Summary of Podcast Episode E978 – "Going Deeper with Tamra Judge"
Introduction In Episode E978 of The Viall Files, host Nick Viall welcomes Tamra Judge, a long-standing cast member of The Real Housewives of Orange County (RHOC), for an in-depth conversation. Joined by co-host Natalie Joy and the Household team, the episode delves into Tamra's personal journey, her experiences on reality television, relationships, mental health, and entrepreneurial endeavors.
Early Life and Entry into Reality TV
Tamra begins by sharing her challenging early life, revealing that she became a young mother in her last months of high school. "[06:15] Tamra Judge: I got pregnant in my last three months of high school... I didn't know if I was going to keep them."
She discusses her secret marriage to Ryan's father, supported by her parents, and the subsequent struggles of single motherhood. Despite these hardships, Tamra pursued a career in real estate, eventually landing a role on RHOC. "[07:22] Tamra Judge: I was a receptionist at a trash company and dated the owner... that's how I got on the show."
Challenges on RHOC and Personal Struggles
Tamra opens up about the emotional toll of being on the show, especially during her separation and eventual divorce from Simon, another cast member. "[04:09] Tamra Judge: Covid hit and I got fired from the show... It took me a while to deal with it."
She recounts the difficulties of balancing public scrutiny with personal life, leading her to seek therapy. "[15:36] Tamra Judge: I started therapy because... I have all these things inside me."
Tamra also addresses the impact of reality TV dynamics on personal relationships, particularly with fellow cast member Shannon. "[38:16] Tamra Judge: Shannon was always exhausting to be friends with... she holds grudges like no other."
Mental Health and Autism Revelation
A significant portion of the discussion centers on Tamra's mental health journey, including her recent revelation about being on the autism spectrum. "[56:09] Tamra Judge: My doctor went, 'I wouldn't be shocked if you are somewhere on the spectrum.'"
She describes the challenges of impulsivity and sensory issues, emphasizing the importance of therapy and support from her family. "[57:31] Tamra Judge: It's been very, very difficult."
Entrepreneurial Ventures and Personal Growth
Beyond television, Tamra highlights her success in business, notably her multi-million dollar CBD and THC companies. "[70:14] Tamra Judge: It's a multi-million dollar company."
She discusses her plans to potentially sell her businesses and focus more on her podcast, which she balances alongside her life in Big Bear and Orange County. "[70:32] Tamara Judge: We'll probably sell it eventually... the podcast is doing well as well."
Relationships and Current Life
Tamra reflects on her long-term relationship with Eddie, whom she met during her time on RHOC. After facing numerous challenges, including public criticism and personal setbacks, their relationship has endured for 15 years. "[28:13] Tamara Judge: We've been together now for 15 years."
She praises Eddie's supportive nature and his ability to remain calm amidst the chaos of reality TV. "[28:16] Tamara Judge: Eddie is such a zen guy... he tells me where I want him."
Tamra also shares heartfelt sentiments about her daughter, Sophia, emphasizing their close bond and Sophia's understanding of the complexities of her mother's public life. "[65:37] Sophia: Mom is genuinely one of the most caring, hard-working women I know... but people don't see that."
Navigating Public Perception and Criticism
Addressing the rampant online criticism and rumors, Tamra expresses frustration with anonymous accounts spreading falsehoods about her personal life. "[60:50] Tamara Judge: Somebody wrote a podcast that said they think me and Jen were swingers together. I just went, 'No, not my style.'"
She emphasizes the parasocial nature of internet interactions, where fans believe they understand her life without truly knowing her. "[66:06] Sophia: People don't know us. It's all parasocial. People think they know her and they don't at all."
Tamra advocates for accountability and transparency, highlighting the detrimental effects of unverified rumors on mental health and personal relationships. "[21:49] Tamara Judge: People can say whatever they want... They'll say some of the nastiest things or put out rumors."
Future Endeavors and Closing Thoughts
As the conversation wraps up, Tamra hints at upcoming developments in her personal and professional life, including her daughter's potential move to New York for music school. "[67:00] Tamara Judge: We're in talks... possibly moving to New York."
She expresses optimism about overcoming past challenges and the continued support from her family. "[68:34] Sophia: Mom is genuinely one of the most caring, hard-working women I know... I love you and you're very caring and you work hard."
Tamra concludes by reiterating her commitment to personal growth, mental health, and maintaining a balanced life despite the pressures of reality TV. "[65:57] Sophia: You can't really know a person through TV, but I love you and you're very caring and you work hard."
Notable Quotes
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Tamra Judge "[06:15]... I got pregnant in my last three months of high school... I didn't know if I was going to keep them."
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Tamra Judge "[28:13] We've been together now for 15 years."
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Sophia "[65:37] Mom is genuinely one of the most caring, hard-working women I know... I love you and you're very caring and you work hard."
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Tamra Judge "[21:49] People can say whatever they want... They'll say some of the nastiest things or put out rumors."
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Tamra Judge "[56:09]... I have all these things inside of me. I'm explaining all these things to her. And my doctor goes, 'I wouldn't be shocked if you are somewhere on the spectrum.'"
Conclusion Tamra Judge's candid discussion on The Viall Files offers listeners a comprehensive look into her life beyond the reality TV spotlight. From overcoming early motherhood challenges and navigating the tumultuous world of RHOC to managing mental health and building successful businesses, Tamra's story is one of resilience, self-discovery, and unwavering commitment to her family. Her insights shed light on the often unseen struggles behind the glamorous facade of reality television, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and personal growth.
