The Viall Files
Episode E1104: Ask Nick – Pregnant And Cheated On My Husband
Host: Nick Viall
Release Date: April 6, 2026
Episode Overview
In this emotionally packed "Ask Nick" episode, Nick Viall, joined by co-hosts Natalie Joy, Missy, and Audrey, offers heartfelt, candid advice to three callers, each facing complex relationship dilemmas. The episode covers a range of topics including infidelity during pregnancy, post-breakup regret, and reconciling faith transitions within family dynamics. Nick’s signature blend of empathy, accountability, and humor creates a supportive environment for callers to process their situations, while listeners gain insight into navigating shame, communication, and self-discovery.
Segment 1: Pregnant and Cheated on My Husband — Audrey’s Story
(Starts at 02:11)
Key Discussion Points
- Caller: Audrey, 31, pregnant with her third child
- Situation: Involved in an emotional affair with her married gym instructor during her pregnancy. Affair included texting, Snapchatting, and a single physical encounter.
- Consequences: Husband discovered the affair, reacted publicly and emotionally, and has since filed for divorce despite brief attempts at counseling.
- Underlying Issues: Lack of marital connection, challenging transitions in family life (e.g., child’s medical needs), mental health struggles, and medication withdrawal factor into her actions.
- Current Status: Husband is sleeping on the couch, communication is fraught, but they are attending counseling sessions.
Notable Quotes & Insights
- On accountability and self-examination:
“I would be careful about painting yourself as a victim in any way as a result of [the other man’s] behaviors.” — Nick Viall (11:24) - On how the affair affected her husband:
“He went to the gym, like, announcement-style in front of this class, saying...he’s cheating with my wife.” — Audrey (04:54) - On emotional infidelity:
“For a lot of guys, it’s more hurtful than...just a physical affair. To read these comments fantasizing about leaving him, and to feel while reading it like you had an emotional connection with him that you didn’t have with your own husband—I can see why this has been challenging for him.” — Nick Viall (22:35) - On understanding why she made these choices:
“These were just poor decisions that you knew were poor decisions. You did them anyways, knowing it would hurt you, it would hurt people you love. And we sometimes do these very destructive things even though we know they’re not healthy for us. But understanding the why there is important.” — Nick Viall (35:26) - Audrey’s reflection:
“It’s a weird balance of trying to express to him how much I regret doing what I did...” — Audrey (15:02) - On moving forward:
“Keep your head up. You’ll get through this. The more you understand why you made these decisions...the more you just try to make healthier, long-term decisions for yourself and your family, that will help you heal and go forward regardless of what your husband decides.” — Nick Viall (36:26)
Memorable Moments
- Husband’s public outburst at the gym class, confronting both Audrey’s lover and the class (04:54)
- Audrey’s admission of wanting to repair the marriage but struggling with patience as her husband decides next steps (33:19)
- Discussion around “love languages” and the drift in the marriage after becoming parents (17:05)
Segment 2: Breakup Regrets After an 8-Year Relationship — Sarah’s Story
(Starts at 39:19)
Key Discussion Points
- Caller: Sarah, 31, struggling with regret after ending a long-term relationship
- Situation: Broke up with her boyfriend of eight years, partially due to new job opportunity, avoidance of conflict, and misalignment in moving in together and long-term commitment. Further complicated by growing political differences and her avoidant attachment style.
- Aftermath: Spent part of the following summer together, but ultimately lost contact. Ex has a new girlfriend.
- Current Feelings: Intense regret, unclear if she made the right choice, oscillating between wanting to reach out and fearing she’s just stuck in limbo.
- Nick’s Advice: Encourages self-exploration, therapy as an investment, and confronting avoidance. Suggests that reaching out (via a letter, for closure) could be healthy if done without expectation.
Notable Quotes & Insights
- On regret:
“One of the dumbest phrases out there is ‘no regrets’...life is about making mistakes and making choices that we regret and then the willingness to learn from them.” — Nick Viall (48:04) - On breakups and closure:
“If there’s a part of you that wants to send a letter, send a letter...It might feel good for you to just really put yourself out there. That probably won’t go the way you want, but you will survive putting yourself out there.” — Nick Viall (56:36) - Sarah’s emotional realization:
“I think I just let a lot of my fears hold myself back from even considering that. Even just fears in life...” — Sarah (55:51) - On the value of therapy:
“If this is a decision that you regret...this investment makes a lot of sense...Think of how much energy and time and resources that you’re putting into this that do have...a legitimate cost you can attribute to not addressing this.” — Nick Viall (61:08) - On avoidant attachment:
“The difference between me and you in that moment is like...this avoidant part of you is stopping you from putting yourself out there. Disappointment is inevitable in life...and you have to give people something to fight for.” — Nick Viall (60:20)
Memorable Moments
- Sarah’s honest admission to “writing a letter but not sending it,” and wondering if she should reach out (52:22)
- Nick’s perspective on sending a final letter for closure and learning to embrace discomfort over avoidance (56:36)
- Sarah’s breakdown about her inability to move on, and Nick’s assurance that one's twenties' relationships fade with time (60:14)
Segment 3: Converting to Catholicism and Navigating Family Tension — Missy’s Story
(Starts at 65:46)
Key Discussion Points
- Caller: Missy, 37, considering converting from Protestantism to Catholicism, causing tension with her devoutly Protestant mother
- Situation: Married to a Catholic, raising kids, feeling a spiritual draw to Catholic practices (especially the Eucharist). Mother is highly involved in her Protestant church and is likely to be upset or embarrassed by the change.
- Complexities: Missy’s parents are moving in next door; family attends church together often. Mother has a history of controlling reactions to Missy’s life decisions.
- Nick’s Advice: Encourages Missy to own her choice calmly and not to seek her mother’s approval. Advises keeping the conversation simple, not engaging in religious debates or justifications. Suggests empathy, but firm boundaries.
Notable Quotes & Insights
- On boundaries with parents:
“You have the power here. Your mom’s moving next to you, not the other way around...She is really centering her life around your family...you are definitely more in the driver’s seat than she is now.” — Nick Viall (73:19) - On informing her mother:
“You don’t need to convince her. You don’t need her blessing. You don’t even need to try to change her mind...We believe in the same thing here.” — Nick Viall (75:24) - On emotional responsibility:
“Her feelings are not your responsibility, certainly not at this stage in your life.” — Nick Viall (78:19) - Missy's reflection:
“I just need to say it totally calm. Like sometimes I have to just kind of stonewall her with information. I know she’s not gonna like, like I just say it and then nothing else.” — Missy (82:28) - Nick’s spiritual worldview:
“If there is a higher power, it will be more about how we carried ourselves and how we treated other people and however we found the way to have a relationship with this higher power. I think what matters most is that we do have that relationship.” — Nick Viall (81:15)
Memorable Moments
- Missy’s realization of how the change is bringing her and her husband closer:
“I've, like, watched him open up in ways I never thought possible. Like, I’m just, like, kind of seeing another side of him is, like, honestly, really beautiful.” — Missy (86:34) - Advice on delivering unwelcome news:
“I definitely wouldn’t preach to her. I would keep it real short. Mom, this is something we’re doing.” — Nick Viall (82:38) - Sharing stories of family history and religious tradition, and Nick’s reflections on how religious identity evolves over time (81:15)
Timestamps of Important Segments
- 02:11 — Audrey’s emotional affair and the fallout
- 15:49 — Nick discusses repair, ownership, and communication in relationships
- 22:35 — The emotional toll of non-physical infidelity on spouses
- 35:26 — Nick emphasizes the importance of individual therapy and true accountability
- 39:19 — Sarah discusses her breakup and overwhelming regret
- 48:04 — Nick reframes the concept of “no regrets” and encourages active healing
- 56:36 — Advice for closure: sending the unsent letter
- 65:46 — Missy’s conflict over converting to Catholicism and managing her mom’s expectations
- 73:19 — Nick highlights the importance of boundaries with controlling parents
- 81:15 — Reflections on faith, family, and finding meaning
Tone & Takeaways
- Throughout the episode, Nick maintains a compassionate, pragmatic approach, holding callers accountable while validating their experiences.
- The show underscores the importance of self-reflection and growth, rather than fixation on blame or shame.
- Listeners are encouraged to clarify their own desires, communicate openly (even if it’s uncomfortable), and invest in their own healing—whether through therapy, honest conversation, or letting go of toxic accountability to others.
- The dynamics of long-term relationships, parenting, and family legacy come through as both a challenge and an opportunity for growth.
Final Thoughts
This episode offers compelling insights for anyone navigating infidelity, difficult breakups, or fraught family transitions—especially regarding accountability, patience, and emotional honesty. Nick’s direct-yet-kind style ensures listeners leave with both clarity and the reassurance that they’re not alone in their struggles.