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Episode: Preview: Subscribe to Viall Files+
Date: January 24, 2026
Host: Nick Viall
Guest: Jane (former “Ask Nick” caller)

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Main Theme

This episode features a special preview of the "Viall Files+ Update Special" in which Nick Viall reconnects with a past “Ask Nick” caller, Jane. The conversation centers on navigating a challenging father-daughter relationship, personal growth, the power of acceptance, and evolving ways to communicate and connect within family dynamics.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Reintroducing Jane and Her Story

• [01:42] Nick brings Jane back to update listeners about her journey after reaching out for advice on her estranged relationship with her father.
• Jane had written her father an emotional letter, but never received a reply, setting the context for her ongoing struggle with familial connection.

Progress Over the Holidays

• [02:06] Jane shares that she spent the recent holidays with her father and his wife, alongside her husband. They attended a festival in her hometown and she describes it as "a really wonderful time.”
• She credits Nick’s prior advice:
  • “I kind of just met him where he was at, and instead of trying to change him ... I just tried to meet him where he was. And that allowed for a lot of authentic connection.” ([02:10] - Jane)
• Jane reflects that accepting her father as he is helped her see and accept their similarities for the first time, instead of dwelling on shortcomings.

Discovering Shared Traits – “Time Blindness”

• [03:08] Nick asks Jane about specific similarities she shares with her father that may be points of insecurity:

  • Both deal with "time blindness"—a tendency to be late or lose track of time, often associated with ADHD.
  • Jane: “I pride myself on being more reliable. But, you know, in order to be nicer to myself about my time blindness, I also need to give him grace about it.” ([03:18] - Jane)
  • She realized that judging her father harshly for his behaviors was tied to judging herself for the same traits.

• [04:08] Jane defines time blindness: “That’s like an ADHD term ... you were blind to time, you show up late. Not usually not showing up at all, but just like 15 minutes to 20 minutes late, usually.”

• She shares an anecdote about showing up late to the festival, recognizing the anxiety it caused and how it mirrored past frustrations with her dad.

Shifting Perspective and Granting Grace

• [04:51] Jane articulates growth in her ability to accept her father's flaws without conflating them with a lack of care:
  • “...now it's—I can accept that he’s a flawed human, and that doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about me. And when I don't show up places on time, that doesn’t mean that I’m a bad person either.”

Nick’s Philosophical Take on Family Relationships

• [05:21] Nick discusses the complexity and unique security of familial bonds:

  • “There's this bond that friends don’t have. You don’t even have to like your sibling to love them... you’re the main character in your own story, and your parents are the main character in theirs.”
  • He notes that true progress comes from self-reflection and checking one’s assumptions about intentions.

• [06:23] On letting go of past grievances:

  • “At some point, an apology just has to be enough if you feel it’s sincere... sometimes you just gotta move on.”

• Nick wraps up his point with humor, referencing the volume of Jane’s original letter:

  • “And if you sent me a ten page letter or whatever, zero chance I’d read it.” ([06:43] - Nick)

Communication Styles and Personal Evolution

• [07:36] Jane reflects that her approach to communicating with her father has matured:
  • “Now that I’m almost 30, like writing a letter to my dad is not necessarily the way I want to communicate with him. I feel like that was more coming from my mom... I’m just kind of learning, like—yeah, me at 19 writing a letter to my dad about how he didn’t show up well is just—like, that doesn’t align with how I deal with issues anymore.”

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On giving grace to herself and her father:

  • “In order to be nicer to myself about my time blindness, I also need to give him grace about it.” ([03:18] - Jane)

• On the intention behind lateness:

  • “Others consider it inconsiderate or rude or you not literally showing up for someone; to the people, that’s not their intention.” ([04:40] - Nick)

• On evolving family dynamics:

  • “You’re the main character in your own story, and your parents are the main character in theirs.” ([05:38] - Nick)
  • “At some point... an apology just has to be enough. If you feel like it’s sincere… sometimes you just gotta move on.” ([06:23] - Nick)

• On recognizing communication styles:

  • “We receive and give information differently, and you being aware of that is a step in the right direction.” ([07:15] - Nick)

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Important Timestamps

• [01:42] – Jane returns and her original story is recapped
• [02:06] – Jane shares her positive holiday update and new approach
• [03:08] – Discussion of “time blindness” and mutual flaws
• [04:51] – Acceptance and grace for herself and her father
• [05:21] – Nick’s take on complex family relationships
• [06:23] – Moving forward vs. relitigating old disputes
• [07:36] – Jane reflects on communication growth and maturity

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Tone & Style

• Conversational, candid, and gently humorous
• Emphasis on self-awareness, empathy, and personal growth
• Supportive and gently teasing, especially from Nick

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Summary

This preview episode of the "Viall Files+ Update Special" provides a heartfelt, insightful look at relationship evolution—specifically the delicate work of reconciliation and acceptance within family. Jane’s journey demonstrates the power of meeting loved ones where they are, recognizing shared traits (even the frustrating ones), and how maturing perspectives can reshape old patterns. Nick offers both practical advice and philosophical musings, seasoned with his trademark wit.

Listeners leave with a strong sense of hope for repairing difficult relationships by extending grace—both to others and to oneself.

Transcript

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Welcome back, Jane.

[Jane]

Thank you, Nick. I'm happy to be here.

[Nick]

I wanted to give a little update after the holidays.

Well, just to bring any audience members up to speed who aren't familiar with your story, you called in having a bit of an estranged relationship with your father and you wrote him a very meaningful letter some time ago and you did not get, I don't think, any response.

[Jane]

Yep, we spent the holidays together. We went to like a festival in my hometown, which is where he lives now, and it was him and his wife and me and my husband and we actually had a really wonderful time. I of course took your advice, Nick, and kind of just met him where he was at, and instead of trying to change him or have all these internal thoughts during, you know, the hangout about like, I wish he could be better, I wish he could understand me, I just tried to meet him where he was. And that allowed for a lot of authentic connection. That also allowed for me to kind of realize the ways that we are similar and how before, I just wasn't really noticing those or accepting those parts because.

[Nick]

Question.

In what way do you feel that you guys are similar that you feel is a weakness or an insecurity or a shortcoming that you relate to?

[Jane]

Yes, we both have some time blindness. And so that's one thing where. And so, yeah, that's one thing where in the past, it would always be like, my dad doesn't care about me because he didn't show up on time. And he can be forgetful and he can be, like, a little sporadic, not super reliable. And I pride myself on being more reliable. But, you know, in order to be nicer to myself about my time blindness, I also need to give him grace about it. And so that was something like. I really learned that I'm judging myself on the things that we share. And in order to be nicer to myself, I also need to accept that he's human in those ways.

[Nick]

What do you mean by time blindness? I'm just curious.

[Jane]

Yeah, just like. I mean, that's like an ADHD term. So just like you. You were blind to time, you show up late. Not usually. Not showing up at all, but just like 15 minutes to 20 minutes late, usually.

[Nick]

Right.

[Jane]

Is like time blindness. And we showed up late to the festival, and I noticed I had, like, a lot of anxiety because I was like, oh, gosh, I'm showing up late there on time.

[Nick]

And while other. Yeah. Others consider it inconsiderate or rude or you not literally showing up for someone, to the people, that's not their intention.

Yeah, okay.

[Jane]

Exactly. And, yeah, to give him grace that, like, being on time is not his strong suit. And that may have been really difficult and triggering when I was a kid and I, like, needed him to show up places, but now it's. I can accept that he's a flawed human, and that doesn't mean he doesn't care about me. And when I don't show up places on time, that doesn't mean that I'm a bad person either. Just means that that is not something that comes naturally to either of us.

[Nick]

Yeah, it's interesting. And listen, interpersonal relationships, specifically around family are tricky because, like, there's the security of their family. They're not going anywhere. I know that's not always the case for a lot of families, but there's. There's this bond that friends don't have. You can become friends who are like brother and sister, but, like, you don't even have to like your sibling, to, to love them and to want to do things for them or to have expectations of them. You know, obviously in the parent child relationship is that much more significant. But like, at the same time, I think people forget that, like even your parents are the main character in their story and you're the main character in yours. And that's the perspective you're both coming from. And all of us in life, when I interact with people or talk about people on the show in terms of my intentions of how they should feel about it versus how they feel about it, and we're all coming from that perspective. And so the only way that gets better is to check ourselves. Right. That's great. Great that you're able to do that.

Yeah.

Because it's really just about moving forward, honestly, like relitigating old fights. At some point you do have to move on. At some point, an apology just has to be enough. If you feel like it's sincere. You might not even fully agree about like the situation, but they might be like, listen, yeah, that part. Yeah, I could. I definitely fucked up there. And I.

You listen.

Not my. Wasn't my intention, but like, I get how, I get how you feel that way. I'm sorry, I'll try to be more careful, but sometimes you just got to move on. So awesome that you guys were able to do that. And if you sent me a ten page letter or whatever, zero chance I'd read.

[Jane]

It wasn't a ten page letter. It was, it was multiple pages. And I was 19 years old. It was.

[Nick]

If I got.

Nick is also dyslexic.

I'm just, honestly, if you sent me a text that might only be three.

[Jane]

Sentences, he's still not reading.

[Nick]

Not reading it. Yeah, I know. Basically, I'm speed reading it. I'm looking for keywords, you know, to be like, does it end on a positive note? Is it, you know, like, what's the energy? And I'm like, I. I know what I need to know. You know, we all. My point is we receive and give information differently and you being aware of that is. Is a step in the right direction. So I appreciate that.

[Jane]

Absolutely. And I, you know, I kind of realized like now that I'm almost 30, like writing a letter to my dad is not necessarily the way that I want to communicate with him. I feel like that was more coming from my mom a little bit. Like that's how she would commun with him. That's how she would communicate with people. And I'm just, I'm just kind of learning. Like yeah, me at 19 writing a letter to my dad about how he didn't show up well is just like that doesn't align with how I deal with issues anymore. So.

[Nick]

You'Re crazy.

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