Nick (28:51)
So, like, like, let's be clear. Like, guys, especially, like, this guy loves a challenge, loves a chase, loves an adventure, loves someone who plays hard to get, right? He is probably used to a lot of people who don't play hard to get, where his appearance as the Great Gatsby, as you say, and his exciting life, as you say, or just the fact that he is 6:3 has got him a lot of easy lays, you know, it just, it, it just has. And so for a guy who's probably used to getting a lot of easy lays, loves it when it's not easy, loves a challenge. And you, with your game playing, have, have provided that challenge. Listen, we all play games, but you have to also be in control. And the. It's like you're playing games, but you're not in control. You know, it's almost as if you kind of guessed right, you know, accidentally. But you're still, you're still constantly fixated on how he feels about you. And when you're doing that, you're definitely not in control. And, and like, you're so close because, you know, like, you have, in this conversation, you have said things like, I don't even know if I like him. Healthy admission. You know, that's, that's, that's the truth. The truth is I don't, you know, I really know this guy. I, you know, I've been talking to him sporadically for a year, but it's really just all about game playing and chasing and back and forth. And like, I don't, I know I, I know what I, I know what this guy has shown people. I know the percept. I know his reputation, you know, I know how he looks. I know his job, but I don't really know him, you know, or anything about him. I don't know how he treats women behind closed doors. I don't even know what he Thinks of women, you know, yada, yada. I don't know, you know, you don't really know anything other than the fact that he grew up in the same religion that you grew up in. You don't even know how, you know, devout his life is or, you know, just what, what beliefs he has that may or may not differ from his religion or, you know, you know, nothing about this guy, but. And instead of acknowledging yourself, I don't know anything about this guy, and just feel like, yeah, he's all, he's cute, you know, he's rich, whatever, he's got some money, and those are all, you know. And you say it like the way you told me this story. It's just like, I mean, he has everything. He's my dream guy, you know, he's hot and he's got a. And he's successful. And you were talking to me as if, like, I don't know, you met Jesus, you know, like, fair, like, if this man rejects you, you will never had, never have another chance at something so incredible again. And then, and then, like, you know, three minutes later, after you kept talking, you're like, I don't even know if I like him. But you were so caught up in the fantasy of, you were caught up in the pursuit of this guy. You know, the fantasy of, of, you know, listen, it's fun to have a cr. Like it, like, it is very exciting to have a crush on someone and to be able to date your crush, that's exciting. But you have to be able to quickly adapt, so to speak. You have to quickly, you know, act like you belong. Because then it just become, it goes from exciting to like, making you feel in, you know, small. It's okay to acknowledge the fun you're having chasing your crush, but if you can't get on their level in your mind, then they're always going to make you feel small and less than. And that's not the type of feeling you're trying to create for a relationship or at all. As far as this guy, I think probably not your guy, definitely, probably a fuckboy. And not to take anything away. I'm sure he thinks you're beautiful. Obviously, he clearly thinks you're hot. No guy is going to pay that much attention to a girl if he doesn't think she's hot. And so it's pretty simple. Most guys who thinks a girl is hot that he, he definitely would want to have sex with her. And so, you know, he is definitely interested in having sex with you. He's made that very clear. He definitely would like to see you naked. How he feels about you after that. He doesn't even know the answer, you know, not even thinking like that. He's just more like. He's not even thinking. He's not even saying, I just want to see her naked. It's just. That's just how his brain works. Yeah, but I do think you being unavailable has kept him interested, for sure. But I don't feel like you're capable of being yourself around this guy.
