Who Knows Who Better: Husband vs. Wife

Summary

The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby

Episode: Who Knows Who Better: Husband vs. Wife

Release Date: May 6, 2026
Hosts: Matt & Abby Howard

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Episode Overview

This lively and candid episode brings a playful twist to relationship talk as Matt and Abby face off in a "Who Knows Who Better?" game. The high school sweethearts quiz each other on personal quirks, pet peeves, favorite things, and deep insecurities. Along the way, they banter about family life, parenting mishaps, and the joys and challenges of marriage with their signature warmth and humor. Listeners get a genuine peek behind the scenes of their (sometimes chaotic) life, filled with love, laughter, and a dash of vulnerability.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Playful Start and Game Rules

• Episode kicks off post-advertisement with Abby quizzing Matt in a rapid-fire, light-hearted manner.
• Matt admits early that Abby probably knows him better:

  "I think you know me better for sure." (02:03, Matt)

• Nearly 100 questions are at stake, with their sister-in-law keeping score, making the segment competitive but fun.

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2. Life Update: Disneyland Madness

• The couple recounts a whirlwind family trip to Disneyland—“the happiest place on Earth,” emphasizing the shift in priorities since having children.
• Abby reflects on newfound joy in her children’s happiness:

  “If my family is happy and having fun, then I'm happy and having fun. If that makes sense.” (03:10, Abby)

• They candidly discuss meltdowns, exhaustion, hotel-hopping for a YouTube review, and meeting fans:
  • Abby: “We really stretched ourselves so thin.” (08:38)
  • Matt: “Why do we do that every time?” (08:53)
• Abby shares a poignant story about meeting a fan who’d recently experienced a late-term pregnancy loss, paralleling their own journey and healing through community (06:18–07:47).

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3. Cringe and Success on Social Media

• Matt is honest about the "cringe" factor involved in getting started on social media, noting luck and the willingness to be authentic (albeit awkward) as keys to their success:

  “Just cringe your way to the top is what you got to do.” (05:54, Matt)

• Abby jokes about missing the chance to profit from selling generic advice:

  “Gosh dang it. What a missed opportunity. If they're really just telling people to just be cringy.” (06:11, Abby)

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4. Parenting Styles: "Wham" vs. "Bam"

• The duo and a friend introduce the concept of "Wham" (Whole Maximum) vs. "Bam" (Bare Minimum) personalities, determining that their family does everything to the max—even vacations:

  “We just wham so much...then you inevitably crash because no one can do that.” (09:37, Abby)

• Parenting hot take: knowing when it’s time to nap, not just believe the "I’m fine now" from their kids (09:55–10:29).

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5. Self-Care, Sick Days, and Traditions

• Abby describes taking a "spa day" and even a night at her parents’ when ill—emphasizing the importance of rest, community, and returning to childlike care for recovery (11:02–12:06).
• Matt openly advocates for moms taking breaks:

  “This lady literally carries the team on her back all the time. Okay, people, so we gotta… let this lady live.” (12:14, Matt)

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6. The "Who Knows Who Better?" Game

Notable Fun & Revealing Questions:

• Pregnancy Struggles and Cravings:

  • Abby’s least favorite symptom is "frequent peeing". (15:26)
  • Minimal weird cravings—potentially spicy foods. (16:25–16:45)

• Pet Peeves, Red Flags, and ‘The Ick’:

  • Abby abhors big egos, minor icks include Matt’s “snot thing with his throat.” (17:47–18:06)
  • Matt’s red flag: overthinking and indecisiveness. (77:28)

• Physical & Personality Favorites:

  • Physical: Matt guesses jokingly ("my butt"); Abby clarifies she loves his chest, and passionately notes his "passionate" nature. (19:16–20:41)

• Quotable Banter:

  “I just keep getting comments on it. Cause I weighed 20 more pounds than I did a year ago and it all went to my cheeks. So there’s that.” (19:39, Matt)

• Morning Routine Gripes:

  • Matt teases Abby about “stinky breath,” but it’s clear it’s all for laughs. (21:23–21:27)

Parenting & Living Habits

• Favorite Fast Food and Orders:
  • Abby: Chick-fil-A grilled chicken sandwich, ketchup, Diet Dr. Pepper (not Diet Coke!), or a Shake Shack cheeseburger. (28:42–29:54)
• Egg Obsession:
  • Abby eats hard-boiled eggs plain—nothing added, often in the car. (30:15–30:44)
• Hydrojug Companions:
  • Abby never leaves home without her massive metal water bottle. (31:11–31:23)

Style and Shopping

• Clothes:
  • Current faves: Vitality and Abercrombie. (32:07–32:22)
• First Date Outfits:
  • Abby recalls Matt’s signature “purple and lime green Nike tank.” (32:37–32:56)

Sentimental & Meaningful

• Proudest Moments & Insecurities:
  • Matt: Marrying Abby, YouTube play button. (74:53–75:01)
  • Abby: Becoming a mom. (72:36–72:52)
  • Abby’s greatest insecurity: her belly button during pregnancy (64:38), Matt’s: general insecurity/personality, but he’s actively working on it in therapy. (68:41–68:48)

Pop Culture & Personalities

• Dream Person to Meet:
  • Matt’s is Justin Bieber, expressed with empathy for Bieber’s struggles. (39:34–40:05)
• Who Would Play You in a Movie?
  • Matt: Ansel Elgort or Jacob Elordi; Abby affirms Ansel would be great. (41:23–41:52)
• Hidden Talents:
  • Abby excels at hula-hooping when not pregnant (39:00), Matt’s a secret tap dancer. (76:02–76:17)

Relationship Dynamics

• Love Languages:
  • Abby: Acts of service, most appreciated via “chore play” (meaning, helping around the house together). (59:01–59:19)
  • Matt: Physical touch—especially having his hair played with. (65:15–65:32)
• What Cheers Abby Up?
  • Baths are her instant mood-reset tool. (49:42–49:46, 55:11)
• Biggest Annoyances/Judgments:
  • Matt quietly judges wasteful financial decisions and is obsessed with avoiding microplastics. (66:45–70:19)
  • Abby: Dislikes people being "mean" to their kids, judges laziness but admits her own lapses. (62:23–62:59)

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Memorable Quotes & Moments

• Abby on Parenting:

  "If you would have told me before I had kids ... how much I won't care about my own enjoyment of things ... If my family is happy and having fun, then I'm happy and having fun." (03:10)

• On Social Media Success:

  "Just cringe your way to the top is what you got to do." (05:54, Matt)

• Abby on Love Languages:

  “Chore play, baby.” (59:13)

• On Shared Insecurities:

  “Still on the real, though, guys, I would love to see Abby in a movie. Like, I think she would crush it. Y’all. She can act.” (60:34, Matt)

• On Marriage:

  “The thing that came to my mind was marrying you. I’m going to cry. I don’t want to get emotional on this podcast.” (74:53, Matt)

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Important Timestamps

• 02:03 — Matt admits Abby likely knows him better.
• 03:10 — Abby reflects on joy found in kids' happiness.
• 05:54 — Matt’s advice for starting a channel: “just cringe your way to the top.”
• 06:18–07:47 — Abby’s emotional story of meeting a grieving mom.
• 09:01–09:39 — "Wham" vs. "Bam" (personality types).
• 11:02–12:06 — Abby discusses self-care and retreating home when sick.
• 15:26 — Abby’s least favorite pregnancy symptom: frequent peeing.
• 17:47–18:06 — Abby’s biggest ick: big egos and Matt’s snot noises.
• 21:23–21:27 — Matt joking about Abby’s “stinky breath.”
• 28:42–29:54 — Abby’s fast food obsessions: Chick-fil-A and Shake Shack.
• 39:34–40:05 — Matt’s dream to meet Justin Bieber and empathy for child stars.
• 59:13 — Chore play as a form of love language.
• 64:38 — Abby’s pregnancy insecurity: belly button.
• 68:41–68:48 — Matt shares about being in therapy for general insecurities.
• 72:36–72:52 — Abby’s proudest moment: becoming a mom.
• 74:53–75:01 — Matt: “The thing that came to my mind was marrying you. I’m going to cry.”

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Game Results & Final Thoughts

• Abby narrowly wins the game by half a point, after a series of playful, revealing, and occasionally heartfelt rounds.
• The episode ends with mutual affection and encouragement for listeners to review, subscribe, and reach out with feedback or guest suggestions.

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Tone & Style

Throughout the episode, Matt and Abby are playful, unfiltered, and loving—willing to poke fun at each other’s quirks and vulnerabilities, but always circling back to support and affection. Their warmth, transparency, and openness make the episode both relatable and entertaining.

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For Listeners

This episode is a must for fans of candid relationship talk, cozy married life, and anyone craving community and honesty about both the silly and serious sides of love and family.

Transcript

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[B]

What's my favorite quality about you?

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My butt is what you've told me in the past.

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When have I ever said your butt? That's your favorite quality of yourself.

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No, that's not true.

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What is my red flag?

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I can't think of a single one.

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I said I'm a hothead.

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I was gonna say that.

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I was gonna say that.

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Totally was gonna say that.

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Zero points still for Matt.

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What's one thing I wish you did

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more of what I wrote down.

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Ding, ding, ding, ding. Welcome back, people.

[B]

Matt is so awkward today. Is it? Cause your outfit doesn't match?

[A]

Guys, it just came to my attention that my outfit does not match. I'm wearing blue shorts with this. What is this called?

[B]

They don't match. This is just such a wintry top with such summery shorts and as a bold color combo. But I think you. Did you intentionally match me?

[A]

You know, I, I really dropped the, dropped the ball today. I actually like hired a stylist to help me figure out clothing and like how to, how to dress myself. And I should have just like picked out something that she picked out. This is like, this is where I think. This is old stuff that I mix and match that.

[B]

I hired a stylist. So touching.

[A]

Crazy.

[B]

When you did that. I was really like, what? He's going through an identity crisis for sure.

[A]

Well, we got invited to the iHeartradio Music Awards and I was like, I don't want to look like a bozo.

[B]

Did you wear something she picked out?

[A]

Yeah, for that I did. Yeah.

[B]

Okay.

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She picked, she picked out my outfit for that award show.

[B]

Good.

[A]

Anyway guys, welcome back. Today we're going to be seeing who knows who better. Yeah, it's just place your bets right now. Yeah, place your bets. Who do you guys think knows the other person more?

[B]

What do you think, Matt?

[A]

I think you know me more.

[B]

Yeah, for sure.

[A]

I think you know me better for sure. But we'll see. We've got our.

[B]

I literally dedicate my entire life to studying you and being an expert on Matt Howard.

[A]

Well, we have our sister in law to literally take tallies today on who gets the majority of these questions. Right. We've got like almost 100 questions to go through.

[B]

Can I Say that the only way I'm going to lose this is if you don't know yourself well enough. That's literally the only way that I'm gonna lose this. And I guarantee I'll be like, hey, no, this is actually the case where you'd be like, oh, yeah, you're right.

[A]

We shall see. It's gonna be crazy. Okay, guys, well, we're gonna get into it. Should we give a little life update? Tell people about, like, what's been going on in our life?

[B]

Sure.

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We just did.

[B]

What is going on?

[A]

We just went to the most magical place on earth, Disneyland.

[B]

And no, I think Disneyland is the happiest place on Earth.

[A]

That's right.

[B]

Disney World is the most magical place on Earth.

[A]

We went to the happiest place on Earth.

[B]

I'm already planning our next Disney trip. And then our next Disney trip.

[A]

Babe, I don't know how to tell you this. I might need to be on a Disney hiatus. I've had a little. I've had a little too much Disney.

[B]

The kids had a great time, though. And actually, that's something I, like, have been thinking about a lot, is that if you would have told me before I had kids and actually even shortly after having our first kids, how much I won't care about my own enjoyment of things and how much I 100% care about, like, if my family is happy and having fun, then I'm happy and having fun. If that makes sense.

[A]

Totally.

[B]

Like, so when the kids were just, like, having the time of their lives, I was like, I haven't done a single thing that I was like, oh, this would be my personal first choice to do right now. But it becomes your first choice because it's what your kids want to do.

[A]

Ah, I see what you're saying.

[B]

That makes sense.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[B]

Because I was like, I didn't really know necessarily. Like, if you were to write my ideal day, I don't know that we would do what we did, you know? But it was still, like, so fun because the kids were having so much fun.

[A]

Oh, yeah. I'm just amazed at how our kids have fun, like, going up and down

[B]

stairs, you know, it doesn't take much.

[A]

It really doesn't take much. And then I'm like, we also just

[B]

really happy, easy to please kids. I feel like.

[A]

Yeah. But then I'm like, wait, why do we spend all this money if they just want to go up and down the stairs? And that's, like, their. Their way of having a good time, you know, they.

[B]

But they make Peak memories. They talk about their Disney experiences forever, every single day.

[A]

Yeah, no, it was. It was good. I. I will say to meet a

[B]

lot of you guys.

[A]

Yeah. Oh, we got to meet a lot of you guys at Disneyland, which I thought was really neat. I feel like Disney just has our people. Like, that's our crowd.

[B]

Seriously.

[A]

Just like a lot of young families, a lot of happy, jolly. Just good old. Good old boys. It was sweet. There was a couple at the airport in Orange County. On the way home, there's this couple that, like, came up to me and they're like, can you. Can you, like, get. Give us the inside scoop on how to make, like, content? Because, like, like, the husband was like this. You were. I think you were, like, waiting by our gate. And then I was like, watching our boys, I say, had a lightsaber battle in the middle of the. Of the airport.

[B]

Time to catch you.

[A]

I'm surprised the TSA didn't take away their lightsabers, but.

[B]

But, like, I feel like I'm worried about that. But we've taken them through TSA before, but.

[A]

Okay, sorry, I'm getting, like, on a sidetrack, but I feel like I gave this guy bad advice because I basically just said, like, you need to. I was like, yeah, just go ahead and start. But it's like, no, I think. I think, like, I don't know. I. I could write an entire.

[B]

That's always your advice.

[A]

Yes, yes.

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But this feels like good advice.

[A]

Yeah, but I think, like, what I. What I should have acknowledged, though, was what worked for us was not only did we get lucky, because I feel like anybody that has success, anything you. There's always an element of luck. But I think what helped us succeed in, like, the.

[B]

Was being cringy.

[A]

Probably.

[B]

Yeah, probably just tell him that next time.

[A]

Just cringe your way to the top is what you got to do. You got to just cringe. And there's actually no. There's a lot of people that say that. Like, I've even seen, like, Alex Hormozy and all these, like, really self help people are like, you got to be willing to be cringe.

[B]

Like, all this. I could have written. I could have done a. What do you call those online course.

[A]

You could sell a course, babe.

[B]

Gosh dang it. What a missed opportunity. If they're really just telling people to just be cringy.

[A]

Yeah, I know, but I'm sure they

[B]

have better advice than that. But yeah, it was a really cool experience getting to meet some of you. I even got to meet a Mom outside of Goofy's kitchen. Actually, I said I wasn't gonna cry on this episode, so I had Matt put the tissues away. But she had just experienced a 17 week loss of a baby girl, which is like crazy parallel to our life, and then went to Disney. It had only been a month since the loss because she always plans a trip to Disney during her pregnancy. And they still continued to go on the trip. But this is like them on the trip and just reminded me because we did go to Disney right after losing Emerson. Like, I think it was about a month after. And it's like that experience is so weird. Like, it's good to, like, get out and be around people and to be busy and do fun, like, things as a family. But then also it's just so confusing and the juxtaposition of, like, how you feel inside your own head and then like being in Disneyland, you know what I mean? So I just, my heart went out to her, like, so much. I really haven't stopped thinking about her since I met her. So I really appreciate, like, her coming up and saying that, you know, in whatever capacity me sharing my story on this platform, like, has touched her and meant something to her. Like, that is just so humbling and really cool and it really was encouraging. But I just like hate that we also have that same shared experience. You know what I mean?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But met a lot of you guys also. Some of you really could have seen us and not said anything because you might have been like, oh, they're falling apart. Maybe don't. Because, I mean, we surely did have some serious meltdowns. I almost, I think I have personally had a couple meltdowns.

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Well, I think.

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Oh yeah, I had at least one.

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When we were at the parade. I was so tired. I thought I was going to fall asleep while standing up.

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Like, I was like, I'm either going to kill my husband or like, I need an ice cream cone. Like, I don't know which one's going to happen.

[A]

Yeah. And. And you know, then we didn't do naps during the day, which we switched

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hotels every single day. So every single day we please watch that YouTube video.

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Yeah, we got.

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Whenever that may come out.

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The YouTube videos coming up, mark your calendars.

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Don't mark it because who knows when it's gonna come?

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But okay, yeah, we're. We need to get to like a consistent uploading schedule back on our YouTube channel again, guys. But it will be coming out.

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But anyway, we switched hotels every day because we were trying out all the hotels for this YouTube video we're making just also while we were just taking our kids to Disney for fun, but then we really. We really stretched ourselves so thin.

[A]

Yeah. Why do we do that? Why do we do that every time?

[B]

We always go so hard. We do, like, we cannot be chill. We've actually been talking about this together.

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We both go.

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So our friend Caitlin. Shout out Caitlin, because she probably is listening to this. If not, I'll tell her to tune in because she always talks about, like, the difference between a wham person and a bam person.

[A]

I don't know what it is. Addie, please explain a wham and a bam for anybody.

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A wham person is a whole, a maximum person, and a bam is a bare. A minimum person.

[A]

Great.

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So, like, the people that do the bare ass minimum, you can do that. We're unfortunately both whams about, like, certain things. And I feel like vacationing. We just wham so much.

[A]

Wham. Yeah.

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And everything. And then it's just like, well, then you inevitably are going to crash because no one can do that. Our kids are whams as well as it seems like they're going so hard. And we're like, but for what? Like, this is supposed to be for fun. Let's all relax.

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Yeah, here's. Here's my only. My only parenting hot take that I will bring up. I feel like, what we need to be better. And I include myself in this because I could have stepped in more. But I think. I think we. I just think when our kid. If our kid is, like, actually losing their shit, we just need to be like, okay, it's nap time.

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I tried to do that.

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We're going down. No. But then Griffin was like, oh, no, I'm all better now. And I'm like, no, you're not, dude. You need to go.

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We started literally walking back to the hotel, and he goes, see, I'm happy now.

[A]

No, no. But then we should have been like, no, you're taking a nap, bro. Like, you're so.

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I tried to tell you. I was like, he's lying to us.

[A]

He's not happy anyway. Okay, well, that's a life update. Screwed, guys, again. We're going to be seeing who knows the other person more, and we have a bazillion questions to get through, so we better. We better get on with all this again. Place your bets. Who do you think is going to win? Go ahead and comment those.

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And for the first question, I took a spa day right after getting back from Disney, so I'm feeling more rejuvenated than you are probably.

[A]

Well, yeah. Can we talk about that?

[B]

I just left you and the kids. I was like, bye.

[A]

Wait, no, we got to talk about the night where you were sick and you just went to your parents or your parents apartment and left me at home.

[B]

I am not even kidding you. The sinus pressure, I feel like it's specific to pregnancy thing. Like it was the sinus pressure in my head in conjunction with the pregnancy. I was literally like, nothing will push me further to like breaking than that. And I was like day 15 of this.

[A]

Yeah.

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And I was just also just like under all these lights after recording one day. And I was like, I'm checking out of my life. And you know what? It felt so good to go be a kid again. What a blessing that is. I can literally just go to my parents house.

[A]

And your dad wouldn't pick you up medicine.

[B]

And my dad went and got me medicine from the store. He could have surely just gone to our house.

[A]

They let you pick out the TV show you're watching.

[B]

They watched whatever I wanted to watch. They watched a whole season of Love on the Spectrum with you.

[A]

Which, by the way, can we interview more of the people, please?

[B]

Madison and Tyler, please?

[A]

Someone, if anybody knows Madison and Tyler, can they please let them know we would love to interview them.

[B]

I cried, Matt. I cried. I think all of America cried.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Anyway, they watched a whole season of that. They got me dinner. They bought me dinner. They. They literally. I just checked out.

[A]

Also, I fully support Abby taking a break. I think. I think moms out there know what it's like to be sick and then being a mom at the same. It can be a little crazy. Crazy. So I'm. I'm very glad that she was able to take a little bit of time for herself because this lady literally carries the team on her back all the time. Okay, people, so we gotta. Let's. Let's let this lady live.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

I'm so glad that you're able to celebrate Mother's Day with your mom and just do some girl stuff while I hung out with the kids. You deserve that.

[B]

Yeah, it was for Mother's Day.

[A]

For Mother's Day. Okay. Can we go?

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[B]

Okay, so here's round one for you, Matt.

[A]

All right, Round one.

[B]

Okay, what's my least favorite pregnancy symptom so far?

[A]

Least favorite pregnancy symptom? Oh yeah, you're the one writing it down, I'm guessing. Gosh dang it. I cannot think of what your least favorite symptom is right now. It's like not even do you feel

[B]

like I complain a lot about it?

[A]

Oh, frick. I have no idea. I literally have no idea. Ready? Tell me.

[B]

I'm not a complainer.

[A]

What is it? What is it? What's the main.

[B]

Frequent peeing.

[A]

Frequent peeing.

[B]

It's just like as soon as I get to bed, I'm like, I just want to sleep. And then I'm like, my brain's like, you have to pee. And then another side of my brain is like, no, you don't. And then I'm like, it's like, no, you do have to pee. And then I go. And then I don't have to pee.

[A]

But I feel like that's a thing even when you're not pregnant though.

[B]

Touche.

[A]

I was off.

[B]

I mean, I'm mini ninjas today. I peed twice in a 45 minute class for the kids. So. Okay, so no points for Matt so far.

[A]

Zero.

[B]

What is my weirdest pregnancy craving this time around?

[A]

Weirdest pregnancy craving. There really aren't any weird pregnancy cravings. Honestly, I can't even think of one. Can you think of one?

[B]

Think of one.

[A]

Frick, I can't think of it. I literally cannot think of anything at all.

[B]

What is. Okay, three.

[A]

I'm gonna try to read one.

[B]

None.

[A]

None. Thank you. Gosh. Okay. Does that count as a point?

[B]

I don't really think I've had any cravings.

[A]

You have? No. Yeah. You've no. There's no. No cravings.

[B]

Maybe some rules.

[A]

What?

[B]

Okay, we get maybe, maybe spicy foods.

[A]

You don't even like spicy food. What are you talking about?

[B]

I do.

[A]

You've not been getting spicy now I do. Like what?

[B]

Name one thing I got. I put hot sauce on my breakfast tacos at Snooze.

[A]

Was that like three weeks ago?

[B]

I don't even remember that time. And I got spicy curry.

[A]

When did you get spicy curry?

[B]

When I was at my parents house.

[A]

Oh my gosh. Okay, well.

[B]

Okay, so Matt's not doing so well.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

If I were a red flag, what would it be?

[A]

If you were a red. What type of question is that?

[B]

Like what is my red flag?

[A]

What is your red flag? Maybe.

[B]

No, wait, let me write it down. Yeah, if you come up with an answer for this.

[A]

I'm not coming up with it. I'm not coming. I can't think of a single one. Here's the. Here's the thing, guys. I can't think of a single red flag for this woman.

[B]

Okay, what's your red flag?

[A]

I. I don't got any red flags.

[B]

You're So I said I'm a hothead.

[A]

I was gonna say that. That's good. That's what I was gonna say.

[B]

I was gonna say that. I was gonna say that.

[A]

I totally, totally was gonna say that.

[B]

Point still for Matt.

[A]

Still have zero points.

[B]

What's something that gives me the ick? Oh, let me write a novel.

[A]

Oh, okay, wait.

[B]

Let me write it down.

[A]

Work, brain work. Can't think of anything today.

[B]

Okay, I got an answer. It's right here.

[A]

What gives you the ick is probably.

[B]

You can't think of one.

[A]

Entitlement. I'm gonna say entitlement.

[B]

Oh, it's not entitlement. I hate ego. Someone with a big ego, that icks me out so bad.

[A]

That is another one.

[B]

But entitlement, that's not something I would think of.

[A]

Really?

[B]

No, this. I said you're snot thing with your throat.

[A]

You're snot thing with your throat. What the hell?

[B]

When you look at me, you're like,

[A]

okay, here's the thing. Here's the thing, babe. I come from a family where you go.

[B]

You do that.

[A]

He literally makes that sound sometimes I do that.

[B]

You live with a boy.

[A]

Because I have congestion in my body, and I'm trying to breathe. Sorry. I just want to be able to breathe out of my own nose.

[B]

I know sometimes I catch you and I'm like, I know you have to breathe, but this has to stop. Okay, so. Didn't get that one right. If you would have said ego, I would have given you a half point, because that is my biggest ick. That's like a massive.

[A]

Yeah, ego is a big one, but,

[B]

like, my smaller ick is your throat thing.

[A]

How would you rate my ego on, like, a scale of 1 to 10?

[B]

I'm gonna give it a 5.

[A]

So I'm just like a normal ego?

[B]

Yeah, normal.

[A]

Normal. Normal amount of.

[B]

Yeah, normal ego.

[A]

Okay, that's good. All right. I feel.

[B]

I feel like that's five and a half.

[A]

Five and a half.

[B]

Okay, I'll put you at the 55.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Okay. What do I think is your best quality? Oh, let me write it down. Okay. I feel like we should. Personality or physical thing?

[A]

What is. Wait, you're. You're thinking of my best quality or your best quality?

[B]

No. What's my favorite quality about you? Personality and physical.

[A]

Okay. Physical. I'm gonna say probably my chest. That's what you used to. Or my butt is what you've told me in the past.

[B]

When have I ever said your butt? That's your favorite quality of Yourself.

[A]

No, that's not true. I just keep getting comments on it. Cause I weighed 20 more pounds than I did a year ago and it all went to my cheeks. So there's that.

[B]

And Caleb were talking about that.

[A]

Caleb was saying that I have a dump truck now.

[B]

It's so shocking. I try not to vocalize it.

[A]

Okay, okay, wait.

[B]

Okay, so you got the physical one

[A]

on my physical one with my chest? Yes, I do it. That's why I'm hitting the bench right now. I'm trying to get all this. Trying to move all this mass from my butt cheeks to my chest.

[B]

It doesn't work like that.

[A]

Chest area.

[B]

Okay, what's the personality?

[A]

One personality. Is the friendly, friendly guy happy? Oh, I love that golden retriever energy.

[B]

It's not the one I said, though.

[A]

I just, like, would talk to. I talk to anybody. Talk to the driver. Talk to Uber driver.

[B]

That would be friendly. But I didn't say that one. You are very friendly, and I love that about you. I said you're passionate.

[A]

Ah, yes. That is also one of them. So did I get a half point?

[B]

Yes. No, you get a point.

[A]

I get a point. I get a point.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Amazing.

[B]

Okay, now it's your turn to read something.

[A]

All right, now my turn to read it.

[B]

You can write them down.

[A]

So next up, I'm asking Abby questions.

[B]

This is round one for me.

[A]

What is my biggest pet peeve when it comes to your morning routine? I don't even know what that would be. I have no idea. Do I even have a. Do I even have a pet peeve?

[B]

I'm so not annoying.

[A]

Okay, I got it.

[B]

Oh, for my morning routine.

[A]

Yeah, Got it.

[B]

Oh, wow. Is he gonna do something about my stinky eggs?

[A]

Nope. Something else that's stinky. What?

[B]

What is it? I don't know. Something else that's stinky.

[A]

But see, now I feel like an a hole for even.

[B]

Oh, my breath.

[A]

We can just. We can just.

[B]

My stinky breath.

[A]

Let's just edit that out. We don't even need that anymore.

[B]

I don't care. Is that what it is? My breath? Okay, here's the other thing that's. That's kind of messed up about that, though, is that in the mornings, Matt's, like, begging to kiss me, and I'm, like, keeping my mouth closed because I know I have stinky breath.

[A]

I just had to pick something, babe. I actually don't really care. Like, I. Like, I'd rather.

[B]

Now you're not going to get any kisses.

[A]

And that's why all morning Dang it.

[B]

I'm going to.

[A]

I just did that. I just screwed myself over. I'm an idiot.

[B]

I sleep with my mouth completely closed, and so it's just not good for airflow and circulation. I don't think I'm going to get a point.

[A]

What's something I say all the time?

[B]

Oh, I wasn't that. You say all the time. Oh, my gosh. So many things, but they're so niche. You repeat yourself a lot.

[A]

Yeah, I do.

[B]

And I'm like. Sometimes I actually have to stop and be like, do you know that we've had this exact conversation about four times?

[A]

Got it. You say, what do I say with the boy? I'm gonna help you out. What do I say with the boys? All the time? This is like, me and Augie and

[B]

Griffin when you're playing.

[A]

Just. Just. It's like a celebratory phrase that I say.

[B]

Booyah.

[A]

No, that's what you say.

[B]

Oh, that's what I say.

[A]

What do I say with the boys?

[B]

You say three words. Boom shakalaka.

[A]

I don't say three words. Three words.

[B]

That's what I say. Three words.

[A]

Yeah. Three words.

[B]

Oh, yeah, baby.

[A]

Oh, yeah, baby. Oh, yeah, baby. I think that counts. We'll give it to you.

[B]

Okay. Thank you. You do say that.

[A]

Okay. What do I always forget? What is something that I always forget, babe?

[B]

Everything. Matt lost a whole iPhone in Disney.

[A]

Oh, frick. I did lose my entire.

[B]

Dramatic.

[A]

Yeah. Yep. It was Abby's old phone that we were using.

[B]

No service Airplane mode.

[A]

And it was on Airplane Mode.

[B]

Had all of our YouTube video on.

[A]

Yeah. And the entire YouTube video that we'd filmed and, like, bought the hotel, like, stay with guys. These Disneyland hotels are freaking expensive. The Cal. The Grand Californian. Over $1,000 a night. Okay, so. So we're vlogging this on iPhone. Not worth it at all. Sorry. Does that a spoiler for our YouTube video?

[B]

Oh, yeah. Pretend you didn't hear that.

[A]

Pretend you didn't hear that. Go watch our YouTube video. But.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Anyway.

[B]

What's something that you forget?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So many things.

[A]

Oh, I know what it is. The most common thing that I, like, lose.

[B]

Most common thing that you lose. Oh, your AirPods.

[A]

AirPods. Ding, ding, ding, ding. He.

[B]

How many AirPods have you bought?

[A]

My three pairs. One for you, and they broke, and then one for me, and then I lost them somehow, and then. No, no. I think we've only had, I think, fully bought in two pairs.

[B]

I'm like, no, no.

[A]

Shame. Yeah.

[B]

I feel like you lose those all the time.

[A]

And next question. What do I complain about most?

[B]

Like, as far as, like, what I do, what the kids do, what our dog does, or just in general?

[A]

I. I haven't thought of it yet. I'm trying to think of, like, what I complain about the most.

[B]

I'm thinking of some things.

[A]

Just give me one. Let's see if you can read my mind.

[B]

Like the heat in Arizona in the summer.

[A]

That's true. I do. I do complain about that.

[B]

Because you're an old man.

[A]

But it's gotten better now that we have a pool.

[B]

You complain about efficiency.

[A]

Efficient. Yeah, I like to be efficient. You're right.

[B]

But you're not very efficient.

[A]

I'm working on that. We're trying to get better on that.

[B]

You complain about. You're not a big complainer. So I'm just, like, thinking of, like, what it could be.

[A]

Yeah, I don't really identify as a complainer, honestly. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Let's go on the next one. This one.

[B]

Oh, no. You complain about. You complain about, like, wanting to, like, have your physique be. That's a new thing that you've been really.

[A]

I guess that's my new fixation, is I want to. I want to be absolutely shredded.

[B]

Is that timing for me, Honestly?

[A]

What? I just. I know that I'm gonna have no time to work out once we have another baby here, so I'm. I'm trying to get my. My fitness time in now. You know, that was actually. I had this idea, like, oh, yeah, I'm gonna go to the gym once. I'm like, a dad. No. No shot, you know?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So.

[B]

No, no. No one can think that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Do I get the point?

[A]

I don't think. I don't think. I just don't think that question.

[B]

You're so hard to play.

[A]

I think that question works.

[B]

Okay, next.

[A]

What is one thing you do that always makes me laugh? I know what it is.

[B]

Aw.

[A]

Yep. I'm writing it down right now. I'm thinking of something, like, Silly that you do think Lucille Ball, sort of, like physical comedy.

[B]

What do you mean?

[A]

Oh, I wrote down butt slaps where you're, like. Where you go to the side and you're, like, slapping your butt on the. You know, that's niche. Yeah, that's super niche. But I have a video of you the first time we went to Hawaii together where you're in a blue bikini.

[B]

It's been a thing I've been doing

[A]

for a long time. Side of your butt, like, right on

[B]

the beach, when I'm trying to be sexy.

[A]

Yeah, you were trying. Yeah. I think that's what. That's actually what you go your go to when you're trying to be sexy too. If you do that,

[B]

does it work?

[A]

No.

[B]

That's like your biggest gripe. You're like, take it seriously. Just a little glimpse into our romantic life.

[A]

That's romantic. Anyway.

[B]

That is special. That is a special thing. I didn't. I would not have guessed that one.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

Okay, round one.

[A]

After round one. What are we at for round one right now, Addie?

[B]

Five questions. Score is two to two. We don't know each other.

[A]

Two to two. We're tied right now, babe. We're tied.

[B]

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[A]

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[B]

I know you've been trying to take it.

[A]

I know every night when I put it, like, underneath my head and like, double stack the pillows, you know, you just take it right back.

[B]

Give it back, man. I need to get you one of your own, honestly.

[A]

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[B]

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[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

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[A]

Yeah, there's like 17 answers for every single one of these.

[B]

Okay, next up, what's my favorite fast food order? Down to the exact sauce.

[A]

Okay, it's gonna be Chick Fil A.

[B]

Wait, let me write it down. Let me write it down.

[A]

Chick Fil a grilled chicken sandwich with. Oh, wait, do you want to write it down?

[B]

No, go ahead and say it.

[A]

Chick Fil a Grilled chicken sandwich with ranch. Because you don't like Chick Fil a sauce. And with. So that's the sauce and then the drink. You get a Diet Coke.

[B]

But at Chick Fil A, you get a diet.

[A]

I feel like you did get a Diet Coke anywhere, though.

[B]

No.

[A]

You get the diet lemonade at Chick Fil A. Nope. What do you get at Chick fil A?

[B]

Diet Dr. Pepper.

[A]

Diet Dr. Pepper. Chick Fil A.

[B]

What other sauce?

[A]

What other sauce? Probably ketchup for your French fries.

[B]

Yes. Okay. You get a point for that. Okay, I guess you're going with Chick Fil a as my favorite fast food.

[A]

Was I wrong? What's your favorite fast food?

[B]

No, I think that's right. I think that's. Oh, no, I think of another one.

[A]

What?

[B]

What's my favorite fast food? I especially like it at airports. My mouth is actually watering right now. Addie knows it.

[A]

Oh, Shake Shack.

[B]

Yeah. Boom.

[A]

Shake Shack.

[B]

Shake Shack is so good.

[A]

And when you go to Shake Shack, I think you just get a. Like a.

[B]

You just get a plain burger, plain cheeseburger with ketchup. And it's so good.

[A]

And French fries.

[B]

Why is it so good?

[A]

We usually. We split the fries.

[B]

Usually. Usually split the fries because it's a lot of fries.

[A]

All right.

[B]

Okay. What's the exact way I like my eggs right now? This is way too easy.

[A]

The exact way you like. You just want to do hard boiled every time?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Hard boiled.

[B]

How many you.

[A]

Three. Hard boiled eggs.

[B]

What do I do to them?

[A]

You poke a little hole in it before?

[B]

No, but once they're prepared.

[A]

Once they're prepared, you like to eat them warm. You don't like them cold. You don't. You don't want to make them too chilly.

[B]

Not too chilly. What else do I do to them?

[A]

You put salt, pepperoni.

[B]

Absolutely nothing.

[A]

Oh, okay. Dang it.

[B]

False.

[A]

Did I get that? Does that.

[B]

You get it?

[A]

I feel like I get that one.

[B]

Literally just don't do anything. I literally just am in my car eating eggs. I literally saw a guy. He let me in. I was like,

[A]

I. I cheers to you.

[B]

Good.

[A]

I've Also caught on to your egg thing. I still have two of my hard boiled eggs to go eat out.

[B]

I know. I noticed you didn't eat your eggs today.

[A]

I need to eat those.

[B]

Okay. What item do I always carry with me besides my phone?

[A]

What item?

[B]

This is hard because I don't carry

[A]

a lot of things, you know?

[B]

Oh, I got it. Guy. Got. I got it, got it, got it.

[A]

Your water. Your water bottle.

[B]

Yeah. That's everywhere.

[A]

You. You have that thing every. That thing's a weapon, too. You never want to. You never want to mess with Abby Howard because this girl has her freaking hydro jug and she will whack you

[B]

just like every other white girl.

[A]

She will send you. Yeah. You don't. Don't mess with white girls these days. People, okay? Because they got their metal hydro jug that.

[B]

That 40 ouncer fully filled that.

[A]

It'll knock you out cold.

[B]

Packs a punch.

[A]

You crush your butt. Oh, I just.

[B]

You are crushing round two. Matt, if you lost me in Target, what section would you find me in? Ooh, the.

[A]

Probably the baby set. Probably the baby clothes section. Baby clothes? Yeah, like, probably. Probably like the kids. The looking at the kids clothes.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. Kids clothes. I think you win that one.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I'm not writing these down anymore. Is that a problem?

[A]

Yeah, I think we can just.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

We can read each other's minds.

[B]

Okay, here we go. Here we go. Here we go. Where do I buy most of my clothes?

[A]

Oh, man. Wait. Yeah.

[B]

There's only one answer.

[A]

Oh, vitality. You just get. You've been getting a lot of your clothes.

[B]

That one. But then what's my other one?

[A]

You just put in a massive order from Abrom. I think you spent like $500 at Abro.

[B]

I didn't spend that much, but I did spend a lot. Nothing fits. What are you going to do?

[A]

What are you going to do?

[B]

Okay, you crushed round five. I think you got all those right.

[A]

All right, now we're on to Abby. What was I wearing on our first date? I don't even know what I was wearing on our first date.

[B]

Oh, it had to be one of those mank tops. I know what it was. I feel like it was that purple and lime green Nike one. You know which one I'm talking about?

[A]

Oh, my gosh. Yes. Wait. Yes, you're right. You're right. Yeah, it was the, like. Yeah, the purple. Yep. The purple mank top.

[B]

Yeah. With the shorts that didn't match. They're black and teal.

[A]

We have a picture of us from when you. I think it Was when you asked me to your prom and I'm wearing. I think I'm wearing the. The tank top. I think.

[B]

Yeah, you never had, like, the best. See?

[A]

Why do I still think that's a cool shirt? That just shows you, like, how lacking my style is.

[B]

Personal preference.

[A]

What was the first video we ever filmed together?

[B]

Our wedding video. Unintentionally.

[A]

Yeah, actually, it. No, no, you're wrong. Wait, I'm giving you the answer right now. You gotta try a little bit harder. You just made a frowny face. It was before our wedding video. Wait, no, I lied. The wedding video was.

[B]

Yeah, I was like, what did you possibly record?

[A]

That's the first one. Yeah. Because the first YouTube video we ever posted was of us doing the taste of Chicago.

[B]

That's so funny.

[A]

Yeah. Wow. I can't believe. That was almost seven years ago. But the wedding video was recorded before that. We just didn't post.

[B]

We need to go back and watch that video.

[A]

Yeah. It'd be kind of fun to do a series of, like, re watching all of our old videos.

[B]

I'm too afraid. Revisiting ghosts of my previous self.

[A]

What did I want to be when I was younger?

[B]

So many things. But I feel like first and foremost, you wanted to be a Broadway performer.

[A]

That's true.

[B]

But I feel like we could also put in there. Pro skateboarder.

[A]

Pro skateboarder would also be a snowboarder.

[B]

Just going pro, you know, making a big splash somewhere.

[A]

What was like. What was like the. The big thing, though?

[B]

A singer. Yeah, always.

[A]

Yeah. Got like, videos. I think you took videos of me when I would, like, serenade you on some of our first dates.

[B]

Yes. That we weren't actually even technically boyfriend and girlfriend. You were singing to me in your parents living room with a guitar.

[A]

It's true.

[B]

I was spoon.

[A]

Those are good times. What pet did I have as a kid? And what was its name? Why do I not want to. Actually, can we cut that one out? Because I feel like this is the. This, this is like the security question. Like all my bank accounts and stuff. I feel like we shouldn't both.

[B]

You chose that one as your security.

[A]

It's like. It's like, what? Like, what's your first pet?

[B]

Well, let me say it. And then we're gonna bleep it out because I'm getting this point named.

[A]

That's gonna get me scammed. Don't say that.

[B]

I got that right. I nailed that.

[A]

You're right. You're right. What Disney carry. What Disney character would I want to be Or What, What Disney character would I want to play?

[B]

Aladdin, probably.

[A]

Yeah. Actually, yeah.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I, you know, I was in Aladdin the Musical Jr Aladdin Jr When I was a kid.

[B]

I feel like you just want to kiss Jasmine.

[A]

I did want to kiss Jasmine.

[B]

What were you in Aladdin Jr? You weren't Aladdin.

[A]

I. There's all these pictures. There's these pictures of me, like, flexing my muscles, like I'm trying to look all tough and stuff.

[B]

You were Aladdin.

[A]

I wasn't Aladdin. I was, I, I was Iago. No, I was just like a townsperson. Like I didn't have a role. My first role in a musical was playing Bundles. Yeah, I played Bundles.

[B]

The whole thing. Actually, I just read Aladdin again last night because I saw him up to date on all the characters.

[A]

That's right.

[B]

Because he was flipping out. That's the only thing that would get. Calm down. Reading him a book.

[A]

That's sweet.

[B]

It was sweet. The genie would be a fun one, but you that, you're not that type of character. You're more of an Aladdin.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

We're still even. Okay, guys. Yes.

[B]

Round two is easier than round one.

[A]

Okay. That's crazy. I can't believe we're still tied right now.

[B]

Round three. Ding, ding, ding. Am I a morning person or a night person?

[A]

Definitely. Wait, wait. Has it.

[B]

I don't know.

[A]

It used to be. I feel like we're, I feel like morning. You're a morning person.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. You're a morning person.

[B]

Yeah, I'm a morning person. Last night it was like 9:15. We're watching a show. I'm asleep.

[A]

Yeah, you were like. You're like, babe, it's too late. Gotta go to bed. It's literally nine o'. Clock.

[B]

I'm so tired. Okay. Am I? But in the morning, I feel like I'm like, sharp as a whip. You know what I mean?

[A]

Yeah. We're both up at six.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Well, that's what our kids wake up.

[B]

So it's sunny out.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

Am I more introverted or extroverted?

[A]

You are definitely. Definitely more extroverted, I would say.

[B]

Really?

[A]

You're an extrovert.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

I would say. I think, I think so.

[B]

Yeah. I would agree. I guess.

[A]

You're very social.

[B]

Very social. Very social girl.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

Pool or beach? For me?

[A]

Pool. Your pool?

[B]

Yeah, probably more pool.

[A]

I, I, we. I moved you to the beach, baby. You wanted to move back.

[B]

I love the beach too, though.

[A]

I think you do. Yeah.

[B]

But the beach is just so much more work. Like you gotta pack everything. Whereas, like, at the pool, you already got a chair, an umbrella.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Then drinks accessible. Yeah. Maybe pool. That makes me lame. I wish I was more beach, but I like. I like both. Okay. What's my favorite genre of music? I actually have one, so jazz. Oh, okay. That might actually be it.

[A]

You like a little Louis?

[B]

That wasn't my answer, though.

[A]

You like. You also like. What's the guy who wrote the song?

[B]

Mrs. Leon Bridges.

[A]

Leon Bridges? You like some Leon Bridges?

[B]

I do like that. What else do I like?

[A]

You just. You love Ben Rector. Like, you love that, like, sweet, like, love song.

[B]

I was gonna say, like, single song.

[A]

Right.

[B]

I kind of like a folk vibe, too.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I took a History of Jazz class.

[A]

That's so sweet that you took a History of Jazz class.

[B]

What's my hidden talent? Oh, I have one. And if you don't get it, I'm running it down. Don't look at this. If you get this wrong, this is a secret talent that people would not know. Listeners probably don't know this, but I.

[A]

Now I'm, like, getting so nervous.

[B]

Could win any competition at this.

[A]

No.

[B]

I don't know if Addie knows.

[A]

Oh, you could win any competition. Ping pong your pink.

[B]

No.

[A]

What?

[B]

I can never do a spin, and that's why I always lose that.

[A]

Hula hooping. Yes. You're. Are you great Hula Hooper?

[B]

I'm excellent at hula hooping, but something I found out is that when I'm pregnant, I can't hula hoop. I tried with the kids, and we were at the Dollar Tree, and I was like, give me. Give your mama Hulu. And I couldn't do it. I was like, let me show you how it's done, boys. And then I literally couldn't. So the belly got in the way. Okay. Wow, you crushed that.

[A]

Next up, Abby, Question for you. Who would be my dream person to meet?

[B]

Dream person to meet? I'm probably gonna say, like, Justin Bieber.

[A]

That's literally the person that's, like, the person. The first person that popped into my brain.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I got it right.

[A]

I will say, as I've gotten older, though, I feel bad for that guy, you know, I feel like he went through some serious trauma and then smoked a ton of weed. And I think he's, like, on the other side of it now, but I think he, like, went through some. I think he went through some hard stuff.

[B]

Yeah, I'm sure.

[A]

Just to, like, be in the spotlight as a young kid, like, I. Yeah, I don't know. I don't want to get into too deep into that. But anyway.

[B]

Well, Disney have a quote recently of saying, like that the industry cared a lot about his skill, but not about his soul or something like that.

[A]

Ooh, that's good.

[B]

I can't miss. I'm gonna misquote him, but I think he said something along those line.

[A]

I think any person that's ever had any incline crazy could relate in some way.

[B]

That would be crazy to grow up like that child.

[A]

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And it's hard to understand what that's like.

[B]

Remember that time that they had a video? Like, there was a video of him circulating around. He was just at church and like, he came out, there's a bunch of paparazzi, and he's like, goodness. I'm just at like.

[A]

I love the audios now of him. Of him, like, like going off on paparazzi. It's so fun.

[B]

Like, I couldn't. That would be so suffocating.

[A]

I love the Internet's on his side too. Like, I love.

[B]

Oh, really?

[A]

There's a famous audio that's circulating right now where people were just like, there's some random paparazzi. Dude was going up to him and he just went off on this guy. And it's so funny, huh? I can't even think of like, just. Is it. It's not clocking to you. That's an old one standing on visit. But there's a new one, though. There's more.

[B]

Yeah, there was a new one just from like, it's like you're not understand or it's like, that's not like I don't remember what it was.

[A]

He's like, I'm a dad. I'm a daddy. I think that's what he says. I love it. Anyway, who would play me in a movie about my life?

[B]

We're not going to say the same answer on this.

[A]

I just thought of somebody. The first person that popped in my brain. Who do you think it is? Like, new actor, just saw him in a movie.

[B]

You're like, you know, I actually want to play you.

[A]

Who would you want to play be?

[B]

What's that guy's name? He played Tony in West side Story.

[A]

Oh, yes, that would be good.

[B]

I want him to play you.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Ansel Elgort.

[A]

That would be that him. Ansel Elgort.

[B]

That's what I want to play you.

[A]

You know, okay. If.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

Maybe what I need to do, babe, is maybe I need to like, pause social media and like, fully pursue Broadway again. I would love to play Tony in west side Story.

[B]

You'd be such a good Tony.

[A]

I would love it. And, like, randomly sometimes give them a little Maria. Wait, no. What's the. What's the.

[B]

When you're Jet. You're a Jet from your first singer.

[A]

No. What's this? I used to sing it for auditions. It's not Maria. No. Gosh. I can't think of it right now. What are the west side Story songs? I can't think of it.

[B]

There's a place.

[A]

Is that Aladdin? That was not a West side Story.

[B]

I get. I give every song. Officer Crump. Key. We're down on our knees no one likes a fella with the social.

[A]

Oh, tonight, Tonight won't be.

[B]

I'm just gonna cry I love west side Story tonight.

[A]

There. Yeah, that's the. I think that's the one that I used to sing. But I sang that when I was like. I think I sang it before my voice changed. But that. Okay. The challenge.

[B]

You're still working through that transition.

[A]

I know. Well, sometimes that my falsetto. I need to work my falsetto. I get, like. I get a little nervous on my falsetto. That still freaks me out a little bit, but.

[B]

No, you'd be great. Okay, wait, who are you gonna say? Who is just.

[A]

Oh, Ansel. No, no, no, no. Jacob Elordi. He's like, the new. He's like the new.

[B]

Like, you do kind of look like him.

[A]

I feel like every. Every woman wants that man. No, he's a good actor, too. That's what I respect is, like, he doesn't. I don't even think he has social media because he just doesn't give an F. Like, he just cares about acting. I don't know.

[B]

Frankenstein. I was kind of like.

[A]

I didn't understand why they cast him in Frankenstein because it was just CGI the whole time.

[B]

I need to finish that.

[A]

Gosh, that movie was horrible, though.

[B]

I don't finish it. I think it gets better in the second half. We were just, like, an hour and a half in. It was my birthday. Okay, let's go. Keep going. Okay, I got that right or wrong Wrong. No, I didn't say. Ansel, I didn't.

[A]

You got that one wrong, actually. Sorry. What video game slash fictional world would I want to live in?

[B]

I don't know. Probably freaking Minecraft.

[A]

I don't. I'm gonna give that point to you. Like, I wouldn't actually want to live in it, But Minecraft is the best game of all time. Can we just be honest? Like, me and My middle school buddies when I was in seventh grade.

[B]

That game when Caleb and Abby are your brother.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like me and Abby are just downstairs and we're like, where did they go? And you guys are just upstairs. And then Caleb likes to play the music for Minecraft.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

He likes the volume of it. Even though the volume doesn't even do anything.

[A]

The soundtrack of Minecraft is so relaxing and it's just. It puts you at peace and it's just. It's just with. You're with the boys and it's just so good.

[B]

And then now your brother.

[A]

And then we have two remote remotes that our kids will use and they think they're playing, but they're actually not. And it's so fun.

[B]

You guys have really hacked the dading system.

[A]

We really did. Yeah. Yeah. What tattoo would I get if I had to choose one?

[B]

You get Emerson's name?

[A]

Yep. Where am I going to get her name?

[B]

You. That's what you can never decide on.

[A]

That's why I haven't gotten the tattoo yet is cuz I've gone back and forth on where to get her name.

[B]

I want you to get it by your heart.

[A]

See, that's the thing is like I want to have it by my heart, but I think I want to. But. But then like I think that's where you want me to have her name. But then I think I want it on my arm.

[B]

Okay, then put on your arm.

[A]

I think I should just go ahead and do it. Like I've overthought this for so long. Yeah, that'll be cool. It'll be cool. Like every single time I look down on my arm, it'll just do it

[B]

when we go to Tahoe.

[A]

That'd be so sweet because my dad wants to get the same exact tattoo.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

To remember Emerson. So we'll have to do it and get it on the same place, same location.

[B]

I don't think you have to get on the same location.

[A]

I guess we don't. I guess my dad can do whatever he wants. But we did have a phone call, me and my dad talking about that tattoo and where we want to get it. I like that. I like that a lot. And I want it in your handwriting. You have beautiful handwriting. So I want it, I want it to be in your handwriting. What is my dream car?

[B]

Cyber truck.

[A]

See that? Like that's the thing is I feel like I got my dream car. Like I feel like just having a Tesla. A Tesla. Like when we got married in 2019, I had like, you're not a car guy. I, I'm not really not, I'm not a car guy, but I just learned like what Tesla was and I thought it was cool that it was like a self driving car. And so yeah, we got, I feel like I don't think I'll ever experience that like excitement of having a car ever again because I remember like I, I was just freaking out when we, it got delivered to our house. You know, I could give you a half point for that one.

[B]

Okay. Yippee.

[A]

Okay, that was the end of that round.

[B]

After three rounds, Abby said ten and a half. Matt said, oh my God. That's some bs. That is some crazy bs.

[A]

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[A]

Well, it would not be Texas Roadhouse. No, that's for sure. Which is sad because I really like the rules.

[B]

Oh, I got my answer.

[A]

Not going to lock this in, but I was about to say Village Inn, because it used to be like a Village Inn. Chocolate chip pancakes, girly.

[B]

So niche.

[A]

What? What? Like, wait, this is for every meal? What's the question again?

[B]

What restaurant would I pick if I could only Eat at one forever.

[A]

Oh, Cheesecake Factory.

[B]

Yeah. Think about that many freaking.

[A]

Go.

[B]

I would never get bored.

[A]

Yeah, how could you get bored at the cheesecake? You'd get morbidly obese. Cuz every. Every meal there's like 4,000 calories.

[B]

But then what about the Skinnylicious menu?

[A]

Oh, that one.

[B]

I can have a different meal. I get breakfast, lunch, and dinner. When I'm feeling skinnylicious or when I'm feeling like a big back. I got everything.

[A]

That's so funny.

[B]

I got everything I need. Right.

[A]

Everything you need right there, baby. Gosh, we need to go back to Cheesecake Factory. It's been. It's been at least a month since we've been.

[B]

It's been way too long.

[A]

We. That used to be our date night spot every week. And then we just stopped and we

[B]

stopped going on dates.

[A]

Why do we stop going on dates?

[B]

We forgot about each other.

[A]

Been doing too many podcasts.

[B]

If I'm upset, what treat would you bring me to make my day better?

[A]

Probably

[B]

don't think about food. Honestly, think about what's something that I need every time I'm upset. Anytime you're upset, anytime I'm even slightly inconvenienced. What do I need to do to reset myself?

[A]

You should go to the gym.

[B]

Well, that's a. That's true.

[A]

When you're.

[B]

But that's not the one I was thinking.

[A]

You're just feeling anger.

[B]

That's true.

[A]

You gotta go to the gym. This girl needs to go to the gym.

[B]

I need to go to the gym. If I'm slightly inconvenienced. Any inconvenience in my day. It's like I gotta reset. How do I reset?

[A]

Take a bath.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. You gotta take. This is a. Yeah.

[B]

Sometimes I have to take more than one a day. If it's like, really?

[A]

I feel like. Okay, I will say I'm in the lead right now, but I think Abby's helping me out on these answers.

[B]

You think?

[A]

You kinda just led me to the answer.

[B]

Oh, sorry.

[A]

You also changed it. Like it was supposed to be like, what's the food you want? And then somehow we ended up on bath.

[B]

Okay, what treat. What. What physical treat would you get me? I think I'm thinking of one too.

[A]

Probably just chocolate. Probably. No. No. Diet Coke. Okay, that's the right answer sometimes. What are you thinking?

[B]

Also the fact that you're saying Diet Coke is. I'm just like letting it go, but I'm Coke zero. So sorry.

[A]

Watch it. That. That. That is embarrassing, actually. That is embarrassing. You've been a Coke Zero girly for probably two years.

[B]

I'm a root beer girl now.

[A]

You're a root beer. You're a root beer girl.

[B]

I have to update my syllabus for you about myself.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Okay, What? Treat? Go er. Go er. Ice cream cookie sandwich from Trader Joe's.

[A]

That. Yeah, those are. That would be good.

[B]

Deathly delicious, but.

[A]

See that. Like that. Yeah, you're right, I'm wrong.

[B]

What's the most random thing that makes me emotional? Oh, I got it.

[A]

I don't think you're usually just like a random Instagram reel or a tick tock. You're like, yeah, I'm just catching you ball.

[B]

That's not random. That's normal. I feel like a lot of people just start crying.

[A]

It's like emotional on reels. Like, it's especially the ones where, like, you see the. The grandma and grandpa and then their kids. And then their kids. And then soon there's like a family tree of like 75 people, like on the field, you know? That's the type of video that gets you every time.

[B]

Gets me. Now what I'm thinking about, this is. This is a random thing that makes me cry. That's what the question says. What's the most random thing that makes me cry?

[A]

What happened to the lost colony of Roanoke? I don't know.

[B]

This is making me cry. That makes me spiral.

[A]

Which they did find out.

[B]

What happened. I did announce that.

[A]

You said that on Always Here.

[B]

I said that on Always Here.

[A]

I love that.

[B]

I hope that was accurate.

[A]

I actually. I announced that to you like a week ago. I came running up into our bedroom. I was like, babe, they found. I was scrolling.

[B]

Didn't even know that we had.

[A]

I was scrolling YouTube. And then I was like, they found the lost colony of Roanoke.

[B]

Just a puzzle piece.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Old couples holding hands.

[A]

Oh, I should have had that one.

[B]

You really should have had that one.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

That is something that is really random. Makes me cry because I'm just like, I just hope one day Matt and I can be old together and still be in love and holding hands. Holding hands is just also just such a precious thing.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, it's so precious to hold, especially when you've been together your whole life.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Gonna cry right now. What movie makes me cry every time? What? We got a lot of crying ones. That's okay. This is who I am. What movie makes me cry every time?

[A]

For me it's up. But for you. Would it be that. Would it be the different movies?

[B]

Wait Let me think, let me think.

[A]

Do you even know what the movie would be?

[B]

So many.

[A]

I. I. Coco also got me, like,

[B]

Remember Me Pixar ones for Matt.

[A]

Yeah, Pixar knows how to do it, man. I almost started crying when the Pixar band at Disneyland started playing Remember Me. They're like, like, they just transitioned to it out of nowhere. And I was like, oh. Just like, hit me in the freaking soul.

[B]

You were like, having a visceral reaction to that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Got me a movie that makes me cry.

[A]

The last time I watched up was after we had our miscarriage. And then that part of them losing their baby was like, literally had me on the floor, like, so sad. So, so sad. I hate that we know what that's like. Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. I guess we can both stay up. But I. I don't know why I'm not thinking of one. I haven't cried during a movie in a long time. Just kidding. I have cried a lot during movies.

[A]

You cried? Wuthering Heights was, like, awful.

[B]

Yeah. That was brutal.

[A]

That was, like, horrible. Ruined our date night.

[B]

Ruined date night. That's why we stopped going on date nights. Honestly, that's actually. We stopped.

[A]

Honestly.

[B]

I don't think we've been on a date night since that.

[A]

I think we just figured it out. Yeah. Wuthering Heights ruined date night for us. Thanks, Weathering. Thanks, Jacob Elordi the Frick. We were doing good. We were doing date night every week and we just stopped.

[B]

We're not doing it every week.

[A]

Okay. Every other week for sure.

[B]

I don't know about that either, but once a month. Once a month. I don't know. That's not really fair for him, but. No point.

[A]

No point. I see Addie has, like, a calculator, like a website.

[B]

I know. If I just keep tally, it's kind of hard.

[A]

That's so funny, Keeper. You've got a scorekeeper website. That's so funny.

[B]

What's something that cheers me up instantly?

[A]

Probably taking you to Disney, I guess. I don't know. Wait, no. It's so much simpler than that. Flowers. No, flowers don't really do it. Last time I got you flowers, you didn't even notice.

[B]

You didn't say anything. You just put them on the counter. I said, who gave me these?

[A]

Wanted to see if you notice. So you didn't notice. It's okay.

[B]

No, I noticed. I just had no idea where they came from.

[A]

I was gonna walk into. You're always here, recording. But then I'm like, I don't wanna, like, you Know how if you, like, do it for, like, the attention of it, then it's like. It's kind of takes the whole point of it. I don't care.

[B]

What about the crap out of it? I had no idea that you got me flowers.

[A]

Yeah, so then I didn't show you that I got you flowers. Then. You never do. Okay. Probably taking a bath. Probably that.

[B]

Sure.

[A]

That works every time.

[B]

That works every time. Yeah. That's a good one. Okay, your turn.

[A]

Yeah. What's something I've been overthinking this week?

[B]

Every week.

[A]

You're right. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. High five.

[B]

For your whole life?

[A]

Everything. Literally everything. What is my most irrational fear?

[B]

Oh, moving on. That was correct. Most irrational fear. Tiny shards of glass getting in your body.

[A]

How are you so good at this? Wait, get. I tell the story, you gotta tell the story.

[B]

Which one?

[A]

There's so many stories. The last time that this happened.

[B]

The last time this happened, I think Caleb accidentally broke a glass.

[A]

It's an OCD thing. Yeah, for sure.

[B]

Accidentally broke a glass. And then I warned everyone. I warned Abigail across from me. I was like, hey, he's gonna be cleaning this up for the next, like, hour and a half. And then, sure enough, vacuum next thing out. Got a broom. Next thing, vacuum's back on. Like, you're just like. Then you're spraying and wiping.

[A]

Yeah, I don't want any glass to get in my kid's feet.

[B]

That would not be good glass. Also, if he thinks that he might have accidentally eaten a container that has chipped glass.

[A]

That's true.

[B]

Internal bleeding is going to be on his mind for the next 48 hours.

[A]

What is one of my biggest regrets?

[B]

Maybe buying our Airbnb. Is that too serious for you?

[A]

You know, I learned a lot for that, leaving Hawaii.

[B]

Sad.

[A]

Yeah, man, that got a little too deep, too fast.

[B]

It's been five years almost.

[A]

And that's the end of the podcast.

[B]

All right, I hit the nail on the head.

[A]

Oh, gosh. Well, two more questions. What's a baby name I love, but you hate?

[B]

I feel like we agree on baby names.

[A]

I know.

[B]

I feel like anything I like more than you, like.

[A]

Yeah, well, you're the one. You've. You've picked out all of our baby's names, and I've just, like, kind of, like, signed off on them. Yeah, like, approved.

[B]

I mean, I feel like I don't hate it, but you want to name one of our kids after you?

[A]

That would be kind. Why do I think that's kind of fun?

[B]

It's Just so confusing because my dad's Matthew. Your Matthew. Then we have another Matthew.

[A]

Yeah. And then also something about that, like. I don't know, I've gone back and forth. Number 48. What is my favorite physical feature of yours?

[B]

I'm going to write it down.

[A]

You're going to write it? You can even say it for a podcast listener. No, you could use the. Oh, gosh. You went right for it.

[B]

Am I right? Don't say it out loud.

[A]

Yes. I mean, yet. Yes.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

But I mean, I was thinking more of like a. Like a. Like a More specific than that. I was thinking more PG than that.

[B]

My eyes.

[A]

Yeah, let's. Let's go with those. Let's go with those. I like your eyes.

[B]

Okay, well, did I get that right?

[A]

We'll. Yeah, we'll give it to you. Okay.

[B]

We have been doing this.

[A]

This is so serious.

[B]

Abby or Matt's at 15. Abby's at 15 and a half that half point.

[A]

Okay, I will say we do need to get a mic in here because people have been requesting that you have a mic.

[B]

Okay, okay. I'm just talking louder. No, addie is saying 15. 15 and a half. I'm winning. What's my love language and how do I actually like it expressed?

[A]

Huh? Your love language is acts of service.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

And you like it expressed by me, like, just like cleaning our house.

[B]

Chore play.

[A]

Chore play. Chore play, baby.

[B]

Yeah, I think you got that right. I've never heard that.

[A]

You've never heard of chore play before. That's funny.

[B]

Seven years of marriage will do that. Only seven? Okay. What's one thing I wish you did more of?

[A]

More chore play? Probably more chore play.

[B]

And if you do do something, you're like, look what I'm like. It's not actually the fact of seeing you do it. It's a task done that I'm like,

[A]

oh, no, it's doing it together. It's so romantic.

[B]

No, I do love doing.

[A]

It's romantic.

[B]

I genuinely love doing chores with you.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I wish he got you as my favorite thing. As excited as it does me, what's something I pretend not to care about, but actually, do.

[A]

You wish you could sing?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

That's really sad, actually. Maybe you could help me be a better actor and I could work with you on your singing skills.

[B]

No, it's. I tried seven years of private voice lessons. At my best, it was pretty bad.

[A]

Still on the real, though, guys, I would love to see Abby in a movie. Like, I think she would crush it. Like, y'. All. She can act. Okay.

[B]

That's so nice.

[A]

She can.

[B]

Oh, also, my nose. I pretend not to care about it, but I don't like it.

[A]

That's really sad.

[B]

Yeah. Just putting it out there.

[A]

I think you're beautiful.

[B]

It bothers my mom when I say it, but I don't have her nose, so I say it to her. And then my dad has the same nose, so we can talk about it together.

[A]

See, your dad, I think parents need to be aware of what they say because your dad, like, roasts himself.

[B]

And I'm like. I have. Like, it's not the same. I'm like, it's the same because.

[A]

Because, like, if you talk negatively about yourself and then your kid hears it, then they're gonna, like, pick up on that, you know?

[B]

Yeah. But also, I feel like it doesn't really count.

[A]

Same thing with, like, bot. Like, with weight and with just, like, anything. With, like, appearance. Any event, any of that insecurity can go onto your kid.

[B]

You know, what's something I judge people for but won't admit? I got it. I guess I'm admitting it.

[A]

You judge people for it.

[B]

Yeah. There's, like, a couple acceptable answers here. Gosh, I'm so judgmental.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Probably this is something I would be like, oh, I wouldn't do this, but I tell you about it. But I would never. Like, it's not serious enough to bring to that person. You know what I mean?

[A]

Gossip. Gossiping.

[B]

That's a good one. That wasn't what I was thinking about. It'd be kind of hypocritical to judge someone for gossip. I feel like.

[A]

Yeah. Gossiping about something.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

That was not what I see. We're safe people. Like, we can tell each other.

[B]

You're no fun to gossip to.

[A]

Why not?

[B]

And actually, that's not true. It's still not. Okay.

[A]

Maybe people get. I don't even know. I'm sorry. I'm gonna play this.

[B]

People being mean to their kids.

[A]

Oh, yeah. Not good.

[B]

Or. Okay. And I also say being mean loosely, like, sometimes if I'm like, that was just way too. Like, that was way too much.

[A]

That's a big one for me, too. It makes me so angry. Especially if we're in, like, Disneyland or Disney World and people are being like. Like, yelling at their kids. It's like, can you just take a chill pill?

[B]

Like, it's just supposed to be fun.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Supposed to be the most magical place.

[B]

What's the other one? The other I think of is, like, laziness.

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

Just don't it.

[A]

Yeah, get off your butt.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

That's bad because I'm also. Gosh, I'm on my butt a lot sometimes. So that's just. That's why I don't bring it up.

[A]

You work hard, though.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

You were. You get a lot done.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

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[A]

Oh, this is making me so sad. Cuz I don't see it at all. It's your, your belly button. Like for something for some reason. Like you get, you get all upset about like your belly. Your belly, which is so. But it's so beautiful. Like you're growing. You're growing our baby. Okay.

[B]

Must stay hidden.

[A]

I love it. You got to show that thing off.

[B]

That's why I'm like, it's a great belly. I like to go to the pool.

[A]

You're beautiful. You look so beautiful.

[B]

I could just get a one piece.

[A]

You're a hot mama.

[B]

That was a point for you. All right, well, these are the same questions.

[A]

Gosh, we've been playing this game for so long. Are we almost done? Oh, good, you're having a good time. We've got one more round after this one.

[B]

I'm gonna start writing them down again.

[A]

Okay, now we have what's my love Language and how do I actually like it expressed?

[B]

I do have to write this down.

[A]

Oh, I know what it is. Ready? No, I'm supposed to be the one writing it down. Oh, my gosh. It's.

[B]

Physical touch.

[A]

Physical touch.

[B]

Got it.

[A]

I was thinking of something a lot more pg, and it was just you playing with my hair. Just you playing with my hair. I like that. Yeah, I like it.

[B]

So I got that wrong.

[A]

Just scratching. Oh, keep doing it. I like it.

[B]

That is so weird.

[A]

No, you got it. Right? I mean, I'm not.

[B]

I can do that.

[A]

I'm not gonna stop you from that. Physical touch. I got it, but I got it.

[B]

Right. So do I get a point?

[A]

Yeah, you get a point.

[B]

Scratching your head, Matt Howard.

[A]

I like it.

[B]

Okay. Wow. Good to know.

[A]

I love being hugged. I love just being.

[B]

You love hugs.

[A]

I'm a physical touch guy. You know what's one thing I wish you did more of?

[B]

What I wrote down?

[A]

Ding, ding, ding.

[B]

D. Okay, next.

[A]

All right. What's something I pretend not to care about but actually do?

[B]

A lot of things.

[A]

So many things. Yeah, a lot of things.

[B]

Everything. I don't know, I want to say. Wait.

[A]

Say it. What is it?

[B]

What? That you just looked at me with snow.

[A]

What did I do? What was funny?

[B]

I got. I will say it.

[A]

Okay. Say, what is it?

[B]

I'll write it down.

[A]

Write it down. And then I can let you know if it's okay if he said, oh, Let's keep that one to ourselves. We don't need to share that with the Internet.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

All right.

[B]

But am I right?

[A]

Yeah, you are.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Okay. Damn. We're just getting so, so open today.

[B]

My walls are down. They've been down for a while.

[A]

Okay. What. What's something I judge people for but won't admit it? The won't admit part is throwing me

[B]

off because it's like, you will tell people straight up.

[A]

I mean, I feel like I'm a pretty open, honest person.

[B]

Well, also, I don't really think you're judging anyone. You're not judgmental.

[A]

No, I don't think I'm. Yeah, I don't think I'm judgmental.

[B]

Oh, I know.

[A]

What?

[B]

How they spend their money.

[A]

Oh, see, I will admit that, though. I will admit I'll tell them to their face.

[B]

Really? That's not a Good thing to do.

[A]

Yeah, especially. Especially, like, the rules of money are. Are simple, but it's easier said. I will say. It's easier said than done. Way easier said than done. What blows my mind, though, is the assignment. What I will say what's fascinating about money is, like, it does not matter how much you make. If you don't learn to keep some of it, you're. You're never going to have, like, anything for yourself. And that's, like, the. That's the most important rule of money. It's not about how much you make. It's how much you keep.

[B]

Was really good.

[A]

Yep, that's. That's a rule from the.

[B]

It's called that one.

[A]

The Richest man in Babylon. That's a whole book about that. Go read it.

[B]

Go read it.

[A]

Dave Ramsey likes that book, too.

[B]

Dave Ramsey, too.

[A]

I love Dave. He's a great guy. What's my current biggest insecurity? Do you know what it is? You're writing it down again.

[B]

I don't think. This is a new one. I spelled that wrong.

[A]

Your personality. I think I like my personality, though.

[B]

You told me that you were not. You were not confident about your personality, and that made me sad.

[A]

No, I like my person. I think I'm just insecure.

[B]

Just in general. Insecure.

[A]

Yeah, I'm gonna work on that one.

[B]

So that. Did I just roast your life by saying your personality?

[A]

Yeah, maybe a little bit.

[B]

Did you or did you not tell me that you're like. I've always been confident about this, but I've always been not confident.

[A]

Yeah. I feel like I'm in. I'm in therapy right now, guys, because I want to be the best version of myself for my kids so that they, like. I think your kids just, like, do whatever the frick. They don't do what you say. They do what you do. They just copy you. I think there's, like, great qualities about my parents, and I. And. And I have nothing. I love my parents. They're great people. I just think, like, I just want to. I just want to, like, try to be the best version of myself so my kids can follow that.

[B]

You know, can we just clear my name that I didn't just try to roast your life? You did say that to me.

[A]

When did I say that to you? I don't know.

[B]

Oh, my gosh.

[A]

Maybe I'm just stupid and I just forgot that I said.

[B]

I just pulled that out of there.

[A]

I probably said that while I was feeling insecure.

[B]

Don't make me. Don't make me the asshole here. All right, no point.

[A]

Okay, Abby, you're up. Oh, Abby's winning going into the final round. Abby's winning, guys.

[B]

I haven't beat by one and a half points. Okay, let's see. What's something I've changed my mind about recently?

[A]

You really don't change your mind much, honestly.

[B]

I think I do.

[A]

I feel like you don't. Can you think of anything that you've changed your mind on? There we go. That's exactly my point.

[B]

Am I a stubborn lady?

[A]

Yeah, you are. But it's okay. I love that about you.

[B]

You do?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

No, I feel like I've changed my mind about something.

[A]

You're. You're Vicky Biswell, but in a younger version. You're like a younger version of your. For your grandma. Microplastics. Yes. Abby would not let me heat up my frozen peas in the plastic bag the other day in the microwave because of microplastics.

[B]

You don't want to know why. Addie gets a point.

[A]

Addie gets a point for that one.

[B]

He gets a point. I guess. I guess I'm stubborn.

[A]

I get a point for that. Yeah.

[B]

Okay, what's my current hyper fixation?

[A]

You know, that's like a thing that I do, so I don't really know what that would be for you, but I'm thinking probably microplastics.

[B]

No, no.

[A]

What. What would it be? Do you even know what it is for yourself? You don't even know what it is for yourself.

[B]

Yeah, I do.

[A]

No, you don't. What is it then?

[B]

Like, audiobooks?

[A]

No, that's always been a thing.

[B]

Podcasts?

[A]

No, that's so general.

[B]

Yummy. Protein.

[A]

Shakespeare.

[B]

Eggs.

[A]

You've done eggs forever. Eggs. What?

[B]

Reading.

[A]

You've always been a reader. You're funny. I like you.

[B]

Steak.

[A]

Grilling. I grill a lot more. You started letting me grill again.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

And Abby admitted it, guys. She realized that the reason I got fired from grilling duty was because she ordered the wrong meat. So she got wild salmon rather than farm raised salmon.

[B]

That's the only thing you should know is that wild salmon.

[A]

Salmon tastes gamey.

[B]

Tastes like you're literally just plucked a fish from a pond. I'm not kidding. And farm raised salmon tastes way better.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I accidentally one time must have bought wild salmon.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

And it tastes like we were eating cat food.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

And I thought Matt muffed it up, but it was actually I just brought the wrong meat.

[A]

Yeah. But I'm back grilling again.

[B]

I grilling every night.

[A]

I grill salmon. I'm grilling chicken tonight.

[B]

And salmon.

[A]

And salmon.

[B]

How many cavities have I had? Okay, let's actually narrow this down to how many cavities did I have after my pregnancy with Griffin?

[A]

I want to say there were. Was it four?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You had four cavities? Yeah, four cavities.

[B]

Cavities. After having my. After my first pregnancy.

[A]

Ding, ding, ding.

[B]

They had to do it in two different shots. Like, they had to do one half one day and one half the other day. Yeah.

[A]

That's crazy. So if you're a lady that's pregnant, get your teeth checked, you could have some cavities.

[B]

Well, they can't even do it while you're pregnant.

[A]

Wait until after you're pregnant and then get your teeth checked.

[B]

What's my proudest moment?

[A]

Probably becoming a mom.

[B]

Yeah. That's so easy.

[A]

But it's so cute, the video of you finding out you're pregnant with Griffin. You, like, have this, like, little hand go up. You're, like, so happy. It's the sweetest thing. Cuz I think you had dreamed of that since you were, like, a little girl. Forever. Yeah.

[B]

Where is my dream vacation?

[A]

Don't overthink this.

[B]

What's my favorite thing to do?

[A]

Your dream vacation?

[B]

Yeah, my dream vacation.

[A]

Do you love to go to the lake and go, your late girl. No, you. Oh. Oh, I'm overthinking this. I'm so overthinking this. The spa. You like to go to the spa and get a massage and just relax. That's true.

[B]

That's true. But I was just gonna say just me, you and Cabo is, like, our favorite place.

[A]

Why? Yeah, Cabo. We love Cabo.

[B]

Just unlimited food, rest, and relaxation. And we just get to be married. Yeah, just get to be married, not be parents together, which I love being parents, but it's just so special after having kids to have that, like, two days of alone time. So special.

[A]

It's good.

[B]

Oh, yeah. That's the end. I don't think you got that one right.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Yeah, no, I don't think you got that right. Spa's kind of right. Well, we go to the spot. Okay.

[A]

What is my biggest pet peeve?

[B]

Shoes on the cake on the table.

[A]

That does piss me off. Yeah, I was just waiting for you to say something because I can't even think of. Of anything.

[B]

Shoes on the counter.

[A]

Shoes on the counter. Piss me off. I don't like that.

[B]

Shoes in the house.

[A]

Yeah, I don't like shoes. If you wear your shoes in the house, take your shoes off. Okay. We don't want your germs in this

[B]

house if you think that you have touched any bit of poop.

[A]

Gotta wash my hands at least 17 times.

[B]

Yeah, I think those are. That's pretty. All inclusive of your.

[A]

Yeah, that's pretty good. I'll give you a point for that one. What's the. What's my proudest moment in the YouTube play button? I actually was. That was, like, pretty crazy. Yeah. The thing that came to my mind was marrying you. I'm gonna cry. I don't want to get emotional on this podcast. What? I just love you. I just think that was, like.

[B]

You did pretty good marrying me. When I really think about it.

[A]

I did. I really. I married out of my league, so.

[B]

Stop. That's not true.

[A]

Pretty crazy. That's not true. Just, like, the whole day I remember just, like, thinking about how lucky I was. And I was just trying to, like, enjoy every second of. Was cool.

[B]

That's sweet. You know, don't you forget it.

[A]

What is my favorite Christmas movie?

[B]

You don't like Christmas movies?

[A]

But if I had to choose a favorite one, which. Which one would it be?

[B]

Okay. Four Christmases.

[A]

Not the one that I was thinking of.

[B]

I was thinking Express.

[A]

I was thinking of Elf with Will Ferrell.

[B]

What?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You never have ever asked me. Hey, let's watch Elf.

[A]

Will. Will is a funny guy.

[B]

You read the Polar Express book to the kids every single night.

[A]

I do. You're right.

[B]

And it's April.

[A]

But I haven't watched that movie in a long time. I don't know when. That's just because it's a shadow book and I project the book onto the wall using my flashlight on my phone.

[B]

I got that wrong.

[A]

What is my hidden talent? I just. I just came to my mind. I know it right now. People might know what this is, but a lot of people, most of the Internet would have no idea that I.

[B]

Your hidden talent.

[A]

Yeah, most people. Most people have no idea. People that, like, really know us would know because of our background and the arts.

[B]

Is that you can tap dance.

[A]

Yeah, I led you to that answer, though.

[B]

No, just.

[A]

Just so that when Abby wins this game.

[B]

That's a really good tap dancer. He really. He really actually.

[A]

Why do you say that?

[B]

Do you have your tap shoes still?

[A]

Dude, that actually. So should I, like, tap dance right now?

[B]

No.

[A]

No, I actually. Maybe not right now, but I do have not now. I thought of this video like, two years ago, and I still haven't filmed it. So I'll just tell you what it is like waking you up in the morning by tap dancing.

[B]

Never do that immediately. Veto.

[A]

That'd be so funny. Like, you're just like yawning and waking up.

[B]

And I'm just like, wake up me

[A]

and I'm doing a triple time step on a wooden platform.

[B]

That would actually be kind of funny.

[A]

Okay, if I were a red flag, what would it be?

[B]

You're a mouth breather.

[A]

You got it right. How did you know? That's exactly what I was thinking.

[B]

This man literally buys special tape to tape and clothes at night.

[A]

I do. I do buy tape to shut my mouth.

[B]

Here's the thing. It's not a problem that you're a mouth breather. It's a problem. The residual problems of you being a mouth breather. The fact that you can't chew with your mouth closed. Cause then you won't be able to breathe when you're eating food.

[A]

Right.

[B]

If you have a cold, it's just a nightmare of a different sort.

[A]

That's right. Yeah.

[B]

And you're a chronic overthinker.

[A]

I do overthink the frick out of literally everything. You're right.

[B]

Yeah. And not very decisive.

[A]

You are correct in that. Well, now that Abby said all of my red flags, thank you guys for listening to another episode of unplanned.

[B]

Matt got 21.

[A]

21.

[B]

21.

[A]

Oh, Abby Wong.

[B]

That is only right. Honestly.

[A]

Congratulations on winning.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

I love you.

[B]

I love you.

[A]

I'm so happy you're my wife. Thank you to ktby99 for leaving us review on Apple podcast. If you guys could leave us a review, that would really help us out. On Spotify, on Apple, wherever you're listening, please leave a review. And if you're on YouTube, just subscribe. Just hit the subscribe button because actually, most of the people that listen to this show don't even subscribe, which is really sad. I don't know why some of you guys haven't subscribed, but this is it. Says the best podcast. I've listened to every one of your episodes. I look forward to it every Wednesday. I love how genuine and honest you both seem to be. And the love you have for your job shines through all you both do. You all have interviewed some amazing people and I can't wait to hear what comes next.

[B]

That's so nice.

[A]

Yeah, that is so nice.

[B]

Thank you so much.

[A]

Thank you, Katie. I think. Yeah. Kt Is it ktb. Why?

[B]

Well, thank you guys so much. Be sure to, like, review, subscribe if you have any ideas of what you want to see. Next from us. It's kind of fun just doing some.

[A]

Yeah, me and you. It's fun just hanging out with us. But if you guys hanging out, if you have any guests that you'd like to see us on, interview on the show, or just, like, hang out with in real life, let us know. We'd love to know.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

All right, we'll see you guys in the next episode.

[B]

Bye. Thank you.