Nick (80:24)
Challenge yourself not to compare. I mean, I know recently, again, I've had some really cool moments in my career recently. Pretty big milestones of success recently, which has obviously caused me to reflect on the past 10 years of my career, which has been kind of different. When I moved to LA and tried to take advantage of this opportunity that going on reality TV gave me, and in the earlier years of being done with filming TV of the Bachelor franchise and kind of going out on my own, so to speak, the franchise was essentially done with me. The reason I was the Bachelor is because there was one or two producers in positions of power that really liked me, but I was never like the networks or the real people. I wasn't their guy. I was the odd man out. You know, Ben was like, Ben was their guy. You know, he played a role, you know, like, not. But he's just like, you know, they had a certain type of bachelor bachelorette that they. They liked. Right. I was not it. And so they kind of. They kind of begrudgingly gave me opportunities, you know, especially from the, you know, they were happy to use me to get for other things, like drama on whatever, you know, villains or whatever. But as far as, like, their. The Bachelor or the hero that it was, you know, met with resistance from most people. And so that when I was done, I, you know, I. I really got the call, so to speak, you know, the opportunities that came with it, you know, the, you know, hey, we want you to do this, you know, you know, you know, show up here, show up there, you know, job offers, opportunities. Like, my phone never rang for them. You know, really, it was a bunch of other people, and I. I had certain feelings about that, for sure, you know, hard. How do you not, you know, to feel like, man, I gave you guys a lot. I mean, I gave you, like, a lot of my life and, like, personal feelings and just like, I, you know, and you guys benefited greatly from it. And now, you know, not that I didn't, you know, I certainly was very grateful, but, like, it was hard not to feel a certain way about it. I can tell you, sitting where I am. Now, if I got those opportunities, I wouldn't be sitting here today, you know, because, you know, I was forced to. To go out on my own and make it on my own. I was forced to not have people say, well, here's a job opportunity. Here's a job opportunity. Well, also, those job opportunities kept other people just comfortable enough not to take certain risks. And I'm so grateful that I didn't get those calls now. I'm so grateful, because the truth is, I would have said yes to them. I would have. I would have. I wanted. I wanted to be wanted, and then I wasn't. And if I was wanted, I would have comfortably taken those opportunities, which were great opportunities. But I wouldn't have gone on my own, and I wouldn't have figured it out. I wouldn't have done what I've done and now be in a position that, you know, where I'm at, which is leaps and bounds past where most of them are in terms of certain things. And it's just like. It takes a few years to figure it out. But, like, for me, it's just like. Like, Jesus Christ. It's almost, like, scary to think that the only reason I'm sitting here was something outside of my control. Because I'm, you know, you hear me? I'm so big on controlling what you control, and, you know, it's like, you know, be the driver of your life. But the reality is, is, like, sometimes, like, you know, we. We get dealt certain things and then in the moment feel unfair or bullshit, and it's as easy to resent certain things. But sometimes those of those obstacles force us and challenge us to do things we don't want to do, but it, you know, makes us more resilient, and it makes us do things that other people might not be forced to do, and it might. It puts us in positions to reap certain benefits that we wouldn't otherwise get if we weren't forced to be resilient and, you know, and go on our own. Does that make any of this make sense? Yeah, I just. I mean, 100% try to, you know, and it's like, in the moment, I get it. But, like, just, you know, when you're feeling those feelings of resentment and you're feeling those feelings of frustration and anger, they're natural and they're normal, but try not to have those feelings stop you from pushing forward and moving on and still focus on having positive relationships, you know, with people. You know, that's. That's just my big takeaway. It's Just like everything you're going through is valid and you seem like you're making some really healthy choices for the most part. But there are, you know, there are things that sounds like from time to time you do that again, don't serve you, they only hurt you. And you're doing it kind of out of anger and spite. And it's just try to challenge yourself, to ask yourself, you know, you said you call yourself selfish. It's not selfishness, it's, it's stubbornness. It's the opposite, you know, because it's not helping you, it's hurting you, you know?
