we were like, are we friends? Are we not friends? And then he friend zoned me, and then I got mad, and then he took a selfie after he friend zoned me. I think this will be really funny to share one day.

[Matt]

I thought the video you guys posted on TikTok was hilarious. That we listen and we don't judge because not only were you dating him, but you were dating other guys at the same time.

[Courtney Quist]

Yes.

[Matt]

Okay. How long were you dating multiple guys at once?

[Courtney Quist]

Okay, so. Okay. I actually. I got roasted so hard on that video and. Okay, I just want. Can we just bring us back through years where people would go on dates with multiple people at the exact same time, and then you become exclusive with one. And so that's sort of what it was, is going on dates with multiple people.

[Matt]

Abby did that too. It's all good.

[Courtney Quist]

But I was destroyed. People were like, oh, my gosh, she was cheating on him. Like, you're gonna get divorced. All this stuff. And I was like, bring it back 30 years, when that was a normal thing to just go on dates with normal people or, you know, just feel it out. And so that was actually really nice because I didn't go through that, like, crazy hyper fixation. Like, I wasn't obsessed with him because I was like, if he doesn't text me back, you got a lineup.

[Matt]

Was it three people at once or how.

[Courtney Quist]

Okay, yeah. I was just casually going on dates. It wasn't like we were not invested. I had never kissed any of them.

[Doug]

There's no exclusive conversation.

[Courtney Quist]

No, we were just talking. Yeah. And then.

[Alex Quist]

And on top of that, I said that I just wanted to be friends. I know that's not the best place for someone to be on a dating app. I had just moved to Nashville. We literally met a week and a half after I moved there. There. But it was during the summer when I wasn't working, and so I was like, how am I gonna meet people?

[Matt]

Both of our wives seem to have, like, you know, dated a little bit, gotten a feel for how things were. I never experienced that. Did you ever experience taking different girls on dates?

[Alex Quist]

I mean, like, if I ever did go on, like, a. Another date with another gal, like, it was never where, like, I was dating someone else at the same time, I.

[Matt]

Guess, yeah, it was dating, but just taking, like. Did you ever take one girl out on a date one week, and then a couple of weeks later, it's like, maybe I'll ask this girl out.

[Alex Quist]

Oh, yeah, for sure.

[Matt]

Okay. I just.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Matt]

See?

[Doug]

Like, that. But also, Matt, we were in high school. Like, it was, like, the beginning of this.

[Matt]

Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Because I do. I think that's really good. Like, I think if you've defined the relationship and you've said, oh, like we are exclusive. And then you're going on other dates. I think that's obviously a problem. There's nothing wrong with going on a date with somebody and then two weeks later going on a date with somebody else. That's not, that's. There's nothing wrong with that.

[Doug]

I actually really like that too because we listened to like how you guys met and how you were talking. Like this exact situation. Like when you were moving, you had like your other boyfriends, but people you've gone on dates with helping you move. This actually reminds me of a rule my parents had for me when I grew up. I would say yes to first dates all the time because I was like, oh, I just want to like see, like let's go get soup together or whatever. It was like really fun and light hearted. But then I remember there was a time where I was like, okay, well I had gone on a couple dates with like a different guys and it's like coming time for homecoming. This is also like, we were obviously in high school, really low stakes, and one of the boys was like, I'm gonna ask you to homecoming. And then this other guy literally come is like, I knew he was coming to my house that night to ask me to homecoming. I was like, mom, I don't know what to say because so and so is going to ask me. And I like, I'm gonna say yes to him. I don't know what she said. She's like, well, no one's allowed to take a reservation on you. If he was gonna ask you, then he should have asked you like, if you want to go with him, then say yes. If you don't want to go with him, then don't say yes. But like, don't do it because you're waiting for somebody else. Dating is supposed to be fun.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah.

[Doug]

And I think that's like my. I don't know, I get on my soapbox about dating nowadays. Cause I have single friends now that they're like telling me about what the dating scene is like. And it's like, it's grim, it's scary, it's not fun. I'm like, that just makes me so sad. I wish dating could be more romantic again. Yeah, I just got on my soapbox right there. That was a funny story. Wait, you should tell the story about the moving situation.

[Courtney Quist]

Oh, man. Well, it was just. I don't know, I was.

[Alex Quist]

This was only three days after I met you too.

[Courtney Quist]

That was the other thing. Yeah. I don't think people realize I Think they thought that we were dating for months. And I was also. No, it was. I was just casually. I had finally. I wanted to get married. I finally was just like, I don't care anymore. Like, I just want to go on dates. I just want to, like, meet people. And so basically, anytime anyone would ask me out, I'm just like, I'm just going to go give it a shot. Yeah. And so I met him, and then three days later, I just happened to be moving five minutes away from his apartment.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, you were like 30 minutes away, too, so it would have been hard to date, but, yeah, you're moving five minutes down the road.

[Courtney Quist]

I don't know. And then all these people just kept asking, oh, do you need help? I was like, actually, I do. I'm in a whole new city. I don't know anyone. I would absolutely love it. It. And so it was a little awkward to have multiple men. Though I did think about this at one point. I was like, what if they talk to each other? Which didn't that happen?

[Alex Quist]

I had no idea that you had ever gone on a date with any of those guys.

[Matt]

There was never a conversation of like, oh, what's up? What's your name? Oh, I'm Steve.

[Doug]

How do you know.

[Matt]

How do you. How do you know Courtney? Oh, we've been going on dates.

[Alex Quist]

I think they asked, and you just said social media. That's how we met.

[Courtney Quist]

Oh, okay.

[Alex Quist]

Something like that.

[Matt]

Was the social media that you met Hinge?

[Alex Quist]

Yes.

[Matt]

You met all these guys through Hinge?

[Courtney Quist]

Honestly, at some point I'm like, hinge, sponsor us. Like, please.

[Matt]

Actually, yeah, That's. Your love story is because of Hinge?

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Matt]

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[Doug]

What genre are you listening to?

[Matt]

Business. Business books.

[Doug]

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[Matt]

Oh, okay.

[Courtney Quist]

Yes.

[Doug]

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[Matt]

Maybe I should try that. Maybe that'll make me run faster. I don't know.

[Doug]

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[Matt]

What is a dalliance? I don't even know what that word is.

[Doug]

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[Matt]

Okay.

[Doug]

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[Matt]

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[Doug]

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[Matt]

What did you guys talk about on this hinge call?

[Alex Quist]

I don't even know.

[Courtney Quist]

It was hours.

[Alex Quist]

It was hours. Yeah, it was a long time. Were you.

[Matt]

Was it like a video call or just audio only?

[Courtney Quist]

Just audio, yeah. He was in. And then I think you were going dancing or something that night.

[Alex Quist]

I actually just got done, like, I tried salsa dancing for the first time. Just, you know, just trying to get out and do things and meet people and stuff, because I didn't know anybody in half Nashville.

[Courtney Quist]

And I think it's so rare when you meet someone that the conversation never dies. Like, you could talk about anything. We could talk about carpet, we could talk about whatever. And it's just. That's kind of how it was with Alex. And I knew. I was like, if I do not marry this man, he's at least going to be my best friend probably for the rest of my life. Because we could talk about anything. It was the best.

[Doug]

That's really sweet.

[Matt]

That brings me back to when Abby and I first met. And we would have the longest conversations because we were long distance, because I was like you. I was, like, waiting for this, like, cinematic, like, moment you see in a movie. And that's just not real life, you know, Like, Hollywood isn't real life. But I was like, I really like this person. And, like, we can talk for hours and hours and hours and hours. And so that's like, kind of what made me realize, you know, I was.

[Doug]

Thinking when you brought that up earlier how, like, couples will be like, oh, yeah. I remember when I first laid eyes on her, she was the only woman in the room I knew in that moment. The people. I hear that from the most is usually people that have been married a really long time. I think about the grandpas and grandmas, and I think what happens. Because it started to happen to me too.

[Matt]

Yeah.

[Doug]

The longer you're married, the more you romanticize that moment. Because you've grown so close together.

[Alex Quist]

Yes.

[Doug]

That you, like, convince yourself that you knew in that moment and that you love them with the same intensity that you love them now. Maybe it's, like, not necessarily true, but you just look back on your roots so fondly that you're like, oh, yeah. In that very moment, like, you realize how special it is in hindsight.

[Matt]

100. And so then I think you're right.

[Doug]

Yeah. And then you, like, kind of become soulmates, but it's because you chose and you work for it.

[Matt]

I think you're. I think you're right. Because people, like. I've heard a lot of older couples tell.

[Doug]

That's how my grandpa talked about my grandma.

[Matt]

And they didn't have social media, they didn't have iPhones to, like, document all this stuff. And the people that I talk to now, like, people like yourselves who are, like, so happy, so in love. Really happy couples. Oftentimes there's, like, situations, the relationship, like, breaking up or, like, not knowing what's going on. Yeah. And it's just. And so I think it's, like, really cool for. For people who are currently in that stage of, like, looking for their person to know, hey, for most people, it's not gonna be this, like, movie moment. And I think that's really, like. That's encouraging for those people.

[Alex Quist]

And it's dangerous to have that mindset, too, because if you're thinking, oh, like, this is the one. Just. You're just perfect. The instant they see some flaws, they'll be like, oh, my gosh, was I wrong? Is this not the. Not the one?

[Matt]

Exactly.

[Alex Quist]

And so realizing that it's a choice, you know, I love you for. For who you are, flaws and all. And I'm gonna make the choice to love you each day. Like, that just makes all the world. All the difference in the world.

[Courtney Quist]

That was the biggest thing for me, actually, was learning that love is a choice. Because, again, I thought that there was just. I don't know, I thought angels are gonna sing or something, that it was going to be like, this is. This is the one for you. This is the soulmate. And so when we broke up, I had a pro and con list, because everybody has flaws. I thought I was gonna find someone who didn't have any flaws. And then he was just gonna be so perfect.

[Alex Quist]

I still want to know what this con list was. Curious.

[Courtney Quist]

But I wrote out, like, pros and cons, and it was just like, I don't know. Somebody said, yeah, love is a choice. Like, is this someone that you could choose to, like, live with for the.

[Doug]

Rest of your life?

[Courtney Quist]

And I'm like, yeah, honestly, yes. Like, I don't know. And so I think when I chose you, despite any. I don't know, just knowing that you weren't perfect and that you did have flaws, and I chose you anyway. I think every day, I don't know, I'm just like, okay, like, I. I chose this person to spend with for the rest of my life so that in two years, when I do start to see your flaws because we were in the honeymoon phase. Despite your flaws.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

I chose you.

[Doug]

How long do you. Did the honeymoon phase last for you guys?

[Courtney Quist]

I think we're still.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, I was about to say. Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

I don't know. Everything's pretty good.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Matt]

Because you guys met. It's 2025. You guys met in the year 2023?

[Alex Quist]

No.

[Courtney Quist]

And then we got married in 2023.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Doug]

Wow.

[Courtney Quist]

We expedited. We tried as fast as possible.

[Matt]

That is fast. I'm like, our son.

[Alex Quist]

What?

[Matt]

You guys met in 2022 and now you're married with a kid? Like. Like, we had a baby in 2022. Like, it kind of puts into perspective.

[Doug]

Oh, yeah, he's as old as your relationship.

[Courtney Quist]

Oh, wow.

[Matt]

Yeah. That's a big kid. Our son is as old as your relationship. That's crazy.

[Alex Quist]

That's pretty crazy.

[Matt]

But you guys still, like, you actually feel. Three years later, you feel that honeymoon energy still?

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. I mean, it's. It's. Obviously, it's a lot harder to go out on dates and stuff now that we have a kid, but, I mean, I don't know. I think the love is still just as strong as it was. Right. I mean, I still love you.

[Courtney Quist]

I love marriage. I don't know. I just. I'm so pro marriage. I'm like. I'm like, if you guys have been dating and you love each other, I'm like, just get married. Which probably isn't for everybody, but for me, I'm like, it's the past. I don't know when. Oh, I've. I'm in a season right now where all of our friends are either getting married or having babies, and I'm just like, it's the best.

[Doug]

That's so fun.

[Matt]

It is so much fun. Okay, wait. I want to get the timeline straight. So you guys got married in 2022. How old were you at the time? How old are you?

[Alex Quist]

I gotta do some math. I'm 29.

[Matt]

You're 29?

[Courtney Quist]

I turned 29?

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, you turned 29 in a couple days.

[Matt]

Okay, wow.

[Courtney Quist]

Am I the only one that, like, doesn't remember how old they are now?

[Doug]

I was talking about this last night.

[Matt]

Yes.

[Courtney Quist]

I don't count anymore.

[Doug]

I'm like, it doesn't matter.

[Courtney Quist]

You know what? We went to buy alcohol one day, and the woman came up to us because we do look pretty young. And the woman came up, and she was like, how old are you? And I was like. And so I completely froze. I could not remember. And it made us look so suspicious. I was like, this woman thinks I have a fake id. Guaranteed.

[Matt]

Okay, wait. So, yeah, you guys started dating in 2022, got married nine months later. How long did you guys date before you got engaged?

[Alex Quist]

Let's see. We met July 1, and then we got married. Or. No, we got engaged December 17th. So I don't know what that math is. Five months, something like that. Yeah. But we didn't start dating right away because, again, we.

[Courtney Quist]

Because he. Friends.

[Matt]

Okay, let's talk about that. Friends.

[Alex Quist]

So we went on a date, but it was, like, really casual, and so we just started hanging out a lot. Didn't put a label on it or anything.

[Courtney Quist]

We became best friends. Like.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

Like, I don't think there was a long period of time where we hung out every single day.

[Alex Quist]

Every single day. I wasn't. I mean, I was teaching, and so it was the summer, so I had a lot of time.

[Matt]

I know you guys said you could, like, talk about anything and everything. When you guys first started getting together, was there a certain topic of conversation that was just, like, really fun for you guys to talk about, or was there just, like, something specific that really interested you both in each other?

[Alex Quist]

Honestly, we don't even have that much in common. That was one thing that was, like, kind of stressing her out. It's like, I feel like we have nothing in common.

[Courtney Quist]

Like, yeah, we could talk about everything because we have different interests. So I could tell him about everything that I'm interested in, and he can talk about all things sports and whatnot.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. So, yeah, I don't know. We just talked about everything. But it came to a point where we were literally hanging out every single day for basically four weeks straight that we had to have the. Define the relationship talk and a little dtr. Yeah, I Don't know, I just felt conviction that like, hey, you're not supposed to have a girlfriend right now. Like you, you need to meet friends at this point.

[Doug]

Had you guys kissed or anything?

[Alex Quist]

No. There's nothing romantic.

[Matt]

No.

[Doug]

Not even did you want to?

[Matt]

I mean, why did you not kiss?

[Alex Quist]

I was very attracted to her and like I slow, I knew that like I wanted to date her but again, I just had such a strong conviction that I was supposed to wait. And so I probably pushed the boundary a little bit with the friendship because you know, I'd flirt with her and stuff because I was interested, which is why it makes sense. She was like, okay, we need to have a talk here because you're flirting.

[Courtney Quist]

Like do I go out with Billy? Or like are we a thing?

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. And so basically she just told me like, okay, like you either need to date me or you need to close that door and we're just going to be friends.

[Courtney Quist]

But I don't leave doors cracked.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, but once the door shut, like she's like, I can't get you out of the friend zone. She's done it before and it didn't work where you're just have that mindset of looking at somebody as a friend and you couldn't get over that. And so I was terrified.

[Matt]

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[Doug]

Big bowl last night at like literally.

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[Courtney Quist]

So I wasn't gonna do this whole, like, I don't know, like, we're situationship. Yes, I wasn't gonna do that. So I was like, the door is open or it's shut, it's not cracked.

[Alex Quist]

Which was fair.

[Courtney Quist]

Decision.

[Alex Quist]

Which was fair.

[Matt]

I'm so shocked at the fact that you guys were together for like a month and didn't even kiss once. Cuz I kissed Abby on the first date. Like, were you. Did you make it a rule? Like, I'm not going to kiss someone unless we're framed as a date unless we're officially dating? Like, was that a rule you had?

[Alex Quist]

Or. Again, it was just my own personal conviction to where like, hey, don't date her. You just need to be friends. And that actually really helped me build a stronger friendship with her. Not like just viewing her as my best friend before any, like, yes, I found her physically attractive, but before, you know, that stuff just sort of boiling over into more than just friends.

[Courtney Quist]

It was nice for me too, because when you like someone and you're dating them, sometimes, like, you put on this front, like, you need to wear makeup, you need to be all ready. And when he said the door was shut, makeup went off, the sweats came on, and I was like, 100. I was like, okay. Like, you are my bud. And so there was no filter, no nothing. And so he really got to meet the true, authentic Courtney, which is what I wanted too.

[Alex Quist]

That was great.

[Courtney Quist]

That is. Yeah.

[Doug]

Oh, so you, when you're like, you either shut the door or it's open, you shut it.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. So it was an hour long conversation. It was, it was a tough one. But at the end I was like, okay, well, I feel like the Lord wants me to shut it, so we're going to shut it. But if he wants to open it, he'll open it back up. And she got mad when I said that.

[Courtney Quist]

I was like, when the door shut, the door shut.

[Matt]

That is it. And then how many days or weeks was it that you decided that you actually wanted?

[Alex Quist]

It was probably a good maybe three, four weeks later or on a random day.

[Courtney Quist]

He goes, I want you to be my girlfriend. I was like, I'm so sorry. We just went from friend zone. Do you want to put the girlfriend label on it? Because I'm still very like, your friends. And then you date. You go on dates, and then you become boyfriend, girlfriend. And so I remember just being so. I was like, what do you. I was like, what do you mean? What do you mean, girlfriend? And then I didn't want to put a label on it right away, because once you put a label on a relationship, you're either getting married or you're breaking up and never talking again. And so I was really afraid to put any sort of label on it.

[Matt]

Were you kissing yet? Was that still something that you guys had, like, said? We're not like, did you kiss when you're like, I want to be your girlfriend or when I want to be your boyfriend?

[Alex Quist]

I don't know when our first kiss was.

[Courtney Quist]

We were hanging out in my room, and I don't know if we had put a label on it or not, but I remember I was like, when are you gonna kiss me? I was very frustrated. I was like, when are you gonna kiss me? Can we just do this already?

[Matt]

And so then we kiss. Hers is. Kiss was awkward. Was it amazing?

[Alex Quist]

Honestly, Good kiss.

[Courtney Quist]

I don't know. It's all such a blur. Like, I don't know. Do you guys. When you look back on your relationship early on, is it a blur for you, or is this just, like, postpartum? Like, am I just postpartum fog?

[Matt]

I don't know why. I vividly remember.

[Doug]

I vividly remember it because also, let me just say this. We hadn't dated anybody else, so every experience we were experiencing was, like, the first and only. So everything was, like. Like earth shattering. Also with those teenager hormones. Everything was, like, earth shattering. Everything.

[Matt]

I remember sitting next to Abby in the movie theater on our first date, and my heart was pumping so fast because I put my arm around her, and I was like, my arm is on a girl. You know the scene from inside out where it's like, girl, girl. And the guy. And the guy is just, like, stunned that he's, like, next to a girl? Like, that was me, bro. Like, I was just like, this is so sick. Like, I did not.

[Doug]

Likewise. Once he put his arm on me, I was like, I'm gonna put my arm on his leg. And so then I was like, but I. I thought the thought, but then I had to do it. And then I was like, where's the right time? I was waiting for, like, a right.

[Alex Quist]

Time in the movie.

[Doug]

Wasn't paying attention to move.

[Matt]

Y' All.

[Doug]

But my arm was like. And then I, like, got stuck there because I was like, I'm certainly not gonna move now. And so I remember, like, my hip literally got, like, so stupid because I was like, I literally can't move at this point. And so then, like, I remember all these, like, details so vividly because it was literally our first everything.

[Matt]

What was a moment like that for you guys?

[Alex Quist]

I don't know if we had a moment, but one of my favorite stories is when she accidentally said I love you first.

[Courtney Quist]

So I was waiting for him to say it.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. I dropped her off at her house, and I love you. Yeah, she just said, bye, I love you.

[Courtney Quist]

Never mind. Never mind. I did not just say that.

[Alex Quist]

Just. She, like, literally covers her mouth. Oh, I didn't mean that. I'm so sorry.

[Courtney Quist]

This kind of slipped out. It was true, but it slipped out.

[Doug]

That's so.

[Alex Quist]

I don't know if we, like, had a moment where, like, I was.

[Doug]

I don't know what about the proposal?

[Alex Quist]

I was very nervous about that because she was like, okay, all I want is to be surprised, but you're not gonna be able to surprise me. But that's all that I want because.

[Courtney Quist]

I'm a little detective.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Matt]

Like, you guys had talked about getting married, so it wasn't like he blindly just proposed. Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

Also, it's so embarrassing to go into ring shops, and then they'll be like, oh, how long have you guys been together? And we're like, five months. It was, like, so embarrassing. But apparently that's actually very. It's a lot more common than I thought it was. But I remember, like, I was like, please don't ask me that. I really don't want to answer it. But I had no regrets. I knew I wanted to marry him.

[Matt]

What type of ring did you pick out? Let's see it.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah, it's like, I don't know.

[Matt]

Is that the solitaire? What type of cut is that? Is that oval?

[Courtney Quist]

Oval, yeah.

[Matt]

Nice.

[Courtney Quist]

Honestly, I'm not like, a huge, like, so when we got married, my wedding band was just, like, a cheap Amazon wedding band. So, like, I wanted the engagement ring to be real, but the wedding band, I was like, I don't care. And it was, like, a 16 ring off Amazon. So, like, whenever you're asking about the cut and stuff, I'm like, I don't even know. I just. I think this one's pretty.

[Matt]

I love that you said that, because we were in the same boat. We were. We were on. We were born on a budget, and I was reading a lot of books by Dave Ramsey. So my ring, like, I went. I went all out for Abby's. It was a diamond substitute. It's a moissanite ring. But for my wedding band, it was literally. I made it a goal to find the cheapest wedding band I could find that was, like, metal. And I got a titanium black wedding band for $5, and it took, like, a month to ship.

[Doug]

$10 to ship it?

[Matt]

No, no, it was. It was five bucks. I think that the shipping might have been, like, a dollar.

[Doug]

I thought the shipping was more.

[Matt]

You know what? Maybe the ring was $5 and the shipping was also, like 5 or 6.

[Alex Quist]

But, yeah, mine's $12 from Amazon. Let's go.

[Matt]

Yeah, let's go.

[Doug]

You just need to get it tattooed on your finger.

[Matt]

I should. I probably should say.

[Courtney Quist]

Would you ever?

[Matt]

Probably, yeah. Oh, for sure. For sure. A tattoo that's kind of sick, because if it ever falls off, please do that. I'll do it because I lost my ring. I actually. I have multiple silicone rings because I work out a lot, though. And one of the silicone ones, I was surfing in Hawaii last week, and it fell off in the ocean. Sorry. Okay. I got distracted. Beautiful ring, by the way.

[Doug]

Proposal. Were you able to surprise her?

[Alex Quist]

I was, yeah. So we knew. We were talking about getting married and stuff, and so she got kicked out. Not kicked out, but kind of. Her roommate was getting married, and so she had to find a new place to live. And so we were looking at a place that I could potentially move into. After we got married, we went to the apartment that you were going to move into. I invited her best friend from California and her parents to come, and I just organized it so that I was like, oh, hey, they need us to go in and, like, sign something for the lease or something along those lines. And I was like, oh, hey, we should take a picture because we're getting our first apartment together. So, like, if you want to put on makeup or something, go ahead and do that because we'll take a picture. And so just inside of the apartment that we were going to live together. I don't even remember if it was balloons or what it was, but it was just, will you marry me? Up against the wall and a bunch of rose petals and stuff.

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[Courtney Quist]

Do you remember that when I first walked in? Because I thought, I thought we were signing the lease. So I'm over here with a measuring tape and I'm like, okay, I need to know the dimensions of each room. So I walk in with a measuring tape. And so I walk immediately. So you. There's a hallway as soon as you walk in. And then it's like if you keep going straight, there's the living room, but if you make the first right, it's the master. So I immediately go into the master bedroom. I'm measuring. I'm like, doing all this stuff. He's probably in the living room dying.

[Alex Quist]

Oh, yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

I'm about to ask this girl to marry me, and she's measuring the closet.

[Alex Quist]

And then I think you even told me, she's like, what are you doing? Like, measured. Do you need the measuring tape? Go measure the laundry room. Because we needed a washer and dryer.

[Courtney Quist]

And he kept wanting me to go to the living room. And I was like, like, I was like, do you need the measuring tape or something? Like, I'm in the middle of something, which I felt so bad. And then I walk out. Yeah. And there's just like all of. Oh, I just.

[Alex Quist]

If you've seen the video of it, I could watch her reaction a hundred times over.

[Courtney Quist]

I was just like jumping for joy. I was like, oh, my gosh. And then I saw a little camera. There's like a door to the, to the balcony, and I just see a camera there. And so I thought it was gonna be my friend Diana that lives in Pittsburgh. So that's who I was thinking. I had no idea. He flew out. My best friend from California. So.

[Doug]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

And then my parents were hiding in the laundry room.

[Alex Quist]

No way.

[Courtney Quist]

It was really, really sweet. We honestly haven't even talked about the proposal a ton.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, we haven't. No, not really.

[Courtney Quist]

We haven't got there yet. We, like, just started posting full length YouTube videos.

[Alex Quist]

No way.

[Matt]

Wait, that's so cool. Okay, so with the proposal, since you guys got engaged five months after meeting, was there any friend or family member that was like, are you guys sure? Like, is this. Is this, like, a good idea? You just met.

[Courtney Quist]

I was shocked that I did not get pushback. That's what I like. My family was all for it. They were just thankful.

[Alex Quist]

You want to tell them the story about when I first met your. Your dad, though? Do you remember that?

[Courtney Quist]

No.

[Alex Quist]

No. So, I mean, I was obviously just. They live in. In, like, near Pittsburgh, up in Pennsylvania. So it was a long drive. And so I knew heading up there, it's like, okay, this might be the only time I ever see them before I potentially propose. Yeah. But, yeah, first night we were in there and your dad was like, what's your name again?

[Courtney Quist]

Alex.

[Alex Quist]

I'll probably forget it.

[Courtney Quist]

He did say that.

[Alex Quist]

I was like, oh, okay. Like, wow, he's awesome. We have a great relationship.

[Courtney Quist]

And like, I don't think he figured that it was gonna end in a marriage in like, six months, but it did.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah.

[Alex Quist]

I mean, how many dads really do think that, oh, boys coming here, they're gonna get married, like, six months from now.

[Matt]

How soon did you meet her parents? After everything?

[Alex Quist]

Was it around Thanksgiving that we went up there? Maybe. I think it was like a week after Thanksgiving before we had to have been. I wouldn't have gone up there if we weren't dating. So I think it was. Yeah, it was probably about a month before I proposed.

[Doug]

Wait, I have a question for you. Are you an oldest child?

[Courtney Quist]

The youngest.

[Doug]

Youngest. Okay. You have, like, oldest child energy, though, I would say, because it's like, you knew what you wanted. You're, like, gonna find a way. I, like, I think that that should be more normalized, you being able to set your own dating standard, your own standard for relationship, while still, like, encouraging them to take the lead, which I feel like what you did, you're like, this is what I want. If this isn't something that you're okay with or capable of, then it's just not a good fit. And I feel like that takes so much confidence, especially as A female to, like, set that standard. And I feel like a lot of people could learn from that. I don't know. Or, like, also just, like, be inspired by your confidence and, like, enter dating with that same type of attitude where you're like, hey, I'm allowed to, like, set my standard. And like, anyone that falls short of that, it's, like, it's not a good fit. Because I feel like a lot of girls feel like, okay, this person showed interest in me. I need to just, like, see where this goes. And it's like, there's something to that. But then there's also. You're allowed to have, like, a high standard for yourself and to, like, not feel naggy or pushy or, like, annoying for that. And I admire you a lot for that.

[Courtney Quist]

And I just wasn't trying to waste any time either, because I was, what? What, 25, 26. And I also know we want a huge fam, or at least I've always wanted a really big family. You agree on that. But I was like, okay. Like, I started doing math in my head, and I was like, okay, like, I kind of gotta get married soon if I want to have nine kids. I'm just joking. I don't actually.

[Alex Quist]

She did always say, I want nine kids. I knew it. Partially knew it.

[Courtney Quist]

We slowly just keep dropping it. And then it was six, and then it was five, and then the LeBrant family has five. And, like, they literally need an entire van. Because you think, like, you have to travel with five kids, two parents. But then what if your kids have friends that they also want to come? So they basically drive a school bus. And so I was like, maybe not five, so maybe four. I think four is probably where we're going to end up being.

[Matt]

Did that number lower after you had your first?

[Courtney Quist]

I don't know, actually.

[Alex Quist]

I'm not sure. I always knew that, like, you wanted a lot, but I was also like, I feel like once we get into the. The ringer, you know, get into the ring a little bit, say it'll probably go down, but I still.

[Courtney Quist]

I cannot believe that I had a kid. Like, I just. In my brain, I'm just, like, not there. Like, I know that she's here, and I love her, and I'm just like, I don't know. I, like, forget. Do you remember your pregnancies? And, like, is it still so surreal to be like, oh, my gosh, like, I had kids.

[Doug]

That feeling that you're talking about. What? I remember feeling that the most when I had just had my first Son. And I was in the hospital, and they kept calling me mama. I was like, it. Honestly, I don't even. I can't relate to this now, but it me out. Like, I was like. Like, that does not. That's not me. I'm not mom. Like, don't talk. Like, please speak to my mother. She's Mom. Like, I felt really uncomfortable with all the nurses and doctors being like, hey, mama. And I was like, oh. Like, I just remember that panic it through me. And then even them calling him dad. I was like, stop. No, no, it's not that. It's not us. It can't be. And then it started to settle in so much more. It definitely took some time, though. It's like, it's all I ever wanted. But all of a sudden, being given that name, you're. I think you're like, the gravity of the responsibility just kind of smacks you in the face.

[Matt]

You're like, oh, yeah.

[Doug]

Oh, okay. Wait a minute. Wait a minute. But I still want my mom.

[Matt]

Was that weird for you guys when you first became parents to have the title Mom Dad?

[Courtney Quist]

It did not hit me that we were even having a kid until they told me that I needed to push. Like, the whole time, I think I was so afraid because people only talk about the negative. You know, the negative side of bir and all of the things that could go wrong. So I was straight up in survival mode. I only was like, okay. I was like, I don't know. I. I was going to therapy. I was, like, doing all this stuff because I was so afraid of it. And then.

[Doug]

You're so afraid of giving birth?

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah, like, giving birth. And so I was just focused on the birth part. And, like, I was like, okay. I was like, I just have to get through it. And then they told me to push, and they were like, we can see her hair. Like, I don't know. Sorry if that's a little too graphic.

[Doug]

Oh, no.

[Courtney Quist]

But they were saying that kind of stuff, and I was like. Like, oh, my gosh. Like, in five minutes, I'm gonna be a mom. And so I started crying because it did.

[Doug]

It took. I only took five minutes.

[Courtney Quist]

Well, it just. It just. It all happened so fast. I think I only pushed for 30 minutes. So, yeah, it was just the craziest experience. And so I had a very short window to be like, oh, my gosh. Like, I'm about to be a mom. So maybe that's why it still hasn't really hit me, because she's seven months right now, and we have to start thinking, all right, like, do we want two under two? Like, when do we start? Because, like, obviously that's a nine or ten month process. And I'm like, I can't believe I just did it once and now I'm supposed to do it again.

[Matt]

Having a baby, was that the initial plan? Like, did you guys get pregnant by surprise? Was it all completely planned out?

[Courtney Quist]

So I was just so afraid. Like, that's like such a huge part of my story that I was so scared. But we knew that we wanted a kid, but I didn't want the responsibility of the timeline and everything. So we sort of just. Just started to not use precaution. And then I just got pregnant, like, right away.

[Matt]

No way.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah, yeah.

[Alex Quist]

So, like, we didn't, like, we talked about it, obviously, but we weren't like, okay, let's start trying to have a kid. It was just like, oh, if it happens, it happens. We honestly, like, she was just. Because she was so nervous about. She's like, honestly, I would rather like it be sort of a surprise because then it's not in our hands. Like, it's. We know that it's God's will for it to happen, and it just sort of takes some of the pressure off. Like, we weren't the ones that did this.

[Doug]

So you're fearful of pregnancy, birth, or all of it?

[Courtney Quist]

Mostly birth. So my mom had a really bad experience with me. Like, she almost died. They had like a priest come in, give her her last rights. And then my grandma also almost died. So with my mom, they did a C section and they cut open. I might tell the story wrong, but from my understanding, they cut open an artery and forgot they sewed her up, but they didn't sew that up. And so my mom has O negative blood, which is the rare blood. And so she was bleeding, like internally.

[Doug]

And they didn't know.

[Courtney Quist]

And so, like, there's like so much that happened with my birth. And so like my entire life I've heard that story. And then my grandma, she hemorrhaged, I think, or something, and again was bleeding internally. And they didn't catch it right away. And so both my grandma and my mom had these near death experiences where my grandma says that she can see. She remembers very vividly that when she was, you know, on the hospital bed, she saw herself. What was it? She was at the edge of the bed looking at herself on the table because she had lost so much blood. And so, like, that was like her near death experience. And then my mom said that she was Getting really hazy. And all of a sudden, she starts seeing all of these clouds above her head. So that is the story that I've heard about birth my entire life. So for me, I'm like, am I gonna die? Like, the birth was so scary. That's all I heard. So as soon as I found out I was pregnant, I called a clinic because I was crying. I was like, I just found out I'm pregnant because there's no turning back. You're in this like, you. You're giving birth. And so I called a clinic, and luckily, they set me up with counseling to, like, kind of get over some of this fear. I started working with a pelvic floor therapist, like, to really prep and just make sure that, I don't know, you can only control so much, because a lot of birth is just all about surrendering.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

But I wanted to make sure that what I did have control over, I did everything correctly. Like, they helped with the fear around it. And so by the end of it, I was actually kind of ready, but I was still obviously scared, because you don't know, like, you could get to the end of your birth, and the baby could flip, and they could say, oh, you need a C section. But I did not prepare for a C section.

[Alex Quist]

But you had a really good experience.

[Courtney Quist]

I had an amazing experience. Like, it exceeded my expectations.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. And you, like, even just above you, wanting to have your own really good experience with pregnancy, you also wanted to do it because you knew that you had a platform. And just so many of the stories out there, so negative with giving birth. Yeah.

[Doug]

I feel like.

[Courtney Quist]

And I understand everyone wants to share their bad experiences. Like, that's okay, because that's valid. It's real. That stuff does happen. But I do wish that more people shared the positive ones. Like, I had the best experience ever. Our doctor was incredible. I thought I was gonna have to be induced, but I didn't. I went into natural labor. Like, spontaneous labor. All of the nurses were so sweet and so kind. I got the epidural on time. I didn't feel a thing. Yeah. Very minor tearing. Great. Like, everything was just so amazing. And I'm like, I wish more girls would hear that side of birth.

[Matt]

Okay, yeah. Talk to me about that, because I noticed you shared that your water broke. We never experienced that. Abby was. Was induced with our first because our baby was measuring very big. What was it like to have your water break?

[Courtney Quist]

It was a great story. The craziest thing. So my. So she was almost 42 weeks. Like, so I went Almost. And so I felt a lot of pressure to be induced. Induced. And I did not, because that's where you hear a lot of the complications sometimes where you go in to be induced. But your body wasn't exactly ready to have that baby yet. So the induction doesn't quite work. I don't know. Everyone has a different experience, but I. A part of my fear, I was like, I do not want to be induced at all. And so we scheduled an induction because our doctor recommended it. This is the day before we're supposed to go and get induced. And I'm on the phone with my doula. I was like, I don't like, what happens if we just, like, don't show up? Like, what. What do they do? Yeah, I don't know.

[Doug]

And.

[Courtney Quist]

But I also didn't want to go beyond 42 weeks because obviously there's risks with that. And so I actually call one of my friends who's a labor and delivery nurse, and I'm talking to her, and all of a sudden it felt like I peed myself. Like, it was. I was like, oh, my gosh. Because I'm standing in the bathroom, like, on the phone, Like, I was, like, pacing because I'm just nervous. And it was the craziest experience. And so I didn't want to sit on the toilet because I was like, if I go on the toilet, I'm going to convince myself to that. I did just pee. And so I just stand up and just every so often it was just like a gush of water. It's the craziest. Honestly, I could do that a million times again. It was like the craziest, most satisfying feeling. That's crazy.

[Matt]

It felt good to, like, your water breaking felt good.

[Courtney Quist]

It was just the weirdest sensation. And so I'm also on the phone with a labor and delivery nurse.

[Alex Quist]

And I was like, okay.

[Courtney Quist]

I was like, I think my water just broke. And I was like, either that or I just peed myself. And so she's like, she's over here. Like, yes, girl. Your body's exactly. You're having this baby. And she's like, cheering me on. And so at least I didn't have to do it alone.

[Doug]

Was she pretty big then for being 42 weeks?

[Courtney Quist]

No, her head was actually. So I pushed. Wow. At 7 centimeters, which isn't normal. Yeah.

[Alex Quist]

Wow.

[Courtney Quist]

Her head was just tiny. And so it was actually such a weird experience because we had all of these nurses coming in because no one had ever seen anything like this.

[Doug]

How did they know that you were Ready to push at 7 then.

[Courtney Quist]

Because her. So basically they kept doing the cervical checks, and they came in and they said, you're only 7 centimeters, but you're ready. Like, her head is out of.

[Doug]

Oh, yeah. Like she's had a tiny head.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah, just a very small head. It was the. It was just.

[Doug]

I've never heard that.

[Courtney Quist]

And neither did the nurses, so they were really confused.

[Alex Quist]

They were like, we don't. We don't know what to do. And they just, like, kept on going out of the room and back in. They're like, we. We've never seen this before.

[Doug]

You never got to a 10?

[Courtney Quist]

Never? No. And so they said I was at 7, but they could stretch me to be a. Yeah, I was out of seven, but they could stretch me to be a 10. And they were like, we've never seen this before. And so, yeah, just. People just kept coming in and out of the room to, like, just try.

[Doug]

To push, see what happens.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah, well, so they called the doctor, and the doctor was like, I don't. Because the doctor doesn't want to come in if you're not ready to push. And so the doctor, they call her. We had to wait probably, what, like another hour? So something for the doctor to come in. And the doctor looks and was like, yeah, I think you're ready.

[Doug]

I think you're doing wild.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah, it was. It was the craziest thing. And then we also. We used the mirror whenever I was pushing.

[Matt]

No way.

[Courtney Quist]

I recommend.

[Doug]

Did you feel anything?

[Courtney Quist]

I felt a lot of pressure. I was so afraid of tearing, too. That was the other thing is, so I was like, I don't know, maybe I shouldn't say this. I was so afraid of ripping up. And so I was just like. I was like, protect the area. Protect the area. I was just so afraid. But, yeah, I mean, it all just worked out great. I had that mirror there, so I was actually able to watch her come out, which was.

[Doug]

That's crazy.

[Courtney Quist]

It was the craziest experience, especially because she had a full head of hair. And so, like, you could just see the baby's head.

[Doug]

Oh, my gosh. Well, we have totally different birth experiences. I really envious of your experience.

[Courtney Quist]

Well, because you had a C section for both, right?

[Doug]

Just for my second.

[Courtney Quist]

Okay.

[Doug]

Yeah. But it wasn't. It didn't look like that. Let's just say that our baby got stuck.

[Matt]

It was a little scary.

[Doug]

But don't. She's had a positive.

[Matt]

But. Yeah.

[Doug]

Yeah, Everyone have positive.

[Matt]

Yeah.

[Doug]

I love when I hear that story too, though, because it's like, even, like so many things, the scary stories are, like, sensationalized in a way. I don't know. But they're also real, so they should be told. But it's good to always be positive having babies. Like, it should be always just, like, ultimately, I always make sure we end our birth story by saying that, like, ultimately, like, this was the price, and I would pay it in double every single time over. But, yeah. You were asking Alex.

[Matt]

Yeah, Alex, what was your experience when Courtney's water broke?

[Alex Quist]

I thought it was kind of gross. Well, I had to clean it up.

[Courtney Quist]

There was water everywhere. And then I was like, leave it. It's a souvenir.

[Alex Quist]

Luckily, we did have a doula, so, like, I didn't have to do a lot of the heavy lifting as far as making decisions, you know? And so our doula was sort of walking us through, you know, when. When to go into the hospital. I went and picked up a couple subway sandwiches for both of us when her water broke. And, I don't know, just sort of stayed by her side and eventually just made the call. But I was. I was ready to go. I was sick of waiting. I'm sure you were more than me.

[Doug]

But I'm sure by the time that fourth baby comes, you're gonna have, like, 30 minutes notice, and you're just gonna have to go if that is how your first went.

[Alex Quist]

We lived 45 minutes away from the hospital, though, so we did have to plan it out a little bit.

[Courtney Quist]

And from the moment my water broke to the time she came out was only 16 hours, which is pretty fast for a first time. So I'm like, the second one, I'm kind of scared. Like, is it going to speed up with every kid?

[Doug]

Because I sometimes. I don't know. Our neighbor, her fourth was, like, her.

[Matt]

Longest, and is it true?

[Doug]

But he was also a huge baby.

[Matt]

Is it true that you listened to rap music while you were pushing?

[Courtney Quist]

Well, just anything that I could. It was, like, rap or musicals. Like, oh, yeah. I had the greatest showman on, like, the whole time. Well, and we had. Maybe you could tell this story. You were very frustrated.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, because. Okay, so she made like she's been pushing for a long time to get on Spotify and stuff like that. Yeah. So we added her, and she just, like, didn't really know how to use it. And so I was telling her, like, yeah, get your labor and delivery playlist ready. Well, she put maybe 10 songs in there, and she only likes about five of them. And she kept on getting mad at me for not having music because she's just in so much pain with the contractions. And I'm just like, I don't know what you want me to do. Like, so I'm like trying to find different music and stuff that she might like.

[Courtney Quist]

And.

[Alex Quist]

And half of it, you're just like, no, this is what I want. I want it to be fast paced. I want it to be like a musical.

[Courtney Quist]

I needed to know the words. Like, whatever it was. I was like, I need to know the words. Because in that way it like distracted me. But like, the songs that I had on there were like very slow worship music. And I was like, this is terrible.

[Alex Quist]

You didn't know what you like. How are you supposed to know what you're gonna want in that moment though? You thought that maybe worship music would do. Do well, but you hated that.

[Courtney Quist]

You need fat, fast paced music. You need to pretend like you were in a concert. You need to completely just forget about the world. And now you are officially the main character of the Greatest Showman.

[Matt]

What's the. What's the song like? What's the song that you were like, yes, this is what I needed.

[Alex Quist]

You listened to what's the musical?

[Courtney Quist]

Took Away was like the that and then.

[Alex Quist]

Is it. Man, I can't even think of it. The one with the president.

[Doug]

Hamilton.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Matt]

A rap from Hamilton.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah, There was. Was so much Hamilton. Like, I think. Yeah, I think I sang the entire thing.

[Matt]

Any High School musical in there?

[Courtney Quist]

I actually don't think so, no.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, maybe a couple, but there wasn't.

[Courtney Quist]

There should have been.

[Matt]

Next time, describe the feeling of holding your baby for the first time.

[Courtney Quist]

Oh, my gosh. I was crying like crazy because I had 30 minutes to realize, oh, my gosh, I am now a mom. And I was like, oh, my gosh. I was like, we have her for the rest of our lives. I was like, there's no going back now. But it was, was. It was so crazy. I think I just remember I couldn't see her face. So they put her on your chest. But so, like, I'm looking down and all I'm seeing is her head. So like the entire time that she. I don't know, like, while I was pushing, I never saw her face. I only saw her hair. And then when they put her on my chest, the same thing. It was like I just kept seeing her hair. So there's a video out there of when they first put her on my chest. I just kept saying. I was like, I can't see her face. I can't see her face. And finally a nurse, like, picked her up. Up so I could actually, like, look at her. I was like, oh, my gosh. She's the cutest little thing. She was born right before Christmas, so she was our little Christmas baby.

[Doug]

Wait a minute. I. This just jogged my memory. In your YouTube video, you said you gained 8 pounds when you were pregnant.

[Courtney Quist]

Okay. So a lot of people are really, really confused about that.

[Doug]

That really confused me, actually.

[Courtney Quist]

Okay, so what I meant was I gained, like, after six or eight weeks of the pregnancy. Like, after I had already given birth. I had kept on £8. Pounds.

[Doug]

I think a lot of people thought.

[Courtney Quist]

That I meant, like, during the. Because I don't count, like, 30 pounds that you have isn't even your weight. Like, you're not putting that weight on. That's the baby, you know, like, the baby weighs, like, what, eight pounds? And then there's amniotic fluid.

[Doug]

Eight pounds after. After eight weeks.

[Alex Quist]

Ah, okay.

[Courtney Quist]

Oh. So are you talking, like, the first trimester?

[Doug]

I don't know anybody. You said you gained eight pounds, you're pregnant, and then you lost five.

[Matt]

Because I know a lot of women, like, gain, like, 50, 60 pounds.

[Doug]

I gained, like, 45, I think.

[Courtney Quist]

Okay. So I. I guess I just. Maybe I track it differently. So I remember my first trimester, I was so sick that I was eating around the clock. And so within eight weeks, I had already gained, like, eight pounds or something like that. So I went to the doctor because I was like, hey. Because the only way to cure my nausea was to eat, so I was eating around the clock. So I'd gained so much weight so fast that the doctor was like, we're gonna get you on Zofran. And then the rest of my pregnancy, that's just. That's not even my weight. That's. Your boobs are growing amniotic fluid. Your baby's growing. And so I don't know how much I actually gained at the end. Like, when I was at 42 weeks, I don't know what I was then, but I just know. Yeah. About six to eight weeks after, I was still eight pounds up. And then as the time went on, I was like, okay. And now I'm somehow. Oh, my goodness. Yeah, I'm now, I think, seven pounds lighter than I was when I first got pregnant. So I'm like, I don't know what's going on with my weight weighed, but I think I just tracked it differently. People were very confused. They thought by the end, like, at 42 weeks, that I had only gained eight pounds. And I was like, oh, no, no.

[Doug]

I was like, how is this baby weight?

[Courtney Quist]

I just don't consider it my weight. Like, I didn't gain £40.

[Doug]

That's the way you should look at it.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah. And so. But a lot of people do track it that way, so. Yeah.

[Doug]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

There is a lot of comments, actually, that I should have addressed that.

[Matt]

Alex, you've said before that during the birth, you felt very hopeless and helpless. And I feel like a lot of guys can. Can relate to that. What did that helplessness feel like while Courtney is literally giving birth to your child?

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, well, I mean, I think most guys, you have that masculine urge to protect and watch over your wife. And so there's nothing that I can do for her that's really going to make her feel better or take any of that pain away. And on top of that, we had a doula who was a lot better at things than I was. And so, I mean, I was always by her side, trying to be a calming presence in the room. But at the end of the day, I knew that I couldn't do anything for her besides just give her some of that moral support and encouragement. And, I mean, it's just hard to see the person that you love the most in the world suffer to a certain degree.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah. Those contractions are no joke. But the epidural is amazing. I'm all for it.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. One of my biggest jobs was just during the epidural and stuff, just trying to keep her calm and stuff, even though the doula was doing the same thing, but because I know that needle was a little bit scary.

[Courtney Quist]

Was so scared of the epidural, but again, amazing. We had a. We had this old lady named Rhonda, and she was the cutest little thing, and she was the one who gave me my epidural. And she's like, honey, I've been doing this for 50 years. You're just crying out, where's Rhonda at?

[Alex Quist]

I need Rhonda.

[Courtney Quist]

And then Rhonda came.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Matt]

I know we've talked a lot about birth and your love story, but now you guys are parents, what has that life change been like?

[Alex Quist]

Like, it's a transition, that's for sure.

[Courtney Quist]

Well, because I've never had, like, I am. I don't know, I feel like I've worked freelance for so long that I'm not used to a lot of structure. And so the fact that with a baby, there's so much structure, there's so much timing out, like when she needs to Eat when she needs to sleep. So it sort of wrecked my world a little bit because it. This is just like all so new to me and I'm still just. I feel like by the second kid, I'm gonna be a pro. I'm gonna get it. But first kid. Kid. Yeah, I struggled a bit, but it's so fun. It's like the best.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, I mean, you couldn't ask for a better daughter. I mean, she's amazing, but yeah, I mean, it's just a transition. We're both working at home and so throwing a kid into the mix, it's just, it's just different and trying to balance that out, all out. And I mean, it's such a blessing that we both get to stay home and spend a ton of time with her and stuff. I've also never had a desire to be a stay at home dad. And so just like, you know, trying to balance that work and watching a kid, kid, sometimes that's a little bit harder. But, oh, it's such a blessing. I get to spend so much more time with my daughter than the average dad does.

[Matt]

Yeah, you kind of feel like, you feel like a stay at home dad.

[Alex Quist]

Like that must be sometimes. Yeah, sometimes. But like, she does some things that I cannot do, especially with, with editing. And so she needs to work sometimes. And so sometimes I, I need to watch our daughter. And again, it's a blessing. It's super fun. But also I want to get work done.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah, I don't think people realize that sometimes content creation is a full time job. And so also being a mom is a full time job or being a dad. And so, yeah, we're trying to. I can't say that we are experts by any means. Like, we're still trying to figure out, like, how do we balance both working but then also being with our kids? So we basically just like, we keep taking turns where it's like, hey, I have to work. Like, can you watch Aspen? Or vice versa.

[Alex Quist]

And she changes so fast too, that the game plan changes all the time too, as to, you know, her needs. Like, now that she's crawling all over the place. Oh, you can't really get any work done if you're watching her.

[Courtney Quist]

And she loves cords. She loves to eat them. Phone cords are her favorite. Like, even today, Alex was like, it's in her mouth. It's in her mouth. Like, you turn around for one second and she will crawl as fast as possible toward an outlet.

[Matt]

What's been the most surprising thing being a dad? Like, something that you didn't expect with fatherhood.

[Alex Quist]

Honestly, it took me longer to. To feel like I. I built a connection with Aspen. Like, it just took a lot longer. I thought that, you know, when she was born, it was just gonna be instant. Oh, my goodness. This is my child. This is my daughter. Yeah. And it took a while because we talked about this a little bit off the camera, but I don't know. She wasn't very fun when she was first born. Like, I. I love playing with kids. Like, I was a PE teacher. Like, I like to. To do things. I like to make kids laugh and stuff like that. And here's this little potato. Yeah. There's this child that just cries and just sits there. Yeah. And so it just took a while, but now, oh, it's so much fun. She's laughing all the time. And it just took longer than I thought.

[Matt]

It's funny too, because you had your daughter out a little bit ago and just recognizing, man, she's still so young. Like, she's. I correct me if I'm wrong, but she's not talking yet. Like, she's not saying any words. The change that happens when they start talking, walking, and they start walking and you can actually, like, physically, like, kick a soccer ball around with them and have a conversation. It is so cool. So I don't think, like, you. You saying that. That the connection wasn't what you thought it would be initially. I think a lot of dads can relate to that. I can relate to that even. Just like, I remember the moment that our. Our kids started to smile. I was like, oh, my gosh. They're like. They're smiling because they don't smile when they come out of the womb right away. Like, it takes. I want to say it was like four or five months until I saw even a smile, but.

[Doug]

But then a little long.

[Matt]

I feel like maybe it was three months. I don't know. But it's just like they. They come. They have so much development to go through. And so when you're in that season, sometimes you think, like, man, I thought it'd be a little bit more fun. And so that's cool that you're already seeing changes and seeing her, like, grow up.

[Alex Quist]

And on top of that, obviously, a baby's gonna have a stronger connection to their mom. And so, of course, it's really frustrating right away when. And I can't get the baby to stop crying, but mom can.

[Matt]

Yeah.

[Alex Quist]

And so, you know, a lot of times I can just be a little bit too performance based, you know, and be Kind of hard on myself if I feel like I'm not doing a good job in whatever it may be, whether it fatherhood, marriage, work. And so that was kind of hard. It's a hard pill to swallow when it's like I can't get my baby to stop crying. But now just seeing, like, from across the room, I smile at our daughter and she's gonna smile back like, there's just no better feeling in the world.

[Courtney Quist]

World.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

Yeah. The best was like, there was a moment where we were like, oh, my goodness. Like, she knows us. Like, she can look at us and like, we could tell that she recognizes who we are. That is a moment that I remember very vividly of just being like, oh, my gosh, she. She knows who we are. Which is just so crazy because I'm sure for a long time, like, I don't know, a couple weeks or something, I'm sure it was just blurry for her, like, she couldn't actually see us. And then there's a moment of like, you're my mom.

[Matt]

And is she eating solids now? Is like, what's that?

[Courtney Quist]

That she. We've tried.

[Alex Quist]

She.

[Courtney Quist]

She does not like any food. Like, she really. Yeah. I don't know if it's the texture or what. Like, the only thing is bacon. Like, she will. She will lick bacon. She loves it. She'll, like. I have photos of her just smiling with bacon. So that's, like, the only thing that's cute. Yeah. As of right now, like, we've tried a lot of things. We've tried a lot of purees, a lot of pouches, and she'll put them in her mouth and she just doesn't, like.

[Alex Quist]

She's interested in table food. She'll reach it and try to put it in her mouth, but it doesn't really go down the hatch. Usually all comes back out tastes the.

[Courtney Quist]

Way she thinks it's going to and.

[Doug]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

So she just has this, like, really grossed out face like, every time she tries anything. Maybe. Maybe we just need to, like, keep trying it over and over again and then maybe she can get used to it. I don't know.

[Matt]

I know, like, a big topic for parents is like, do you show your kid Ms. Rachel before they're like, a certain age? Have you guys set any, like, hard and fast rules?

[Doug]

She's only seven months, so probably we.

[Alex Quist]

Haven'T talked about it really, but.

[Matt]

But we.

[Alex Quist]

We've set her in front of a screen very, very, very minimally. Maybe only less than 10 times, for sure. Like, put something on the TV.

[Courtney Quist]

Which is probably why she can't sit up.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah.

[Courtney Quist]

Like, she. Well, if she doesn't watch a screen, like, she's crawling all over the place. Like, her entertainment is the things that are around.

[Matt]

Totally.

[Courtney Quist]

But honestly, there's a lot of things with parenting that I had an opinion on before I had a kid, and now it's just changing. And so right now, I'm kind of anti iPad, but I think that might change.

[Alex Quist]

My sister said the same thing where it was a lot easier with one kid where it's, oh, we're gonna limit screen time until a certain age and all that stuff. But then, you know, pop out a third kid, and she's like, oh, sometimes you have no choice. You need to get something done. You're gonna put a movie on so you can clean the house or cook dinner, whatever the case is.

[Matt]

I totally hear that because I was so anti screens. But now our son's about to turn two, and, like, one of my favorite things to do with him will be, like, watch a movie together. Because he'll actually sit on my lap the entire time. We just cuddle, and there's no other time that he'll stay still. Like, he's so active. I think he probably might have gotten ADHD from me. Like, this kid is just, like, so hyperactive, but he'll actually, like, chill out and just, like, sit on my lap and we'll just cuddle and watch a movie. And it's the sweetest thing. So I'm like that. I feel like we bond so much, having that, like, that contact, just like us holding each other. You can't just, like, put a blanket term on something and say, like, it's all bad. You can never do a movie for your kid, you know?

[Alex Quist]

And you probably look back and miss some of those days where, you know, your kids did just snuggle up next year or fall asleep on you. And so while it is for the dads mostly, like, a lot more fun at each stage, it's just like, okay, still got to really cherish these moments because Aspen's not going to fall asleep on my arms very much longer. You know, what's the future going to.

[Matt]

Look like for you guys? When do you think you might go for a second one? Because I know you said you want a big family.

[Courtney Quist]

Family, honestly, we need to figure it out, actually. Time's ticking. Like, I kind of have to do the math here and be like, okay, like, I don't have forever. Even though some people do think that they can have kids, You Know, in their late 30s. But I'm just like, I don't know. I just. Time's ticking.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, We've been taking it a day at a time. Like, we know that we want more kids, but we'll know when it's the right time.

[Courtney Quist]

Honestly. Maybe we won't. Maybe we'll just do what. Exactly what we did the last time.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah, maybe.

[Courtney Quist]

Or we're just like, okay, just going to try it and we're just going to have another one.

[Doug]

There's no rush on anything. Seriously. People have kids at all different types of ages.

[Alex Quist]

Well, people.

[Courtney Quist]

Oh, yeah, yeah. But then it's like, I feel like it gets harder. Or there's like, complications, but then there's mixed information on that. Some people say that there are no.

[Doug]

Complications, but then it's like there's a crazy statistic. I don't quote me on this, but women that have babies after 35 live longer. There's some statistic about that. Like, if they have at least one baby post the age of 35, they, like, have a much higher likelihood to live to, like, a higher age.

[Matt]

Interesting.

[Doug]

I have to find that. Should I just look it up? So I don't get, like, this is what we need.

[Matt]

We need somebody off camera.

[Doug]

Don't put the statistic in the comments because I know there's some type of statistic about, like, them living longer. It makes sense to me because I'm like, a mom is gonna do what they have to do to take care of their baby. So if you have kids later in life, you're gonna live long. I really feel like you could will yourself to live live longer just so you can be there for your children.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. You might feel like you have, like, a greater sense of purpose for longer.

[Doug]

Totally.

[Alex Quist]

You know, taking care.

[Doug]

That maternal instinct cannot be questioned. I'm not even kidding.

[Alex Quist]

It's.

[Doug]

It's strong.

[Matt]

Well, Courtney and Alex, thank you again for coming on Unplanned. Where is the best place for people to stay in touch with you guys?

[Courtney Quist]

So we are the Quist family on almost every platform. Tick tock, YouTube, Facebook, and then our Instagrams are separate it. So mine is Courtney Quist underscore and his is Alex Quest underscore.

[Doug]

Such a lovely couple.

[Alex Quist]

Yeah. Thank you so much for having us on.

[Courtney Quist]

Sweet.

[Matt]

Well, thank you guys.

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[Doug]

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