101: Jiaoying Summers Can't Believe what Her Uncle Made for Lunch | The Wayback #101

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Episode 101: Jiaoying Summers Can't Believe What Her Uncle Made for Lunch
Date: December 4, 2025
Guest: Jiaoying Summers

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Episode Overview

In this heartfelt, often hilarious episode, comedian Jiaoying Summers joins Ryan Sickler for a ride through her tumultuous and inspiring upbringing in rural China, her culture shock as a student in Kentucky, and the wild family stories and struggles that shaped her. The conversation touches on topics of family, resilience, culture clashes, and personal growth, highlighted by a shocking childhood story involving her beloved pet. Both hosts keep the atmosphere candid and lively, revealing the humor and humanity within difficult memories.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Jiaoying’s Childhood in China

• Family Dynamics and Early Responsibility

  • Jiaoying was the eldest of three, growing up in Henan province, a rural area of central China (08:15).
  • Her father was intelligent but struggled with alcoholism, while her mother was the hardworking provider who eventually opened several successful restaurants (07:26, 16:21).
  • As the eldest, Jiaoying took on a quasi-parental role for her siblings:

    "I'm a very traditional Chinese older sister. The older sister in the house is the man in the house." (07:15 – Jiaoying Summers)

• Work Ethic and Helping the Family

  • Starting early, Jiaoying helped at her mother’s restaurant, doing dishes as a child and later waitressing at just eight years old (10:41).
  • She often brought friends to the restaurant to do homework and share meals, which made her popular among classmates (11:05).

• Village vs. City Child

  • The family’s move from a village to the city led to bullying due to her accent and clothes. Jiaoying worked hard to fit in, requested tutoring, and eventually ranked number one in her school (12:27).

School Years and Survival

• Academic and Social Pressure

  • Chinese school days were strict: morning programs started at 6:00 a.m. with memorization class, followed by a rigorous schedule (13:46).
  • She strove for success not only for herself but also to shield her siblings from bullying (12:46).

• Early Entrepreneurship

  • As a child, she helped her cousin run a video store, unknowingly peddling Japanese pornography while doing her homework (14:32).

The Heartbreaking Pet Story

• The Fate of “Big Yellow”
  • Jiaoying’s grandfather rescued an Akita-German shepherd mix who became her loyal childhood companion (20:06).
  • Upon returning from a trip, Jiaoying learned her uncle had cooked her pet after it was injured, and she ate what she didn’t realize was her own dog:

    "Am I eating Big Yellow? They're like, yes. I start to cry, but the meat tastes so good. I keep chewing." (22:33 – Jiaoying Summers)

  • Traumatized, she kept the dog’s pelt, refusing afterward to own big dogs (23:31).

Wild Family Stories

• Mother’s Business Acumen and Surprises

  • Jiaoying’s mother rose from waitress to restaurant owner, at one point leasing, then fully owning and expanding a restaurant (16:21).
  • Later, her mother acquired and covertly ran a brothel disguised as a hotel, showing strong-willed “Art of War”–style cunning to protect family reputation:

    "My mom is crazy. It's the Art of War, you know. You have to get with your enemy in any way you can. And she was smart." (31:54 – Jiaoying Summers)

• Family Violence and Survival in School

  • Jiaoying describes standing up for her bullied sister, resulting in a fierce fight with a notorious girl and her gang — a story of self-defense, reputation, and reconciliation (26:22).

Moving to the United States

• Arriving in Kentucky

  • Desperate to leave China, Jiaoying accepted the first school that offered, landing in Kentucky because it was her quickest ticket to the US (35:48).
  • She learned English largely through self-initiative: illegal jobs in restaurants, attending church, and even Alcoholics Anonymous classes for free language exposure (43:24).

• Adapting to America

  • Her initial college experiences included working under the table, cleaning bathrooms, and surviving on lessons learned from hardship (36:41–37:37).
  • She dropped out during her last college semester to save money for moving to LA — inspired by Brad Pitt’s origin story (38:12).

• Culture Shock: Dating, Beauty, Money

  • Jiaoying discussed strict gender norms and financial expectations in China versus the US. In China, men are expected to buy property for their wives; in the US, she found a blend of independence and hustle (45:25, 46:55).
  • She spoke candidly about the obsession with light skin in China as a class, not a race, marker, and compared this to American notions of beauty (41:41).

Building Perseverance and Confidence

• Turning Point: College Popularity

  • Gaining confidence after tutoring math and attending a party as the “chosen” one for a college basketball player, she shifted from “ugly duckling to peacock” (39:09, 41:01).

• Entrepreneurial Spirit

  • Jiaoying credits her family’s hustle for her own work ethic, balancing finance studies with theater to fund her dreams without desperation (46:56).

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Outcast Childhood:

  “I was ugly kid, no uncle want to touch me ... I look like a handsome little boy. We don’t have priests there.” (09:08 – Jiaoying Summers, joking about early safety in the village)

• On Eating Her Pet by Accident:

  “Am I eating Big Yellow? ... I start to cry, but the meat tastes so good. I keep chewing.” (22:33 – Jiaoying Summers)
  “I took my chopstick and I stick on this uncle’s arm. And he started to bleed and I started to cry and I told my grandpa I’m keeping the fur.” (23:07 – Jiaoying Summers)

• On Family Legacy:

  “My mom is crazy. It's the Art of War, you know ... She was smart.” (31:54 – Jiaoying Summers)

• On Dating in America versus China:

  “The only balls I touched are the balls on my abacus for calculus homework.” (45:00 – Jiaoying Summers)
  “I just don’t believe in like a man has to pay for everything. I feel like you both contribute in different ways, but ... you’ve got hustle in your DNA.” (46:34 & 46:55 – Jiaoying/Ryan Sickler)

• Advice on Adapting:

  “No, life is not fair. Don’t try to complain about... It has never been fair in the life of history.” (37:35 – Jiaoying Summers)

• Summing Up Her Story:

  “I’m the second Chinese Disney princess after Mulan.” (47:46 – Jiaoying Summers, referencing her Disney+ special)

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• [06:00] – Introduction: Childhood & Family in China
• [09:41] – Growing up Helping in the Family Restaurant
• [11:13] – Bullying after Moving to the City
• [14:32] – Selling Japanese Porn as a Child
• [20:06] – The “Big Yellow” Dog Story
• [22:33] – Realizing She Ate Her Pet
• [25:01] – High School in China, Bullying and Fights
• [29:09] – Family Business: Mother Ran a Brothel
• [35:39] – Coming to America: Adapting in Kentucky
• [39:06] – Gaining Popularity and Confidence in College
• [41:41] – Chinese Cultural Views on Skin Color
• [43:10] – Learning English Through Churches and AA
• [46:56] – Applying Her Hustle in America

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Tone & Style

The episode is marked by sharp wit, raw honesty, and resilient humor. Ryan and Jiaoying share laughter even in retelling painful or astonishing events. There's an undercurrent of empathy, admiration, and hope, whether Jiaoying is joking about her village upbringing or describing her journey to self-sufficiency in America.

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Final Thoughts

This episode is both touching and sidesplitting, a candid window into the immigrant experience, family complexity, and the hard-won wisdom that comes from surviving — and laughing at — the worst life throws at you.

Listen if you want: real, unvarnished family stories, comedic takes on culture shock, and a celebration of survival, hustle, and humor.

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Promotions:

• Jiaoying Summers' special "What Species Are You?" on Hulu and Disney+
• Jiaoying’s international comedy tour: jiayuncomedy.com
• Ryan Sickler’s special “Live and Alive” on YouTube

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For anyone who missed the episode, this summary brings you Jiaoying Summers’ amazing journey in full color — heartbreak, hilarity, and hard-fought triumphs included.

Transcript

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[Ryan Sickler]

Guys, I want to say thank you very much. We hit over a million views on Live and Alive. Thank you for supporting it. Thank you for watching it. If you haven't yet, go watch it. Share it with your friends. Comment like all that stuff. Live and Alive streaming now on my YouTube. Thank you guys so much for your support.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Hey baby, we going to be here all day.

[Ryan Sickler]

We going to be here all day, baby. I like this kind of party. Welcome back to the Way Back. Everybody. Ryan Sickler here starting this show by saying thank you gratitude like I do all of them. Thank you for supporting anything I do. Definitely go watch my new special Streaming now on YouTube live and alive. Let's get it going. You guys are crushing with support. Share it with everybody. You know, like it. All that good stuff. All right, you guys, I'm very excited to have this guest back here with me today. First time here on the Way Back. Ladies and gentlemen, Jaelyn Summers. Welcome to the Way Back girl.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Ryan, I'm so happy to be here.

[Ryan Sickler]

Well, I'm glad you're here because you had such. If you haven't seen her Honeydew episode, go watch her Honeydew episode. You had a great episode. You had great feedback. But before we get into your way Back stories right there, please promote everything you'd like.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Hello, guys. My new special is is on Hulu and Disney plus now called what species are you? Check out what species you are. And I'm on tour. My international tour just announced my Lucky Pony 26 tour for next year. I'm coming all over the world. Go to jiayuncomedy.com and buy ticket to see me live. Love you guys so much. I'm so happy to be back with Ryan. Also, check out Ryan's special. A legend. He is funny as hell. Make sure you check out his special on YouTube and make sure we hit a million very soon.

[Ryan Sickler]

You're so. Thank you. And congrats on your special.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Thank you.

[Ryan Sickler]

I saw your announcement. I'm glad you're here to promote it. But let's talk about. Because when you came on the Honey do. You grew up in China and you came to Lexington, Kentucky.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

[Ryan Sickler]

Or Louisville.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Lexington, Kentucky for college.

[Ryan Sickler]

At what age are you?

[Jaelyn Summers]

18.

[Ryan Sickler]

So let's talk about China then. Growing up in China, what are your earliest memories?

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's you.

[Ryan Sickler]

Is it? Mom, dad and you have siblings? How many?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I have a little sister and a little brother. We are still very close. I'm a very traditional Chinese older sister. Which you.

[Person Learning About Rocket Money]

The.

[Jaelyn Summers]

The older sister in the house is the man in the house.

[Ryan Sickler]

Is that right?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah. My father is always drunk, so he didn't really. He's very smart and charming and love to read, but he's just drunk. Mother is the one who the workhorse in the house.

[Ryan Sickler]

Were they still together?

[Jaelyn Summers]

They are still together because the Chinese people, not from big cities, don't believe in divorces. They are still together and I, I, I support my father. I love him very much. He's not sober. Oh, good. I'm actually going to Singapore 26 of this month. I'm going to take two days to Beijing to spend some time with my father.

[Ryan Sickler]

Has he seen you do stand up?

[Jaelyn Summers]

He sees something translated, not live. He hasn't. He hasn't. But he's very proud of me.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh yeah?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. I love him. I forgave my dad and I love him.

[Ryan Sickler]

Good.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah.

[Ryan Sickler]

Tell us, where are you starting off? Where do you live in China when you first are born, you and the family. What. What city are you in?

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's called Henan province, which is the Central China is one of the biggest province. We have over 100 million people. It's a huge province. And I grew up in Lingzhou, the city of Lingzhou. It is the tiny little mountain city. Li. Yes, that's Lindo. Henan, which is a tiny city bordering three provinces. So our dialogue is kind of like alien language. Is. Is nobody understand our dialogue? Even Chinese people speak Mandarin don't understand it.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh, is that right?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. I grew up in Linzhou and see little village Growing a village. And then my grandpa, my grandpa's farm, my mother. I grew up in the village. I was born in a village during the one child policy. So we have the mountains. It's a beautiful little tiny city.

Mountain. That's where I grew up. I would ride my bike to go climb the mountain.

[Ryan Sickler]

And it's safe. It was safe back then.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I was ugly kid, no uncle. Want to touch me.

Also I was. I look like a handsome little boy. We don't have priests there.

[Ryan Sickler]

So handsome little boys have problems out there too.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, we don't have priests in China. So nobody wants to touch me.

[Ryan Sickler]

Where are you going? You're riding your bike to go where? What's a day for you?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I would say.

[Ryan Sickler]

Give me a summer day.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I would, I would ride a bike with a group of kids and we, we hike up. We, we bike up to Taihan Mountain and there's a little, little lake, Riverish thing. We go there to try to catch crops and fish.

[Ryan Sickler]

You speak in my language.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah. Crop and fish.

[Ryan Sickler]

Salt water.

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's not salt water.

We go there and I would pick flowers for my mom's restaurant. Wildflowers.

[Ryan Sickler]

Okay, so you're getting crabs and fish and you're taking it to the restaurant.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I would eat the crop myself, but I would pick the wildflowers for mom's restaurant. I love to have flowers on every table. And I started cleaning dishes after school to help is. It wasn't a child labor is more like. My mother is such a. I just, yeah, I just wanted to help because she works so hard and she got three kids that she, she is. She want us to go to the best school school. And she want to pay for all of the art programs and sports programs for all of us. She just, she just, she has nothing. But she just had all ambition to do everything. So I wanted to make sure I can help. I would pick flowers. I, I clean dishes until I, I'm back better at speaking. And my math got better. I started being the waitress when I was around eight. I was a waitress. Yeah.

[Ryan Sickler]

You're eight years old. Taking orders.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. I memorized everything. I calculate everything. And I, I, I, I was, it was. For me, it was just very happy. Then after school, I will bring my classmates to our restaurant. Upstairs, the VIP room. So the private rooms, we have one, we have the ac, we have fruits and we'll do homework. We get to eat the food. And then after that the business got busy around 8pm Then we all go down and help.

[Ryan Sickler]

And you all go help?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. So I was very popular with like the girl with a lot of friends.

[Ryan Sickler]

Okay.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah.

[Ryan Sickler]

Tell me about your elementary school. Let's go check out your elementary school here.

[Jaelyn Summers]

This is exciting. This is elementary. Elementary. When I was. I was. I was transfer students. I transferred from the village to the city. So it was. People were very abusive towards me because my accent had a village accent. And I don't dress up like city girls. And people were very mean to me. My sister and my brother also getting bullied. We all transferred together. My sister is two, brother is one year younger. So it was very tough for them. And I knew that for us, those guests stop getting bullying. I need to be good at school and I need to learn to make sure we don't speak with such a country accent. And also to make sure I dress them more like a city kid rather than wearing boring things that look like we are from the village. I know it's superficial, but when you get bu. I was older, I can handle the bullying. But my brother and sister, they. They are younger and weaker. I don't want them to feel they are less than other people. They don't know better. So I was. I just started to ask my mom to get me after school program tutoring so she would have spent all money. This is it.

[Ryan Sickler]

This is where you went to elementary school? What grades are elementary for you? Your kindergarten through fifth.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Over there I was. When I was there, I was already fourth. Okay, fourth grade. My brother was.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh, that's when you transferred in?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. So I started. My mother paid for a private tutor and my school work really go up big school.

[Ryan Sickler]

This is an elementary school with a track and everything. You got a really good school.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, it's very good.

[Ryan Sickler]

How many kids do you even know?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I was like 2000. Wow. And I started there. Ranked probably like 200 in school. And then when I was finishing, I was number one. I just wanted my sister and brother not get bullied. And so everyone want to be my friend. Therefore, they are. They are also having a better life.

[Ryan Sickler]

So does that help you when you go to middle school then?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I was very good in middle school that I was popular.

[Ryan Sickler]

Find your middle school. Is it all in the same area?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes, it's in the same city. Yes, is.

[Ryan Sickler]

And what do you like in middle school? While we look here, what do you like? Are you a good student? You're a good student, but are you getting in trouble at all?

[Jaelyn Summers]

My sister is getting in trouble and she's a problem. Yeah, that's it.

[Ryan Sickler]

Middle school. Right.

[Jaelyn Summers]

That's the middle School right here. I ride my bike to middle school from my mom's restaurant. So from our house it's around like a 25 or 30 minutes bike ride. But every day I read bike. And we have morning programs. This class at 6:00am What? 6, 6:00am is memorization class.

[Ryan Sickler]

6, your starting class?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, 6:00am is a morning program. 6:00am to 8:30. And then you have. You have breakfast break in school and then lunch break is at noon to 2pm and then after that after school at 6pm and then you have more evening classes that I go to Evening class from 8 to 9:30. I ride back. Back there to school. But thank God we had a restaurant. So I. You're growing. You are hungry. You know, I got to eat very good food. Thank God. Yeah, yeah, I like to eat. This is my middle school. I was just wanted to leave that place. I want to come to Hollywood, become a movie star.

[Ryan Sickler]

But even then you did.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I knew because my. My cousin opened a video store when I was in elementary school. I went there to. To sell Japanese porn for her.

She has Japanese porn illegally. So I sell them. I didn't know what I was selling and do my homework there and I would watch Hollywood movies.

[Ryan Sickler]

Are you serious? Yes, I was homework and selling Japanese porn. How old are you?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I. I was in elementary school. I would say like a nine.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh my God.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes, I. I made a lot of cash. They tipped me too, you know.

[Ryan Sickler]

Hold on, I want to pump the brakes for a second because you mentioned having good food. And before we started talking, you told us a story. And we weren't sure if you were being honest or not. But you told us something happened to a pet of yours growing up.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes, that was before I moved to the city. I was still in the vil. My dad and my mom before that got become. Became a drunk. My dad was very handsome and charming and he's super smart. So he married my mother when he was 18. And he likes to travel. He went to Manchua, which is northeast part of China. They have the great forests. So he started importing lumbers from Manchua to my city of Henan. Start selling lumbers by the highway. And he started a little office. And he can measure the. The weight, the size of a lumber, just by measurement, with his eye, by calculating math. And so he started making very good money in the village. My mom started having ambition to move to the city, to take out the city. The moment she started to work on this restaurant, she was starting with a Beatrice. And she slowly started to move her way up Become a manager. And then the people who own the restaurant, they are older, they want to retire. And they don't have. They don't want to just sell it to become a different place. They want to keep the restaurant. My mother was very hard working, young and ambitious. So they agreed to lease restaurant until she paid off. She was able to triple the income in the first year and pay it off in a few years. And she was able to open two more restaurants with three kids.

[Ryan Sickler]

Drunk husband.

[Jaelyn Summers]

My dad got drunk because my mom had the restaurant. There's a open bar. So instead of being in the lumber office, being a real man, you know, he. He run around like a real man carrying lumber like a. Like a cowboy. Now he's sitting in front of a bar drinking and talking to customers. And he just. He's weak because alcohol running my family. And so my. My father got. Become a drunk. And then my mom just. They. They start fighting, screaming every day. They won't divorce because it wasn't an option. So my mother to. That was. I mean, let's talk about my. My pet. So before my father was drunk, before my mom went to the city, I lived. So they were running a lumber business. So my grandpa, Grandma took care of me. I live on their farm and they are. They grow potatoes and corn. You know, they're just regular Chinese farmers. But grandpa is a Confucius scholar. Confucius and I Ching and Feng shui. So he taught me a lot of calligraphy and Chinese philosophy. Grandpa was my best friend. He was my father figure. That's why I think I am who I am. Is that the love, the male influence I have? My grandpa was very strong. And my grandpa found a homeless dog, a puppy on the street, and he took the puppy home.

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[Jaelyn Summers]

So when you come home from your school, your grandma and I are still at the farm. You know, we want to get you a little companion. So this puppy is going to become a big dog. So it can wait you outside the school. So when you finish school, it walk you back to the house. And my grandpa also likes woodwork, so he built a little dog house, but also like a desk for me to do my homework before they come home. So the puppy just grew up with me and we become very good friends. It's like a Akita, Japanese Akita and German Shopper Mix is a big dog.

[Ryan Sickler]

That is a big dog.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Very big, around £70.

[Ryan Sickler]

Akita. There's the. Those are the Japanese police dogs.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

[Ryan Sickler]

Like our German shepherd here. Yeah, look at that.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah. Akita German Shopper.

[Ryan Sickler]

I mean you got two bigs mixed.

[Rocket Money Narrator]

Yeah.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, that's what he looked like. He looked beige. Yeah. He looked like this. Yeah. This is what he looked like. Yeah. And that's why to today I can. I cannot have a. I want to cry. I can't have big dog anymore. I had a Yorkie. I can't have big dogs anymore. So this dog we. We. So he walked me to school and we walk back together. And my grandpa would leave the food in the dog house. It's. It's our house missing Me and the dog's house. Right next to our house is pretty big. There's a door and there's dogs where dogs sit. And where's the desk going to do my homework. And my grandpa would always have food for us.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh, so the desk he made is also in this. It's not. He made two separate things.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Same thing.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh, me and the dog stay there bigger.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

[Ryan Sickler]

Yes. This isn't a dog house.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, it's a big. It's like a one little room. He built it for. For me. He's a woodwork person. He made it very cute. He would have the sign and he would have art on it is very cute. And we would do homework together that I would give him ribs and food. He would dig a hole to hide the leftovers. He can't finish. We were just best friend. I'll talk to him. And I remember as I told I told you, a producer one for the summer I went to camping trip to Shanxi province to visit our poor relatives. They live in the villages. They don't have WI fi, they don't have tv. But they do have a lot of. They go hunting for animals and they have big fish and big crops in the river. So in the summer I, I went there. So two weeks later I came back home. My uncle was there. Wasn't. Wasn't my father's younger brother. He's like a relative uncle. He was there and he said, oh, you must be hungry. We just made lunch. I said, okay. I was eating my lunch. I just. Something fell off. I look away, I saw there's something bleeding off our horn tree. I said, grandpa, what is bleeding on the horn tree? He goes, oh yeah, that's just fur. I said, well, who's fur? He go, oh yeah. Big yellow died. I said, what? Why did a big yellow die? He's like, oh, he got caught with a bear trap. So his leg's broken. So he's broken. And your uncle.

Killed him and cooked him. I said, what is this? Am I eating big yellow? They're like, yes. I start to cry, but the meat tastes so good. I keep chewing.

[Ryan Sickler]

My God, you're not eating your pet.

[Jaelyn Summers]

And then I, I then I start to throw up and then I run there. I'm so sorry.

[Ryan Sickler]

You said it tasting good. I've always wanted to know.

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's spicy. It's spicy and not spicy. Non pepper. Non pepper.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh my God. And then you start throwing up. When it hits your mind, it tastes like.

[Jaelyn Summers]

It tastes like beef. But game here. I I. I started that but. But I started to throw up and I still. I took my chopstick and I stick on this uncle's arm. And he started to bleed and I started to cry and I told my grandpa I'm keeping the fur. So. His fur. I still have his fur. No, you don't. I slept on it. When I just. I have it with me in the winter. I sleep on the fur.

[Ryan Sickler]

No, you don't.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, the whole skin. Yeah. My grandpa prepared.

[Ryan Sickler]

You have it like tanned and everything.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Like I stand. It's like a blanket.

[Ryan Sickler]

Yeah.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I had it and I can no longer have dogs anymore. I never had a big dog ever after.

[Ryan Sickler]

I can't blame. Blame you. Look, I have to ask you this. Did you ever taste dog prior to that?

[Jaelyn Summers]

No. But we have spicy dog meat dishes in the restaurants in Korea too. Dog meat is good to eat in the winter. Is warm you up. But I don't really. I don't. I don't. Because we had a. We. My. My. Our neighbor had a pig farm. My grandpa always buy from a butcher. It's not. It's like a delicate. It's not a popular meat you eat. It's not like a popular meat people eat. But some people like stock meat. There's a city they. They specialize on dog meat jerky. But I remember someone sent a box to my father. I just don't want to eat it. I just don't. Because the dog I had with my pet.

[Ryan Sickler]

Yeah.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I just.

[Rocket Money Narrator]

I don't.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I don't want to. But people eat it. Yeah. Yeah. I couldn't. I. When I came. That photo.

[Ryan Sickler]

It's your pet. It's not just.

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's my best friend dog.

[Ryan Sickler]

It's your best friend friend.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes, it was. I kept his fur and I. I have too much tears. I could be crying it smell. It's salty because I cried over it.

I don't know where it is now. I hope my. My father still have it. Yeah. So that was very sad.

[Ryan Sickler]

Man.

Let's move on to high school. How about that?

[Rocket Money Narrator]

High school?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah. What were your.

[Ryan Sickler]

What was your mascot?

[Jaelyn Summers]

My mascot? We don't have one because you don't do that. You. Yeah. There's no there's no mascot. Sports wasn't something that's important.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh, really? You didn't have a basketball team or any baseball team?

[Jaelyn Summers]

We had it, but it just academic was more important. Until they start factoring your home performance in sports into your application for college. Then the school just start to take a series about it. So it was just very study, study, study. And I was very good at memorizing. And my sister got me in trouble. She was very attractive in Chinese beauty standard. She has lights, skin, skinny, and she speak like a lady. And she has a lot of boys want to date her, but she was never slutty or anything. But she likes to flirt. And there's a boy she had a crush on. My sister wrote my sister love letters. There's a girl who used. She's a bad girl. She's the same great as my sister. She used to date guys in from Ju juvenile jail. So she had a crush on that boy. And she told my sister to not talk to that guy anymore. She goes, you can't and you can't control my life. And this girl burned a cigarette butt on my sister's cheek right here. I heard that. I was taking my final exam in high school. My sister was in my middle school. I drew my bike there.

[Ryan Sickler]

The middle school girl did this to her face.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Oh, yes, scary, scary. And I rode my bike. I, I just, I parked my bike outside. I said, hey, you cannot burn her. She's not a homeless dog. I am her sister. And she had like a group of girls, like mingles, like 20 girls laughing. And before I even finish it, she. We are, we're on a big tall platform. That's where the teachers stand when people are doing exercising for the running track. So she said that.

Say again? I'm like, listen. She just literally slapped the out of me non stop. Like boom, boom, boom. Just start slapping me with her long nails and they start scratching me. I said, okay, that's it. So I took her head and I pushed her and I kicked her off of the platform. It's 2 meters tall. Then I ran down the stairs, grab her hair and start smelling her face on the concrete. She lost teeth. The reason why I had to do it is because all the girls, they had knives. Because in China, bully is okay as long as you know the police, you know, you know people, you can bully people. If I let her slap me and don't do anything, the 20 girls are gonna beat me up and really like ruin me.

[Ryan Sickler]

And then not only then, forever moving forward.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Exactly. So I basically she broke a leg and she lost four teeth. And she. Her nose is broken. So I said, do not. And she said, help me, guy. Help me. Nobody want to go near me because I look crazy. You gotta be crazy. So I said, listen, do not ever touch my sister ever again. And that was.

[Ryan Sickler]

That was the end of that.

[Jaelyn Summers]

My sister came. I said, come slap her. She's like.

I said, this is whatever, just stop. So that was. She's the reason why I get in trouble. But I never really. And this girl, I mean, ended up becoming friends. That girl's mom came to me and they want to sue me. My mom paid off. Paid off. And she was in the hospital. And then she came back and I. I went to visit her. I said it wasn't my fault. I had no choice. You have those girls with knives. Like, I'm not gonna let you guys kill me. And then she said, my future is ruined. I'm very bad in. In grade. The only thing about me I look pretty. What do I do now? I'm like, what I'm good at. She goes, I like painting. I want to go to a college, but I can't. I. My grade is very bad as the do painting program. And there's art school that's kind of accept you of his lower grade. So she end up doing program and then she ended up being a very good university. And she's a painter now.

[Ryan Sickler]

Hell yeah. All right.

[Jaelyn Summers]

And then we. We meaning went in friendly.

[Ryan Sickler]

You did?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

[Ryan Sickler]

Good.

[Jaelyn Summers]

That was very sweet.

[Ryan Sickler]

That is. Let me ask you this. How old do you have to be to drive in China?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I think he's probably 18.

[Ryan Sickler]

18. Did you get a license in China or were you here. You came at that point here?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I drove my bike in China. I so bike in Beijing. I just took the. Took the subway.

[Ryan Sickler]

You never drove anywhere in China?

[Person Learning About Rocket Money]

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[Ryan Sickler]

Did your parents. Is it more of a public transportation city than. Than. But what about when you're out in your.

[Jaelyn Summers]

My father had had a car. They started doing business. So they had a car early. I actually forgot to tell you, Ryan. When I was in middle school, I found out my mother was doing very well. And then she ended up getting a. Basically beat up a hotel on the. On the highway that she basically took over that hotel and she set up a karaoke and bathing house and everything. It turned out a brothel. No, I'm so serious. I just found out later on it was a brothel.

[Ryan Sickler]

It was a brothel the whole time?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

[Ryan Sickler]

With entertainment and stuff? Yes.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, it was a brothel.

[Ryan Sickler]

When did you find Out.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I. I just started to. I started to ask questions because I know my father was cheating on my mom. This is very pretty girl and she's like young and beautiful and she was working there.

[Ryan Sickler]

But your mom gave had places where he could get alcohol and women.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Exactly. It's her fault.

[Ryan Sickler]

Well, he's a weak man, but also. Yeah, she served it on a platter.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Also. She got fat too. It's her fault. She got fat. She overworked. She did not give the blow job he deserved.

[Ryan Sickler]

That'll do it.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah. She also is a big cunt. My mother is a big cunt.

[Ryan Sickler]

Okay, so you find out it's a brothel, but then no, you're just running.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Around hanging out the hard way.

[Ryan Sickler]

What are you doing there? To work and help out there?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I basically my job is how they.

[Ryan Sickler]

Keeping it hidden from you? You know what I mean?

[Jaelyn Summers]

My job is to basically collect the cash every day to make sure the numbers are correct. Because I was good at math and my dad was cheating on my mommy, this girl. And I just slowly just feel like the girls have a room. They take the VIP client, they go there and there's a lot of condoms laying around in the, on the floor, on the streets, you know, I just know that's okay. Cool. That was crazy. My mother actually paid off the mistress.

[Ryan Sickler]

What do you mean?

[Jaelyn Summers]

She asked her to leave. She won't leave. She bought her ten thousand dollar worth of gold jewelries and cash to send her back to her hometown so she can marry a humble guy.

[Ryan Sickler]

Your mom paid this lady to leave?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah.

[Ryan Sickler]

And she really did.

[Jaelyn Summers]

She did. She took the money also. I was like, I'm gonna make sure no one for, you know, they didn't know you are a. Yeah, she did. She told my mom she was my. She was basically my nanny. She. She took her to the village and she said this is the nanny. Because there's reputations, you know, if you are prostitutes in the. Even in the village, you can't find a noble man. You have to marry someone who's like 60. So my mom basically created her reputation. Give her money.

[Ryan Sickler]

So because she gave her the money that could look prostitute.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

[Ryan Sickler]

Because you're being paid.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah.

[Ryan Sickler]

Yes.

[Jaelyn Summers]

My mom's like, she did a good job as being a nanny. So we're gonna give her a big sum of money since she's poor. So we want as her wedding, you know, wedding endowmented for me to find the right man. So she was happily married and my mom is crazy. It's the Art of War, you know.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh, yeah, it is.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah. Yeah. You have to get with your enemy in any way you can. And she was smart.

[Ryan Sickler]

Tell me about you said you played volleyball before we recorded. Where were you doing that in college?

[Jaelyn Summers]

In middle school. In middle school I played volleyball and I was very good.

[Ryan Sickler]

What are you touching on your.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Like I remember I have scars here for volleyball, I was very good. But then they fired me the second year because I did not get tolder my height wasn't ideal. So they fired me.

[Ryan Sickler]

That was it.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I was so pissed. Yeah.

[Ryan Sickler]

How many tall Chinese girls are there?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I know, I wasn't. I'm not like. I am not very short for.

[Ryan Sickler]

You're not short at all. You're. I feel like you're an average lady's height.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, but they wanted like a really tall giraffe multiple girl and I wasn't that. I'm like a kangaroo, you know, I.

[Ryan Sickler]

You shared a room with your sister for a little while.

[Jaelyn Summers]

We shared a room together. I would read her novels. I was obsessed with Arabian Nights.

[Ryan Sickler]

Arabian Nights?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. And the Art of War. So I read stories to her and I quiz her for her to reset story to me.

[Ryan Sickler]

You would quiz her on it?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah. I want to quiz her because she's a little dumb. I want her to be challenged and become better. But she was lucky. She married her high school sweetheart who is a sweet man. My sister never suffered his relationship. She just. Just found the right man, nice men right away. I was not that lucky. But I'm very. Because my sister is so spoiled that she can't afford abusing men. She's gonna die. I'm lucky. She got she shuttle for less.

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[Ryan Sickler]

Okay, so now you get to Kentucky and you are you accepted when you're in China to Kentucky or do you come here and then get accepted by condition?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I got accepted by University of Kentucky. English as a second language program. Once I pass a program, I can go to graduate school. I do undergraduate now.

[Ryan Sickler]

Why did you pick them?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I applied for 100 schools. Kentucky was the first offer I got. I just wanted to come to America. I wanted to get a visa because my parents didn't want me to come here. And I want to make sure I got a visa first. I can always go to New York, you know, once I come to American soil. So I was just eager to come to America.

[Ryan Sickler]

So Lexington was just a way to get you into America?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes, that's what I was thinking. I don't want to delay anything. She could just let me know. You're not going to America then I can't come. So I just wanted to come here first.

[Ryan Sickler]

So you learn English in Kentucky? We talked about on the Honeydew, which is a wild place to learn in English.

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's very wild and The American teachers are just way too patient. They, they just say, they're like, good job. I, I'm like, I'm not gonna learn from you. You know, that's why I start finding jobs illegally. So if I'm slow, they're like off, you know, like I had to be like, ah, you know, you have, what.

[Ryan Sickler]

Were you doing illegally? What jobs were you doing illegally?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Oh, there's so many jobs. I. The legal job was working at a coffee shop and sandwich shop on campus. But they only allow you to work 20 hours because you don't want students to work too long. Then your school suffer. So I, I think the easy one was working at Thai restaurant, working at a Japanese restaurant, a Turkish restaurant, Middle Eastern restaurant. I was waitressing, just all under the table. Yeah, they were very mean to me. I had to clean the bathroom because I was, was not legal to work. So I cleaned bathrooms and they tried to take my tip from me. It was just for me. It's like as long as I got food and I can, I can learn English, that's all I was. I just wanted to learn. I didn't feel like life is not fair. I was, that's. I feel like the best way for people to make it in life is like a. No, life is not fair. Don't try to complain about. No, it's not fair. It has never been fair in the life of history.

[Ryan Sickler]

Even when it's going good for you, it ain't good.

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's not going to be fair. So that's what I think I learned the most.

[Ryan Sickler]

And did you do all four years? Did you graduate there? Bachelor's. What you do?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I left the last semester before I finished it. I realized that how expensive my rent was 250 in Kentucky. I realized how expensive. I went to LA for the summer, like for 10 days to kind of see. Because I want to move to Hollywood. I realized how expensive it is and I just rather.

[Ryan Sickler]

250 in Kentucky.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. My own one bedroom apartment. So I decided to save the money. I made the money for my tuition. I want to save the money for me to move to la.

[Ryan Sickler]

Okay.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Because I found out that Brad Pitt moved out to LA at his last master from Missouri. Miss Missouri. And I think that's a key to succeed is you, you, you drop out the last master.

[Ryan Sickler]

See what with the Brad Pitt plan.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

That'S plan B. Yeah, that's his plan B. Plan B. Entertainment.

[Ryan Sickler]

Tell me about. Did you go to parties? Did you. Were you in a sorority or were you. Did they try to get you to pledge. What were you doing in college? What was college life?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I thought I would become hot in America. But it wasn't the case. I wasn't confident. I had agony all over. I was slouching. I wasn't popular until I got hired as a mass tutor at the tutor lab. And the people, oh, look how cute I was.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh, look at you. How old do you think you are here?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I think I was. Oh it was in college. You see the Kentucky, you're in college there? Yes.

I think I was 19.

[Ryan Sickler]

Oh, look at feet.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Look at the cute feet guys. Three feet for everyone.

[Ryan Sickler]

Boys weren't hitting on you.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Come on. I like I cute Then that was my second year. I got cute because I started tutoring math. Math. And I remember one thing changed my life forever was in the math tutor lab. One of the very famous basketball player came and worked. I worked on his homework and I had my really really hot Chinese girlfriend. She is you know, a K pop star. She looks like K pop star, skinny, light skin, driving her Mercedes. I had my bike and I just bought my 400 Hyundai guy car. So this basketball girl guys like a basketball guy. He's like hey, we, we have a party, you know we like to invite you to the party. I just been the ugly. I just know he wasn't talking to me. So this is a Chinese girl's like yes, you want my number? He's like sorry, I'm talking to her. I was like who? And she's like excuse me, I'm the hot one. She's ugly in China. She. He's like why? And she has the balls to say because her skin's so dark to a black man.

[Ryan Sickler]

Wow.

[Jaelyn Summers]

He's laughing so hard he fell on a chair. He's like I just so jealous. Anyway, you can be her plus one if you want to go. And he asked my number and that's it. I I'll see tell you later. Okay, yeah, but you know him. So after that everything for me because.

[Ryan Sickler]

You'Re not like did you go to the party?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I went to the party. I took her and I want her to be there to live to tell my legend. So after that I became very popular. All the girls on my friend because they want to get the the BBC, you know, NBA and BBC. So they yeah, I and I just had my confidence. That's what was really changing is like.

[Ryan Sickler]

Okay, I'm not your first big like also it's your first big college party. If it's a ball player that's gonna be probably A big one. They were good. Kentucky's historically a good college.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Oh, they were very good. Yeah. So it was what really made me confident. Then I started to wear eye contact, learn how to do my makeup, remove my acne and stop slouching and start doing modeling. And that was very good. I go from my ugly duckling to a peacock.

[Ryan Sickler]

Now, you've mentioned this a few times on this episode about light skin when it comes to Chinese. Now I've learned in, you know, the black culture, the same with the light skin and the dark skin. I've learned that in other cultures as well. I didn't know that was a thing in Chinese at all. So you guys also discriminate against each other when it comes to shades of your skin?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. In China has less to do with race, more to do with the class. So in credit in Chinese culture, class divided by the peasants, poor peasants.

[Ryan Sickler]

But what if you're a light skinned peasant?

[Jaelyn Summers]

You get dark because you work under the sun. Dirt and duck dark.

[Ryan Sickler]

So basically light skinned or inside it never work.

[Jaelyn Summers]

They never see the sun, they wear a hat, they have service. So historically, people with the light skin and then light skin marry light skin, dark skin. Mary.

[Ryan Sickler]

The skin's less about race because in.

[Jaelyn Summers]

China, we think a Beyonce is gorgeous and Naomi Campbell is beautiful, but they are black people with black skin. That's just. They are. But in Chinese culture, everyone is yellow. So yellow is a median. The whiter one means it never worked. This is from a noble, wealthy family. The dark skin is like you've just been peasants your whole life. It. And that's why, like, in America, getting a 10 represents wealth vacation. So when someone have a 10, oh, they are upper class. Someone's like a bleached white. Like a bleached. Oh, my God. Cleaner park.

[Person Learning About Rocket Money]

It's so different.

[Ryan Sickler]

It is so different. I've learned it so much. Give me a few more things about college and we'll get you out of here. Give me some college. It was what else did. What else really opened your eyes to, like, what America was like and how it was different over here and how you were gonna have to adapt.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I think it was the thing about in America is that I went to church. I. I was taking English as second language class. I went to church and AA meeting for free English classes.

[Ryan Sickler]

That's how you would learn.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes. I found out that they. That you can go to church for free. Because I just wanted to hear. Because in. In school, the teacher talks to you like you are stupid. Are you ready to listen? It Just, I can't learn. Because they want to keep you there as long as they can. Because every ESL program, a class amount is $2,000. You can't graduate. You enroll. The next one is another $2,000. I just feel like I need somewhere I can actually hear American talk when they don't. Don't treat me like I'm a foreigner. So I have a friend, she's a. She's a Christian. She took me to the church. I just go there. I just. I believe in God to save me money for my class. So I go there. I study the Bible. I listen to them talk. I can hear rhythm. They speak is much faster, and that helps. Then I went to an AA meeting, because in the church, I forgot on Mondays they have AA meeting. I saw the churches every day. I go there on Monday, it's a. A meeting. I went there. They. They opened their arm to everyone. I said, yes. I drink. My father's drunk. Yeah, we're all drunk. And then I started to go to AA meeting. I need to go there. I go there every Monday. They were very nice.

[Ryan Sickler]

I mean, hey, you learned.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, I learned.

[Ryan Sickler]

Also, your. Your dad's a drunk.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I have it in my DNA.

[Ryan Sickler]

Yeah, I definitely do Al Anon for that.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Oh, yeah, I have it in me.

[Ryan Sickler]

What about this? You love to tell me you're ugly duckling and blah, blah, blah, even though you're gorgeous. But I'm guessing you didn't date any American boys in China. China.

[Jaelyn Summers]

We don't have them in China. And in Chinese high school, you know, you. You can't date. Everyone is a virgin. The only balls I touch. No, the only balls I touched arm. The balls on my abacus for calculus homework.

[Ryan Sickler]

So why did you lose your virginity then?

[Jaelyn Summers]

In Kentucky?

[Ryan Sickler]

How old are you?

[Jaelyn Summers]

I was shambling. I was turning 20.

[Ryan Sickler]

To an American boy.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

[Ryan Sickler]

A white boy.

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's a white boy. Yes. Yeah, it's a white boy. And I. That's when I lost my virginity. Yeah, that's the ball.

[Ryan Sickler]

The balls you played with.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yep.

[Ryan Sickler]

What. What was it like to date an American man? Was it. It a boy, I should say. Well, he's a man. You're in college.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, he was cute.

[Ryan Sickler]

Are they different than the Chinese guys?

[Jaelyn Summers]

The Chinese guys in China is very different. Because financially, a man provide everything. You don't pay anything.

[Ryan Sickler]

And that starts even in high school and stuff like that, too.

[Jaelyn Summers]

It's kind of crazy. But a girl, you know, you would. You. You. You can buy your boyfriend expensive gift. Like it's not like the men pay for your living and if the rent is tight, you can pay this month. But like going on date and dinner, men should pay for everything. Not but like you don't live off the man. It's like very weird. Different. The Chinese men, like if the. A Chinese, Chinese guy, if you guys are engaged, it's his job to buy apartment for you guys. He has to buy it. His parents had to give him money to buy it. That's the commitment to a woman. So she didn't have to worry about rent and she can focus on taking care of the house and focus on her job job and focusing on the children. So. But in America is woman has awful feminism. You know women, they take pride paying half of their their share. So it's different. I am learning from it. It's very different. But I'm a workaholic, so money don't really matter to me. As long as you have a good dick, you know, I'm good.

[Ryan Sickler]

I hear you on that girl.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah, yeah. I just don't believe in like a managed to pay for everything. I feel like you both contribute in.

[Ryan Sickler]

Different ways, but also you've got hustle in your DNA. Your mom was an entrepreneur. Your mom went from waitressing to owning this restaurant to owning a brothel. So you've got a comedy club here in la. You've got hustle and DNA.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yeah.

[Ryan Sickler]

In your DNA.

[Jaelyn Summers]

I started finance in college because I don't want to be a broken artist. I studied theater, but I know I have to pay for my good class and training. I can't go to audition room begging for a job so I can pay my rent. That's why I got in finance and I was in a hedge fund. When I was in la, I was able to pay.

[Ryan Sickler]

You were?

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes, I was able to pay for my classes. Driving less cars now, which is in for hustling for things because I've been poor my whole life. I learned English, I learned the knowledge and I need. I just want to make enough money. So when I go to audition room, I'm going there to perform and have fun. Not like, hey, please, I can't pay my rent, just give me the job.

[Ryan Sickler]

Just.

[Jaelyn Summers]

They can feel the desperation desperate and they don't want. Yes. Yeah, yeah.

[Ryan Sickler]

They call it thirsty.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Yes.

[Ryan Sickler]

You know what? This has been such a great episode. I love you, girl. I love you. Thank you for coming. Yeah, for real. I love your story right there. One more time. Promote everything you'd like.

[Jaelyn Summers]

Please watch my special on Hulu. What species are you on? Hulu and Disney plus. I'm the second Chinese Disney princess after Mulan and I'm on tour. Jiaoyang comedy.com thank you.

[Ryan Sickler]

Go see her live. Go watch her special. Go watch my special after that on YouTube. Thanks for the support. We'll talk to y' all next week.

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