Nick (124:48)
I mean, you know, I'm sure he's fine. I'm sure he's fine. He's definitely not really great. And if you show him this episode. I'm sorry, dude, but, like, you know, listen, like, when. When. When a. When a married couple is, you know, obviously, as you're the one having the baby, you. You are dealing with so much. But if we want to give your husband and all the boys out there a little bit of grace, I think, you know, it's a challenge for anyone, you know, both. Both parties in a couple. Couple that when you're pregnant, there's, you know, things change, things can get difficult. You know, sometimes you, you know, you might acknowledge, you might get emotional and sometimes the emotional, those emotions might be confusing to him or might feel unfair or whatever. But like, that's, that's, that's part of the gig, man. That's what we signed up for, right? Part of it of, of working through that is to say, you know, in the next nine months, not everything might make sense. And I, you know, I, I might some. My wife might ask me something that she's never asked me before or doesn't even feel like normal. But you know what? It's. Right now it's my job to show up for her, not ask questions. It's my job to make sure that she is relaxed and calm and not stressed or not anxious. It's certainly my job to not bring any unnecessary stress and anxiety into her life. You know, that's, that's bare minimum, right? The fact that, you know, and take away you being pregnant right now, the fact that like, he has been. Been investing a great deal of energy, not only putting time into this friendship, that he is also putting in energy to fight for the right to have that friendship is just a kind of a you to you and you know, taboo. Like he is trying to like, talk his way around doing something that is just like, like I said, I don't care. It's just inappropriate. Like unless you two are kind of couple who like mutually agrees to have these types of friendships in your life and have some kind of like, open relationship. And again, like, I don't mean in like everyone's, but I'm just saying like, like, again, like a marriage doesn't work over the, you know, in the long run if you don't decide to show up and make that relationship your number one priority. It just doesn't. And he can say whatever he wants, but he's clearly not making it his number one priority. There are days where he makes this other woman, woman more of a priority than you. And you feel that constantly. And the fact that you feel that should be, you know, and the fact that there is any part of him that would be, would, would feel weird to tell her that means like, he is more worried about her feelings than yours. Because it should be so easy for him to say listen or, or it would be. First of all, it would be so easy to just distance himself from her. He doesn't even need to explain shit to her. He doesn't need to like, get coffee and say hey, we can't do this anymore. I mean, if he has to do that, if he has to do that, then like, what the fuck is this relationship? You know? So it should be so easy to just start to stop taking her calls after hours, to just stop responding, you know, like, to just, oh, oh, I'm sorry, I was with my wife and kid. Like, he doesn't need an explanation. He could just not respond. He can just not be available. He could just, like, there is no woman in this world outside of my wife right now who has any expectations of me, me to show up for them in any meaningful way. My employees, some of them, which are women. Yeah, I mean, I guess I have some responsibility there to get back to them and things like that. But short of that, there's not a single woman in this world who like, is expecting me to call them back outside of a working, you know, and again, like, if it was just work, fine. You know, work is work and you know, men work with women, you know, that should be totally fine. But clearly this is going beyond that. And he's. He's not even denying that, you know, he's. This. He's justifying by saying, well, I'm doing wrong. I'm not her. She's just my friend. It's like, okay, well, I don't. I don't care what their gender is. Like, this is a friend that clearly you are prioritizing too much and you are deprioritizing our relationship at a time where I need. I just need you to show up for me. I just, yeah, I do. I do need you to do more. Like, I'm literally growing a person in my body. I am, like, making all these sacrifice. I didn't even get to choose all these. I just, other than the fact that, like, I guess, yeah, I'm the woman in this relationship, so I'm guessing I'm the one having the kid. And he, like, he needs to do his part, which means at times do what he can. Even if it doesn't like, you know, I imagine it doesn't feel fair when your body, you know, a pain shows up or emotion shows up, up, it is responding. You. You being pregnant, I bet that doesn't feel fair or normal or whatever. Like, he. This is not about fairness. So. Yeah, I mean, he needs the. He needs the man up and it needs to take care of his family and take care of his wife more than he's doing. And you shouldn't feel like you in any way have to apologize or, or feel weird about It. And. And the fact that he's even arguing with you is. Is. Is great. Crazy.
